Transparency in marriage is the state of been open, truthful, candid and frank with one’s spouse. This is what the Bible describe in Genesis 2:25 “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed”. Marriage is known to be extremely difficult where husband and wife are not transparent to each other. It gives room for all manners of crisis and conflict in the family which have consumed so many marriages.


If your home must be joyful, peaceful and blissful; you and your partner must be open to each other, not given room for doubt, distrust and suspicion.

You must live a life of total openness without, “dark rooms”, “skeleton” in your cupboard, nothing to add everything is on the table.



Dangers of lack of transparency

Absence of transparency in marriage has many dangers and grave implications on family life. In fact, it is one of the reasons marriage are crashing worldwide.
Let’s check some of the implications of failure to be transparent in marriage.



Suspicion: Lack of transparency is the foundation of suspicion. It gives room for wrong imaginations, negative thinking and jumping into conclusions which most of the time may not be the truth. Suspicion is known to lead to wrong accusation that can be really annoying leading to anger and every other negativity.


Distrust: When suspicion grows, it becomes distrust which is killer of love and destroyer of marriage. Good marriage is base on trust, so, when trust is broken marriage is almost over.
Fear: Suspicion and distrust generates fear and anxiety, because of lack of information, misinformation and uncertainty that surround the home and family life in a place where transparency is lacking.


Wrong Accusation: distrust, fear and suspicion which are all off- shot of lack of transparency are know to lead to wrong accusation and counter -accusation which is very dangerous to the well being of the family life.


Conflict and Crisis: Lack of transparency is known to cause a lots of crisis,as the couple begin to fight each other even when their is no cogent reason for it.

Rumor: One thing that is common in a home without transparency is the influence of third party in marriage. It brings rumour, misinformation, gossips and lies which fuels conflict in marriage.
Lovelessness: There is no way love can thrive in a marriage where transparency is lacking, all that is common in this kind of homes are malice, anger, resentment, hatred and bitterness.

Sick Marriage: The end result of absence of transparency in marriage is bad and difficult marriage. What do you expect in a home full of distrust,fear,Lovelessness if not difficult and terrible marriage.
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“My parents did not want me to play football”- Nigerian female footballer, Asisat Oshoala


Nigeria’s Super Falcons star, Asisat Oshoala has revealed that her parents did not want her to be a footballer initially.

Dailyfamily.ng gathered this at the grand finale of the Asisat Oshoala Foundation Lagos Girls’ Football Clinic where the player made this known while delivering her opening speech at the Agege stadium today 17th November 2017.


The programme was organized by Oshoala in Lagos from the 15th to 17th November 2017.


She said: “My parents didn’t want me to play football but now I am known not only in Africa but all over the world.”

Asisat Oshoala is presently playing for Chinese side Dalian Quanjian F.C.
https://dailyfamily.ng/my-parents-did-not-want-me-to-play-football-nigerian-female-footballer-asisat-oshoala/

BREAKING NEWS Arsenal sign new defender

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It’s a New Year that is still fresh and promising, to get the best out of this New Year, your relationship is an important aspect you must be concerned about.


Enough of relationships with no goals and purposes, it’s time you defined where you are going with each other. The New Year should not be another period for guesses, be certain.

You can also read this: What to Give a Beloved Girl For the New Year: a Rating of Gifts 2017

For the singles out there who want to end this year with a successful relationship; you must be sure of where you are going or else think about that relationship again.


Here are important steps to take:

1. Do an overview of last year: to move forward and do better this New Year, you need to take a look at how last year went. Take a look at what was done right in the relationship and the other way round and see how you both can make the right adjustments this year.

2. Ask Questions: Before two people can set goals together some questions should be asked and answered. There are certain questions you should ask each other about your views about life, future ambitions, and so many other aspects.

3. Be sure of what you want: No two people can walk together except they agree; you can’t agree with someone you don’t feel his or her importance in your life. So, before you start setting goals, be sure you want to have a future with that person.


4. Have a vision and purpose for your life: the vision and purpose you found out for your life is very important when it comes to choosing the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If you don’t know where you are going, you will end up anywhere. This is why you must be sure about your vision and purpose before making that important decision.

5. Work on goals not achieved: if you have set goals in the past that was not achievable, you need to sit down and look at ways to improve on them to become realizable and if it does not work out at the end of it all, try to let it go so you can achieve something better.

6. Set realistic goals: Relationship between two lovers must be worked upon to reach some particular goals. Setting the right goals in your relationship will help you both to know what is next and where exactly you are going. There is a common saying that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable.

7. Learn: when the same approach is used over and over; the same result is certain to be realized. To get a better result this year in your relationship, it is important to find out ways you can learn something new. Get yourself equipped to add value to your partner and your future marriage.

8. Communicate: communication is very important in every relationship whether long or short distance. Technology has made things easy as you can communicate using different means that has been made available.

9. Be committed: after you have decided that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person; you have to give your full commitment to nurturing the relationship to become the reality you desire.
https://dailyfamily.ng/9-important-steps-to-take-in-2018-for-your-relationship/

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What To Do In Case You Hate Sex As A Couple
Marriage brings with it huge expectations – one of the greatest is a sexual activity with your spouse. But, what can happen if you hate sex?

If you were to talk to some marital therapist or marriage counselor, he would say that it is important not only to have emotional intimacy but also physical intimacy in your marriage.

Some wives get caught asking the question, “Do I really have to do this for the rest of my married life?

For those of you who shrink instead of running into the bedroom when your husband is well-disposed, here are some tips to help you feel more comfortable having sex:



Talk about it
This is an important tip when hating sex because sex involves two people – that is, you and your husband. If you do not tell him what you feel, he may think it has something to do with him, that you may not be attracted to him or angry at him for some reason.

Probably none of these are the case. Tell him that it has nothing to do with him and that you generally find him sympathetic and supportive.

Leave the preconceived notions aside
Movies, TV or some books will make sex seem like the most important thing in the world. This can make a person who does not find sex so nice if they feel abnormal and think there is something wrong with it. This is a lie.


Sex is meant to be an act of love between you and your husband; so if you’re apprehensive about it, his opinion is the only one you should be concerned about. Do not let other people or popular cultures make you feel even worse about something that already makes you insecure.

Find ways to “get in the mood”
For some women, it takes a lot of work to get into the weather. This refers to what has already been said: talk about it with your husband. Together, you can discuss what could make you feel more at ease, whether it’s a romantic dinner, hugging, talking to one another, or anything else that makes you more intimate.

In doing so, the chances of associating romantic thoughts with sex, rather than the physical act itself, will make you more receptive or at least more at ease.

Prepare yourself psychologically
It is possible that your thoughts will be a thousand when it comes to physical intimacy with your husband. Remember that sex between husband and wife is to make love and create life, and it is much more than just “duties of the wife” that you “have to fulfill.” So when the time comes, try to empty your mind and focus on the passion you feel for it.

Seek professional help
This is very important – especially for those who have found that they hate sex for physical or emotional reasons, such as finding sex that causes pain or having been abused in the past, etc.

Do not be afraid to seek a professional who can discover the main reason behind your lack of desire, if any. The good thing about the pros is that they know what they’re doing, and it’s something they’ve probably dealt with often enough to know how to help.

Sex is just one element of marriage, so make sure you focus on all the wonderful parts of being with your husband. Together, you can find ways to turn your hatred of sex into love.
https://dailyfamily.ng/what-to-do-in-case-you-hate-sex-as-a-couple/

Mrs Uchechi Onyekwere Nwadiogu and her son Mr Nwadiogu Bernard Alozie have been through the thick and thin period of the legal profession together. However, their days of patience wasn’t wasted as the mother and her son were eventually called to bar the same week, leading possibly to (a record breaking call in the history of call to ) the Supreme Court of Nigeria.
In this exclusive interview with the Nwadiogus, the duo lead us through the challenges of raising a family, practicing law and the eventual success the mother and son celebrated.


Can we meet you both?
Mom: I am Mrs Uchechi Onyekwere Nwadiogu.I was born and married in Ohanze,Obingwa Local Government Area of Abia State.

Son: I am Mr Nwadiogu Bernard Alozie,a native of Ohanze,in Obingwa Local Government Area of Abia State.





Please tell us about your educational background?
Mom: I attended the then Imo State University Uturu, now Abia State University Uturu where i graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree in English Language and Literature. I later proceeded to Abia State University in Uturu to do a second degree in Law In 2011. I graduated in 2016. Then I proceeded to the Nigerian Law School,Enugu Campus for the one year vocational training for lawyers.

Son: I graduated from the Faculty of Law Nnamdi Azikiwe University Awka Anambra State in 2016 and the Nigerian law school Yola Campus in August 2017.



Why did you opted for law amidst several discipline there in the University?
Mom: Actually I have always wanted to be a lawyer even before i did my first degree.I had sought for admissions a couple of times to study law in different schools in the country then,all to no avail. The profession and practice of law is one I cherish and have always been attracted to even as a very young girl growing up in my hometown.

Son: My decision to become a lawyer is one in made at a very young age. It may have been made even when i really didn’t know what it takes to become one, but I just knew I was going to be a lawyer. I spent a lot of time in and out of courts because of my mother‘s job, so the attraction has always been there right from the start.


We saw a post recently on your facebook, showing that you and your mum were called to bar the same week. Can you tell us how this came to be?
I got admitted into the faculty of law at Nnamdi Azikiwe University in October 2011, my mother was admitted much later, either in November or December of the same year to the Faculty of Law at Abia State University. We went through the five years of undergraduate studies together, albeit in different schools. We were level mates, we did the same courses most of the time because of the Unified Syllabus, and we proceeded to the Law School the same year upon graduation from our different Universities. That’s just about it. We started together and we finished together.



What was it like initially studying law with your mum?
I wouldn’t say it was a normal thing, because it wasn’t. It was exciting though, and very helpful because we assisted each other in a lot of things. Above all, I would say it was just great.



As a mother, wife and a law student, how have you been able to cope?
It wasn’t very easy to combine all three together, but I did because I had a lot of help and support from my most loving husband, my son Bernard and from all my other children .



To you Mr Bernard, what challenges did you encounter while studying law. What is that time pulling moment for you?
They all made compromises in one way or the other to see to it that my goal and my dreams were achieved. And I’m grateful to them for that. I couldn’t have done it without them. I wouldn’t say I had a lot of challenges, because I’m a firm believer of Christ. I believe that everything has been provided for by God since creation, so it always works out for me.



Mother and son becoming a law student, what was your husband’s initial reaction to it?
I’d say my husband was a bit surprised, but in all he was really happy and has always been there for both his son and his wife.


