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you obviously are in America to ask the question, but what puzzles me is how you or your parents could make such an ignorant statement, Black AFricans, Indians, Mexicans, and most other ethnic non white people would never be able to realize the American dream if it were not for brave Black Americans who fought and died for the liberties you all take for granted! THe sit ins, the march on washington, the bus boycott, rent the Eyes on the prize series to know just how good we are, and you will never fix your mouth to make such an ignorant statement! I am An African American physician and none of my patients would describe me as bad. Please don't get it twisted the media is not a true representation of Black AMerica!

forgive me, when I stated his age, it was simply to suggest that he should not be so easily influenced by his family, and what they think or want for him, he has lived half of his life. I am well aware that an educated man can pull many women, both old and young! But do not underestimate a beautiful black educated woman, she can as well!

An African Queen? well the guy is pretty old, he is nearly 40, has never married, most of his siblings live in the states, his older brother is married to an american woman. I just did not know if it was appropriate to take a girlfriend back home. I just did not want to suggest it, I thought he should have ask, esp since I have expressed an interest in visiting Nigeria one day.

In am an American MD, who has been dating a Nigerian MD for 2+ years, he is traveling home, did not ask me to travel with him, I have spent alot of time with him, but really have not met family members none live in the same city as we do.  Alot of the perplexing issues in our relationship I tend to attribute to our cultural diff., would it be unheard of to bring your American girlfriend to Nigeria, esp. during the x-mas holiday?

I wanted to give opinion about the light vs dark skinned but I don't see your pic on here are you going to post it again?

I agree with ghetto chick, I think it is a publicity stunt, in an attempt to bash the poor girl

Sounds like stellar advice, however, why is it that women who treat their men badly are treated so much better by these men, yes I know the old saying, you want what you can't have, but it is truly foolish to prefer someone who treats you crappy rather than a kind, unselfish and loving person. I know so many women who have their men in the palms of their hands, I am considering becoming a self centered and mean woman.

What women are you looking at, most older women appear to take better care of themselves then their husbands, and therefore tend to have a more youthful appearance, in addition to having a longer lifespan!

I had a friend who had a similair exp., an African woman (GHANA)befriended her, she soon introduced my friend to her nephew, my friebd started talking with him over the phone as he was in another state, and within 3 months they were married, to this day he has not moved to be with her, and she is considering divorcing him, because there is really no marriage. Just be careful!

if she looks good and takes care of herself, I see nothing wrong with it, remember BLACK DON'T CRACK, I have seen a many aged Black women who look beautiful and have fooled many at first glance, thinking she was 10 years younger. It's the melanin BABY!

PEDOPHILE, plain and simple! However, as one member stated, your studies should be your primary focus. my grandmother used to say, 2 B's don't mix, boys and books, your education in todays world will surely outlast a man!

Yes,

he is aware I am in love with him, and as far as other women, I spend a great deal of time with him, I visit with him 2-4 times a week, and spend the night with him at least once per week, I have spent major holidays with him, he rarely goes out without me, so I am confident there is no other woman at least in the U.S. he may have an African Queen back home, but he has been in the states close to 15 years and is a U.S. citizen. again, I try to pull back by missing calls, I have gone extended periods without spending the night, yes we have a sexual relationship, which I have cut off before, but it is hard when you are in love with someone. He simply does not talk about our relationship, it is assumed, he is a very quiet man, I often wonder does he possess relationship etiquette, has he been so consumed with pursing his career that he just has not had time for a serious relationship, we have never discussed his past relationships. I am confused but honestly love this guy.

I actually like the guy, but and because I am American I can only speak to what is common in U.S., so I was asking members of the forum their opinion. Many of my friends have said, "what is wrong with him that he has never married ot had kids" is he gay, selfish, and the list goes on. I do understand marriage and family are a personal choice and you should be ready before you dive in, but just trying to be sure before I really get serious with him. thanks

i actually am not a NIgerian, so please elaborate.

Just a question, I know a nigerian guy who is 39-40years, no children, never married, he has money and great career, is that kind of old not to have settled down?

what is four years, if she carried her age well, then you have wisdom and love!

Hello Nairaland members,

I am a professional African -American woman who has been seeing a professional Nigerian man for little over a year, my problem is that I just can not read this man, I know he is not seeing any other women, I have fallen in love with him because of the way he lives his life. However, there is little to lead me to believe he wants a future with me, so there have been weeks or even months when I try to pull away from him, no dates, no daily phone calls, and that is when he heats it up, more calls, more wanting to see me. He just gives me mixed signals, am I being a fool for this man, he wants his kind of relationship which is noncommittal but with all the benefits, I am attractive, educated, we are both physicians, so it is not about him thinking I want his money, (he is rich and maybe that is why he is so hard to read, past gold diggers), or am I making excuses?