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Hello Friend,

Am sure if I asked you to send me details of what you have done to lose weight,
it would be a lot to read ;
for some persons it could be weird stories ;
All these have been done to lose weight!

Weight loss has continued to be elusive ..

2 basics of weight loss

Most adults will claim they are aware of what they need to eat to achieve a healthy, balanced diet

but at a loss to what they will do to Burn Fat

You need to do two things for the later :


Stimulate metabolism
Optimize fat burning

these are however simple (to the professional ) but million dollar concepts ;

There is a third ; which holds the secret

The secret to weight loss

''they told me what type of food my body needs to lose weight'' she continued ..”
''that is the correct program for weight loss ; stick to it'' : I admonished
The excerpt above represents my discussion with my in-law who called in from the U.S to
seek my opinion on her new weight loss regimen

That is the secret

Fat loss programs should be personalized
Different persons have different body physique and genetic constitution

You Need to know what works uniquely for you ;
Which foods , asides the generality , do you need to put in your body to burn fat ?
Don't get me wrong ; there are the basics; which apply to all

There are the General two rules ; and there is the third




Yours in fat loss
Dr Maduako


P.S The F.D.A in the U.S ( equivalent of NAFDAC) recently approved the use of the Maestro Rechargeable System, as an obesity device
, targets the nerve pathway between the brain and the stomach that controls feelings of hunger and fullness.
It is approved to treat patients aged 18 and older who have not been able to lose weight with a weight loss program ,
and who have a body mass index (BMI) of 35 to 45 with at least one other obesity-related condition, such as type 2 diabetes.

Hello Health Conscious friend,
Almost all of us will make a New Year’s resolution
to improve an aspect of our health.
After the overindulgence of Christmas, many people see the new year
as an opportunity for self-improvement.
Below are some of the most common New Year health resolutions .
Lose weight
Quit smoking
Get Fit
Eat more fruit and vegetables
Floss Your Teeth
Like many people, you may not know that bacteria in your mouth

can lead to serious problems if you neglect oral health.

You may also be surprised to learn that during routine exams,

your dentist can spot indications of diabetes and heart disease.

One simple thing you can do to head off bacteria is floss your teeth.
Increase Antioxidants
When your body breaks down food it produces molecules called free radicals.
Cigarette smoke and radiation also produce free radicals.

Over time, the damage from these substances can result in
conditions like infection, cancer, inflammation, and heart disease.

That's where antioxidants step in. How you can sum up their role:
Once you cut an apple, it begins to turn brown, but if you dip it in orange juice,
which contains vitamin C (an antioxidant),
it stays white.
You can defend your body the same way by including rich sources in your diet.

Yours in Wellness
Dr Maduako

r Health Conscious Friend ,

If our entire bodies are replaced within a few years ,
as science has PROVEN ,
then how can it be that degeneration or illness remains in our bodies for years ?
It can be held there by

by thought,
by observation of the illness ,
and by the attention given to the illness
Think thoughts of perfection .

Illness cannot exist in a body that has harmonious thoughts.

Imperfect thoughts are the cause of all humanity's ills , including disease,
poverty and unhappiness ..

What is the Challenge ??

THERE IS A SOLUTION

stayhealthy:
Thanks a lot
Maintaining muscles requires taking enough protein right?
Taking lots of water and dividing your meals into smaller meals help to boost metabolism as I've read.

Hi ,
Muscles respond to the law of Lamarck ''use and disuse atrophy ''
The more muscles are exercised(used ) , the more they hypertrophy
and shed the accompanying fat cells as well as increase their ability to burn fat and use energy.
The aforementioned increases the fat burning ability of the body even at rest ..
the body is turned into a fat burning furnance ; allowing for some indulgencies ......
a succint example is the athlete who eats a big bowl of starch and food but
finds it difficult to add weight ; rather he remains trim and fit ...
the body has been turned into a fat burning furnance ....
courtesy of the hypertrophied muscles ..
Yes the muscles needs protein to function intrinsically ,
but that must come after the muscles have been put into use ( their level of metabolism has been raised )
otherwise you would end up adding more fat cells to the muscle .
PS :DON'T PUT ONLY ONE MUSCLE GROUP IN USE
Remember persons who do sit ups only and end up having a firm(underneath) FAT belly ....

stayhealthy:
Yes ...thanks a lot!
and a calorie deficit of 3500 is equivalent to losing one pound
I'm on a 1200 calorie diet ..and that's without the cardio
Good right?

