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Yorubastardz:
Sowore is like those tiny dogs that will bark aggressively at your leg.
When you can crush it with just one kick
But you allow it to bark out of pity.

U2ice:
Lemme guess her response … na omugwo I come lol.. na so my own tell me until I stopped putting my cloths inside the laundry basket cus I wasn’t just comfortable

Lol.... se una see now

U2ice:
My mother inlaw is currently in my house too doing omugwo. When she arrived initially she will go into the laundry basket and wash every cloth in it including mine plus under wears except my jean trousers . But I’m not always comfortable especially with mine. So I stopped dropping my dirty cloths in the laundry basket to wash my thing at my own time. I don’t have any problem with her washing her daughter’s cloths including the baby . She just doesn’t like staying ideal . Sometimes I enter laundry basket too pack both her own n wifey cloths wash too. Still praying for a washing machine

May God bless your mother inlaw. The bolded is an alternative if anyone here finds himself in such situation and he is still not cool with it. Thanks for your contribution

Trojan8:
Aside my dry cleaners, nobody washes my clothes.

I can't imagine being OK physically and having my MIL wash my clothes. As how?

You can see the way you are feeling too. So, its not everybody that is comfortable with some situations in life, but for us to learn and be wiser, that's why I have brought it here to share and for us to learn.

VenExchangee:
She's a model and probably not this genZ type of mom, she's probably the type that don't like staying idle, she love her inlaw and her daughter, if to say she's not doing anything, you go still talk...

Let them be, the man is not complaining, the mother is not complaining, the wife is not complaining, so mind your business

You shouldnt have included the last sentence as bolded. I also feel that the MIL does not like to be idling around. Yes none of them is complaining but want to be clear about some situations should we also find ourselves in such in the nearest future. Thanks for your response sir

Dagrace01:
These elderly women don't care.
It's normal to them and they see it as exercise..
If the woman in question and her daughter aren't complaining, u better leave them.
Just tell your friend to joking tell his mother-in-law she's stressing herself to much and hear her response.
She only doesn't want any stress whatsoever for her daughter during post birth.

Hmmm.... alright sir, your advice is noted. I really appreciate

victorazyvictor:
Is normal thing from good mother inlaw, expecially those one from Yoruba.
Am an igbo man, my mother inlaw did exactly the same when she came. Though she's an igbo woman but has spent all her lives in Lagos, and she speaks yoruba well too. Is like I married to a yoruba family.
This woman is a mother inlaw any man can dream of. She cleaned everywhere to every nook where we don't even enter, she wash to my boxers, bath baby, cook and others. She will sleep with the baby in her room all day long for the 3 months. The only time my wife touch the baby was only when she want to breastfeed the baby.
She go sweep to our own bedroom, chase us away and arrange the bed and we will come back and lay.

Hmmm.....this my friend must also be a lucky man for having such woman as his wife's mother too. Thanks for your contribution

Cum4me:
Just try mind your business. Aproko man

You dont have anything sensible to contribute before.

VenExchangee:
Mind your business op.

Thank you

Your response isn't useful and meaningless. Nice responses from you will still be appreciated.

ZombieTERROR:
They don't have a maid when do you expect

the man should be ready to reward her handsomely when she's going home

Yes, she needs to be rewarded. I feel she is a very caring and good mother-inlaw too. God bless you for your contribution sir/ma. I really appreciate.
NairalandForum is great!

McLizbae:
We are only living in very awkward times and societies this days. So many things that are actually sane and normal are now seen as abnormal and insane, while the craze, shameful, and abnormal stuffs are now glorified and celebrated.

Look at it in this basic ways: (1) Basically, both the lady that just gave birth and her husband are the old woman's children. (2) A loving mother is expected to go out of her ways to do all she possibly can, for her children.

Now put tjose 2 points together, and tell me if it doesn't still make sense to you that the old woman is willing doing all she can in that house.

In short, the mother is being a true loving mother, it will now rest on your friend and his wife to be true loving children.

Hmmm...Thank you so much for your insightful, useful and matured response. This is noted/sir/ma!

ceeceeuwa:
He should sort his dirty cloths and give to the laundry. He can do his underwear himself.
Why would he even keep his dirty cloths for his wife that just gave birth to wash alongside the children's cloths.
If his mother in-law where not around his wife would have seen shege pro max.
Let him get a help for his wife!

The wife and the mother-inlaw volunteered to do it, not the husband, according to him, it even took some time before he knows that his wife's mother has been watching his clothes, not all his clothes though, becos he takes most of his natives to the laundry shop to wash and iron.

2mch:
Mind your business and leave that couple alone. This is why people are careful who they open their home to. They said you should come and visit not come and assess and give opinion.

Go to your own house and focus on your family. If you dont have one, find something more productive to do with your life. You want to say you have more sense and you know better than 3 adults with mother in law having probably over 20yrs marriage experience with childbirth experience?

The bolded does not make a singular sense, its childish and totally out of context of the subject matter. If you say the mother inlaw knows what she is doing with her experience and age, then I may see a sense in this and rest my case.

eepeepook:
I’ve used this forum long enough to recognize you people’s lingo for backing up fabricated tales.

For your information SIR! its not a fabricated story. Its REAL!. So do not debar other members from giving out their opinion about the matter.

We4all:
No woman should do laundry for any man unless he is sick. OP, your friend and his wife are two pathetic duo lacking in respect. They have turned the poor woman into a main under the guise of omugwo.

Its not really my friend that initiated it because he too is not really cool with it, thats why I brought the matter here for me/us to also see if its normal or not. Its actually the mother-inlaw with the cooperation of the wife that is making her to do all the extra work on their own ooooo, not my friend.

ceeceeuwa:
Be rational with the truth! If you actually wanted to help, you would have sort for others opinion on the issue before bringing up the matter with your friend. I am sure you would have been advised to mind your business.
When it comes to people's marriages, you exercise caution before giving unsolicited advise or suggestions.

