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You can know,though it depends.
1) If she's just had it,if it was an enjoyable one,she becomes tired,drowsy and gives various excuses. If it wasn't an enjoyable one she had,her face becomes flushed with a mixture of joy of you helping her and sadness of being roused without satisfaction. In this case,she may agree having sex with you. So do you know?
It is important to tell you,time difference matters. Sex a woman had within 24hrs is easy to know. For steamy hot season,even if she cleans up and wear perfume,you can detect from body odour. Why? While having steamy sex,her sweat pores are opened,the guy sweat enters her body pores just as hers enters into his. You can tell the difference from her usual body odour.
Apart from that,the degree of tenderness of V is another give away. Even if she claims she is aroused by your touch, you can verify through how she looks and reacts when touch her. Now,if she's had sex within the last 24hrs,her V in and out,no matter how much firmness cream she uses,because easily softened. Quite soon,you feel you are thrusting again a quantity of sperm already poured in. The V may be firm at the tip but can't be equally firm inside.
Apart from that,she loses heat quickly. She becomes more tired,you feel she's sick.
Whether she had steamy sex or not,when she had sex before she comes to you,the passion dies quickly.
Enough said now.

Is marriage a difficult test? Men don't cheat,they lust outside.

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Are you sure you will get to see him with the way today's husband are bleeping you?

She dumped you after you've 'aawwed' 'aawwed' for him million times. Abee r'Olohun,ara mi si bumaso!

Haba see queson. Are you meeee? Am I youuu? Consent na ur property joor,if u like give. (dey gbadun ma NTA on BBC)

Wetin konsan fish for raincoat. Its no big deal jare becos its never a good bargain.

Well for your info,I don't fall in love but slip

A cheap attention from a person suffering from senseless trypanosomiasis.

Before you engage in that few minutes sexual gratification with that married woman,consider what will be the outcome. Are you going to be smart afterwards or you will rue it forever.
Before you do it,the factors below will certainly have roles to play in future as you do it.
The factors:

1) Her.
2) Her husband.
3) Her children.
4) Her family and his family.
5) You.
6) Your feelings.
7) Your family.
Your hopes.
9) Your dreams and if you're married,too
10) Your wife
11) Your children.

How many lives are involved? And your aspirations?

THIS RELATIONSHIP STATISTICS WILL DEFINITELY SURPRISE YOU.

Percentage of "arranged marriages" (where parents pick their sons or daughters spouses) that end in divorce: 3%

Medical field(s) with the highest divorce rate:psychiatrists and marriage counselors

Percentage of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional: 41%

Percentage of men who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they've had: 57%

Percentage of women who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they've had: 54%

Percentage of men and women who admit to having an affair with a co-worker: 36%

Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity on business trips: 36%

Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity (emotional or physical) with a brother-in-law or sister-in-law: 17%

Average length of an affair: 2 years.

Percentage of marriages that last after an affair has been admitted to or discovered:
31%

Percentage of men who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught: 74%

Percentage of women who say they wouldhave an affair if they knew they would never get caught: 68%

WHEN DOES CHEATING START IN MARRIAGE?

While infidelity can occur at anytime in a relationship, there are certain times when it is more likely to occur than others. In addition, there are certain relationship factors which can dramatically increase the potential for infidelity. Throughout the life of nearly all relationships, there are four timetable events which can breed infidelity.

After the First Year of Marriage. This generally is a time at which most people would not consider the likelihood of infidelity to be that great. For this reason, it is also the time when affairs are the least detected. After the first year of marriage, the whirlwind ends, and routine begins to set in. The emotional high that both partners had been experiencing is gone. This leaves a void. It is similar to the effects of drugs. Once you are high and come back down, you want to get high again. The new husband or wife may no longer consistently supply what is needed to sustain the emotion. Affairs occurring after the first year of marriage are almost never detected, and are typically just flings. There is no real emotional attachment to the other person and the cheating partner can still feel love for the other. Regardless, if it happens here, the chances of it happening again later on in the marriage have increased substantially.

After the First Child is Born. This occurrence can sometimes be blended in with the previous scenario, as many couples may have their first child after the first year of marriage. Aside from that, the reasons between the two can be very different. Children change a relationship no matter how you look at it. And the first child is always more traumatic than the rest. It brings about stress, fatigue, and the need to give the majority of your attention to someone other than your husband or wife. While affairs after the first year of marriage are brought about by an individual's feelings towards himself or herself, affairs after the first child are brought on by the couples feelings towards each other.