How has he been helpful in your journey?
His help cannot be overemphasized, I’d said that before. He has been helpful in every way and I’m very grateful to him.


Considering your motherly responsibilities and academical demands of law, have you ever thought of quitting?
I wouldn’t say I’ve thought of quitting, because I’m not a quitter. There’s been challenges and difficulties, but I’ve always believed in God and he’s always made name for himself.



What was that dicey decision you had to make considering you marriage and studying law?
I don’t think my marriage and my dream of studying law has ever been in conflict. I got married to a man who I’ve known right from my childhood, so we always agree on almost everything. Having said this, I’ve never been on the spot about my marriage and my secisin to study law. If for anything, my marriage even prepared me the more and has contributed immensely to the actualization of my dreams.



To you Mr Bernard. What lesson have you learnt from your parent’s marriage?
*Laughs*… That’s actually kind of very personal, but I’d just say I’ve learnt a lot from my parents.



Did you ever encounter any humanly distraction while studying law. What is this distraction?
I’m a working woman and also a woman with a family. So you bet there were distractions, both from the home front and the work front.



How have you been able to balance your marriage while studying law?
As I’ve said earlier, my family compromised a lot and sacrificed a lot too while I was studying. Maybe I’d give you some details some other time, but not now.



You seem to be more close to your mum. Tell us about that?
My mom is my pride, my inspiration, my joy and my mentor. If you ask my friends what happens if i had the opportunity to introduce my mom they’d tell you I’m always smiling and happy when I do the introductions, and in fact whenever with her. So my joy knows no bounds. I’m proud of her.


Can you tell us in layman’s language about your favourite law report ever?
NBA vs. Ofomata. I’m.sorry I can’t provide the citation now. But the case is all about the discipline and professional misconduct. The practice of law is one that involves a lot of ethics which must be very religiously adhered to in order to continue to preserve the integrity of the profession.



How do you see yourself transforming Nigeria Judicial system in the little way you can?
Son: No man can single handedly effect change in a system. However we must all try to contribute our widows mite. The Judiciary in Nigeria has been on a steady progress in terms of new innovations and reformed practice rules all aimed at ensuring quick and effective disposition of justice. I’ll commit my time and energy as much as possible to see that changes are effected to make the wheel of justice grind faster, because its believed that justice delayed is justice denied.



How happy were you and your mum when you knew you will both be called to bar the same week?
We were just happy because we started together and we finished together. Our happiness wasn’t purely because we were just being called to the bar, but because neither of us was left behind.
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Mrs. Motunrayo Ade-Famoti, a Lawyer and the CEO of Moneystewards spoke in an exclusive interview with dailyfamily.ng about investment in Real Estate both Nigeria and abroad.


Mo, as she loves to be called spoke about the challenges she faced running her businesses here in Nigeria and abroad. She also spoke about how she has been able to manage Career and Family life.

Here is the full interview:


Can we meet you?

My name is Motunrayo Ade-Famoti and I like to be simply called Mo

Can you tell us about your career journey?

I started my career in the United Kingdom. I studied law at the University of Sheffield. I moved to New York shortly afterwards to qualify as an attorney and moved back to London to complete my legal practice at Inns of Court, School of Law. I gained some experience, qualified as a Solicitor and then went on to complete my Masters in International Law at City University, London. I continued to practice Law in the UK and at the same time, I was investing in real estate.

In 2007, I moved to Lagos after getting married, worked in the real estate industry for a year and continued to travel back and forth until I decided to finally settle in Lagos in 2013. I started moneystewards in 2016 after over 17 years’ experience in the industry. In a short period of time we have opened offices in Lagos, London and Atlanta and I am extremely grateful for the opportunity to do what I love and am passionate about.

Tell us about your marriage and family life?

I am married to Ade Famoti and we have two amazing children. We got married in 2007 and we are best friends. He has been my biggest supporter throughout and I am eternally grateful for marrying a man connected with Christ.



You are a lawyer, so, what led to MoneyStewards? Why did you choose to go into Real Estate?

I am a lawyer but at the same time an entrepreneur. Moneystewards specializes in foreign investments such as Stocks, Bonds, Forex, Commodities, Gold, Real Estate etc. We acquire and manage assets on behalf of investors.

I decided earlier on that I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life working for just a salary (ordinary income). I needed to create a system that will enable me earn multiple streams of income and most especially make my money work for me (passive and portfolio income). In order to do that, I needed to learn about investments. I learnt and continue to learn about investment opportunities in multiple currencies and countries. I also wanted to protect the future value of my investments; consequently, I decided to focus on investing primarily in the global markets which protects me from currency depreciation and volatility.

What are the major challenges you have faced managing MoneyStewards and being into Real Estate?

With new businesses, you have to build your brand and so initially it was a challenge but in a very short period of time, people saw the uniqueness of what we were doing and wanted to invest with us. The second major challenge was running companies primarily based outside the country while being based here in Nigeria but I put together a world class team so it has worked out tremendously well. I really couldn’t ask for more. As per the real estate challenges, the major challenge we encounter is perhaps finding distressed properties at a discount. We buy these distressed properties at very low prices, renovate and sell for a profit.

Why do you think Nigerians don’t invest compared to other countries abroad?

I really believe that Nigerians invest, but we just have limited products to invest in. We don’t have nearly the amount of financial products and funding the developed countries have but I found out that is also slowly changing. Moneystewards has done a lot to educate people on alternative and foreign investments but I do admit we are still a long way behind.


Do you face similar challenges running your business in Nigeria and abroad?

Not particularly. For starters, I don’t have electricity problem. In addition, to sell a property in the UK or US is far much easier. The real estate industry is highly regulated and the realtors have to be licensed to sell properties on your behalf. There is also a central database that has listings of majority of properties for sale. I have been able to get an offer to buy an investment property within 24 hours of putting the property up for sale and close the deal within six weeks before. Being able to sell a property quickly is crucial because you can do multiple projects at the same time. However, human resources are much cheaper in Nigeria compared to |UK and US; this equates to possible bigger margins for the developer.

How do you manage marriage, family, parenting, and career?

I am blessed to have a supportive husband and family. I could never make it work without them. It can be challenging but I take it one day at a time.

What is your view about making use of support systems like housemaids?

You need to have assistance because you really can’t do it by yourself. I don’t hire or treat my assistants like housemaids. I call them sisters and bring the best out of them and so far it has been working out.

What is your advice to women who want to invest but their husbands are against such decisions?

I think those women should try their best to convince their husbands. You know him best so sometimes all it takes is a little patience and proper explaining. Whilst it’s tempting to invest secretly, nothing is worth destroying that trust and ultimately the bond in your marriage.


How long do you think investments can start yielding the desired profits in Nigeria?

Well it depends on the investment in question. Stocks, Treasury bills and real estate have different return on investment. I always advise people to have investments that have a 20 year plan, 10 year plan and 2 year plan. That way you have returns in the short term, medium term and long term.

As a CEO with your tight schedule, how do you relax or enjoy leisure?

I sleep, eat and exercise well. I relax by reading a good book and getting spa treatments sparingly and I love attending my local church.
https://dailyfamily.ng/i-didnt-want-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-working-for-just-a-salary-motunrayo-ade-famoti-ceo-moneystewards/

Nigeria’s foremost spoken words promoter and organizer of War of Words event (A Spoken words talent discovery event), has spoken about the untapped benefits in the poetry value chain in Nigeria. In this interview with DAILYFAMILY Newspaper, Holloway, a graduate of Lagos state University (LASU) explain why he seem to have been so loud about poetry even while Accounting was his Major in School.


Can we meet you please?

My name is Olumide Holloway. I am a writer, author of two E-books (The Poetprenuer and How many Nos make a Yes?), spoken word artist, Poetprenuer and Promoter of Poetry and literary events


Tell us about your educational background?
I graduated from LASU in 2002/ 2003 with a 2:2 in Accounting and I am also a Chartered Accountant i.e. an Associate member of ICAN (ACA) since 2005.

You seem to have made more noise about Poetry, why is it so?
Passion, passion, passion…And a dream that has kept me awake since I dreamt it.



Will you tell us your first experience with spoken words?
It was via a movie titled, “why do fools fall in love?” in 2008 (I think) and then later on at an event called “Celebrity Read” which started around June/ July in 2010. My first performance was at Taruwa that held in August 2010 at a Bar in the Palms, Oniru Lekki area. It was a disaster.



What led you into it?
The immediate attention, the art form demands from you, especially when excellently done. It is a way to express my thoughts, dreams, pain, excitement and all other things I had written down (instead of waiting for people to come and read it).


Spoken words seem to be what every ‘Dick and Harry’ today are doing. Why have you chosen to do the same thing?
I don’t know that many Dick and Harry. But like we learnt in school, all primates are mammals, but not all mammals are. So because someone calls his/ herself a name, does not automatically mean that is what he or she is.



What makes you standout?
Finding my niche and dominating it. Besides, I was born to standout, and I say this will all humility.



What is your major motives for organizing spoken words event. What have You been trying to achieve?
The vision is to develop a vibrant spoken word poetry industry in Nigeria and Africa. This will lead to creation of jobs/ businesses, increase in the level of literacy among youths, provide quality entertainment, provide a platform for expression and empower/ enlighten minds.

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Which work of life will you refer to yourself as a professional?
A Poetprenuer: that is someone involved in the Business of poetry.

On which umbrella organization are you driving your Spoken words event?
i2X Media is an organization that sponsors, supports and promotes Performance Poetry, Spoken Word and soul music events. We are an entertainment company that employs the use of the written and spoken word as a literacy development tool, branding tool, marketing and publicity tool, business development and sales growth tool. We also do creative writing, editing, mentoring, grooming, promotion and management of writers, poets and soul singers.

Tell us about War Of Words?
War Of Words is Nigeria’s foremost Slam Poetry Competition which (on an annual basis since June 2013), discovers, grooms, and promote young, new, exciting and talented Spoken Word Poets based in Nigeria and Africa. It is an event that attracts and promote the performances of new poets, which in turn helps to grow an industry that will enable Spoken Word Poets to earn a living from their performances. In addition, it is a medium that allows us to use Spoken Word Poetry as a literacy development tool which can be used for education, communication, information and entertainment.

After War of Words Season 6, what next?
In 2017 War Of Words Season 6 featured 30 poets in 2 semifinals and one final over 3 weekends. In 2018, we plan to organize War Of Words Season 7 and feature 60 poets who will compete in 4 quarter finals, one semifinal and then a Grand final. This event will last between 6 to 12 weeks.

