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With the election fast approaching and the campaign trail catching fire,we can only wait till the 14th.....but before then lets see how our ogas @ the top will fare.

click here to cast your vote: http://targetdex..com/2015/01/nigeria-decides-2015.html
No rigging o!! smiley

With the election fast approaching and the campaign trail catching fire,we can only wait till the 14th.....but before then lets see how our ogas @ the top will fare.

click here to cast your vote: http://targetdex..com/2015/01/nigeria-decides-2015.html
No rigging o!! smiley

With the election fast approaching and the campaign trail catching fire,we can only wait till the 14th.....but before then lets see how our ogas @ the top will fare.

click here to cast your vote: http://targetdex..com/2015/01/nigeria-decides-2015.html
No rigging o!! smiley

With the election fast approaching and the campaign trail catching fire,we can only wait till the 14th.....but before then lets see how our ogas @ the top will fare.

click here to cast your vote: http://targetdex..com/2015/01/nigeria-decides-2015.html
No rigging o!! smiley

With the election fast approaching and the campaign trail catching fire,we can only wait till the 14th.....but before then lets see how our ogas @ the top will fare.

click here to cast your vote: http://targetdex..com/2015/01/nigeria-decides-2015.html
No rigging o!! smiley

With the election fast approaching and the campaign trail catching fire,we can only wait till the 14th.....but before then lets see how our ogas @ the top will fare.

click here to cast your vote: http://targetdex..com/2015/01/nigeria-decides-2015.html
No rigging o!! smiley

With the election fast approaching and the campaign trail catching fire,we can only wait till the 14th.....but before then lets see how our ogas @ the top will fare.

click here to cast your vote: http://targetdex..com/2015/01/nigeria-decides-2015.html
No rigging o!!

Monday, 26 January 2015

Top 10 energy efficient countries in the world

The price of a barrel of oil had dropped to $45.71, something financial experts had absolutely no reason to anticipate. However, even as oil prices continue to bottom out, the overall trend is to move towards energy efficiency, including alternative means of energy. Many countries have done much to ensure that their energy costs remain unaffected by the overall cost of oil. In fact, by many measures, an economy’s level of energy efficiency is a strong indicator of its willingness to modernize.Below is a list of the most energy efficient economies in the world.



1. Germany
When speaking of Germany, it is not uncommon to hear the phrase “German efficiency.” Therefore, it is not surprising to find Germany on top of this list. According to a recent study put out by the American Council For An Energy Efficient Economy, Germany was the best country overall for energy efficiency, scoring high in multiple categories for a total score of 65 points out of 100 on their study.

2. Ireland
While Ireland’s economy is based mostly on the service and IT sectors, the Land Of The Leprechaun did come in as sufficiently green. Ireland has reduced its carbon emission by 15% per year for the last several years.

3. Denmark
Denmark has a population about half the size of New York City, but, even still, its energy usage is remarkably low. Each Dane consumes about half as much energy as each American, and that does not have to do with the difference between alternating current and direct current.

4. United Kingdom
The United Kingdom recently vowed to cut carbon emissions by a whopping 80% before the year 2050. And, in addition, the country’s main business, its financial sector, uses very little energy anyway.

5. Norway
Norway derives almost all of its energy from sustainably green hydroelectric damns and would be much higher on this list if not for its incredibly high per capita consumption of energy, which my be caused by its cold climate.

6. France
Forward-thinking France does much to encourage energy efficiency within its borders. Besides offering major tax credits for energy efficient businesses, the industrial and transport sectors of the French economy have increased their efficiency by 19% and 12% respectively.

7. Austria
Austria does a lot to ensure that it is relatively energy-efficient. About 23% of its energy reserves come from renewable sources, an astonishingly high figure.

8. Italy
Italy made it on this list by scoring very high on the energy efficient aspects of its transportation industry. However, Italy’s industrial sector has lost major ground in energy efficiency, suffering a drop of nearly 25% recently, which accounts for their relatively low ranking.

9. Mexico
Although it is by no means a leader in green initiatives, Mexico’s young economy has shown much promise in increasing its energy efficiency. Many large initiatives are being undertaken to make Mexico among the most energy-efficient countries. As Mexico continues to grow, it is likely they will move up these rankings.

10. Australia
The Land Down Under makes it onto this list, but just barely. Although Australia has made considerable strides in ensuring energy efficiency in its building construction, its transportation is a major cause of pollution. Couple that with a recent repeal of a carbon tax. and Australia is actually sliding downward.

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When you have been in a serious relationship for a long time, it is common to repress your doubts and feelings of unhappiness when the relationship starts to fail. Often, it is just too painful and frightening to acknowledge that you are falling out of love, as you know that ending the relationship will change your life forever. However, it is important to be honest with yourself and your partner if the relationship has become a source of unhappiness, anger or resentment.

