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It is because they are homosexuals! Now spreading your legs as a man is now considered as performing sexual act. The US is cursed.

babyosisi:
I already have my battalion of children
Infact I had to ask my OBGYN to sever off my information highway so I don't end up with a school bus as a family car
I am as fertile as a can be,glory to God,azubuike only needed to blow in my ears and a baby will enter my womb
Do you know your own status?
You are walking around answering man
Don't go and check yaself
Don't worry
Mazi okonkwo and okeke or prophet Hezekiah can step in and help out when the time comes
Nobody will know
Hahahahahahahaha

I get it! You have adopted so many kids. Congrats. Azubuike just whispers in your ears and both of you are headed to the next adoption center. It is well!

babyosisi:
Forget all the dogon turenchi
Have you done your sperm count and motility tests ?

I think the better approach is how many men have your kind infected today?
How many men have been rendered infertile via infections from their women who failed to open up about their sexual history because they were paying heed to advice from you? In other words how many men have you indirectly rendered impotent?

Anyway you look at it, women are still the reason for high rate of male infertility if we are to believe the suspicious statistics from the end time marriage counsellor and co. Take a look at two causative factors like Alcohol and Sexually transmitted infections (stis). Look at somebody like Kilode for instance who fvcks sorry infects three guys at once during her foursome with guys. Do the maths. 3menx365 days. That is more than 1000 men from one single woman. Now that she has commenced advertising her services on Naira land that number is bound to increase. Again she sucks unwashed assholes for a living. Now she kisses sorry kills those three men with the same mouth during her foursome Group Intimacy premium action time. Just imagine the number of men only she has already infected. We know women are more prone to toilet infections due to the nature of their sexual organ and because the average woman by far has more sexual partners more men than women are therefore affected and subsequently develop fertility issues.
How many do not know that many men in a bid to escape from quarrelsome and abusive wives at home are driven to beer parlours where they take to alcohol?
So in the final analysis, women are the driving factors behind higher rates of male infertility these days.

jashar:
Maturity and Trust. Key ingredients in marriage.

Goes without saying that you can only be open and honest with a mature and trusted spouse. In other words, reason why some couples keep stuff from each other is because there is no maturity in the relationship and they certainly don't trust each other.

MizMyColi:
I wish it were as ideal and easy as you make it sound.
I've always maintained that everyone has stuff they do, or they've done, that they'd keep from getting to the wrong crowd.
However, I support the idea of coming clean.
That said, wisdom is profitable to direct.
If I have a past that I am well aware needs to be talked about, then I will talk without fear or favor. I will talk about it as someone who has moved on.
As a person who is happy with whom she is now.
The words of Jesus "Neither do I judge you" comes to mind...
The human mind is so twisted.
I don't blame those who will keep the past as it is and forge on.
It's because they learned the hard way that folks pretend to listen to you, meanwhile what they're after is information to judge you with.
Whoever I choose to develop my life with must be someone whom I can call my friend. (No true friend judges you, even when you judge yourself, they pick you up and make you smile again, I have a friend like that so I know what I'm on about).
He must be someone whom, as time progresses, I can be truly nAaked in front of...
(emphasis on "as time progresses".
I've seen this topic being deliberated upon in this section.
I find that most folks who are angling for the woman to come clean with her past do so mainly because they want to do what they know how to do better; Judge and Lampoon.
After all is said and done, I'm with the OP.
Openess, Sincerity, Trust and Selflessness.
These are bedrocks upon which we build successful marriages/relationships.
May our paths be guided aright, to find her/him, whom we were joined with, before our earthly sojourn.
Then we'll find that this which we have been looking at as one big issue, is actually a non issue.

Great contribution but I must add though that the fear of being judged should not deter one from being true to the one they love. There are three persons so to speak who witness our sexual excapdes. God, ourselves and our partners! So one cannot truly hide their past. You are hiding from your wife or husband what another man or woman who committed the sexual brigandage with you already knows! I think I must add here too, that full disclosure requires that the confessor knows that the spouse is matured enough in managing information.

