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Before this question can be accurately answered, we need to understand what sex is and it's purpose.

I, for one, think sex has been unduly overhyped. The movies, music videos and some books has deceived a lot of people. Believe me somebody lied. Have you ever wondered why the sex you have is a far cry from the porn you watch? Have you taken time to findout why you can't seem to offer anything intellectually, spiritually said emotionally stimulating after the sex. Why do you have to start looking for another partner after the see-finish.

Sex is meant for intimacy, it's fosters love. It's not something you should do with just anyone. It should be meaningful. You can't give your new iPhone X to a toddler, can you? Neither can you give a bomb to a baby to play with.

Majority of girls don't experience satisfaction, many don't cum or even climax, majority of guys just want to chuk n run to the next available hole.

Sex is way more than jumping in the sack with the next available person. They said a part of you is joined to whoever you have sex with, so when you have sex with whoever is available, all in the name of urge, you're turning yourself into a multiple personality disorder patient.

I'm of the opinion that sex is not worth it if you're not with a special person in your life. It's not about days or week, it's not about number of times but the quality and connection.

Remember, marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled. What do I know anyway......

Lovely thread
Nairasand what kinda marketing are you into?

SINAJ.....this lady is just so amazing. She's intelligent, beautiful and kind hearted, not to mention her voice.....a guy can just die while admiring her.

Let's not kid ourselves, it's very hard to keep up especially if the situation doesn't give the ppl involved opportunity to see once in awhile

1. Music 2. Money 3. Traveling to a new & better place 4. Taking evening walk/stroll 5. Watching funny black American movie with good food

A nobody seeking attention.... Ini ibagha, instead of you to get your hustle on & start think of how to make use of opportunities around you, you allow bitterness & cowardice to get the best of you.... What next when you're done killing them strangers?

naijaboiy:
And where is the thread?

Yeepa!!!!! See as olutola88 finished yu. Sorry ehn

Come to think of it, where would I have been without my grandma beating sense into me during the time stubbornness was my fore skin.....

When it comes to using corporal punishment to train a
child, African parents take to whole cake.
The scientific research is pretty clear that spanking kids is
ineffective, if spanking truly works, then Nigeria would
produce the best children in the world.
Spanking correlates with various bad outcomes, including
addiction, depression and other mental health problems.
But spanking remains legal in most countries of the world,
including the United States.
Sweden was the first country in the world to completely
abolish all corporal punishment of children in 1979 and
since then 43 countries have outlawed spanking, and two
more are about to.
In Africa, six countries have been able to fully protect
children from corporal punishment by law.
It is important to note that while the children in these
countries are fully protected from every form of corporal
punishment by the law, they still get a good beating from
their parents and teachers as full implementation of the law
in these countries have remained problematic.

1. Togo
Togo banned corporal punishment of kids in 2007. The
Children Code of Togo considers corporal punishment a
breach of law. The Code also explicitly prohibits
punishment in schools and in penal and care institutions.
In order to support the implementation of the prohibition,
the government has taken a number of measures,
including: Launching the Learn Without Fear Campaign,
setting up a child protection hotline that any person can
use anonymously and many more.
Though majority of the teachers and parents still believe
that beating a child is the most appropriate punishment
and corporal punishment continues to be used.
Further work is being put in place to ensure full
implementation of the law and elimination of corporal
punishment.

2. Kenya
In 2010, Kenya proposed a new constitution can into force
on 27 August 2010. The Bill of Rights protects the right of
every person not to be subject to corporal punishment by
any person in any setting. If you paid any attention to the
previous sentence, you will notice that the rights apply to
all persons and all settings.

3. Tunisia
In July 2010, Parliament passed a Law amending to Penal
Code to remove the clause which provided a legal defence
for the use of corporal punishment in childbearing.
Prior to the reform, the Penal Code punished assault and
violence which did not lead to serious or lasting
consequences for the victim, but stated that “correction of
a child by persons in authority over him is not punishable”.
The new law explicitly repeals this clause, making it a
criminal offence to assault a child even lightly, even if you
are correcting the child.
Opponents of the amendment argued that it undermines
parents’ authority and could lead to loosening of traditionally close family ties.

