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Tell them , their father no fit stop the storm of change

Now we are getting to know better what happen behind the curtain in NASS and FG. GEJ must be elected in 2011

wetin dey worry una, Lagos na the best place o, wetin,
back to the topic, how the invitation or access go be?

ud4u:
just stay tuned

part one,

i dont know what to do to help so i just post this on a bbc website, http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theeditors/2010/10/biodiversity_lost_or_missing.html#postcomment

We nigeria need to rise up and make this country better. This act is very bad, kai!

my wiffy ask me this morning to support her biz with 300k which she saw in deposit slip but i told her its
not 300k its just 100k. i wan use the money for something personal. I love my wife dearly i might consider
later today if she agrees to bribe with , U know

i have read with keen interest the argument in favour and against. I will also need to stress
that we should all respect one another and not to insult others. My appeal goes to Mobo444,
Omomakun etc
Let us lower our sword.
@ d topic
It really scared me what is actually happening between our black brothers and sisters.
marriage is for better for worse so they say but its has not been like that for reasons best
known to those that says otherwise. If what most contributors of this post is anyting to go by
by saying that our black sisters goes into marriage for financial gains after all the promises
then i think we need to reappraise why we go into marriage.

I met a lady whom i like but we are casual friend, she want to take the frndship to another
level and ofcourse she knows am married and always i have my wedding ring always on my finger
She insisted that she want to have a child for me, despite her knowledge that am married.
my wife was in UK for 2wks rest cos she is pregnant and i just
want her to travel and see outside world I invited her to my house one day,  just to let her know am not goin to have a r/ship wit her
The point am tryn to make is that why is it that some ladies are so desperate about getting a man
even if it means them becoming 2nd,3rd or 4th wife?
NLders, alot is happening.

INSTEAD OF U TO LEARN FROM WHAT HAPPENED, YOU ARE BLAMING THE DOC FOR SPILLING CONFIDENTIAL INFO. HAS HE IN ANY WAY MENTIONED WHO THE VICTIMS ARE? OR MENTIONED THE LOCATION?
AS FOR ME, I HAVE LEARN A LOT AND WILL CONTINUE TO LEARN. WOMEN SHOULD LEARN HOW TO ACCOMMODATE AND NOT BEING GREEDY. MEN CONTROL YOUR SE.X.UAL URGE

I have interest. I stayed online 18hours per day

I reside in Ogun state, on reading this i cant just explain WHY, HOW, WHAT,  THIS IS BAD. I always watch CNN, ALJAZEERA, BBC, FRANCE24. The way and manner Gulf oil spill is been control cannot be compared to what is happening in Nigeria for Years. People of Nairalanders, to change Nigeria start with US. LET START NOW!

Nigeria’s agony dwarfs the Gulf oil spill. The US and Europe ignore it
Posted on June 2, 2010 by laudyms| 4 Comments

A man washed soot from his face in Lagos, Nigeria, after a gas pipeline ruptured in 2006.

The Deepwater Horizon disaster caused headlines around the world, yet the people who live in the Niger delta have had to live with environmental catastrophes for decades

John Vidal  The Observer May 30, 2010

source:
http://coto2./2010/06/02/environment-oil-spills-nigerias-agony-dwarfs-the-gulf-oil-spill-the-us-and-europe-ignore-it/

We reached the edge of the oil spill near the Nigerian village of Otuegwe after a long hike through cassava plantations. Ahead of us lay swamp. We waded into the warm tropical water and began swimming, cameras and notebooks held above our heads. We could smell the oil long before we saw it – the stench of garage forecourts and rotting vegetation hanging thickly in the air.

The farther we travelled, the more nauseous it became. Soon we were swimming in pools of light Nigerian crude, the best-quality oil in the world. One of the many hundreds of 40-year-old pipelines that crisscross the Niger delta had corroded and spewed oil for several months.

Forest and farmland were now covered in a sheen of greasy oil. Drinking wells were polluted and people were distraught. No one knew how much oil had leaked. “We lost our nets, huts and fishing pots,” said Chief Promise, village leader of Otuegwe and our guide. “This is where we fished and farmed. We have lost our forest. We told Shell of the spill within days, but they did nothing for six months.”