1) Your communication has become minimal:
Over time, couples can become apathetic about conversation, reducing the depth of their communication until they only discuss practical details and mundane facts. This causes a diminished level of closeness, as a meaningful relationship needs personal and significant conversation in order to survive. If you struggle to remember the last time you and your partner talked about anything except finances and household chores, your communication has hit rock bottom. Once you realize this, there is scope for staying with your partner if you share a genuine desire to improve the way you relate to one another. However, if you cannot find the energy or motivation to talk to each other more often and communicate on a more personal level, this is a strong indication that ending the relationship would be the right choice.
2) Discussing the future causes serious arguments:
Talking about sharing your life with your partner should make you both feel happy or excited. You should imagine your goals and dreams coming to fruition, and should enjoy talking about your shared image of the future. If you cannot agree on what you want from life, it is time to give serious thought to the idea of breaking up. For example, if having children is a deal breaker for you but your partner cannot stand the idea of becoming a parent, it is likely that you need to extricate yourself from the situation and find a more suitable match.

3) Arguing has become a way of life:
It is healthy to argue with your partner in certain circumstances, as it proves that you are not repressing your feelings about areas of conflict and it also indicates that you feel a certain degree of passion about your relationship. However, if you spend long nights screaming at each other several times a week, something is seriously wrong and you need to give some thought to whether you want to continue to endure this level of suffering. In particular, you may want to make the decision to leave the relationship behind if your arguments tend to be bitter, hurtful events that are full of verbal abuse and cruel remarks.

4) You find yourself trying to avoid sex:
Of course, some of the possible emotional and physical reasons for a lowered sex drive have nothing to do with the quality of your romantic relationship. However, if there are no obvious other reasons for your aversion to physical intimacy, ask yourself if you even still find your partner sexually attractive. If the thought of sleeping together leaves you feeling indifferent (or even repulsed), this is a very clear warning sign that you may fall have fallen out of love. Instead of lying to avoid having sex, try to discuss your lack of desire with your partner and attempt to work out whether it really is a symptom of a broader problem.

5) You do not miss your partner when you are apart:
While it is important to be self-sufficient and to be able to enjoy spending time apart, something is amiss if you do not miss your partner at all when you are separated for an extended period of time. For example, you should not feel actively relieved if your partner goes out of town to visit family or attend a conference. If you never yearn to discuss things with your other half or never miss their physical affection, consider whether you might be happier if this person was no longer in your life at all.

6) Thinking about the future makes you feel trapped:
If you are happy and in love, you should feel content as you imagine the process of slowly growing old with your partner. On the other hand, if you are not with the right person then the thought of never being with anyone else will make you feel panicked and uncomfortable. When you yearn to escape from your relationship, this is an obvious sign that it may be best if you do find a way to escape from it.

7) You entertain vicious thoughts about your partner:
If you have stopped liking your partner’s personality, mannerisms and voice, it is very likely that a breakup would be the best option at this point. Common symptoms of actively disliking your partner include dreading lengthy conversations, becoming annoyed by the way your partner behaves in social settings, and viewing time spent together as a chore. While no one can be expected to find everything about another person completely endearing, a relationship is unhealthy (and can easily become destructive) if there is nothing that you like about your partner.

One of you is forming strong romantic attachments outside the relationship:
Unless you are in a non-monogamous relationship, you may want to consider breaking up if you or your partner has been experiencing an intense attraction to someone else. When your main sexual and romantic focus is outside your primary relationship, your dynamic suffers and your partner suffers as well. This state of affairs is distinctly unfair, and in many cases warrants a breakup. In addition, those who are happy in their relationship seldom have the capacity to form serious attractions to other people. If you or your partner is starting to prefer someone outside the relationship, this is a warning sign that something is seriously lacking within it. In some cases, what is missing may be something that can be rediscovered or created. However, in many cases it turns out that love is what is absent, and this lack is what is prompting a desire to be with other people.

9) One of you has cheated on the other
An instance of infidelity is an even more obvious sign that you should consider ending your relationship. While it is true that certain couples can find ways to overcome the trust problems and messy emotions that result from this type of betrayal, many cannot surmount this kind of obstacle. In addition, you need to consider what would have encouraged one of you to cheat in the first place. As mentioned above, couples who are happy tend not to feel the urge to stray, and when they do it suggests that they are looking for something that is not available in the current relationship.

#1. Banish the Ghost of Relationships Past
Many men feel that they are being punished for something another guy did. If you are like most women, you probably have a few bad relationships in your past. Do not let those past failures wreck your current success. Let go of those old ghosts and enjoy the great guy you have now.

#2. Treat Yourself to a Me Day
It is easy to be jealous if you feel dowdy and unattractive. The next time you feel the jealousy monster start to rear its ugly head, take time to treat yourself. Whether you splurge on a spa day and a massage or just give yourself a makeover, you will feel better about yourself and your relationship.

#3. Engage in Positive Affirmations
You do not have to be a new age guru to benefit from a positive affirmation here and there. Just telling yourself that you are valuable and loved can keep your jealousy at bay and help you enjoy your relationship more. You are a great person – if you weren’t, your boyfriend wouldn’t be here in the first place.

#4. Sometimes a Phone is Just a Phone
The smartphone is a source of jealousy in so many relationships. When your boyfriend picks up his phone, is he really checking in at work, or is he checking out other women online. Sometimes a phone is just a phone – unless your boyfriend has given you reason to doubt his loyalty, give him some space and stop looking over his shoulder.

