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EmahBoss:
You are sharp - mouthed you have a reply for everything.


Lol


Know this, even if you run a fertility test and she is okay, she might not be compatible with your blood type so she won't conceive. Ask her if she is on any pills, if she is not, for 2 years you have. Even having sex no pregnancy, she isn't compatible with you or she is infertile

As far as I know she's not taking any pills , last night after reading comments on here I went through her bag where she keep her important documents to see if I can find any pills or any sort of prevention and I didn't see anything.
I will ask her in a jokeful way I hope she will tell me the truth

MissLAP:
- U think is that eazy for a single mother to get married Especially in this Nigeria ?, What would a single guy enjoy from her?

- If you found out that your present girl has a baby sitting somewhere in a woman's house would you still marry her?

- single girls are now plenty in the market that even divorced men still go after single girls instead of single mothers

- Even celebrities with baby Mamas still take caution as is not even eazy like that, getting married to one them mamas would be a difficult choice and as such they just keep having kids

- The other lady that refused you sex might have had horrible experience with men, A man has confided in me on how his girl told him that if she had gotten pregnant without marriage she would have aborted the child.

I want to tell you that wherever your ex is she would always feel like you took something out of her that is meant for her own husband.

Since you are very rich and you don't need this your ex again, look for a way to settle her probably material Wise ( money) or possibly get her a job , something that would take her mind of you.

It is not easy like you think but it is happening a lot of them are getting married including some of my friends have married single mothers but not the jobless ones. Do you know why a lot of single mothers are not getting married easily is because they don't want to work and they are looking for a man who will carry all her burdens. That's not how it should be you cannot stay iddle and wait for another man to carry the responsibility of a deadbeat father.As a single lady or mother you should have something doing it doesn't have to be big as long you are doing something a man will approach and marry you.

If I found out that she had a child somewhere and she didn't tell me about i will break up with her for not telling me the truth from the beginning, if she had told me earlier with this her good character I won't mind marrying her.

I didn't take anything out of her she wasn't a virgin when we met her and she can't continue to dwell in the past. Do you know how many guys or abortion she has done in the past 6 years or are you trying to me she hasn't slept with any other guy since our separation which was her fault.
I have nothing to give to her she is not handicapped she should find work.

Gloriagee:
Ok o. So far the money is legit, I wish you Godspeed. You need to be fair with your would be spouse as I dont think its fair to check her fertility without her knowledge . She might be on the pill, have an IUD or be taking postinor 2. We really cant tell as only one person can give the full picture. However, what is more important to you - a compatible spouse or a healthy number of children? A number of persons, myself inclusive, prefer to conceive children under the umbrella of a marriage,

Thank you so much. I know she doesn't want to have a baby before marriage too , am not sure if she's on birth control or not but I think we should both conduct the fertility test now incase any of us has a problem we can treat before the wedding and we will make babies when we are married

Gloriagee:
Three or four more kids kwa. Hope you know its not just about being a father of nations but also about nurturing them to be the best they can be so you'll need lots of time, parental affection and money. On your fiancee's fertility, It's difficult to tell as she may be on a birth control. If I were her, I'd also be wary of getting pregnant unknowingly so yall dont come back to say she trapped you.

5 children is the ideal number for me . Money is not a issue for me, I am already taking care of 4 children 3 are not biologically mine , nothing will stop me from taking care of my own children.

MissLAP:
- Consented sex and now you are blaming her for not closing her legs.

- If she hadn't given it to you then , you would have begged her to baby please na, open it!

- After childbirth she's no longer your type.

This is the reason your present woman is scared, after pouring your cum into her she goes and wash it off.


Meanwhile find means to make your ex happy without putting emotions into it. Because she has a stake in your home and infact she's more legal as a wife than your present woman

I am not blaming her but you are blaming me as if the sex and pregnancy was my fault , I didn't held a gun in her head to open her legs she had the right to refuse. I have dated a girl who didn't want to sex before marriage no matter how much I begged her she was adamant no sex before marriage and I respected her decision we broke up. She is happily married and I am also engaged to be married by next year. If she said no I wouldn't have forced her I would have let her go like I did with the other girl .