That was the Niger delta a few years ago, where, according to Nigerian academics, writers and environment groups, oil companies have acted with such impunity and recklessness that much of the region has been devastated by leaks.

In fact, more oil is spilled from the delta’s network of terminals, pipes, pumping stations and oil platforms every year than has been lost in the Gulf of Mexico, the site of a major ecological catastrophe caused by oil that has poured from a leak triggered by the explosion that wrecked BP‘s Deepwater Horizon rig last month.

That disaster, which claimed the lives of 11 rig workers, has made headlines round the world. By contrast, little information has emerged about the damage inflicted on the Niger delta. Yet the destruction there provides us with a far more accurate picture of the price we have to pay for drilling oil today.

On 1 May this year a ruptured ExxonMobil pipeline in the state of Akwa Ibom spilled more than a million gallons into the delta over seven days before the leak was stopped. Local people demonstrated against the company but say they were attacked by security guards. Community leaders are now demanding $1bn in compensation for the illness and loss of livelihood they suffered. Few expect they will succeed. In the meantime, thick balls of tar are being washed up along the coast.

Within days of the Ibeno spill, thousands of barrels of oil were spilled when the nearby Shell Trans Niger pipeline was attacked by rebels. A few days after that, a large oil slick was found floating on Lake Adibawa in Bayelsa state and another in Ogoniland. “We are faced with incessant oil spills from rusty pipes, some of which are 40 years old,” said Bonny Otavie, a Bayelsa MP.

This point was backed by Williams Mkpa, a community leader in Ibeno: “Oil companies do not value our life; they want us to all die. In the past two years, we have experienced 10 oil spills and fishermen can no longer sustain their families. It is not tolerable.”

With 606 oilfields, the Niger delta supplies 40% of all the crude the United States imports and is the world capital of oil pollution. Life expectancy in its rural communities, half of which have no access to clean water, has fallen to little more than 40 years over the past two generations. Locals blame the oil that pollutes their land and can scarcely believe the contrast with the steps taken by BP and the US government to try to stop the Gulf oil leak and to protect the Louisiana shoreline from pollution.

“If this Gulf accident had happened in Nigeria, neither the government nor the company would have paid much attention,” said the writer Ben Ikari, a member of the Ogoni people. “This kind of spill happens all the time in the delta.”

“The oil companies just ignore it. The lawmakers do not care and people must live with pollution daily. The situation is now worse than it was 30 years ago. Nothing is changing. When I see the efforts that are being made in the US I feel a great sense of sadness at the double standards. What they do in the US or in Europe is very different.”

“We see frantic efforts being made to stop the spill in the US,” said Nnimo Bassey, Nigerian head of Friends of the Earth International. “But in Nigeria, oil companies largely ignore their spills, cover them up and destroy people’s livelihood and environments. The Gulf spill can be seen as a metaphor for what is happening daily in the oilfields of Nigeria and other parts of Africa.

“This has gone on for 50 years in Nigeria. People depend completely on the environment for their drinking water and farming and fishing. They are amazed that the president of the US can be making speeches daily, because in Nigeria people there would not hear a whimper,” he said.

It is impossible to know how much oil is spilled in the Niger delta each year because the companies and the government keep that secret. However, two major independent investigations over the past four years suggest that as much is spilled at sea, in the swamps and on land every year as has been lost in the Gulf of Mexico so far.

One report, compiled by WWF UK, the World Conservation Union and representatives from the Nigerian federal government and the Nigerian Conservation Foundation, calculated in 2006 that up to 1.5m tons of oil – 50 times the pollution unleashed in the Exxon Valdez tanker disaster in Alaska – has been spilled in the delta over the past half century. Last year Amnesty calculated that the equivalent of at least 9m barrels of oil was spilled and accused the oil companies of a human rights outrage.

According to Nigerian federal government figures, there were more than 7,000 spills between 1970 and 2000, and there are 2,000 official major spillages sites, many going back decades, with thousands of smaller ones still waiting to be cleared up. More than 1,000 spill cases have been filed against Shell alone.