4. South Sudan
On 14 July 2011, the Republic of Sudan became the 193
member state of the United Nations, having achieved
independence on 9 July of the same year.
South Sudan achieved full prohibition of corporal
punishment, though legislation prohibiting corporal
punishment was originally enacted prior to independence.
In 2005, the Interim constitution stated that “Every child
has the right . . . (f) to be free from corporal punishment
and cruel and inhuman treatment by any person including
parents, school administrations and other institutions”.
Prohibition was confirmed in article the Child Act (2008).
The child act protects children from capital punishment,
life imprisonment, corporal punishment, or group
punishment by chiefs, police, teacher, prison guards or any
other person in any place or institution, including schools,
prisons and reformatories.
After Independence in 2011 these laws came into force.

5. Cape Verde
Cape Verde has banned all forms of corporal punishment
of children , including within the family.
As part of article 31 of the Law on Children and
Adolescents 2013, which entered into force in 2013, parents
must, „In exercising the right to correction always keep in
mind the rights of children and adolescents to an
upbringing free from violence, corporal punishment,
psychological harm and any other measures affecting their
dignity, which are all inadmissible.”
Before 2013, corporal punishment was a criminal offence in
all public and private institutions under the Civil Code, but it
remained lawful in the home and other care settings.

6. Congo, Republic of Congo
Article 53 on Protection of the Law on the Protection of the
Child (2010) states: “It is prohibited to use corporal
punishment for disciplining or correcting the
child” (unofficial translation)
The government in its report to the committee on the
Rights of the Child in 2010, confirmed that prohibition now
extends to the home setting.

Conclusion
Though these bans are very difficult to enforce, they
regulate actions toward children in homes in which parents
remain the authority figures and are largely shielded from
public view.
The laws, give children a legal voice and send a clear
message to parents that spanking is wrong.
Instead of spanking, use gentle instruction, supported by a
strong foundation of love and respect, is the only truly
effective way to bring about commendable behavior based
on strong inner values, instead of superficially “good”
behavior based only on fear.
What is the most memorable beating you have ever received
from your parents? Let us know in the comment section below.


Tracy Malcolm

Link: http//www.giftedgreen.com/2014/blog/2014/12/23/6-african-counties-where-it-is-illegal-to-beat-your-kids/

Uhhmmmnnnn, remind me the name of that movie again..... Yeah, I remember it's 'friends with kids'... Only thing is its film trick in naija

This is a clear difference between a boy and a man

herald9:
Reading this makes me feel like every president should be an Economist...They might know how to run the country better and minimize spendings...

3. herald9 : Quote Post
How can a big nation like this be in serious debt when
people are contributing billions of Naira to fund
campaigns...
Where is the money coming from?
When things go from bad to worse, at the end it's the
common man that will suffer after they start withholding
salaries,while the rich will keep bathing in affluence... So
much for a thinking country.

This really breaks my heart, Isreal is one of the smallest country in the world yet they plan their budget in way that they don't spend upto 50% of their revenue, when are our leaders going to start being patriotic.

