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12 phrases that men hate to hear when they take one out
One of the most incomprehensible male facets for women is their pride. A man’s pride can easily be broken by a woman, and what she will gain in return is contempt.

Therefore, when giving away a man, whether at the moment of flirting or in a relationship that no longer satisfies him, avoid saying these 12 phrases, because surely the effect will be as follows:

1. I do not want to ruin our friendship
Well, I guess it’s too late. The friendship has already been ruined with this out.

2. Let’s continue as friends?
When dating ends, being friends is difficult for a man. Do not even try. You could say “I hope we remain friends,” but let him decide.


3. I never really loved you
Oh, so you lied all this time to me? What else did you lie about?

4. Your family does not like me
And I like them. So painful to realize that.

5. I’m confused
This will not stick, and will only irritate you. Women generally know very well when they want and when they do not want a man.

6. I need some time alone
Only away from him, after all you will not let go of parties, going out with friends, going to the ballad, to college, etc. etc.

7. It’s not you, it’s me.
This is classic and the most used excuse. If you did not bother to find and tell the real reason, then yes, you are right, it’s you!

8. I’m liking you so much
Oh, yeah, that’s why you are giving me a break, imagine if you hated me, what would you have done?

9. You deserve better
If I’m with you it’s because I think you are the best for me.

10. Look, I admire you, you are an incredible individual, but let us remain that way.

11. I want to have more time to go out with my friends.
In fact, what you will hear is “I want to hang out with ONE of my friends and you are messing up.” It is true that you are responsible for what you say, not for what he understands, but surely that phrase will show him that you do not like him very much and want to meet new people.

12. My father does not want
If you are an adult you must learn to make your own decisions and know what is best for you. If your father still directs your life, you are not ready for a relationship. So, do not even start one.

When the relationship no longer has way to go and you decide that it’s time to end, or when you realize that the guy wants something more than friendship, simply be direct and respectful. Some simple steps can help:

1. Begin the conversation by highlighting his positive points.

A good example would be to say that you love him and that you are very happy to meet him. Or point out that you have been together for a long time and that it is important to you.

2. Say the impediment or reason for the break
“I’m not ready to start a serious relationship right now.”

“I already have someone” or “I like someone else.”

“We’re fighting more than having fun.”

“You betrayed me and I can not accept that.”

“I’m liking someone else.”

3. State clearly that you do not want to start a relationship or that you want to end – men do not understand very subtleties and indirect

“So I do not want to start a relationship with you.”

“I respect him too much to play with his feelings.”

“That’s why I’m breaking up with you.”

“We can remain as friends but no longer as boyfriends.”

4. Apologize if it hurts you.
Phrases such as “I’m sorry if things were not as expected” or “I do not want to hurt you, but that’s how I feel, sorry if I did.”

5. Say something affectionate or positive
“I’m sure another girl will be very happy to meet you,” or “I’ll always remember our good times.”

Do not be surprised if he gets hurt, crying or even getting upset. It happens. Give it space to express what you feel.
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Many people who cheat are not willing to assess the risks of their choices, just want to seize the moment. But the fact is that the consequences come and they will only realize the seriousness of their error when things start to happen:

1. Contract an STD
A person who fell in love out of marriage can hardly reason right. And among so many mistakes he makes, is not to protect himself. Unprotected sex can, among other things, bring a “beautiful” STD (sexually transmitted disease). And worst of all, you can pass this disease on to your spouse.

2. An unwanted child
In addition to STD, another risk is having an unscheduled child. When a person has a child with someone other than their spouse, their world falls. Your spouse is disgusted, including your children and your parents.

And this poor baby comes into the world in the worst possible circumstances. Every child deserves to be born in a well-structured home, of parents who love each other, not as the result of an irresponsible act, in which many have been wounded.



3. Disrespect, especially for oneself
The person who betrays their spouse ends up losing respect for the people she loves and admires most, especially her children. And possibly you will lose the respect for yourself. But sincere repentance brings back self-love and the desire to start over and never give in to this kind of temptation again.

4. A life outside the axes
Cause the end of a marriage due to a betrayal, or recidivism, leads the individual to a life outside the axes, to the loss of peace. He feels lost, no longer has a life as productive as before, in various areas of life.

Possibly, only when he puts his life in order, making a complete cessation of betrayals, and trying to restore – as far as possible – all the evil he has done; Only then will you be able to meet again.

5. Feeling guilty
Unless it is a disorder (such as psychopathy), it is very rare to find a person who has betrayed his spouse, and consequently deeply wounded the feelings of his children, does not feel bad, ashamed for what did.

It’s a burden she’s going to have to live with, except that she tries to redeem herself for what she’s done. Again, repentance is the way out.

6. A Rematch of Life
A betrayal can be forgiven, and marriage can go back to the way it was before, if both are in agreement and each fulfills its part. But to continue in this life of betrayal can bring very sad consequences. The famous “law of the harvest” hardly ever fails. If we want to be rewarded for something good, we need to plant good things. The reverse is as much as true.

Most of these things, which come as a result of betrayal, produce much suffering, especially in the long run. Is it really worth paying such a high price for moments of pleasure? Is it worth throwing it all away for a failure-bound relationship? I am sure not!

The good news is that it is possible to give up this life and sincerely seek repentance. As far as possible, correct the mistakes made and commit to never betraying again. In fact, a change of heart will be required – a complete aversion to this error, adultery.

This will enable the person to re-prove true happiness (after all, “iniquity has never been happiness”) and will spare you many misfortunes in this life. You can not miss a chance like that!
https://dailyfamily.ng/6-scary-things-that-happen-in-the-life-of-betrayers/

The CEO of Moneystewards, Motunrayo Ade-Famoti was part of the speakers at a free financial empowerment seminar advised parents on the need to plan for their children’s studies.


Motunrayo Ade-Famoti spoke at the seminar about investing in Real Estate and she explained to the participants that from experience she had found that foreign investments paid off especially for those who desire to send their children abroad for studies.

The Real Estate guru who shared her experience of practice in the field for over 20 years said: “You have to set aside something for your children’s studies every month”


She also mentioned that Real Estate is very stable for people to go into and that getting the required knowledge about it will help reduce risk.

Motunrayo Ade-Famoti, speaking about risk, said: Risk comes from you not knowing what you are supposed to know.

