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Anugod:
Deafndumb how far na? How are your baby mamas doing? What's new?

Thanks a lot, the baby mamas r doing great. Health wise I thank God.

mizquote:
I think this story is false

Do I need to send u my address before u believe. I update when there is a new twist in the issue. After all I'm not a blogger trying to gain traffic.

I'm just confused, an unbiased view will help me a lot. As most views and advice I get from friends might be slightly towards my advantage, that's why I need anonymous and independent views

Won't the minor's parent view it that I'm trying to deny my involvement because of my gf?

My gf is now living with me, mind you she's pregnant. My parent had a discussion with her parents about the possibility of the child not being mine.

I don't know what their reactions would be. I sincerely wished my parents didnt go there at all.

raumdeuter:
Let your parent handle it like elders

They are really trying but her family is crazy

smartigo:
Guy, wake up na?did you rape their daughter? Don't speak back to them but don't b b push-around fellow. You are only helpless with the minor parents but not your gf's parents. You no get big brother to guide u ni?

No big Bros o

My gf's family is hell, they are far worse than the minors parent.

They came to my place to humiliate me for impregnation their daughter who is still schooling.

Her family is threatening me. Theres a lot to the story that I can't disclose.

I understand they are not happy but they not understanding I far annoying

smartigo:
If u start abusing yourself, what is left for me to say. But guy, Wetin dey do ur prick way him too dey jump na? U for at least use condom.

Hmmm..... beg ur woman n disappear before they kill him. But with no job, how will u support ur fiancée? Secondly, it seems u r a young dude going by ur comments recently? Use ur head and weigh the best options available for u. But u no try at all.

Thanks alot

Important notice:- myself, the minor and my fiancée live in the same neighborhood.

Sooner or later the minors parent will find out about the other pregnancy

Please I need urgent advice. My parents wants to set up a meeting with the minors parent regards the possibility of me not being the father of the child, simply just to acknowledge that her family had been to other places before.

Should we hold the meeting or just forget it.

GodnGold:
Deafie,now am bored.

U think I'm making this up. I seek advice as events unfolds

ypeace:
Jackpot! Make these women con born tripplet each...........

Op! To every difficulty, there is a relief. Surely, your relief period is will come.

But with what you wrote here, it seems your parent are not really involved. You seem to be the only one running around. Why not get them involved.

Again, to every difficulty comes relief...... Be patient.

Initially, I thought playing along was going to be easy, trust me it isn't. I feel like leaving the ladies involved, but I feel pity for the minor.

I'm having conflict of interest

eyinjuege:
I'm enjoying the story jare, don't mind others poking fun.

Pls continue...

Story. It's my life, it's really messed up right now.

Thanks for the comtributions

enieme:
Hmm. Big issue.
@op what u need to focus on right now is getting a job. Aby way to augment ur income cos ur going to be fathering two children who are possibly yours.
It's never fair to ask your fiance to terminate. U also shouldn't let the minor's parents treat u that way. Tell them ur ready to take up your esponsibilties, but they shouldn't make it like is your fault after all the act was consensual not by force or coercion.
I'm guessing your fiance too would soon bring up ' come and pay my brideprice, I cant have a child out of wedlock' story soon. And all of that would need money.
What you need right now I repeat is sourcing for additional income - legally o. Distance urself from both if possible. Focus on your job and keep sending money and atrending to their needs as required of you. assume ur the fathher of both kids. Delivery would tell which child belongs to whom. Are you even sure your fiance's pregnancy is yours?
The deed has been done, all 3 of you I must say are silly. Really silly. This is it- when they warn u about premarital / unprotected sex, you will not hear word.
i feel sorry for all 3 but u all need to start acting responsible now.
*Btw, ur story would make one interesting fiction. Sorry o

I only wish I could turn back time for some months. This is my life and not a fictional story.

Thanks for your contribution

enieme:
just pay the bills.

Thanks alot

veave:
Na sidddon look I day. Something tells me you are a very good story teller...

Please don't just siddon gimme advice abeg

I also want to ask is it normal for me to take her for antenatal or just pay the bills.

The minors mum wants to move her from home also to another location

My current challenge is that the mother of the minor gave me a serious hard time last Sunday. She asked all kinds of silly questions of which I responded to some. Whenever she wasn't satisfied with my response, she would go physical on me, curse me including my family. (though I stood up against the curse part)

The issue heated up to the point at which she wanted to involve the police. Luckily for me, with the wisdom of God, she changed her mind.

