Dpsychologist: One of the biggest shocks of adulthood is discovering that life is much harder than it looked when you were a child.
Many young people grow up feeling disappointed in their parents. They see poverty, financial struggles, unfinished dreams, and hardships. Some even tell themselves, "I will work harder than my parents and become far more successful."
At first, it sounds easy until adulthood arrives. Bills begin to pile up. Jobs become difficult to find. Businesses fail. Responsibilities multiply. Unexpected emergencies appear. The same person who once criticized their parents now finds themselves working long hours, struggling to save money, and fighting daily battles nobody sees.
Suddenly, a painful realization emerges.
The parents they looked down on were raising children, paying rent, feeding a family, handling pressure, and surviving in circumstances that were often worse than what they face today.
Many people eventually discover that their parents achieved more with fewer opportunities.
This does not mean every parent made perfect decisions. Some certainly made mistakes. However, adulthood teaches a valuable lesson: surviving is often harder than judging.
Life has a way of humbling people.
The father you thought lacked ambition may have been carrying burdens you never knew about. The mother you believed was not successful may have been sacrificing her own dreams to keep the family together.
Growing older often replaces criticism with respect. Nothing exposes the weight your parents carried more than carrying your own.
Adulthood is the stage where many people stop asking, "Why didn't my parents do better?" and start asking, "How did they manage to do all that and still keep going?"
Sometimes wisdom is realizing that the people you once thought were weak were actually stronger than you ever imagined.
Now our time is more difficult than theirs. Things are more expensive and life is more difficult.
My Papa that was an 'ordinary' plumber bought a brand new car and used to fly economy class of Nigerian airways Me never even enter plane before
geoworldedu: This man is not talking like a president. He's speaking like Kim Jong Un the Dictator of North Korea.
However, what he said is the truth though, but manner of presentation is what he should have left for small small agbero presidents like Tinubu and his agbero supporters to say.
Which truth
Man got humiliated by Iran and is saying all this trash to save face
MONEY247: Martins otse popularly known as verydarkman is the most courageous youth standing against oppression and government inconsistency..
He has carried the burdens of many nigerians and without fear pressure the government for more seriousness in delivering the best when it comes to welfare...I love his courage ....
It takes a lot
The new kid on the block Na the way he take displace Sowore and his Take it back movement naim sweet me pass
Imokha: Hello everyone, I have a family of 7, that's myself,my spouse and 5 kids, I'd like to relocate to Louxemburg but I don't know anything about their visa process, any kind of visa, or their permanent stay. Please does any one have info for me, kindly explain pls.
Consult an immigration consultant, agent or lawyer Do this to avoid stories that touch
Sirseedorf: Bitter leaf is good for sugar lowering, I squeeze and drink the water 3times in a month, and it makes me feel alright after taking it, smooth toilet and good weight.
Even the write-up is unstable whether bitter leaf works for low sugar or not. But i believe it work.
The main danger of bitter leaf use is that it can lower blood sugar and pressure to the extreme and low blood pressure I hear is even more dangerous than high
BlackViper: Gay men should not be able to buy babies. Period.
When we tell them they are sick Some mad people will come with all sorts of literature to justify their madness
No matter if they have always been among us, they are the deviants And not until immoral Europeans and Americans normalized it , the world has always kicked against them They all need to be locked up Make they sodomize themselves to death
Northsouth: E be like say oyo government don dey crase Bush dey wey terrorists put citizens under bad condition, Dem no go bulldoze Dem go dey bulldoze market wey people dey buy and sell Shey na human head Dem dey sell ni
Abeg what is wrong with Nigeria government Or should we blame the voters self
You get it This particular demolition has nothing to do with Banditry He has eyes on that prime land for long I'm sure he already sold that piece of land to his developer friends who will soon erect plazas there
"Celebrities Act Like They're Gods"— MC Mbakara Blasts Jim Iyke Over Cold Elevator Encounter
A casual elevator encounter between MC Mbakara and Jim Iyke has sparked conversation online after the comedian expressed disappointment over the actor's seemingly cold demeanor. According to Mbakara, despite receiving a handshake, he was met with no smile or friendly response from the Nollywood star, prompting him to question why some celebrities appear distant and unapproachable. His remarks have since fueled debate on social media, with fans divided over whether public figures owe admirers warmth and friendliness during everyday interactions.
