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The husband is a very good man and I expect the ladies here to wish them well. The man is very open. His wife even has access to his phones. The man has nothing to hide.

I have known for more than three years now that rukky is a hard core lesbian and ebube is bisexual. Thanks Op for promoting gay relationships. You try well well.

celine234:
I'm not close to my dad in anyway. I haven't seen him for the past 4 years, though I hear his voice on the phone which is once in a year, sometimes none at all.
I love my mum so much and feel so close to her, I can tell her anything and we play like kids.

With this attitude, you will most likely turn to a lesbian. Watch it!

bamidele029:
Lmao at your child will come and look for you. That is what irresponsible fathers say to console themselves, even if the child comes later I can assure you you will never get to have the same bond the child would have built with his mother and possibly step father. A real father is the one who takes care of the child financially and emotionally. No matter what happens between you and his mother, if you abandon you responsibility towards your child you are nothing more than a sperm donor
I still read about the Iroko tv owner who said his father came back looking for him when he was an adult and he wants nothing to do with him. What does a grown man/woman need you for when you failed to show up in the formative years. Won't you even feel useless knowing you never contributed a dime towards raising your child

Only a fool will go to where he is not wanted. Keeping a mans child away from him is an old emotional trick evil women use to wound men emotionally. Don't fall for it! You have the law and the social welfare, engage them adequately and circumvent those witches. The world is a smarter place now.

Your husband is a good man. Love him, hold him and open up that man is dying of konji! You have not been performing, that is why. Another thing make sure your pussy is very neat. Dirty stinking pussy is one of the greatest turn offs for men. The fact that you just had a baby is no excuse. Be creative in your bedroom. Don't allow another woman to take over your home because you can't perform.

Dollyak:
My candid advice is for you to leave the marriage. She had no respect for you, and judging by her mother I can tell she got the bad influence from her mother.
It mostly never ends well, especially when it has been going on for that long.
To your question. You were obviously not wrong, and the best thing is for you to keep your distance from them.

The only frank genuine advice from a good woman here! As for supporters of evil like babyosisi and co whose stock in trade is evil and malicious advice, learn from a real woman here.
@Op the first mistake you made was allowing your wife back to the house. That LovePeddler of a wife should have been sent parking immediately. Then undertake a DNA test on your kids.Take custody of your kids and start looking for a new life. If you have done all this, then the mother in law would have learnt to respect you but since she feels that you are not man enough to take the tough decisions, she can now afford to even bear malice. Listen you are the one that is supposed to bear malice and show your anger. Don't let those witches dominate you. Since you have made the mistake of taking your wife back, pls totally ignore that insolent babyosisi kind of MIL and have your peace. I can assure you though that your adulterous wife will cheat again.

Why exactly does the Op need his family to go with him since he is not sure of marrying the girl? My dear please don't let them abuse your family by taking them there.

@Op you can entertain others with more explanation but your stance and decision is perfectly okay fornow. I love the fact that you are focusing on your career and moving on which is the best thing to do. You have come your own 50% but she failed to meet you halfway and please never go against your family's wish in all these. Take my word for it, your son will come looking for you..wait did I say looking? I meant running to you. Your heart and intention was pure in all these and none of their evil plans will reach you.
Notice that it is only women that are asking you to go back and suffer torture under the heavy yoke of your baby mamas mothers influence. I couldn't believe you were humble enough to suffer atrociously in her company for 25k monthly. My dear the slave trade is over move on with your life.

veave:
I think you just have problems with women generally. From some of your posts I read, just take it easy inugo? Life is not soo hard like that. And not everyone is out to hurt you. Cheers!

On the contrary, I have excellent relationship with women generally. But I love to say things exactly the way they are. You sound nice tho...

Onegai:
OP, you are young and that girl is young. The level of immaturity from both of you is pretty high (those your texts almost made me smile. Almost).
I'm going to say this to you. I have 3 friends, and some cousins whose dads left as children. None of them bothered to look for them. I have several people I know, the only reason they looked for their father was financial. So far, it is only in movies children dream off reconciling with their absentee parent and that dream remains till adulthood. They wonder, but they get older and realise they would not have left in their parents' shoes. We will not be there to help you when the day the boy doesn't show up comes.
Are you willing to take that chance?
Don't go there alone next time. if I were advising your girl, I would mention my concern that so far, it seems your entire family don't want the baby so they cannot be bothered to show up with you. That has always been glaring since the whole thing started so you can't blame her that she may have been fed that thought by someone and is listening to bad advise from her mum.
That child has 2 sets of grandparents and one set has to step up if the other set isn't. I don't know who will dare stop a grandmother from caring for a baby.
I will add that when my bf pulled kinda the same stunt you pulled and walked away mid-pregnancy, he sent a humble apologising message which I did not reply. Then his mother called me. Today we are married. So learn what you will from that.
As for the man acting possessive or not, that is not your immediate concern. Your immediate concern is your son. And btw picture yourself (all cocky and pluck-ful of childish bravado, swaggering in half-scared after running out on a pregnant gf) in the eyes of a much older experienced man. That's why that fellow bullied you. Lack of Self-assurance is very easy to spot. A self-assured guy would have entered that compound calmly, with some humbleness and strength and that man will have felt like a fool and left a situation which is none of his business.
I'm being honest and tough with you. You have growing up to do and it is more dire because now there's a child involved.
So please sit down and think. And make some decisions based on that. If you still wish to go to court no problem. But this situation can be solved easier than that.
I will repeat, none of those kids whose fathers left ever bothered to look for their dad.