What has been your major challenge in the Spoken words industry?
Lack of enough awareness of the art form and lack of funding. But we realize that awareness brings funding, and funding brings awareness. So we have focused on creating enough awareness that will eventually attract funding.

Can you mention or describe the value chain in the poetry industry?
Our research has shown that there are areas of relevance of Spoken Word Poetry to individuals, companies and Countries. These are basically the benefits derivable from poetry and categorized into what I call the 8 Es.

They are as follows:
Education
Employment
Entrepreneurship
Expression
Entertainment
Empowerment
Emotional Therapy
Emotional Intelligence.



Are you married?
Yes.

Please tell us about your family?

I am married to a blessed and lovely lady and we have two amazing and wonderful children. And there is no minority claim in the gender distribution.
https://dailyfamily.ng/lack-of-awareness-and-funding-major-challenge-in-the-poetry-industry-poetry-promoter/

Chigozie Stephanie Alichi, is an award winning movie star and a graduate of Enugu state University of Technology. In this exclusive interview with DAILYFAMILY, Chigozie recounts how she was priviledged to put a smile on the faces of her parent after she starved herself to build them a befitting edifice better than the mud house they once lived in.



Can we meet you please?
My name is Chigozie Stephanie Alichi popularly known as Chizzy Alichi.

Can you tell us about your educational background?
I Am an Agricultural Engineering graduate from the university of science and technology Enugu state University of Technology (ESUT).



Why have you chosen movie instead of Agriculture engineering ?
I have passion for acting and at same time I wanted an engineering degree.



What will you refer to as that great thing you have achieved this year?
The greatest thing I have achieved this year is completing my village building project for my family and winning plenty awards.

Can you tell us some of those awards you won?
Nigeria achievers awards. Best of Nollywood (Bon) awards.



Tell us about your upbringing?
I was not born with a silver spoon so my upbringing was simple. I lived with my elder brother in Nnewi, in Anambra state where I did primary and secondary education before coming back to join my parents in Enugu where I had my university education

Lets get to know who your parents are
My father, Mr Alexander Alichi is a civil servant while my mother, Mrs Janet Alichi is a trader.

You made a post on Instagram on how you were able to build a house for your parent. Tell us the story behind it.
It was a dream come through for me. Like I said before, I was not born with a silver spoon but I was determined to make it in life to make myself and my family proud. My family was staying one one room (public Yard) and immediately I graduated and started acting and getting some small money. The first thing I did was to relocate us (my family and I) to a three bedroom flat in the heart of the city then I started saving for the building because we don’t travel home because there is not place to stay in the village and it breaks my heart when my friends come back to gist me every year about their experience in their villages and my dad almost sold off our compound to patch the bad one so we can be travelling home. He has worked all his life so that he could build a good house in his compound but he couldn’t and that was his only wish in life, so I struggled and saved and denied myself most beautiful things to get it done and I am the happiest girl on earth today.


What were the reactions, opposition, hindrances while you were saving up for your Village building?
My greatest opposition is people calling me megbeke because I wasn’t wearing designers like them and showing off.


Which industry will you say you are a professional in?
I am a professional in Nigeria movie industry (Nollywood).

Tell us about your marital status
I am single, though not searching. *Laughs



Have you ever seen future for yourself in Agriculture Engineering which you studied in school?
Yes I have, though I have not started practicing but in time to come I will go into my field. I can do contracts (government and private) and can also open a big farm. Agriculture is a very important sector in not just our country but the whole worl


What will be the great thing you will be glad you achieve before this year runs out
Well the year has almost come to an end, but i am glad for what I have achieved so far and i am looking forward to a greater 2018 .



So what will you refer to as your greatest achievement in 2017?
My greatest achievement in 2017 is getting to another level in my career and building for my parents.
https://dailyfamily.ng/i-denied-myself-good-things-to-build-my-parent-this-house-nollywood-actress/

Famous Nigerian Entertainment Lawyer, Fawehinmi Foza Oyinkansola spoke to dailyfamily.ng in an exclusive interview about her career, background, family life and the qualities she wants in her man.


Foza as she is popularly known in the Entertainment Industry started her career as a Lawyer by starting her own Law firm and building a name for herself.


Here is the full interview:



Can we meet you?

My name is Fawehinmi Foza Oyinkansola

How did you come about the name FOZA?

FOZA is Fawehinmi Oyinkansola Zidat Adesanya- they are my initials but now it is my brand name. I am an Entertainment Lawyer, I run my own law firm: Founding Partner at Technological Partnesr, Media and Entertainment and Internet Law, Specific Law Firm operating in Lagos.

Why did you choose to study Law?

I come from a family of lawyers so, it was just natural going into Law and I love to talk, I love the fact that you can use Law to change your society and culture; that is why I chose Law.

Why did you choose Entertainment Law?

First of all, I don’t like doing things that are normal; I’m not a conventional person. I love creative people; I love the creative process but I just don’t know how to do any of them, I don’t like writing, I don’t know how to tell a joke, I can’t rap, I can’t sing, I can’t act but I just love when I see them do that.

I started managing artistes from my 200 level in school and I got into Intellectual Property from my 300 level, so, it just escalated from there. I like the fact that the industry needs me to provide a solution, that’s why I chose Entertainment Law.

What are the challenges you have faced being an Entertainment Lawyer?

I face the impression of-Oh! You are wasting your time, the industry doesn’t need you, what are you going to be doing as a Lawyer? Why are you an Entertainment Lawyer? Then, also, I have also faced the lack of awareness or the ignorance of what I do.

People ask me questions like Do you sing? Because I say I’m an Entertainment Lawyer, people ask me like what do you do? Are you making money? But I think that’s changing.

What are the challenges you have faced running your business?

I have faced issues of funding every time; I have had to learn quickly how to balance my life, I have had to also learn how to put appropriate value on what I do-time management. The challenges I have faced in the industry is also that the people I work for don’t know why they need me and so I have quickly had to learn to re-orientate them to show them why they need me and why they have to pay me. They know they need me but the fight we are fighting now is that ‘you have to pay me’. We are killing that gradually.


Due to your stature, don’t you get intimidated sometimes?

I get that a lot like: oh, you are the FOZA that has been causing all that. I have never had issues of self-esteem, so, even if you have a problem, I don’t have a problem with it. As long as I don’t have a problem with it, we are fine.

I’ve had situations where I have been denied certain kinds of jobs because of how I look and how they think that I may probably not be able to handle the job. I have learnt also to present myself in certain ways which changes that perception about me. So, if I am going for a certain kind of conference, I know what to wear and how to wear it, how to talk and stuffs like that, it’s a learning process but I’m never intimidated by your own insecurities.

Are you in a relationship?

Presently No.

Why?

Because I have not found someone.

What are those qualities you look out for in a guy?

I am very concerned about his spirituality; first of all, he has to be a very godly person, someone that knows his God and knows the word. I also like someone that has a lot of faith because I have a big vision, I have a big dream and because I have that, I need someone that believes with me in terms of faith and he has to be a prayerful person and he has to be very visionary, so, when I am telling him I want to meet the president, I want to be a counsel to XX person, he won’t say that I’m being stupid or that I’m dreaming but will support me in the dream.

I don’t like pot belly, I think that is the only physical feature that I’m so concerned about, I’m very particular about your intellectual capacity because I can’t relate with someone that isn’t smart enough and he should be result-oriented; If you are 35 now and you are telling me that you have potential and you have a dream, I am going to be a bit suspicious like what did you use your 20s to do but if you are like 27, the expectation I will have from you is different from a person who is 35 because you have to give me like a CV of what you’ve done with your life.


How do you plan to manage your time for family life, your job and parenting?

First of all, I want you guys to know that time management is everybody’s job is not just a woman’s job. Even in my business now, I have learnt how to apportion time, time management is very key to success and that’s why I am doing all the work now because I as a person will love to have quality two to three years family time with my children up to a certain age before I now go into the next level of my life.

My business model now is operating in a way where I’m building a system that even when I step out of the system is still working and it just needs minimal supervision to work and that’s what I’m doing now to make sure that it is in place. I believe and I hope that by God’s grace that by the time I get to that level I want that break, not that I will stop working but where I am more flexible with my time and it will happen with the work that I have done.

Your advice for younger ones that are coming up on how they can build their self-esteem

For self-esteem, it’s a gradual process; I also have days where I don’t feel very confident but what I do is I talk to myself a lot. So, sometimes you can catch me sitting down and talking to myself.

I use the bible a lot; from the bible I pick out stuffs like when God told me that I am the apple of His eye, that I’m beautiful the way I am, that He knows the thoughts that He has for me so I say these things to myself every day and there are times where for example, I have met a guy and probably say he can’t date you because you are not his body speck, you are not voluptuous and everything, it will take a hit on you but then again you look at it that there are other guys that will look at you and fall in love with you the way you are. You always have to look for the good in every situation.

My advice is that you should shift your focus to the positive of you. Everybody has something good about them; amplify what is good about you and by the time you keep amplifying you will never see what is bad about you, you will learn to change what is bad about you but you will know that people will love you for what is good about you and finally talk to yourself.


Advice on building career

Finding out your purpose in life is very connected to what you do as your career, job or your end vision. There are situations where you have to take some jobs to learn the routes to get to your end vision. The thing is you need to have a vision, when you sit down, where do you see yourself in 20 years and that now guides you to know the kinds of job to take or not to take because sometimes you find the kind of job that pays you a lot of money but is not in your career path. When you have that vision, it guides you to know which job to take or which job not to take.

I didn’t work for anybody because I knew that if you threw me in any situation, I was going to be good at what I am doing, I knew that if I had gone to work for any other Law firm they will make me other kinds of Law that will pay me well and because money is good I will probably be distracted and keep doing that and forget that my purpose is to serve the Entertainment industry. So, that guided me that if I can’t find employment that will work for me, I should set up myself.

For every time that I feel down, broke and angry because being an entrepreneur is not easy, for those times that I feel down, I look at my vision and I see that this is where I am going to, so, I’m going to get there either ways.
https://dailyfamily.ng/i-cant-marry-a-man-with-pot-belly-entertainment-lawyer-foza/

Touching! Couple shares how they lost their sights

Dailyfamily.ng had an exclusive interview with this blind couple, Mr. and Mrs. Adetunji who suddenly lost their sights after some years in marriage.


They both shared their experience on how they have been managing in their state taking care of each other and their children.

Mr. and Mrs. Adetunji were parts of the beneficiaries at the Aunt Landa Market Square where they got a Laptop which they needed to start a business.


Can we meet you?

I am Adetunji Adesoji Samson

How did you lose your sight?

