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Lastly the matter has been resolved in the best possible way after the lock out.

She apologised, I did apologise too but I let her know the earlier we part ways, the better for us(me especially)

I thank everyone for their invaluable input. To those saying there's more to the story, you're wrong. I spelled it out the way it all happened. When the matter got to our parents, if there was anything hidden, she would have let it out.

She's not my slave in anywAy and I never expected her to fetch me water, WE DON'T FETCH WATER. We pump when the reservoir is empty. It just happened that the caretaker was unavailable to pump the water thAt very moment.

I equally stated that I hadn't had my bathe but later went to see a football game which is an indication that we later had water. The water was pumped even before evening.
She has stayed for about 3 months, she knows how this thing works.

If she must continue to stay, it has to end in only one way; apologizing for bad behaviour!

coming2america:
I want to knw how this saga ends

You may be right.
Your moniker tho

Depressed101:
you a man indeed for keeping things straight with her, you are a benefactor to her not her father, or brother, or boyfriend.. She should respect you.. If she can't she is better off parking out, although I suspect he has seen and stupid Bobo that has promised her roof over her head, she will soon understand that People like you are rare, very hard to find.. I am very sure by the time that Bobo is done with her puzzy, she will have to find a place to go

E never reach like this boss

Babara1994:
You better kick her out permanently before she poisons your food or stab you while you sleep. Be wise

I cannot exert violence so I came up with the idea

Biglittlelois:
You are very wise, I like that

And your action was on point too

Bad behavior is not to be encouraged.

I am not bossy at all.
True that I do not relate with her often.
I'm too busy with myself...

stinflame:
Level down to her , I feel you been too bossy and you don't relate with her often. There is a lot after school.

"There's life after school..."
hmm

Paramount01:
Call yor parents and inform ur mum, tel ur mum the decsion you want to take,trust me,she will give u the best advice
Open up to your mum fully, she will even know how to talk go her,there is life after skull ooo...if u like take the advice if u like leave it, but what an elderly man sees while sitting a small boy can't see it even of he clumps irokto tree

I am a nursing student, I have em girls...
I don't need to take advantage of her staying with me

Richochett:
Allow her to enter the house.
But wait o.. Why are you avoiding her since you're not related? Sleeping on the floor while she sleeps on the bed. Why you can't sleep on the same bed
You have underrated and despised her, now she's trying to level up with you.
I'm sure she first gave you greenlights before the attitude.

I have had similar experience in my time as an undergraduate. I have slept in the same room with a girl (she did not relate to me in any way) but I was afraid to make moves due to unknown fear despite all the greenlights.

My advice: stop underrating her even she's a jambite. Play games with her e.g ludo, whot etc and watch how everything play out naturally.

How old are you both?

Lol, man's focused, I never follow my department girls finish

Lilpen3758:
She want Bleep!! if u Bleep her well i mean hot Bleep ooh she will become your house girl
God when this kind girls go cross my path?

Good input, thanks

mmadu4:
well something has to be done otherwise she might wake up one day and said you raped her then you might get into serious problem . they will believe her over you . do what you gotta do fast . to avoid stories that touch the heart, i dont know why you allowed her to stay with you in the first place . some women are out to destroy men be careful bro

CalmElder:
Even if she was planning to leave she won't make the choice herself again, she will rather push you to the wall so that you will evict her, so that she can keep grudges with you.
Are you sure that she's not developing feelings for you?

I don't know, I haven't given that a thought.
It's not like anything can materialize between us tho

Bossy by vacating my bed and sleeping on the floor since January??!
Bossy by tolerating her insolent behaviour for one full week??!

C'mon

Richochett:
You don't have any legal right to lock her out of her personal belongings (e.g clothes). If you're not comfortable with her attitude simply tell her to start looking for accommodation.

Moreover, from your narratives I can't see anywhere the girl has wronged you. You're are just acting bossy because its your house

Allow her to enter the house.

I actually cannot rent an apartment for her as she isn't my responsibility and I am a student, every money is valuable to me

mmadu4:
she wants you to sleep with her so she can take full control . or become and liability and tie you down with pregnancy you better let her go . if you have money find small single room and porch rent for her so she can carry her wahaala go .

She go well, na why she feel say she don arrive.

Ordinary pre degree o

MajesticKris:
You're doing well bro....

Best best approach first of all, the. Girl fine

We don't even fetch water, the water finished that morning after her bath...
we were going to pump but caretaker no dey

Kingcalls:
Thats the entitlement mentality women have...imagine say u decide to de hammer am , she will do worse... thats the difference between guys and girls...if na man u accommodate freely...he will sleep on the floor and still act like house boy to u...he will b going on errands free for u and will b fetching the water without u knowing that the is water problem...men are more appreciative than woman and never forget the help u gave them when they were in need ... women act like entitled spoilt kids

What I'm concerned about is how both families will receive the news...

Her parents will believe whatever lie she sells

peacesampson:
the did the right thing ..I dnt understand why some persons can't build their character...not that you have been treating her badly ooh..huncle please leave her outside small let her learn her lesson and if eventually she wants to leave..allow her to....

Me I no get power for force biko

AfricanGiant91:
Guy, u gently sha o; i swear. Person try dat rubbish wit me, walahi she go meet her bag & baggage's outside

I should unlock and evict her??!

I don't actually want to be the one who tells her to leave.

She should make that choice herself

proff010:
Tell her to look for accommodation elsewhere, allow her to have access to her personal stuff. Stupid girl

Exactly what I have in mind

Mexzy4sho:
Normally you have to let her back in but locking her out for two or three days will teach her the other side of you.... The respect go increase after this.


But if the head (said girl) too strong, baba make she find another place permanently.

Lol.
She be person pikin na

IAmSkinny:
Your actions are a bit too mind.
I would have done worse than this.

Just imagine the guts.

My neighbor called that she's stranded that I should return

Mexzy4sho:
Bro, I off cap for you. Best response to someone like that....

Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

True.
An igbo president will find it even harder cos the hausas/fulani will frustrate every honest effort.


It's what they always do.

Na still bribe all of them go dey collect for there.

Watch them grow exponentially richer within months of deployment. Mtcheew

All these politicians sef. Seeking cheap favour

Ambode didn't leave, you joined hands with tinubu to have him removed. Now you're talking continuity...

My friend show us a project you have birthed and nurtured to maturity.


Cheap

Gambling has to make the list bro

I had aspirations for medicine, mom wanted nursing cos she wanted a male nurse.

Las las, I was offered Nursing science and I think I did the right thing by accepting.

I am happy and mom is happy too, albeit sometimes I envy my medicine counterparts

ProphetM0hammad:
That's not my responsibility.

It's equally not within your jurisdiction to question their intentions to travel!

ProphetM0hammad:
Must students travel for Christmas?

Will you send them money for jolly during festive period when school environment will be dry??!

uni69:
Let's keep our fingers crossed


Because I don tire for house

Goan marry so you'll move to another house

It's almost needless suspending the strike this year.

3 weeks and Christmas is in then students travel again