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Romance / Re: Introvert Vs Extrovert, Who Will You Date? by deardamsel2(f): 11:07am On Nov 11, 2021
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TV/Movies / Re: Gotv Showing E16 Error by deardamsel2(f): 10:19am On Oct 01, 2015
The error has cleared...thanks
TV/Movies / Re: Gotv Showing E16 Error by deardamsel2(f): 10:02am On Oct 01, 2015
oblo:
Log on to gotv.com and confirm ur balance. Or type ¤288# and folow the prompt to reset ur decoder.


V done that but both were not responding, the website refused to allow login or correct error code.
TV/Movies / Gotv Showing E16 Error by deardamsel2(f): 7:27am On Oct 01, 2015
Pls v paid my gotv subscription for almost a week now and it kept showing the e16 error code on all the stations except nta and gotv channel. I paid online but the light went off just as I paid. V sent clear error codes twice to 4688 all to no avail... pls help out
Politics / Re: Is This Appropriate Dressing For A Governor's Wife by deardamsel2(f): 7:22pm On Jul 24, 2015
Honestly I talked about it today, dtz inappropriate,ever seen American governor's wife dressed like dt?
Family / Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by deardamsel2(f): 8:04pm On Jul 20, 2015
enoqueen:
One of the many mistakes we women make is allowing our men know that we av money.

U did not do anything wrong and let it remain so even after paying ur fees.

When men sees money with us, they will be coming up with different project that they cannot do alone just to make sure that we spend what we av.


This is one of the issues causing problem in marriage, so if the husband is keeping money from you and you find out, how will you feel?

@op, I don't think you've done anything wrong in not allowing your hubby to touch your fees. Since you said he's not the frivolous type, I'll encourage you to keep being open with your hubby but be firm and say NO to spending when the need be.
Health / Breast Cancer: Causes And Symptoms by deardamsel2(f): 10:34am On Jul 15, 2015
Breast cancer is the most common invasive cancer in females worldwide. It accounts for 16% of all female cancers and 22.9% of invasive cancers in women. 18.2% of all cancer deaths worldwide, including both males and females, are from breast cancer.

Symptoms of breast cancer

A symptom is only felt by the patient, and is described to the doctor or nurse, such as a headache or pain.

A sign is something the patient and others can detect, for example, a rash or swelling. The first symptoms of breast cancer are usually an area of thickened tissue in the woman’s breast, or a lump. The majority of lumps are not cancerous; however, women should get them checked by a health care professional.

Women who detect any of the following signs or symptoms should tell their doctor:

*.A lump in a breast
*.A pain in the armpits or breast that does not seem to be related to the woman’s menstrual period
*.Pitting or redness of the skin of the breast; like the skin of an orange
*.A rash around (or on) one of the nipples
*.A swelling (lump) in one of the armpits
*.An area of thickened tissue in a breast
*.One of the nipples has a discharge; sometimes it may contain blood
*.The nipple changes in appearance; it may become sunken or inverted
*.The size or the shape of the breast changes
*.The nipple-skin or breast-skin may have started to peel, scale or flake.

Causes of breast cancer?

*.Getting older
*.Genetics
*.A history of breast cancer
*.Having had certain types of breast lumps
*.Dense breast tissue
*.Estrogen exposure
*.Obesity
*.Height
*.Alcohol consumption
*.Radiation exposure
*.HRT (hormone replacement therapy)
*.Certain jobs: Examples include bar/gambling, automotive plastics manufacturing, metal-working, food canning and agriculture.
*.Cosmetic implants may undermine breast cancer survival

How to prevent breast cancer

Some lifestyle changes can help significantly reduce a woman’s risk of developing breast cancer:

*.Alcohol consumption- Moderation means no more than one alcoholic drink per day.
*.Physical exercise
*.Diet- some experts say that women who follow a healthy, well-balanced diet may reduce their risk of developing breast cancer.
*.Postmenopausal hormone therapy
*.Bodyweight- women who have a healthy bodyweight have a considerably lower chance of developing breast cancer compared to obese and overweight females.
*.Breast cancer screening
*.Breastfeeding.

Prevention is better than cure!
Romance / True Facts About Relationships by deardamsel2(f): 8:50pm On Jul 14, 2015
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things arenot better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending. Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage… Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary not supplementary.

Dating is fun… Even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Fear of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful.

You should know that: You’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he’s not the only one, They’re all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one.

Ladies take care of your own hearts!
Romance / True Facts About Relationships by deardamsel2(f): 8:43pm On Jul 14, 2015
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things arenot better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending. Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage… Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary not supplementary.

