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1. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your living situation.

Whether you are cohabiting with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, crashing in different motel rooms across the country, or living with your parents for a while when you are past your twenties, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone for who you live with and why if you don’t want to. If you are fully aware of your living situation, then it means you have your own reasons for being in that situation that are nobody else’s business.

2. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your life priorities.

You have your own ideas about the things that would make you and your loved ones truly comfortable and happy, which is your main priority. Since we are all unique individuals with different values, dreams and aspirations, your core priorities will be different from the next person’s. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for what you determine is your core priority in life. That is your personal business not other people’s business.

3. You don’t owe anyone an apology if you are not sorry.

If you don’t regret your actions, still think someone is wrong about something or don’t care much for their forgiveness, you don’t have to apologize. Many people are too quick to offer apologies and try to mend wounds that are not yet ready to be mended, which only serves to aggravate the wound and bring more problems. You really don’t have to apologize if you are not sorry or your side of the story hasn’t been heard.

4. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for requiring alone time.

You might worry that you will come across as “rude,” “anti-social” or “aloof” when you cancel plans or other obligations because you need some time alone to reboot, unwind or just enjoy a good book by yourself. However, spending time alone is a completely normal, natural and necessary practice that more people should adopt. Take your alone time confidently because you don’t owe anybody an explanation for it.

5. You don’t owe anyone your agreement on their personal beliefs.

Just because someone shares their personal beliefs passionately doesn’t mean you have to sit there and nod in approval to everything they say. If you don’t share in their beliefs, it is unfair to yourself and to the other person to suppress your own thoughts and feelings and pretend you agree with them. It’s okay and better to disagree with them gracefully instead of bottling up your disapproval and frustrations.

6. You don’t owe anyone a yes to everything they say.

You have a right to say no whenever there is no compelling reason to say yes. In fact, the most successful people in the world are those who have mastered the art of saying no to everything that is not a priority. Acknowledge other people’s kindness and be grateful for it, but don’t be afraid to politely decline anything that takes your focus away from your core goals and priorities. That’s how to get ahead.

7. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your physical appearance.

You might be slender, plump, tall, short, pretty, plain or whatever, but you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone for why you look how you do. Your physical appearance is your own business and you are obligated only to yourself. Physical appearance shouldn’t determine your self-worth.

8. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your food preferences.

There are certain foods that you just don’t like at all for different reasons, including taste preference and health issues. You don’t have to explain to anyone at all why you prefer certain foods. Your food preference is a matter that is best left to you. If anyone pesters you about why you are eating (or not eating) certain foods, shrug it off and just say you feel better eating (or not eating) those foods.

9. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your sex life.

As long as it happens with another consenting adult, you don’t owe anyone an explanation for where, when and how you conduct your sex life. You can wait for marriage, try one-night stands or experiment with same sex encounters to your heart’s pleasure and still not have to explain your sexual preferences to anybody.

10. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your career or personal life choices.

Sometimes circumstances force us to choose between work and “having a life.” The decision is not always easy and you might end up choosing work, not because you don’t care about your family or social life, but because you are working on something that will give you security in the future. Either way, you don’t owe others an explanation for choosing a career over your personal life (or vice versa) as long as you are confident about what you are doing and why you are doing it.

11. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your religious or political views.

Whether you are a Democrat, Republican, Catholic, Protestant or Muslim, that is your own personal choice. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you are what you are and believe what you believe. If someone can’t accept you for who you are, that is their personal dogma—not yours.

12. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for being single.

Whether you are single by design or by default that is nobody’s business. Being single is not a personality disorder. You are free to be in a relationship or not. Besides, you are far more than your relationship status and singlehood is just one of those social labels no one should really care about.

13. You don’t owe anyone a date just because they asked.

Someone might be nice, good looking and you may even be a little interested, but you don’t owe them a date just because they ask. If you feel deep down you don’t want to go on that date, then don’t. You may offer a reason for declining, but keep it brief and stick to your decision.

14. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your decision about marriage.