Explaining this fact, she said anyone buying properties abroad must verify well and also get the required training so as not to fall into the wrong hands.
https://dailyfamily.ng/how-to-get-money-for-your-childrens-studies-abroad-motunrayo-ade-famoti/

5 ways to help your husband last longer in bed

It’s no secret that many husbands have an easier time reaching orgasm than their wives. This is coupled with the fact that premature ejaculation is the most common sexual disorder in men under 40, which means you may find yourself sexually unsatisfied severally once he’s finished. It can be a real let-down to realize his fun is over before you’ve hardly started.

While you could get your husband to finish the job by some other means, another solution is to help him last longer in bed. Here are five methods to try:

1. Don’t rush him
To get your husband to last longer, have him start slow, Tell him to aim for one thrust every few seconds, then gradually (like, every two minutes) take it up a notch, to the point where there’s a thrust every second or so. If he feels like he’s going to climax, he should stop thrusting and wait a few seconds until he can control himself and start up again.

2. Do it again and again
A round of vigorous pre-intimacy before sex can work wonders. Not only can you orgasm, which might make you more likely to come again during sex, but getting him to ejaculate before the main event should delay the finish line. For many men, it takes a certain amount of time to “recharge,” which means you should have plenty of time to be satisfied.

3. Try pelvic floor exercises
You’ve probably heard of Kegels, which are exercises that help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and improve your chances of orgasm. It turns out, these same exercises can help treat premature ejaculation in men. Research presented recently at the European Association of Urology in Stockholm found that simple pelvic floor exercises improved premature ejaculation rates after 12 weeks in most men. Try doing the exercises together for maximum benefits.

4. Use a condom
If your husband doesn’t like using condoms, ask him why he feels that way and he’s bound to tell you, “It doesn’t feel as good.” Sex with a condom definitely feels different, and you can take advantage of this to get your guy to last longer. The sensations on his penis will be slightly weaker with a condom on, which might translate to longer sex sessions.


5. Switch up the position
If your husband has a position that always gets him off, switch it up. Cosmopolitan suggests missionary or girl-on-top, which can help many men delay the finale.
https://dailyfamily.ng/5-ways-to-help-your-husband-last-longer-in-bed/

If people knew how powerful sex was they wouldn’t have it with just anybody.
During sex there’s two different exchanges that take place: a physical and spiritual.

Most grown adults are aware of the physical exchange. But the second is the spiritual which most people don’t know about.
When you have sex with someone, you exchange/obtain whatever spirit(s) they have as well. You take on their qualities, behaviors, ideology Etc GOOD OR BAD and it becomes a part of you.

Sex was intended for one man and one woman. So many problems come as a result of sex outside marriage. Disease and unplanned pregnancy are just the scratchings the surface.

Do you know that sleeping with a person, you enter into a covenant with that person’s spirit?
This happens every time you have sex with a person.

The Bible says in the book of Corinthians 6:15-17 “Do you know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. (NIV)

And… In addition to this… Whoever they have had sex with… Now you’re attached to those people’s spirits as well. This is why there are so many people with multiple personalities, who are dribbling and dabbling in this and that, who are confused, and all messed up in their thoughts, feelings and behavior. They are dealing with
their own personality as well as the other people they have physically and spiritually connected themselves too.

The person you could be laying with could be full of the devil and now … You are too. How can this be avoided? The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee from sexual immorality”.

Do it in God’s way. Just wait. Save sex for marriage. Sex is a beautiful thing, it’s fun, it’s exciting when done in God’s way. God knows how it feels and what it does. He created it! But he also put
boundaries in place because He knows what can happen when people get careless with it.

TROUBLE! TROUBLE!! TROUBLE!!!
The good news is, this doesn’t have to be you. If you haven’t already engaged in sexual activity then don’t. Save sex for your
husband or wife. Ask God to discipline you to wait and take away the desire because it’s definitely hard to stop wanting something that is good to you after you’ve had it.

Take your pick. Either run the risk of sleeping with THE ENEMY or
waiting and being in the Ark of safety in marriage.
Authur unknown
https://dailyfamily.ng/two-things-that-takes-place-during-sex-hidden-secrets-many-dont-know/

If your guy isn’t telling you how he feels, here are some ways he might show you.

1. He brings you around his friends.
Or family. Or whoever is closest to him. When a man starts to make you part of the important things in his life, it is a good sign that he is serious about you. He wants others to experience the happiness that you bring to his life (and maybe show you off a little bit — in a good way because he is proud to be with you).


2. He stays close to you physically.
It could be keeping his arm around you, hugging you randomly, or cuddling up on the couch — a man who truly cares and enjoys your company will always want to be in close proximity to you. Physical contact, even when ‘innocent,’ sends non-verbal messages that are worth paying attention to.


3. He really listens to you.
One of the major things that men often get accused of is being terrible listeners. Whether he doesn’t remember that it was your friend’s birthday this weekend, or which scented candle was your favorite one at the store — the small details matter most. A man who really cares for you will listen intently and do his best to absorb all of the details that he can. It is his way of showing you that he values you and what you have to say.


4. He stays in touch with you just because.
Two people who genuinely enjoy each other’s company don’t need a reason to talk to each other. If he texts or calls you just to say hello, to see how your day is going, or to say good morning and goodnight, it is a clear sign that he thinks about you often and wants you to know it.


5. He doesn’t care what you do, as long as you’re together.
Oh, you have to go grocery shopping today or go out and get things for your party this weekend? Count him in. For the man who wants to spend as much time with you as he can, it’s not just going to be on date night or when you are intimate together. A meaningful relationship is just as much about sharing in everyday things together, as it is about the exciting things.



6. He will go pick up your dry-cleaning.
Or whatever it is that you don’t have time to do yourself. He will put in the effort to help you out in order to make your life easier, just because. A man who is not serious about you will not be around often enough, nor willing enough, to do these things.


7. He asks for your advice.
If a man asks you for your advice on a decision he is trying to make or a situation that he is in, it means he values your opinion enough to take you seriously and actually use it as a guiding light in his own life. If a man values your thoughts, it means he values you.


8. He will always make you feel safe.
Men are naturally protective. Millions of years of biological evolution has brought us to the point where we naturally want to protect those we love, whether they need it or not. It could mean protecting you from getting hurt emotionally or physically, but protecting nonetheless.

A man who loves and cares for you will make you feel safe. He will never make you question whether or not he will be there for you in a time of need. He will stand by your side when he must, in front of you when he must, and behind you when he must. He will be your teammate through life.
A man who loves you will make you feel it in his own ways. When he really cares, you will know it — if he doesn’t, you will be wondering all the time if he does.
https://dailyfamily.ng/8-ways-men-demonstrate-love-to-a-woman/

Marriage is not an individual game. It is a dual game that involves sharing.

