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For failure to return to classrooms, the Senate of the Federal University of Technology Owerri (FUTO) has sacked all academic staff on its payroll with immediate effect. The sack order was made known by the Public Relations Officers (PRO) of the institution, Mr Chike Ezenwa, while speaking with the Nigerian Tribune in Owerri, through telephone.

According to him, the senate of the university had declared all the positions of academic staff in the institution, adding that they would be advertised starting from Monday, December 2.

The senate council, he explained, had already compiled the list of vacant positions in the school, adding that who were willing to resume would be adequately protected. Continue...

Meanwhile, the FUTO branch of ASUU has said any attempt to break their ranks would be strongly resisted by their members.

This was contained in a communiqué issued at the end o their meeting held on Monday, and signed by both the chairman and secretary, Dr Ikenna Nwachukwu and Dr F.M. Eke respectively.

The communiqué urged members to ignore the resumption notice by FUTO management, adding that the branch would not engage in any academic activities until the Federal Government commited itself to implementing the ASUU-FGN agreement. http://holakomolafe..com/2013/12/futo-sacks-all-academic-staff-for.html

Ayobami Jaiyeola left her house in Victoria Island on the 29th of November, Friday. She left her phones and handbag behind and hasn't returned ever since. She was last seen wearing a pair of blue jeans, green polo top and brown slippers and had braids on. Ayobami is a 29-year old female of about 5.5ft tall. In case you know her whereabouts, please call this number 08023182792 or report at the nearest police station. http://holakomolafe..com/2013/12/help-find-missing-ayobami-jaiyeola.html

Amazon.com on Sunday introduced Prime Air, a futuristic delivery system that the company says will get packages into customers' hands in half an hour or less, delivered via unmanned aerial vehicles.
As a shopper buys an item on Amazon. The item is then placed into a plastic yellow Amazon container and picked up at the end of a conveyor belt by an Amazon drone, which takes off and soars over a grassy field before depositing the package with a thud outside the shopper's doorstep.

Nice technology tho, if it will not be used for a bad purpose. What do you guys think. See the delivery picture here..... http://holakomolafe..com/2013/12/online-mega-store-amazon-plans-to.html#more

The Mexican drug cartels are some of the most feared and vicious organizations on the planet. Anyone, particularly in (but not limited to) Mexico, who threatens these gangs does so with immense risk to themselves and anyone they know.
Despite this, men like 23-year-old Serafin Zamabada Ortiz, use their Twitter accounts like a public showcase of their wealth and illegal activities. Ortiz is the son of the Sinaloa Cartel’s second in command, Ismael Zambada.
For your information, the Sinaloa Cartel is identified by the United States Intelligence Community as the most powerful drug trafficking organization in the world. Thus, in some ways, it makes sense that Ortiz would be so cavalier considering how untouchable he actually is.
Still, some of his Twitter uploads are pretty eye-opening. Between the Bentleys, the gold-plated Ak-47s, the huge bags of weed and the pet cheetahs, these guys are clearly not strapped for cash.
See more of the pictures here…… http:///1T3063

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Tunde Kelani is one of the most revered filmmaker in Nigeria and has been widely commended for his breathtaking flicks some of which are Ko Se Gbe, T’Oluwa Nile, Oleku, Saworo Ide, Agogo Ewo and Arugba. An extremely busy man committed to his art, TK as he’s fondly referred to took out 45mins to discuss with Movie Moments’ editor, Gbenga Bada in his cosy office few weeks before casting for his current work, Dazzling Mirage. He spoke about his children, life, father, growing up days, challenges and admiration.
Tell us about your current project, Dazzling Mirage, what informed it?
Dazzling Mirage is a project that I have been planning for almost two years now because I was looking for a people set and I was doing a short film that was made in London which was targeted at the minority in England but not until I came across Yinka Egbokare’s book that I said this is a good story. Dazzling Mirage is a love story, but it has the theme of sickle cell disease but it’s equally entertaining so I decided well it’s time we discuss it. It is time because almost everyday I know people hardly suffered from that disease and I had some personal experience and thought that there is no enough perception or awareness about it because it can be preventable and it only requires a test and once somebody is diagnosed that is suffering for life, and there is no cure, so I thought yes, number one it’s about time we entertain people with love story but the theme is also important.
From Oleku to Abeni and Arugba, how did you come about the cast?
I do not consciously decided who will be a cast in the film, it’s important for me to find a well developed story and then we will respond to the demand of that particular story, so It could happen but I can’t give a guaranty, usually I don’t have a idea of who will lead the cast maybe until when the cast is ready.
What are the criteria?
The criteria sometimes, you may have a good story and if you use a known face then people are not going to see the film, they will only be looking at the person, so sometimes we deliberately don’t cast like that, and sometimes when you target and put a face, it drags the story down and that I don’t think is good for a story telling and of course we compromise but what we do is we try to have a mixture of everybody, new people, people who are established, people who are experience in traditional drama and those who are formally trained in the university, so we do a lot of combination and the essence is that the character is so it is natural, we try to make it natural and I thank that has worked.
So the story determines what happens to the casting and if it is a repeated actor or actress that you have once used?
Of course it’s the story that will determine whether it will happen or not, I couldn’t tell, I can’t remember it has happened but definitely people dwell with us sometimes we cast them, it depends, even I couldn’t tell myself, I can’t say for sure that this is what is going to happen until we cast them.
For Maami, there were several talks about it; it is believed that it is a story written about the late MKO Abiola?
Maami is just a story of a single parent, a mother bringing up a son, it’s just a bond between mother and son. If it looks like Abiola's story, it looks like my story too because we all had more....... cant contain here continue reading @ www.holakomolafe..com/2013/10/i-have-never-attended-university-tunde.html