My friend man up and act! So many many men acting like sissies this days. Have you noticed more men ranting on naira land these days? Women are growing balls and some men are growing pvssys. A lady treats you like trash and you can't shout her down and let her know who is boss! Next time she tries that shout her down and walk away from her...tell her you won't tolerate gutter language around yourself.

The truth remains that we marry for so many reasons but chief among these reasons is companionship.Most people men and women inclusive will agree that the need to share emotional warmth, rub minds together and enjoy each others company is critical in a marital relationship. From the Christian perspective marriage is basically a physical union of two souls. Main aim is to unify vision and mission helping each other throughout life. Having children is an additional blessing in marriage.
In view of the prevailing situation in our society, where it is almost becoming fashionable to denigerate this once sacred institution, it has become imperative to look at two of the critical building blocks for a deep genuine marital relationship.
Honesty and Openness:
No genuine marriage can be successfully without trust! That is having confidence in your spouse. This situation can only come to be when a spouse has demonstrated absolute honesty. Withholding information from your spouse in the fear that the will think less of you or disrespect you is actually counter productive. Most people will rather respect and honor you for confiding in them. Eventually, all hidden things will be exposed! Why don't you give your spouse that confidence by being true to him, her....to be continued.

taryour:
As much as I tried restraining from commenting on this thread I just couldn't help it. Am surprised some women/men actually support the idea of keeping shut about their past. The question is how do you go on hiding such info from your husband/wives? Sleeping on same bed,eating from same plate and sharing intimacy and out of all the gists and gossips couple share the truth doesn't slip out of their mouths,even if its by mistake. Well I did conclude that such women/men DO NOT TRULY LOVE THEIR SPOUSES. They have no conscience at all.
Before I got married I laid it all down to my hubby and he did the same thing. I had a past and he almost had no past compared to mine which I confirmed to be true. Still he loved me for who I was and not what I had done in the past. I was real and very opened and that has really helped us a lot. Its been more than 8 years now and we are still going strong. Its not been a smooth journey but I have living in peace and rest of mind. Not having any fears that he might hear something or see something.
Living everyday of ones life walking on an eggshell is enough to make ones life short (my opinion ). You might think you are happy but deep down within you, your happiness isn't complete.
Opening up your past life to your spouse give you freedom and rest of mind. If he or she truly loves you and is your true partner. He or she will stay by you till the end. Isn't it better you have a forever happy home than having a short one when your spouse finds out your past later in your marriage and breaks up with you?
What will be will be either good,bad or worse.

Couldn't have put it any better! Only the mentally ill and delusional individual will support their spouse not coming clean in their relationship. Kilode for instance who claims she has repented from sucking unwashed assholes and fvcking three guys at once is more free to share her"testimony"on Naira land with her picture on her DP than opening up to her spouse! In other words she is more comfortable marketing her services on Naira land than coming clean to the love of her life. I still repeat that end time marriage counsellors like babyosisi and co are only for the worldly wise ladies who have no thoughts whatsoever for a deep genuine marital relationship based on honesty and openness.

All these old hags like babyosisi and co who admitted their puccy was worn and torn before marriage should get it into their skulls that not everybody wants to use large tubers of yams to make love to their wives! If Azubuike had to use his legs and hands in there before you felt a thing, does not mean another man wants to be using his entire body in there before he makes an impact. Bottomine: end time marriage counsellors pls respect the choice of others.

Timbuktou:
And how could I possibly let go of her past considering the past of someone like Kilode in here, who's stock in trade was shiit-chomping?

We demand sincererity and honesty,end time marriage counsellors demand secrecy. The choice is yours. Whether you want to marry a stranger or marry someone you know. It is clear this women are only worried about hiding sexual histories! That tells you the kind of women they are!

babyosisi:
It's not one incident
Can't you read?