It was an accident that happened in my office. I read Auto-mechanics, I’m a teacher by profession, I have my NCE and B.sc Ed. I had a workshop that I worked then, so, there was a time I tried to work on the things there and I didn’t know acid was kept somewhere up the shelf. So, while trying to get a paper, it fell on me and since then I have not been able to see. It happened in year 2015.

Were you married then?

We were married but we were not together as at then.

Was your wife born blind?

She was not born like that, she had glaucoma on the right eye and it later affected the left eye.

How have you been coping?

We were taught how to make soaps in a blind school. We make soaps, both tablet and liquid and we try to modify it; I have a sticker that has my business name on it and we have been trying to meet up, though it has not been easy.



How do you get people to buy your soaps?

We go to them. I spend so much on bikes to get to people, I live in Festac, 321 A Close House 7 and there are restaurants around us. We go to meet them; I take it down to them. They tell me we have it and many people can do it but I tell them this one is different, it’s thicker, we do bleach, Izal and disinfectants too. We go to Ojota ourselves to buy the chemicals.

How are you sure they give you the right chemicals?

We know the textures; my wife knows the textures very feel. We feel it and get it.

That means you go together most times

Not most times, we go together all the time; we take bike from our house to second rainbow from second rainbow, they cross us to the other side. From there we take a bus to Ojota, we have a woman that sells chemicals to us at Ojota. When coming back, we get people to help us cross, we take bus to second rainbow and from there we go back home.

How did you meet your wife?

She is from Uyo, Akwa Ibom State. I met while I was in the University. When I met her one eye had gone but I believed with time things will change. Later, we heard that glaucoma does not have cure for now, so, it later started affecting the other eye and that was how the other one left. I don’t know I will be blind too but that is how it has happened but we just have to accept our fate like that.


When did you get married to each other?

We got married about 10 years ago.

Did you have your children before losing your sights?

Yes.

How do you take care of your children?

We have two children and they are not with us they are with my wife’s sister, they are schooling and doing everything there. Most of the times, they come to visit and we also visit them. We send money to them; we make sure that we send something to them because they are still young. It is a kind of pain to us that we are blind.

The wife:

Can we meet you?

My name is Ekaette Adetunji

How have you been managing?

It’s the grace of God.

How do you make your hair?

I go to the hair stylist.

Did you have any University Education?

No. I stopped at Secondary level but I learnt soap making too. (The husband cuts in “she is better than me”)

What is the next step now?

The next step is that we want to start a business with the Laptop we got.


Have you learnt how to operate it?

Yes. For a month now but the course is three months and we need a Laptop while learning but we already have what to do with it.
https://dailyfamily.ng/touching-couple-shares-how-they-lost-their-sights/

Ejiroghene Akpobome is one of the sons of popular Nigerian comedian Ali baba. He is presently a student of Psychology Accounting in Middlesex University Dubai. In this exclusive interview he granted DAILYFAMILY, Ejiro takes us into his personality, his family and his passion for Disc Jockeying amidst several other things he does.


Can we meet you please?
My name is Akpobome Ejiroghene AKA, DJ X.


Are you part of this foundation (Aunt Landa Bethel Foundation)?

In a way i am because it is a family foundation, so i am part of it.



Is Aunt Landa your Aunt?

Yes, Aunt Landa is my aunt and my dad is the chairman, so we are here to support.



Since when have you been doing this?

Normally my dad does different charities so this time around i was around for a visit and I said, why don’t I come along.



What are you studying?

I am studying Psychology Accounting in Middlesex University Dubai.



Do you see yourself doing this in future?

To be honest i can do anything with psychology but i think i will do it but i will still be Disc Jockey, (DJ) for a while before i actually go into it.



Are you in a relationship?

No i am not.



Why?

See, you surely don’t need babe. Quotes shout out to Razzy, “you surely don’t need babe”. Honestly i am into music, i love my music, so music take most of my time.



So because of music you don’t have time for relationship?

I don’t even think i have a time.


Like when do you see yourself in a relationship?
It all depends. If it happens, it happens.



Is it because dad said No?

Well, but surely you don’t need babe. Right now if a babe will come, no problem now and if not i am okay.

Till when?

When God give me. If God gives me babe, but then i am okay. I don’t think i am looking up to it now. But then, i am all okay, I am just there.



How has it been growing up with your parent?

They have been disciplinarians to be precise. They often will tell us, you have to do things right, show respect to elders and stuffs.


So at what point do you start understanding your parents motive where disciplining a child is concern?

When i was 16-year-old.



Where do you see yourself in 2018, five years to this time?

In the next five years i see myself as one of the newest upcoming DJs in Nigeria, creating a record label and trying to make Nigerian music better, because we are planning to reform it.


Do you DJ while you were in school?

Yes i do. That is the work he was talking about. I also work, I DJ, I make some money out of it
while i was in school.



So how do you joggle it with your academics?

It is not easy to be honest. There was time i had to put a hold on it because of school. Then most time when i need money i usually do it.

How do you get your clients?

I have been invited to DJ in some schools and there i get my clients. At times i DJ for free so that people can get the publicity.
https://dailyfamily.ng/i-dont-even-think-i-have-a-time-for-relationship-ali-babas-son/

Dr. Yolanda N George-David popularly known as Aunt Landa, the founder of Aunt Landa Bethel Foundation spoke to dailyfamily.ng about her mission to restore hope to the hopeless.


Aunt Landa as she is popularly known is a gynecologist and a neurosurgeon, she also the presenter of Sharing Life Issues on Inspiration FM, she has affected the lives of a lot of helpless Nigerians and widows by providing food supplies, accommodations, and means of livelihood for them.


Dr. Yolanda shared her experience on how she came to Nigeria in the year 2012 with the intention to go back the following year but until now she couldn’t leave due to the level of poverty afflicting the people.


Here is the full interview:

When did Aunt Landa Bethel Foundation start?

It started in 2012 on the 27th of May, what we did was to actually announce if you are sexually abused come to meet us in Makoko and we had over seven hundred and sixty people and that was how we grew leaps and bounds and you can see today, we were able to service over 23, 000 people and we are still counting, we had less than 3, 000 children.

Twenty thousand adults is a good reason for us to realize that people are suffering and a good reason for us to see that we need to do things and of course, I feel that the way everybody got food in surplus was the way we could bring 20, 000 grinding machines to people.

I did letters to 350 companies, I spent over #790, 000 of my money writing to those companies but they told me that beneficiaries are too poor so if they sponsor, they cannot buy their goods. So, at the end of the day, it still had to come from my pocket. Everybody that came here, service provider, people who were cooking, everything was bought.

We continue because all of these people-you saw those people who were excited about the houses, the apartments, people who are homeless moving from under the bridge, it’s a whole new life and that is it. Whether it is someone who got a sealing machine or someone who got a sewing machine or an accommodation or like that little boy who got a suit and tucked in the suit because he’s never worn a suit before, those things are the beginning of history, if he becomes a president tomorrow because he got a scholarship here for four years, people will not know where he started.


Why did you venture into a project like this?

The thing is I started being who I am long as a teenager, I started doing what I am doing since I was 12, since I was a kid and of course everywhere I have been posted, this is what I do. I have actually extended my stay in Nigeria, I’m not a Nigerian, I came in from Baghdad as that was my last post I should have shipped out by now to North Korea but you see, how do you leave this people?

I came here in 2012, I told everybody that I will be out of here in 2013 but you don’t leave this amount of work and that’s why I’m still here although I’m married to a Nigerian. We do not understand what people go through but pain is real.

If you were at our centers and you see our free medical Wednesdays and or some people who are in so much pain and they just come to these people (volunteers) to come and massage them not because they are sick but some people call and they are suicidal. We have a suicide department that is why we are begging for people to come and take our phone lines. There is no day we don’t get up to one, two three rescues; we have ‘Okadas’ that go pick people that have been sexually abused, of course, there should be ambulances but I tell my ambulances to make bikes to do all of that. The work is endless.

How do you create time for your family?

I have double certification; I am a gynecologist and a neurosurgeon, a marine and with our training comes the fact that once you are a soldier, you are able to know what is important and what is not important. All my life I have known pain and before my husband got married to me and that is what I saying to young people, he did not get married to someone who wasn’t doing this and so I got into his house because that is the African thing you people say-get into the man’s house but it wasn’t a matter of that, by the time he met me, at that time, I was running missionary courses as a teenager when we were just friends in Istumor, I was being locked in prisons because I was preaching and how I preach is this. I am an ordained Minister but I do not stand with the altar, I do my free surgeries.


Everybody that came here, three mosques brought there buses and emptied their people here, it is the love of God we preach and so as at the time he came he knew that this was who I am and his priority of course is first but because he also has the heart of God and he knows what it is, he knew what he was getting into and we make it work.

I have a son after eighteen miscarriages and so that is a very long time but apart from my son who came late, I have being a mother and a grandmother to millions of children. We do something called Anonymous Dear Santa where children from all across the world write a letter to God, it comes to me via P.O box and then I reply so it goes to Baghdad.

Some of the children ask for crayon infact a boy asked for erasers because last year I gave him a pack of pencils, the erasers are finished but the pencils are still there and guess what this boy is in Allepo and he actually think God replied and of course when I write my letters in reply, I always say “Dear son, thank you for sending, Love God”, I don’t write the letters, all these my volunteers sit down and also write, we just make the provisions.

People think it cost a lot, of course yes, there are some millions but you see like last week all of the widows woke up and they got their wrappers and in between their wrappers was #5,000, it made all of them cry- a wrapper cost about #4,500 to #5, 000, Those little acts made them know they were not alone.

It’s not about just going on social media and shouting and taking selfies; it’s about change in futures, today, a widow who came last year and got all those things and her job donated #50, 000 to this place and that’s it.

We also had another widow who drove her car because last year her husband threw her out, she was homeless, the lawyers fought for her and she’s gotten back, we spent just #200, 000 in court and now from going under the bridge, she is now running her husband’s pure water machine, farm and she also has three cars. She actually drove here; she was the one that brought the blocks when we were out of blocks.

In a way, can you refer to yourself as an activist?

No, I’m a merchant of hope, that’s what I sell. I sell hope that’s why you see people coming. There is a difference between charity where you dehumanize the receiver. Everybody that came here have the choice of what they wanted, so, we stored up here we could have handled 50, 000 people if we put only small little things but you saw all those things that came from London, Senegalese and all. I sent one of my staff to Senegal to buy the material to sew because this is Christmas; if their husbands were alive they will do those singular things. People get whole chicken for the first time, people get fish, those little acts is not activism; it’s a lifestyle.

