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tommy589:
Make God give all of us Money and won't wait for our children before we chop.
She won't stay there long,When she knows you keep people around you and can easily get under 20s to befriend, and mistakingly come carry belle >:

E be like say women don do you shege. Dem do me wella but I can't do without little love from them

Good women are still out there looking for men to shower with unconditional love. I pray you find one...believe small

tommy589:
I was having this line of thought when I was single. And was with the same idea when I got married to the first and eventually became a polygamist.

Except you are harsh or mean,don't think been a millionaire is the way out to manage polygamy. It is the most uncomfortable situation I later found myself.

If you are not comfortable with a woman divorce her and get another. If it takes you ten women to find your choice,so be it.

There are still good women out there. I am married to only one now and she is my world

bukatyne:
@Paul8000:

There are two issues:

1. You do not have a good relationship with your wife

2. You do not have a good relationship with your kids: you were not involved in their upbringing. The last two like you because they are young and unaware of their surroundings. As soon as their mom can influence them, you will lose them also.

A. First, you address the kids individually as follows:
1. Engage them as adults. Tell them you love them, care for them etc. and as their father, they have to respect and obey you in return. If your life is a reflection of your religion, you should make a parallel between you as a father and God/Allah as our father.

2. Tell them that you are not perfect and would have tussle with their mother however, it is not in their place to support their mother (except you are endangering her life) and they should always respect you.

3. Understand their peculiar challenges and address them.

B. Engage your wife and allow her air any grievance she has. You mentioned she told the kids you cheated, did you?
Address the grievance one after the other and also tell her your own grievance.

Thereafter, tell her that you both MUST have a joint agreement on discipline and training for the kids. If she has any reservations on what you do, she should address it with you in private. Ditto you too. Tell her to also stop discussing your shortcomings with the kids. She should address you, in private.

Then you gather your family together and address them. Lay down ground rules and create family bonding times through meals and prayers.

You also need to live a life of example and honor to your kids especially.

It is very shameful for you the husband of the home to be sitting cowardly in the car because you have a bitter wife (which may be your doing) and unruly children.

I have two threads: one on fatherhood and another on husbandhood.

Goodluck Mr. Paul

naijaloan:
Corono virus sef....
as am typing now, am feeling somehow

McBrooklyn:
Abortion or giving me STI I know nothing of

Akinbahm:
In as much as I concur with the nagging also but I can still overlook the nagging of a thing but LIES I once beat the hell outta my kid bro just because of lies.

Some people are naturally endowed with lying (funny enough glaring lies) I could remember I have to part ways with two different damsels just because of lie...

evil1:
Cheating
Lies...lack of trust
Serious health issues.

chimatesky:
export bro not import.

paix:
It's done, I believe.

paix:
I have been trying since, maybe network or switch connectivity issues.

paix:
Sorry it's small, one LOVE.

paix:
I have been trying since, maybe network issues.

paix:
Seen it yet?

paix:
No problem my dear. Don't you need it anymore?