MC Mbakara said: "What will it take for him to smile? It's annoying. Celebrities always act like they're gods."
But he was not Shunned and even got a handshake and hi how are you doing?
Jim iyke didn't act bad, he may not have recognised him and the greeting was hearty enough
Sonnobax15: See as their own son fat and robust but na another person pikin fit crase . Honestly,I blame parents who can't take care of their own kids. No matter what,as a parent,you should be able to do everything possible to look after your kid. These evil couple weren't only the ones who failed this innocent child,but his parents equally did too
I'm really sad.
Though in the olden days and according to the way the society was integrated this practice was very common.... The well do do In the family tales care of the less privileged Some fathers even take care of their siblings more than their own children, they have that high sense of responsibility to their siblings It's not so nowadays and with the social fabric broken , many don't see it as their responsibility to take care of any siblings anymore Me too will prefer you keep your child and I offer the assistance I could instead of taking them into my home Though I grew up seeing different family members live in our house either for their education or learning a trade
IronGalaxy: Do you understand how tax collection works? or you just have the uncontrollable urge to blab about white people as you Nigerians are so fond of doing?
Tell us now Mr know it all that thinks unemployed South Africans are the ones paying taxes
Like say we no know your type, nowhere did I praise the white man and yes, social welfare in South Africa is the White man's generosity to them , go hang for one transformer if you no gree
IronGalaxy: 7The way you people worship white people. .who told you Jacinta relies on welfare? Also welfare programs in South Africa are administered by the government using the tax collected from ordinary South Africans... So which "Whiteman generosity" here? You people are so clueless
Isn't it the whites that own most of the big companies and farms that pay most of the taxes, you no get point abeg
frank417: If not AI, then this boy is suffering from a disease.
My first thought Only beating can't. Cause all those rashes He is infected and not being treated, not that they were beating him The foolishness of the woman is not knowing or not caring if the boy can infect her household with whatever infection he has
Basicend: Bibi understands how brutal those Hezbollah and their likes can be when you give them a little space to thrive.
Just like Nigeria is crying of killings and kidnappings today becoz we handle terrorism with kid's gloves and gave just little space for herdsmen to be roaming our forests unchecked.
Trump is sitting and talking 4rm white house in a calm and serene environment. He does not understand when a country or it's leader is sorrounded by sworn enemies with sofisticated weapons on mass distruction.
Trump is highly deluded thinking he can get a deal with terrorists.
Shameless American puppet Shebi y'all thought surrounding Iran with US Military bases will make them bow to you But you are finding out in real time that that isn't the case anymore And it's showed that the end of the US hegemony is over
fyzaila: Tell the landlord/agent that your working place transferred you to another state so therefore you can't and wouldn't need to stay there anymore. Plead with them
Your best option, plead with them to look for someone else to rent the place and refund your money You will also need to be patient or willing to lose part of the money But the problem will be where will you be staying until you are refunded and from your responses no money to rent another apartment
They all know what they are doing Na the dumb supporters wey them dey use their heads I pity Trump family and his allies have made Billions of dollars over those 39 times cos he does the announcement of more strikes when the market closes and announces deal is near just before markets open
DoWhatThouWilt: Three former U.S. presidents explicitly refused direct plans from Benjamin Netanyahu to strike iran.
They knew doing such would be unwise and a total disaster.
But all hope was not lost for Benjamin. he later found a fool, a slave who would do exactly as he said.
