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xtianchris:
Story .. Just live your life ... Don't live your life to impress anyone. Imagine telling a snake to behave like a monkey..For how long?

Those snakes even behave like a human being which is why many men make the mistake of falling for them

floss:
Women are the most unstable entities… make a deeper research, you might find out that she’s seen a bigger fish and started feeling and thinking twice about marrying her current fish…

They are unstable because they know something they always pursue them

You no deserve good man is and you know it, is why. Na curs and punischmnt she for carry.

Life knows that she is a bad tin and He don send message to her make she no enter lest, she for see nweeh

vdestro:
Yeah I saw that but rather than concentrate on her issues, I addressed his, so he can have his peace back which she has taken away.

The guy na still wash God just help am there but hin don already go.

franchasofficia:
....God created man and woman differently with various weaknesses and deficiencies more peculiar to different genders and if you dig deeper, they are for a reason, but as humans, we want to make sure we forcefully balance every human affair/activities in order to maintain a false sense of gender equality and balance which can never be achieved till the world ends.
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Rutherinspace already answered you perfectly.

Human beings are not animals ruled by impulse. We have: the power Self-control, moral reasoning, and Empathy.

Claiming impulse has never been a good defence anywhere

pocohantas:
Good for you, but I will leave immediately.
It is not my body you will release strange demons and diseases into. There are women like you that don't mind, hopefully cheating men can find your type and marry you all.

Ehn, like you would leave Davido for cheating

Sirtee19:
Can you substantiate your assertion of "all men cheat". If you have said most men, I wouldn't have objected to your assertion. If you believe that all men cheat, then all women cheat too. Which means you are a cheat too. There will always be an exception in every ALL.

Bros Tee, we are all cheats just that some are still on their way to cheating, so till death bed before we can know

9galen217:
You are not alone.
10 years and counting... I can't bring myself to cheat on her. Not sure how those other men do it.
Stay committed and faithful.

Bros no loud am oo make Satan no hear you.

Damn, too late.

Rutherinspace:
This is a very faulty reasoning but I'm not surprised because it's regurgitated in different forms.

The claim that all men are “created” to cheat is not biology — it’s justification.

Yes, men can feel attraction to multiple women.
But attraction is not the same as action.

Human beings are not animals ruled by impulse. We have: Self-control, moral reasoning, and Empathy. The ability to choose long-term stability over short-term pleasure

If “natural desire” excused behavior, then anger would justify violence, and greed would justify theft. Society exists because adults control impulses....

Beautiful!! When last did i hear a flowery of perfect doctrine?

Guy, you have sweetened my morning

OmoOshodi:
sometimes na fear of STDs dey make me abstain.....rest of mind dey as ...I no dey go hospital unless she wan deliver baby...no unnecessary spending on drugs ...
Price dey for uncontrolled sex life

And you are sad for it? And you say you like rest of mind?

bewla:
It's not a sin to marryany rether it's something implanted on us by the women forks

For safety of there comfort
Guaranty of the own selfish accomplishments which they want to gain from you only that's making them believe it's a promise to them alone you should commit

There is no Bible or Quran or traditional quote that say one man one women for ever

Thou shalt not commit adultery.

How do you do polygamy without committing adultery?

https://www.nairaland.com/8032594/deuteronomy-17-17-shows-god#128966884

Bendeco02:
This one is always in romance section talking about men and her taste

No go marry

You go find your taste cross 40 years soon. Because the ones that are your taste, you're likely not to be their taste either.

She is actually here to do ivu to men. Her words are always loaded. You see that statement "HER TASTE in men
You really got me there", if only you knew that the classes and workshops lessons she has given in that statement will last maybe 3 lecture days.

Phabulous4:
You want to take what you miss out on then! your eyes are open now. lol!

I read something yesterday that sticked with me: it says, if you still see life at 50 the same way you did at 20, then you have wasted 30 years of your life. We are meant to change. Priorities are meant to be reshuffled.

I am surprised that you are shocked she is no longer interested in you, after all those years of being out of contact. Did you even take the time to find out whether she is already building a life with someone else?