Marriage involves sharing of so many things between couples out of which bonding could be achieved. Having a notion of living a solo life will spell doom on your marriage. Great marriage involves sharing of:


1.Sharing Of Life: Your being married has enrolled you into automatic life sharing. Your life is intertwined with your spouse. Marriage is about sharing your entire life with your spouse throughout your lifetime. You have to share your dreams,ambition,goals,challenges and burdens together. You and your spouse are a lifetime team.

2.Sharing Of Accommodation: If you are one of the privileged few who have a room to yourself while growing up and you go into marriage with that mindset of having a separate room from your spouse, you must know it is not ideal in marriage because real marriage involves sharing of accommodation i.e living in the same house,in the same room and sharing the same bed. Stop committing accommodation, room or bed divorce.

Sharing Of Time: Time is the currency of love. To make your marriage stronger and romantic,create time for your spouse regardless of your busy schedules. Don’t just get busy with your job ,business,career or ministry without having adequate time for your spouse. Share time together to play,talk,relax,pray,plan and go on vacation. Quality time together will help your bonding ,friendship and intimacy in marriage.
4.Sharing Of Opinions: Sharing opinions together as a couple will help avoid so many pitfalls and grant you speed in life. Don’t think the opinion of your spouse does not count,give him/her a listening hear,share your views together and move forward together.


5.Sharing Of Body: Sharing of body is the highest level of sharing in marriage. As soon as you get married,you are not expected to deprive you spouse your body. Share your body with pleasure,enjoy romantic intimacy and have pleasurable sex with your spouse regularly. Your spouse is the only one you should share your body with.
https://dailyfamily.ng/5-indispensable-things-couples-must-share-in-marriage/

“If a wife doesn’t know what it takes to satisfy her husband, it is essential that she finds out” – Gary Rosberg.



In this section, I will open your eyes to what men generally want their wives to do to them in the bedroom.

This shall be narrow down to the specific needs of your husband which you need to know in order to give him the best so as to satisfy all his bedroom desires.

1.EXCITEMENT. Men generally want their wives to be excited about sex. No husband will like to beg, cajole or force his wife to bed. Also, men want wives that show enthusiasm about sex. Look forward to it and make it a thrilling experience for both of you. Men hate women that fail to smile or happy as she is been made love with.

2.INVOLVEMENT. Men also want women that are involved in the sexual activities, a woman that is involved in pre-intimacy, intercourse and afterglow. Not the kinds of woman that will sleep like a log of wood as her husband makes love to her.

3.AGGRESSIVENESS. Not just being involved, men want wives that are aggressive in bed. Taking them to the ‘next cloud’ as they make love, bringing out new ‘trick’ from her ‘trick book’ giving the best in the best way.

4. VARIETY. Men want wives that give room for variety, not the old time women of Victorian era that only want a man on top- “Missionary style”. They appreciate women that allow sex to take place in another venue apart from their bedroom, though in privacy.


5. TOTAL SURRENDER. They also prefer women that willingly surrender themselves to their husbands, no need of cat and mouse battle. No third world war before the iron lady will allow herself to be taken. Willingly surrender yourself to your man, do whatever he says, rolling willingly, opening of laps and tightly holding your man without being told. You will be doing your marriage lots of favour as you make your husband happy.

6. NEAT BED. Neat bed sheet, well-dressed bed and perfume mattress will make love out of a man. Do not joke with this, take good care of your bedroom most especially the bed.

7. STRIP NAKED. Wife that willingly strips herself naked will always make a man happy, not the type that is still hiding her unclothedness from her husband thereby refusing to strip herself naked.

8. SURPRISE PACKAGE. No man hate surprise package (Can you feel this blank), If I do………………………………..my husband would be shocked. That particular thing that you think will shock him, go ahead and do it. Do not waste time to do it; you will touch his heart if you do.

9. SEDUCTIVE WIVES. Men appreciate wives that seduce them to bed and willingly turn them on. Please note that no man will want his wife to do it for another man.

10. COMMUNICATION EXPERT. They also prefer women who communicate her needs in the bedroom with them willingly and ready to discuss their sex life.

11. MANHOOD WOMAN. Men want women that boost their ego. Women that celebrate their manhood, appreciate their genital, telling them that they are strong in bed, treating them as men in the bedroom.15 Things Your Husband Wants In The Bedroom

12. INVITATION. Men want wives that willingly invite them for lovemaking. You can do this by simply telling him, “Oh boy come, let me give you a treat of our honeymoon days”, “big boss; come and have a taste of your apple” or by starting the pre-intimacy without saying anything but touching his genital, buttocks, etc. You can also send a text to him in the office, something like this: “Honey, I crave your body; come home quickly, your lover girl is waiting for you, fresh and hot” your man will really enjoy this.

13. MORE FREQUENT SEX. One thing any man will want more of is sex. Your man will be very glad if you will be ready for more frequent sex. Remember, an average man wants sex at least twice a week. That is how frequent men want it.15 Things Your Husband Wants In The Bedroom

14. GOOD DRESS. They also want their wives to dress cute and inviting. No man wants his wife to dress shabbily like an old woman.15 Things Your Husband Wants In The Bedroom

15. FEEDBACK. As a man is thrusting, he wants his wife to be giving him a feedback of what he is doing verbally. Men expect their wives to talk and appreciate them as they make love.
https://dailyfamily.ng/bedroom-life-15-things-men-wants-in-the-bedroom/

Dailyfamily.ng had an exclusive interview with Nollywood Actress, Titilayomi Adefila; she spoke about how she ventured into acting career and also gave her advice for celebrities to have a successful marriage.


Can we meet you?

I’m Adefila Titilayomi, a journalist by training, an actress, event planner/decorator, blogger, writer and Talent manager


Tell us about your career, how you started

I forgot to add I’m also a makeup artiste; I stumbled upon acting through doing makeup on film sets. I started in the year 2013.

Did you start Make up in the year 2013?

Yes, my makeup instructor in Grace Spring Vocational Centre (the late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya School) then took us to a film set for our final project and that was how it all started. I started with Genesis studios producer of So wrong So Wright and Tales of Eve.

What exactly did you study in school?

I studied Mass Communication at Moshood Abiola Polytechnic, Abeokuta. I have been writing since then.

What made you go into acting?

I stumbled into acting. Started out as a makeup artist and sometimes the director might see you fit for a role.

