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I know say that kafee face must show there but this is better than that trash bbn

Gynn:
I am sick and tired of the many sob stories I read about women on Nairaland...

...BY MEN

There is no single day that passes we will not see a guy post about some silly things he is facing in his relationship

As usual, men will come and bash Nigerian women in the comments.

Some will in turn call the man a simp.

And the cycle continues. Day in, day out.

If it is not how the girl is cheating after all the love and care,

it will be about how she is denying the guy sex.

Or how she is disrespectful. Or she is an unappreciative gold digger.

At the end of such posts, you will see a question like

"What should I do?"

Honestly it's nauseating and annoying reading some of the stories here by guys.

When will Nigerian men realize that whatever vices or misbehaviour a woman displays in a relationship

The men are the biggest enablers.

Men complain that their women like money too much

Yet when a girl post pictures you see men flocking in the DMs asking for account details.

I think it was some months ago some silly he goat sent 100k or thereabouts thanking a girl for replying his DM.

FOR REPLYING HIS DM!

Christ!

Men will pedestalize ordinary girls.

When the she messes up instead of him to thrash things out, and tell her off

He will be beg

Probably because he doesn't want to see her go.

Women detest weak men.

Weak men are not good for society.

Men should show some leadership.

Stop using money to buy love.

Stop tolerating nonsense from one badly raised girl because she gives you sex

There are many well behaved women out there.

If you want them beatiful and rich or financially comfortable you will find them.

Work on yourself and build your character

Anyways, what you give is what you will get.

Be a low quality

You're correct. We are in a feminized society so these things will keep happening except a man choose to unplug himself

Softboy001:
I don't even know how to begin, but am going to try and make it short, I want to know if there is anyone in my shoes, please let me know in the comments section.

Firstly I like to say this I love sex so so much. Yea I do but it's so unfortunate that am not able to do what I love. It's fustrating. It's been 2 years now since I had sex. It's not that I don't want to but I don't just know, the reason I writing this is because the kind of konji that am feeling now is overwhelming, as in am no longer comfortable. It's terribly fustrating.

I just want to know if there is anything I can do to help my situation. So if you got any advice kindly let me know in the comment section. I didn't introduce my self just call me mr D. Am 27 years old.

So here are the reasons. I separated them into primary and secondary reasons. I'll explain only the primary reasons.

primary reasons
1. Finance. This is one of the main reasons, I don't have funds. As in I don't have 1 naira. Nothing at all so I feel there is no need trying to get a girl. I have tried and it always fail because I don't have even as low as airtime to call and keep the relationship going. let's face it relationship in Nigeria, you got to have money as a guy. Currently I have been going through some hard times, after I finish school in 2019. My serious gf that got me all focus in relationship stuffs left me and broke me.

2. I don't do olosho ( prostitute)

So some my friends find this strange because they know am a bad guy when it comes to sex. But the truth is that I don't do olosho. Apart from d fact that I don't have much. Olosho is a No No for me. As in not at all. Not to be considered. I just don't like it. I can give a girl money or do a favor but not in exchange or direct exchange for sex. The olosho is so so annoying for me. where I recently relocated to ( lagos State). That's what they do
They call it hook up. But it's just pure olosho
I guess I would have had sex by now and won't be feeling what am feeling currently if only I will agree to pay for sex. But I don't


3. Lastly I don't have a place and have been moving.

for the past 3 years. I have been moving. I have not been steady in only place to get to know people. Am always new where am going to. And it's not easy to get a girl immediately.i have staying 2 months here 4 there for the pass 3 years. Currently am staying with my brother and his wife. In a room and palor. And it's not been easy at all for me. I can't even be talking of konji now self. But the konji won't let me be

Secondary reasons.
4.am an introvert
5. Am not that tall. Am short
6. Lately I been having some kind of dislike for the ladies behave
This topic is getting to long. I hope I been able to explain enough sha. Kindly let me know if you have any thoughts on this.

Like this you need to just focus on yourself. Like 100%. Who go like you go like you

ufotty2001:
.. I really need to take note of all these things reason because I want settle down soon

Groom yourself bro. Just like girls apply makeup and shit to look hot, do the same, go to the gym eat healthy but most of all embrace your inner asshole not arranging yourself for her to like you instead create a sense of competition for her. Women like imagination. Approach more girls like a man. She'll either arrange herself to fit in to your world or she'll leave you. Worst case scenerio, you were self developing and being a jerk(not someone's slave or begger).