Yes you're pretty right ; 3500 caloric deficit is equivalent to the loss of a pound ;
but you have to be careful so that you don't lose muscle mass
That would be counter productive ;
Your muscles represent some shape to you and the ability of the body to
[b]Burn fat , even at Rest
Dont toy with your muscles[/b]

How do you preserve your muscles and continue with your weight loss plan ?
Simple
You have to know your caloric maintenance value
That is the caloric intake that will keep you at your present weight
Decrease intake below it to lose weight ; or increase muscular activity and
take in the maintanance caloric value or slightly higher, to burn fat : even at rest
and have some indulgencies .

How do you determine your caloric maintenance ?

In case it’s not obvious enough, calorie maintenance levels are
different for everyone because we all have different daily calorie requirements.
It’s not like everyone with a certain goal or body type has the same maintenance
level or anything like that.
Instead, your calorie maintenance level is dependent on many factors that are
specific to you and your exact situation.
These factors include:

• Height, Gender
• Weight
• Age
• Activity level
• Metabolic Rate
• Thermic Effect Of Food
• Non-Exercise Activity Thermo genesis (NEAT)
Your specific calorie maintenance level is tailored to you and you alone.
Even if you are the same age, height and weight as someone and have
the exact same activity level and goals as they do, you can both still have
very different calorie maintenance levels and daily calorie requirements in general.
Luckily though, there are a few quick and easy ways to get an accurate estimate of
what your daily calorie maintenance level is.
Here are my favorite methods…
Method #1: Body Weight (lbs) x 14-17 = Estimated Daily Calorie Maintenance Level
Just take your current body weight in pounds and multiply it by 14 and 17.
Somewhere in between those 2 amounts will usually be your daily calorie maintenance level.

You can equally use this method:
Multiply your weight (in pounds) by
12 if you have a sedentary lifestyle,
14 if you are moderately active (you work out 3-4 times/week),
or 16 if you are very active (5-7 times/week).
Kindly note the relationship between kilograms and pounds: 1 pound =0.4kg;
So to convert your weight in kilograms to pounds, divide your weight in kilograms by 0.4
Cheers

stayhealthy:
hello ..

I've been on a weight loss regime for 91 days now ...today is day 92... I decided to keep an online journal this month to encourage those struggling with weight loss.


I'm 6ft 5 inches tall
at the beginning of my journey (day 1) , I weighed 105 kg (232 pounds) which placed me above the "overweight" margin on BMI calculations...with my height, I looked really huge.

well I'm proud to say right now (day 92) I weigh 84 kg (185 pounds)....perfect weight.... which wasn't so easy to accomplish I tell you...... perseverance is the key.. one day at a time.

at least no one can see me as "plump" anymore

I also engaged in weight training and lots of abdominals

so I'm noticing moderate muscular definition which I'm satisfied with...


....I'm also starting to see the outline of my abs better and better everyday

and that brings me to my target for this month

I want to lose a little more weight to enable my abs get more pronounced

5kg should do the trick ..I intend to lose the final 5kg this month so I enter the new year ... with my goals accomplished

I shall write everything I eat, and all my exercise here

wish me luck

Yes i wish you all the best of luck but i would like to tell
you about what has worked for
me , worked for thousands of persons and is based
on scientiic proof and evidence ...Weight loss
comes down to two essential elements ; caloric input versus caloric expenditure
the thrid very important factor is the intrinsic thermogenic ability of the body
that is the metabolism of the body ..
All three factors can be modulated to achieve and maintain the ideal weight .

lalasticlala:
Today, across the globe, the World Health Organisation (WHO) encourages all to join in the fight against the spread of the dreaded Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome (AIDS). In doing this, it seeks to close the gap between people who have access to HIV prevention, treatment, care and support services and people who are being left behind.

