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Hello Confession,

I feel your pain, however it is inevitable to avoid issues totally in marriage. You need to focus on how this can be resolved. He is your husband now, don't regret that you married him. I will just say a few things and I hope it helps.


1. We all have different personalities, don't try to change your husband any further, work more on understanding him.

2. Do the opposite of what he expects, at this point be very calm and loving. It is hard, but it will gradually make him sober.

3. Don't nag him or be demanding

4. You need God, draw closer to him, pray for your husband and yourself. The situation may not change overnight but you will find the strength to go through the process.

5. Don't give up on him and your marriage except with proper counsels.

6. Avoid unwise counsels they will only tear your marriage apart.


God will help you.

You can sow seeds in the Church and give to the less privileged.

Hey! Am actually in the same situation. I think it is normal especially when u are hoping
Your ex will come back. I think the important thing right now is to accept your ex is nt coming back
Then slowly try to heal and get to value and love urself. You will soon discover you are worth more than you place on urself. Engage in other activities, read books, watch movies, do what you enjoy. Learn how to make money. Build yourself to be the kind of partner you want to have. Then above all pray and let go. Soon u will discover u have mastered ur emotions and are in control. At that point u will be able to have the right mind to choose a guy that u deserve and deserves you.

It is good you consulted God, He sees d end before d beginning. I had once
Consulted God on a lady I personally felt strong abt, but he said no. I later found out
A close friend of mine ws kissing and smoochn her which confirmed d dream I had nt to go ahead.
It is hard my brother, but be patient, and trust God. You will be glad youy did. Goodluck