When did you start acting fully?

I was characterized for a role in SWSW season 3 (nothing major though), liked it and decided to take acting up. I have been acting in church before then, I started with King Invisible produced a D directed by Femi Adisa.

Did you drop your career in Mass Communications totally?

No! I still blog and write. I have plans to go back to school soon

How has the journey in acting been for you?

Rollercoaster! So many disappointments but God has been faithful, I must acknowledge GOD really, He has been super good to me

Can you tell us about your family background?

A Christian family of 6, 2 boys 2 girls, 3rd born from Alabe, Kwara state, My Dad is late.

How did your parent react when you decided to go into acting?

Very well, they have been supportive; Though Mum doesn’t like the idea of me leaving home for days/weeks. She’s overprotective like that.

How do you handle male fans?

I’m a friendly person but I sure know where to draw the line

Are you in a relationship?

Yes! With Jesus, I’m presently single

What are the qualities you look for in a man?

GOD, you must have GOD, that’s paramount for me.

What’s your idea on how celebrities can build good marriages and homes?

God and submission, you are a wife in the home before being a celebrity outside When God is in the centre of a home, it cannot be moved. Psalm 46:5 God should be the foundation and submission is key, be it man or woman. A man should be accountable to the wife if he is the celebrity; Love should be ultimate and God is love, so it still boils down to having God at the center.
https://dailyfamily.ng/male-celebrities-should-be-accountable-to-their-wives-nollywood-actress/

Dailyfamily.ng had an exclusive interview with Isioma Idigbe, an Entertainment Lawyer; she spoke about her choice of Media and Entertainment Law as a career.

She explained that starting something new must be to solve problems and money can come afterwards.

Isioma Idigbe spoke also about her relationship


Here is the full interview:

Can we meet you?

My name is Isioma Idigbe, Head of Media and Entertainment at Punuka Attorneys and Solicitors.

Tell us about your career, why did you choose to study Law?

Law chose me, I actually didn’t want to be a lawyer, I wanted to be a politician. I had intended to be a politician and when I started to think about how I was going to make a living, I was not willing to be corrupt, it didn’t seem like there was much of a living that I could make from being a politician so the next best thing for me was to be a lawyer because it gave me the opportunity to fight for people’s rights on behalf of clients.

You chose Law, so, how did you get into Media and Entertainment?

I kind of feel again like Media and Entertainment chose me. My fiancé now then boyfriend, when I met him, he was a photographer. I have always being a creative person anyways but unfortunately I am not overly talented so I am one of those people that will be averagely okay but won’t really be a star and I kind of knew that but when I met my fiancé, he was extremely very talented-I mean he had won awards in photography and he was like this is what I want to do although he had a degree in Economics.

So I said okay, this is someone I really cared about and I saw the potentials. In trying to understand how he could earn a good living from his chosen passion that was what started my interest in Media and Entertainment Law.

Have you been admitted in school then?

I was in school, I was in the University and I was doing my research. I was studying Law at this point. I was in the UK (United Kingdom), when I came back to Nigeria, I was in Law school and at this point he had already been back in Nigeria for let’s say a year and the half and he had made all these friends in the creative industry and we would go out and hang out with them, have dinner and all of that. They will talk about all the problems they were having and you would realize that all these problems were legal issues.

So, we would have a discussion and I will go and do some research and see how they are resolving similar issues in another jurisdiction. When I finished Law School in Nigeria, I went back to school to study Entertainment Law and when I came back I had this pool of clients and really, it comes back to the real reason why I decided to do Law, it’s about solving people’s problems, it’s about helping people. So, it started by helping my fiancé’s friends and then you build a reputation and now you are earning a decent living from it.

When you started, was it that popular?

It wasn’t really that popular when I started, it’s averagely a new area in Nigeria but it is not new in general, it is established elsewhere. I remember when I told my parents I wanted to do Entertainment Law, first of all they were happy that I was even going forward to practice because I had just decided that I was going to do Law to have this skill that I was going to do something else, this wasn’t really what I was passionate about but when I found this area of Law I became passionate, when I told them, they were very happy that I had found something and that I was going to be a lawyer just like they are, they encouraged it, of course, they paid for me to go back to school and I work in a family kind of firm and they gave the space to do what I needed to do, I was practicing, going for conferences, learning and continued to engage.

So, yes it is new, there are a lot more people in this practice area now than when I started and I think that is a good thing because we are having a lot more competence in the space and ultimately, the industry derives that benefit.

Secondly, it is increasing the value of business that we are doing because when you are having competent lawyers in the industry, the quality in general blossom because Law is at the core of everything, I am talking about how business is conducted in the country, we are seeing an improvement and people are beginning to see the value of having Media and Entertainment Lawyers. I think it’s all good; it’s a rapidly growing practice area.

How long have you been in a relationship with your fiancé?

Five years this year.

What are the qualities you saw in him that kept you going for five years?

He has a lot of integrity and he wanted to do an honest work to earn an honest living which is the same values that I grew up with about doing honest work and earning honest living and I saw that he was talented. Those were the things that attracted me; we just have very similar backgrounds and values, we just kind of gel. It doesn’t mean that everything is always perfect all the time but in terms an average is ours, our value system is pretty much the same and he is just really a good guy.


What is your perception about long distance relationships?

Well, obviously, I was in a long distance relationship for two years. To me, I don’t really see why people have so much issues being that we have all these technology now, back then when we started going out it was just blackberry and then we had skype. I remember we use to skype till we fall asleep. So, you have so many ways that you can communicate and I feel like our communication was better then than it is now because now that we see each other every day; we take it for granted but then when we had all that distance between us, we had to communicate.

I think it helps you develop the core of the relationship because I think when you are around each other, physical things, everything you get distracted but when you have distance you have to really like each other and really love each other and get to the core of what keeps you guys together. So, I think it makes relationship stronger if you work on it.

How do you find time to relax?

That is one of the things I am working on, how to relax, I don’t know how to relax. I mean when I was in school, I used to do salsa dancing and exercise but Lagos traffic and everything, so, I will say it is a work in progress, I’m still learning how to relax but I do like watching movies, I like going to the gym-I just don’t have time to go to the gym as much as I would like, I love cooking and I don’t get cooking as much as I would like. Those are the things I try to do to relax but now I’m a work in progress to actually do them.

What has been your challenges working with Artistes in Nigeria?