Nigerian will be there someday.... I strongly believe

Threads like this gives me hope that Nigeria has a future, @least some selected few are mature enough not to allow sentiments and hatred poison their sense of reasoning. Every Nigerians should have only one thing in mind which is the betterment of our nation. Don't forget you're a Nigerian before you're hausa, igbo youruba or any other tribe for that matter. Think of how to make Nigeria better and stop fight based on some twisted story you were told, why should you be bitter about a war you didn't fight or create.... This is our time be wise, people like ghandi and Mandela did not become world icon based on war, if they choose peace even when they had every right to fight what excuse do you have to spit fire of a war you only heard about. Raise your hand if you fought biafra war..... Just as I thought, you weren't around then, live in peace and let's prosper together Threads like this gives me hope that Nigeria has a future, @least some selected few are mature enough not to allow sentiments and hatred poison their sense of reasoning. Every Nigerians should have only one thing in mind which is the betterment of our nation. Don't forget you're a Nigerian before you're hausa, igbo youruba or any other tribe for that matter. Think of how to make Nigeria better and stop fight based on some twisted story you were told, why should you be bitter about a war you didn't fight or create.... This is our time be wise, people like ghandi and Mandela did not become world icon based on war, if they choose peace even when they had every right to fight what excuse do you have to spit fire of a war you only heard about. Raise your hand if you fought biafra war..... Just as I thought, you weren't around then, live in peace and let's prosper together

2SWT:
1. The over religious type. They are always in the church for one activity or the other. They are only concerned with religious activities ...these type usually wait for the right man to come at the right time [even in their 30's and 40's]

2. The workaholic. All they know is work work work...nothing else. They don't go out during their leisure time, they hardly make friends, hardly attend social occasions...they simply don't have time for guys

3. The Bookworms. If you have come across this type you will understand what l mean...they dont just want to hear anything about relationship. Anything apart from education is not and never their business...they usually have high grades in school though
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4. The ones that are afraid of heart break. They don't trust any guy and they don't want to trust any guy...they might just decide to stop dating after the first heart break


5. The ones waiting for the perfect man. They lay down high qualities of the kind of guy they want like he must be rich, tall, handsome, gentle, caring...etc**keep waiting

6. The ones that feel they are too young to be in a relationship..... even at 25


7. The ones that fear what others will say. Some ladies don't go into relationships simply because they are thinking of what others will say or react if they hear that they are in a relationship



8. The runs girl. We all know this type of girl can never be in a relationship simply because they don't know it's value. All they are after is sex and money...nothing else



9. The ones surrounded alot of male friends. They are usually very young so they hardly see the need of being in a relationship when they have alot of male friends around most especially ' friends with benefits'



10. The type that simply don't want to be in a relationship for no reason. They see no need for it and they don't go for it



inspired by tosyne2much


feel free to add yours

Op mbok if all these ones you've categorized are single will any girl be hooked up then?, who are the ones in relationships? The way you analyzed this matter doesn't seem like any girl will be available to serious guys, so explain @op

Shyness and free advice about how to stop being too
shy
Being shy could be a cute personality trait but it can
also be a problem if its over whelming. If Shyness is so
strong that it keeps people from communicating clearly
people should change. Shy individuals can slowly but
surely by doing things that make them more assertive
or confident. When shyness is out of control and
detrimental to your social well being it's time to find
ways to over come it. Being shy can make you seem
weak or easy. Giving others that impression can have a
many consequences.
* Year 2007 updates:
Shyness is nice but shyness can stop you from doing all the
things You want to, "that's a quote from a song called
"Shyness" from a band called called "The Smiths". You
should listen to it. It's great.
You can add comments/ opinions on Our New Message
Board Here or just see what other people say.
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At times shyness can cause blushing which can also be
a little embarrassing. If you feel embarrassed often, you
might be shy and not know it. If you are so timid that
people walk over you there is a major problem and that
might put your life in danger.
Shyness and being passive
Being shy usually comes with being passive or being
indecisive. If you are passive, your shyness will allow
others to take advantage of you for being so bashful.
Passiveness and indecision will only lead to a life of
discomfort. If your shyness gets to the point that you
start sweating for the slightest things or you wet
yourself (your shirt with all the sweat) you should start
doing something about it.
Positives and negatives about being shy
Shy people usually don't get paid as much because they
don't speak up. Well, there are a few advantages of
being shy: It's easier to get along with others, most shy
people avoid fights or arguments, shy people are
calming to others, being humble is a good thing and
many other things. The disadvantages of being shy are:
people taking you for granted, insecurity, being
ignored, indecision and other things that come when
people aren't heard or understood.
Shy personalities
If you have a shy personality there's no need to force
yourself to be someone you're not but if it's interfering
with your well being or success you can find ways to
change things. First of all make sure to express your
feelings and thoughts clearly to others. There's no good
reason to fear being yourself. Talk to complete
strangers a few times a week and practice being social
even if you're fluttered at first. Eventually you'll come
out of your shell.
Things that cause Shyness:
fear, indecision, insecurity, being a loner, lack of self
confidence, depression, being alone, being too unsocial,
constant indecisiveness, being a coward, psychological
problems, it can also just be a personality trait or fear.
How to over come shyness
1. Make it a point to express what you feel or think at
least once a day with friends or family even though
you're shy, your shyness won't bite. Try to do the same
with a complete stranger 1 a week.
2. When looking at mirrors make to compliment
yourself out loud or in your head. Say things you would
tell someone you love or deeply care about.
3. Understand that you can only be yourself. Know
what you want and try to make up your mind quicker
but stay very precautious. Its always best to be safe
then sorry.
Shyness can be something that you have complete
control over if you know how to take care of yourself
and find courage in the truth. See the links bellow for
further advice.
Link; advice711.com/emotions_feelings/shyness.html