http://holakomolafe..com/2013/10/teenager-sells-app-to-yahoo-for-18m.html

A 17-year-old London schoolboy has sold his app company to the internet giant Yahoo for an estimated £18m. But he won't be moving to the company's California headquarters just yet … because he wants to finish his A-levels.
Nick D'Aloisio, from Wimbledon, south London, created the app, called Summly – which provides bite-sized summaries of content from news and other sites – a little over a year ago from his bedroom and now joins an elite group of teenagers who have become internet millionaires.
D'Aloisio, who is still too young to be a director of his own firm, said he had begun tinkering with apps for mobile devices as a hobby and had not expected to profit from it. The money from the sale of the business will go into a trust fund, although he said he does intend to get a new computer, as well as some new trainers. "I'll be staying in London," said D'Aloisio. "I want to finish my A-levels, and I couldn't really live on my own out there."

His mother, Diana D'Aloisio, appeared to still be somewhat in shock. "I knew he was a little out of the box, but I didn't expect it to happen all of a sudden like this," she said. "From a young age he displayed abilities in technologies I frankly didn't understand. He was doing 3D programming, and we bought him a book called C Programming For Dummies. My husband and I just used our computers for work, he was doing totally different stuff."
The price tag is understood to be £18m, 90% in cash and 10% in Yahoo shares, though other reports suggested the total could be up to £40m. Neither D'Aloisio nor Yahoo would confirm the details of the deal.
D'Aloisio began using computers at the age of nine, making films, and then moved to programming at the age of 12 when Apple opened its App Store for the iPhone. The teenager's success comes less than five years after he released his first app, called Fingermill, an onscreen virtual treadmill for fingers.
Summly, launched in November 2012, won one of Apple's best apps of 2012 awards. The app produces summarised versions of news stories, with the number of words tailored to fit into a single smartphone screen; so far 90m summaries have been read, the company says. But it will not be available much longer – as part of the acquisition, the app will be shut down and integrated into Yahoo's business as it tries to remould itself for the fast-growing mobile market.
D'Aloisio, whose father is a commodities trader and mother a lawyer and director of the company, is taking maths and philosophy A-levels at King's College school, and trying to decide whether the third one should be physics or history. "He still wants to go to Oxford University," his mother said. "He's just a normal kid really. When he's at home, he tidies his room. He's quite neat — very organised, in fact."
After the takeover is finalised, he will work in Yahoo's Soho offices by day, where he will be the company's youngest employee, and continue studying for his A-levels in the evening.
D'Aloisio got the idea for the app in 2011 when revising for his exams and finding himself frustrated with web pages that broadly repeated the same content. He produced an early version of Summly, called Trimit, which was downloaded more than 200,000 times.
The publicity from the Apple award attracted the attention of Hong Kong investor Li Ka-shing and his venture capital firm, Horizon Ventures. External investors – others are said to include actors Stephen Fry and Ashton Kutcher and artist Yoko Ono – bought a third of the company's share capital, according to documents filed at Companies House last October. The rest is owned by D'Aloisio's mother.
It was those investors who brought in a savvy team of directors, engineers, business managers and PR professionals who have been working to turn Summly into a potential world-beater, including older staff such as the chief technology officer, Eugene Ciurana, who boasts 20 years' experience in the technology business, and the head of R&, Inderjeet Mani. Both of them will be moving to Sunnyvale, close to San Francisco.
Yahoo is one of the oldest names on the web but has struggled to keep pace with more nimble rivals. Chief executive Marissa Mayer is trying to refocus the business around mobile technology. Sites such as Facebook and Twitter are now more used on smartphones than on the desktop and she has made a string of small acquisitions.

The Mavin boss jetted last night to the island of Mauritius with his Mavin staff ,Sameerah Ahmed,Papa Omisore and Tega Ogbenejobo, He posted the above picture on instagram with the caption “Enroute Marituis” I could remember when I introduced her to you during 2face’s wedding. Some say she's the Onome baba talks about on twitter. Me I no dey oooo. Guess that’s how it is done, don’t mess with the boss, lol. See more pictures here.......http://holakomolafe..com/2013/10/pictures-of-mavin-bossdon-jazzy.html

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A commercial aircraft purportedly carrying the corpse of a top former politician enroute Akure crashed at the Lagos Airport this morning.