I came here to learn, not that I want to go and advise my friend on what to do. It could happen to me tomorrow or some else in this forum. There is nothing bad giving out your opinion for others to learn and be wise on some matters. We learn everyday.

ceeceeuwa:
Amebo! It is called Omugwo for a reason. Tell your friend to employ a maid to support his wife. I don't know why you feel comfortable setting up your friends home on fire.

Aba! setting on fire kwa! You people should always learn to be polite in your responses. Must you pass a negative message on the poster.?? You are the one that wants to set the whole thing on fire here.
Am just trying to get a help for him here since the whole situation is a surprise to him and more so, he is not too comfortable about this extreme activities of his mother-inlaw at home.

eepeepook:
Una stories na always “my friend.” E no dey ever happen for una lives.

At this point, just marry him and be the second husband. This one that you don’t have a life, you’re observing everything happening under another man’s roof.

The reason I believe this story is fabricated is because the woman washes clothes. No mention of a washing machine. Despite Nairaland insisting that washing machines are inferior to handwashing, almost every member utilizes the machine.

You did not tell us that you want to advertise your washing machine...dont worry we will patronise you. Lol
That's just on a lighter mood. The story is not a fabricated one, its true life story. This could happen to anyone. Its just what can be helpful to my friend if he could get some sensible responses from here. He can use that to prolly arrange some adjustment at home on the foregoing.

lilyheaven:
Even your friend thinks it’s awkward, yet he allows his mother inlaw wash his clothes.
He doesn’t have respect, at all.

Actually, is not the fault of my friend, its what his wife and her mum is cool with, At times, my friend said he will want to avoid the mother-inlaw washing his clothes but its the wife that will just pack and give her mum to wash, and its because is her mother that is washing her children.s clothes even now that they are adult

Kobojunkie:
There's no importance to it since the person asking refuses to do due diligence. 😒

Which due diligence??

You have not answered the question sir/ma. I need your candid and matured responses on the case I just relayed to the house. Thank you.

Kobojunkie:
You think telling you to ask the woman directly is some sort of insult? Are you sure you are OK?

She is not committing a crime by her actions, and she knows best the why of her behavior, so why do you feel asking her would take something away from you? 😒

Just listen to yourself. I should ask her?? I hope you eaten today sa .If you don't have the courtesy of responding to someone's question on a platform like this in a more civilized and respectable way, then I will advise you keep mute and don't discourage other audience from giving out their own opinion about the subject matter.

SoftChordz:
Whwn will u learn to mind your business?? Aproko.

Lol....I guess you don't have an idea of the importance of the subject discussion.

Kobojunkie:
Why not direct your question to the woman herself? Or is she living as a slave that you are not allowed to directly interact with? Also, if your so-called friend is really inquisitive, he can always direct his question at his wife or his mother-in-law, for that matter. 😒

The question is that is it normal or not. Just seeking for your opinion on this. Its a very simple question abi must you abuse?

Hello Nairalanders,

This is what I just noticed in my friend's house each time I visit. His mother in law actually came to do omugwo, taking care and staying with the baby when his mum has gone to work. but to my surprise, I discovered she is the one doing the house chores, sweeping, watching both the husband's (my friend) clothes and the wife's clothes together with the baby's clothes.

She cooks and serves everybody's food while the wife only give the food to the husband. The wife seldom enter the kitchen even on weekends when everyone is around. I told my friend about my observation and he said he feels it strange to him too.

Please nairalanders how do you understand this scenario whether is normal or abnormal. The mother in-law is yoruba and my friend also is Yoruba.

PLEASE HELP US WITH THE LINK

Thanks for those that have given their advice and corrections. You guys are brilliant. However, your advice is noted and more are still welcome

Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways.
My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down.
But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that.
What do you think friends.

Sonnobax15:

The key to the cure of all the problem wey this op get dey for middle of red sea

😀😀😀. Walahi you no well o

MrAligator:
Ask the so called pastor to give you the name of the church/pastor that joined Abraham and Sarah together or to remind you of the name of the pastor that was at the wedding ceremony where Jesus turned water into wine.

Flee from false prophets for the look like sheep but they are wolves and will lead to the destruction of your soul.

As A Christian it's a personal decision between you and your partner to allow a priest or pastor join you together or pray for you after your marriage. Infact you can pray over your marriage yourself if you want as long as you truly believe you are a Christian.

What the pastor said doesn't translate him to a false prophets. Don't let us be too ash in our judgement. Everyone has a point on their own believe and opinion

Dtruthspeaker:
This is not true! God commands us to do "all that is right".

So Sarah had a family and Abraham had a family and for the fact that he was married and leaving with his father shows that all who should have been notified of their intention were truly notified.

How do you know he's notified them. You can't be sure.

Truvelisback:
Before u start calling the man of God all sorts of names, did Adam pay any dowry b4 marrying Eve? Did Cain pay any dowry b4 marrying his sister? Dowry is a human or traditional law, not God's law. The most important thing is the consent of both parents for them to live together. If both parents agree for them to live together under one roof, marriage as taken place. Whether the dowry is being paid or not. But traditions have ruin everything, that's why u see our ladies going beyond 40 without marriage or having children. This is not to say i am against payment of dowry. It should be optional or a thing of choice. If i have a daughter that is of age for marriage, and the man she is engage with loves her and is willing to take care of her but not rich enough to go tru these marriage rites stress, i may not collect dowry from him. Her happiness is my priority.

On point sir!