Them understanding how things should be done and the value that lawyers bring to the table but again like I said that is changing. Sometimes, it is not just the artiste, it is just the environment. You know we are already living in a very tough environment and when you choose to do something niche in that environment is even tougher.

Sometimes the combination of artistes not really understanding the transactions they are about to engage in and all of that and just generally them being put in an environment that is difficult and they have to make difficult decisions, I think overtime you get used to it and you understand their rhythm and curves and you start to learn how to work around it to make sure you are getting the right result from them to make sure you get the right result from them in a particular situation you are dealing with.

What is your advice to those who want to step into something new in Nigeria?

You have to be passionate, you have to be competent. There is something my Dad has always told me and it’s still amazing because now as an adult it has now become my matrix, knowledge, it’s always about knowledge, you can never stop learning.

Every opportunity I get to learn something, I take note of it, you are constantly learning and anybody can teach you and you need to have an open mind, if you want to do something new, there are going to be challenges all kinds of challenges, you have to be ready to face those challenges and with God and a good support system around you and with self-belief, you can do anything that you want to do. Of course, I’ve had certain advantages but also there are a lot of people that had the same advantages that I had but they didn’t do anything with it so, you have to take advantage of everything around you and use it for good.

I think one thing that people always misses is that it is not always about money. When I went into this industry, it wasn’t about money, it started from love and that love created a new passion to solve problems. Sometimes, you step into something new to solve problems and money will come after, you need to understand that if money is the end goal it might not always work out.
https://dailyfamily.ng/you-step-into-something-new-to-solve-problems-isioma-idigbe-entertainment-lawyer/

Transparency in marriage is the state of been open, truthful, candid and frank with one’s spouse. This is what the Bible describe in Genesis 2:25 “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed”. Marriage is known to be extremely difficult where husband and wife are not transparent to each other. It gives room for all manners of crisis and conflict in the family which have consumed so many marriages.


If your home must be joyful, peaceful and blissful; you and your partner must be open to each other, not given room for doubt, distrust and suspicion.

You must live a life of total openness without, “dark rooms”, “skeleton” in your cupboard, nothing to add everything is on the table.



Dangers of lack of transparency

Absence of transparency in marriage has many dangers and grave implications on family life. In fact, it is one of the reasons marriage are crashing worldwide.
Let’s check some of the implications of failure to be transparent in marriage.



Suspicion: Lack of transparency is the foundation of suspicion. It gives room for wrong imaginations, negative thinking and jumping into conclusions which most of the time may not be the truth. Suspicion is known to lead to wrong accusation that can be really annoying leading to anger and every other negativity.


Distrust: When suspicion grows, it becomes distrust which is killer of love and destroyer of marriage. Good marriage is base on trust, so, when trust is broken marriage is almost over.
Fear: Suspicion and distrust generates fear and anxiety, because of lack of information, misinformation and uncertainty that surround the home and family life in a place where transparency is lacking.


Wrong Accusation: distrust, fear and suspicion which are all off- shot of lack of transparency are know to lead to wrong accusation and counter -accusation which is very dangerous to the well being of the family life.


Conflict and Crisis: Lack of transparency is known to cause a lots of crisis,as the couple begin to fight each other even when their is no cogent reason for it.

Rumor: One thing that is common in a home without transparency is the influence of third party in marriage. It brings rumour, misinformation, gossips and lies which fuels conflict in marriage.
Lovelessness: There is no way love can thrive in a marriage where transparency is lacking, all that is common in this kind of homes are malice, anger, resentment, hatred and bitterness.

Sick Marriage: The end result of absence of transparency in marriage is bad and difficult marriage. What do you expect in a home full of distrust,fear,Lovelessness if not difficult and terrible marriage.
https://dailyfamily.ng/transparency-in-marriage/

“My parents did not want me to play football”- Nigerian female footballer, Asisat Oshoala


Nigeria’s Super Falcons star, Asisat Oshoala has revealed that her parents did not want her to be a footballer initially.

Dailyfamily.ng gathered this at the grand finale of the Asisat Oshoala Foundation Lagos Girls’ Football Clinic where the player made this known while delivering her opening speech at the Agege stadium today 17th November 2017.


The programme was organized by Oshoala in Lagos from the 15th to 17th November 2017.


She said: “My parents didn’t want me to play football but now I am known not only in Africa but all over the world.”

Asisat Oshoala is presently playing for Chinese side Dalian Quanjian F.C.
https://dailyfamily.ng/my-parents-did-not-want-me-to-play-football-nigerian-female-footballer-asisat-oshoala/

BREAKING NEWS Arsenal sign new defender

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It’s a New Year that is still fresh and promising, to get the best out of this New Year, your relationship is an important aspect you must be concerned about.


Enough of relationships with no goals and purposes, it’s time you defined where you are going with each other. The New Year should not be another period for guesses, be certain.

You can also read this: What to Give a Beloved Girl For the New Year: a Rating of Gifts 2017

For the singles out there who want to end this year with a successful relationship; you must be sure of where you are going or else think about that relationship again.


Here are important steps to take:

1. Do an overview of last year: to move forward and do better this New Year, you need to take a look at how last year went. Take a look at what was done right in the relationship and the other way round and see how you both can make the right adjustments this year.

2. Ask Questions: Before two people can set goals together some questions should be asked and answered. There are certain questions you should ask each other about your views about life, future ambitions, and so many other aspects.

3. Be sure of what you want: No two people can walk together except they agree; you can’t agree with someone you don’t feel his or her importance in your life. So, before you start setting goals, be sure you want to have a future with that person.


4. Have a vision and purpose for your life: the vision and purpose you found out for your life is very important when it comes to choosing the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If you don’t know where you are going, you will end up anywhere. This is why you must be sure about your vision and purpose before making that important decision.

5. Work on goals not achieved: if you have set goals in the past that was not achievable, you need to sit down and look at ways to improve on them to become realizable and if it does not work out at the end of it all, try to let it go so you can achieve something better.

6. Set realistic goals: Relationship between two lovers must be worked upon to reach some particular goals. Setting the right goals in your relationship will help you both to know what is next and where exactly you are going. There is a common saying that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable.

7. Learn: when the same approach is used over and over; the same result is certain to be realized. To get a better result this year in your relationship, it is important to find out ways you can learn something new. Get yourself equipped to add value to your partner and your future marriage.

8. Communicate: communication is very important in every relationship whether long or short distance. Technology has made things easy as you can communicate using different means that has been made available.