The plane was also carrying 20 other passengers including family members of the late politician.
The National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA) has confirmed two people dead in the crash and 20 evacuated but eye witness confirm 30 dead.
A witness said the crash occurred at the local wing of the airport close to the section were JET-A1, plane fuel, is stored.
Fire service officials were seen evacuating the occupants of the plane.
“There’s a lot of smoke coming from the runway, but we can’t get access to it,” witness Rasaki Rhakod said in a Reuters report. “There are firefighters rushing to the scene.”
Information reaching us says the plane belongs to Associated Airlines.
The plane was said to be heading to Akure.
Details Later,


Some Pictures of the corpses here though (graphic images).... http://holakomolafe..com/2013/10/breaking-news-aircraft-carrying-former.html

Hezron Lorraine: you don't mean this.Some naija girls will die to be in the dog's shoes

There's nothing quite like it after a hard day in the park. Chill out... have your nails done... relax with a facial....
Then get someone to smooth all those nasty tangles from your hair with a luxury conditioner and massage, and finish it off with some Coco Chanel spray.
Ah I got you there; well all these are for dogs.
The comforts of being a pampered pooch – provided your devoted owner can cover a bill that could run into hundreds.
The services are being offered for dogs, cats and even horses, at a Pet Boutique in Barry, South Wales.

The owner Michelle Inch, 25, opened the shop called Pawfection Pet Boutique in August 2013 where they offer matching manicures for dog ,their owners and facials
Dogs can also can get paw relaxation treatment and fur styling and dying, mnay people would think the business is trash but the dog-groomer already has over 2,000 clients already.
The animal lover, who spends £6,000 (N1, 500,000) a year on clothing and grooming her two dogs and she already has more than 2,000 clients on her books.
Michelle is said to have spent more than £40,000 to set up the business, which offers a range of luxury pampering treatments for pooches.
The Salon sells full range of lux dog products including clothes and ice-cream.
You see, even humans don’t get this much enjoyment. What do you guys think.

See more of the pictures here http://holakomolafe..com/2013/10/Glittery-fake-nails-facials--dogs-Pet-grooming-taken-barking-new-lengths-pup-boutique.html

The edifice takes up residence on a not-too-broad expanse of land at Kofo Abayomi Street, Victoria Island, Lagos. Unveiled by the incumbent Governor of Lagos state, Babatunde Fashola yesterday 29th September 2013, the Intercontinental Lagos believed to be the tallest hotel in West Africa reportedly gulped N30 billion.

Designed by a Nigerian architect, Bayo Odunlami. The 5-star hotel contains 23-storey building; it also features 358 rooms, 37 suites and a Presidential suite. The Intercontinental Lagos, a subsidiary of the Intercontinental Hotel Group, IHG, is owned by the Milan Group.

See more of the pictures here @ http:///B8m8xT

With his contract set to expire at the end of the season, the Poland striker has revealed that the new year will see him agree a deal to join Bavarians next summer
Borussia Dortmund striker Robert Lewandowski has ended speculation over his future by revealing that he will join Bayern Munich on a free transfer in 2014.
The forward, 25, was linked heavily with a move away from Signal Iduna Park during the summer but was denied a move by the BVB hierarchy and forced to spend at least one more season under Jurgen Klopp.
The Bavarians have remained the favourites to sign the Pole, however, and following the Schwarzgelben's 2-0 DFB-Pokal second-round win over 1860 Munich, Lewandowski confirmed that the Allianz Arena will be his destination and that he will sign a pre-contract in January to join next summer.
When asked if he would confirm his move to Pep Guardiola's men in January by Sport1, he responded: "Yes, because then I can officially sign the contract."
The Poland international has scored 80 goals in 149 appearances for Dortmund since joining from Lech Poznan in 2010 for an estimated €4.5 million.



http://holakomolafe..com/2013/09/lewandowski-switching-to-bayern-in.html

Adaeze003: No offence but I dont think 'the poor' are on twitter. Good movement tho

At least ,lets appreciate the one he has done nd we ve seen. some are those that have not even tried doing o.

The generous artist @olamide_YBNL shared this tweet yesterday # share ur riches with d poor make dem nogo share with u tomorrow!# which was followed by a fan asking him for N10,000 in which the generous artist decided to give the fan four times of what he requested. This was followed by numerous requests which he granted. Nice one from the baddoo himself.
See the tweets below.


