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Business / Re: “I'm Dead, I Can't Pay" - Lady Tells Loan App That Posted Her ‘Obituary’ (Video) by drsibz66(m): 4:27pm On Nov 06, 2023
Beverlyjean:
undecided

U are the one thats funny cos u have lost all reason.... oh , u feel failing to pay back loans isn't right ...but operating illegally and avoiding tax is right .... u feel feeding on desperate people is right , they should not run a business by adopting that sort of approach ...acting like that is totally illegal ...its not by force to run a loan app... if they can't find a legal means to recover their funds, then they should shut down that business

Thanks for at least throwing some light into this issue. If you decide to run a loan company you should also be ready for the occupational hazard which is debt default by customers and as such put legals means in place like insurance for all bad debts. Its all part and parcel of the business. You can't have your cake and eat it.
These loan companies or app do their businesses illegally and by that I mean absurd interest rate, not obeying the countries financial or monetary policies and worse of all been exploitative. But you still want customers not to default or run away with your money when you operate a dubious business. These companies just take advantage of the lawlessness of the country and do whatever they afterall the govt in Nigeria isn't there to protect the citizens .
For those of you that want to quote me that the loan seekers took the loan without the intention of paying .... let me tell u , a serious loan company does it screening and verification before giving out loans, and even when customers default there are legal systems of money recovery if you have done the right thing before starting your company.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Fulham Vs Manchester United (0 - 1) On 4th November 2023 by drsibz66(m): 1:57pm On Nov 04, 2023
Rich4god:


Help me ask....

Make FA just remove VAR from football. Let's know it's just human error we are dealing with.

After screen review, they still give wrong judgment.


Bro it's an offside.. maguire was offside and he made attempt to play the ball even though he didn't touch it.

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Sports / Re: Leo Messi Won The Ballon D’or Over Erling Haaland By 105 Points. by drsibz66(m): 12:55pm On Nov 04, 2023
Livelystone01:
I noticed that most nations who are at the top of FIFA rankings voted Messi.


Yes because they know and understand football.
Sports / Re: Leo Messi Wins The Ballon D’or 2023 by drsibz66(m): 12:00am On Oct 31, 2023
DataAlchemist:


What are you saying?? why didn't pep won the treble then before the arrival of haaland?? and mind you, city didn't make haaland, the young boy has always been a prolific striker right from his days in salzburg, or was kdb and silva with him in dortmund What else does a striker needs to prove how good he is if not goals?? Is lewandowski and benzema a good dribbler??

scoring 57goals in a season while winning almost all trophies is not enough to win the balon d or?? aside winning worldcup what was messi contribution last season??

Messi had 40 goals 26 assist in all competitions last season. Or you forgot he won French league and had the highest assist in the league.
The question you should ask yourself is , is haaland a better footballer than messi. ?
About champions league mancity was always going to win champions league one day soon as you can't bet against them not winning at least one of the finals if they continue to reach the finals especially when they met inter Milan.

So get it straight haaland needed mancity to boost his chances cos city was already winning trophies without his help. They have won the league 5times in the last 6years or so , and they lost the first final they went as most first timers do. City was always going to win champions league especially after the drop off other teams like Real, bayern. Liverpool , Chelsea etc last season.

Haaland isn't city's best player and you know it. He won nothing for city he only polishes the team.

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Sports / Re: Leo Messi Wins The Ballon D’or 2023 by drsibz66(m): 11:42pm On Oct 30, 2023
DataAlchemist:
Not a Cr7 fan boy but Is it now more valuable to win a cup competition with just seven matches than being a treble winner?? Well, if the legendary iniesta was overlooked to favor the midget, who then is haaland??

UCL golden boot, European golden shoe and a treble ?? If all these isn't enough to bag the award, then what will??

Abeg haaland play football reach mbappe let alone messi? Someone that won't even be In the conversation if not for kdb and b.silva. someone that cant beat or dribble past another player.

Mancity never needed haaland to win a treble infant in the most important moments of all the trophies ( semi finals and finals) he was a spectator and passenger even in the final games of the season when city overtook assnal he didn't score. So forget all those people bringing haaland to the conversation are just rolandos fans.

Mbappe will win ballon d or before haaland because he is a better footballer and he has been involved when it matters most finals, semis and he scores loads of goals.