I cannot treat my pain until God heals me but what I can do is that everybody who comes in contact with me because I do not understand any Nigerian language but the thing is Love and Pain are the same thing; we all cry the same way, and we all feel compassion and that’s all that matters.
https://dailyfamily.ng/im-a-merchant-of-hope-thats-what-i-sell-dr-yolanda-n-george-david/

9 Romantic gestures for a happy Relationship

Both sex wants to always to receive something little from the one they love or care about. Some have gone to the extent of getting or showing how much they cherish the relationship. Do you think it is possible to spike up your relationship with the following things?

1. Write and hide sweet I love you poems in their pocket which will put a smile on their face when they find it. You can even help them find it by setting an alarm on their phone that would notify them to check their pocket.

2. Switch things up sometimes by recording a love message on your partner’s phone and just like the poem you can help them find it too.

3. Hold their hand when you are walking on the street and also when you’re crossing a street. This would make them feel really appreciated and proud that you want to show them off to everyone.

4. Surprise your partner sometimes by making them their favorite breakfast in bed with flowers to go with it. The effort would be really appreciated.

5. Snuggle all the time. It would make them feel very close and connected to you. It’s a bonding and loving gesture.

6. Sometimes, you should look into your partner’s eyes, smile and honestly tell them how much you love them.

7. Plan a surprise romantic weekend getaway or take them to their favorite picnic spot in an impromptu getaway move with packed picnic basket, blankets, chocolates, strawberry and champagne.

8. Sometimes, take a day off from other things and spend some time with your partner doing what they love to do, even if it’s not something that interests you much.

9. Have a special date night every month and enjoy each others company by cuddling up, turning off your phones, watching romantic movies together and ordering all the takeout food you’ve been craving all month.

Do you like the mentioned gestures? Then you can send some of what you have in mind to your partner so that he/she may also send what they think or feel.
https://dailyfamily.ng/9-romantic-gestures-happy-relationship/

5 Ways To Tell He Loves You
Though your boyfriend may take time telling you he is in love with you, chances are he already has through his actions. Women love to show their emotions to their partners than the men. If you take a look at his mannerism and likes, you will realize that he truly love you more than you can expect. What are the ways he shows he loves you?

1. He sincerely cares
When the two of you are talking, he cares deeply about your goals and aspirations and genuinely asks questions. He sees himself as part of you. He asks about personal questions about what you never thought about.

2. He touches you delicately
He grabs your hand gently during a walk in the park or at a family gathering, or evening walk. He caresses your hair softly. He hugs you for no reason at all. He affectionately touches your face as he stares at you. Sometimes just sitting at home watching a movie and cuddling on the couch speaks volumes.

3. Spending time together
When you find your boyfriend spending less time with his friends and more time with you, he is in love. He is not giving up on his friends; he simply chooses to spend as much time with you as possible. His priorities begin to shift. When they shift, then you should be careful of the fact that he truly loves you.

4. He Does anything for you
He always wants to see you happy and never cry. His aim is to see that you have a lot of smile on your face and joy on your heart.

He notices that you like a particular musician and he gets a surprised two ticket for you.

5. You meet his family
It has been a long standing tradition of meeting your boyfriends friends and family, as a serious relationship. When he talks about you to them, then he is one who loves you.

Men are slow to show that they love their spouse. But when they do love their spouse, they can go the extra mile to show and convenience you that they do.
https://dailyfamily.ng/5-ways-to-tell-he-loves-you/

Its just a week of relationship, and he said he has to travel back, what can i do? Those were the expressions of young katty who already is missing her relationship. He will be going far away from her for a while. How can you cope if you have fallen into that category?

1. Read Books
Books have a way of occupying your mind and filling it with several types of thoughts and actions. If you read enough books, after a while, you will just see that you are already imaginng the characters and the reasons why each of them are behaving that way. Your mind gets to wonder off into the thin space and then forget about the bad thoughts of doing something wrong about the distance.

2. Be Organized
It has been observed that those who are organized also have a way of organizing their thoughts to make them remember the good old memories. So, the more you get stressed out, the more you will begin to look for ways to get clingy to your relationship. When you are ogaized, things will begin to fall into the right place

3. Be calm
Despite the fact that you are not there, it is imperative to know that you just need to keep calm and look at more to life. When you tend to tell yourself that the last wedding you went was fun, you will not want to remember that you went alone.


Try to get the best of other activities. You may not be able to change a of things, but keeping calm can help you get over them.

4. Develop yourself
You may imagine that he will return at a particular period of time, but have you forgotten that it is possible to develop yourself? Well, it has been observed that during the long waiting days of his return, get to be more productive with your time and look for the brighter side of the coin.
https://dailyfamily.ng/4-ways-cope-long-distance-relationship/

7 Signs a man does when he wants you to break up with him
Breaking a relationship with the one you love can be very difficult, but what to do when that feeling is no longer reciprocal? Is it worth insisting on?

Often, when a man does not have the courage to finish, he may give some signs that he wants you to take the initiative, that is, break up with him.

How do you know if your boyfriend wants to break the relationship, but does not want to be the “responsible” for the end?

Read these 7 signs that may mean he wants you to break up with him and honestly, if he’s doing these things, it’s the best you should do! He needs to grow up and it is best to make him far away from you.


1. He flirts with other women even knowing that you are seeing
If your boyfriend suddenly starts flirting with other women, even knowing full well that you can see him, he probably wants you to break up with him.

Unless he’s really dumb, he will not flirt with other women in front of you and expect nothing to happen.

2. He fights for absolutely everything.
A friend told me that she already had a boyfriend who was fighting for everything. For the least reason, he started a fight.

At one point in the relationship, which was already becoming unsustainable, he told the truth: he wanted her to break up with him. That’s what she did.


3. He does not try to make amends after a fight
In addition to fighting over anything, if your boyfriend is not even trying to make amends after an argument, he is simply showing that he does not care about your relationship and waiting for you to finish.

4. He ignores your messages and phone calls
If you have been dating for some time and suddenly he starts ignoring your messages and phone calls, this is a big red flag that he probably wants you to break up with.

He may be really busy, but you will eventually know and understand. If this is not the case, he is simply trying to distance himself from you.

5. He begins to ruin all his plans
Did your boyfriend start canceling all the tours he had booked with you? Usually, he leaves for the last hour and sends a message saying that “an unexpected thing has happened” and he will not be able to go?

If he does this all the time, on all walks, he knows very well what he’s doing: he wants you to break up with him.

6. He starts to put you down
This is really lousy and can be one of the signs of an abusive relationship, but it can also be a way to get you through with it.

If things have already gotten to that point, I hope you are done, because he really is fed up and wants to leave.

7. He starts to walk away
Has your boyfriend started moving away from you emotionally and physically? He does not open up anymore, does not talk about his feelings anymore, does not insist on being by his side and does not share what he thinks anymore?

This can only mean one thing: he does not care about your relationship anymore, but it’s too cowardly to finish and he’s waiting for you to break up with him.

These 7 signs indicate that your boyfriend needs to learn a lot to face a new relationship since he wants you to break up with him and not have the guts to put the cards on the table and tell the truth.

Do not waste your time on someone who can not be truthful. Go to another one and enjoy your life.
https://dailyfamily.ng/7-signs-man-wants-break/

5 signs that your partner is distancing himself

It’s like talking to a wall, the feeling of when those on your side are becoming distant in your relationship.

Having a distant partner can be scary. You worry about what might have happened to cause such a change. So you want to know if you’re just imagining things as you two go about their lives together doing just the things that need to be done and nothing more.

Let’s look at 5 troubling signs that your partner is becoming distant in your relationship.


Check out the signs:
1. Less physical contact
There is probably little touch, hands, kisses, laughter or other forms of closeness. Basically, the fact that your partner becomes distant is resulting in lack of confidence, which means less contact. Trust is necessary for a couple to stick together, since becoming vulnerable is what made them so close in the first place.

If you feel insecure, you do not want to physically open up to the other. If there is a lack of affection or intimacy problems, seek the help of a therapist or to help you reconnect intimately with your love.

2. You do not know what’s going on.
The lack of communication between you is disturbing. You used to share everything about your day. If you saw someone or talked to them, you would tell them and they would do the same.

Now the lack of detail is frightening. Before, your partner was your best friend. Now you just want to be able to talk to someone who understands what it’s like to have a distant companion.

3. You are no longer the priority
Something or someone, has already taken their place at the top of the priority list, which was previously reserved just for you. What used to be your partner’s favorite pastime (fitting in with you) has now been replaced by an activity from which you are excluded.

And it hurts so much that it’s hard to admit that it happened to you. When your partner can not open up to you, they will find another outlet for your emotions. Emotional betrayal is real, and even if you are not telling what is happening, you may have found another friendly shoulder to take refuge. Your alarm should definitely ring this time.

4. Your partner no longer wants to have fun with you
Again, it has left you out of the fun you will have with other people, somewhere else. Have you really chosen not to participate, or does she suggest that you should not come this time and come up with a good reason? This could also be another sign of a painful reality.

5. You are no longer included in future plans
You should definitely be included in the future plans of the beloved. If you have been left out of the holiday plans for a weekend with friends, once in a while, that’s one thing, but being excluded from the plans with your family members is a worrying sign. After all, you are a member of the family when you are in a serious relationship.

If any of these other signs is clear to you, then your partner may be planning a future physically distant from you, in addition to being emotionally elsewhere. He may just be someone who needs a lot of independent space. They may be emotionally distant, by nature of their personality, not because they have the need to hide feelings when they withdraw from the relationship.
https://dailyfamily.ng/5-signs-partner-distancing-2/

6 Things You Should not Tell Anyone About Your Relationship
One of the most talked about things in groups of friends who are in a relationship are their partners.

Whether you’re looking for tips or telling trivia, women like to talk about relationships with their friends.

Men also have the habit of talking about their partners with friends, but not as often as women.

And even if you trust your friends a lot, some of the relationship’s issues should never be told and it’s best to keep them a secret.

These issues when exposed can greatly disrupt the relationship with your partner, generating gossip and even creating embarrassing situations.

That’s why you need to be aware of what you’re talking about at the time of that chat with your friends.

To help with this, check out the six things in the relationship you should never tell anyone to keep their relationship healthy and in harmony.

1 – Sexual life
Undoubtedly it is the main and most controversial item on the list.

Talking about your intimacy with your partner is never legal.

Your partner may feel offended by being exposed to this intimate factor.

So never talk about what he likes or dislikes in bed or about your sexual experiences.

2 – About what he does and bothers you
It’s not cool to talk or talk to your friends about the “different” habits your partner has, such as not changing socks every day or “nasty” things.

This will cause your friends to create a bad view of your husband and associate him with something disgusting.

