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Most of these things mentioned by op are not really mistakes, the are genuine act of love, when you are in love you love without holding back, you love wholeheartedly, both women and men who are genuinely in love do these things you call mistakes, the are not really mistakes, you just love fearlessly

I won't want to hear my girls past in that detail especially her sex life, it's not necessarily

They will always claim is hard work deceiving other innocent young ladies who are genuinely working hard

Godoverevery:
Hi everyone.... just need your veiw if am doing the right thing.
I started dating my current gf last December and it have been alot of up and few down........what really happened was Wen we met she just lost her job so I felt like helping her out so I came up with the idea of her doing a business of her own were we can both benefit....so one of my friend gave me a link to were she can pick perfumes ,body spray and female slippers in bulk at cheap prices and resale since she knows lot of people due to her friendly nature.
After discussing with her and she accepted so I sent her 100k around feburary ds year to start and got her a new phone has well cos d one she was using was bad so she can also advertise online.....sales was good according to her........fast forward to April
I just felt like knowing if she was keeping the money in her account as she Claimed so i asked her to come give account of the sales cos I told her we will share the gains between ourselves becos i didn't want her to lose track and be financially reackless ........she did the account and it good sales......i now asked her to send me the capital back...to my surprise
She said she sorry that her dad was in need of cash and was depressed so she borrow him 80k out of the money......I was really angry cos she didn't tell me before doing it so alot of drama happened..... after begging she said her dad will give her back d cash ending of last month...... ending came she started begging again dat I should give till mid this month.....last week she started begging again I should give till ending of D's month.

Ds were I need you guys help.....I love the gal if God permit I want to marry her.
Her birthday is on Friday and I av plans of celebrating it on Sunday with few friends at a nice lounge....(get cake, wristwatch with set of nice panties has gift).
But has I was making order for the wristwatch D's afternoon at work something in me just ask if am sure am doing the right thing and ever since I am really thinking I should just cancel the plan.... because what she did with the business money really hurt and I find it difficult to trust her.

Pls am I doing the right thing celebrating her birthday or I should just cancel it....thanks

If really she did the business well and made profit from it, an d the only wrong thing she did was lending 80k to her dad then you have to correct her and forgive her, but if she actually spent the money recklessly and can't give account of it, well she's not business minded, but you love this girl this is just her first tryer man give her a second chance don't just turn her off cause of this one bad act, not everyone is good with business,

chenzen:
don't mind the 300 yrs old cargo.

Lol same goes for you chenzen

Ilamina:
You have biafra on your page

Yes I do, and I wish and pray the biafran dream will come true someday, but hating Nigeria is not the way to Biafra, don't u think so baby? Besides my mom is from Benue state am part of Nigeria too

Amatarasha:
Laurazea ,this is d shameless guy..
Deepfeel this is him



Ladies forever ©

Amatarasha I will tell you like I told chenzen before am not a troublesome person and I won't belong to a group of mobs that all they do is curse and insult, don't tag me on any insulting post you make, tag me on sensible posts, thank you

Hmm so sad when I hear things like these religious enslavement, you won't hear stuff like these in the Western world yet people are happily married there

Ilamina:
So you hate Nigeria
Yet you were cursing me out when I was dissing Nigeria

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Are you sure it was me baby? I have always sounded friendly to you, check it up again,
Well I don't hate Nigeria, I might not like what's happening in Nigeria but hating Nigeria is not it, hate is a strong word

chenzen:
why not just create a counter thread

I don't need to, I already said whatever it is to be said by me here

chenzen:
well... cool, then u should have known than make it seem the op knows not what he says.

Well cause the op wasn't talking only to his own little group of religions traditional believers, so I did same

chenzen:
l m not here to join issues with an unbeliever. we do not belong to the same school of thought, so shift with ur unrealistic shallow opinions

What's unrealistic about my opinions? Am a believer let's just say my beliefs are different from yours,

Acidosis:
Okay. Let me take you back to the very essence of this thread. Are you saying that premarital sex can address the above challenges? Is it safe to also conclude that most of the women will see with battered faces on Instagram (domestic violence) had that encounter because they kept their virginity? Does keeping ones virginity has anything to do with the above problems?

I hope you're aware that it is easier to satisfy a man or woman with fewer sexual encounters than one with many? If you're complaining about satisfaction, you should direct your complaints to the appropriate quarters. Majority of the virgins out there won't even understand all you're saying, they're less bothered about your hypothesis.

Keeping one's virginity till marriage won't address the above mentioned neither, please go back to the thread read what the op wrote again and go through my comments again you will see the points am making , your last comment shows we are saying same thing

Acidosis:
I'm forced to quote this portion again.

First, your conclusions are very faulty. What led to the loss of sexual attraction btw? Does it have anything to do with not having premarital sex?

Second, what do you mean by "they are just there for marriage sake"? The fact that they are there is the essence of marriage in the first place -- being there in good and bad times. The extent at which single people 'japa' at the slightest provocation or disappointment defines the unseriousness and lack of commitment that characterise sexual relationships between two unmarried people.

Alot of people who married with out premarital sex, realize after marriage that they are not compatible sexually, so yes to your first question,
Now people remain in marriages for different reasons which I consider selfish or self denial and not an act of love commitment, most people are not happy in their marriages, no single love for there partners anymore but they are still there cause maybe religiously, they claim their God hates divorce, traditionally their tradition frowns against divorce, Socailly people might mock them for divorcing, others can't divorce cause of their kids, some cause the depend of their partner for financial support, I can go on and on

Acidosis:
Self-deceit is the greatest form of lie. Meanwhile, I didn't ask you to speak for yourself. Speak for men in general, same way you came up with a 70% statistics about married men.