Haaland is just a very good striker, and if he depending on winning balon de or with just goals he should be ready to score over 100goals a season and at least learn to score trophy deciding goals. You can see how mbappe almost won France the last World Cup by scoring 2 goals to bring France back into the game. That's what great players do. Haaland isn't even the best player at City so that alone tells u a lot. No disrespect to haaland.

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Career / Re: UK Nigerian Man Reportedly Lost His Job After His Female Compatriot Report Him by drsibz66(m): 4:10pm On Oct 17, 2023
Some Nigerians cam be very undisciplined and tend to take advantage of other Nigerians at work becos they always think they won't report.

Trust me if that guy was working with a white person on shift he wouldn't dare sleep extra mins let alone doing it repeatedly.

How can you decide to always sleep on duty leaving a job that is meant for you and your colleagues for only your colleagues to do. That can be very annoying and it's like calling your colleagues fools.

He learnt his lesson the hard way. He will learn to respect his job and colleagues.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Arsenal Vs Tottenham Hotspur (2 - 2) On 24th September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 5:43pm On Sep 24, 2023
erico2k2:

wake up we already beat manCity to win silver ware so get your facts right

We talking premier league or isn't that what you said arsenal will win while beating City. Take it to the bank now.. mancity will win arsenal home and away. Arsenal won't see draw.
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Arsenal Vs Tottenham Hotspur (2 - 2) On 24th September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 4:49pm On Sep 24, 2023
uunwanaobong3:
Everyone should keep quiet.
Arsenal is playing very well, we have not lost any match this season. Do you think it is easy to play this good Tottenham team?

In Arteta we trust.
Mancity is not too good this season, and Rodri just collected red card and will missed our match with mancity alongside debruyne, stones, and Silva. Arsenal will surely win this mancity in that match and I believe that this season arsenal will win premier league, we are currently unbeaten in the league and we will catch up with mancity soon.

Though we no win today match, the main thing is that we no loose the match which is a very good sign for us arsenal fans.

Up Gunners


Arsenal WILL NOT win the Premier league. They won't even come second this season. Mancity and Liverpool will win it. Arsenal hasn't won any top team this season. Wait till they play man City, Brighton, Liverpool, Newcastle.. Draw at Tottenham with an own goal and a fortunate penalty at Emirates isn't a premier league winning character.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Manchester United Vs Brighton (1 - 3) On 16th September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 4:42pm On Sep 16, 2023
Kyase:

Varane(since he came off injured, we only won once )
Mount
Mainoo(He was to partner with cast-iron this season before his injury)
Anthony
Amrabat

Varane... yes I might agree.

Mount. .. I will say you are high or on colos cos mount hasn't had any positive to man utd game. Even man u fans will agree .

Mainoo .. youngster, Hasn't even played for the first team in a competitive match say he can change the outlook of a game.

Anthony... no impact even before the allegations. 0goals, 0 assist.

Amrabat.. someone that hasn't played a min for man u is someone you saying will change the outlook of man utd vs brighton

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Manchester United Vs Brighton (1 - 3) On 16th September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 4:37pm On Sep 16, 2023
Kyase:


Maybe from this angle

You can keep showing any angle you like. When u have finished fooling ur self you can go and look for the real image. Won't help you by posting it here.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Manchester United Vs Brighton (1 - 3) On 16th September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 4:36pm On Sep 16, 2023
cocoduck:
There is an utter lack of seriousness. Even to tackle the opponents is a huge challenge.

It just became 3.. . Man u hasnt deserved any win this season. Against wolves, they were helped by ref for not awarding that penalty
Againt forest, they were also helped by the ref and red card and soft penalty

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Manchester United Vs Brighton (1 - 3) On 16th September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 4:32pm On Sep 16, 2023
It's 3 baby.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Manchester United Vs Brighton (1 - 3) On 16th September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 4:27pm On Sep 16, 2023
Ten hag isn't really in his senses. He just removed their no 9 when he needs goals.
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Manchester United Vs Brighton (1 - 3) On 16th September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 4:26pm On Sep 16, 2023
cocoduck:
There is still time, if they lose the match, I am done with Manchester United.

The match has been lost since the fixture came out. They can't get a point against Brighton.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Manchester United Vs Brighton (1 - 3) On 16th September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 4:22pm On Sep 16, 2023
Kyase:


Yes after 20 minutes we started playing rubbish

But that's not the argument

Is this ball out or not?