A lot of single mothers with 1 or more children are getting married without any problem and the child is not in her custody she is a free woman and she is free to get married because the man who will marry her will not cater for my child and if she is not lucky to have find someone else since 2016 we break up , she should check herself because I owe her nothing and her happiness doesn't rely on me because I am a human she should find happiness in christ

NeoWanZaeed:
My man. I pray everything gets alright bro

Amen thank you

meobizy:
What happened to asking her first? Many girlfriends are willing to get pregnant for their guys. I know a fiancée will go the extra mile. Don’t forget to to put a ring on it midway into the pregnancy. Seeing your child in her womb is known to reduce affection for a female.

Thank you

NeoWanZaeed:
My point is, you may be the one with issues. Having father a child isn't a guarantee on fertility test.

And you can both be fertile but the time for the kid to come is not yet.

Whatever, please do not leave her. Work it together

4yrs ain't beans o

I understand you. That's why I want both of us to go for fertility test to know if one of us has a problem or not. Incase one of us has a problem and I believe that every problem has a solution so if the problem is treatable I will pay for the treatments.

MissLAP:
This might be your problem or be a problem in due time.

Believe me, no woman would want to be a baby mama especially knowing the fact that the baby father is planning marriage with another woman and she's left single.

Imagine in a society like Nigeria today, single mothers find it difficult to find a man, if it were in developed nations a single mother might still have hope of finding a man.

You saw the big SA politician who despite her old age opened her legs for a man on live video. That's probably because there's no man or she doesn't have a man.

Is she the only single mother in the world? she was a adult i i didn't held a gun in her head or raped her we were both having consented sex. The pregnancy wasn't plan , if she didnt want to end up a single mother she should have closed her legs and wait until shes married .
She is even lucky she had a responsible man like me I have accepted the pregnancy and the child is living with my mother she doesn't lack anything . She hasn't contributed anything for the child upkeep, she is free to remarry if she likes because she is not my type and my fiance is better than her.

MissLAP:
The bed should be left undefiled before marriage

Having sexual intercourse is a personal choice since we are both adults and we are happy doing it before marriage

FromOuterSpace:
You trying to impregnate her "without her consent" is an act of deceit. I think you should know that without being told. It could also be considered criminal since you're not married.

It is not a act of deceit or a criminal offence because I will marry her next year

[quote author=MissLAP post=118438535]- Is your baby mama different from your current girl?

- If yes, is she married or have a family of her own?

- Is she happy wherever she is?

Please note that you have to settle with the mother of your current child first if she is still single this is because she would never be happy with you if she's left single.

*Single girls never see husband talk more of single mothers *



For your current girl...

Her experience in previous relationships might cause her to prevent you from impregnating her especially since she knows you have a baby mama because no woman wants to be a baby

MissLAP:
- Is your baby mama different from your current girl?

- If yes, is she married or have a family of her own?

- Is she happy wherever she is?

Please note that you have to settle with the mother of your current child first if she is still single this is because she would never be happy with you if she's left single.

*Single girls never see husband talk more of single mothers *

What does my ex got to do with my life? she has already expired. I don't care whether she is happy or not . What matter is the child is well taken care of

Davidave:
If she's not on birth control she must be sterile

She is not

Wawelexy:
Ok then, keep firing, God will answer your prayers

Amen thank you so much

frozen70:
You have to Carry her along with your plans

Let her know that you want both of you to go for medical check up to know your health status

That includes fertility test on both of you

If she queries you about it
Tell her that you are wondering if you are still potent and you want her too to run fertility test to know when you guys ca the start having babies

If she refuses to don't force her, you can pull out of the relationship

If she accepts you let it be open test and open test results for both of you before the Doctor who will interpret the results

If it's your own fault, you work on yourself

If it's her own fault you guys will join her and work on her

And if both of you are satisfied ok, then you plan for pregnancy immediately

You have to be open with your partner in your relationship to avoid secret fears

Thank you so much

FromOuterSpace:
True love should be

1. Without deceit
2. Unconditional

You fail on both counts.

How ? Explain please

NeoWanZaeed:
So it's after 4yrs.. you are now saying this?

And who says you are not the one with the problem?

Check yourself first. Inform her of your decision and you both work on it

I don't have any problem , I have a 7 years old child. I am not cheating on her but I believe that If I met someone else I can impregnate her in seconds it is just an example I will not do it. I just don't understand why her case is different. I will talk to her about the test and we will do it together

realtalk19:
Even with fertility test,it's still not a guarantee for pregnancy. Couples can be okay medically and still not get pregnant either for a long time or might get pregnant if they both end up with someone else.