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According to Beatfm OAP Gbemi Olateru Olagbegi, The National Broadcasting Commission (NBC) has instructed play - Wizkid ft Maleek Berry - The Matter and Phyno - 'Man of the Year. Seriously ,the directive is so stale,after we’ve enjoyed the songs and moreover wats wrong with the songs.


http://holakomolafe..com/2013/09/nbc-bans-radio-stations-from-airing.html

He was recently spotted wearing the newly signed Ozil's jersey.Guess the boss is a die hard fan o.What do you peeps think.




http://holakomolafe..com/2013/09/hmmmthe-titan-rocked-arsenal-jersey.html

During a chat with football legend Paddy Creramd, Manchester United striker Robin Van Persie talked about playing for the English club, working with Sir Alex Ferguson and much more. When asked what he does off the pitch, like what kind of music he listens to, RVP said:
"I like to listen to music. ..all sorts honestly. I can listen to dutch songs, English songs..whatever...if the tune is good I like it." When asked who in particular he likes, he replied "Michael Jackson, Usher, P-Square...all sorts honestly.
And the star has an advice for us “you can’t have the best of both worlds; you can’t enjoy the good things of life and perform constantly.”
Watch the video after the cut. The music part starts from the 4:50 mark...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XRRPjINUjc.

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As Congress debates whether to support President Obama’s call for a limited strike against Syria for the alleged use of chemical weapons, Iran is vowing to back Bashar al-Assad’s regime to the hilt and threatening to unleash terrorism should the U.S. strike.

Qassem Soleimani, the head of Iran’s Quds Forces, Wednesday told the Assembly of Experts — the body that chooses the supreme leader — that “[w]e will support Syria to the end.”

And in an unprecedented statement, a former Iranian official has warned of mass abductions and brutal killings of American citizens around the world and the rape and killing of one of Obama’s daughters should the United States attack Syria.


“Hopefully Obama will be pigheaded enough to
attack Syria, and then we will see the … loss of U.S. interests [through terrorist attacks],” he threatened. “In just 21 hours [after the attack on Syria], a family member of every U.S. minister [department secretary], U.S. ambassadors, U.S. military commanders around the world will be abducted. And then 18 hours later, videos of their amputation will be spread [around the world].”

A similar act was committed in a video of the torture of William Buckley, a CIA station chief who was abducted in Beirut in 1984 and later killed by Hezbollah on Iran’s order. That video was dropped off at the U.S. Embassy in Athens. Former CIA Director William Casey later described what he saw in the video: “They had done more than ruin his body. His eyes made it clear his mind had been played with. It was horrific, medieval and barbarous.”

As Congress debates whether to support President Obama’s call for a limited strike against Syria for the alleged use of chemical weapons, Iran is vowing to back Bashar al-Assad’s regime to the hilt and threatening to unleash terrorism should the U.S. strike.

Qassem Soleimani, the head of Iran’s Quds Forces, Wednesday told the Assembly of Experts — the body that chooses the supreme leader — that “[w]e will support Syria to the end.”

And in an unprecedented statement, a former Iranian official has warned of mass abductions and brutal killings of American citizens around the world and the rape and killing of one of Obama’s daughters should the United States attack Syria.


“Hopefully Obama will be pigheaded enough to attack Syria, and then we will see the … loss of U.S. interests [through terrorist attacks],” he threatened. “In just 21 hours [after the attack on Syria], a family member of every U.S. minister [department secretary], U.S. ambassadors, U.S. military commanders around the world will be abducted. And then 18 hours later, videos of their amputation will be spread [around the world].”

A similar act was committed in a video of the torture of William Buckley, a CIA station chief who was abducted in Beirut in 1984 and later killed by Hezbollah on Iran’s order. That video was dropped off at the U.S. Embassy in Athens. Former CIA Director William Casey later described what he saw in the video: “They had done more than ruin his body. His eyes made it clear his mind had been played with. It was horrific, medieval and barbarous.”


http://holakomolafe..com/2013/09/well-rape-and-kill-one-of-obamas.html

eddyj36: keeping ma space against front page tins..

Tell them o,it should make it

Michael Jordan’s daughter Jasmine Jordan is a practicing lesbian. Jordan outed herself on Instagram earlier this week with a series of photos of herself cuddling up to her girlfriend, former Syracuse guard Carmen Tyson-Thomas. The body language in the photos says everything we need to know.
In a very telling post on Instagram, Jasmine wrote: “That little closet is holding me back”.
Jasmine, who previously dated men, is the only daughter of Jordan and his ex-wife Juanita.

http://holakomolafe..com/2013/09/michael-jordans-daughter-comes-out-gay.html

Flytefalls: I like number 12. Raw instinct wrestles against emotional weaknesses in 'psychological abuse' scenarios, but physical abuse needn't be so complicated. It is what it is, and it's never ok.

hmmm,,dats a nice one.

13 Ways to Recognize a Potentially Abusive Relationship.

Have you had a disturbing experience in your current relationship? One that made you wonder what might happen next, if a fight like this one happened again? Or do you just feel a certain dread when thinking about the way your partner will react to a situation? Could it be that your relationship has begun to cross the line from marginal to abusive? Here's how to recognize some of the most common signs, either in your own relationship or that of a friend.

1. Look hard at any incidents that give you an 'uh-oh' feeling. If you've seen or experienced any of the signs listed in the next steps, it is highly likely that you are in an abusive relationship, or one that is about to escalate into an abusive stage.
Note: It is as important to notice these things in a friend's relationship as in your own. Friends stepping in to help prevent an abusive relationship can sometimes be the only way the abused person can see the reality and begin to find ways out.