This ball isn't out. But that's not the complete picture. If you are watching the match live . The var picture was right. The ball was completely out even to the eyes.,no need to even draw line.

This ur picture was taken before the ball crossed the line.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Manchester United Vs Brighton (1 - 3) On 16th September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 4:08pm On Sep 16, 2023
Kyase:


11 players out injured or on suspension
4 first team players that can change the outlook of the team

Pls can you name the 4? Is it sancho, Antony or maguire.. which of these players would have changed the outlook of this match. Your 2 best players bruno and rash are on the pitch.. the third one was allow to leave on free and then signed a midfielder in post.

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Sports / Re: Man United's £989m Squad Is The Most Expensive In The WORLD by drsibz66(m): 8:15pm On Sep 13, 2023
themes009:



There are more to consider if we are to use your factors, teams sell players too. this thread is about the present squad they have now!
Cheers! 🍻

Even at that.. the present Chelsea squad is worth more than 1billion. Injured players included.
Sports / Re: Man United's £989m Squad Is The Most Expensive In The WORLD by drsibz66(m): 7:14pm On Sep 13, 2023
AImiron:
Manchester United's current squad is the most expensive ever assembled ahead of Chelsea and Manchester City, according to new research from the CIES Football Observatory.

Released on Wednesday, CIES' latest research shows United have spent €1.15billion (£989) on their current squad, with just under £400m gone on transfer fees since Erik ten Hag took over in May of last year.

The Dutchman signed Casemiro, Lisandro Martinez and Tyrell Malacia in his first summer at Old Trafford for a combined outlay of over £120m.

He also sanctioned the £85m purchase of Antony, making the Brazilian the third-most expensive player in United's history after Paul Pogba and Romelu Lukaku.

This summer, United have spent £72m on Rasmus Hojlund and have signed Mason Mount from Chelsea in a deal worth up to £60m, while Andre Onana joined from Inter Milan for £47m.

The Blues are close behind United having spent £975m on players since Todd Boehly and Clearlake Capital took over from Roman Abramovich 18 months ago.

Last month, the Blues signed Moises Caicedo from Brighton in a deal worth a British record £115m, breaking the £105m record they had set in January when they signed Enzo Fernandez.

City round out the top three, having spent on £900m on assembling their squad, with just under a quarter of the sum invested on four summer signings this year - Josko Gvardiol, Matheus Nunes, Jeremy Doku and Mateo Kovacic.

Significantly, City have got a much better return on their investment, which has delivered three consecutive Premier League titles and a historic treble last season.

Paris Saint-Germain are the only non-Premier League to squeeze into the top five.

The Ligue 1 champions' squad is worth a combined £860m, but the Parisians have spent more than anyone else on their attack with £480m invested on strikers.

SOURCE

How can they compare man utd transfer cost for a 3 or 4 season with Chelseaa transfer cost in just 18months. That's a biased comparison. If you want to compare transfer outlay for the various clubs it should be within a constant time scale for the clubs been compared not some 5yrs s and some 18 months.
Rubbish.

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Family / Re: The Woman My Husband Left Me For Is Pregnant And I'm Not Handling It Well by drsibz66(m): 6:19pm On Sep 11, 2023
Reelmii:
Ok...ashawo dey ur husband eyes before so dont think u were the problem, he just used ur issues as an excuse....

My advice is for u to see ur therapist..i believe u will be fine, time will heal ur wounds....thank God he did not leave u with a child, atleast u are mot a single mother so it will be easy for u to move on with time...

A man that can throw away 14yrs in just a short period of time was just a disaster waiting to happen....
I pity the new woman because he might leave her too one day because of a flimsy issue.....but by then,, u would have healed and moved on

Pls who wasted each other 14yrs.i guess it's the woman. The man should be applauded for staying so long with her . If it was the other way round the selfish woman would have left long ago. Just imagine a woman who is infertile still hoarding sex from her husband who has been loyal for 14yrs.Sorry the only disaster here was the woman and not the man .
The man tried and hasn't done anything wrong. The only thing he did wrong was to sought for solutions going forward and the woman in her anger and selfishness told the husband off.

For me no one should hold anyone back from having a child , husband and wife. Once a husband or wife discovered that he or she is not fertile or can't have kids , the fertile partner should be allowed to make his or her own decision regarding having kids. Anything other than that is selfish.