Well, 70% of men who are well exposed and are not enslaved to religion or tradition, do not look at ladies they have premarital sex with as cheap, 90% of typical men who are enslaved to tradition and religion look at women who are into premarital sex as cheap,
But come to think of it what makes her cheap? There are women who are millionaires, billionaires, having premarital sex everyday and are still well respected in the society what makes them cheap really? Not everyone wants to marry

Acidosis:
Answer these questions and get the point;

Would a married man consider his wife as "cheap" for giving him sex in marriage?

What is the likelihood that a man will consider his girlfriend as "cheap" after a round of hot premarital sex?

Sorry but am not a traditional or religious person, these mentality of calling a lady who give premarital sex, cheap is not in me so I don't know the difference, if I love a lady and she loves me, and we have sex I don't look at her cheap cause I don't see myself cheap for having sex with her, two mature people who are sexually attracted to each other having sex there's nothing cheap in it

She looks fresh and clean, but am not really a fan of light skin girls, I prefer dark chocolate skin, that's my taste

Acidosis:
Bro, the point is sex before marriage is completely different from sex in marriage. A man won't consider his legally married wife as "cheap" for giving him sex in marriage. It is a constitutionally ordained and naturally-binding 'integration'. What the man sees is 'the bone of my bone', and nothing else.

Two things happen when a man gets premarital sex;

First, he dramatically loses interest if sex was the original purpose behind his incessant attention and promises.

Second, trust issues rise sporadically if he genuinely feels something towards the woman (and you know single women never stop seeking/getting needless attention from men). In that scenario, there is no legally binding reason to exhibit trust aside the fact that the two profess love and have sex.

70% of married people have lost sexual attraction for each other they are just there for marriage sake, you talk about trust issues trust issues are more in married people than singles, married people still cheat on themselves , so I don't get your point in all these

chenzen:
If u understand the twist that exists when it comes to Love, sex and marriage in our world today, u will be wiser than you are now. why will someone even think of sex before marriage, the holy book even frowns at it. If a man claims to love a woman let him act than speak, acting means marriage and getting married means commitment.



Read 1 Corinthians 7:9

You are wrong marriage is not a sure act or prove of love , people marry for different reasons, people marry for financial gain wealth, people marry for physical beauty, yes people marry for sex, people marry for green card citizenship, marriage is never an act of love don't be deceived, marriage is just a form of legally tying another human being to yourself in a selfish manner people do it , you can love someone without necessarily marrying that person, stop quoting scriptures here like those scriptures mean something they mean nothing people in the Bible did same, married and gave their daughter's in marriage for selfish gains too

chenzen:
if you read the bible your views and philosophy on the topic will be better. u can't claim to be wiser than ur maker... he knows whats best for his people.

And how do you know what is written in the Bible is truly from the maker, just cause the people that wrote it claim its from the maker doesn't make it true, we have different religions claiming different theories that are from the maker, the maker won't contradict himself, with all these different laws, theories from different religions, don't you think so?

Sunnyshinylight:
Is that all you are looking for??


Do you want to burn in the fire of hell. Don't burn.



Run to your savour Christ Jesus and be saved

The pussy is preaching?

Ilamina:
He wasnt sure or he just hates because I am Nigerian

Looks like you are always in pains, let me be your Tylenol and you will complain no more baby

SmellySperm:
anything to trend....I can tell she has low self esteem,she could have a big ass wit smelly puzzy

#atleast it's better she display her ass than to commit suicide

The girl na top Instagram booty model she does it for a living, her Instagram handle, blackgabbydoll

MarianaTrench:
Where will the fučkingvtake place?

His place or hers?

Your place won't be a bad idea will it

Op I know the feeling, I advise you not to make the mistake of marrying her out of pity, I once experienced it, I met this beautiful girl I loved so much she was so respectful she never called me by name she greets me with sir kind soft hearted she never argued with me or saw anything wrong with whatever I say or do at a point I felt different about her like she was too good for me, the sexual feeling I had when I first saw her just died within me cause I just couldn't think dirty with her in mind, the feeling I had for her was more like a brother to sister type of love still don't understand how or why that happened,

MissRaine69:
I am a straightforward person ....why waste time going around in circles?

Hmm I like your straight forwardness, you got a well trained independent mind you will go far in whatever career you choose, keep it up with females like you Africa will do better

Acidosis:
Marriage is not dating man. Once a man gets that premarital sex, his level of trust, commitment and respect automatically drops by 50%. It drops by 100% if he came solely for sex (hidden motive).

One more thing, don't ever put love and sex together in a sentence when you're discussing a man's psychology. A man will have sex with a woman for many reasons, love isn't one.

Marriage is a completely different ball game. Men don't go into marriage for sex-related reasons.

I know love has nothing to do with sex, so if a man truly loves a lady premarital sex or not his love for her will still be there why should sex create distrust in a man's heart? Why should sex stop a man from been committed? Why should sex make a man disrespect a lady? Am on a point that if sex could make a man do these negative things you mentioned during premarital sex, it will make him do same during marriage, a man will not hurry to marry a lady cause he is sex starved by her no way so the topic the op raised here I see no wisdom in it really

The feelings of a man towards a lady may be true and genuine, but the reality of it is that, he doesn't see his lady the same way he did before the sex... her value to him becomes less than it was.



So if this should happen after marriage won't the lady suffer the more? If a man truly loves a lady, he loves her even more after sex, marriage is not a trap there is a way out in marriage so even if a lady keeps her pussy till the man marries her, he can still back out after marriage

From her neck downward pretty inviting hmmm her face

MissRaine69:
Settled

That was easy