Many are afraid of going for HIV taste, while those that have the virus are afraid of stigmatisation.

It's advised that one should go for HIV test as earlier detection helps to manage the virus.

Help stop the stigmatisation of People Living With HIV-AIDS.

Help in the fight against the spread of HIV-AIDS.

Go and get tested today if you don't know your status.

Today i delievered a lecture on the theme '' getting to zero; zero new HIV infections '' it is most unfortunate that in this era of advancement in science and HIV studies , children would still be born with HIV ; this is largely due to ignorance on the necessity to comply with the HHART when prescribed to the HIV positive mother .. on the other hand , it can be due to poor accessibility to these HHART

centje:
BURNS

Children,mentally unstable people,light skin and albinos are mostly affect.

Causes:
Fire, hot water, electricity, chemicals, sun ray, lighting.

Pointers:
Severe pain,red skin, peeling or blistering of skin (blackened,if caused by electricity), watery fluid from the affected part, swelling of the affected part.

WHAT TO DO:

* Remove the heat source or the person from the heat source.

* Remove his clothing if it contains the source of the burn

* Use running cool water (but not cold,so no ice pack) to cool the affected part for about 20minutes or immerse the affected part in water...this reduces inflammation and swelling.
Beer or soft drink can be used if water is not available.

* apply first aid gel (if available) to the affected part.

* Remove any ornamentals, jewelries, watches or tight clothing (these maybe difficult to remove when the affect part swells.

* If the person is a victim of burning house...
bring him out in the open space for fresh air...
Check his airway and breathing and clear nose/mouth.
Do CPR, if unconscious or breathing is bad.

If the person is feeling faint,lay him down.

If clothing is on fire...
Cover the flames with coat or blanket and set the person onto the ground to remove oxygen from the burning area.



DON'Ts:

# don't break blisters or remove peeled skin

# don't remove any fabric stuck to a burn

#don't apply creams,ointment or lotion...it can lead to infection

#don't immerse severely burnt area in cold water.


PREVENTION OF BURNS

# install fire or gas leak alarm in the house or workplace

# have fire extinguisher installed in an easily accessible corner of the house.

# put gas cylinders outside the house and well protected from reach of children

# use silk paint instead of oil paint on the walls

# switch off any electical appliance after use.

# always keep hot water or chemicals on the floor but not in pathway. And store chemicals properly.

# albinos, when under the sun, should wear clothing well covering the body and use umbrella and sun shade.

I must add that the fire extinguishers must be valid ; have a maintenance and check plan as well as train the occupants of the house on the use of the fire extinguisher..
what to do in the event of fire must equally be streamlined and discussed .

LEERICIST:
This is a pretty long writeup meant to enlighten youths who dread pot belly in the future.

Note: Your six packs doesn't guarantee you to be pot belly free although it's an added advantage for them ladies

[b]Pot bellies have, for generations,
been associated with excessive
intake of beer and other alcoholic
drinks. However, experts have shed
light on this, saying that pot belly
is a hereditary problem which,
when given the right environment, manifests in a man.

It is usually the practice in many communities to make
fun of men with pot bellies, considering that big bellies
are mostly seen in pregnant women. Some even attribute
these big bellies to excessive alcohol consumption and
the fact that such men eat a lot of meat.

Why some men have pot belly is a question that many
wonder about, especially because hardly is it seen in
young men, or even in those still in active sporting
activities such as football and athletics. But not to
worry: experts, looking into the phenomenon have found
that pot belly in men is a hereditary attribute rather
than a problem, arising from alcohol consumption.

Well, a study to shed light on this has revealed that
although, people who drink regularly are more likely to
put on weight, they do not necessarily accumulate fat
around the belly regions.