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Car Talk / Re: The Differences Between 4, 6, 8, 12… Cylinders by drsibz66(m): 6:29pm On Sep 08, 2023
AutoHubNG:
You probably understand the importance of your car’s engine because without a working engine, you won’t get very far, but most of us don’t know much about how vehicle engines work. When identifying your car’s engine type, it usually comes down to the cylinders. So, what exactly is a cylinder? We’ll go over this, as well as some other engine parts you should know about.

Cylinders are an important part of your car’s engine. Whenever you look at the engine bay of either a newer or an older car, you’ll see the configuration as it’s usually quite noticeable even if it’s only just a quick glance. The cylinders are usually located in front and at the centre. Most of us associate the number of cylinders with power, and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, that isn’t always the case.

Car cylinders are a lot like the pot you use to cook your food. It’s not the cylinder itself that is powerful, but what it holds. Car cylinders contain fuel; the more cylinders you have, the more fuel you can use at one time. It’s the same with cooking pots and pans. You can’t cook 2 litres of soup in a 1-litre pot.

Now with that said, let’s briefly touch on a few parts:

The cylinders – are made of durable metal and are sealed at one end. The other end opens and closes. The cylinder has a tight-fitting piston that slides up and down, and two valves that open and close to let something in or shut everything out.

Intake valve – lets fuel and air into the cylinder (from the carburetor or injector).

Exhaust valve – allows exhaust gases to escape.

Spark plug – sits at the top of the cylinder and it creates a spark that ignites the fuel.

Piston – is located at the bottom of the cylinder and is attached to a shaft called the crankshaft.

Crankshaft – provides power to the car’s transmission and drives the wheels.


The real difference between 4, 6, 8, 12… cylinders

If you should only know one thing about car engines, it should be the difference between a 4-cylinder, 6-cylinder, 8-cylinder, & a 12-cylinder engine (could be more – it was intentional to use the image of a W-16 Bugatti engine in the title-graphic). Since cylinders are like cooking utensils that hold fuel, the more you have, the more fuel you burn. When you have more cylinders, you create more motion to turn the crankshaft, which provides more power to the car. But as you may have discovered by now, more cylinders also mean you’ll burn a lot more fuel, and faster.

That’s why faster or more powerful cars are almost always less fuel-efficient than most economy cars. But don’t make the mistake of thinking that more cylinders equals a faster car. Again, that is not always the case. In fact, most trucks and pick-ups use 6, 8, 10 or even 12-cylinder engines in some cases – but you won’t see an F150 winning a race against a regular sized 6-cylinder sports car. More cylinders mean more power, period. The design of the car, however – dictates how that power is distributed. And modern technology to add to that, has usurped “size” – redefining how much power can be gotten out of “smaller” engines via the manipulation of air – “forced induction” through a modified air intake contrivance based on the principle that more air in the combustion process greatly creates a higher of output of power, and they are usually called Turbochargers or Superchargers. Slight variation in how they operate, however, they both carry out similar functions nonetheless.

Also, pistons matter a lot during this stage – as you might imagine (or not imagine), pistons are subjected to a lot of heat and pressure during all combustion processes. When the pistons are able to move with more force, the combustion will be more powerful, and the car will in turn move with more force.

Conclusion

When choosing between a 4, 6, 8, 10, or a 12-cylinder engine, it’s all about personal preference. If fuel economy is most important to you, you’ll want an inline 4-cylinder engine. If you want to balance fuel economy and speed, then I strongly urge you to consider a 4-cylinder turbocharged engine which can be found in many German sub-compact, compact and mid-size luxury category of vehicles post 2015. To get pure power, a 6-cylinder turbocharged engine may be right for you. Then if you’ve got the means and fuelling (especially now that a sizeable chunk of our income goes into this – God abeg O) isn’t really a problem for you, and you really really long for that your dream powerful ultra-high performance V8 car – then by all measure go for it! There are few pleasures in life; driving the ultimate behemoth is definitely amongst that list…

And as you may know, the best way to determine which car is best for you is to carry out research on it first then take it out for a test drive to see if its performance on an open road will fulfill your heart’s desire but please don’t forget your pocket level O at the end of the day.