Last month Shell admitted to spilling 14,000 tonnes of oil in 2009. The majority, said the company, was lost through two incidents – one in which the company claims that thieves damaged a wellhead at its Odidi field and another where militants bombed the Trans Escravos pipeline.

Shell, which works in partnership with the Nigerian government in the delta, says that 98% of all its oil spills are caused by vandalism, theft or sabotage by militants and only a minimal amount by deteriorating infrastructure. “We had 132 spills last year, as against 175 on average. Safety valves were vandalised; one pipe had 300 illegal taps. We found five explosive devices on one. Sometimes communities do not give us access to clean up the pollution because they can make more money from compensation,” said a spokesman.

“We have a full-time oil spill response team. Last year we replaced 197 miles of pipeline and are using every known way to clean up pollution, including microbes. We are committed to cleaning up any spill as fast as possible as soon as and for whatever reason they occur.”

These claims are hotly disputed by communities and environmental watchdog groups. They mostly blame the companies’ vast network of rusting pipes and storage tanks, corroding pipelines, semi-derelict pumping stations and old wellheads, as well as tankers and vessels cleaning out tanks.

The scale of the pollution is mind-boggling. The government’s national oil spill detection and response agency (Nosdra) says that between 1976 and 1996 alone, more than 2.4m barrels contaminated the environment. “Oil spills and the dumping of oil into waterways has been extensive, often poisoning drinking water and destroying vegetation. These incidents have become common due to the lack of laws and enforcement measures within the existing political regime,” said a spokesman for Nosdra.

The sense of outrage is widespread. “There are more than 300 spills, major and minor, a year,” said Bassey. “It happens all the year round. The whole environment is devastated. The latest revelations highlight the massive difference in the response to oil spills. In Nigeria, both companies and government have come to treat an extraordinary level of oil spills as the norm.”

A spokesman for the Stakeholder Democracy Network in Lagos, which works to empower those in communities affected by the oil companies’ activities, said: “The response to the spill in the United States should serve as a stiff reminder as to how far spill management in Nigeria has drifted from standards across the world.”

Other voices of protest point out that the world has overlooked the scale of the environmental impact. Activist Ben Amunwa, of the London-based oil watch group Platform, said: “Deepwater Horizon may have exceed Exxon Valdez, but within a few years in Nigeria offshore spills from four locations dwarfed the scale of the Exxon Valdez disaster many times over. Estimates put spill volumes in the Niger delta among the worst on the planet, but they do not include the crude oil from waste water and gas flares. Companies such as Shell continue to avoid independent monitoring and keep key data secret.”

Worse may be to come. One industry insider, who asked not to be named, said: “Major spills are likely to increase in the coming years as the industry strives to extract oil from increasingly remote and difficult terrains. Future supplies will be offshore, deeper and harder to work. When things go wrong, it will be harder to respond.”

Judith Kimerling, a professor of law and policy at the City University of New York and author of Amazon Crude, a book about oil development in Ecuador, said: “Spills, leaks and deliberate discharges are happening in oilfields all over the world and very few people seem to care.”

There is an overwhelming sense that the big oil companies act as if they are beyond the law. Bassey said: “What we conclude from the Gulf of Mexico pollution incident is that the oil companies are out of control.

“It is clear that BP has been blocking progressive legislation, both in the US and here. In Nigeria, they have been living above the law. They are now clearly a danger to the planet. The dangers of this happening again and again are high. They must be taken to the international court of justice.”

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I HAVE BEEN LAUGHING SINCE I SAW THIS CARTOON, THIS IS WONDERFUL

Sorry bros, am not talkn abt mysef. i have a wonderful wife who knows what and when. am so happy abt her and at least she enjoy spending the little money i make and am happy to part wit it  . However, no man i mean no reasonable and responsible man will not say he does not funding his family. The question is the way and manner the funding comes differs.
Take for example, a man who earns 80k per month and his mother-in-law got sick and was taken to hospital, the bill was 72k he was left with 8k, tell me how will he take care of the family for that month in question? Is that man not a 2nd class citizen in his own house already? LOL

zayhal:
Most of the things you listed there have to do with finances. A lot of women pay bills and do much more than that, and they don't whine about. Getting pregnant, breastfeeding, child upbringing, the list is endless. Women do everything gracefully and do not even see them as duties.