While the experts believed that the study provided an
empirical basis for the common belief that beer drinking
and waist circumference were positively associated, they
declared: “In terms of the beer belly belief, an
explanation could be that all the observed beer bellies in
the population result from the natural variation in fat
patterning and not from the fact of drinking beer.”

The scientists who undertook this study looked at beer
consumption, weight and body measurements in almost
20,000 people on two occasions over a period of eight
years. Age, smoking, education, physical activity and
several other chronic diseases were also taken into
account by the researchers. Men who were classed as the
heaviest drinkers regularly consumed over a litre of beer
a day.

It found that increased beer consumption over time was
linked with increased waist circumference, particularly for
men. However, once a person’s overall weight was taken
into account, the importance of these associations
disappeared, thus suggesting that any weight gain from
beer is distributed all over the body, rather than being
concentrated around the waist.

The team’s conclusion, in the study published in the
European Journal of Clinical Nutrition, was that genetic
factors dictate how people put on weight far more
significantly than drinking beer. Though they argued
that beer bellies are actually caused by genes rather
than heavy alcohol consumption, they insisted that their
findings do not mean that drinking should be
encouraged, and recommend giving up alcohol
completely to avoid gaining weight.

Some cases were linked to stress. A hormone called
cortisol, released during stress response, was implicated
in developing belly fat.

Potbelly in many individuals may be an attestation to
their poor eating habits. A man that eats lots of food
and does little exercise is likely to develop a potbelly. It
is also a function of body shape and gender.

For instance, in middle-aged women, hormone loss
seems to play a role in its development after 40. As
women lose oestrogen, the female hormone, weight
gathers in the midsection.

Potbelly is due to over-indulgence in all sorts of food.
Even if you have a genetic trait for being fat, if you take
to your doctor’s advice early enough, it is possible to
prevent pot belly occurring.

A lot of reasons such as consumption of a diet rich in
sugar, fat and alcohol intake over time, can lead to
someone having a pot belly. Evidences point to the fact
that those with pot belly stand a higher risk of
developing diabetes and other cardiovascular diseases
such as stroke and heart disease.

Though some people are genetically predisposed to
being fat, when such people indulge in taking unhealthy
diet and live a sedentary lifestyle, the individual may be
setting a foundation to developing pot belly and other
cardiovascular diseases such as stroke and heart disease
and thus, such people can die young from complications
associated with these health conditions.

Potbelly could also be suggestive of other hidden
diseases that are yet to manifest such as liver problem.
Pot belly can occur in someone that has liver disease
that stated for more than six months due to collection
of water or fluid in their belly. It could be so big that
when people see the man, many people may think it is a
sign of good living.

Experts are of the opinion that the more beer you drink
the more weight you gain. Beer and other alcoholic
drinks are high in calories and will contribute to weight
gain if taken in excessive amounts. Meanwhile, excess
weight gain is detrimental to health in numerous other
ways.

In terms of public health relevance, the researchers said,
“Our data provided only limited evidence for a site-
specific effect of beer drinking on waist circumference,
and beer consumption seems to be rather associated
with an increase in overall body fatness. It may be
therefore important to focus on beer abstention to
maintain body weight.”

Having a pot belly is not really worth it. Apart from the
possibility of this predisposing to health problems like
cancer, high blood pressure, diabetes and stroke,
experts have linked it with cognitive decline as one gets
older.