#5. Know Your Triggers
You cannot control something until you know what causes it. Learn to spot the things that make you jealous, whether it is your boyfriend taking a furtive glance at your best friend or him spending too much time online. Learning to separate the real causes for concern from emotional overreactions is the key here.

#6. Understand He’s Still a Guy
Men and women are wired differently. That does not give your boyfriend free rein or excuse him giving into his baser instincts, but you can still forgive an occasional glance or inappropriate comment. You do not need to be jealous of every look. You may even catch yourself looking at a hot guy from time to time, so don’t be a hypocrite.

#7. Do Some Soul Searching
If your boyfriend is a jerk, the jealousy you feel is probably about him. If you have a great guy who truly cares about you, the jealousy you feel is most likely about you and your insecurities. Do some soul searching to find the root cause of the problem, then address those issues head on.

#8. Be a Good Communicator
Communication is the key to any good relationship. You do not have to talk about every little thing, but you do need to keep the lines of communication open. If you and your boyfriend are not communicating effectively, jealousy will expand and fill that space.

#9. Bring Back the Passion
It is easy to be jealous when the spark has gone out of your relationship. If you and your boyfriend are in a rut, look for ways to recharge your relationship and breathe new life into your passion. Leave love notes on the bathroom mirror before you leave for work. Send him a dozen roses at work. Meet him at the door wearing his favorite negligee. There are plenty of ways to bring the heat – and the fun – back to your relationship.

#10. Give Him His Space
When he talks about a boys’ night out, you immediately picture strippers and lap dances, but he could just be talking about a few beers after work. Stop jumping to conclusions and give him some space. Your relationship will be the better for it.

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Whatsapp Now on PC
There are over 600 million people on WhatsApp and there's good news for them!!
There’s now a desktop version.
It’s a web app rather than a native client — and for now, at least, it seems to only play friendly with Google Chrome.

But if you’re ready to dive in, you can find the new web-ready version of WhatsApp right over here…

NB: You to log in on the desktop, you have to take a picture of a QR code through WhatsApp on your phone. This is necessary, presumably, because WhatsApp uses your phone number and SMS verifications rather than usernames/passwords. This currently works on Android, Windows Phone, and BlackBerry… but “due to Apple platform limitations” (WhatsApp’s words, there — we’re not sure what limitations they mean), iOS users are left out in the cold.

http://targetdex..com/2015/01/whatsapp-now-on-pc.html

1. Make sure your CV is tailored to the job you are applying for
Generic CV may be quick to submit, but far less effective. Better one excellent job application than three shoddy ones.
Researching the cultural norms of the organization is worthwhile. For example, within one industry some will value experience but not care much about education, while others care about your qualifications.

2. Only apply if you meet the job criteria
Don’t waste your time or the recruiter’s applying for jobs if you don’t meet their criteria. If you still want that job, go and expand your skill set before trying again in future.

3. Don’t lie
Even if you get through the first screening, lying about or exaggerating your accomplishments is likely to come back to bite you. Recovering from the loss of trust is hard.

4. Add keywords
After writing the résumé, check it for keywords from the job description.
Keywords are gifts to you from the employer. Add them into the existing text so they flow naturally. This will help your résumé get past screening software, and recruiters who are accustomed to searching quickly for these keywords.

5. Structure your CV carefully
It is easiest for the recruiter if your key skills and background are summarised at the top. Make sure your current and most recent previous role are on the first page.
Your education and qualifications are generally less important than your professional experience, so put these later.

6. Show how your most recent two jobs are relevant
Recruiters will spend 80% of their time on your name, the company, job title, start and end dates for your current and previous companies, and finally your education.
If you are changing direction in your career, you will need to work even harder to draw out the skills and networks you are bringing from these last two jobs.

7. Keep the CV short
Remember the recruiter will scan your CV in seconds. Including your school paper round or even lengthy details of your first job out of college is not something a recruiter will thank you for (unless, of course, you are applying for your second job out of school).HAHAHAHAHA

8. Demonstrate progress
Show the recruiter that your career makes sense. Tell a story which shows promotions and additional responsibilities as you delivered value to your employer.

9. Provide proof
Qualify your results wherever possible. Beating your targets, raising finance, cutting costs, making great sales all provide convincing and easily digested data which demonstrate your achievements. Social proof such as promotions and customer feedback are also worthwhile.

10. Show you are a rounded person
Include personal projects, sports or voluntary work that you participate in, but be aware if they are activities which might stereotype you or turn an employer off.


http://targetdex..com/2015/01/20-things-that-will-make-your-cv-stand.html

1. Analysis
In every job data is analyzed. Retail sales clerks analyze their sales for the week. Office Managers analyze budgets. Wait staff analyze their average check amount. If you see “Analysis” in a job description think hard about what you currently analyze, and put it on your CV.