3 – About the lack of success in the work
If your partner is not having a good income at work or is far from getting a raise, keep it for yourself.

Exposing this in parallel conversations may make him feel unable to improve his own family’s financial situation.

4 – Fears of your partner
Society imposes that men should not be afraid of anything, so if your partner has opened up about your dislikes with you do not comment on anyone.

Even if it’s a silly fear like cockroaches or thunder, listen and save it for yourself.

5 – Errors he has already committed
Bringing sad memories that have passed through your relationship can generate conflict and hurt.

Rub rubber on the mistakes your partner may have made with you that have already been resolved.

6 – Failures still unresolved
If your partner has a big bug that really bothers you, talk to him about it.

If you believe that it can improve it is better to talk directly with it than to expose it to friends who can criticize you more and increase the problem.
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A woman forcing herself on a man may sound ridiculous and seem not to be obvious. Surprisingly, this happens frequently.

You might have thought of never being in this situation, but trust me, you easily can.

The signs are subtle. If you observe some unusual things in your relationship, consider these six signs. Do several describe you? You might be forcing yourself to be in love.

1. You’re desperate to be in a relationship
Desperation rarely leads to good decisions. Here’s a secret that everyone needs to know: If you’re unhappily single, you’re eventually going to be unhappy in a relationship unless you change your life. Don’t jump into a relationship because you’re so desperate for someone to make you happy


2. Sometimes you hope he will break up with you
When you’re forcing yourself to love your boyfriend, it might not mean you’re miserable all the time. It’s likely your significant other has some great things about him or her.

3. You hate hurting someone so much that you avoid it even when it hurts you
When you know someone loves you, it’s hard to hurt them even if in the long run it’s hurting you. Maybe he pursued you for a long time. Or maybe she tells you how she just can’t imagine her life without you.

4. Your emotions are very high
Has your anxiety spiked since you started dating? Do you find yourself crying an abnormal amount? We all have ups and downs, but if you’re suddenly experiencing extreme mood shifts, it might have something to do with the relationship you’re in

5. You get tired of rejecting
If you’ve broken up several times and each time your significant other comes back begging for more, in time you can end up just giving in. If you felt right about your choice to end things, remember that feeling and close that door for good.

6. You wonder if happy relationships actually exist
People might look at your relationship and think it’s great. And maybe it is … sometimes. But does a future with him seem bleak? It is hard to believe life will continue to be happy.
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Mrs. Motunrayo Ade-Famoti, a Lawyer and the CEO of Moneystewards spoke in an exclusive interview with dailyfamily.ng about investment in Real Estate both Nigeria and abroad.

Mo, as she loves to be called spoke about the challenges she faced running her businesses here in Nigeria and abroad. She also spoke about how she has been able to manage Career and Family life.

Here is the full interview:

Can we meet you?

My name is Motunrayo Ade-Famoti and I like to be simply called Mo

Can you tell us about your career journey?

I started my career in the United Kingdom. I studied law at the University of Sheffield. I moved to New York shortly afterwards to qualify as an attorney and moved back to London to complete my legal practice at Inns of Court, School of Law. I gained some experience, qualified as a Solicitor and then went on to complete my Masters in International Law at City University, London. I continued to practice Law in the UK and at the same time, I was investing in real estate.

In 2007, I moved to Lagos after getting married, worked in the real estate industry for a year and continued to travel back and forth until I decided to finally settle in Lagos in 2013. I started moneystewards in 2016 after over 17 years’ experience in the industry. In a short period of time we have opened offices in Lagos, London and Atlanta and I am extremely grateful for the opportunity to do what I love and am passionate about.

Tell us about your marriage and family life?

I am married to Ade Famoti and we have two amazing children. We got married in 2007 and we are best friends. He has been my biggest supporter throughout and I am eternally grateful for marrying a man connected with Christ.

You are a lawyer, so, what led to MoneyStewards? Why did you choose to go into Real Estate?

I am a lawyer but at the same time an entrepreneur. Moneystewards specializes in foreign investments such as Stocks, Bonds, Forex, Commodities, Gold, Real Estate etc. We acquire and manage assets on behalf of investors.

I decided earlier on that I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life working for just a salary (ordinary income). I needed to create a system that will enable me earn multiple streams of income and most especially make my money work for me (passive and portfolio income). In order to do that, I needed to learn about investments. I learnt and continue to learn about investment opportunities in multiple currencies and countries. I also wanted to protect the future value of my investments; consequently, I decided to focus on investing primarily in the global markets which protects me from currency depreciation and volatility.

What are the major challenges you have faced managing MoneyStewards and being into Real Estate?

With new businesses, you have to build your brand and so initially it was a challenge but in a very short period of time, people saw the uniqueness of what we were doing and wanted to invest with us. The second major challenge was running companies primarily based outside the country while being based here in Nigeria but I put together a world class team so it has worked out tremendously well. I really couldn’t ask for more. As per the real estate challenges, the major challenge we encounter is perhaps finding distressed properties at a discount. We buy these distressed properties at very low prices, renovate and sell for a profit.

Why do you think Nigerians don’t invest compared to other countries abroad?

I really believe that Nigerians invest, but we just have limited products to invest in. We don’t have nearly the amount of financial products and funding the developed countries have but I found out that is also slowly changing. Moneystewards has done a lot to educate people on alternative and foreign investments but I do admit we are still a long way behind.

Do you face similar challenges running your business in Nigeria and abroad?

Not particularly. For starters, I don’t have electricity problem. In addition, to sell a property in the UK or US is far much easier. The real estate industry is highly regulated and the realtors have to be licensed to sell properties on your behalf. There is also a central database that has listings of majority of properties for sale. I have been able to get an offer to buy an investment property within 24 hours of putting the property up for sale and close the deal within six weeks before. Being able to sell a property quickly is crucial because you can do multiple projects at the same time. However, human resources are much cheaper in Nigeria compared to |UK and US; this equates to possible bigger margins for the developer.

How do you manage marriage, family, parenting, and career?

I am blessed to have a supportive husband and family. I could never make it work without them. It can be challenging but I take it one day at a time.

What is your view about making use of support systems like housemaids?

You need to have assistance because you really can’t do it by yourself. I don’t hire or treat my assistants like housemaids. I call them sisters and bring the best out of them and so far it has been working out.

What is your advice to women who want to invest but their husbands are against such decisions?

I think those women should try their best to convince their husbands. You know him best so sometimes all it takes is a little patience and proper explaining. Whilst it’s tempting to invest secretly, nothing is worth destroying that trust and ultimately the bond in your marriage.

How long do you think investments can start yielding the desired profits in Nigeria?

Well it depends on the investment in question. Stocks, Treasury bills and real estate have different return on investment. I always advise people to have investments that have a 20 year plan, 10 year plan and 2 year plan. That way you have returns in the short term, medium term and long term.

As a CEO with your tight schedule, how do you relax or enjoy leisure?

I sleep, eat and exercise well. I relax by reading a good book and getting spa treatments sparingly and I love attending my local church.
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Juliet Isa is the founder and visioneer of Julietta foundation, an Abuja based NGO committed to setting pace for women and the girl-child in the Nigerian society. In this exclusive interview with her, she told DAILYFAMILY about her projects and emphasized how helpful her husband has been to her, even as she touch lives in her social entrepreneurship endeavours.



Can we meet you please?
I’m Juliet Isa, a social entrepreneur, humanitarian, mentor and a teacher.


Will you lead us into your educational background?
I’m a graduate of Visual Arts, from Cross River University of Technology Calabar.



We heard about your foundation. Can you lead us more into what made you start a foundation such as this?

42% of women in Nigeria are illiterate, due to premarital pregnancy and poverty. And the rate is increasing. So it’s time we start doing something about it.



What can you say is so dear to you about the girl-child, women folks in general?

There is a saying that goes “When you educate a woman, you educate a Nation”. Whether we choose to accept it or not, women are Nation builders. We are more than just females, we are super humans born with the abilities to nurture, protect, teach, and give birth to a whole new human being.



What has been the contribution of your organization to the actualization of equality for the girl-child in a male dominated society?

The Julietta Foundation seeks equal educational opportunity for both men and women. If a girl is pregnant and has to drop out of school, then the boy who impregnated her should drop out of school too, It takes two to tango. She didn’t impregnate herself. But if the boy is allowed to continue his life and education, then she should be free to continue with her education during pregnancy and after child birth.

What is or are your present project(s)?
We have the First Ladies Conference. It is an annual event we organize, where we bring in resource persons to train young women on entrepreneurship, leadership and how to build their self esteem. The First Ladies Conference also features the Project-Push-Through-School, were we offer scholarships to young women who dropped out of school due to premarital pregnancy to go back to school. And so far we have sent four young women back to school, and they are currently pushing through school.


And we also had the Project-Go-Back-To-School, were we distribute school materials like books, sandals, school bags etc to children living in rural areas, and so far we’ve carried out this project in 3 rural primary schools.



How have you been empowered for these projects of yours?

For now all we have are individual donors and sponsors who believe in our dreams and are helping us fund them. We are calling on cooperate and more individual donors to support our vision in developing the girl child.



Are you thinking of any empowerment project for the women folk?

Yes I am.


What will that be?

Some of these young women who dropped out of school due to premarital pregnancy feel they are too old and too ashamed to go back to school. So we are planning to enroll them into skill acquisitions program and adult education.



We noticed that you are married?
Yes I’m seriously married.



How have you been supported by your spouse in the bid to actualize your dream?

My husband is my hero and God sent to me, he helped me birth this dream of mine, nurtured it and brought it to reality. He made me realize that I can do it, if I put my mind to it. And he is my biggest fan and sponsor.


Have you considered doing something else?

Yes, apart from what I’m doing I’m working on becoming a lecturer too. Because teaching and educating people is also my passion.



What gives you joy more?

To put smiles on the faces of people who had lost hope.



What is your advice to women out there?

To every woman, you are more than just a female, you are creative, a Nation builder and you are beautiful.



How far have you been heard on this project of yours?

We’ve been Carrying out these projects for 3 years now. And we hope it impact the lives of more young women as time goes by.
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WHAT LOVE MAKING MEANS TO YOUR HUSBAND

“Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.” SOS 4:16b

The way your man sees sex, is quite different from your perception of sex. It means much more to your husband than to you. He is passionate about it and might even be “crazy” about it. Sex affects the way every man reasons. Once you understand the importance of sex to your man, I am sure you will be able to go all out to satisfy him.