The 5th to 7th Year. This is widely referred to as the seven year itch. It does not imply that at exactly the seven year point in a marriage, someone will have an affair. What is does mean is that somewhere around this time, it may. This is due to the relationship running its natural course, and achieving the goals which had been set. A couple gets married, has kids, buys their dream house and establishes their careers. So what's left now? Doing the same thing day in and day out for the rest of their lives? Growing old and bored together? The anticipation of greater things to come is gone. This scenario is the most common cause of all affairs. A man or woman may feel that the "project is completed" and nothing is left to do but sit and watch the days pass. A new house may be purchased, perhaps a new car. Hey, lets have another baby. Anything to add some excitement. But the rush from these quick fixes is short-lived and bittersweet at best. Affairs occurring at this stage in the relationship are often the most damaging. The cheating individual traditionally develops a deep bond with the other person. The faithful mate will question the other's fidelity more than at any other point. Affairs occurring during this period will continue for the longest period of time as well.

Middle Age. Also known as the mid-life crisis. This is where the children are all grown and have left an empty nest. At this point, both men and women begin to question their lot in life. They are essentially back where they started; a couple living together with no children to care for. Except now they have around twenty years of experience with each other. This lends itself to the question of whether they want to spend another twenty plus years with the same individual. This second childhood so to speak, brings around noticeable changes in both men and women. A man might buy a sports car, a woman might feel the need for a new youthful hairstyle. Both may start exercising or purchase a new,"younger" wardrobe. Whatever the particulars, they will not be doing this for the benefit of the other. They will be doing it for themselves as much as for anyone other than their mate.

Want to know more about your girl? The lines below may be of help as to give you a succinct view of her.

1. Debate with her to know her viewpoints on life.
2. Challenge her verbally to watch the changes of her inner state.
3. Discuss strategies with her to observe her wisdom.
4. Have her handle money,to know how frugal she is.
5. Enlighten her to difficulties ahead to know her courage.
6. Assign work to her to discover her competence.

You can add more.

Do you say he loves you? Hmmm. Are you sure? Okay. Read this and rate him. Be sincere!
Check the signs under:

1) He always finds it difficult to stay alone,even in a gathering.
2) He sees no one nearby when he's with you.
3) Instead of seeing you off,he always chose to follow you to your house.
4) He is always at your agreed point of date before the time.
5) When he's with you,hours pass bye like seconds.
6) He fights you because your chat when you are away from him doesn't come every minute.
7) He reads to you some of love messages or part of your chat to him and each time he does that,he smiles at you.
When he's with you,he doesn't worry about how talk starts.
9) Both of have sex without any plan.

Oya,rate you guy,lady!

To make women happy all the time,you must be stupid.
If your girlfriend is entering a pit,just say:' you ain't gonna fall,step on it.' and when she falls,say: 'I guess we try again,you're gonna make it. You are wonderful lady.'
Ladies don't learn lessons until they break legs. Somehow!

TRAGEDY OF LIFE!
Life you can't understand,its ways so crooked;
Life a mirage,it stops to flow when you most want;
Life music an awkward beat,so it beats celebrated dancers.

When life begins its pranks,we let go our guards;
When it is done with us,we see its wickedness by rote;
There is always one thing left to remember life's cruelty.

If our wishes were to be real,none would give life a chance;
Most of life's live,would be a life lived in shackles;
What you can get at a straight point,life will take you through an ellipse.

There are success you want,life won't give;
There are true love you can't forever have;
There are good friends you will loose by nature;
There are needs you can't say you want;

Once you live in life,you are subdued by it;
You can't go higher than its height;
Neither can you achieve outside what it provides.
Life is so large n spacious that nobody moves it.
Do your best,sulk in your regrets,
That's only lesson life teaches us.

Dedicated to two lovers that couldn't say they love each other and to two true friends that nature separates.