2. Determine
Determining the outcome of a situation is how we live our lives. Say something rude to your girlfriend? You can determine that the odds are great you just started a fight. Is the place of business where you currently work slow at the beginning of every month? You can determine you will have to be more proactive at the beginning of the month to stay productive. Think about what situations take place in your current job and determine the outcome. Then put it on your CV.

3. Assist
Do you assist customers to find merchandise? Do you assist other departments to process their work flow? Do you assist your superior with their reports or their schedule? You probably assist people in many ways in your current job. You just call it “helping”. Think about who you assist and how, and then put it on your CV.

4. Excellent Communication Skills
If you have to collaborate with coworkers to accomplish any task and you consistently complete that task chances are you have excellent communication skills. This is a tricky skill to put on a CV though because unlike the skills above where your bullet point would actually start with the word “assisted” or “determined” communication is a skill you show through an action. It is not enough to say “communicated with a team of six our daily sales goal numbers”. This shows you communicated, but not that you communicated with “excellent communication skills”. In order to show excellent communication skills you have to go further. Your bullet point would read like this, “communicated with a team of six our daily sales goal numbers and consistently increased sales the following day by 10%”. The fact that you increased sales by 10% the following day is what shows the interviewer you have “excellent communication skills”.

5. Self Direction
Self direction can also be referred to as works independently. Is it your job to open the store? Do you complete tasks without a lot of direction? Have you ever started a project to make your department more efficient without being asked to? If you have, then put it on your resume.

6. Work Well in a Team Environment
Basically what this means is that you will not be working alone in a cubicle in the basement. This skill is a lot like “excellent communication skills” in the sense that you have to tell a story about how you work well with a team. There is a trick here however. A resume should always show what “you” did and not what “we” did. The company interviewing you is not hiring your old team. They are hiring you. You want to talk about your contribution to the team and how that contribution added value to the overall objective of the team or the project. You also have to think about how you define the word “team”. You may have been an individual sales person and competed with others in your office, but management saw you as a sales team. The teams overall objective was to produce sales. Your sales contributed to the overall goal. As a server in a restaurant you may have a section, but you are providing service as a team of servers to the overall restaurant, and yes you all are “selling” the food. Once you have identified the team in your current role you can identify your contribution and then put it on your resume.


http://targetdex..com/2015/01/6-ways-to-get-your-dream-job-even-if.html

@marveangel hahahah, That's TENNIS not NFL ,it shows a double tennis team and how being compatible has helped them win

1. You don’t question the love in your relationship

2. You know things about each other no-one else does

3. You enjoy spending time apart

4. You share common interests

5. You fight with each other

6. You want to work out serious problems

7. Your partner makes you want to be a better person

8. You can both imagine a future together

9. You can be yourself around your partner

10. You’re attracted to each other

Complete write up:http://targetdex..com/2015/01/13-signs-you-and-your-partner-are.html

1. Analysis
In every job data is analyzed. Retail sales clerks analyze their sales for the week. Office Managers analyze budgets. Wait staff analyze their average check amount. If you see “Analysis” in a job description think hard about what you currently analyze, and put it on your CV.

2. Determine
Determining the outcome of a situation is how we live our lives. Say something rude to your girlfriend? You can determine that the odds are great you just started a fight. Is the place of business where you currently work slow at the beginning of every month? You can determine you will have to be more proactive at the beginning of the month to stay productive. Think about what situations take place in your current job and determine the outcome. Then put it on your CV.

3. Assist
Do you assist customers to find merchandise? Do you assist other departments to process their work flow? Do you assist your superior with their reports or their schedule? You probably assist people in many ways in your current job. You just call it “helping”. Think about who you assist and how, and then put it on your CV.

4. Excellent Communication Skills
If you have to collaborate with coworkers to accomplish any task and you consistently complete that task chances are you have excellent communication skills. This is a tricky skill to put on a CV though because unlike the skills above where your bullet point would actually start with the word “assisted” or “determined” communication is a skill you show through an action. It is not enough to say “communicated with a team of six our daily sales goal numbers”. This shows you communicated, but not that you communicated with “excellent communication skills”. In order to show excellent communication skills you have to go further. Your bullet point would read like this, “communicated with a team of six our daily sales goal numbers and consistently increased sales the following day by 10%”. The fact that you increased sales by 10% the following day is what shows the interviewer you have “excellent communication skills”.

Complete :http://targetdex..com/2015/01/6-ways-to-get-your-dream-job-even-if.html

She should date us!!!!!

How Short Guys Are Better in Relationships

According to Medical Daily, those below 5-foot-7 were considered to be ‘short men’ in 2009, while those over 6-foot-2 were considered tall.
Height is often seen as the physical depiction of capability and strength and power. For the shorter man suffering from stigma of the Napoleon complex, it is a challenge to measure up in terms of appeal to women. This is a result of the notion that a majority of women have the desire to feel fragile, petite and protected by a ‘dominant’ man. Taller men make women feel smaller, which appeals to those who are self-conscious about their size and weight.