Each gender has a role to play to maintain a balanced society.

I quiet agree with you but if any woman at any point in time is in charge of the finance of the family she will not be happy with it. Trust me no woman will like to be in-charge, she can manage for awhile but not for long.

The point am tryn to make here is why do we have to do all this and still be classified as second citizen in our own house

i really cant picture what you can do bro. She is an inestimable value. Do someting you think has not yet been done or at least be creative about it. Best of luck and Congrats to Mum. Invite me when she is celebrating it o ,

You are correct absolutely, but we are paying more to rule them

my sister, you have 2 options here.
1. If you av a good r/ship wit ur in-law talk with him like sister and
brother. Never ever try to confront him as this may cause you untold hardship.
Yoruba ppl will say "oro tu tu ma n yo obi lapo, meaning ( cool words always remove
kola (good thing) from the pouch (bag)".

2. Wait till your sister finds out. this also has it implication. the earlier she
knows the better for her. Just in case of death or health issue and ur in-law
cant talk or respond, and if your sister marriage is traditional and not legal
(registry), in that capacity the person that bears child for the man will
have right to his belongings.

I hope and pray God will in his infinity mercy grant you wisdom to act wise.

you may not agree with me but by time you finish reading this you will probably agree.

1. If you want to date a lady, you must approach, pester, disturb even lure her with alot of materials and sweet words as the case maybe before she accept your advance(s)
2. As the relationship progresses, you need to do alot if not more to always assure her of your undying love and affection.
3. when it comes to propose for marriage, its the men that MUST do that and you must do that in a romantic way ( most annoying part, a man kneeling down to ask a lady to marry her, haaaa!)
4. marriage engagement and parties, men will cough out all his life savings to make it a befitting one. what does the lady contribute?, i guess you can answer that.
5. after wedding, the man is expected to take care of his family in all areas concerned. failure to do it or lacking in any area, he is label IRRESPONSIBLE MAN.
6. When it comes to pregnancy stage. the man is expected to be there financially and emotionally. Not forgetting that at this stage some women eat too much (9times a day) in some cases.
8. As the delivery stage approaches, you will be remember about materials for the new child. ask her how much, ?
9. when the child is delivered, hospital bill is bore by the man. christening ceremony, entertainment and others is shoulder by the man. However, when it now come to gift dolling out, the woman will receive it all. WHY?
10. when it comes to what man and woman do in the bedroom, the wife will always tell you to do it very well and failure to comply will mean you are not a MAN ENOUGH to make her sweat.
11. she sometimes tell you when she is interested in doing it, even when its not the time of the month she receive her visitor.
12.when the children are growing up the men will pay school fee, clothing, feeding and everything that need to be paid and buy, but when the children grow up and begins to work, guess who will receive the largess of their income, MOTHER

THESE AND MANY MORE NOT MENTIONED HERE MAKES ME THINK ITS THE WOMEN'S WORLD, DO YOU HAVE A DIFFERENT OPINION?

To be candid, if the lady in question agrees to bring her hubby in the deal if not there should be no deal. I once had a babe like that she keep asking me to assist her financially but i always find one excuse of the other, but the day i told her that she is not the right person to ask me that since she is married "happily", rather her husband shld be the one or perhaps inform her husband about wat she askn from me since am just a friend to her not EX. since that day (2009) she never call me back nor flash.

bros this thing has happened to me in February this year. i was in real need of money and my elder bro send me some money and instead of the bank to credit it with 40k which my bro send to me the banker fool press more "0" than he ought to have pressed totalling 4m i called my bro is he has won jackpot to send me such money and he said NO i also confirm from online and the money was 4m i quickly ran to ATM to confirm too and it was TRUE. at that juncture i knew am in trouble if i take a penny from it later that night i check my account again  GBAM! the 4m is gone, all this happened on friday between 3pm and 7pm, trust me, the bank will find u and u will cough all the money if u ever take a kobo from it.

thank God i did not remove the money when i went to ATM. LEARN FROM OTHERS BROS

Now that the man who is in the right place at the right time has been sworn-in as the President of Nigeria. There is no political game the cabal and the national assembly can play any long. Therefore, the inevitable has just landed and it means the country must have a substantial deputy to Mr President. The question on the lips of many analyst is WHO?