When I met with my parents, I was so infuriated, because of the way I was humiliated by the minors mother and aunt, I poured out everything I knew.

My parents strongly advised me against visiting until a meeting is held with her family. My parents wants to notify her family that they are aware that there are other potential father(s).

Initial when I heard about the other potential father, I was worried of which I asked her about the issue, she told me that her family only went there because they usually see both (the minor and the other guy) together. She told me she wasn't given the opportunity to express herself until after the boy denied his involvement.

Recently, I discovered they went to the boys place twice because she insisted the other party was responsible. The first time before a scan result and the second after the scan to determine the gestation period of the fetus. She then involved me when her parents decided to get the boy arrested.

I'm really worried about the outcome of this advice. I hope u know some parental advice are kind of command.

Please what do u think I should do.

Tritri:
That why i said it a risk..Calculate ur risk and follow up.
But for me..I believe ur GF cannot kip the preg she is only trying to put pain in U as a payback.

That small girl is still confused and until delivery i wount even think/talk about it.

Meanwhile U've made a mistake which could make u a Millionaire or the opposite as procreation is part of life and an Investment..Only U can take the best decision.Good Luck.

Thanks

Tritri:
@Deafndumb , U're still a Child i think 23yr. But am 100% sure you don't know what risk is all about.What if ur GF abort only to discover this underage girl isn't ur child after delivery ? Did u even think about this Or u just take decision according to ur mood? Meanwhile If u're Responsible child to your parent a mistake of gettin a girl preg is something dey will understand and ready to take responsibility till you graduate or get a job..WE ALL DONT HAVE THE SAME STORIES IN LIFE..EVERYONE DIFFERENT DRAMA..Even if both of them abort in no time another drama will surface if u doubt me POINT out to someone who's life is perfect.

Thanks a lot. I don't know what I would have done without ur priceless advice.

But what if both are mine.

I'm back in trouble as she decided not to abort again

andromida:
You will survive. Be strong

Thanks

andromida:


They are selfish?
I know, I know this is a serious issue but its funny that you think they are selfish.
Sowwie for what you are going through life has a way of resolving issues like this if you can be calm.

Congrats it's almost like having twins only from different women.

Don't abort any baby oooo sebi you were going to marry your fiancee and have kids anyway consider this a fast track of your plans. A couple of rough months ahead then you stabilize. Just chill it can feel hard but chill.

You are going to be a Daddyyyy to two babies you are so lucky.

Thanks for your advice though.

My fiancée is still in school. It means I'll have to cater for her fees too. Two kids two women still in school at different levels.

I will give u one of the kids. Do u know how much diapers cost? Lolz.

Adaodogwu:
goodluck

Just tell me what u feel please. It's really happening

I had my way of convincing my gf to go for an abortion (invited some friends to help me out). She broke out in tears and later agreed after hours of persuasion.

I now feel really bad for doing that to her. I don't know what to do. Right now I don't know whether or not to go thru wit it.

The reason for this is that the thought of the possibility of the other child not being mine has gotten into my head.

The feeling of the possibility of me aborting my child and keeping another's alive is haunting me

The current fact that I can't finance both wants me to abort one coupled with the stigma of irresponsibility

Adaodogwu:
super story.

Just gimme ur view. It's not compulsory u believe it's still happening.

Hernyolar:
Abi oo, my dear sister, what should we call him?? straffing girls without protection and now you're screaming foul play..
Abeg, face your responsibilities now...two women, two babies to cater for...(you're going to need a whole lot of cash)

Face ke, I'm kinda of feeling ashamed, really feeling like melting or just to vanish.

Dyt:
Crazy and selfish?
Wow
What would you call yourself
Insane and greedy

You have responsibilities
Stay and fecking fix it
Only if they knew you were reckless and stupid
Oshisko ten kobo

I'm sorry for my comments it's just that I'm on the edge. My nerves are burning

Do you know the worst thing she did was calling my mum immediately we got the test results.

I'm really screwed. Totally confused. I just sincerely wish I hadn't met either girls they are both crazy and selfish

She said she would only opt for an abortion only if the other aborts hers