Wow, good to hear from you guys, all advises will be duely considered; but the decision is mine. As for those who came to curse and bash, I cant be stronger without you guys, more curse, more determination.

To the matter at hand, I am in this dilemma because of my religious inclination. Don't get me wrong, I would have lived my life to the fullest but there is pile, cancer of the anus, STIs and most especially HIV. And we all know that gays are more prone to them. Above all, it is SIN and that is the most important. I have a very promising future, die now cause of a stupid act, no way.

There are so many questions we cant answer. Who created the imbeciles, the blind, the cripple, the deaf, the dumb etc, none of us will say that it is God, but then how did they come into existence, did the devil create them or are they straight from the pit of hell. We all know that those people aren't normal, when compared to a "normal" human being but are they EVIL, are they possessed of a demon that needs to be cast out or do they need to be sent to prison for 14 years? Of course not, because they are not guilty of who they are because they are born that way. We only see them as abnormal because we live in a world where normal is a being born with two legs, two eyes, 46 chromosomes, can talk and can speak.

Same is for gays, they are normal human being with a different sexual preference. They are not evil, they are not sick, they are not mentally derailed and they are not possessed of any demon. You can say that they are sexually abnormal, because we live in world where normal is male and female and not male to male nor female to female. That is just the difference they simply have a different SEXUAL ORIENTATION.


Scientists can prove the abnormalities in these aforementioned disabilities, they can categorically say what caused them and why they occurred, but science can not say the actual cause of HOMOSEXUALITY, there is no scientific proof of that. The best they came up with was that is it just a habit. A hardcore habit that is very difficult to trace how and when it was acquired. This is not a fact though cause there are so many different stories about when and how gays started having the same sex attraction.

It pains me more where heterosexuals are at liberty to fornicate and go scot free but homosexuals don't. They even discuss it openly and brag about it, it is now an Olympic race, everybody competing for the gold. But talk of a homosexual, the next thing you hear is kill him, shoot him, burn him, maim him; and we all fail to realise that anywhere in the Bible that homosexuality was mentioned, adultery and fornication follows suit and they have the same punishment, death.

So we should stop deceiving ourselves, especially those who claim to be homophobic, one thing is being straight, another is being gay, take It or leave it. I have come to hate myself simply because religion says so, but am going to try, the worst I can become is BISEXUAL, then I will have to live with it.

Klinee:
Op my best advice for u is to stab yourself, if u cant stab yourself then report yourself to those who can help u stab u to death because you did not deserve to be on this earth. Normal man dont have such evil minded(thinking homosexually) when there are sexy women out there, you there thinking of how to burst your fellow male arse! God go punish u! You son of devil!

Call an ambulance, someone needs to visit a psychiatry.

kelvin100:
@ Depressedguy

I feel your pain, I never believed anyone was born gay though.

My advice to you is this:

Some people are bi-sexual as we have come to understand which means they enjoy sexual pleasure with both sex.
Some equally get sexual satisfaction from the opposite sex as well as from self service.

This means there's no singlar way to get sexual satisfaction.

Now the question is this: do you desire sexual satisfaction?
Do you self service?

If you don't desire sexual satisfaction, then you have even a bigger problem.
If you do desire sexual satisfaction, try getting that sexual satisfaction from girls only even if you are not attracted to them just like some get using their hands or intimacy gadgets even when not attracted to their hands or intimacy gadgets.
You get what I mean?
Continue this way with girls, you might end up feeling you could be bi-sexual and not solely gay.
You might as well end up feeling attraction to a particular kind of girls. Go with it and don't look back, the positive is you already don't like being gay.

Don't try to be celibate because is won't help you one bit, try to get lost in sexual satisfaction from girls only until you find a way to appreciate them.

May God help you find a way.

Hmmmmh, exactly what am planning.

BecaciaBarbie:

Oh please!!! Are you trying to say that some people are destined to be gays?? That's total rubbish! Don't get brainwashed by the silly things you read on net and watch on TV! No one is/was born gay! And you can only remain one if you do nothing about it.

why do I have to do something to change, did you do anything to become straight?