Thank you for the information

culf:
I don't think so, I think you just want kids because what you're doing is wrong.
my friend had his baby 5 years after marriage, not talking about courtship. my bros own pass my guy own but both marriages were awesome, no pressure because both couples want marriage first not just kids, but from your writeup if madam no born sharp sharp marriage go end.
Marriage is not about producing kids, kids are added blessings from God. Marriage should first be about companionship and should be enjoyed with or without kids.

I respect your opinion if kids are not important to you good for you , to me marriage and kids are both important and I can never imagine marrying a woman who cannot bear more kids for me. Hence why I think fertility test is very important for us to know whether we are compatible or not. Hopefully we are even if we are not it will not be the end of the world , we will both move on with our lives hopefully we will find someone else whom we can bear children with.

culf:
I pity your woman, na una dey give marriage bad name!

why marry in the first place, you can have kids without marriage because obviously you just want kids not marriage.

I want both because it is very important for me and my family

Sweetvie:
Hmmm
Ok. On a woman part, i will feel somehow insulted but it not unreasonable
But as a nurse... It a normal thing to do all test before marriage

Thank you so much

Berrityga:
She is aborting your kids without your knowledge.

Lies from the pit of Hell

Sweetvie:
Then tell her ur plan... You can't expect to take in for you when she knows nothing she is not stupid... Not all "fiancee" lead to wife

I don't think she is ready , I will not tell her my plan but I will talk to her about fertility test. If we conduct fertility test and everything came out fine, i will not impregnate her before marriage.
I don't know if you are a man or woman but I guess you are a woman. Please forget about the pregnancy let focus on the fertility test. Assuming you are in a serious relationship and your fiance want both of you to conduct a fertility test how would you feel about it please?

correctyourself:
Please discuss it with her and if she is also wondering about it, both of you should go run test, I'm sure if you meet a gynecologist within three to four months everything think would be ok having follow the advice by the gynocolonist .

Thanks I will try but I don't want to hurt her feelings

Sweetvie:
she not married
Of course she won't be ready until you do needful. You expect her to get pregnant without marriage?

She will not be the first woman to be pregnant before marriage neither the last. If she becomes pregnant I love her and I will still marry her.

complexBoss12:
Are you marrying a wife or you're acquiring a baby producing animal??

Why would you want to divorce her if there are no kids in the future??

Besides, you have not taken into consideration, that your inability to get her pregnant could come from you, your previous kid not withstanding.

I only have 1 sibling my wish is to have many children 5 in total and I will be very devastated if she cannot conceive after the wedding. I want to marry a fertile woman to avoid divorce in the future

Sweetvie:
You're really naive
You want her to get pregnant without telling her? Then you're not ready
When you're ready you will tell her and she will stop whatever she was using

She is not ready

ufuosman:
U don't know her mind. U don't know if she take anything to prevent her taking in. She fit dey reason say make u marry her b4 she take in

as far as I know she is not taking anything but I might be wrong though

Wawelexy:
You want to get her pregnant without her consent? Iwo lo gbon ju....

When you re ready for pregnancy, inform her, only her know when she's ovulating, if you continue to have sex with her outside this period, your penalty go just dey go throw-in... the fertility test you mentioned is also a good idea...

I knows when she is menstruating and her ovulation time. Her cycle is 28

We have been dating for 4 years , living together for 2 years we are planning to wed next year .

We been having unprotected sex 2 to 3 times a week but no sign of pregnancy so far. I haven't given her any condition for her to be pregnant before marriage neither we are trying to conceive just being curious if she is fertile or not hence why I am trying to mpregnant her without her consent . If she becomes pregnant during the process it will not be a problem for me.
I am a responsible person the baby will not lack anything.
My baby mama was pregnant 4 months into the relationship my daughter is 7 years . I am worried that she is not fertile because i want to have 3 to 4 more kids . I don't want to marry her to divorce her later because of the inability of her to conecive. I only want to marry once in my life.
I want us to go for fertility test before the marriage but I don't know how to tell her without hurting her feelings.

Please fams help me out I am getting depressed, as I don't know what to do. Please no insult please