9. Be committed: after you have decided that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person; you have to give your full commitment to nurturing the relationship to become the reality you desire.
https://dailyfamily.ng/9-important-steps-to-take-in-2018-for-your-relationship/

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What To Do In Case You Hate Sex As A Couple
Marriage brings with it huge expectations – one of the greatest is a sexual activity with your spouse. But, what can happen if you hate sex?

If you were to talk to some marital therapist or marriage counselor, he would say that it is important not only to have emotional intimacy but also physical intimacy in your marriage.

Some wives get caught asking the question, “Do I really have to do this for the rest of my married life?

For those of you who shrink instead of running into the bedroom when your husband is well-disposed, here are some tips to help you feel more comfortable having sex:



Talk about it
This is an important tip when hating sex because sex involves two people – that is, you and your husband. If you do not tell him what you feel, he may think it has something to do with him, that you may not be attracted to him or angry at him for some reason.

Probably none of these are the case. Tell him that it has nothing to do with him and that you generally find him sympathetic and supportive.

Leave the preconceived notions aside
Movies, TV or some books will make sex seem like the most important thing in the world. This can make a person who does not find sex so nice if they feel abnormal and think there is something wrong with it. This is a lie.


Sex is meant to be an act of love between you and your husband; so if you’re apprehensive about it, his opinion is the only one you should be concerned about. Do not let other people or popular cultures make you feel even worse about something that already makes you insecure.

Find ways to “get in the mood”
For some women, it takes a lot of work to get into the weather. This refers to what has already been said: talk about it with your husband. Together, you can discuss what could make you feel more at ease, whether it’s a romantic dinner, hugging, talking to one another, or anything else that makes you more intimate.

In doing so, the chances of associating romantic thoughts with sex, rather than the physical act itself, will make you more receptive or at least more at ease.

Prepare yourself psychologically
It is possible that your thoughts will be a thousand when it comes to physical intimacy with your husband. Remember that sex between husband and wife is to make love and create life, and it is much more than just “duties of the wife” that you “have to fulfill.” So when the time comes, try to empty your mind and focus on the passion you feel for it.

Seek professional help
This is very important – especially for those who have found that they hate sex for physical or emotional reasons, such as finding sex that causes pain or having been abused in the past, etc.

Do not be afraid to seek a professional who can discover the main reason behind your lack of desire, if any. The good thing about the pros is that they know what they’re doing, and it’s something they’ve probably dealt with often enough to know how to help.

Sex is just one element of marriage, so make sure you focus on all the wonderful parts of being with your husband. Together, you can find ways to turn your hatred of sex into love.
https://dailyfamily.ng/what-to-do-in-case-you-hate-sex-as-a-couple/

Mrs Uchechi Onyekwere Nwadiogu and her son Mr Nwadiogu Bernard Alozie have been through the thick and thin period of the legal profession together. However, their days of patience wasn’t wasted as the mother and her son were eventually called to bar the same week, leading possibly to (a record breaking call in the history of call to ) the Supreme Court of Nigeria.
In this exclusive interview with the Nwadiogus, the duo lead us through the challenges of raising a family, practicing law and the eventual success the mother and son celebrated.


Can we meet you both?
Mom: I am Mrs Uchechi Onyekwere Nwadiogu.I was born and married in Ohanze,Obingwa Local Government Area of Abia State.

Son: I am Mr Nwadiogu Bernard Alozie,a native of Ohanze,in Obingwa Local Government Area of Abia State.





Please tell us about your educational background?
Mom: I attended the then Imo State University Uturu, now Abia State University Uturu where i graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree in English Language and Literature. I later proceeded to Abia State University in Uturu to do a second degree in Law In 2011. I graduated in 2016. Then I proceeded to the Nigerian Law School,Enugu Campus for the one year vocational training for lawyers.

Son: I graduated from the Faculty of Law Nnamdi Azikiwe University Awka Anambra State in 2016 and the Nigerian law school Yola Campus in August 2017.



Why did you opted for law amidst several discipline there in the University?
Mom: Actually I have always wanted to be a lawyer even before i did my first degree.I had sought for admissions a couple of times to study law in different schools in the country then,all to no avail. The profession and practice of law is one I cherish and have always been attracted to even as a very young girl growing up in my hometown.

Son: My decision to become a lawyer is one in made at a very young age. It may have been made even when i really didn’t know what it takes to become one, but I just knew I was going to be a lawyer. I spent a lot of time in and out of courts because of my mother‘s job, so the attraction has always been there right from the start.


We saw a post recently on your facebook, showing that you and your mum were called to bar the same week. Can you tell us how this came to be?
I got admitted into the faculty of law at Nnamdi Azikiwe University in October 2011, my mother was admitted much later, either in November or December of the same year to the Faculty of Law at Abia State University. We went through the five years of undergraduate studies together, albeit in different schools. We were level mates, we did the same courses most of the time because of the Unified Syllabus, and we proceeded to the Law School the same year upon graduation from our different Universities. That’s just about it. We started together and we finished together.



What was it like initially studying law with your mum?
I wouldn’t say it was a normal thing, because it wasn’t. It was exciting though, and very helpful because we assisted each other in a lot of things. Above all, I would say it was just great.



As a mother, wife and a law student, how have you been able to cope?
It wasn’t very easy to combine all three together, but I did because I had a lot of help and support from my most loving husband, my son Bernard and from all my other children .



To you Mr Bernard, what challenges did you encounter while studying law. What is that time pulling moment for you?
They all made compromises in one way or the other to see to it that my goal and my dreams were achieved. And I’m grateful to them for that. I couldn’t have done it without them. I wouldn’t say I had a lot of challenges, because I’m a firm believer of Christ. I believe that everything has been provided for by God since creation, so it always works out for me.



Mother and son becoming a law student, what was your husband’s initial reaction to it?
I’d say my husband was a bit surprised, but in all he was really happy and has always been there for both his son and his wife.


How has he been helpful in your journey?
His help cannot be overemphasized, I’d said that before. He has been helpful in every way and I’m very grateful to him.


Considering your motherly responsibilities and academical demands of law, have you ever thought of quitting?
I wouldn’t say I’ve thought of quitting, because I’m not a quitter. There’s been challenges and difficulties, but I’ve always believed in God and he’s always made name for himself.



What was that dicey decision you had to make considering you marriage and studying law?
I don’t think my marriage and my dream of studying law has ever been in conflict. I got married to a man who I’ve known right from my childhood, so we always agree on almost everything. Having said this, I’ve never been on the spot about my marriage and my secisin to study law. If for anything, my marriage even prepared me the more and has contributed immensely to the actualization of my dreams.