Abundant evidence shows exercise can help with pot
belly. The benefits of exercise may sound too good to be
true, but decades of solid science confirm that half an
hour of moderately intense physical activity in a day can
help you avoid a host of serious ailments, including heart
disease, diabetes, depression, and several types of
cancer, particularly breast and colon cancers. Regular
exercise can also help one sleep better, reduce stress,
control one’s weight, brighten one’s mood, sharpen
one’s mental functioning, and improve one’s sex life. In a
nutshell, exercise can help maintain a health and well-
being.[/b]

Let me ask a question ; have you ever seen those men who till the road laying cables for upwards of 50kilometers have pot bellies ? the answer is no ... pot bellies result when you have excess calories than you burn ; it is in the natural process of adding weight ; now why the tommy , you are not adding height again , the only place fat can be added is at the waist line and tommy ...it is not alcohol per say ;; it is the caloric intake ; let me ask ; what does alcohol contain ... Energy , carbohydrates , A LOT OF MEN AND WOMEN FORGET THAT ALCOHOL IS ''FOOD'' WHATEVER YOUR PLATE OF EBA WILL GIVE YOU IS WHAT THAT BOTTLE OF BEER WOULD GIVE YOU ; which implies that of excess food can give you weight ; alcohol can do likewise .. serious talk ; sceintific talk

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centje:
ACUTE ASTHMA

Asthma is regarded as a chronic inflammation of the airway which tend to cause muscle spasm,increase mucus secretion and cause narrowing of the airway. Hence the breathlessness the sufferers experience. Its usually triggered by a factor.

Common triggers:
Chest infection,pollen,dust,fur,smoke,fumes from frying oil,cold,exercise,excessive emotions...


Pointers:
_Breathlessness
_difficulty in speech
_chest tightness
_Wheezing
_Persistent cough
_Poor skin colour


¤ Mild attack:


Short of breath, wheeze, cough, chest tightness.



¤ Moderate attack:
Loud wheeze, breathing difficulties, can only speak in short sentences.



¤ Severe attack:
Distressed, gasping for breath, difficulty speaking two words, blueness around the mouth.

WHAT TO DO:

* Remove the person from source of triggering factor

* Rest the person,usually the person sits up,leans forward with his hand on a table or on his knees.

* Administer his reliever medication,one puff at a time (usually one minute interval), use spacer if available,especially for a child.

* Give 3 puffs (mild attack) then 6-8 puffs (severe attack) waiting for a minute between each puff and, if no improvement, repeat after 4 to 6 minutes(depending on the severity).

* Rush to hospital or call paramedic,if these measures are not helpful.



HOW TO GIVE THE PUFFS

#1. Using the inhaler with spacer...

*Remove cap and shake inhaler well.



* Insert inhaler into spacer.



*Have the person breathe out completely and put mouth tightly around spacer mouthpiece.



*Press inhaler once to deliver a puff.

Have the person breathe in slowly through the mouth and then hold breath for 10 seconds.



* Give a total of 4 puffs( for mild attack) or 6-8 puffs (for severe attack), waiting about a minute between each puff.



#2. Using Inhaler Without a Spacer...

*

Remove the inhaler cap and shake well.

*

Have the person breathe out all the way and seal lips tightly around inhaler mouthpiece.



* As the person starts to breathe in slowly, press down on inhaler one time.

The person should keep breathing in as slowly and deeply as possible (about five to seven seconds) and then hold breath for 10 seconds.

*

Give a total of four puffs ( for mild attack) and 6 to 8 puffs( for severe attack), waiting about one minute between each puff.

* After each set of the 4 or 6 puffs, wait for 4 or 6 minutes (depending on the severity). If the person still has trouble breathing, give another set of 4 or 6 puffs.

*

If there’s still little or no improvement, repeat the steps

until ambulance arrives or hospital is reached.

[ Remember to start CPR when the need arises ]

In the management of acute severe asthma , it is most important we start from health promotion and prevention efforts for the asthmatic ; in this case , the asthmatic should be on his routine inhaled coricosteriod and brochodilator ; this in addition to abstaining from all triggers reduces tremendously the frequency of attacks .. and of course the severity ... every asthmatiic is advised to pick up (buy ) a Nebulizer which can be used if the asthmatic exercerbation is not controlled with the traditional Ventolin .. it is not expensive ... cheers

centje:
SEIZURE

This is commoner in children and epileptics.
Note that seizure can occur without convulsion or loss of consciousness.