2. Check how your partner talks about you. Language is a powerful tool; it can also be wielded as a weapon to keep you in line and under the abusive person's "spell". Expressing contempt while still professing love is a sign of danger. Watch for name-calling or insulting remarks.
NOTE:
• If s/he's calling you "stupid," that's bad, and you should call your partner on it, saying that you will not accept being called names like this.

• If s/he's calling you a "stupid b**ch" or a "dumb LovePeddler," that's way over the line.

• Listen to your own internal self-talk. If you start to internalize his/her negative claims about you, you may start telling yourself that you're not good enough, you're not good looking enough, you're not a good person, etc. Recognize this for what it is––his/her mind games to try and get you to put yourself down and feel worthless.

3. See how your partner positions himself/herself in terms of others. If s/he thinks that s/he is the center of the universe and that anything you do is wrong, then you're in danger. A person unable to see their own errors or be willing to own up to mistakes they've made is emotionally unhealthy and liable to cause harm to you.

4. Watch for patterns of intense possessiveness or jealousy. Anyone who gets angry or sulky when you want to go and have a night out with the girls or boys, or who questions you mercilessly any time you're seen talking to a member of the opposite sex is being too possessive. Possessiveness is not cute and sweet when it becomes akin to hoarding. If you feel you're being kept away from friends and relatives, or smothered because you can't go anywhere without your partner, it's borderline abuse. It's also almost always the way abusive relationships get started.

• Notice if your partner gets angry when you spend time with others, even if it's only your own family members.
• Does your partner insist that you go everywhere together and never spend time apart? Be very wary.

5. Watch how s/he treats his/her parents. If your partner is rude or dismissive to his/her own parents, how do you think you and any kids you might have in future will be treated? Remember that, right now, while your relationship is relatively young, your partner is on his/her best behavior. How will things be when s/he no longer feels s/he needs to impress you?

• However, still be vigilant even if your partner is being nice to his/her parents but displays the other signs in this article. In this case, it's highly probable the s/he is very good at covering up abusive behavior around certain people because it's in his/her interest to do so.
Sorry,gotta go, expect the full list soon. Keep reading peeps.

6. Notice if s/he won't take no for an answer. When you have declined an invitation ("Let's go over and hang with Rick and Joni tomorrow night", s/he will not accept it. S/he wheedles, coaxes, begs, sulks, or starts a fight over it, until s/he gets his/her way, and you end up going to the event you have already said you weren't going to.
• This can occur in a range of contexts, including date days and times, clothing you wear, food you eat, etc. An abusive person will often insist that you do things his/her preferred way and won't back down until you agree.

7. Consider whether there is pressure placed on you to change or move faster than you're prepared to. If s/he rushes or pushes you to become more involved at a faster pace than you are comfortable with or demands that you change the way you are, then this is abusive. Not respecting your need to move slowly, trying to guilt or coerce you into something you're not ready for or wanting you to turn into someone you're not is a sign of someone who could potentially become abusive.
• Obviously, this is not always the case––sometimes the emotions are just unbalanced and your partner feels more for you sooner than you do. But if the pushing or rushing feels really uncomfortable, and if it's persistent, or worse, relentless, you need to back him/her off very firmly.
• Part of abuse is establishing control over the relationship––and thereby over you. Pushing constantly for affirmation or for more intimacy, especially early on, can be a sign of the type of insecure behavior that can help create an abusive relationship.


• Signs to watch for include: Saying things like, "I love you," or "You belong to me, and only me" when you've only been dating a few months, especially when accompanied by bizarre interrogations and/or accusations about who you were talking to and where you have been. In terms of wanting you to change, be careful if your partner keeps saying things like "I wish you could be more like X", "You're too much like your mother, you need to change" or "I hate how you look––you could be so much prettier if you only tried/lost weight/dyed your hair, etc."

8. Observe the way arguments proceed. How do you disagree? Calmly, rationally, expressing your feelings and negotiating a resolution that's satisfying to both of you? Or does every disagreement escalate into a huge, hours-long row? Does s/he instantly begin pouting, yelling, or calling names? This can be a clue to bad things in store. Particularly, watch for him/her to shut down into a moody, angry sulk, with the only responses to your complaints a terse, "B**ch", "Effer" or "Stupid ho," or something similar.

9.Note how your partner treats alcohol and drugs. Is s/he using alcohol or drugs to excess? Does your partner become more violent, difficult, nasty and selfish when using drugs or alcohol? Try discussing treatment options with them. Are they willing to quit?! A person who chooses to STAY in a drug- or alcohol-infused state of rage is dangerous, selfish and in need of rehabilitation. You do not deserve to be harmed and s/he is beyond individual help at this stage and needs medical intervention.