To you Mr Bernard. What lesson have you learnt from your parent’s marriage?
*Laughs*… That’s actually kind of very personal, but I’d just say I’ve learnt a lot from my parents.



Did you ever encounter any humanly distraction while studying law. What is this distraction?
I’m a working woman and also a woman with a family. So you bet there were distractions, both from the home front and the work front.



How have you been able to balance your marriage while studying law?
As I’ve said earlier, my family compromised a lot and sacrificed a lot too while I was studying. Maybe I’d give you some details some other time, but not now.



You seem to be more close to your mum. Tell us about that?
My mom is my pride, my inspiration, my joy and my mentor. If you ask my friends what happens if i had the opportunity to introduce my mom they’d tell you I’m always smiling and happy when I do the introductions, and in fact whenever with her. So my joy knows no bounds. I’m proud of her.


Can you tell us in layman’s language about your favourite law report ever?
NBA vs. Ofomata. I’m.sorry I can’t provide the citation now. But the case is all about the discipline and professional misconduct. The practice of law is one that involves a lot of ethics which must be very religiously adhered to in order to continue to preserve the integrity of the profession.



How do you see yourself transforming Nigeria Judicial system in the little way you can?
Son: No man can single handedly effect change in a system. However we must all try to contribute our widows mite. The Judiciary in Nigeria has been on a steady progress in terms of new innovations and reformed practice rules all aimed at ensuring quick and effective disposition of justice. I’ll commit my time and energy as much as possible to see that changes are effected to make the wheel of justice grind faster, because its believed that justice delayed is justice denied.



How happy were you and your mum when you knew you will both be called to bar the same week?
We were just happy because we started together and we finished together. Our happiness wasn’t purely because we were just being called to the bar, but because neither of us was left behind.
https://dailyfamily.ng/mother-son-called-to-bar-same-week-shares-amazing-story-of-their-success/

Mrs. Motunrayo Ade-Famoti, a Lawyer and the CEO of Moneystewards spoke in an exclusive interview with dailyfamily.ng about investment in Real Estate both Nigeria and abroad.


Mo, as she loves to be called spoke about the challenges she faced running her businesses here in Nigeria and abroad. She also spoke about how she has been able to manage Career and Family life.

Here is the full interview:


Can we meet you?

My name is Motunrayo Ade-Famoti and I like to be simply called Mo

Can you tell us about your career journey?

I started my career in the United Kingdom. I studied law at the University of Sheffield. I moved to New York shortly afterwards to qualify as an attorney and moved back to London to complete my legal practice at Inns of Court, School of Law. I gained some experience, qualified as a Solicitor and then went on to complete my Masters in International Law at City University, London. I continued to practice Law in the UK and at the same time, I was investing in real estate.

In 2007, I moved to Lagos after getting married, worked in the real estate industry for a year and continued to travel back and forth until I decided to finally settle in Lagos in 2013. I started moneystewards in 2016 after over 17 years’ experience in the industry. In a short period of time we have opened offices in Lagos, London and Atlanta and I am extremely grateful for the opportunity to do what I love and am passionate about.

Tell us about your marriage and family life?

I am married to Ade Famoti and we have two amazing children. We got married in 2007 and we are best friends. He has been my biggest supporter throughout and I am eternally grateful for marrying a man connected with Christ.



You are a lawyer, so, what led to MoneyStewards? Why did you choose to go into Real Estate?

I am a lawyer but at the same time an entrepreneur. Moneystewards specializes in foreign investments such as Stocks, Bonds, Forex, Commodities, Gold, Real Estate etc. We acquire and manage assets on behalf of investors.

I decided earlier on that I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life working for just a salary (ordinary income). I needed to create a system that will enable me earn multiple streams of income and most especially make my money work for me (passive and portfolio income). In order to do that, I needed to learn about investments. I learnt and continue to learn about investment opportunities in multiple currencies and countries. I also wanted to protect the future value of my investments; consequently, I decided to focus on investing primarily in the global markets which protects me from currency depreciation and volatility.

What are the major challenges you have faced managing MoneyStewards and being into Real Estate?

With new businesses, you have to build your brand and so initially it was a challenge but in a very short period of time, people saw the uniqueness of what we were doing and wanted to invest with us. The second major challenge was running companies primarily based outside the country while being based here in Nigeria but I put together a world class team so it has worked out tremendously well. I really couldn’t ask for more. As per the real estate challenges, the major challenge we encounter is perhaps finding distressed properties at a discount. We buy these distressed properties at very low prices, renovate and sell for a profit.

Why do you think Nigerians don’t invest compared to other countries abroad?

I really believe that Nigerians invest, but we just have limited products to invest in. We don’t have nearly the amount of financial products and funding the developed countries have but I found out that is also slowly changing. Moneystewards has done a lot to educate people on alternative and foreign investments but I do admit we are still a long way behind.


Do you face similar challenges running your business in Nigeria and abroad?

Not particularly. For starters, I don’t have electricity problem. In addition, to sell a property in the UK or US is far much easier. The real estate industry is highly regulated and the realtors have to be licensed to sell properties on your behalf. There is also a central database that has listings of majority of properties for sale. I have been able to get an offer to buy an investment property within 24 hours of putting the property up for sale and close the deal within six weeks before. Being able to sell a property quickly is crucial because you can do multiple projects at the same time. However, human resources are much cheaper in Nigeria compared to |UK and US; this equates to possible bigger margins for the developer.

How do you manage marriage, family, parenting, and career?

I am blessed to have a supportive husband and family. I could never make it work without them. It can be challenging but I take it one day at a time.

What is your view about making use of support systems like housemaids?

You need to have assistance because you really can’t do it by yourself. I don’t hire or treat my assistants like housemaids. I call them sisters and bring the best out of them and so far it has been working out.

What is your advice to women who want to invest but their husbands are against such decisions?

I think those women should try their best to convince their husbands. You know him best so sometimes all it takes is a little patience and proper explaining. Whilst it’s tempting to invest secretly, nothing is worth destroying that trust and ultimately the bond in your marriage.


How long do you think investments can start yielding the desired profits in Nigeria?

Well it depends on the investment in question. Stocks, Treasury bills and real estate have different return on investment. I always advise people to have investments that have a 20 year plan, 10 year plan and 2 year plan. That way you have returns in the short term, medium term and long term.

As a CEO with your tight schedule, how do you relax or enjoy leisure?