1. They are dedicated to their relationships.
Without the ‘tall’ status, they will put much more effort into trying to impress their partner personality-wise rather than having to work with any physical traits. A study conducted by New York University researchers concluded that in general, shorter men assist with more housework than taller men, and what wins attraction points more than a man who shares kitchen duty? No woman is going to complain about a man putting in a little extra effort.

complete :http://targetdex..com/2015/01/how-short-guys-are-better-in.html

8 Things You Didn't Know About Major-General Muhammadu Buhari
Buhari is the presidential candidate for the new All Progressives Congress (APC) party, formed last year as the result of a merger between four opposition parties.Here are 8 things you might not have known about him, except that he has a beautiful daughter


Buhari undertook military training in three countries
Having received the bulk of his education in Katsina, a town in northern Nigeria near the Niger border, before beginning military training. In addition to attending the military training school and military college in Kaduna in northwestern Nigeria, he also received training in Great Britain (Officer’s Cadet School, Army Mechanical Transport School), India (Defence Services’ Staff College), and the United States (United States Army War College).

He continues to defend his military coup
In October 2005, he defended the military coup he led in on December 31, 1983, when he deposed the elected civilian government of Alhaji Shehu Shagari, “The military came in when it was absolutely necessary and the elected people had failed the country.” He further said, “It is up to the people. If you choose correct leadership, there won’t be any need for the military regime.”

Over 500 officials were jailed during Buhari’s 20-month stint as leader
As a part of his campaign against waste and corruption, Buhari sent 500 politicians, officials, and businessmen to prison. While some praised his attempts to make Nigeria’s government more accountable, others saw it as the tactics of a repressive military ruler

Ever wondered how movies look like without visual effects? Or have you wondered how the movie directors manage to find such out-of-world scenes for their movies? Well, this post is the answer to your curiosity. After watching the visuals below, you will realize that most of Hollywood blockbusters are not even watch-able without computer visual effects. Next time you watch any movie, do thank the engineers who made it a visual treat.

Other movies :http://targetdex..com/2015/01/how-special-effects-are-made-in-movies.html

9 Reasons not to Marry Your Boyfriend !!

Love is not always the best reason to marry someone. There are many other aspects of a person and relationship to look at before you decide to take this big step in your life. This article outlines ten reasons why you probably shouldn’t marry your boyfriend.

Girls pay attention to the FIRST one o!!smiley

1. He is spending himself into debt

If your boyfriend is already in debt, this could be a warning sign of things to come, especially if he’s not working himself out of the debt. If he doesn’t care about his debt and is only getting himself further into debt, this is not something you should marry into. Once you get married, his debt will become your debt, too. Remember, the way your boyfriend spends money will affect you as well once you’re married.

2. Honesty Lacks In The Relationship
I think we can all agree that any great relationship is based on honesty. If you are uncomfortable sharing your thoughts and dreams with him, and if he is hiding a part of his life from you, the topic of marriage shouldn’t even come up. You can’t spend a lifetime afraid to express your feelings or wondering if he is straightforward with you. Marriage should be a commitment between two best friends, who hide nothing from each other no matter how awful it may be.

3. He is Controlling
A man, who wants to control every aspect of your life, might propose just to gain a firmer hold on your life. If your man is constantly dictating every aspect of your life and discouraging you from seeing your family and friends while you are dating, this is a red flag. Once you are married, and his “property” the isolation from family and friends will only increase until there is no contact with them. You have to be able to recognize the signs and avoid this nightmare. A proposal should be an act of unconditional love, not from the fear of losing you.

4. He Can’t Hold a Job

I don’t know about you, but I do not want a man that I have to support. I am not a sugar momma. If your man cannot hold a job or is not working toward a career, don’t enter into marriage with him. Of course, we all have had jobs that don’t work out, but if your man is constantly being fired or quitting jobs, you will probably be financially supporting him throughout the marriage. Remember there may be times when you can’t work due to pregnancy and childbirth, and if he can’t (or won’t) keep a job think about the predicament you will be in.

5. He Has an Alcohol or Drug Problem
If you are dating a man with an alcohol or drug problem, under no circumstances should you marry this man. No matter how much you love him marriage should never come up while he is addicted to any mind altering substance. Marriage to a substance abuser will hold nothing but heartache for you. You cannot fix or save him from himself, only he can do that, but you can save yourself the financial ruin and misery of marrying a man with an addiction problem.

6. You Fight Constantly
If you can’t settle your differences without engaging in full blown arguments and fights, now is not the time to get married. In fact, you will probably fight even more once you have the security of marriage. It is often said that your relationship is the best it is ever going to be when you are dating. Marriage is hard, even when you both love each other deeply and are committed to treating each other kindly. Learn how to work out your conflicts without resorting to fighting before you agree to get married.

complete : http://targetdex..com/2015/01/9-reasons-not-to-marry-your-boyfriend.html

samflexxy:
Very well organized thread

Thanks bro

Love is not always the best reason to marry someone. There are many other aspects of a person and relationship to look at before you decide to take this big step in your life. This article outlines ten reasons why you probably shouldn’t marry your boyfriend.

Girls pay attention to the FIRST one o!!