And the Foolish man was saying nobody expects that Iran will strike it's neighbours Saudi, Qatar, Bahrain, UAE Nobody expects that Iran will close the straightz of Hormuz
I Shame for the man
I was like how can Americans elect this clown
Then I got consoled because that was how we all thought Buhari was going to make Nigeria great also but the opposite happened
donleo92: Na president like Donald Trump America need
After him, let Marco Rubio go then the vice president next
Nothing for kamala Harris and her fellow Democrat
Rubio is the one Pushing Trump to act on Cuba But unlike Venezuela, China won't stand by and watch what happened in Venezuela happen to Cuba And with Iran showing the world that the end of the US dominance is here Xi treating Trump like a kid when he went to China, you can bet they will soon back off from Cuba Taking back Cuba from the communists is the core of Rubios politics and he won't rest until it's done
omoredia: Black people are the ones collecting money from arabs ins saudi and Qatar to promote terrorism in Nigeria oo. I kid u not. All those hajj na for strategizing
What should worry you is how the Zionists and Wahabis managed to build the Biggest religious tourism sites in the world and are making tons of money twice yearly.
Every other thing na wash
The main thing is the money being made from millions of tourists annually
IronGalaxy: She's not lying.. There are various conflicts around the continent and nobody cares about them..the media and the hypocritical Africans themselves.. Sudan's at war, Congo's at war, Somalia's at war.. Jihadists are busy beheading innocent people in Nigeria, etc .. yet everyone's fixated on anti- immigration protests of South Africa.. bloodless protests, it makes absolutely no sense
Sudan , Congo and Somalia have been going through crisis and wars for decades and the world has reported them over and over It's the Xenophobia in South Africa that the current hottest political debate in Africa at the moment and you don't want the press reporting on it? When an ultimatum of June 30 for illegal immigrants to leave is counting down?
You and the lady no get point.
Should the whole Africa turn against SA, It's not the likes of Jacinta most of who already live on welfare due to the whitemans generosity that will be affected but the real drivers of the economy who are whites and own all the big big companies
Righteousness2: Ever since the Ramophosa led Anc government carry ISRAEL hate on their head, their ability to think properly DECLINED Disastroysly. it has been from confusion to commotion to DISASTROUS DISASTERS.
They are simply following Mandela instructions that SA is not truly free until Palestine is free and most importantly because Jews , Zionists and the state of Israel all supported the apartheid system If you lived under apartheid you will hate all who participated in or aided it
Ifeoluwadev: Before anybody calls me a liar or a complainer, sit down and read this first. Because I have numbers. And numbers don't lie.
In 2019, I was earning ₦150,000 per month. Junior staff. I was not rich at all. But I was comfortable. I could breathe.
Today in 2026, I earn ₦500,000 per month. On paper that is more than 3x growth. I should be living large. I should have savings. I should be talking about investments by now.
Instead I am broke before the 25th of every month.
Let me show you exactly why.
THE NAIRA ITSELF In 2019, one dollar was roughly ₦360. Today in 2026, one dollar is over ₦1,500.
The naira has lost about 75% of its value against the dollar in 7 years. So anything imported, whether electronics, medicine, baby products or even some food, now costs 4 times what it used to.
My ₦500k today equals roughly $333. My ₦150k in 2019 was worth roughly $416.
Read that again.
I earn more naira but fewer dollars. In real purchasing power I have gone backwards even though my salary tripled on paper.
FOOD
In 2019, I fed myself comfortably for around ₦30,000 per month. Decent food, market twice a week, occasionally a small restaurant.
Today that same lifestyle costs me at least ₦120,000 and that is me managing carefully.
My food budget went up by 400%. My salary went up by 233%. The food is winning.
RENT
In 2019, I paid ₦350,000 per year for a decent one bedroom in a Lagos suburb. That is about ₦29,000 per month if you break it down.
Today that same apartment, same area, same size, same leaking ceiling, is ₦1.2 million per year. That is ₦100,000 per month equivalent.
I now spend 20% of my gross salary on rent alone. And landlords still want one to two years upfront. So every renewal season I need to drop over ₦1 million at once like I am buying land.