End time marriage counsellor, keep off!

kilode100:
Dinachi right
I actually feel sorry for you, joke apart...
You are seriously pained and I wonder why
I actually feel good about my life and I am BLESSED!
I get where you are coming from, I really do, I see you as me many years back after sucking those unwashed ass holes, I always look for who to vent and take out my frustrations on... And that's why, I keep asking you who messed you up so badly.
You are the damaged goods, you are the one hurting, you are the one who's ugly because I know I am very beautiful.....
Should I continue?

Did I hear you say you are blessed? . How can I doubt that? The shit from those unwashed assholes you sucked and those you foursome guys who drilled you mercilessly like a newly discovered oil well only did their job too well!
Keep being delusional!
As for venting your frustrations you can beat on your flat chest as many times as you like, it still does not alter the fact that you are frustrated!

kilode100:
Is that it
You need to come up with stronger words because these sound "kindergarten"and it makes you look really small and foolish.
U have heard it all.. Oh, there she is, she's fat and short, after that, what else is new?
You need to go back to your dictionary and come up with something that might actually make me blush.
I still gotta ask you tho, who messed you up so badly

Who dash monkey banana? Oh you actually hope for a back and forth?
What is kindergarten is sucking unwashed assholes and admitting it on naira land with your actual pix in your dp yet insisting you will hide same from spouse!
Being short and fat may actually not be anybody's problem, you alone will bear that cross with its obvious medical challenges.
As for being terriblly ugly, I can hardly blame you for that one an apple rarely falls far from its parent tree! In other words it is in the genes.
What's my own if nature and providence decides in its wisdom to churn out damaged goods!
You get mouth to talk about being messed up? You mean as messed up as you were when you admittedly was fvcking three guys at once and you prefer being beaten and pounded before sex?
My dear apart from a mental hospital for the violently deranged, I may not be able to recommend any other better place for you to be right now all things considered.

kilode100:

Who broke your heart boy??

Whether you like it or not you deserve commendention for your gangartum courage in posting that picture as your dp. I will personally lead a crusade for your immortalization in naira land for your ability to walk on those tree trunks you call legs and what is more your ability to move those yam tubers you have as hands and those coke bottle sized fingers you type with. I am not bothered by the fact that you are pygmishly short and actually look like a wag! You are definitely a hero for being able to lift open your tiny eyea under those heavy layer of fats you call eyelids.
That said, only Jehova God almighty knows how terribly your down bellow stinks putting into consideration the sweaty thighs and stretch mark infested body. Good luck in your foolery

kilode100:
Hater!!!

No he is not! You actually look like a hefty abandoned iroko tree trunk.The truth hurts! But it is what it is.

Why does he want a divorce? Your information is not clear enough. What caused the incident that made him threaten to kill her? Since he is not here, it will be good to open up on these so that we can make informed contributions.

@Op by any chance could your fiancees name be Babyosisi, Cococandy or Sophyrocks?
My brother there is no hope there. But let him fulfil all righteousness and ask her while keeping a duplicate copy of the preggy test or at least snap the test to show her if she wants to deny.
According to end time marriage counsellors, he is better of not knowing that his fiancee is an abortion veteran!

harveyspec:
You are the type that can poison a man & watch him eating the food while petting him!!
Come to think of it, you were in a relationship with a man while at same time romping with azubuike!!
God save me from your type
PS: I'm aware my tone is harsh, no hard feelings o

There you have it! End time marriage counsellors.

Of course it seem very convenient to keep secrets from your spouse, but the truth is that is the first step in failing in marriage. The moment one secret is kept, more and more will continue to be hoarded until the whole marriage is full of secrets! What the end time marriage counsellors are advocating simply is tie him/her down with marriage first, they forget their evil style has caused more divorces than any other factors. If one opens up, he/she is likely to get more respect and honor than whey they are pretending.
Me I will always prefer that my spouse will be completely honest with me. That way I am very comfortable wit her. I also will prefer a woman I so trust that I can leave my life in her hands and not fear that she will do away with it. Anything short of that, I am not interested.