It Brings Him to a State of Rest. Have you ever noticed your man’s countenance after you might have given him a good dose of ingenuity and generosity of your body in the bedroom? Have you ever observed that he usually feels fulfilled and at rest after a good performance in bed? Great sex is good for your husband; it takes his body to its state of rest.

It Boosts His Self-Confidence. Many men who find it difficult to have or sustain an erection think they are not “men enough” in their own eyes; hence, they have a bad self-image. On the other hand, a sexually satisfied man develops self-confidence. Sex fulfils his manhood, makes him feel good about himself and makes him appreciate himself as a man. A group of young men were presented with two options to choose from. To be amputated in one hand and leg or to die? They all answered that they preferred to be amputated than to die. Then they were asked if they’d rather die than become impotent. Almost 90% of them preferred to die than become impotent. That is the level of importance men attach to their sexuality. This elucidates the reason your man is “unnecessarily” angry when you deny him sex.


It Brings the Best Out of Him. Do you want to see the best in your man? If yes, give him good sex regularly and see how he will respond to you with love, care and admiration. On the other hand, if you want the worst of him, deny him sex and see the animal in your man.
It Culminates in a Better Marriage. A sexually satisfied man is likely going to be a loving husband, which results in an intimate marriage full of love and peace. Some unexplainable behaviours of your man can be traced to the bedroom. Likewise, unusual care and display of great affection can also be traced to sexual fulfillment.


Creates a Bond Between a Man and his Wife. The outcome of a vibrant sex life is a good married life. It brings a man closer to his wife, enhances good communication and culminates in togetherness, oneness, fondness and unity among couples.

Provides Life’s Most Exciting Experience. Words are insufficient to describe how your husband feels when he encounters you in a fulfilling way. Sex arouses great commitment and physical explosion. His body system is renewed; his focus is shifted from his business or career to you.Every gland and organ in his body seems to approach a climax, as he holds you tightly, speaks in esoteric languages, shouts, praises you and moans. This precipitates a great transfer of himself into you. He feels like he is enveloped in your body as he releases a powerful dose of semen into your “honey pot”. He can hardly describe his experience, all he can say is “I enjoyed it”. He is only permitted to share this experience with you, and you must be ready to give him your all. Never allow him to look elsewhere for it because such an action can be disastrous.


Helps Him in His Career and Business. A sexually fulfilled man at home will be bold enough to face the challenges of the world. He believes in himself, sees himself as a victorious man, and conjectures that if he can “conquer” his wife, he can surmount any obstacle. A sexually satisfied man is focused; he looks forward to returning home, to get the most of his wife. A sexually dissatisfied man may find it difficult to concentrate at work. Some may foolishly search for fulfillment from other women, ultimately jeopardizing their marriages, businesses and lives.According to Tim and Beverly Lahaye in their book “The Aims of Marriage”, “A sexually frustrated man has a hard time concentrating. He is prone to being edgy and finds it difficult to retain lasting goals. In contrast, the truly satisfied husband refuses to waste his business day on trivial things. He wants each moment to count so he can get home to his wife and family who will give his life real purpose and meaning”.

Helps Him to be Faithful to His Marriage Vow. A sexually satisfied husband hardly looks outside for sex. If a woman is ingenious enough to give her best to her man and “milk” the best out of him, the man will be too satisfied to think of any other woman. More than 80% of men caught in infidelity claimed they experienced “sexual dryness” at home.A man once said, “It is difficult for a man to look outside when his sexual dreams are fulfilled at home as no man will steal pop corn outside after a sumptuous meal of fried rice at home”.

It Satisfies His Sex Drive. The male species of animals are generally sexually more active than their female counterparts. Men are more active and stronger than women. This does not mean that women do not have a strong sex drive, far from it, but the sex drive of a woman tends to be periodic, while that of a man is almost continuous.

It Gives Him Absolute Joy. Through the excitement derived from sex, your man gets joy and happiness. There is no man, who does not enjoy sex or who is not passionate about it, except he is an eunuch.

With the knowledge of what good sex does to you as a wife, it is pertinent you learn how to loosen your panties and unlock your skirt for your husband a little. Let him enjoy you and have a feel of his love for you. Never allow him to think of any other woman, tell him you are enough for him. Show him you are more than capable to satisfy all his bedroom desires.

Some men make breaking up with them unfortunately necessary. why Breaking up seems easy to do for some men. But not all men let love go so easily. So men who make it work with their partners have special qualities you need to search for. Here are five of them:

1. Leading with love

A man who will fight for you thinks the best of you. He trusts you implicitly and gives you the benefit of the doubt. He automatically disbelieves negative rumors and assumes only your positive intention. He is your biggest cheerleader and defends you against detractors.

2. Good listening skills

A man who really knows how to listen will work harder to keep your union together. Someone who actually enjoys listening is a fantastic find. Listening is actually a skill – one that some men never learn. It isn’t just being quiet while someone is talking.

3. Empathetic understanding
Empathy is an essential quality for lasting love. An empathetic man puts himself in your position and sees a situation through your eyes. He doesn’t drill into you what you should do or what he would do. He helps you work through your own experiences without interfering or taking over. A man who is empathetic to your needs can be hard to find. But when you land one, he’ll put in the work it takes to keep you.

4. Calm communication

A man who will fight for his relationship is able to stay cool, calm and collected when communicating. He’s slow to anger and doesn’t get aggressive. Arguments don’t escalate, and the goal of reaching a solution or solving a problem stays in sight. Disagreements don’t devolve into a battle where one needs to win against the other

5. Creative problem solving

When discussion does need to turn into action, a man who will make things work will think of creative solutions. He is always anchored by logic and reason, but can branch out to more unconventional areas of thought. He can think outside the box and bend the rules just enough to get things done. He wouldn’t dare get you into trouble to make ends meet, but he’s willing to go outside of his comfort zone to change what isn’t working and fix what’s broken.

These qualities can be hard to find all in one place. But they’re incredibly special and important to the longevity of your relationship.
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Mr Ladi Williams is jointly involved with his wife in a catering business. He actually support his wife who runs a small chops business and have also come to set up at The Experience 2017.

In this exclusive interview with him, Mr Williams the co founder of Jabi meals, he told DAILY FAMILY that on the scale of 100 percent, the recently concluded The Experience concert had brought about a 70% sales increase for their outfit.



Good afternoon sir can we meet you?
My name is Ladi Williams.

What is the name of your business outfit?
Our catering outfit is called Jabi meals.

What is Jabi meals all about?

Basically we make small chops and we have also revolutionized the small chops industry by making puff puff in different flavours. We have strawberry puff puff, we have chocolate we have sprinkles. We just change the game basically.



You said you have strawberry puff puff. How were you able to mix a blend of strawberry with puff puff?

Basically we have our secret ingredients just the way Coca cola have their own. So when you taste it you will actually see that you are actually tasting strawberry.



As a business owner and an Entrepreneur how has the Experience affected your business?

The experience is a huge crowd, it’s a huge turn up and we have been able to make some really good sales because a lot of people are here, a lot of people are hungry and they find our brand very interesting, so it’s going good. It a good a experience.


So what has been your experience setting up here?

I won’t lie, it is hectic. It is hectic. A little problem here are there, with getting your store, some people stole our table but we were able to rent table. So its been a struggle but we thank God we were able to sell.



On a scale of 100 percent how will you rate your sales here at Tafawa Balewa Square (TBS)?

We are good with 70%.



That means you are making good profit here?

Yes its pretty cool and I am expecting more sales.

Sir are you single or married?

It is actually my wife that runs the business but I help her out with the little I can.
https://dailyfamily.ng/food-vendor-rejoices-at-huge-sales-made-at-the-experience-2017/

Moji Sote, a graduate from the University of Liverpool and founder of Shortys Barbecue has expressed her thought about marriage and what she think makes marriage work. In this Exclusive interview with her, she told DAILYFAMILY that it is always important to leave room for forgiveness in marriage.

Can we meet you please?
My name is Moji Sote.


What is the name of your catering outfit?
It is called Shortys Barbecue.


For how long have you been in existence ?
Well we have been in a existence officially five years ago, but we have been running it in-house for 15-years, holding onto our secret and then we decide to bring it out to the public.



Why do you think it is important to hold onto your secret?

Your secret is a secret. That is your source, that’s your power. Your trade secret is what is what identifies you, it is what makes you unique and what works for you, what makes your business grow and you wouldn’t want to sell out what works for you. However the public can be a part of it, that is why we decided to set up Shortys barbecue.


For how long have you been setting up at the Experience?

Well this is the first time that Shortys barbecue will set up at the Experience. Well i have been to The Experience some 13-years ago but this is the first time I will set up here.



For those many years, were you here as an Entrepreneur or a participant of the concert?

No, I just came to be a participant and it was really awesome. Experience back then obviously has evolved. Couple of musicians coming, gospel artiste, you know you feel the Spirit in the atmosphere and I think that is what the Experience is all about.



How has it been, starting up Shortys barbecue?

On like every business you know every business has it’s ups and downs, challenges but somehow we have been able to weld down the storm. We just have to keep going and let the public know about Shortys barbecue. It’s not easy setting up a business, in a very harsh environment like Nigeria but if you have a good product, a product that works for you, a product you know that can outlive you, then despite all the challenges that you have, you just have to keep at it.



Are you married?
Yes married and with children


What has the challenge been like married and running your business?

Well running a home. I am not just running barbecue. I am an I.T analyst and i work in an oil and industry. However Cooking is my husband’s passion and doing business is my own passion, so somehow We met ourself in the middle. So we both work in oil and gas industry actually.



Can you take us a bit into your Educational background?

I studied computer science and I have my masters degree, MBA University of Liverpool.



So are you telling me you can let go of oil and gas for Shortys barbecue comparing the level of income generated from it?

I didn’t let go of oil and gas and like I told you, I am an I.T analyst and have been working in the industry for the past 17-years now, however Shortys barbecue is my business the oil and gas is not my business. This is my own business that can outlive me, that I can pass on to the next generation. And thank God for the support of my husband And my children, I have been able to manage both working as a corporate person and also as an Entrepreneur.



How is your experience in marriage been like?
My marriage has been interesting. It is filled with ups and done just like in any home. I mean you are married to someone you think you know but it is until you get married that you get to know yourself. But most importantly it is the love. It is the love you have that actually sustains your marriage. So despite those challenges when you remember that love you have for that person it will be easy to forgive and let go despite all those challenges, when you remember all those challenges you will be able to go.

And most importantly it is prayer and love that you need. It is prayer and love that actually takes you back when your trust is broken. In marriage always leave room for forgiveness.
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7 Ways to Increase Your Chances Of Getting Pregnant

Our society paints a picture that getting pregnant is easy and a given, but for several women it is not a walk in the park. If you and your spouse are looking to welcome a sweet baby into the world, try applying these nine principles into your daily routine.