Oluwatosean:
I have noticed that most ladies detest shy guys and i dont really know why but the thing is we are the best kinda guy you could ever come across. Being shy isnt artificial, its a natural thing, we were born with it so its not anyones fault for being shy.

I actually consulted google for these points, something we shy poeple should see we have that makes us better than those that are more outgoing/extroverted



1. Modesty is Attractive
Most shy people are
modest; they are the last
ones to announce their
accomplishments or let
the world know how
great they are. They may
shrink from compliments
or downplay their own
positive attributes.
Although too much
modesty can erode self-
esteem, a healthy dose is
considered an attractive
trait by many.


2. Thinking Before You
Act
If you are shy or socially
anxious you probably
tend to look before you
leap. This trait can be
helpful when it comes to
many life decisions.
Thinking carefully and
planning before taking
action are important for
many of life's hurdles
including planning for the
unexpected, avoiding
unnecessary risk, and
setting long-term goals.


3. Being Approachable
When shyness is not
extreme, it can make you
more approachable to
others. Shyness, and the
modesty and self-effacing
nature that go with it, are
rarely threatening to
others and may lead
people to feel
comfortable around you.
In other words, you don't
have an "attitude" that
makes it hard to
approach you.


4. Calming Effect on
Others
Shy people can
sometimes have a
calming effect on those
who are more high
strung. Though you may
experience inner turmoil
as a shy person, your
outward persona is
probably one of being
calm and quiet. This
calmness and ability to
"not react" may have a
positive effect on those
around you.


5. Human Services
Positions
Do you work in a human
services position? If so,
and if you are shy, your
personality probably
serves you well in terms
of being an empathic
listener; being shy makes
it easier for other people
to open up to you.


6. More Trustworthy
Since you don't toot your
own horn and aren't the
first to tell everyone
about your
accomplishments, others
may find you more
believable and
trustworthy. This can also
make you a better leader.


7. Ability to Overcome
If you have struggled
with shyness your whole
life, then you know what
it means to battle,
endure, and overcome
difficult feelings. Without
your struggle against
shyness you would not
have developed the
ability to cope with life's
difficulties.


8. Deeper Friendships
Chances are that when
you do manage to
develop friendships, they
are deep and long-
lasting. Since making
friends is not easy, you
may place more value on
the friends that you have;
and your tendency to
avoid small-talk means
that your friendships are
not likely to be
superficial.


9. Successful at Solitary
Work
Many jobs require the
ability to focus and
concentrate in a solitary
environment; this is
where many shy and
socially anxious people
find great success. Not
having a lot of social ties
means that you have less
interruptions and less
need to validate what
you are doing in the eyes
of others.


