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Politics / Re: EndSARS: US Embassy Shuts Down Operations In Nigeria by deji85: 8:53pm On Oct 20, 2020 |
adams123: Let the house vote for it and send the bill for him to sign. When he refuses them we can condem him. Until then any request for such should be directed to our various representatives. They are law makers, we should tell them to make the damn law. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: EndSARS: US Embassy Shuts Down Operations In Nigeria by deji85: 8:49pm On Oct 20, 2020 |
poshestmina: Buhari cannot restructure Nigeria. If you need restructuring, take it up with your representative at the national level. The decision can only be voted for by the national assembly. |
Romance / Re: Don't Ever Date A Broke Girl by deji85: 6:41pm On Jun 22, 2020 |
Carchoice: This was my kind of experience during courtship but sadly everything changed when we got married. |
Romance / Re: Don't Ever Date A Broke Girl by deji85: 6:35pm On Jun 22, 2020 |
Any single guy reading this should take this very seriously. My marriage will be 3 years in December but I wish I never entered this union. Doesn't matter how much you earn a non resourceful lady is bitter to live with. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by deji85: 1:37am On May 24, 2020 |
gowonmaharajah: I am a software engineer and work for a US based company. 6 Likes |
Family / Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by deji85: 10:50pm On May 23, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: My wife does a bulk of the cooking she also does the shopping from the market. I also help with the chores. I clean the floors except for kitchen and our bedroom almost every Saturday morning. Laundry is easy as we have a washer dryer. And yes she cooks very well. |
Family / Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by deji85: 10:18pm On May 23, 2020 |
Uneed2talk: You read my mind in your last paragraph, we don't have a child yet but I can't say proudly that I want a daugther that will be like my wife neither do I want to raise sons who think this is normal. She is good in other areas, she respectful my family especially my mom loves her deeply. |
Family / Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by deji85: 10:14pm On May 23, 2020 |
sweetmelanin: We have a 3 bedroom of which 1 is my home office. We don't have a maid and I don't think we need 1. Maybe I shouldn't have disclosed my earnings, maybe I shouldn't have given all she asked for in the early stage I don't know but i grew up in a home where my parents knew what each earned. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by deji85: 10:04pm On May 23, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: She doesn't do drugs. Each time I question her about just staying like this she dismisses it with she's still trying to figure it out. I happen to have a home office and not happy seeing her just at home day in day out. |
Family / Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by deji85: 9:56pm On May 23, 2020 |
ecolime: It's for our feeding I also know her siblings ask for help and I don't want her asking me for money to send all the time. |
Family / Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by deji85: 9:53pm On May 23, 2020 |
Thanks for the responses. I sometimes also feel I would have withheld somethings initially and not give into all requests. I just want her to have something herself, something she wakes up and looks forward to. I'm not asking her to do so because i want help with the bills, I'm lucky to have a job which pays in USD while I spend in naira. 5 Likes |
Family / Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by deji85: 9:06pm On May 23, 2020 |
I had to register a new account to post this to hide my identity. I apologise for the long post. My marriage will be 3 years in Decemeber but I am becoming increasingly very unhappy with my marriage. My source of unhappiness is that my wife has no or has lost any ambition in life. Before we got married she was working and she always mentioned how she was saving to start her business and all that. I was really impressed with most of the plans she had. After marriage she quit her job saying it was too time consuming which I supported. She decided to start her business(a boutique) I gave her the money and after about 4 months without starting, when I asked, she said she was duped(4m gone). All efforts to get who she paid money to yielded no result. After about 3 months of her staying home I asked her what she wanted to do next and she said she wants to learn fashion design and try to build her brand. We paid 350k for her to learn which she said she was done after 8 months. She got a shop, we equipped it and she started. I was really happy but 5 months down the line she said she was tired that it was not moving that she wants to turn the shop to a saloon, another expense and she had her saloon, shop rent was due after a few months and I paid. Barely 6 months after rent renewal she said she was tired(again) and she closed the shop. She was just staying home all day 6 months passed and no change. I asked her again if she was just going to remain like this, she said she is still figuring out what to do next. 1 year passed same situation, stay home, follow all gist/gossip on social media(of which I'm tired of hearing) her friends 2 of them are also like her jobless and clearly not interested in getting busy. Most recently she requested I buy her own car. I told her we don't need 2 cars, I work from home so 1 car is enough for us she gave me cold shoulder for a few days because of this. Next anniversary is in December and she has already started searching which country we will mark the anniversary. Not that this is bad but her lack of ambition in life is eating me up. she seems satisfied just staying home and doing nothing. I don't know how to get her to be serious with life. I am far from happy in this marriage. As she insisted, every month I give her 95k to run the home. Though i feel this is much for 2 people, I figured she might want to send something to her younger siblings and mum once in a while so I agreed. If anyone has had deal with this or has any advise please kindly comment. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
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