Its not easy, especially when she's hot

Fair enough no matric pant and bra

Huge waste. Shit club

The hairstyle no bad ye

The struggle is real

ufotty2001:
am saying this out of experience and I feel ashamed of some of them.. I have 3 girls here that are doing nothing. No job I mean nothing and they are very beautiful.. I introduced them to a business.. known of them had interest but they are very demanding.

Again learn to say 'no' to a woman that's demanding be more selfish and see if she'll stick around. If she don't then NEXT

ufotty2001:
am saying this out of experience and I feel ashamed of some of them.. I have 3 girls here that are doing nothing. No job I mean nothing and they are very beautiful.. I introduced them to a business.. known of them had interest but they are very demanding.

Leave them and approach more girls. It's not your duty to help them. Women utilize what they call hypergamy when selecting their mates, do the same thing

ufotty2001:
but to be very sincere maybe am wrong. Most Nigerians girls are not productive.. ??

You're wrong. Its the same girl everywhere. There's no quality woman/woman prepared for you. You make ur choice woman, you control the narrative. That's why you need to expand your options

Men I couldn't through the lonng. Well racial preference isn't bad if its truly genuine

You figure it out punk. A common one is using parenthesis instead of brackets and vice versa.

ufotty2001:
Am going through d same thing too.

Its called oneitis. Thinking that's the right woman for you and you have to do anything to keep her. Unplug from that shit

When the girl finds someone more exciting than you, she'll exhaust you and dump your ass cus you're a slave

Bryankentwood11:
Okay guys, I will make it short and simple, I have done everything possible for her, like I spoilt her with food and possibly money too, now she just feels comfortable at home , sleeping all day, then wakes up and demand money, I have been paying for one thing or the other every week of this relationship, I give her money for food and all, and she has parent, I feel like I’m suffocating, I can’t even save anymore, and she has a handwork but just too lazy or relentless to even work, guys advice me on this please

Its simple you're a frustrated chump. Thinking that if you'd say no she'll break your heart and leave you. This is modern day slavery. Unplug from that shit. Be selfish, groom yourself, approach more women and learn to say no to them as well

PrinceOfLagos:
I watched the few seconds video till the end and I must say that Tiwa Savage Is a shameless, old and classless whoree

Her shaved punna look so ugly

No wonder Wizkid banged and trashed her

Na make-ups dey help this women, She's so ugly that I almost mistook her for Whoopi Goldberg

Bitch!

Why are you being a frustrated chump. Not everything is pornography. Unplug nig

Chai this was my work before and during service. My number 1 and only rule was "Once you're fully aware of the number/position of each stock inside no one can F with you" This sure came after a few gbese. I was good !

They'd do anything for clout

Networking. Favor for favor that's how you win

Choi do #100 na

Glo don't even work with all that masts no need

Maobichek:
Igbos build Imo airport, my dad contributed, also Anambra airport is purely Anambra and not federal government. In Aba, ppl contribute to buy transformer and drill bore hole but here in the North government does everything even transformer repairs. p
Please ask questions, Igbos are trying, thank you.

Hmmn

They've just been shooting since October

And Igbos would have nothing for Igbos unless we adjust

Omo I no fit read this thing choi. Distance relationship no be relationship sha

Elsueno:
Dats d worst example ever, the survey corps where l literally cannon fodder, over 50% of them end up as titan food in every deployment if not getting entirely wiped out, only Levi's squad survive, because of levi...d interior police on the other hand are like extremely corrupt division who do d dirty job not cause of loyalty but money & status

You're still saying what I'm saying, the 'bad' titan would be likened to boko haram. You should be able to spell out the rest

The nig is not totally wrong tho. He doesn't know how to portray his feeling. Dumbass politician. He could have said that joining the armed forces should be included as optional and not force any entitlement to it. This is sought of reminiscent of interior police and survey forces in attack on titan.

Nothing bad in what he suggested. Democracy is shit by the way

She didn't have to force her children into this chai. That was artistic tho

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