Children always look for their dads. I am sure you watch Trisha shows.The only thing I advise Op is to make sure he sends money and use social welfare to get visiting rights. That baby mama does not deserve him period. If she truly loved him, she would have mellowed by now. Like mother like daughter.Op should concentrate on making money and being successful. No be ugly oshiomwhole marry model today. Op even went too far trying to visit again. If Na me, they will get an invitation from social welfare and I get my visitation rights. I will never speak to the lady again.

veave:
Do you have a personal biff with these girls or you just want them to be lesbians to satisfy yourself? I don't understand... did you see them with your korokoro eye?

You don't seem to have a clue about how lesbians operate. Can't you see that they were on a date in those pictures? Holding hands walking to their table. Drinking wine just for two and then staring into each others eyes. You must be blind not to notice all that.

My friend go and write jamb and focus on your education. Real man ko,mummy's boy ni.

@ Steeze.My guy, you are finally getting the message. Your baby mama and her witch of a mother are on a mission to make your life miserable. Don't let them! Any woman asking you to stick it out with all the trash you have been put through is just a total replica of your baby mamas mother. For emphasis do not for your life pay any attention to any iota of advice from babyosisi. She has wrecked so many homes of gullible people who were stupid enough to pay any attention to her evil advice. The more I read about the life of your baby mamas mother, the more I see the true babyosisi. There is absolutely no difference between the two. Taking any advice from babyosisi is like taking advice from your baby mamas mother.
The social welfare angle is a smart move I think you should make. Please hold your head high anywhere you go. Do not let anyone judge you. Your family is right too. I have seen it so many times. The child will always look for their father and will eventually hate their mother for keeping him from you. In the end you emerge the winner. Keep ignoring them but try and be sending money via the social welfare route to your child. I bet you after sometime, she too go tire and start begging. Happy, you got a job now.

veave:
Fat lie honey. They don't just have sex with men, but with the two biggest shots in Nigeria.
One with the polo boss, the other Dangote.
Combine both assets together and let me know the figure...
Who get calculator abeg?

You are a learner! Most Lesbians sleep with sugar daddys to get the money they use in going after other women. Polo boss and Dangote are just paying the bills for their Lesbian lifestyle.

According to a friend who happens to have worked with Wike when he was the acting minister of education as special adviser, the fire outbreak that erupted at the Federal Secretariat Federal Ministry of Education was intentionally set off to cover up shady deals Wike carried out there to raise money for his gubernatorial bid. They never believed that Buhari will win the elections. Now, fear of exposing the shady activities of Wike drove the desperate man to destroy vital documents to save his ass.

Your sister is already a lesbian.

babyosisi:
Somehow in your delusions you actually count yourself as someone wise or reasonable ?
Seriously?
Hahahahahahahaha !!!!
Where are those funny gifts when you need them
The word wisdom has indeed been bastardized

There she goes again....spewing jibberish and nonsense.

babyosisi:
If this is your interpretation of my response to bukatyne then your problems are deeper than I envisaged
Can't help you nna a

You need help from yourself. The issue about submitting is biblical and for you to attack that notion just because a man says so to his wife shows your spiritual leaning! You are definitely not representing christian women or even sensible women at all. The wise ones has already moved on after seeing you for what you are. As usual you can huff and puff but the real truth is that you represent that confounding idiocy found in those with absolutely no regard for the creator and in superfliuty of naughtiness thinks they have anything sensible to offer.

babyosisi:
I dare stretch it to say that any man that constantly tells his wife to submit is an abusive man

By your reasoning, the Bible that asks women to submit to their husbands is a book of abusers. You keep unraveling with each post, until the day you will fully unravel and unsuspecting,gullible women who reads your post will know what a scammer you are.

@Op, pls find a way to close this thread. Evil people are already here with worse marriages trying to make you feel bad about your marriage. You have unittentionally made yourself vulnerable. People are here trying to incite you against your lovely husband while they have worse husbands at home who beats them to a pulp every single day! You don't know what you have until you loose it. My dear go hug your darling husband, show him love and then discuss your issues with him.
Most of the evil advisers here were not there when you fell in love with this man and married him but they are here now to destroy that love. Your type of marriage is what most women wish for but can have so they do the next best thing, destroy it!
If you follow their advice and your marriage breaks, watch as your advicers would flee and leave you to your loneliness.
It is a known fact, many women are very jealous of other women's successes. You married into a rich home, they are angry. You passed your proffesional exams they are angry. Pls be wise. A word is enough for the wise.

Any woman who foolishly identifies herself as a feminist is either a closeted lesbian or a mentally in balanced individual. Most women who identify as feminists are a small group of frustrated women angry at men and the world. If you genuinely believe in equality for all, then you cannot be a feminist. Feminists are for those fighting for ONLY women rights not everybody's rights! I believe in equality for men, women and children. No segregations.

PunkyOh:
She still benefits financially either way
Anyway, I love the idea too because marriage is overrated.

Most men abroad would eventually go for it. It is like being with a prostitute! No strings attached.Just sex and you pay a few dollars but here is the catch, in Diddys case, the girlfriend will perform all the wifely duties and still be dumped when he is tired of her without any benefits and unceremoniously. That guy is very smart. That is what you call advanced prostitution.

@Op pls be careful of evil advice from here as a lot of poor women from poor wretched homes and destitute husbands will be on your case here trying to discourage you and destroy your marriage. It is called jealousy! Pls stop giving information about your home to the public. It is not wise. You are a great lady already with a great husband and a great marriage, be thankful to God and submit to your husband and I promise you will continue to enjoy your home. Gods grace.

oneeaast:
you re not a propheth but a gambler.

Na You kno

NgeneUkwenu:
Prophet!!

Nice. Thanx

soe:
i didnt wanna put the chuks part

I commot cap.