ELECTRICITY AND GENERATOR In 2019, NEPA was bad but manageable. Fuel was ₦145 per litre. My monthly gen fuel was around ₦8,000.
Today petrol is close to ₦1,500 per litre. My monthly generator fuel alone is ₦45,000. And NEPA is still giving me the same 4 hours they gave me in 2019. Nothing changed on their side except the bills went up.
TRANSPORT
Bus from my estate to office in 2019 was ₦150 each way. That is ₦300 per day, about ₦6,600 per month.
Same route today is ₦700 minimum each way. ₦1,400 per day. Nearly ₦31,000 per month.
Ride hailing? Multiply that by three. I now spend between ₦30,000 and ₦50,000 every month just moving my body from home to work and back.
SO WHERE DOES THE ₦500K GO?
| Expense | Monthly | |---|---| | Rent (broken down monthly) | ₦100,000 | | Food and groceries | ₦120,000 | | Generator fuel | ₦45,000 | | Transport | ₦35,000 | | NEPA bill | ₦18,000 | | Airtime and data | ₦12,000 | | Toiletries and misc | ₦20,000 | | Tithe | ₦25,000 | | **Total** | **₦375,000+** |
That leaves me ₦125,000 for savings, emergencies, hospital, clothes, sending money home, school fees if you have children, and anything unexpected.
In 2019 on ₦150,000, my total expenses were under ₦90,000 and I had ₦60,000 left. That leftover was worth $167 at the time. My ₦125,000 leftover today is worth $83.
I saved more real money when I earned less. That is not a feeling. That is arithmetic.
THE PART NOBODY TALKS ABOUT Beyond the numbers, what has changed is how money feels.
In 2019, seeing ₦100,000 in my account felt like safety. Like I had options. Like I could breathe easy.
Today I see ₦500,000 land on payday and my first feeling is anxiety, not happiness. Because I immediately start calculating what is owed, what is running out, what will still not be enough.
That shift from feeling okay to feeling like you are always one emergency away from trouble, even as your salary grows, is what this economy has quietly done to the Nigerian middle class.
We are not imagining things. We are not lazy. We are not bad at managing money. We are just running on a treadmill that keeps speeding up.
MY QUESTION TO NAIRALANDERS: What was your salary in 2019 and what is it today? Are you genuinely better off or are you like me, earning more and living less?
Drop your numbers in the comments. No judgement for anybody. Let us count together.
You are among the lucky 10% that earn above 500k, you no be one of us joor No where in your write up did you talk about being poor at any time
You be confirm NEPO BABY is all I have to tell you
brain54: Atiku’s presidency will be synonymous to a Fulani presidency even as Bola Tinubu’s presidency is synonymous to a Yoruba presidency and the Yorubas are proud of him no doubt...
If I'm getting what this dude is saying clearly. Is that atiku's government would be tribalistic and nepotistic. This I beg to disagree on as atiku is the least tribalistic of all the candidates contesting the position at the moment.
His records are there and the evidence clear. They are a lot of things you can accuse atiku of but being a bigot is not one of them.
Secondly, atiku's followers are not toxic and as insultive as the other two major contenders. ( you know who)
Sometimes I feel atiku's supporters are too calm as they hardly react negatively with threats and violence especially the way other supporters do. Atiku's criticism often are also objective and on point!