El-Rufai is back from self exile, Ribadu case has been withdraw, Gusua is eying the lump position, Saraka of Kwara state has command that he should be sworn-in as next, Theophillus Danjuma insist he is the right man, the list is endless, who do you think is next

truth be told,  in my area,  PHCN has improved. few months ago i run my biz on diesel and that eat alot from my pocket, but currently i only buy 25litres of diesel once per week and in most case i will not exhust the fuel i bought which will take me to another week. also in my house i now enjoy cold drinks and my wife never complain about not getting ice block to drink her garri which she loves very much .

Fhemmmy:
Inasmuch as you have a good point, you will agree that the dude has some point too, marriages these days are full of funny characters and it is all like a movies, how i wish we can read what goes on in the mind of the other half in the home.

@Fhemmmy thanks u , some ppl think others are not as wise as them.
we all know that is more than pain when you lost someone close not to talk of your better half. death is ineveitable but someone must go first.

People, this has always been what comes to my mind everyday and i will like to hear your opinion about it.
Most couples tend to love each other till death do them apart but one thing is certain someone has to die first.

The wife would want the husband to go first because she want the property or will to be in her favour and belong to her alone ( but most will prefer to say "for her children").
while the man will want the woman to die first so that he can become youth again and live life while it last.
Which ever way it goes death is inevitable, but who would you prefer to die first and state your reason.
thank you

To the best of my knowledge i dont think being responsible has to do with your status. i mean either you're single or not. Marriage is an institution where you neither graduate nor get applause for. It has nothing to do with your level of education, opulence, background or social status but more important on God grace. so MRbrownJAY u dont need to throw stones when you live in a glass house. All i ask for is people's  "Perception" to what being irresponsible is and not abuse. thank u

i want to give a vivid reason why i post this. Am self employed young man of 33yrs old with houses and cars. My family members and some other people think am not responsible by not getting married. despite the fact that many of them benefit from my largese. If they want to see my children i think they should just go ahead and say so, but naming someone as irresponsible based of that is really unthinkable, but if am wrong please kindly enlight me. thank u

What does it mean to be Being Responsible?

Have always try to understand what it mean for a man to be
responsible. And after due consultation, it was widely believe especially
in our society
that a responsible man is he who is married and willing to spend his
earning on family and probably develop and enlarge it coast
. Married i must emphasize, and largely this is due to the fact
that he now has someone whom he must constantly spend on and perhaps
look after.
Despite, the fact that he must have been taking care of his parent,
young ones and others that needed help in one way or the other.

The question is, if you are not married does that mean you are not
responsible in any way?

so what does it take or mean for one to be responsible

What does it mean to be Being Responsible?

Have always try to understand what it mean for a man to be
responsible. And after due consultation, it was widely believe especially
in our society
that a responsible man is he who is married and willing to spend his
earning on family and probably develop and enlarge it coast
. Married i must emphasize, and largely this is due to the fact
that he now has someone whom he must constantly spend on and perhaps
look after.
Despite, the fact that he must have been taking care of his parent,
young ones and others that needed help in one way or the other.

The question is, if you are not married does that mean you are not
responsible in any way?

so what does it take or mean for one to be responsible

Guys have been reading all the contributions on this thread with keen interest on customers protection,
owners right and economic development.

Let face it, Hitv has done well for 9jas and still doin it. the monopoly has been broken finally, but
dont let us forget that, the other competitors are not folding their hands and keep looking.
They are waiting for Hitv to make mistake and they capitalise on it. Also we should not forget that
alot of jobless citizen are not gainfully employed thru Hitv initiative, therefore we all need to
enjoin together and protect them from going down.
Here, i will say Hitv, staff and subscribers has the right to educate them on what to do and not to do.
An advice is freely given but its up to the person to either use it to his or her benefit or throw
it away into the thrash can.