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President Jonathan has just handed over the baton of governance to the President elect,Muhammadu Buhari. As he conducted the new occupant round the villa,his minds won't stop to ask him questions,majority of which,he can't,with state of his mind,proffer answers to. I personally,feel for GEJ.
A picture of our amiable outgoing president shows a handsome,honourable gentleman. He cuts the picture of a refined man,one with leadership edge,urbane,not too vocal,soft spoken and a good listener. He appears as a man with hidden triumph card. To say the least,is to say,he is admired by all and sundry. He rose from oblivion to greatness through mind calculation,hidden deft moves. His rising shows him as a person who fears people may truncate his ambitions if he makes bold his intentions or steps on toes on account of that.
If he had had a solid comportment,he could win any war even with dialogues. His gestures always shows his innocence which often lead many great men to losses. He has innocent look also,good for a virile disguise. He talks passively,without force,a rare quality to disarm a serious enemy. On first meeting him,you don't doubt reposing your confidence in him. He appears non aggressive,not a subscriber to do-or-die syndrome. This is the whole Jonathan that is leaving Aso Rock tomorrow morning. The first Nigerian president with a recognised erudition,yet the same leader who ruled without erudition.
I am particularly sympathethic to GEJ because,like him,I am at a loss at how he lost good priviledge presented to him by nigerians. Just as he wonders,I also do,is he truly a bad president? I am wondering how he would respond to the questions his mind has severally asked him on peoples comments about him. He becomes novice of himself. He wouldn't be able to answer whether he was truly bad or not. While Jonathan may leave Aso rock,how would he leave people's minds? If he wants to leave an unenvious part of people's mind he occupies,he needs to convince them. We are humans,making mistakes is part of being a human. Since he lost the election,he hasn't talked. He needs to help himself by diasbusing people's minds about the thrusts of his policies. Why is it that,only Iweala rises in his defence? Though,Iweala handles the economy which is understandable,is economy the only mismanaged part of Jonathan's governance? Before a butter goes rancid,it starts somewhere,where did his failures start?
I see a former president GEJ leaving swollen-hearted. Buying on his cabinet members rating that he wasn't a failure would only temporarily douse his mind. That can't hold him longer. I see a former president that would be glad on second chance. I see a departing president that says 'I didn't mean all those harms'. I see a leaving president that wonder how he jumped onto colours that made him different from what he was before he became president.
Jonathan will definitely leave Aso Rock,he would be going there as a visitor. Nothing is sweeter than home. But,a free mind without even a home is sweeter. My amiable GEJ should free his mind,by refuting all lies told on his heads. For posterity sake,it doesn't augur well for him to take all the punches from all actions. He should tell us who and who had thrusts on his policies,who and who scuttle presidential directives. Nigeria doesn't have an enemy in him,but on his advisers,cabinet members that did what and what. He should laid it bare to help sunsequent government against giving leadership reins to such people. He has right of reply,of defence to talk. Nigerians are waiting to read from him the detailed of events that shaped his governance.
While the former President retires to Otuoke,he won't ever forget there are always betrayals in power and we won't forget that untended goodluck doesn't last longer. I wish him happiness and long live. He tried his best. Enjoy your retirement!

Psi pressure unit.

Like what?

How I wish I could help. I gotta run away now. We will talk later. No too critical a case. Self examinations, you need.

You are wrong!
Proof:-
To prove: that love is wicked.
Proof:-
Love means an act of getting obsessed with someone in a beneficial and romantic way,to make that person's a centre focus of one's mind for mutual benefits.
Wicked' means being evil oriented
Then Love is NOT Wicked.
If you disagree,kindly visit Dr Douglas Anele of Philosophy Department of Unilag.

Don't like either . One sees one as a patient ,the other as a criminal

hmmmm....and when the plaster wears off,his face rivals toad coarse back

My Brother Truthmann,its pleasant meeting you here,again. You have read a lot about Islam yet you're ignorant. There is a saying:'The more we learn the more we realise how ignorant we are',so,you're still ignorant.
Now,you quoted a hadith,another hadith will be used to help you as you need one.
For schorlarlywork,search for hadith on Ka'abah building.
Now when ismaheel grown up,he married a wife,his father Abraham came to check on him. He came twice to check how he's faring. On third visit,they laid Ka'abah foundation.
As for the looking back,it refers to Abraham leaving them and going as looking back on theinfant and her mother may leave him shattered and dejected. It doesn't mean going forever away.
Lastly,I see you as confused. One who speaks where he doesn't have authority is a pillar of deception. Find the truth and correct your ways. I love you so much because you have interest in Islam. Islam is like a sky up,no hidden ways.

This is peoples' elected presido. He looks cool and simple.
You like the pics?

This is not different from your earlier explanations, so the disagreement remains.
Anyway, it is nice talking to you and I pray the only true God will reveal himself to you (Amen).

Now I see your eyes is opened. Dear,don't you think opening your mind also matters? Two is better than one,sir.

I am glad you respond. I know you can't understand all I wrote without comment. It is good to seek truth and to be freed by it. I commend you for taking time to study the books of islam. You must have been an avid reader,one who directs his affairs with true knowledge. You are a brother that assesses ways all the time.