10. Consider whether you feel as if you're constantly walking on eggshells. That's what you feel you need to do around him/her, just to be "safe". Is s/he extremely prickly––in other words, can the tiniest disagreement or criticism set him/her off? If so, this person can become abusive in a relationship. You should feel your most relaxed, and your most "yourself" with this person; you should never feel you need to "be careful" of what you say for fear you are going to set him/her off into a long, tiresome, or frightening, tirade. Any time you find yourself watching what you say for fear that s/he'll get angry––again––you should re-evaluate your relationship.
11 . Ask yourself if you're actually afraid of him/her. No matter how much you love your partner, if you're afraid of him/her, you have a problem. You may miss him/her terribly when you're apart (see the note in the Tips below), but actually dread him/her coming home. That's a clue that your relationship has already crossed the line.
• Is your partner unpredictable? This is a classic sign of an abusive person. One moment s/he seems really caring, the next s/he is threatening to kill you. If you never know where you stand with this person, you're in an abusive relationship, be it emotionally or physically expressed, or both.

12.See physical abuse for what it is. If anyone hits you, ever, it's never okay. It's not "for your own good." You didn't "make" him/her hit you or throw a skillet at your head. There are times in most relationships where one partner or the other lashes out physically; contextually, that may be understandable if it is rare and is never violently directed toward you (for example, your partner gets angry enough to kick a trash can, etc). Recognize the difference between someone who might momentarily lose control out of frustration and anger, and someone who simply resorts to physical violence as a means of subduing you.

• In a nutshell, physical violence toward you is never okay. You do not cause anybody to be violent; it is entirely the choice and responsibility of the violence creator and it is always within that person's control to not be violent.
• Threats to hurt you are as bad as physical violence. Regard them seriously and see them as danger signs.
• Violence begets violence. Once the perpetrator has hit, punched or kicked you, it suddenly becomes easier to do it again. This person figures that s/he got away with it, so why not try again. Forgiving someone for hurting you once can open the doorway to being hurt again and again.
• If your partner hurts or injures animals, be very wary. This is a sign of a violent person.


13. Look for combinations of the above. Be sensible here. Just because someone does one or two of these things does not mean s/he is abusive. But when you see several of those signals beginning to emerge and form a pattern, it's time to end that relationship. Patterns of abuse rarely dissolve. Much more usually, they escalate, becoming worse and more dangerous with every day that goes by.


Tips
• Try to notice whether you spend all your time with him/her and let your other relationships go, just to avoid fights. If so, you're becoming overly dependent on that relationship and stuck in his/her power. When you're too dependent, you have no support network for rough times. (However, your partner probably really likes knowing you're utterly dependent on him/her for human contact and that's not good.)
• Most abusers find subtle ways to manipulate you. Either it is to lie about their sobriety to sleep with you, or to brainwash you into thinking every mistake in the relationship is your fault. You can't escape the 'blame games,' no matter what. Get out now!
• Talk to someone if you sense a shift in your relationship from turbulent to scary. If you need to get out, this person can help you move or find a refuge.
• Some abusers use external affairs as a form of control. If s/he is having affairs and states that s/he would rather be with that person knowing full well that you won't leave him/her, this is abuse.

Warnings
• Don't be fooled by his/her promises to change. Let's say you've had a talk one time, and you've said, "I love you, but if you hit me again, I'm gone." S/he tearfully apologizes and promises it will never happen again. Two weeks later, you have another bruise because s/he pushed you into a doorknob really hard. Accept the truth: nothing has changed.And it probably will only change for the worse from here, not for the better.
• If he or she treats waiters or waitresses, taxi drivers, concierges or anyone else in the service industry terribly, walk away. This is a sign that s/he has a mean superiority complex that divides the world into worthies and unworthies and this sense of unworthiness will soon be inflicted on you.
• If you are worried about exhibiting some of these abusive behaviors, get help. Therapists have seen and heard it all, they would much rather work with an honest cooperative person, then a deceitful uncooperative one. You've lived a rough life and need to stop taking it out on others.
• Do not try and tough it out. Leave an abuser at the first sign(s) of any abuse as soon as safely possible. Reach out to at least one trustworthy person when you break up with your abusive partner. Getting trustworthy and safe support from a reliable network of friends, relatives, and so on will help you through the difficult transition.
• File a police report. If you don't have enough time apart from your partner or feel like filing one would put you in danger, go to a safe house. Your goal is to leave and take care of yourself before it gets worse.
• If you leave an abusive partner, and s/he continues to stalk you, see the police immediately to seek a restraining order. It may also be safer to move elsewhere and to change your regular patterns for a while until s/he ceases to be as obsessed with you.


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Richfella: Nice. Super nice!