Do have yourself a pleasant drive. And as always, thanks for taking out your precious time to read this piece.


https://autohub.ng/blog/the-differences-between-4-6-8-12-cylinders/

Simple pictures attached would have explained better. No offence just a suggestion.

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Politics / Re: Tribunal Dismisses Atiku's Petition, Affirms Tinubu As Elected President by drsibz66(m): 8:45am On Sep 07, 2023
assholemods:

If the judiciary has declared Obi winner or ask for re run you won't be saying all these. Sour losers!

Seems you don't understand English. Unsitting a president in Nigeria is by only Gof himself. What you stated will and was never going to happen even if there were a million evidence that the election was rigged. That is my message.
Politics / Re: You Will Never Be President As Long As I Live – Reno Omokri To Peter Obi by drsibz66(m): 8:42am On Sep 07, 2023
plaindealer:


https://dailypost.ng/2023/09/07/nigerias-election-youll-never-be-president-as-long-as-i-live-omokri-to-peter-obi/

Be prepared to die then , cos if its God's will for him to be president of Nigeria one day, it will surely happen its only going to be time. So be prepared to die like a chicken if God has destined him to be a president.

Stupid man. As if you are a president maker.

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Politics / Re: Tribunal Dismisses Atiku's Petition, Affirms Tinubu As Elected President by drsibz66(m): 9:43pm On Sep 06, 2023
contentmakerPRO:
Judgement is not based on emotions but facts presented and argued about, not about explaination without proof. Thats what many of the oppositions didnt understand.
The person you are fighting, has mastered everything more than 20 years ago, and has prepared for it, long ago when both atiku and obi are still baby in politics. If you like, wail, cry, shout, nag, scream, Judiciary is not based on emotions and intimidations.

Funny thing is that majority of these bullies didnt vote just like those twins that has shows in US, during the week of the presidential elections. They jet secretely out before elections, but wait tommorow now, you will see their tweet first.
The moments obi situation room and that of peter atedo stopped their so called collision, i gave up already cos they have already saw the results even when they removed the so called rigged areas and added it to their own, they lost woefully, there by resulting in promoting blackmailers and looking for what is not lost..

Now, All eyes on judiciary don turn RED.

When arrorant, insurbodination and big head full atiku, obi and kwankwaso head, this is what they get in return. Assuming they worked together, genuinely, they would have given BAT run for his life BUT eh.
They can come back 4 years and try their damaged lucks already.
Henceforth, if i hear judiciary is a scam.. eh...As you lay yur bed... yu lie on it.....
They should not even bother to go supreme because it will be worse, the fine will be too heavy to pay.

Nigeria has never been know for justice. Weather we like it or not we have to accept that only God can unsit a president in Nigeria. Because the ruling class in the law in Nigeria.
Even if there were 1 billion evidences . Tinubu already sitted as a president will still win. Is it not in Nigeria someone will loot money and still go to court to get a court injuction not to be investigated. The judiciary is the problem of Nigeria. Cos anywhere there isn't a law , anarchy is the order.

Note.. if you were thinking of anything from the Nigerian judiciary, sorry you worse than those that voted for tinubu and thought he was better than buhari.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Arsenal Vs Manchester United (3 - 1) On 3rd September 2023 by drsibz66(m): 9:09pm On Sep 03, 2023
Drefaithful:
I beg who deflected Declan Rice goal into the net? I watched it afar I'm not joking. Hope no
be pesin wey I dey think

Faith Evans..

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Family / Re: Nigerian Man Asked To Leave UK After His Cheating Wife Files For Divorce by drsibz66(m): 11:51pm On Sep 02, 2023
[quote author=worksmart post=125523904]He can contest the divorce and try and drag it out as long as possible.
If they have children he may have good case to remain regardless of the divorce.[/quo

Lol. You can't contest divorce. Every body has a right to marry and unmarry.
Family / Re: Nigerian Man Asked To Leave UK After His Cheating Wife Files For Divorce by drsibz66(m): 11:43pm On Sep 02, 2023
flokii:
King Charles should please do something about the annoying female centric laws in the UK to save men from extinction.. these wicked laws are capable of making grown men think of suicide which we do not want in the UK.

Men rights should be protected too.. men are humans too not some pets to be treated shabbily in order to please cheating women.

