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Six Keys to Understanding Women

1. Recognize that women
want to feel connected.
Women want to make sure the
relationship is on solid ground.
After a period of separation
(even a day apart), establish
that closeness as soon as you
can, and everything afterward
will flow more freely. This
doesn't mean you have to put
your own needs completely on hold. For
example, if you come home exhausted from a
long day at work and your partner wants to talk,
trying saying, “I'm so glad to see you. I missed
you and wondering how your day was going. I
want to hear all about it, but I'm tired right
now. I need a few minutes to unwind and relax.
Can we talk in 15 minutes?”
2. Don't jump in the problem – solving
mode. If you're not sure what your partner
needs at any given moment, it's okay to ask
her. You might say, “It sounds like you're really
upset. Would you like me to listen, or would
you like some suggestions?”
3. If your partner is less interested in sex
than you are, try a little empathy. Instead of
taking the rejection personally and pressuring
her for more frequent sex, consider the
possible reasons for the discrepancy and desire
– reasons that may have nothing to do with
you. Be sensitive to issues from the past as
well as your partner’s general frame of mind. Is
your partner a survivor of sexual abuse? Were
there traumas in her past that make physical
intimacy frightening for her?
4. Think about how much work your partner
does. Is she frequently exhausted? If she works
outside the home, how much responsibility do
you assume for cooking, shopping, cleaning,
laundry, and childcare? I remember a cartoon
with the heading, “What do women want?” The
drawing depicted a woman vacuuming; in the
bubble above her head, there was a man
vacuuming. Brainstorm with your partner to
figure out how you can reduce her workload.
5. Allow your partner to voice her fears, and
support her in her efforts to face difficult
situations. Women feel empowered by their
significant relationships; your caring attitude
will contribute to your partner’s success in
attaining her goals. She doesn't need you to
talk her out of her fear, or solve her problems:
she just wants you to listen and understand.
6. Understand that communication is a
process. Look at communication problems as
an invitation to keep on talking, keep on
listening, and eventually work things out. You
and your partner may communicate very
differently, but the potential is still there to
reach even higher levels of understanding
interest.

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