1. He is spending himself into debt

If your boyfriend is already in debt, this could be a warning sign of things to come, especially if he’s not working himself out of the debt. If he doesn’t care about his debt and is only getting himself further into debt, this is not something you should marry into. Once you get married, his debt will become your debt, too. Remember, the way your boyfriend spends money will affect you as well once you’re married.

2. Honesty Lacks In The Relationship
I think we can all agree that any great relationship is based on honesty. If you are uncomfortable sharing your thoughts and dreams with him, and if he is hiding a part of his life from you, the topic of marriage shouldn’t even come up. You can’t spend a lifetime afraid to express your feelings or wondering if he is straightforward with you. Marriage should be a commitment between two best friends, who hide nothing from each other no matter how awful it may be.

3. He is Controlling
A man, who wants to control every aspect of your life, might propose just to gain a firmer hold on your life. If your man is constantly dictating every aspect of your life and discouraging you from seeing your family and friends while you are dating, this is a red flag. Once you are married, and his “property” the isolation from family and friends will only increase until there is no contact with them. You have to be able to recognize the signs and avoid this nightmare. A proposal should be an act of unconditional love, not from the fear of losing you.

4. He Can’t Hold a Job

I don’t know about you, but I do not want a man that I have to support. I am not a sugar momma. If your man cannot hold a job or is not working toward a career, don’t enter into marriage with him. Of course, we all have had jobs that don’t work out, but if your man is constantly being fired or quitting jobs, you will probably be financially supporting him throughout the marriage. Remember there may be times when you can’t work due to pregnancy and childbirth, and if he can’t (or won’t) keep a job think about the predicament you will be in.

5. He Has an Alcohol or Drug Problem
If you are dating a man with an alcohol or drug problem, under no circumstances should you marry this man. No matter how much you love him marriage should never come up while he is addicted to any mind altering substance. Marriage to a substance abuser will hold nothing but heartache for you. You cannot fix or save him from himself, only he can do that, but you can save yourself the financial ruin and misery of marrying a man with an addiction problem.

6. You Fight Constantly
If you can’t settle your differences without engaging in full blown arguments and fights, now is not the time to get married. In fact, you will probably fight even more once you have the security of marriage. It is often said that your relationship is the best it is ever going to be when you are dating. Marriage is hard, even when you both love each other deeply and are committed to treating each other kindly. Learn how to work out your conflicts without resorting to fighting before you agree to get married.

complete : http://targetdex..com/2015/01/9-reasons-not-to-marry-your-boyfriend.html

patrickdarlins:
even my kid brother knows dese tinx.....


tell me sometin new!!


please....

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1. He Treats You Well

A guy who loves you is considerate of your feelings, needs and desires. He makes them as important as his desires and needs. He is concerned with your well-being and will do things to make your life better, sometimes going out of his way to do so. Not only does he treat you well, he is also good to your family and friends.

2. He Is Generous With His Time

He doesn’t let too much time go by without seeing you. When he is available, he wants to be with you and chooses to spend his time with you. If you’re in a long distance relationship, he is spending time with you whenever your schedules allow. And you are together during major holidays such as Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Eve.

3. He Makes You A Priority

You are at the forefront of his mind and he maintains contact in between the times you see each other. He considers you when making decisions and is considerate about doing things you want to do. When speaking, he uses “we” instead of “I”, and includes you in his future plans.

4. He Cares For You
A guy who loves you is genuinely happy for you when good things happen to you. He is compassionate when you’re going through challenges. This guy is there for you in the good and not so good times. He thinks about you and surprises you with tokens of affection outside of your birthday, Christmas and Valentine’s Day. He will also challenge you by calling you out on stuff to help you become a better person.

5. He Wants People To Know About You

He is affectionate with you in public by holding your hand, putting his arm around you and/or hugging you. He is proud to be with you and has introduced you to his family and friends. He brings you to family functions and get-togethers with friends, and takes you to company events.

6. He Treats Your Relationship With Integrity

He is trustworthy and loyal to you and your relationship. He is upfront with you about his past girlfriends and skeletons in his closet. He does what he says and will let you know if he’s not able to. When issues come up, he is willing to work through them. Although he isn’t perfect, he tries to be a better man.

7. He Wants The Best For You

A guy who loves you encourages you to do things you love, even if it means doing these things without him. He wants you to spend time with family and friends. He encourages you to find and live your passions, knowing that if you are happy and engaged with life, you’ll be happy and engaged in your relationship with him.

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On a Oprah Winfrey show that aired on Friday December 1, 2006, a homeless guest on the show was given $100,000 by a film director. The film director gave him this money as a test to see how he would spend the money. The homeless man did not know that he was going to receive the money when he first got the $100,000. He was only told that he would be filmed as a documentary as to how a homeless man spends his days. It was about the day and life of a homeless person.



The man first found the briefcase with $100,000 in a garbage bin when he was looking for soda cans. This is how he made his money. The man was clearly broke and when he found the briefcase with the money in it, he could not believe it. He actually cried in shock. I was amazed to find out what the homeless man did with the money next.