Look ahead man. Nothing went wrong; it is simply time that took its toll on your childhood butterflies.

I saw it too and this is why you people can never understand God and True Christians for
"You cannot be a winner without maturity and consistency". Marco Silva

And threads here have shown the results of people who changed their views at 40 even. But, for me Life's been very sweet and beautiful even at 50 and I still hold my views at 20

Iseddy:
You were playing the good guy... Lol.
Trust me any babe you like just go for it as long as she's ripe. Ladies hate good guys that's why they usually go for the bad guys

See you have said it, yet i wonder why people complain about their bad relationships and marriage

Alcatel17:
D game just started n u already giving up...no now...girls love been chased a little so just let her know u ain't leaving her alone n always b wit her more n within a month she will give in....just ensure u treat her angelic always...but all this won't work if she already has a guy she's loyal to in her school so b guided...

Of all things to chase. What a waste of life

vdestro:
You did nothing wrong.

You connected to her on a soul/deep level but not sexually. She saw it as something was wrong with her and locked up. Not your fault.

Now meeting you years later, she saw an opportunity to feel better about herself now that in her mind you now think her good enough to date.

It's nothing to beat yourself over, just understand and move on.

Many things were truly wrong with her but because she had now grown to accept the the mons in her, she now knew that she must not connect with the guy as things will get very very bad for both of them. So, she has to run

gregyboy:
Learn to rush them, don't give time to think because they don't have sense like men

Then you wonder why you no make am wen you grow up

Saleslourd:
hate is strong but I get what you mean
maybe she just moved on completely.

She actually hates you for escaping her Dimmons

Saleslourd:
your story hits close man but here’s the thing – I wasn’t waiting because I didn’t see her, I just valued her more than rushing anything.

Or maybe If to say I chop inside matter for balance

See, you have proven what I told them. It is only fornication she wants.

Antwan99:
Brother, know this today. Once a lady shows green signals and you choose not to see for a long time, she'll hate you in future.

If you check it, you would see it is exactly how weechiess like Potiphars wife, behave.

It means always that you have escaped something bad.

Saleslourd:
Lmaooo bro you really came for me with that last line 😂

Fair point about growth though people do change a lot from teen years to university days, I can’t argue with that.
But nah I didn’t ask because she looked different. Like I said, she was always the one I connected with most, even back then when everyone else was on my case for it. If anything, she probably looked at me different who knows...

And this is why she did not gree. She knows what you think of her but she knows that if you get in, you would be greatly disappointed in what you see in her for she has overcharged into a monsta that even you yourself will run

wildcatter23:
Well you said it all.

Let me tell you a personal story.

Back then, I had this girl that was crazy about me. But, I wasn't feeling her.

4 years later, she became awesome if you know what I mean.

I walked up to her and made my intentions known.

She rejected me.

Then she told me that all I had to do back then was to say the word and she is all mine.

So the lesson you are finding is simple.

When it comes to ladies, seize every opportunities. Don't dull.

As ladies mature everyday, their taste in men improves due to the fact that they are hypergamous in nature.

So you don't wait, you do what's necessary because even tomorrow isn't sure.

She only wanted you for fornication but this is where if you had gone out with her and you did not fornicate her, then she would dump you.

brain54:
Not everyone likes being taken as the 4th or more option...

Besides she was younger when she met you and a lot could have changed when she re met you.

No longer naive, her taste in men, relationship status and so many other things that signify her personal growth.


I can also bet she looked more appealing and beautiful to you which made you to ask her out!

You are only 50% right because this part of Truth is there.

However, the true Truth is that the girl only wanted fornication even though she knew the guy wanted serious relationship which she did not want.

Ourtruth247:
The difference between me and you

The difference between me and you is that I've seen your god while you haven't. I've seen your god in my astral travels and I've seen them on DMT trips.

Clear proof of kokain high!

Ourtruth247:
Your god in the old testament on multiple occasions ordered his people the Israelites to carry out genocide on populations and on innocent children, and the same is still going on today in the middle east, because your god is so obsessed with death, especially that of children..

