12inchess:
The heart of women is deep. I feel people advising to cheat and all may not be the right thing for you to do. You need to ask why. Maybe she can see a councilor. Maybe she was abused as a teen who knows. This may be the reason she detest sexual activity with you. Some childhood trauma may be involved. Also put it in your prayers maybe God can show you what to do. All these following side chic and all never ends well. This is my opinion.

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

wunmi590:
Good morning to you all,

So yesterday, I was in one of my family house at obalende to say hello, immediately I entered I just sighted a beautiful bag with food stuff..

I was told it was shared freely to all the resident of of the LCDA...

Honestly, all the elected politician in ikoyi obalende are special breeds, their love for development and extending their hands to people who needs is very high...

Lagos lead, others follow, I know they will still share school stuff for students resuming soon...

It's their usual practice to share branded school bags, mathematical sets, shoes 👞 and some other school stuff, to help the student well when resuming and helping the parent to save from there...

Calabar1stSon:
You'll soon run insane from stupidity.

This I have seen!

transient123:


These lots are bunch of morons, all they know is crying and wailing. When you read their sentiments you begin to wonder whether they have brains.

They see no reason when their mumu messiah said he won't leave subsidy 1hr after being sworn in Anambra, not Nigeria, yet they are wailing about d same subsidy technically removed because of no budgetary provisions since last year.

Ask them what would they and their Messiah have done different in the last 2 1/2 months? They will start blabbing like drunkards, same way I took one to the cleaners few days ago....


If you can't read the handwriting on the wall them it's your fault, cos other people can.

Tinubu policy hasn't help the masses ... FACT

The only people to have benefited from his policies so far are those in power whose allowances or salaries have been or will be increased soon. For me that's enough to tell the direction of the government.

You still having hope for this govt, is like a jobless man , hoping his Nigerian fiancee who just got married to a billionaire will one day come back to beg him.

jrusky:
All these noise I can't really understand. Is it Tinubu the first president to make such appointment? Honestly I'm not bother about all these wallahi all that matters to me is a better govt and people who can deliver.

Housing:
The lies therein are obvious. One of the wrong conclusion is Google estimated time being 4x. That is not true whenever you on the road and use Google map traffic estimate are also added in fact if the traffic is not up to 10 minutes. It updates traffic along route in every 5minutes I use Google map often and I know this for sure

helinues:
Not funny.

Everywhere is an abroad. A British residing in Nigeria is also in abroad

Na so a friend spent N30m relocating to UK with his family. He borrowed money, sold some of his things for 20hours work weekly while the wife can't work.

AlphaWolf27:
Re: #4 - Because you are washing toilets in the UK does not mean others have to use that as a benchmark. There are different levels of persons going to the UK, the compiler of this article is obviously at the bottom of the chain.

delpee:


It's not too late for the families to check. Enough details were provided in respect of each dead body picked up.

tollyboy5:

because family of the 103 dead persons did not come so its right to kill them and claim nobody died. I never thinking faculty can be this low.

SosoTakemypain:


I'm sorry for my tone,I'm just so unhappy these days

SosoTakemypain:


Didn't you see where i said frequent urination is the only symptom I'm having??

Jeyun:
u won use am know whether na wetin dey do u? Person show u him lab result indicating he has staphs u dey demand for symptoms

illicit:


Haba, babe calm down

Why PICK on me
I didn't send her to PICK money at the CLUB where she was CLUBbed to death nah

GboyegaD:
When GDP doesn't translate to living standards, it makes no meaning. Biggest economy in Africa is just the sum of total production and the level of poverty we have witnessed is alarming implying the rich are getting richer and the poor much more poorer than we can imagine.

I truly do not see this as a worthy news in our case.

SosoTakemypain:
Good afternoon nairalanders,
I have been diagnosed with staphylococcus aureus for the second time,
This is making it the second time I have been diagnosed with staph,the first time I took the injection that was sensitive to the infection but it didn't work,I even took herbal drug it didn't work.

I am still wondering how I got this infection cos I'm still a virgin, people say the infection is contacted through sex.

Guys please help me out, should I take the drugs recommended in the lab results??I am having a feeling it won't work cos the previous one didn't work.
Please anyone with a solution should come to my aid.
Frequent urination is the only symptom I am having.

Thanks.

FreeStuffsNG:
Ignorance is bliss. Go and work hard first.

The era you were born with the hope that govt will train, feed and educate you for your parents is gone. Go and create something valuable in the market place and exchange it for money. Subsidy on petrol is gone.

If crude oil price falls, petrol, like kerosene, diesel and gas, will fall. We don't give free petrol o so go and work hard and quit the social media idle banters.

No Nigerian should be subsidising petrol for same ruling class that are overpaid and privileged. Let the poor man breathe. If the huge trillions wasted on petrol subsidy benefits the poor man, it can unleash his potentials. Enough of giving privileged people like you subsidy on petrol and electricity.

Sonnobax15:

After being exonerated,then what will happen to his reputation that has been damaged? . This is one reason why I tend to be more careful when dealing with that gender, because funny enough we've found ourselves living in a society that favours them once they cry out . Not minding if they are the actual culprits or not......

Fear bannies.

Maravilla:
Please doctors in the house, for some weeks now my 4yr old son has this recurring boils on his back and armpit, when I burst them, it brings out a pus like substance and form a sore. I went to the hospital, the doctor said it was a bacteria infection and I was giving some antibiotics, yet so far no tangible results. Please I need your assistance

millionboi2:
you just dey run your mouth here,u think is everybody dat is opportuned to dey earn dat way.

Beremx:
For the fact that he orchestrated scarcity of naira notes and made Nigerians to suffer from it, he deserves it. But on a second thought, he didn't act alone. Those who gave him the order to do so should also face same

Policy3:
Having gone through most of the comments.. some people can just spew rubbish, is it better they don't share the 8k and direct the money to themselves??
Some people will be saying he should use the money for this, use the money for that, have u asked urself what the poor masses will benefit from that??

victorsola:
what threshold. Does anybody earn below 12k pounds a year. And if tinubu tax you people will keep screaming yet u can go to another country and get taxed heavily .

nairalanda1:



Why did you take that loan then?

You obviously did not need it, so you took it, and you entered their trap.

Oga, pay them their money and stop disturbing us here.


(Before you start, I use a loan app. And before I take loan, I read the terms and condtions, and scrutinize everything up and dawn...)