babyosisi:
Nna this is 2015 o
You have an alternative actually and no one has bothered to bring it up
You don't ever have to deal with VJs ever in this life because the ones that are not smelling today will surely be smelling tomorrow so you need to reject them all one time
Dinachi you can start chopping your fellow men
They don't have puccies
That is the only option left
Don't thank me
And if after this option you mention Puccie again we will now know that this is ihe e mere eme plus ihe a gworo a gwo

What is this end time marriage counsellor saying sef?
You are now advocating homosexuality ? When I said you will unravel very soon I never knew it was going to be this fast! B1tch if your problem is that you are a culprit, I think wasting further time on naira land is pointless. Drop whatever you are doing now, grab sponge, soap, bend down and start doing the need full. When we hear marriage is full of ups and downs, killing your husband with an evil blast from your rotten puccy should at least not be part of them,especially If you can help it! Comprende?

toksbisola:
@Op i hope you don't mind me asking you a question and my apologies if it feels too intrusive;
I presume you are a married woman. In that case, have you ever cheated on your husband whilst married to him?
If Yes; did you tell him?
If Yes; and you did not tell him, how do you feel?
If No; then you should not be telling a married woman who cheated on her husband not to tell him. You know why; cos you are not in her shoes. It is only the person who wears the shoe that knows how it pinches. Having said that, I'll move swiftly back to the topic at hand.
The whole idea, is never to hide anything from a prospective spouse/partner that would later hunt your marriage/relationship which in some instances can lead to separation/divorce especially if the spouse/partner is unable to bear the secret(s) when it eventually comes out.
As mentioned previously by @Lastpage; It is better to let it all out in the open and let either of the spouse/partner; be it a fiancé or fiancée decide if they would want to carry on or not with the relationship.
I tell you a little story of a wife who hid a secret from her husband for many years and it eventually came out. The secret came out when she was in hospital on admission.
An injection was about to be given his wife and the injection was meant for a person below a certain age. The husband told the Dr his wife was younger than the age range the Dr stated. The Dr had to tell the husband that he requires the answer directly from his wife; owing to the fact that the Dr knew the health implication(s) that can occur if the injection is given to a person that is not within the age range.
The Dr asked the wife 3 times if she was in the age range. Only for her to say on the 3rd time that she was above the age range. The husband found out that his wife was older than him and that his wife lied to him about her age for many years and that was a lie the husband could not bear to accept.
That was the end of the marriage. Now, if the wife had told her husband many years ago the truth that she was older than him; who knows, the husband could have either accepted it or moved on if he was not able to bear the fact that she was older than him.
The next thing on the mind of the husband would probably be what other secret is she keeping from me? The trust bond was broken on that very day and the husband did not even look at the fact that his wife was ill and in hospital before he ended the marriage.
The lesson of the story here is; DO NOT HIDE ANYTHING FROM A SPOUSE/PARTNER. Never think of starting a relationship/marriage based on Lies, Deceit and Secrets. The consequences can be sometimes disastrous and calamitous when it all comes out in the open.
As @Bellong and a few others had mentioned earlier on “Try and avoid doing anything that you know when it comes out in the open you would feel too embarrassed or ashamed of your action(s)".
I rest my case.

Excellent points! But will the daughters of Belial pay any heed?

njokusboy:
Nope, as much as I do not enjoy quoting you... I must say this...
"By the time, you finish perusing the details and number of past customers, he may not want to marry you"
QED
You women know this fact and dats why you choose to hide it from him...
Truth is, you can never really claim he loves you, cos he never knew you....
Replace "waste our time" to "waste my time"

My thoughts exactly! Most people are married to strangers they will not want to have anything to do with if the get to know some details about that person.
Bottomline: What this end time marriage counsellors are advocating is DECEPTION.

cococandy:
Because I don't want to waste our time.
By the time we finish perusing the details and number of the past customers our first child will be as old as three years.
Time is money. Ain't nobody gat it to waste.
Are you satisfied?