The man first got himself an apartment and then he bought himself a $32,000 truck. He then bought his friends cars by taking them to a car dealership and having them purchase the car that they wanted. He kept on buying more more stuff and then he gave the money away. Was this a smart thing to do?
Shockingly the film maker also gave him the opportunity to use a financial advisor and counselor for free. The homeless man did not take him up on his offer. He instead spent all of the money on whatever he felt like spending his money on. Surprisingly the homeless man lost everything and he stated that he is back on the streets and homeless again. The sad truth here is that sometimes when you give money to someone, you hope that they would do the best with it. However, we can see clearly here from this example that it is not always true. Have you ever given something to someone and asked yourself if you should have maybe let them work for it instead? When you work for something, you tend to value it more because you knew what it took to make that kind of cash.

The homeless man also stated that when he received the $100,000 he also received a lot of friends. He even got married. Once he lost all of his money, the homeless man claimed that his wife did not want him anymore. Does money bring more friends and influence your power? According to this story, it does. You can make friends easily when you have money to spend on them. Many millionaires will tell you that they can have many friends with their money.
It is safe to say that from this example, money is best when it is earned by yourself and not given to you by another person. Especially not in a lump sum. I encourage you to give this year, but to use wisdom when giving as well.

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36 QuestionsThat can Make You Fall in Love With Anyone?
One lab. Two people. Forty-five minutes. Thirty-six questions. Four minutes of gazing into each other’s eyes… and one deep, lasting connection.

Admittedly, it sounds like a ridiculous recipe for falling in love. But could it actually work? Well, according to research conducted more than 15 years ago by Arthur Aron, PhD, a professor of psychology at Stony Brook University, it did work.

The method was simple: Over the course of 45 minutes, Aron had his subjects ask each other 36 questions (full list below!). Each one gets progressively more personal, beginning with, “Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?” before probing under the surface into treasured memories, deepest wishes, the state of the other person’s relationship with Mom, even the role of love and affection in the other person’s life.52 sets of male and female strangers and 19 sets of all-female strangers together in a lab and caused them to grow significantly closer by way of the equation noted above.

Want to test it yourself? Find a comfortable spot, settle in with someone you’d like to get closer with, and get started answering these questions from Arthur Aron's study.


1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “we are both in this room feeling…”

26. Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them: Be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Good luck!

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The One Universal Secret To A Lasting Marriage

Agree to disagree. Never go to bed angry. Relationships aren’t about sex. Have sex twice weekly. Always sleep Unclad.

The unsolicited advice you receive when you’re married or in a long-term relationship is as varied as it is contradictory. And confusing — if you go to bed agreeing to disagree, should you sleep Unclad?

Luckily, new research has boiled the key to spousal success down to one simple tip. And this tip holds true worldwide, across cultures, ages and incomes: Find a significant other who is also your best friend.

A new paper from The National Bureau of Economic Research analyzed wellbeing data from two national surveys in the United Kingdom and the Gallup World Poll to search for common threads that weave together a happy marriage.

They found that the biggest similarity among happily committed relationships worldwide — and the largest point of difference among those who are not married or partnered — was friendship. Approximately half of married people and of those who are cohabiting list their partner as their best friend. Conversely, less than 5 percent of people in any other marital status consider their partner to be their best friend.

Married individuals who are besties with their spouse also seem to be more satisfied in life, enjoying nearly twice as much additional life satisfaction than those who are not — even when controlling for age, gender, income, health, and previous life satisfaction. So if you’re generally a happy person, marriage will make you happier. If you’re generally an unhappy person, you’ll see the same benefit.

Interestingly, the wellbeing benefit of being married to one’s best friend appears much higher for women than for men, although on average fewer women than men regard their spouse as their best friend.

And while all friends are important for happiness, those who are married to each other become what the researchers call “super-friends,” compounding their wellbeing benefits to produce a much-stronger-than-normal friendship.

This friendship can also help explain why, in most studies, people who are unmarried but living as a couple enjoy most of the well-being benefits that married couples do.

So. Do you consider your partner to be your best friend? If so great — you’re done here. If not, read on.
Cultivating a great relationship is tough — but rewarding — work. “In order to get there you need to be ready and willing to do the work,” says Sbarra.

1. Have fun together

“It’s critical to spend time with your partner doing fun and exciting activities,” says Sbarra. Get out of the ruts of daily life by spending real time together doing fun things. This is a key for building lasting intimacy.”

2. Fight right
“It’s critical that you learn how to fight well and to deescalate conflicts when they arise,” says Sbarra. “Humor can be a great tool for calming things down when fights get heated.”

3[b]. Cherish your partner[/b]
“I also think an important secret for building a great relationship is to think of your partner as the most cherished thing in your life,” says Sbarra. “With this, comes forgiveness, tenderness, and tons of admiration and support.”

Now that’s some relationship advice we truly comprehend.

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The One Universal Secret To A Lasting Marriage

Agree to disagree. Never go to bed angry. Relationships aren’t about sex. Have sex twice weekly. Always sleep naked.

The unsolicited advice you receive when you’re married or in a long-term relationship is as varied as it is contradictory. And confusing — if you go to bed agreeing to disagree, should you sleep naked?

