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djeezy: If through his actions he proves his love for you but didn't reply you when you told him, would you still feel like it's unrequited?

no.matter how much u prove to me that u love me.. even if u move mountains for me.. deep down inside i would still hv an iota of doubt dt u do not totally love me... its natural

kika23: I don't say "I love you"

why

djeezy: Yes I do......lol, I didn't want to imagine the situation. its so awkward sha. I can't tell you I love you until I'm certain you love me too.

ehen u want love too?? i thought u didnt mind... na after all its nt a question... *narrows eyes

@ marie u know naira landers na.. they would want to prove that they are "nairalanders"

djeezy: is ''I love you" a question?

true, buh evrybody wnts to love n be loved bk... no 1 wants a one-sided love

tosingcfr: I even prefer been showed than just saying it. We don hear am tire jare

lol dtz why i earlier stated dt it's sincere

marieolae: Its better for him to tell me thanks than for him to look me in my eyes and tell me a unforgettable lie. You can't force someone to love you.

true true.. buh it wld hurt like crazy

if after mustering up all the courage you can.. tearing down all your walls.. putting your insecurity aside, you sincerely tell your partner " i love you' and instead a heart throbbing kiss and " i.love.you too" u are met with awkward slience.or a.sheepish "really? thanks".. what would you do??

Gudintent: I love you

who

Rival: You see, people fake this "I love you" so much that it doesn't even mean anything these days!
This is something that should come straight from your heart and you shouldn't even have to struggle to say it. You don't prepare ahead of time to tell your partner "I love you"! Sometimes you're just overwhelmed by emotions and the words just come out!

If I'm in a relationship with a lady and I truely love her, what stops me from telling her those words to make her happy?
It doesn't matter who says them first, but they
should really come from the heart!

soo true

Rival: Wow! ...Maybe you would be the first lady to come for my services.

or we could be partners

without any awkwardness, i mean it would be really weird.. there would be jealousy and so on what do you think?

no o WAIT FOR THE VOICES TO COME AND GIVE YOU INDIAN WIFE in this 21st century ure waiting for VOICES.. buy mat and wait well

Rival: You seem nice!

Anyway, you didn’t answer my first question but I know that’s where you’re taking him to and he’s aware of it,
but he’s not certain if he’s ready to walk that path with you by his side!
It takes two to form a relationship and the both should be pulling in the same direction!

And, I presume, this relationship is more important to you than the previous ones you’ve had, partly because you were younger and could not feel much of the impact of 2,3,4,5 years passing by; you probably were not even ready then to be paired for life!

But, it’s all different now; you’re now a woman; you don’t want to spend another 2,3,4 years building a relationship only to watch it crash on the shores of reality and start all over again!

This is when apprehension and desperation set! You want to do everything to keep your partner, even if it’s at your own detriment!

You visit without invitation; you call every now and then without reciprocation; you make yourself available even when you’re not needed; you cook with your money without thank you; you always want to please without any effort made to please you in return; you make all the sacrifices without your partner reciprocating in a similar manner.

Sooner than later, you’re taken for granted; your desperation is noticed and he feels being trapped and he puts on a defense.
Like everybody has said, create some distance; stop displaying any signs of desperation; talk less when you see him or communicate with him; break appointments by informing him late that you won’t be able to make it.

Since you're very pretty, have confidence in your beauty and ability to attract and make yourself look attractive!
Wish you luck in your relationship!

lool STEVE HARVEY u should be relationship councellor

Rival: @the part in bold. Ha, so you're the one who's been advising my friend's lady! I don catch you! It truely keeps a guy thinking, same goes for women!

it is common these days that in a relationship the first party to say "the words" i love you.. is the "weaker person" or the "mugu" some say that it is self degrading for the lady to say it first, while the male folk on the other hand also find it hard to say.. and i mean in a real relationship not the charades we all have today.Anyways, in my opinion, it shouldn't really matter who says it first.. love isnt something to be hidden it is a beautiful thing and if you're lucky enough to share it with someone you care about, then you should... no holding back.. it also depends on the maturity of your partner.. some would use that as a yardstick to take advantage.. anyways your views please...

100Cents: You sound smart.

Heart break is not the end of ones life..

I no send heart break anymore because I know there was a time I was dishing it out to others every 6 months..

Have an abundance mentality. Even me I am here for you. A lot of handsome smart guys still dey if he phucks up..

aww that a very nice thing to say..

mr cork why must u cause trouble everywhere u go

i also think you should just give him space....perharps the attention n care u are showing is too much... let him call instead.. i know it would be really difficult coz u are totally in love and all... but u have to get on with your life hang out with your oda friends.. the biggest mistake u wld make is tying your happiness to him.. even.when he calls dnt be too quick to ansa like you have been waiting all day.. let him call twice or more.. if he wants to talk to u.. he'll keep calling..find something to take your time.. you'll be ok

i also think she should just give him space....perharps the attention n care u are showing is too much... let him call instead.. i know it would be really difficult coz u are totally in love and all... but u have to get on with your life hang out with your oda friends.. the biggest mistake u wld make is tying your happiness to him.. even.when he calls dnt be too quick to ansa like you have been waiting all day.. find something to take your time.. you'll be ok

Durst: I haven't really asked her out (formally) How do I Wait in this case?

dont push any further just carry on with being friends..

i think she actually likes you.. like really likes you and she is sincerely scared that things would change. cause most times things actually do change.. u begin to get overly jealous and get angry over petty things... then ure not so.close anymore... i know u really like her.. ur post actually feels sincere but dear i think u should just give her time.. dont act funny or anyth.. in time it'll happen..

kudoxs: just because you sat down together doesn't mean she has seen you before. You only remember that cause you have been admiring her. She may not have even noticed you.

true... that could be case too.. no matter what tho.. continue the convo and have the upper hand.. be the mature one and just act neutral

teewai3: seriously, love nd sex ar two different thing,one doesnt affect d other...so get it

EXACTLY MY POINT!!!

nonsovich: There's no doubt she's seen me before ..we take abt 2 courses together ...so when she was lik she's never seen me before ...I was surprised nd confused ! U got d story line?

its not ROCKET SCIENCE. she might hv pretended to not know you as most girls to not seem weird or like a stalker or feel awkward or she sincerely might have not noticed u before... EASY.

nonsovich: easy miss or Mrs ....I asked cos am confused! That's all ...u just succeeded in making me more confused!

ure confused about what exactly??

kudoxs: am begging on his behalf, please don't be angry, he's only displaying juvenile delinquency.

lol ok sir

nonsovich: easy miss or Mrs ....I asked cos am confused! That's all ...u just succeeded in making me more confused!

ure confused about what exactly??

next time ask us when u wake up , are u supposed to brush?? wat kind of irrrelevabt question is this?? u've already started conversation OBVIOUSLY the NORMAL thing to do is to continue when next u see.. how can u even ASK THAT??

Omomehn: i never said making loving in itself helps a gal determine if her man truely luvs her. what happens after is deciding factor.

why does.sex have to be involved at all? what if after u hv sex he likes d sex n continues to hv sex and ACT caring even if he's jst intetested in hving sex?? sex is just too "trival" today to ve deciding factor

Omomehn: am not kidding o. this is a serious issue. so many gals are still single coz they fail to check the ryt guys in...atleast one should be sure of what he is buying. this is just another reason to let him have his way with u

your choice of words tho! what do u mean "be sure of what he is buying" is a relationship a.sort.of business?? hold on.. what is a relationship to you? coz ure ideologies are really funny

in fact ur words were ALLOWING him make love to you