Like you did not see them genocide them first, even for more than 400yrs.

You ain't seen suffer yet. God would definitely attend to you that by the time He starts your name would be synonymous to suffa

tctrills:
Oga, I have answered your question what don't you understand. Willfully disobeying God's word is sin.
So if you willfully choose not to get married, have you willfully disobeyed or not? Have you committed a sin or not? Please stop asking questions that even your 5 year old can answer. We expect better from you.

You have not answered the question rather you are asking me to answer the question i asked you to answer which you are dodging from answering.
And since a 5 year old can answer it, oya tell us the answer.

Do you say that God commanded that everyone must marry and that if they do not marry they have sinned?

Melagros:
COMRADES, when I watched the video online, I shook my head and asked myself, instead of the passengers to remain calm and proffer solution to the problem rather they resorted to speaking in tongues
Does speaking jn tongues save at a die minute?

No problem next time you travel it shall happen in your trip let us see if you you won't have a heart attack which is why you are not praying

bukatyne:
Nowhere does the Bible condemn tattoos:

It condemned drawing tattoos for the dead.

Same chapter also condemned mixed farming, mixed clothing, houses that have balconies, altars that have steps, men & women wearing each other’s clothing etc.

While I am not holding brief for tattoos, please endeavour to understand the Bible.

God through the bible condemn tattoos for every reasonable person can see that His mind is to quash pagan practices of tattooing. Principle of ejusdem generis

So, He does not need to list out every thing for He knows that we get the idea.

So anyone pretending not to understand is only putting themself in peril.

'he that seeketh mischief, it shall come unto him".

tctrills:
If you willfully disobey God, that's the definition of sin.
James 4:17
Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.

Are you cleared now?

You are talking Off Point

The question is do you say that God commanded that everyone must marry and that if they do not marry they have sinned?

bukatyne:
@bold:

My issue is not doubt because I firmly believe God can do anything; it is hurt that He doesn't want to do it.

So how do I deal with it?

I have realized that God does as He wills.... whilst people perceive that in a positive light; I see it as a matter of fact. Again, I believe that God views things as per the grand scheme of things.... Does your 'suffering' thwart His plans? If no, well, get used to it or solve it yourself or pray and He will answer if He wants to.

Like Pax.onel says, God is not a genie you command with prayers or fasting or supplication. That is the new generation Biblical teaching.

The God that hated Esau from the womb, created Pharaoh to be stiff necked for His glory, killed the first born sons of the Egyptians (including those who have no freaking clue of what was going on) and 'let' Satan destroy Job's family for testing testing can do anything He likes.

At the end, all we ask for is His mercy & compassion: Like Paul says 'He will have mercy on whom He will have mercy on & compassion on whom He will have compassion on.'

You claim that you appreciate that God is not your personal genie but I don't you do, if not you won't be angry when you say that He did not answer your prayers.

And how can you say that He does not want to when He has even Said that He is always ready to attend to your prayers save that your sins have cut you off from Him?

So, all suffer in vain when they never learn what God teaches.

You say God hated Esau yet God blessed Esau greater and richer that he wanted nothing. He built a city while Jacob was still in japa levels looking for a place to live in. So where is the hatred?

Not to talk of Pharoah who he and his fathers lived in comfort and enjoyment for more than 400yrs and who subjected Isreal to slavery and over hard labour and even muderrd thousands of hebrew male babies. Why do you imagine that God would allow him to repent after all his evuls? And why would God not take Egypt's sons? Did Egypt not take Isreal's sons? Is The Law not a son for a son?

Not to talk of Job whom God took as His champion to boast against satan. If you thought your son was better than Ronaldo, would you not put him in the field with Ronaldo?

With all these, it is very clear why God can never ever answer your prayers for you a verybahd parsun and it is Written "the prayers of the Wike.'d is abhord to God".

tctrills:
Oga what are you saying?
God's commandment was for every one
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
It was not a commandment to certain people, it was given to everyone...

Are you saying that God commanded that everyone must marry and that if they do not marry they have sinned?