Like it is always said, CUSTOMERS ARE ALWAYS RIGHT, if Hitv dont have enough customers, on their service
would they be able to pay their loan and still upgrade?. I support viewing CVs and Hotels to pay more
than what home users pay we all cant be make to suffer for others people's gain.If Hitv has a relatively
low tarrif i can bet you there will be more customers for them and in few years DSTV will be wiped out
of Nigeria cos ppl will be going for HItv. Like one of the
contributor rightly said, there should be different package with different tarrif. If you want Football
go for Package A, if not then go for Package B.

Lastly, let all have it in mind that, Hitv only has EPL league what happen to other football game?
Now, AIT is showing UCL on local Tv station, they also have other football games. Dstv also has
other football packages. Hitv should not only bank on EPL games only. Change is the only thing that is
constant, other, cable station are planning,changing and adding more channels to their bouqeut,
varieties is the spies of life.
Customers want varieties and will pay more, am speaking from experience

@
Negro_Ntns, peeps might think you are nut but am sure you are the bum. y cant we always reason for once? men and women are created uniquely and for a specific functions and roles. With what you said, i think we all need to at least look deep into your words and draw a meaningful line from it. Men are born to MULTIPLY ANY READILY OR NON READILY AGENT WITH OR WITHOUT INTENT. END OF STORY

perhaps he need to know that different ladies with different medications, the more u move close to them they more they move back

Man: Honey, I'm home (Honey. I’m home)

Woman: *knees down* Welcome, my lord, my king, my husband, your food is already on the table. ( *hug him* how Is your day. Guess what, I prepared something delicious just for you )

Man: Haaa! This woman, won't you relieve me of my bag? (the man will not even remember he’s holding any weight cos his right hand is wrap round his wife waist)

Woman: Am sorry, my lord, . *takes bag* ( by this time the woman is looking at her sweetheart’s eyes and beaming with smile

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Man: I'd need iyan and egusi to munch on while am watching arsenal vs. Manchester.
Man: *Please* can you make me iyan and egusi to munch on while am watching Arsenal Vs Manchester

Woman: Yes, my oga. Whta drink would you like with it?
Woman: Yes ofcourse honey* what drink would you like with it ?
(Beer, juice or vodka… u must have known what your man likes)

Man: You this woman, don't bother me. You know I like beer. waka
Man: I like beer to go with it, thank you Honey.


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Woman: I don't want sex tonight, plz, my husband.
Woman: Honey, it has been a hard day for me, can we skip it tonight, plz honey

Man: You are very disrespectful, who asked you? Do you know who I am? Who are you? Who are you?
Man: sure honey, let me cuddle you and let you sleep in my arms, it getting cold

MEN SHOULD LEARN TO TALK TO THEIR WIFES AND WOMEN SHOULD LEARN HOW TO REPLY WHEN THE HEAT IS ON



) Would he find it disrespectful if I asked him to start cooking because I am stuck in traffic or even, help me out in the kitchen when I am cooking?
2) Would he find it disrespectful if I asked him to do the laundry?
3) Would he find it disrespectful if I told him I really don't want t have sex but I'll rather cuddle and talk?
4) Would he find it disrespectful if I told him that I feel his mom has been visiting too frequently?

1. Of course I can help out in the kitchen if you are stuck in the traffic and that is only and I mean only when you don’t do it always or as an excuse. However, it is the joy of every responsible woman to cook for his family except for those who think otherwise as being slavery.
2. On what ground should I do the laundry?, is it When u r sick? or when you are sleeping?, watching nollywood? Or rather when you are breast feeding the baby.
3. where else should I get that sex from?, if not with you and that is why I must be attended to at all time… and if there is a good reason why you cant say it with love and not like a boss.
4. Hahahahah… one day you will be a mother and your daughter-inlaw will tell ur son that you visit too much. Hopefully this site will still be on and then u can come and tell us how u feel. Yes it is the worst disrespect ever in this world. My own mother, you dare not say it, just be nurturing that in your mind.


They way I see it some women ( not all*) who earn more than their spouse always tend to disrespect just because the husband earn 5digit salary and she earn 6digit. …. First, let us define and understand what respect is all about before we begin the argument.

@iice.
Good work, let everyone of us learn how to use appropriate word when it matter most.