Luckily, new research has boiled the key to spousal success down to one simple tip. And this tip holds true worldwide, across cultures, ages and incomes: Find a significant other who is also your best friend.

A new paper from The National Bureau of Economic Research analyzed wellbeing data from two national surveys in the United Kingdom and the Gallup World Poll to search for common threads that weave together a happy marriage.

They found that the biggest similarity among happily committed relationships worldwide — and the largest point of difference among those who are not married or partnered — was friendship. Approximately half of married people and of those who are cohabiting list their partner as their best friend. Conversely, less than 5 percent of people in any other marital status consider their partner to be their best friend.

Married individuals who are besties with their spouse also seem to be more satisfied in life, enjoying nearly twice as much additional life satisfaction than those who are not — even when controlling for age, gender, income, health, and previous life satisfaction. So if you’re generally a happy person, marriage will make you happier. If you’re generally an unhappy person, you’ll see the same benefit.

Interestingly, the wellbeing benefit of being married to one’s best friend appears much higher for women than for men, although on average fewer women than men regard their spouse as their best friend.

And while all friends are important for happiness, those who are married to each other become what the researchers call “super-friends,” compounding their wellbeing benefits to produce a much-stronger-than-normal friendship.

This friendship can also help explain why, in most studies, people who are unmarried but living as a couple enjoy most of the well-being benefits that married couples do.

So. Do you consider your partner to be your best friend? If so great — you’re done here. If not, read on.
Cultivating a great relationship is tough — but rewarding — work. “In order to get there you need to be ready and willing to do the work,” says Sbarra.

1. Have fun together

“It’s critical to spend time with your partner doing fun and exciting activities,” says Sbarra. Get out of the ruts of daily life by spending real time together doing fun things. This is a key for building lasting intimacy.”

2. Fight right
“It’s critical that you learn how to fight well and to deescalate conflicts when they arise,” says Sbarra. “Humor can be a great tool for calming things down when fights get heated.”

3[b]. Cherish your partner[/b]
“I also think an important secret for building a great relationship is to think of your partner as the most cherished thing in your life,” says Sbarra. “With this, comes forgiveness, tenderness, and tons of admiration and support.”

Now that’s some relationship advice we truly comprehend.

For other info check my blog : http://targetdex..com/search/label/social%20exp

Thanks

Agree to disagree. Never go to bed angry. Relationships aren’t about sex. Have sex twice weekly. Always sleep naked.

The unsolicited advice you receive when you’re married or in a long-term relationship is as varied as it is contradictory. And confusing — if you go to bed agreeing to disagree, should you sleep naked?

Luckily, new research has boiled the key to spousal success down to one simple tip. And this tip holds true worldwide, across cultures, ages and incomes: Find a significant other who is also your best friend.

A new paper from The National Bureau of Economic Research analyzed wellbeing data from two national surveys in the United Kingdom and the Gallup World Poll to search for common threads that weave together a happy marriage.

They found that the biggest similarity among happily committed relationships worldwide — and the largest point of difference among those who are not married or partnered — was friendship. Approximately half of married people and of those who are cohabiting list their partner as their best friend. Conversely, less than 5 percent of people in any other marital status consider their partner to be their best friend.

Married individuals who are besties with their spouse also seem to be more satisfied in life, enjoying nearly twice as much additional life satisfaction than those who are not — even when controlling for age, gender, income, health, and previous life satisfaction. So if you’re generally a happy person, marriage will make you happier. If you’re generally an unhappy person, you’ll see the same benefit.

Interestingly, the wellbeing benefit of being married to one’s best friend appears much higher for women than for men, although on average fewer women than men regard their spouse as their best friend.

And while all friends are important for happiness, those who are married to each other become what the researchers call “super-friends,” compounding their wellbeing benefits to produce a much-stronger-than-normal friendship.

This friendship can also help explain why, in most studies, people who are unmarried but living as a couple enjoy most of the well-being benefits that married couples do.

So. Do you consider your partner to be your best friend? If so great — you’re done here. If not, read on.
Cultivating a great relationship is tough — but rewarding — work. “In order to get there you need to be ready and willing to do the work,” says Sbarra.

1. Have fun together

“It’s critical to spend time with your partner doing fun and exciting activities,” says Sbarra. Get out of the ruts of daily life by spending real time together doing fun things. This is a key for building lasting intimacy.”

2. Fight right
“It’s critical that you learn how to fight well and to deescalate conflicts when they arise,” says Sbarra. “Humor can be a great tool for calming things down when fights get heated.”

3[b]. Cherish your partner[/b]
“I also think an important secret for building a great relationship is to think of your partner as the most cherished thing in your life,” says Sbarra. “With this, comes forgiveness, tenderness, and tons of admiration and support.”

Now that’s some relationship advice we truly comprehend.

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Thanks

The bad news: At some point, your cell phone and your laptop is likely to go missing. Whether it falls out of your pocket in a cab, or you leave it unattended in a public place for a few seconds only to have it swiped by someone with sticky fingers and low moral fiber, your gadgets are vulnerable. This apps will let you use your device gps to give the location of your stolen gadget:

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