Yes he has his right in a democracy but we all know there's the unwritten rule to rotate between north and South, this is the reason Atiku himself refused to support GEJ in 2014.... Cos as at that time it was the turn of the north as the south has been in power for 13 out of 15 years of this republic. His argument that he won't contest only if the ticket is zoned strictly to the South east isn't tenable an just a smokescreen He can't decide which part of the south should get power so long as it is the south And his Position is flawed as Buhari a Fulani man just completed 8 years and he another wants to take over from him? No now, we the rest of the country are not here to lock their arses
Let him groom and support a Southern Candidate, too late for 2027 sha
I understand that this is his last chance if God still wish him be president he will be But Obj already told us why he will contest till death The same shamman that predicted he will be Adamawa governor and he was elected also predicted he will be president and he believes his shamman His blind ambition will only make BAT get a second term as he will split the opposition votes like in 2023
Niwdog: just like Tinubu this guy is a politician the only difference is he is not in the level of Tinubu but he is young still has prospect not easy to be opposition leading governorship flag bearer twice anytime leadership swings hand in Lagos he is likely to be the next governor so the guy no small like that
Doesn't always work out that way. In many states, theres always this guy that's the face of opposition, once in a while , some opposition comes to power, but most times they are just serial contesters that the gatekeepers will never allow to win In Delta , it was Sonny Okogwu In Benue it was Paul unongo
For years, the face of opposition in Lagos was Obanikoro, he never became anything
Atiku has been contesting forever Does that mean he will become President one day?
MaziObinnaokija: . Pa OBJ come dey PITY CHINEDU like Iwomode yi o mo nkan kan.Nah EMILOKAN U wan drag lagos with?
Give it to Obj, he has his faults But the man doesn't know how to deceive himself, he says it as it is no matter whose horse is gored
PDP started dying the day this man tore his card and has never recovered from it, even though he later realised the damage done and tried remedy, it was too late as the hyenas baying for Blood quickly took over killed the party
MichaelSokoto: What company did Tinubu found prior to his early 90's senatorial contest...
or which company did he own prior to 1999 state's guber?
make una dey grow sense.
Tinubus mother (adopted or not ) was a very powerful woman, Tinubu na proper NEPO BABY raised in wealth Whether the wealth was made from trade or not, she had money and influence
Putindbutt: Lol, Gov Yusuf decamped from NNPP, he was tagged a betrayer. Kwankwaso decamped from NNPP, what would he be tagged? a betrayo?. Will they set aside March 30 as Kwankwaso betrayal day?.
That clown 🤡 called Kwankwaso would have been an APC member if APC had conceded to his terms.
He has now gone to where his level could afford him - a big fish in a small pond (ADC). A rejected girlfriend that ran into the waiting arms of an aggrieved Ex.
He wanted VP slot, APC threw it back at his face, he wanted APC Northwest structures, APC threw it back at his face. Then Jagaban collected his golden boy from ( Gov Yusuf), E pain am d.i.e.
ADC quickly gave him his requests, infact, they laid down for him to walk on their head into the party, Lol. They conceded the party's regional structure to him.
But who would blame them?. ADC are desperately looking for relevance. Have you heard any updates about their e-registration?. They are hiding it, they are ashamed to inform Nigerians about their piss poor registration exercise.
They're struggling to hit 1million registered members, that's why they rushed to INEC to beg for a two week extension. Maybe Kwankwaso supporters will help them hit 1million and a little above, atleast. That's why they conceded almost to all his terms and conditions.
The bigger collapse is waiting for them after the primaries.
A very insignificant, rudderless and confused conglomerate of losers. Coalition of failures and a structure of criminality.
I dey wait for the explosion that will occur in ADC when Gbajue and his headless mob gets reality check and Atiku gets the Presidential ticket and Amechi gets the VP E go loud
IsraeliAIRFORCE: Who reduced their population? Nigeria committed the genocide and you want to use your unrepentant attrocity you committed to judge the people and remove them from the balance of the equation to maintain a perpetual inequality.
You agree they have less population so they don't deserve any more states It's another argument if whether it was sensible for your ancestors to go against a national army with boys and men carrying sticks and a few dane guns , you tell us if that isn't a suicide mission
Family › Re: The Day You Realize Your Parents Were Stronger Than You Thought by Difrent: 6:23am On Jun 20
. Honestly,I blame parents who can't take care of their own kids. No matter what,as a parent,you should be able to do everything possible to look after your kid. These evil couple weren't only the ones who failed this innocent child,but his parents equally did too 
