Like so many people here have adviced correctly, I believe u already know the part to follow;
Your dilemma as it were is really one of the following;

1. How to break up with this older dude without coming out as being too harsh,bad or ungrateful. ( Like u explained- anytime u do it, it translates to more gifts. . . which u take!)

2. You really love him more than you do love your husband (Even thou u don't want to admit this) and u need justification to go on with it!

Hopefully, if it's number 1 then tell him you told your husband or your husband found out somehow about him, explaining that he gave u an ultimatum- to continue with your marriage or sever all ties/affiliation with him. Tell him you CHOSE YOUR HUSBAND, and u are"sorry" you want your marriage to last. This way nobody is hurt and your aim is achieved.
Well if it's number 2. . . then u are on your own, Just a matter of time before u realise what his ex wive saw dat u haven't seen.

My son is named warrior for a reason, but him warriorship no reach your pikin own sha!

All the traits u mentioned is perfectly normal, at his age he can distinguish between good or bad to a certain extent.
Forget all those telling u ADHD, and spiritual stuff, (you will be surprised they are not parents, Notice how many people say your son acts like theirs or their younger brother at that age!)

It's not really good adopting the good cop bad cop with your wife, You need to be firm once in a while,or all he gets scared from you is " i will tell mummy to beat u".

As complicated as you present your case to NL if you really look at it if you were in his shoes , then you get to see it in a different view.

You guys are married, stunt or no stunt (you should have done this stunt in the first place instead of postponing your wedding,abi na mighty society wedding una dey plan before?). . .  either way you really have no regards for the institution called marriage! Reason- Marriage is for better or for worse. He lost his job, and cheated on you! so what? His bad on the latter, but Poo happens!

I bet if he suddenly gets a well paying job, you will so quick to convince yourself that he ain't that irritating anymore!  

You live a secret life;
You were planning a marriage with you bf , he lost his job, then i assume u two then put it on hold.Another assumption is that both families were aware except you two were trying to elope!
When the NYSC issue came up,you didn't deem it a big issue to put anybody in the loop-:your parents, siblings,friends or even this uncle of yours
Who i really doubt his intentions, since you couldn't even introduce them. Another assumption is you would have if he had a vocation or even if he was a jobless man from a rich dad!

Did u plan to live apart even after NYSC?,Move in with him to Calabar after the 1 year NYSC? or he moves in with you in Abuja to hustle? Which brings me to the question. . . where were you staying during your service year? In your own flat, NYSC quarters, or in your uncle's house?. . .

Like somebody asked, did he despoil you or beat u? Then after u want him to remain faithful when you are cleary hoarding your congo!

chuqudy:

What about tom tom. Is it devil's sweet.

Depending on the number of white strips to black stripes on the tom tom
If u lick tom-tom angels and demons will be fighting in your stomach.
Lick only baba blue or vicks lemon only even thou it is not biblical.

Just wondering-
1.As faceless a this forum is, how do you know GEJ and numerous other politicians ain't here ?
2.They remain anonymous because NL can teach a saint how to insult and yab you till your self esteem fades
3. Can u imagine Seun or any other moderator banning say GEJ or IBB?
4.Believe it or not Seun would be bought over and ban as many as anybody who says B.S about his political godfather
5, ,.,.,. or as in 4 above, he will be haunted by EFCC for illegally having embezzled a certain fund ( probably less than N300,000) and be sent to jail for like 10 years! or them go just say na senior yahoo yahoo him dey do
6.I dey too think plenty things 4 my head, abeg i wan go sleep.

Please send to this addy wori_pikin@hotmail.com, isaacjohnson@yahoo.com,qwertybb@yahoo.co.uk, whydon'tujustpostthedamnpicture@mriwon'tchangemyrules.com

Way back when he was very much in the game nobody could test Uzodinma Okpechi.

I recently had an encounter with the Federal road safety at Asaba just some meters away from the Niger Bridge on a journey to the East.
The marshal stopped me and asked for my drivers’ license so I gave it to him. Then he asked for a fire extinguisher “certificate”. I said my guy, I have a fire extinguisher and a C- caution and all other valid and necessary documents ,.,.,So if I have an extinguisher then you should simply issue me a certificate if that’s what makes you happy . He then said I would pay 3,500 for not having it as he claims it’s a form of tax from Delta state. ( I come dey wonder whether na Delta state road safety be this )
For my mind, I say maybe this barga think say I be mumu. I tell am say them never born him papa well wey go collect 1 naira for my hand. I said why not issue me a ticket and I will see the offence he will tick that I committed. I then asked him to show me a sample of the certificate if it really exists before he will ask for a spare tire certificate or better yet, stop other vehicles with it so I would verify his claim; he couldn’t stressing that I will not teach him his job.
I called all the numbers on their vehicle to verify the claim (08077690828, 08077690829, and 08077690254) but to my greatest surprise all the lines were switched off. (So if na accident happen na voicemail be that).
To cut a long story shorter , when the guy see say I no dey in a hurry or say I no send am as I talk say I go follow them stay there till I see just one certificate he come give me my license back.
Out of curiosity I just dey ask now whether any such thing exist or FRSC think say everybody be mumu?