Thanks

Little kids,Very sticky. They drip a lot. And they mess up our stuff. But we wouldn't trade them for anything in the world. We can't. We're actually not allowed. Most countries have very strict laws against it.
So, since they're still ours for the next 18 or so years, let's learn from them. Here's what children can teach us about happiness. (And, it's technically more things little children can teach us. If you want even more, here's the first list.)
1. They go with their gut. Small children don't spend a lot of time fretting over whether they made the right decision. They'd much prefer to spend time fretting over whether you gave them the right color of cup at lunch.
2. They live in the moment. They don't dwell in the past. They don't worry about the future -- unless they are being told that it's almost bedtime.
3. They believe. Little children believe in the Tooth Fairy, Santa Claus and the power of Band-Aids. If nothing else, trying to peel the backing off the adhesive distracts kids from what ails them. When all else fails, put a Band-Aid on it.
4. They make stuff. They draw. They sculpt. They glue. They paint. They cut anything they can get their hands on. Seriously, keep your scissors hidden and don't say you weren't warned.

5. They dance. Do you know the expression, "Dance like nobody's watching"? They do that. Except for the all the times when they want to make damn sure that someone is watching.
6. They sing. They break into song at the drop of a hat. Anytime. Anywhere. Even in the bathroom. Who are we kidding? Especially in the bathroom.
7. They hum. Little children hum to themselves quite a bit. Why do they hum? Because they can't whistle.
8. They say what they mean. They speak their mind. They don't need to get anything off their chests because they've already said everything they needed to in the first place. If adults did that, there would be a lot less drinking at Thanksgiving.
9. They get excited. They get so excited! (But have a hard time understanding the "future," so be careful when you tell your son his birthday is coming up... in a couple months.)
10. They don't care if it's new. A child's favorite movies are the ones she's seen again and again. Her favorite books are the ones she's been read over and over. And if she has a favorite dress, she'll want to wear it every day. But adults? We're obsessed with new. We want to be the first to eat in a new restaurant, see a new movie or wear a designer's new "It" bag. Adults are really annoying like that.
11. They stop and smell the roses. They're big on smelling things. Of course, the irony is that so many small children aren't potty trained and don't seem to give a sh*t about their own you-know-what.
12. They don't discriminate. Until taught otherwise, they're accepting of everyone. Well, everyone except babies. The number one insult from a small child is being called a "baby."
13. They admit when they're scared. This lets us help them alleviate their fears. Sometimes, the solution is as easy as turning on a night-light. If only all of our fears could be solved by turning on a night-light.
14. They accept compliments. When you give a child a compliment, she'll probably answer with either "thank you," or "I know."
15. They nap. They may go into it kicking and screaming, but most little children nap and wake up new-and-improved. We'd all be a little better off if we napped.
16. They go to bed early. But it's not by choice and it takes a lot of effort on our part because they actually believe the expression "you snooze, you lose."
17. They engage. Psychologist Mihaly Czikszentmihalyi calls immersing oneself fully into an activity the secret to happiness. He calls it "flow." Children often become so deeply engrossed in what they're doing that they don't hear you when you call them. Tip: If they don't answer to their name, try whispering the words "chocolate chip cookie."
18. They march to the beat of their own drum. Literally. Little kids can often be found marching around their houses banging on things.
Really,Life is beautiful and we should enjoy it.


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After expressing her desires to be the first woman to win the Big Brother grand prize since Zambia's Cherise did so seven seasons ago, Dillish has done it for all of Africa's women!

The gorgeous Namibian started her Chase race as the proverbial underdog and was labeled everything from lazy to a pampered princess. As the Chase rolled on however, Dillish quickly emerged as a very strong contender for the Chase title and won her fellow Housemates and Africa over, with her quirky, accented alter ego, aptly titled Princess Dillish.

The Namibian made sure to stay away from trouble and coasted through the Chase by taking her place behind the scenes. While her fellow Housemates got themselves into hot water, fighting and gossiping their way to what they hoped was the top of the mountain, Dillish remained grounded and maintained cordial relations with her fellow Housemates.

The only time the Namibian got herself in a spot of trouble was when she and her good friend, Nigeria's Melvin, had a disagreement after she told her fellow Housemates about a relationship he was involved in, which was less than stellar. Dillish and Cleo proved to all and sundry that women are indeed a force of nature. The two hotties pipped their male counterparts, Elikem and Melvin to the Top 2 while, as well as their close friend Beverly.

Before the big news was delivered, Pebbles the fish surprised all and sundry with one last speech. "On behalf of myself and the other fish, I would like to congratulate you on your amazing feat. You are the specialest ladies in Africa," Pebbles said.

However, one thing is clear! Tonight is Dillish's night and oh whata moment it was! As soon as the Namibian was announced the winner of the Chase, the Namibian broke down in a heap of tears at the realisation that she has a cool USD 300 000 sitting in her bank account. Yes Africa. She came, she saw and she conquered. In heels even! Congratulations to Delicious Dillish!

http://holakomolafe..com/2013/08/winner-namibias-dilish-wins.html

According to votes by 6:58pm Nigerian time.Nigeria's melvin is actually leading the chase.keep crosses. BBA chase.