1) On there is no compulsion in religion.
You have cited correct ahadith to butress your point. That is lovely from you. I am happy for that. But sir,you missed your target. Islam is a universal religion. There are benefits for believing totally in it. I know you're soft hearted,you would so much love your kid. Assuming your kid wants to jump down from a cliff,you don't want to spank him but you know he would be injured. He has free will to jump but he is inexperienced he could be hurt. So he's bent on jumping,as lovely as you are,won't you spank him? Youknow the spankingis very minimal to the consequence had you allowed him jump.
Allah wants everybody to serve Him because that's where success is,so the prophet came to bring the message to all without inhibition. However,Allah knows some will be guided,while some won't. So,there isn't compulsion to religion,you're rightly guided or not but you don't stand on the way on its spread. So.the ahadith means 'I have been commanded to fight until the islam reaches everybody'. In some verses,Allah says'you are just a warner'meaning to accept isn't yours.

2) On Allah's words.
I have said that before. His words doesn't change. Abrogation comes only in laws.laws are part of his revealation. I know you are well read.you can bring examples of such. I know you attended higher colleges,why weren't you given all the knowledge once? Why the sequence. Obviously you know the answer. The more you mature the more the knowledge. With theexpansion,Allah calibrate them with laws that would make it easier for them to serve Him and be of help to themselves.

3) On Abraham and Ismaheel.
If you're conversant with history of christianity,you wll agree with me that Abraham didn't live in Mecca neither did he born Ismaheel inMecca where Ka'aba is. As a command from his Lord,he came to Mecca,after he had sent Hagar and her son away on his Lord directives. Abraham and Ismaheel just laid and raised the foundation. None of them was a prophet or messenger to the arabs.
Old testament wasgiven to Jews,New testament to xtians,the book didn't get to them because Moses was basically sent to Jews to liberate them and to know there is one God just Jesus to Xtians. So,the arabs then were idolaters. They had hundreds of idols they worship. Why,the gospels didn't have influence on them.you can do your research.

On Jews,Xtians and others

There is a name that may interest youthat Qur'an is called. Al-Furqan,meaning one that tells difference. The traditional jews believe in oneness of God but later the take their loyalty to their priests and they began to claim their priests as gods. Quran clearly state that.
Likewise,xtianity started on monotheism before abracadbra ofcrusade war brings the trinity. Yet,Quran tells us that the original New Testament tells of oneness of God. So,on that note,we see them as brothers in faith moreso they have revealations.

I appreciate this exercise youbrought. How I wish I could hug but I do it here inmy heart. I see this as enlightening to those who seek knowledge. I hope people find guidance here.
God bless you sir,you remain precious!

Pls,pardon any mistake observed in the answer I gave. I was in hurry and I didn't edit it. Thanks for the understanding.

Thank you brother. You have asked a decisive question. You are obviously a good reader. You had logical questions there. In sha Allah I will try to bring answers concisely to you here. We are brothers,let's learn together.

1) There is no compulsion in Allah's religion.
You rightly quoted the right verses. That there isn't compulsion in religion has been one fundamentals of peaceful living of muslims with others. Q2:256 only states that Allah abhors forcing anybody to accept or follow Islam,since whosoever chose to follow has held onto a strong handhold that breaks not and whosoever chose not to has missed the way. Allah is saying everybody has free will to chose his path,to success or destruction. Now,onto Q8:39. Note the word 'fitnah' meaning obstruction,rebellion,outright mischief making. Allah commanded to fight whosoever of the believers that intentionally puts wedge onto the ways of people who chose to believe or have believed. Such people they have control over,or prohibiting the believing people to practise their believe. So,the prophet was commanded to fight injustice until the freedom of choice and association is established. So,if the prophet won or surrendered,they are free to surender and do not pay tax to muslims,but if they chose not to convert,then they are subjected to islamic laws and they pay tax. Either way,all religions become Allah's alone.

2) The words of Allah doesn't change.
Q6:115,this verse is about commands of Allah. Whatever He says he would do. Whatever He wish to bring to live of creations,actions(rewards and punishments). In all the commands and the sequence of his creations,His words are perfected. Where as Q2:106 is refering to laws governing muslims I.e the sharia. Note the word ABROGATE. Just as we seek improvement in our lives and we review laws,Allh's encompassing wisdom knows how changes can make laws administration difficult,so he abrogates the old and difficult ones and enacts easier one. For He says in the Qura'an 'verily,Allah wants ease of affairs for you,He doesn't want hardship for you'.