1. Watch your weight

Women who are significantly underweight or overweight can increase the time it will take for them to conceive. If you are planning on getting pregnant within the next year, doctors suggest men and women understand the effects weight has on fertility. If the mother is underweight, she is at risk of causing hormone imbalances that effect her ovulation cycle and chances of conceiving.

If the mother is overweight, she increases the risk of pregnancy complications, miscarriage, hypertension, pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes, blood clotting and labor complications. Babies born to overweight mothers are also more likely to become obese children and adults.



2. Quit smoking

Men and women both should abstain from lighting a cigarette when trying to get pregnant. Smoking directly affects whether a woman’s uterus will be receptive to released egg. Also, smoking damages DNA and can reduce sperm production.

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3. Understand your ovulation cycle

Take advantage of your fertile window, or the six days that mark the end of your ovulation cycle. Doctors suggest pregnancy will most likely occur three days before ovulation, and suggest a woman is more fertile before her next ovulation cycle instead of the days following just after.

4. Take prenatal vitamins

Doctors suggest women seeking to have a baby should take prenatal vitamins prior to conception. Prenatals contain higher levels of folic acid and iron as well as many other vitamins and minerals that help promote the development of a healthy baby.

5. Moderate your exercise routine

Think you are interested in having a baby? Do not plan to train for a marathon while you are trying to conceive. Going to exercise extremes can cause stress and problems on your body. Keep your exercise routine constant and predictable.

6. Avoid stress

Relax! It may take time. Stress affects more than your heart rate; it can cause your body unnecessary complications while trying to conceive. Enjoy the journey and get to know your partner in new ways. It will help you as you embark on your fertility journey.

7. Abstain from alcohol

High intake of alcohol should be avoided when trying to get pregnant.

Keeping these guidelines in mind can help you and your spouse bring a beautiful baby into this world. As always, please consult your doctor before changing your diet and exercise routine
https://dailyfamily.ng/7-ways-increase-chances-getting-pregnant/

Whether your marriage is currently the best it has ever been, or it is in need of repair, the Ethridges suggest that these principles will improve your relationship. Even for troubled marriages, it will take work, but it is possible to breathe new life into a relationship that has grown listless.

Secret #1: Your husband cannot meet all of your emotional needs.
Many times, a husband will pull away from his wife because she puts too many demands on him to meet all of her needs. When he can’t possibly meet her expectations, he feels like a failure and distances himself from her.

Secret #2: Your husband has emotional needs that are just as important as your own needs.
It is also important, the couple says, to realize that women are not the only ones with emotional needs. Men have many important needs as well.
Often, when women feel that their husbands are not meeting their needs, they can become hurtful and unkind toward him. This approach makes most husbands pull away because they do not feel respected, a significant emotional need for men.

Secret #3: Your husband was designed by God to be the leader of your family.
Another problem in many marriages is that women have usurped their husband’s role as the family’s leader. Scripture teaches that the husband is the spiritual head of the home, but our culture often takes a different view.

Secret #4: Most men truly want to make their marriages work.
One thing that we learned in writing the book is that men are often more committed to their marriages than women believe. The culture would lead women to believe that men do not care about their marriages.
https://dailyfamily.ng/4-powerful-secrets-every-woman-must-know/

When couples first start dating, they may overlook their differences, but once a relationship becomes long-term and the couple falls out of the honeymooner stage, these differences can become disastrous. The root cause of a breakup of a marriage is the selfishness that erupts in the heart of one or both partners; the love factor which was in the relationship diminishes over a period of time. Here are the causes of breakup in a marriage

1. Attraction towards another of the opposite gender: This happens because of one spouse does not give time enough to his/her partner. Communication gap, in words or physically, may develop between the two which, as it widens, paves the way for attraction of one spouse/partner towards another person of the opposite gender.

2. Physical and/or mental abuse: This is one of the major factors which finally bring about a breakup of a marriage. This is caused by the sadistic attitude of one of the partners which was kept covered up before a marriage. The spouse who gets the brunt of it is kept under control, and is intimidated and manipulated. There is less chance for such a marriage to continue for long.

3. Jealously in a relationship: Jealousy can cause great devastations in a relationship/marriage. A man or even the woman may feel that s/he is getting less attention than s/he ought to get which s/he discovers is being filtered out to someone else, even an in-law in a marriage; it can trigger a breakup in a relationship

4. Cheating and Infidelity: When a spouse begins to get attracted towards an unmarried person or one who is married, intimate relationships between the two develop and deepen and if the developing intimacy is not noticed by anyone, it may end up in infidelity. This may go one for a long time till it is discovered causing devastation to the marriage/s and breakups.

5. Repeated lying: A spouse or a partner may habitually tell lies to his/her spouse/partner. In such cases, the right picture is never clear to the other spouse/partner. A constant attitude of lying can throw a relationship or a marriage into jeopardy and finally brings about a breakup.

6. Repeated comparison of one’s partner with another man or woman: One partner may constantly compare his/her spouse/partner with others simply belittling them, trying to tell them that their lifestyle is not of a calibre which s/he desires. The targeted spouse/partner generally ends up developing an inferiority complex; s/he tries to match up to the standards of their partner to maintain peace and keep the relationship/marriage intact but it is of little use and it ends up in a breakup.

7. Love for money more than love for the partner: A partner may love money so much that he never has enough to spare so as to share out with his/her partner. For couples before marriage, only one partner may be paying for all outings they have together or purchases made together so that the financial burden even in petty matters is not shared.

In this sex-saturated world where everybody sees sex as a Visa to get anywhere in life, some great truths must be noted about sex for singles. As a single lady, you cannot use sex to keep any man, that guy is with you because he wants to be with you.

Here are some things you need to know about sex



1. Sex Outside Marriage Is A Sin

It could have turned to something singles celebrate today, but sex outside of marriage used to be and it still a taboo that nobody wants to even relate with or be found doing. It reduces your worth as a lady.

2. Sex Can make Him Stay only for the night

Sex will only keep him by yourself overnight till he is done with you; it cannot make him stay with you forever. What he is looking for is a lady he can take home to Mama not a German sex machine of every man.

3. Sex doesn’t keep a man.

Listen up! Whether you can do different positions and turn 360 degrees in bed; that cannot keep any man. You are only short changing yourself and your destiny.

4. Sex Will Only take You To His Bedroom

Having sex with him will not make you resident in his heart or create a palace for you in his life. You will only be that sex partner he is waiting to drop soon.

5. Sex Can Only Bring Few Seconds Pleasure.

That sex will only give you few minutes’ pleasure followed by a lifetime of regret

6. Sex Is A Product Of Love

Don’t get it twisted; sex is just one of the products of love. Sex is not love in itself and love can never be a product of sex.

7. It Erodes Trust

The guy will find it hard to trust you so there is no way he would want to marry you because trust is one of the bedrocks of a solid marriage

8. Sex Is Not Cheap.

There is no cheap sex as a single; you are actually paying with your life. It will soon backfire

9. You Cannot talk Boldly About It In Public.

The fact that you cannot even boast of it in public makes it a bad act of indulging in.

10. You Lose Your Dignity.

Having sex outside of marriage makes you lose your dignity and you tend to hide your face in shame when you see the guy or his friends.

11. You Probably Become A Dropout.

Once you get pregnant, it turns you to a school dropout. Depending on your level, once you get pregnant education might stop and you tend to waste years while your mates have already graduated.

12. You Are Playing With Death.

One thing sex outside marriage will give you is death. This will happen after you are pregnant and you want to abort. Abortion will only offer to you your death sentence on a platter of gold. This is the result of your act. You can even lose your womb in the process and you become barren for life.

13. You Are At A Higher Risk Of Having STD.

This is very common and it has even been shown that condom might not fully prevent you from it. Sexually transmitted Diseases are easy routes to the grave. Run for your life
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There are two kinds of people today. a) The ones who are getting married and posting pictures on Facebook. b) The ones who block them.

Here are 11 reasons why many are not getting married

1. Nobody wants to lose his/her freedom

There is a common notion that marriage kills freedom. It’s like your wings get clipped by your partner and you’re not going to be able to fly high again. Single people today are much more proud of not being dependent and being on their own. However, after marriage, the picture changes and you become answerable for every action. That is something people are not ready to do today.


2. Youngsters are not ready to adjust
We have been told by our mothers that post marriage one will have to keep ‘adjusting’ to fit into the new house and new relationships. Our mothers adjusted, their mothers did too, but for us, it’s becoming seemingly difficult to make adjustments because of our fast lifestyle and eternal existential crisis.

3. Career is more important
Will my partner make a fuss about being in office for long hours? Will he or she understand my love for my career? Will he or she be career-driven like me? These are some not-so-easy questions that come up when you love your career more than you love yourself. Today, life is all about cutthroat competition, where you need to be quick and efficient to make it big. However, post marriage ten different things will demand your attention at once, and you could end up being last in the rat race.


4. People want to travel the world
“Why aren’t you getting married?”, “Oh please, I want to see the world first, travel, and then let’s see!” is a normal conversation you will hear today. Today, travel is on the top of one’s priority list. People are actually saving so that they can travel and explore a new country. Marriage, therefore, takes a backseat.

5. Everybody wants to have fun
Our generation is plagued by commitment issues. Everybody wants to have ‘fun’ and then forget about it. Facebook should now add a relationship status that says ‘nothing serious’ as people are not ready to be serious about taking the next step.

6. Peer pressure
“Oh, why is everybody getting married? My Facebook is full of marriage photos” is making people push their wedding plans. People are resenting the idea of marriage for no reason. And then there are people who are just following the trend of dissing marriage on Facebook.

7. There are unrealistic expectations
“He should be an MBA, and she should be fair and lovely”, is still how people are posting ads on matrimonial sites and sections. Such shallow expectations are enough to erase faith from the institution called marriage.

8. People think they will become ‘boring’
Another strange notion is that married couples are ‘boring’. Because married couples talk about diaper issues and maid problems, people assume that even their future will be identical, and therefore they avoid settling down.

9. Youngsters want to prove themselves
Ambitions do not allow you to think about marriage. And the time and effort needed to reach your goals trump all else. Everything else can wait.

10. Trust issues
It often happens that after a bad breakup, people start developing trust issues. They are badly bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.

11. An eternal existential crisis and confusion
The world has become so fickle, that many of us go through a quarter or mid-life crisis every few months. It bogs us down. Many do not recover, some get out of it quickly. However, figuring out things takes time and therefore marriage is the last thing on one’s mind.
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