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Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of Common Wealth Of Zion Assembly this morning in church commented on Ese Walter's accusations. He promised to make an official statement soon. But stylishly commented to his congregation..
"...I am sure you have read a lot about me on Twitter and social networks. You can't imagine how many people have called me...everyone is telling me, don't talk, that is the painful part but because I am your pastor and I don't like to take you for granted, I still want to bend it a little bit to talk about it. Even up until this morning, calls from everywhere, even when I switch off my phone, they call my associates, tell him to ignore it, he should just move on. Some have been to our land and they are like wow, we understand"

Church erupts into clapping & shouting...Continue..


Pastor Fatoyinbo continues...
"Now read my lips, I know there are people here that are not part of our church, read my lips, we are going to speak but we are consulting to come out with a robust reply. Before then I will not say anything, but I owe it to you as members that have made me proud and have made God proud"
Church erupts into clapping & shouting.....
"One thing you can be sure of is that my wife and I love u."
Church erupts into clapping & shouting.....
"Now you may sit down and say, why would they tell you that, in the first place. From this pulpit there are some things we don't say. Maybe you remember that 2 years ago, we lost somebody in our family, I came to church, I preached, I danced, I didn't say it. That was even deeper for me because my destiny is not in anybody's hand...that loss was deeper for me than even this and I didn't talk so don't think it is a makeup. That is what we have been asked to do. When we asked God, God said be quiet. Thank you"
Church erupts into clapping & shouting............Ends

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As the pastor sef come fine nko,moreover dem suppose 'respect' pastor nah.

which one be end time again o

Some fans are really desperate these days sha, first it was a fan that wants to kiss Annie Idibia now this one wants to lick Emaa .hmmm.

http://holakomolafe..com/2013/08/crazy-fan-to-emma-nyra-feel-like.html

Like seriously this scandal is getting messier and more real by the day first it was Ese’s story if you have not read it the link is available. Recently after Ese kissed and told, another lady who refused to print her full names has confirmed Ese’s story and she claims she has evidence!!!! Yeepa. The lady whose name is Franca wrote this below:
This Ese Walters story is true. I was introduced to the church in Abuja by my childhood friend, who moved to Abuja from Calabar two years before I did. When I joined, she was also a PCU worker. I really felt welcome in the church up until my friend started having problems with other women. She told me it was because Pastor Biodun trusted her with so many official things even above workers that were there before her. I believed her until the day she had an misunderstanding with another worker who called her ‘Ashewo Mary Magdalene’ in the church. After that, her enthusiasm for church started waning while mine was getting stronger till the day she told me she was leaving the church and shortly after she left.
By that time, Pastor Biodun had developed an interest in counseling me and then started telling me to take my friends place as a PCU worker. I was reluctant because I didnt feel like coming to church early and leaving late but Pastor Zbiodun assured me that his personal driver will pick me and drop me off and so I agreed. I started work as arranged but after a while, I noticed that the pastor did not respect personal space when talking to me when we were alone.
He would stand soooooo close and rub my upper arms or my back which made me very uncomfortable. The final straw was when he said I should go with him to Lagos to take notes and transfer same online immediately for some Pentacostal thing he was attending and he knew I was very computer literate. I was excited till we reached Lagos and I realized that only one room was booked at the Wheatbaker Hotel, Ikoyi. Of course I complaint and the Pastor called the front desk ( or pretended to) to demand for another room. He said they would call back when the room was ready. He then told me to help massage his back becos he has back ache from sitting on the flight. I said I was tired since it was already after 8. He then insisted I lay down on the bed to rest while waiting. I said I preferred to sit at the desk and he laughed saying that I was acting like a small girl or a village uneducated girl. He then went in to take a shower. I then called the front desk to remind then about the extra room. I wasn’t surprised when I was told that they had vacant rooms and that nobody had requested for an extra room. By this time, I knew what was up and was ready for the fool. I opened his pouch and saw his wallet which had his lisence.
Took a picture of the wallet and the Lisence on the pillow on the bed with my head in the shot. I opened the door and took several pictures of myself, the wallet and the Lisence with the room number. Came back in, once I heard the shower stop, I started audio recording on my BB.
He came out with a towel around his waist and started telling me how attracted he was to me. He said many deregatory things about his wife, calling her a postcard…pretty on the outside but flat and empty upstairs. He said sex with her was like having sex with a cold dead fish…he tried tokiss me and I stood up, picked up my travelling bag, moved to the door, opened it and quickly took a picture of him, standing with a towel around him. He started begging. I called him all sorts of names and insisted he give me money for a separate room or I would scream ‘rape’.
To cut a long story short, he asked me to shut the door, I refused, he brought out 2 bundles of N1000 and asked me to delete before he gives me the money.
I told him he was in no position to negotiate. Got the money, left the Randy goat with a deflated erection and checked into another room. First thing the next morning, I left for ABJ. By the way, remember my childhood friend that introduced me to COZA? I narrated my experience to her and she confessed that she was sleeping with Biodun for over a year, even on his marital bed when his wife travelled. Oga Pastor, try and deny my story publicly and see American wonder….I still have the pictures and our conversation on tape. Thank God for technology!!!!!!
Franca E.


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