Pointers:
_unresponsiveness _staring without blink _twitching involuntarily _fall to the floor _rigidity _loss of bladder or bowel control _foaming in the mouth


WHAT TO DO:

* The goal is to keep the person from injury until the seizure stops or until the person is taken to hospital

* BE CALM (mothers tend to loose their composure in this situation) it's important to be calm and reassure other people who may be nearby.

* Loosen any tight cloth or necklace around the person's neck

* Remove any dangerous object around the person even furniture. If in public,clear people around.

* Time the seizure,note when it started and when it stopped. Also observe the character of the seizure (the doctor will ask you all these in the hospital )

* Don't try to restrict the person's movement or hold him down,unless he moves towards a dangerous object.

* However,if if twitch is not violent...you can cushion his head. Turn him to his side(to prevent choking from saliva or fall back of his tongue). Keep the person airway open by gripping his jaw and gently tilting his head back.

* If the person is a child...tepid sponge his body with cold towel

Call the paramedic or rush to hospital.

For Epileptics...

* Rush the person to hospital if it lasts for more than 5mins otherwise allow the seizure to resolve on its own.

* As soon as the seizure ends,quickly roll the person onto his side,open and clear his airway and mouth.

* Allow the person to sleep until fully recovered.but check for reflex responds every few minutes. However,if he does not wake within 10mins or not breathing well,then seek medical attention.


DON'Ts

Do not put anything (not even drug) into the person's mouth during the seizure or immediately after,unless fully conscious. It's wrong practice to put spoon into the child's mouth during the seizure.

For seizues in adults , it will be most pertinent to mention that head injuries earlier in life could predispose one to the occurrence of seizures ;; this is worth noting given the lacadesical manner Nigerians care for their skull ; this is always evident in the propensity to break bottles on heads : amongst the violent youth ; the recalcitrant okada rider who has decided not to use his protective helmet etc ..
For children , every convulsive episode reduces the intelligence quotient of the child , for them, all fevers MUST be abated especially between the ages of 6months to 6 years ..

dreydee:
The average Nigerian man does 5 out of these everyday in his work place

that is the puzzle ; why do you think the average Nigerian man grapples with ''pot belly '' ?
the answer lies in the caloric maintenance ; we eat most times , more than our caloric maintenance and our level of metabolism is left at the
lowest ebb... so poor ; you can do all the work outs but if you don't address that , you will be pushing against the brick wall

kemiola89:
Nice tips! Does walking a long distance also count as exercise?

what matters in walking as a form of exercise is the amount of calories you burn : casual walking is totally different from brisk walking ;
i know we are all familiar with the cliche ; i work a lot in my garden , i dont know why i have not lost weight > the answer is simple ;
you are not burning enough calories because you are you are allowing a rest period while you are walking ... and unfortunately , your intake is ,most times, more than your output

ayobase:
came across this months back somewhere.......those are the cures to fitness........na swimming remain for me now.

Swimming is about the most effective exercise regimen which caters for all categories of persons ; for the other exercises ; one with certain health conditions would not be advised to participate ; but not for swimming .. you have healer in swimming ..
cheers .

e be like you wan date ''woman'' in the name of a shy guy .. wake up , in as much as i don't subscribe to the all the time partying and smoking , there is time for everything , including social activities ... any man who is that way, you have described is not a man yet ,,,, he is still a boy , probably still in school . if he is in this country , then he would have become a Man by fir and by force ..

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DExplorer1: After I wrote crazy ways to spark up your relationship , the feedback revealed that most men wouldn’t do some domestic duties that comes with maintaining their relationship regardless of the situation. It made me wonder how various relationships would survive where there are segregated responsibilities or roles that men MUST not take. Just as I believe in ego, I also believe that some things if occasionally done doesn’t kill a man’s ego – they only cause maximum effect – they brightens the union and quickens the connection. The general problem in relationships often commences when our partner fails in their supposed responsibilities. For instance, if a woman’s “compulsory” duty is to make breakfast and dinner, what happens the day she comes home late and tired? Would she still go ahead and prepare the meal? Remember she made breakfast before leaving and not making the dinner was probably an occurrence she couldn’t control. Now, here is the logic: the time that would take you, the man, to wait and rant about that unusual lateness, the meal of you-two would have been ready and served. Let me make this clear, when your partner does something unusual, the best you can do is to manage the situation with some considerations. There are issues that could be properly managed in a relationship with good understanding of the situation and your ability to do that makes her respect your personality the more. The ways to a woman’s heart is NOT necessary the gifts, flowers and whatnot, it could be your sense of understanding, judgment or your response or reaction to issues that affects her. Now, let’s look into 30 things men must know and these points I gathered from my years of consistent counseling.