Get it straight . It's not gender thing. The woman is the principal applicant or owner of the visa and the husband and kids are dependants. If the man was the principal applicant or owner of the visa , after divorce the woman or wife is no longer a dependant of the man and also the visa , so the woman will also be sent home too.
Crime / Re: Leaked Nudes Flood Social Media As Ladies Combat Blackmailers by drsibz66(m): 11:31pm On Sep 02, 2023
BoldBrainz:
Ours is a society that still needs plenty of enlightenment.

For people who are very deeply religious, we tend to find delight in being morally judgemental to the point we practically rain ridicule and condemnation on ourselves.

Nudity is largely one of the foundational ingredients of most African cultures, and Nigeria is no exemption. How we have become so brainwashed to the extent able bodied MEN are gloating in the feel of shaming and ruining women with their nudity, is a level of insanity and masculine irresponsibility that should be studied in a Chinese Laboratory.

That a woman trusts you enough to give you photos and videos of her nudity while you're both in a relationship, should be a solid foundation for you to respect that thing she saw in you, and reciprocate her trust. But NO! You're an idiot who's fortunate enough to have a human face and penis, so how you eventually believe such a dirty behaviour adds to your "Masculine Conquests", is the only thing that still reminds us that you were initially created to be a goat!

To think our ancestors proved manhood by conquering lands and protecting their women, while we're here today exposing ours to opprobrium.

Bros, make una dey reason o! Una follow get sisters, and those wey no get, go get daughters. Karma no need google maps o!

When faced with a problem always tackle it from the head or source.. my question is why are you taking pictures or videos of your nudes as a woman ... why , why ,why. Even if he is your husband. Seeing one's private parts or nudes every single minute in my opinion reduces its value or rather sexual desensitisation or stimuting power.
There is simply no rational behind taking pics or videos of your nudes.
Truth is if there are no nude pics or videos taken there won't be non to leak.
Politics / Re: FG To Establish Poverty Alleviation Trust Fund - Betta Edu by drsibz66(m): 11:25am On Sep 01, 2023
SmartPolician:
One thing this government must do is to know the actual population of this country.

Enforce a law that empowers the government to prosecute people who don't have NIN, including Fulanis in the forest.

Afterwards, kick off that census that was suspended.

Who plans without knowing the actual population of its country? Every day, we keep guessing the population of Nigeria.


The judiciary is the problem of the country. Anywhere there is no law there is no order.
When the law becomes selective or is affordable or has a price , anarchy is what follows . Nigeria can never work without the judiciary.

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Family / Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by drsibz66(m): 5:36pm On Aug 29, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Here's a bold question for you to answer honestly! If you were to find out your wife was cheating on you with your next-door neighbor, would you also be willing to not let the cheating define your marriage? Would you be willing to allow her to continue her cheating ways on the grounds that she is a good cook and mother to your children? Is that what you are insinuating? undecided

A man and a woman are different humans anatomically,psychologically or mentally. While I have seen men having 2 or more wives I have never seen a woman having 2 or more husbands.
Men are wired differently from women. Most Afican women can stand a second wife if the conditions are right and favouable (Wealth and affluence) but men won't at least not openly claim it that " I am one of her husbands"

As a man , if any woman who I[code] pay her bride price cheats its surely over. That because
1, I married her and paid her pride price.
2, I choose her at of the lot
3, it's a ego bruiser for you to continue to live with a woman you cheats. And I know majority of men won't forgive either. It's just natural a man and a woman aren't thesame even though they ate both humans. That's why a man doesn't produces eggs and women don't produce semem. They hormones responsible for most of our actions and behaviours aren't also the same so you can't expect the same reaction from both sex when they face the same stimulus and challenge.

Those are my opinion as the question was directed to me.
Family / Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by drsibz66(m): 5:05pm On Aug 29, 2023
Kobojunkie:
1. Even the one entering marriage of the first time faces the same odds so I am not certain why you use that against the subject of divorce when you could equally use it as a counter to marriage altogether. undecided

2. Speak for yourself and your situation. Only the one wearing the shoes knows what is the best option for his or her case.