Wasting time kee? Nothing way I know go hear! Tell him the story. Let him be the judge of whether you are wasting time or not.
My point both of you need all the information to make an informed decision. A woman who does not want to marry a former or practicing porn star and a man who does not want to marry a former prostitute both need full disclosure if they are sincere to themselves.

cococandy:
because it is my privacy and I don't owe anyone a list of past sexual partners. If they do meet in future and it so happens that we will be spending time together with that person , then I'm obliged to tell him.
If someone I used to be intimate with is going to becomes a family friend, then he has to know what happened between us and decide if he's cool staying friends with them.
But as far as they are still people I met before I met him, he doesn't need to know who they are or how many they are. To what end?

Why exactly are you scared of baring it all before your husband?
Don't you know your past sexual information is also needed for him or her to make an informed decision?
What if he never wanted to get married to a former or practicing prostitute and you keep the information and he later finds out, what do you think will happen?

cococandy:
If I knew him before I knew my husband and did all that before we got married, I've committed no offense.There's nothing to worry about here even if he finds out.

Since there is nothing to worry about if he finds out,why then do you keep it from him in the first place? End time marriage counsellor this your response Na wa!

harveyspec:
Pls how will you handle this!!
Your husband tells you he ran into an old acquaintance that he saw last maybe 15yrs, someone you haven't heard about.
this acquaintance will be coming over for dinner, he shows up & behold he is Emeka you have been sleeping with in faraway Japan(you thought u were safe cos Japan was far away & Emeka told u he hasn't been too Nigeria for the past 15yrs & he has no plan to)
You have done all manner of things with Emeka, ranging from orgies to foursomes to abortion
How do you deal with this?
If you say you can't cheat in a marriage, replace the above scenario with this
You did all of that with Emeka before you married your hubby, your hubby ain't aware you did those wild stuffs, he sees you as a cool headed lady!!
you can't tell which of your past will come hunting, so saying if it has little chance of spilling, keep it that way isn't wise

Brilliant analysis!
Now let's hear from the end time marriage counsillors: Babyosisi,Cococandy and Sophyrocks.

Confirmed! These are end time marriage counsellors: Babyosisi,Cococandy,Sophyrocks. Follow them at your peril! They spend by far more time on naira land than their matrimonial homes. They teach the unthinkable. Keep secrets from your spouses so respect go dey. A word is enough for the wise.

babyosisi:
The original post has over 65 likes in case you didn't notice

65 likes out of more than 1.3 million Naira land members inspite of the fact that you are on front page? B1tch you have not even began scratching the surface!

babyosisi:
And they are certainly not all females and not my handles either

How you take know?

babyosisi:
Just because people are not typing doesn't mean they are not reading and comprehending and concurring
And just because some chose to disagree doesn't mean they won't do what I suggested if faced with the situation

And vice versa. It works both ways!

babyosisi:
Your babe could be amongst them sef

Another delusional statement! There are those who live on nairaland and there are those who live with their husbands in their matrimonial homes!

Kimoni:
Dinachi, truly, you keep opening thread after thread complaining about women's pus3ie and I am wondering who is to blame for that?
Don't you think it's high time you up your game?
Spend a little more, carry neater girls and see if you won't get better value for your money. How can you go to slums night after night to carry oloshos and you think they won't smell? Something be pis5ing you off so badly yet you won't stop
My guy, quit the noise and up your game.
#thankmelater

Kai, I am highly disappointed in you!
We are talking about women like you who dress well speak well yet they stink terribly down there.
The so called women of substance whose substance is odoriferous.
Pls be properly guided.

Three women stand out here defending the indefensible. Telling other women to keep secrets from their husbands! Babyosisi, Cococandy,Sophyrocks. Nairalanders you can now see the kind of female relationship experts these women are! It is very clear they are either not married or they are married to strangers . Two people keeping secrets from each other are not deep in love but deep in self deception. Both are wearing masks. Both do not trust each other enough to be themselves around the one they claim to love! That is why we have so many married singles! People in a martial relationship yet they are very LONELY. And ofcourse this kind of advice encourages unmarried women to see marriage as a game where you try to outsmart the other.