10. Experience Rewards
More
Fully
Research shows that the
brains of shy people react
more strongly to both
negative and positive
stimuli. This means that
while you find social
situations more
threatening than your
outgoing counterparts,
you may also find
positive situations more
rewarding. Your
increased sensitivity to
reward may mean you
find more value in
working toward goals.

You certainly have a point but then what about the disadvantages of being shy..... You'd hardly
get what you want

Oluwatosean:
I have noticed that most ladies detest shy guys and i dont really know why but the thing is we are the best kinda guy you could ever come across. Being shy isnt artificial, its a natural thing, we were born with it so its not anyones fault for being shy.

I actually consulted google for these points, something we shy poeple should see we have that makes us better than those that are more outgoing/extroverted



1. Modesty is Attractive
Most shy people are
modest; they are the last
ones to announce their
accomplishments or let
the world know how
great they are. They may
shrink from compliments
or downplay their own
positive attributes.
Although too much
modesty can erode self-
esteem, a healthy dose is
considered an attractive
trait by many.


2. Thinking Before You
Act
If you are shy or socially
anxious you probably
tend to look before you
leap. This trait can be
helpful when it comes to
many life decisions.
Thinking carefully and
planning before taking
action are important for
many of life's hurdles
including planning for the
unexpected, avoiding
unnecessary risk, and
setting long-term goals.


3. Being Approachable
When shyness is not
extreme, it can make you
more approachable to
others. Shyness, and the
modesty and self-effacing
nature that go with it, are
rarely threatening to
others and may lead
people to feel
comfortable around you.
In other words, you don't
have an "attitude" that
makes it hard to
approach you.


4. Calming Effect on
Others
Shy people can
sometimes have a
calming effect on those
who are more high
strung. Though you may
experience inner turmoil
as a shy person, your
outward persona is
probably one of being
calm and quiet. This
calmness and ability to
"not react" may have a
positive effect on those
around you.


5. Human Services
Positions
Do you work in a human
services position? If so,
and if you are shy, your
personality probably
serves you well in terms
of being an empathic
listener; being shy makes
it easier for other people
to open up to you.


6. More Trustworthy
Since you don't toot your
own horn and aren't the
first to tell everyone
about your
accomplishments, others
may find you more
believable and
trustworthy. This can also
make you a better leader.


7. Ability to Overcome
If you have struggled
with shyness your whole
life, then you know what
it means to battle,
endure, and overcome
difficult feelings. Without
your struggle against
shyness you would not
have developed the
ability to cope with life's
difficulties.


8. Deeper Friendships
Chances are that when
you do manage to
develop friendships, they
are deep and long-
lasting. Since making
friends is not easy, you
may place more value on
the friends that you have;
and your tendency to
avoid small-talk means
that your friendships are
not likely to be
superficial.


9. Successful at Solitary
Work
Many jobs require the
ability to focus and
concentrate in a solitary
environment; this is
where many shy and
socially anxious people
find great success. Not
having a lot of social ties
means that you have less
interruptions and less
need to validate what
you are doing in the eyes
of others.


10. Experience Rewards
More
Fully
Research shows that the
brains of shy people react
more strongly to both
negative and positive
stimuli. This means that
while you find social
situations more
threatening than your
outgoing counterparts,
you may also find
positive situations more
rewarding. Your
increased sensitivity to
reward may mean you
find more value in
working toward goals.

You certainly have a point but then what about the disadvantages of being shy..... You'd hard get what you want

How I wish this so called leaders will be patriotic enough that the only thing they will want is to improve our country and consider the
masses instead of sacrificing our future for their own personal gain

Mr Dee and family ;DMr Dee and family

Gmajor:
1200 mah battery
3mp camera
support for few apps...

dead on arrival

You're rite man, this won't win Nigerian market