3. OP is worried that she might be infected meaning she has been intimate with her husband all that while. How much closer must OP get in order for you to realize that OP isn't the problem in this situation? Why is the victim the one who has to work on this assumed deficiency? Why must OP work to please the husband who instead preferred to have his knobs shined elsewhere? undecided

4. A wise African woman is one who accepts infidelity as her lot in marriage? I was waiting for you to say that and you did just that. Over to you African woman... see what you have reduced yourselves in marriage to. lipsrsealed

1.. its a general statement, if you decide to get married at all also prepare for the garbage that comes with it as a woman cos most married man cheat just that some do it with respect and still love and maintain their marriage. Infact some men are so good at it that their wives can even swear on their behalf that their husbands has never cheated.

2, I was just giving the op the realistic options and consequences of the options post divorce . Which you will agree with me it's almost 100% correct if you want to be realistic.

3. We don't know how much the op is involved with her husband , you only assuming the op is at her best but from what I can deduce from the question asked by vicky on the phone about who is better on bed. It's quite points to the ops not up to her game or not enough for her husband game and vicky has taken it as a challenge.

4. I haven't said you must accept infidelity as a woman , what I am saying is as an African woman its best you go into marriage and be prepared for the garbage which is your husband cheating. Once you decide to marry just get your self mentally prepared for the day it happens. If I want to be generous 8 out of 10 men have cheated on their wives. Most women know and just forgive and move on but if you want to divorce or define your marriage based sorely on cheating the options available have also been stated above. The truth is we humans don't want to be realistic we always want to assume and say in our mind my case will be different.

My question is this... As a woman are you going to let cheating alone define your marriage ? Based on the options post divorce?
Family / Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by drsibz66(m): 4:30pm On Aug 29, 2023
Exodus15v11:
Adultery is grounds for divorce. Save all the evidence from his phone onto yours and keep a backup just in case, then do the needful. Don't let anyone tell you to continue the marriage. In fact, if you do, he will become more empowered to continue cheating (with your neighbor or with anyone else) because he now knows you won't leave, although he may start hiding the evidence better or password his phone completely to prevent you from opening it and knowing he's still cheating. Abegi, just do yourself a favor and leave. There's nothing to salvage here. If he kills you before your time with disease or hbp he will forget about you and still be on top of woman the next day, so choose yourself and leave while you can with your remaining dignity. Marriage is not a do or die affair.

All those of you preaching divorce to the op, I just hope you realise its easier said than done. Why not preach peace and forgiveness.

When she divorces what's happens next, at best she remarried, does that mean the next husband won't cheat ? And if she decides not to remarry she starts sleeping around with different men in the name of boyfriend of man friend.

At the end of the day divorce isn't the best option. She should learn to forgive and get closer to her husband cos for the Vicky to be asking who is better on bed clearly shows the man had told Vicky where his wife is deficient.

In my honest opinion, though I don't support infidelity but it's not really an African thing or culture to divorce ur husband becos he cheated. Weather we like it or not men will continue to cheat on the wives till eternity. A wise african woman who is ready to actually be married knows this and doesn't judge her marriage solely on this. As a matter of fact , if she divorces today the next husband or boyfriend is 95% bound to cheat on her , so what's the point in moving between 2 constant?

As long as ur husband respects (doesnt place any woman above you ), loves, and isn't violent with you. Just work on your marriage woman and stop looking for a clean pig as they are not synonymous. Just imagine u divorce and vicky replaces you in d house.

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Politics / Re: Obaseki: I’m Scared Of FG’s Lack Of Plan For Nigerians After Subsidy Removal by drsibz66(m): 7:06pm On Aug 25, 2023
jumper524:
Saying the truth is much easier than solving the reality.
Obaseki really doesn't rate Nigerians to have this level of Audacity to speak this.

since president Tinubu inauguration, Obaseki has never attended NEC meetings to raise his observation and proffer a much better solution but then again, president Tinubu who has been taking measures and counter measures against our failing naira as well as working towards salary improvement is the culprit here.

I beg to ask, Obaseki is the state governor of oil producing edo state that receives a much better allocation than kaduna, can he please tell us what his plans were that failed so badly in the state that made the state has the worst state secondary schools in Nigeria while kaduna is now having one of the best?

Or Obaseki was not amongst the list of governors who hoarded covid 19 palliatives?

Probably election is by the corner and Tinubu is the person to insult to divert attention.

Obaseki said the truth that is the most important thing. You all should know that the evil you fail to conderm today will one day, sooner or later also come back to bite you. How long are we going to keep deceiving ourselves and try to cover the truth.
The earlier we start speaking out and the better.

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