Whether or not you choose to get married and have kids or stay unmarried and be childfree, that is your own personal decision. Even your mom who is dying for grandchildren should understand that marriage is a personal decision and not suited for everyone. She should respect your decision about it no matter how hard it is to swallow.

15. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your relationship choices.

Sometimes people make inappropriate commentary about your romantic relationship(s), which is really none of their business. You might overhear comments like you are not the “perfect couple” or you should find someone else. However, you are not answerable to anyone but yourself for your relationship choices. Live your life and never, ever leave or stay in a relationship just because someone else says you have to. Make your own mistakes if you must, but learn from them always.

Source: Life Hack via The Open Mind

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Observing!

Makes sense jare

GEJ is soo not upto the task!

May His Soul Rest In Peace, A Mento And A Father To Many !!


@Useless Comments by Many Nairalands





Its A Pitty, You`ll All End Up With Ignorance !!!

MATHS !!!

On Point,..... ^^^

He/she Must Speak My Language Indeed !

Massive ? WTF

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I AM HAPPY

LOVELY, WE NEED THE AFRICAN KINGS TOO !!

[size=32pt]AND I JUST COMPLAINED ABOUT THE SAME THING YESTERDAY, ALONE AT HOME,.....I THINK ITS HIGH TIME WE DO SOMETHING ON THIS, WE DONT GET POWER SUPPLY, BUT WE RECEIVE BILLS WITH OUTRAGEOUS AMOUNTS/CHARGES ON THEM,.. WHAT REALLY IS GOING ON WITH PHCN AND THEIR NEW AND ADVANCED WAY OF DEFRAUDING COMMON NIGERIANS ?


IKEDC/PHCN WE NEED AN ANSWER TO THESE QUESTIONS !!!! [/size]

2015 we are all waiting,....Shegu, awon weyray, annuofia`s ,...zaku ci ubanku`s

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GEJ needs new meaning to his name, definitely not a Gluck !

Mofo`s

MESSI ALL THE WAY, GOLDEN BALL, DIAMOND BALL -- HE DESERVES ALL AS LONG AS IT ENDS WITH BALL

Hmmmmmm I dont think this is limited to Blacks/Africans

Am always ready for water melon, anytime !

Miss Katsina All The Way Jor

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A HOT PLAYER TO ALWAYS LOOK OUT FOR IS BASHAR MAAJI, HE`S GOOD AND HE`S ON THE TEAM TOO, VERY BADT GUY I SAY !

What ??

BLACKS NOW SMARTER THAN WHITES ??

How On Earth Is This Happening

As far as am concerned Nigerians arent the only foreigners in Malaysia, someone is hating Nigerians getting good education abroad,...Smh !!

Does this mean terrorist are also upgrading? Nawao

Dubai is working hard, and walking in the right direction!!!

Standing up is the best thing that can happen, we the future leaders have been sitting down for too long, when will the future come?? Same old greedy fo.ols doing nothing up there, karma is real,.....

BTW who said we have been going to school for free? We have been paying right from time So what's all these about? What about the government and it's function

chai Nigeria and Nigerians !!

[quote author=MissMeiya][/quote]Our own politicians are just So doing wrong, the only thing in their head is the bank accounts in cbn and How to pack and save more and more for themselves alone!! 36 States didn't work Well, let's see what will happen to 54 !!!

Passive neighbor - I just stay away and try not to get mixed but someone always admire me and wants me close ⊙

Yo, this sounds lame

ITS AN OPEN LETTER SEASON, BETTER SEIZE THE OPPORTUNITY, WRITE ONE DIRECTLY TO DANGOTE, AM SURE IF ALL THIS IS TRUE, YOU MAY AS WELL GET A BETTER POSITION STILL IN DANGOTE`S COMPANY.



BTW WHY DID YOU HAVE TO BE TRIBALISTIC ON THIS, IT WONT HELP MATTER BECAUSE I AM SO SURE DANGOTE GROUP ISNT RUN ONLY BY NORTHERNERS/HAUSA/MUSLIM....Somethings up on this.