1 - A LITTLE “THANK YOU” COULD STRENGTHEN HER.

2 - EVEN WHEN SHE KNOWS SHE’S BEAUTIFUL, SHE WOULD LIKE TO HEAR IT FROM YOU SOMETIMES.

3 - A LITTLE KITCHEN HELP KILLS NO EGO.

4 - EVERY LADY WANTS A MAN THAT CAN PROTECT HER – SHE NEEDS TO BE SAFE AROUND YOU!

5 - TO SOME LADIES, COLLECTING MONEY FROM YOU IS JUST YOUR LITTLE COMMITMENT TO THE RELATIONSHIP AND NOT A DO OR DIE THING.

6 - ANY LADY THAT REMINDS YOU OF HER EX WAS NEVER INTO YOU.

7 - YOU NEVER CAN WIN A LADY’S HEART BY SPENDING, IF YOU DO, THERE’S A BETTER SPENDER TOO.

8 - JUST AS YOU’VE GOT A WEAKNESS, SHE DOES TOO. HENCE, YOU MANAGE HERS, SHE MANAGE YOURS.

9 - YOU CAN PUSH A LADY TO A BREAKING POINT BUT WHEN SHE DOES, SHE’S NEVER THE SAME PERSON YOU KNEW.

10 - WHEN SHE STARTS KEEPING SECRETS, THERE’S SOMETHING YOU’VE DONE WRONG.

11 - SHE’S NEVER TO PAY THE BILLS, AND IF ANYTIME SHE DOES, SHE’S NOT TO CONTINUE PAYING.

12 – SOMETIMES, LISTENING TO HER OPINION CONFIRMS HER POSITION IN THE RELATIONSHIP.

13 - BEING HER MAN IS NOT JUST PROTECTING HER AT HOME BUT EVEN FROM YOUR FAMILY.

14 - ON A FIRST DATE, PULLING DOORS AND CHAIRS IS PART OF A GENTLEMAN’S DEAL, JUST DO IT!

15 - IF YOU LOVE KIDS, YOU’RE SURE WINNING HER OVER.

16 - INTIMACY IS NOT ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL SATISFACTION, SHE MUST BE SATISFIED TOO.

17 - IF SHE DOESN’T RESPECT YOU, SHE WON’T RESPECT YOUR FAMILY.

18 - THE SPOT YOU MET A LADY COULD TELL A LOT ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP AND ITS FUTURE.

19 - IF SHE BRINGS HER FRIENDS HOME OFTEN, IT’S NO JACKPOT, IT’S A FIDELITY TEST!

20 - YOU SHOULD KNOW WHAT TURNS YOUR WOMAN ON; WOMEN AREN’T THE SAME IN BED.

21 - DON’T REPLACE SEEING HER WITH REGULAR CALLING AND TEXT MESSAGES; YOUR PRESENCE KEEPS HER SAFE.

22 - SOMETIMES YOU DON’T TRY TO WIN AN ARGUMENT, LET HER HAVE HER WAY - SHE COULD DISCOVER HER FOLLY.

23 - EVERY LADY HAS A BEAST IN HER, IT’S EITHER YOU CAGE IT OR UNLEASH IT.

24 - IF SHE DOESN’T LOVE YOU AND HER FAMILY DOES, IT’S NO COMPENSATION, LET HER BE!