Dating is fun… Even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful. Dr. Phil says.

You should know that: You’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he’s not the only one, They’re all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one.

Ladies take care of your own hearts!
Politics / Re: Governors Can’t Pay Salaries Because Of Corruption – Saraki by deardamsel2(f): 10:38am On Jul 07, 2015
Saraki talking about zero tolerance for corruption? like seriously? chai chai there is God o *in mama peace voice*
Romance / Re: Ladies,do U Totally Agree With This (photo) by deardamsel2(f): 10:40am On Jul 06, 2015
Lolzzz, the girl don vex
Romance / Should She Stay Or Leave The Relationship? by deardamsel2(f): 10:33am On Jul 06, 2015
Please let's advise this lady,


[/quote]Hello,I am in a serious situation right now and I need some honest and mature advise please.

I'm 30yrs old and I'm in a sort of a relationship with a 34yrs old man. I really like him and I think he likes me too,we've been together for like 2years now.

He talks marriage with me though he's never proposed to me but he talks of the number of children we'll have and makes plans of our future together. He also saved someone as "my wife" on his phone and saved me as "my baby".

My problem now is he usually says that "although he has a girlfriend, he's going to marry me". Should I keep believing him or is he lying to him?[quote]
Family / The Alternative Called "Adoption". by deardamsel2(f): 9:46am On Jul 06, 2015
I'm just wondering why African women and men keep trying to modernize themselves in a lot of ways but still hold on to some old and sometimes ridiculous belief(s).

Take for instance the issue of adoption of children, a couple that's been married for a while and are yet to have their own children will rather stay childless for as long as it takes them to have their own biological children than adopt children and bring joy into two lives, theirs and that of the baby or babies they adopt!

I mean if you really know what it means to be married for a while and not have children in Africa especially for a woman! Is it the unending questions you have to answer,or the manner people will keep looking at your tommy when you go for outing? God bless you if you if your husband thinks you're the cause of the childlessness or you have unsymphatetic and terrible in-laws or you now fight with anyone (gosh,the things a childless woman goes through).

Why can't couples opt for adoption after maybe 3 years of marriage if they're yet to have their own children?

Adopting children doesn't make you less normal than those that have biological children and adopting children doesn't mean you've given up on having biological children, it just means that while you're trying to conceive,you have the joy of being a parent!

And it's not something to be ashamed of! The reason "baby factories" are thriving is because people think it's a shame to adopt children, that they have failed in their God given assignment, and so they wants to lie and pretend like they've given birth naturally.

If a white couple is not ashamed to adopt a black baby and call him/her their own, why should a black couple be ashamed of adopting a baby?


Fatherhood is much more than ability to impregnate a woman as a man and Motherhood is much more than ability to carry pregnancy as a woman, it's the ability to care,nurture and train a children in the right way.

Please, I'm not saying that this is an easy decision for anyone to take, I know it's really a hard decision but I'm saying it's a better alternative; while waiting for your miracle to happen, there's the joy of a little one calling you 'My Dad and Mum'.

#whynotadopt

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Crime / Re: My First Week Of Freedom After 10 Years In A Nigerian Jail by deardamsel2(f): 12:20pm On Jul 04, 2015
I read some comments and wonder if using phones has made some people brain rusty, if u see a story you think it's hard to believe, google it and see nah...mtschew

Moses,thank God for your life o, you can still become anything you want to with God on your side. Hmmm your eyes don see ghen ghen ...
Romance / Baby Mama Syndrome by deardamsel2(f): 8:39am On Jul 03, 2015
There’s an infection that is catching the young ladies in this generation and it’s called “babymama syndrome”.

I’m so amazed at the rate at which these young ladies are so comfortable with having babies outside marriage or any form of commitment from the man.

This ‘foreign culture of babymama’ is now appallingly common that it’s even being celebrated most especially in the entertainment industry, almost every guy has 1, 2 or more babymamas.

My dear damsel, do you think a baby mama is synonymous to being a wife? What happens when the guy choose to marry someone else? Or if his cashflow is no longer steady as before? Are you prepared for all the drama(s) of being a babymama,constantly fighting for the share of your child especially if the guy ends up not marrying you?

And have you given a thought to how it’ll affect your own chance of getting married? Or how this affects your family (well,for those who had home training)? Has it ever occured to you that a guy can have children before marriage and still marry the woman of his choice but it’s not so easy for a lady?

Why have unprotected sex if you can’t protect yourself? Why mortgage your future ‘cos of some minutes of fame as a guy’s ‘baby mama’? Don’t you have a dream/goal you want to pursue? Make something of yourself? #plswiseup

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