3) Abraham and Ismaheel were in Mecca and Built Ka'abah
My noble brother,you failed to understand this.too.Q2:127 actually meant that. That Abraham and Ismaheel raised the foundation of KA'aba and the supplicated. True. As to Q34:44 you cited.Allah was talking about the disbelievers. A read from verse 43 gives insight to this:
Verse 43:'and when a our communications(revealations) are recited to them,they say: this is naught but a man who desires to turn you away from that which your fathers worshipped. And they say: this is naught but a lie that is forged. And those who disbelieve say of the truth when it comes to them. This is only a clearenchantment.
Verse 44 : and we have not given them any book they read,nor did we send to them before you a warner.(Meaning,among this arabs disbelievers we haven't sent anyone before you as a warner)

4) Christianity,Sabaenism and Islam are acceptable to Allah.
Q2 is an earlyMeccan surah,meaning it was revealed when Islam is at early formative stage. At that time,there were xtiansand Jews and Sabians and that believed in Oneness of Allah,who stood by the true revelationsof Moses and Jesus. Since Quran has monotheism as its foundation,so if anyone has the believe he will be duely rewarded. Just as He say in says in Surat AL-Zilzalah:'whosoever does smallest amount good deeds,shall have the rewards,and whosoever does smallest amount of bad deeds shall have the rewards.
On the other hand,Q9:17 refers to disbelievers in the words of Allah still visiting the holy Ka'aba after the muslims have defeated disbelievers and they have also conquer mecca. Q3:85 came on when Islam is widespread. When there is total awareness and when there is nota single barrier to accept Islam. They have tools,space and teacher. So the verse means,now that we have perfected ways into Islam for you,what would give as excuse that you aren't a muslim,your not being one is your desire, 'so if anyone desires a religion other than Islam,never will it be accepted fron him...

5) All of Allah's Messengers are Equal.
Muslims hold all the prophets in high esteem. We believe in all of the as holy men who teache us about ways of Allah. That is asimple explanation of Q2:285. As to Q2:253,that we believe in them doesn't not means they are equal with Allah. He knows why He choses each of them. Some have unrivalled piety,some have patience,some have tremendous physical powers,He gave some spiritual healing,eloquence etc. So,while the first verse you quoted means we believe in all of them without exception,the second verse talks about hierachy Allah puts each of them with reasons known to Him only. We treat them equally,Allah gives them rank.

6) How to treat Infidels
In Q9:29,note 'those who believe not in Allah nor last day' meaning the chronic disbeliever,because they would incessantly against the believers and seek to oppose religion of Allah,they are to pay tax if the don't want to convert and if they refused to pay they should be fought until they either pay or willingly convert but Q45:14 you cited refers to believers that were offended by the disbelievers. Brothers separated by religious differences.

7) Do the Jews love or hate eachother.
Sir,you didn't read what you quoted well. The first verse5:51 talks about the enmity between the jews and christians. Its ideological difference. No doubt about that,and the other verse only implies that because the Jews are treacherous,He puts enmity between them and He helps Islam by quelling any rebellion of the Jews because they are guarded by evils in them.

7) Muslims can not marry Non-Muslim women
Islam make distiction from Jew,Chiristians and disbelievers(idolators). Xtians and Jews are 'people of the Book(Old and New Testaments). The reasons is both books are revealed by Allah despite whatever may have happened to them afterwards. So,they are believers in Allah but the idolators are absolutely unbelieving. So,marrying a believing slave is better than best of idolators women.

Qur'an was sent to the Arabs.
Before Muhammad was born,there had been information mentioning his coming. The Jews and Christians knew this. Then,Arab nation has never had books governing them like Jews and Christians. Allah then chose to bring the prophet from a nation lawlessly barbaric. Out of Allah'sbenevolence He sent the prophet,an illiterate arab and the Quran in Arabic. Since the arabs have been neglected for years in guidance and been savagely,returning them to ways of Allah is a more of a miracle than both Jews and Christian who still have books of guidance with them. Allah raised the Arab prophet and the Quran in Arabic as an attestation of His capability of bringing salvation from anywhere He pleases. Since,Allah wants to establish a Just society,He started the orderliness from the most savagery and unpolish nation to serve as an example to the whole world. At that time,how much influence did the jews and xtians have on them.
Just as He used Jesus a an example of His universal strength of healing,He uses Arab as specimen of universal correction and rehabilitation onto his way. Were Qur'an revealed in Greek or Hebrew,it may not have much impact when a revealation has just closed centuries away.
In essence,the qur'an isn't meant for the arabs,it the particular colour because importance of lessons to learn from them.
This is the little I can write now.
Thanks for the questions. You are brother indeed.

It is a good question that is answerable in two ways:
1) If only the woman enters paradise without her husband. In such case.the woman has sweetest answer to all her desires and she is in the world of goodness nobody has been before.
2) If her human husband also enters paradise,she will be joined with her husband and she will be superior to the virgins Allah presented her husband with. Remember,she will have been beautifully transformed by Allah. That is bounty from Allah.
Wallahu ahlam!