I don't know if it's only me but i have tried listening to Mr. Endowed by D'banj but get lost in his sick tunes, i really struggle to go past the 2nd minute. The song really sucks!

BOTH MUTHER F**KERS ARE F**KED , we should have gone for Siasia

AjanleKoko:

. . . and this topic made the front page. Wow.

I always wonder when i see such quotes on some threads, so seriously name 1 topic that will make front page that we haven't seen before

please people stop derailing this tread. This fully pimped ride is wow

. . . . .have a baby by me baby be a millionaire . . . . . some people go still consider u as u be!
and in this video, his tats are absent too. ( He's leaving only the 50 on his back )

@ poster, I feel your pain.Lagos is hectic but you will be surprised to know i get motivated when i see little kids getting picked up by their school buses @ 5.30am!
Family comes first to me though, Money is good the key word here is contentment.
Read up some good advice like agada123s,but everything generally comes down to what your wife thinks.

Bandit C.:

Ich glaube du bist kein Deutscher. Ansonsten hättest du auch nicht so gut igbo schreiben können denn was du da für igbo geschrieben hast ist mir fast zu richtig für jemanden, der deutsch ist.

Beweis mal dass du deutsch bist, in deutschland oder sich in einem deutsch sprechenden Land befindet ansonsten glaubst dir keiner hier. Jeder kann ein beliebiges Bild beim forum aufstellen.

To those who can't understand german, i am asking the OP to prove that she isn't just a scammer and should write things in german so that i can cross check whatever she writes and discern if she is german or not because the igbo she wrote was almost too perfect for someone who is german. Igbo language is very difficult to write and read.

At least this way, i might save someone in this forum from turning Mugu.

German babe, we still dey wait oh!

jephfrid:

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sid abeg come naija, no mind this people. Una get big Indian community for Lagos e fit reach 1miliion of una( but i no dey work for immigration o )- Ikoyi, VI and Ilupeju. No worry things cheap for una indian and lebanese supermarket too.,.,. and i give u 4 months u go sabi speak pidgin. Welcome to lagos

Hey Banix, u always seem to have nice cars available and u sell off in good time. Thumbs up. I think the "Nice Alloys" are wheel covers though. Happy sales

It just goes to tell you that there is no messiah for the masses. People see things differently when they are on the other side. Picture the Comrade if he wasn't governor in this setting- He would have done worse than Keyamo.
Money, greed,ambition for power can make you irrational. The same Soyinka worked under IBB in road safety.,.,.,
Long and short of my story- Nobody is really standing for anything (be it democracy,June 12,the masses, the common man e.t.c), you are in politics because of YOU-go ask Turai

The first time wey i enter 2010 ML i humble , the first time wey i see BM X6 i die wake up _{note i just see i no enter, what if i enter?} BM any day

My 2 kobos tell me that the posters only concern is his justification for the abortion.
His money problem is like the phantom coup ( has a car he fuels- even if he borrowed to get the car, Lives in a 300k pad, has a monthly credit limit to waste and coming on NL to broadcast it- where he will constantly check on comments. _{maybe your internet service is free.}.
Good thing is I haven't seen any advice to you to go ahead with an abortion.

If your BF is neither psychic or a babalawo then don't take him serious, he just gave u a reason to move on

RIP dude, u churned out great music. May your family have the strength to bear the loss.

blackchief:

Please would like to know how one will read the distant cover using trip A or Trip B on a vehicle Odometer. Also if one read it, is it in kilometer or miles.

thanks

The knob on the odometer if pressed and held for like 3 seconds will zero the reading on an A or B trip but not that of the total reading. ( it will take a default reading of the S.I unit, mile or KM as explained by flemmy). This Trip A or B reading helps out to determine distances covered, e.g the distance of your home to your office or point A to B, _{or when u send your driver on an errand and he uses 2hrs and tells u it's traffic and your trip A shows u like 100km for a 30km journey dat one mean say your car na part time kabu-kabu}

Oga Behind, abeg 1.4 go fit glide this ride? serious prospect