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I have told my fiancee on Monday , she was angry and bitter, but what surprises me is that she knew all along that the girl has interest in me and i did not see it and that she does not know how to tell me because its not in my attitude to cheat on her and she does not want to insinuate what is not on my mind. I pleaded and begged her. She told me we would continue our plans that we need to be more closer now than before and then later decide what we will do about her. Meanwhile, she said, it might not be true if the lady in question is truely pregnant as the lady has refused to even greet her and avoid her totally.

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yewwy, thank for coming in at this time, but i have mentioned it earlier that am not a cheater. what happened, was not someting i planned for, not with my intention (full or partial) it was a programme already mapped out by that lady and unknowingly i fall into it. The Yoruba adage says, {Ki olorun gba wa lowo eni ti o sho wa, ti a ko sho} means, may God deliver us from one who keeps vigil over us, whom we dont keep over or notice.

I have learnt my lesson in a bitter way, next time i will be more careful not to see every lady that need my help as one that cant harm my happiness.

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ogamadam,
subjecting a man like me to such a gruesome near death punishment will not rectify anything. It might even hardened me beyond repair. To me, absolutely my opinion, is that you let me realised that what i have done is wrong and not acceptable and correct me by showing understanding and love. By that i will always remember the son of whom i am.


I thank you all that have contribute to this. I prayed that such thing will never happen to you or anyone you know. It was a bad experience. God bless you all and God bless Nigeria.
Merry Christmas in Arrears, chris still want to know you, give me ur mail id , thank you all once more

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GUYS GUYS GUYS, pls i dont want anyone of u to quarrel over my problem. All i need is advice and a way out of this mess. Let me correct the impression that Karma said that i do it on purpose and thank God not all girls will accept my nonsense, that is why i go for a lady who will reason "beyond doubt" If u know me very well i cant and i mean never hurt anyone on purpose. Am over 30yrs and i command alot of respect in my family and people around me.

Sista, i came here for solutions, and not to remind me that i woke up beside a lady with a smile, did i do that too on purpose, And who say i did not REGRET THIS?? am just trying to be strong.
Ebony, pls dont ever call me a cheater, AM NOT one, it happens to me could happen to u and anyone so please stick to the issue and not name calling. thank u

Take it easy on me, its not that my fiance helps me to make all my money or build my empire on her own effort for me HELL NO, but i felt since we have been together for long i should not for any reason betray her but read my words very well, I NEVER SLEPT WITH THIS LADY WITH MY FULL INTENT! Let me also say that we both know what is at stakes so we need to HOLD ON to each other VERY TIGHT, But if she decide to go so be it i will go on with my life and she will too. will marry someone else but never the devil. However, i know God is a merciful God and he will prevail in our life.
I have to say the truth here no matter what , this is people's parliament, truth they say will set me FREE.
So pls let concentrate on the issue. By Monday, i will inform you guys what happen during the weekend, but just that i did not have all the strength to tell her. I have change the sitting room and make it look nice, have done all i could at this moment, am only hoping and look to God for favour and forgiveness, BELIEVE ME, IT IS NEVER DONE ON PURPOSE

chrisbenogor, thanks for this useful information, am printing it right away and will read it as many times as possible.
I was reading this at home after leaving the office and the 1st thing i do this morning is continue with the thread.

I know i fu**ed up big time, there is no hiding place for me, but on a second thought, she might not even had the pregnancy bc after she met with my dad with one woman she came with, she quickly stood up, turn her back and leave. Secondly, the resolution that day was we both shld meet and iron out the grey areas, and i tried fulfilled that but she has been hiding ever since and not willing to talk with me face-to-face. These really cast a dark cloud on her sincerity on the issue.

uuuummmmmmt its all coming back to me now, i remember on time, my fiance told me that she asked her what could probably annoyed her and leave me, and she if am not faithful to her and married someone else. This lady knew my fiance very well infact she has slept in our house on many occassions. Many times, my fiance will ask me to help her if i dont want to,


As for my fiance, hahahaha, she cant throw all we have done together away just like that, believe me, she is a rare breed of feminine, always reason and try to see why things are done in a particular way and not the other, she is very objective. My fear is i dont want to spoil the xmas. i will beg her to the last drop of breath i have left if she even think of leaving me.
She will be home tomorrow and i have promised to go with her to RCCG conference cos have never been there b4 and she always wanted me to go. Do u also know that for the very first time, after opening my heart to you fellas, i had a wonderful sleep and i woke up with a very light heart. Hurdle one has been crossed, hurdle 2 is planning on how to tell her and the mood she will be b4 opening the can, but the most important thing is that atleast, i have ppl who has helped me to share my prob. I thank you all

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Nice job sistawoman!,  it happened that i came to this world on 13th of Feb,  sistawoman, you were part of my thread too,  kudos, so you see why i can't be crucified??

i really cant remember if i do or not, bc it all happened like a flash. I dont know what and how i just noticed we already had sex and she was smiling and she lay beside me cos it was night and i just left office and branch at her place before heading home.

thanks for these question steve49ja

1, my mum never agree to it that i impregnate the lady. she said, and i quote her word "have always warned u to becareful about helping ppl, see where it has land you, but i know you are innocent, you are just a victime of your own stupidity". Infact, my mum facilitate the fastness in my introduction as she said, she will fight this to finish.