25 - YOUR POTENTIAL IS NOT A GUARANTEE THAT SHE WOULD STAY WITH YOU, WORK HARD AND CONVERT IT TO SUBSTANCE.

26 - WHAT YOU DID TO GET HER, YOU MUST CONTINUE DOING IT TO KEEP HER ELSE YOU LOSE HER.

27 - SOMETIMES HER BODY LANGUAGE COULD BE DIFFERENT FROM HER SPOKEN WORDS, TRY TO DECERN.

28 - TO ALWAYS IMPRESS A LADY WITHOUT SPOKEN WORDS, DRESS WELL!

29 - IF YOUR HANDSOMENESS BROUGHT HER CLOSER TO YOU, THAT’S A FLING!

30 - MARRIAGE SHOULD NOT BE A PRISON FOR HER, ALLOW HER EXPLORE HER POTENTIALS, REMEMBER, SHE’S GOT AMBITIONS BEFORE SHE MARRIED YOU.

31 – IF YOU TELL HER NOT TO WORK BECAUSE YOU’VE GOT MONEY, WHEN YOU’RE BROKE, YOU WOULD CALL HER – LAZY!

32 – AWAY FROM PERSONAL WISDOM AND EFFORTS IN THE RELATIONSHIP, DON’T FORGET PRAYING TOGETHER!

A safe landing I guess? Yeah! In my active experiences as a relationship coach, I’ve gathered these important points which would be updated regularly. There is this excessive applaud that goes along with being a man. This has shut the mind of so many men from lowering some standards or compromising even if little. So many men wants to win in their relationships at the expense of the happiness in the union. So many men are powerfully driven by ego even at the detriment or pain of their partner. So many men wouldn’t listen, so many men are aggressive and arrogant. The fact remain that, in a relationship, the real man is the growing man; not a static or one-sided oriented person who wouldn’t adjust his status when needed or compromise when necessary for the happiness of the union. When we say, a woman is a weaker vessel; it doesn’t mean she’s weak in the brain or hands – it only means, more than you imagine, she needs strength from you. How you handle her will determine how she handles you. And if at all you’ve been really bad to her and she has been good still, you’re only pushing her toward a break-down where you would no longer have the same woman you once knew. Allow me stop here; this isn’t a book . . . LOL! For the ladies, please read 16 Raw Truths Ladies Must Know. Happy living!

SOURCE: http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2013/12/32-things-men-must-know.html

there is nothing like love me as i am , that way you are , if they other party is not interested , she or he would not have to change her perception ,,, she or he has to look for another person that suits him or her ....

mcdokwe: Often times, we do meet people and fall in love with them despite their many shortcomings. Unfortunately, most books and articles we read these days tell us not to try to change people we are in a relationship with. This has however become the undoing of many unhappy relationships and marriages today, as people don't want to be CHANGED.
The fact is that someone can get committed to a terrible flirt, a drunkard, criminal, an abusive man, nagging woman and other shortcomings, but no one would want to have to cope with your vices for life.

I am of the honest belief that we get into people's life to impact them and bring about a positive behaviour in them even though that shouldn't be motivated by the desire to change the person. Such behaviour modification should come about with love and openness between both parties.

If you happen to have an undesirable character your partner is having a hard time coping with, make yourself amenable to change unless you want your partner to be unhappy thereby making yourself unhappy too. (Now that is a horrible decision to make) friendship should be fun and when it is not, it should be two people commonly dealing with a challenge and not people struggling to stay together.

The truth about it is that sex is the oil for any relationship ;; that is the way The creator made it ..... when a woman is starved of sex , she nags , she is unfriendly but give a woman love and good love making , you see her come alive ... the issue lies with the inability of most men to perform ... it takes the avarage woman some more time to come up to the arousal level ... at which time , most men have finished .....so frustrating ...cheers

babyBB: Guys pls I need ur sincere opinions

i dont think that is a rented crowd ; there will definitely be a big battle between APC and PDP in Kano

wasak: Rented crowd.