Raymie:
@OP, are yhu Catholic, if yes, become a priest. If no, become one and become a priest. Then yhu wouldn't need to marry. Marriage will not guarantee a change in yhur sexuality. And if yhur wife finds out, we will certainly then know who yhu are offline. Inasmuch as I'm not a gay advocate, its foolishness to hate them either. Afterall, their maker hates the Sin and not the sinner. As long as yhu don't try molesting young boys, or are caught with a man, yhu may as well keep yhur secret till yhu die. I'm only being realistic in a country where homosexuality is more criminal than armed robbery or murder.

Don't be depressed. Take yhur mind off yhur sexuality and focus those energies into more positive ends like hanging out more, or playing a sport. If it is God's will, the lady who will win yhur heart and activate yhur loins will come. And all others will be automatic. Stay positive.

Thanks, that was very helpful

CyrusXandria:
and posting Michael Glatze up and down NL.

@OP,whatever I tell you here will be attacked by many who would think I want you to be gay in all desperation.

I'll get down to one thing.Take a look at your life,don't you deserve happiness,you do know what happiness can do to change your depressed state currently right.

If you believe in happiness,I'd advice you go for it and not drag someone else down an unfruitful road of sadness.

Knowing fully well that you can't cultivate heterosexual affections for women,please don't buy into trying to get involved with one just cause your life is messed up.The lady deserves happiness and true love,just as you probably do.

Your choices today will reflect tomorrow,if you can't love a woman in all ramifications,don't mess her life up please,I see many Nigerian gay men doing it out of pressure and I don't envy it.

I won't advice you to enter into homosexual relationship and I won't deter you from one.From all you said,you are irreversibly gay.

Goodluck(sorry Sai Buhari).

Dude, in as much as I have thought of this, it simply cant work for me. All my elder siblings are married and I am next in line, so I have got no excuse whatsoever. You guys don't get it, I am a complete man from the outside, good looking, good car and good job, so as far as my mum is concerned, marriage is next for me. So that's why am seriously worried, because I need to start liking a woman as soon as possible; the hardest thing for me to do.

nobilis:
OP, first and foremost, thanks for being so frank. Very few people can summon such courage.

Being gay is not evil. Yes. You read me right. Being gay is not evil. Even the bible never condemned being gay. What the bible talked about was having sex with someone of the same gender. But that will be talk for another day.

Secondly, you have prayed and prayed and nothing seems to work. Does it mean God doesn't answer your prayers? No. It means that there is nothing wrong with you.

If you keep feeling you need to change, then you will always be depressed and in the end, you might end up committing suicide. And that will be a loss to you, your family and society.

Do not mind people who tell you that homosexuality can be corrected. It cannot. Because it is not a disorder nor an aberration. The American Psychiatric Association wasn't foolish when they removed it from their catalogue of diseases.

All those people who are quoted to have escaped homosexuality, try and trace their lives afterwards. And you will see things for yourself.
And all those people who are overtly homophobic, follow their lives nd you'll see things for yourself.

Getting married will not make you straight. Having sex with women will not make you straight. Even if you have as many women as Solomon had, it cannot make you straight. It cannot drown that same-sex attraction. It is a part of who you are.

Inasmuch as it is a part of who you are, dont make your life to be centered around your sexuality. That you're gay doesn't mean you can't be successful in your life nd career. Learn how to balance your life with your sexuality. That is the only way you can battle this depression you're talking about. Getting married will not make u overcome this depression. Rather it will make it worse (unless you're bisexual).

What you need in your life now is a close friend and confidante. Someone who can understand you. Someone who cn be there for you and also keep an eye on you and ur depressive tendencies. Whether man or woman, it doesnt matter. But that is the first step to healing yourself.

Then as time goes on, other steps will be made available to you.

Wow, the best advice so far. Thanks bro

ronald4lif:


You still don't get it. People don't change their sexuality, it's a natural trait. Can a heterosexual change to gay, will you advise heterosexual to become gay?

You are right bro, in all my research, the only remedy is abstinence and suppression. Gays in medical rehabs are only taught how to suppress there feelings for same sex and avoid those who turn them on. And most especially, pray about it.

ronald4lif:
Accept who you are and be happy. Don't let the society opinion of you and your sexuality define you. You are gay and that's it. Nothing can change that, except you want to keep living in self deceit and in a depressed state of mind. That's my advise.

Thanks, but this is no life. For how long, apart from any other thing else, I want to make Heaven. So its either I go celibate, or I get used to women. and the former is easier.

Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...