2. She has seen some funny behaviour in me but she really cant pin it down. One saturday morning we went to fetch water as we have not finished with the borehole in our home, while i was fetching, someone was talking to me but my mind was not there, she said "honey, it seems your mind is not here, anyting the matter?, i just laughed and said i was listening to a programme from the car radio station.

3. Like i said above, i really dont know how or wat lead to it, i just knew i have slept with her, but many times she will ask me to sleep in her house which i always reject though my fiance is not always around during the week days and it happens that i always drive past her house when goin home at night.

I have no slight interest in sleeping with her as i have caught her red-handed while guys were sleeping with her, so i could not with full intent sleep with that kind of person.

Come think of it, i have always use condom with my fiance as we have decide to start having kids from May 2009. I happened to have a schedule that can determine the sex of a baby in accordance with the woman's age and month to conceive, so there is no need for us to rush as we have all planned how to start our family. I cherished her more and i know she cant leave, but i cant envisage her reaction, i know she will definitely get annoyed, am very sure.

some people think this is a kinda of funny story for nollywood or storywood right?, am talking something that has put me in sleepless night , am very ashamed of wat i have done as i have not with full intent cheat on my fiance. cos i loved her more than anything, so dont crucified me, sistawoman) we all can fall, wat we shld be praying for is to stand up and bounce back when we fall. I felt for my fiance bc she has done so much for me, standing by me when there was no one, i know am not the father my coinscience has always tell me that , but either i am the father or not is a thing of 9months time, but the thing is before that 9months i would have face alot of things, accusations and counter-accusations, emotional and psychological trauma to mention a few.

I will tell her this weekend and will let you ppl know by monday what the outcome is, I sincere grateful to all that have offer constructive advice and to those who think this is a playwrite, i say thank you too.
am an Optimistic person, i look forward to an happy ending and hopefully invite some of you here to my wedding in April, thanks once again

One last thing, when do you think i can tell my fiance as at this moment, i really dont know. I go to work simply bc am the boss and tried as much to hold mysef bc i wouldn't want them to know anything but i cant coordinate well, i get annoyed when am not suppose to be, i leave office just driving around when am suppose to be in the office, pls advice

thanks very much for your advice and contributions. from debosky, steve49ja,MoneyRule,tboy1,ThoniaSlim,arramyjay,Moyola and tmoney11, at the moment.

My parent are already aware and they asked us to meet and find solution as we both can only solve the mystery lurking in there. i tried my best to meet her just to talk some sense into her but she always avoid me, if i call her number she will not pick if i hide it and noticed it my voice she will cut it ,

As for my fiance, she is not a problem, she understand more than any woman in this world that is why no man will take her away from me by GOD's grace. We have been together for 8yrs when there was noting, when we cant afford to eat wat we want, i will never leave her i will do all i can to make her forgive me, not even now that we are living in our own house, built by both of us and business named to our unborn children ( we already know the name to be given each child), let me say it here, i have at no time cheated on her. we men should always pray never to fall in the hand of women are have no immunity against that, we need grace.

Fellow Nairaland,
This is something i need to share with all and need a constructive idea and advice. Please, no joking about this as it involve the stability of my relationship. Thank you as you share your opinion.

It happens that, i usually help this lady who is not fortunate to have a good relationship. I gave her money, properties and moral assistance, all bc i felt i owe humanity and feelings that i should at least put a smile on someone's face. However, she has been asking me to sleep with her which i bluntly refused, one DAY we did it but how and what lead to it i still don't know till today. weeks after she told me she is pregnant and will not want to do any abortion. What really surprised me is that she said the pregnancy is just 1 month and plus old. I have my introduction slated for January 24th 2009. My fiance told me last saturday that she dreamt i impregnate someone i did not say anything in response (NOTE,  this lady happens to know and become a good friend to my fiance ,  a very good friend),

Am at a dilemna, as this girl vowed to displace my relationship with my fiance. I have tried all i could to persuade her to abort but instead she keep avoiding me and prefer to say it to everyone that knows me that i impregnate her and refused to claim responsibility, WHAT A WORLD WE INTO

THE COUNT DOWN IS JANUARY 24TH 2009.
NEED YOUR ADVICE. THANK YOU

Fellow Nairaland,
This is something i need to share with all and need a constructive idea and advice. Please, no joking about this as it involve the stability of my relationship. Thank you as you share your opinion.

It happens that, i usually help this lady who is not fortunate to have a good relationship. I gave her money, properties and moral assistance, all bc i felt i owe humanity and feelings that i should at least put a smile on someone's face. However, she has been asking me to sleep with her which i bluntly refused, one DAY we did it but how and what lead to it i still don't know till today. weeks after she told me she is pregnant and will not want to do any abortion. What really surprised me is that she said the pregnancy is just 1 month and plus old. I have my introduction slated for January 24th 2009. My fiance told me last saturday that she dreamt i impregnate someone i did not say anything in response (NOTE,  this lady happens to know and become a good friend to my fiance ,  a very good friend),

Am at a dilemna, as this girl vowed to displace my relationship with my fiance. I have tried all i could to persuade her to abort but instead she keep avoiding me and prefer to say it to everyone that knows me that i impregnate her and refused to claim responsibility, WHAT A WORLD WE INTO

THE COUNT DOWN IS JANUARY 24TH 2009.
NEED YOUR ADVICE. THANK YOU

am Feb 13th,  holla me