I sleep, eat and exercise well. I relax by reading a good book and getting spa treatments sparingly and I love attending my local church.
https://dailyfamily.ng/i-didnt-want-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-working-for-just-a-salary-motunrayo-ade-famoti-ceo-moneystewards/

Nigeria’s foremost spoken words promoter and organizer of War of Words event (A Spoken words talent discovery event), has spoken about the untapped benefits in the poetry value chain in Nigeria. In this interview with DAILYFAMILY Newspaper, Holloway, a graduate of Lagos state University (LASU) explain why he seem to have been so loud about poetry even while Accounting was his Major in School.


Can we meet you please?

My name is Olumide Holloway. I am a writer, author of two E-books (The Poetprenuer and How many Nos make a Yes?), spoken word artist, Poetprenuer and Promoter of Poetry and literary events


Tell us about your educational background?
I graduated from LASU in 2002/ 2003 with a 2:2 in Accounting and I am also a Chartered Accountant i.e. an Associate member of ICAN (ACA) since 2005.

You seem to have made more noise about Poetry, why is it so?
Passion, passion, passion…And a dream that has kept me awake since I dreamt it.



Will you tell us your first experience with spoken words?
It was via a movie titled, “why do fools fall in love?” in 2008 (I think) and then later on at an event called “Celebrity Read” which started around June/ July in 2010. My first performance was at Taruwa that held in August 2010 at a Bar in the Palms, Oniru Lekki area. It was a disaster.



What led you into it?
The immediate attention, the art form demands from you, especially when excellently done. It is a way to express my thoughts, dreams, pain, excitement and all other things I had written down (instead of waiting for people to come and read it).


Spoken words seem to be what every ‘Dick and Harry’ today are doing. Why have you chosen to do the same thing?
I don’t know that many Dick and Harry. But like we learnt in school, all primates are mammals, but not all mammals are. So because someone calls his/ herself a name, does not automatically mean that is what he or she is.



What makes you standout?
Finding my niche and dominating it. Besides, I was born to standout, and I say this will all humility.



What is your major motives for organizing spoken words event. What have You been trying to achieve?
The vision is to develop a vibrant spoken word poetry industry in Nigeria and Africa. This will lead to creation of jobs/ businesses, increase in the level of literacy among youths, provide quality entertainment, provide a platform for expression and empower/ enlighten minds.

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Which work of life will you refer to yourself as a professional?
A Poetprenuer: that is someone involved in the Business of poetry.

On which umbrella organization are you driving your Spoken words event?
i2X Media is an organization that sponsors, supports and promotes Performance Poetry, Spoken Word and soul music events. We are an entertainment company that employs the use of the written and spoken word as a literacy development tool, branding tool, marketing and publicity tool, business development and sales growth tool. We also do creative writing, editing, mentoring, grooming, promotion and management of writers, poets and soul singers.

Tell us about War Of Words?
War Of Words is Nigeria’s foremost Slam Poetry Competition which (on an annual basis since June 2013), discovers, grooms, and promote young, new, exciting and talented Spoken Word Poets based in Nigeria and Africa. It is an event that attracts and promote the performances of new poets, which in turn helps to grow an industry that will enable Spoken Word Poets to earn a living from their performances. In addition, it is a medium that allows us to use Spoken Word Poetry as a literacy development tool which can be used for education, communication, information and entertainment.

After War of Words Season 6, what next?
In 2017 War Of Words Season 6 featured 30 poets in 2 semifinals and one final over 3 weekends. In 2018, we plan to organize War Of Words Season 7 and feature 60 poets who will compete in 4 quarter finals, one semifinal and then a Grand final. This event will last between 6 to 12 weeks.

What has been your major challenge in the Spoken words industry?
Lack of enough awareness of the art form and lack of funding. But we realize that awareness brings funding, and funding brings awareness. So we have focused on creating enough awareness that will eventually attract funding.

Can you mention or describe the value chain in the poetry industry?
Our research has shown that there are areas of relevance of Spoken Word Poetry to individuals, companies and Countries. These are basically the benefits derivable from poetry and categorized into what I call the 8 Es.

They are as follows:
Education
Employment
Entrepreneurship
Expression
Entertainment
Empowerment
Emotional Therapy
Emotional Intelligence.



Are you married?
Yes.

Please tell us about your family?

I am married to a blessed and lovely lady and we have two amazing and wonderful children. And there is no minority claim in the gender distribution.
https://dailyfamily.ng/lack-of-awareness-and-funding-major-challenge-in-the-poetry-industry-poetry-promoter/

Chigozie Stephanie Alichi, is an award winning movie star and a graduate of Enugu state University of Technology. In this exclusive interview with DAILYFAMILY, Chigozie recounts how she was priviledged to put a smile on the faces of her parent after she starved herself to build them a befitting edifice better than the mud house they once lived in.



Can we meet you please?
My name is Chigozie Stephanie Alichi popularly known as Chizzy Alichi.

Can you tell us about your educational background?
I Am an Agricultural Engineering graduate from the university of science and technology Enugu state University of Technology (ESUT).



Why have you chosen movie instead of Agriculture engineering ?
I have passion for acting and at same time I wanted an engineering degree.



What will you refer to as that great thing you have achieved this year?
The greatest thing I have achieved this year is completing my village building project for my family and winning plenty awards.

Can you tell us some of those awards you won?
Nigeria achievers awards. Best of Nollywood (Bon) awards.



Tell us about your upbringing?
I was not born with a silver spoon so my upbringing was simple. I lived with my elder brother in Nnewi, in Anambra state where I did primary and secondary education before coming back to join my parents in Enugu where I had my university education

Lets get to know who your parents are
My father, Mr Alexander Alichi is a civil servant while my mother, Mrs Janet Alichi is a trader.

You made a post on Instagram on how you were able to build a house for your parent. Tell us the story behind it.
It was a dream come through for me. Like I said before, I was not born with a silver spoon but I was determined to make it in life to make myself and my family proud. My family was staying one one room (public Yard) and immediately I graduated and started acting and getting some small money. The first thing I did was to relocate us (my family and I) to a three bedroom flat in the heart of the city then I started saving for the building because we don’t travel home because there is not place to stay in the village and it breaks my heart when my friends come back to gist me every year about their experience in their villages and my dad almost sold off our compound to patch the bad one so we can be travelling home. He has worked all his life so that he could build a good house in his compound but he couldn’t and that was his only wish in life, so I struggled and saved and denied myself most beautiful things to get it done and I am the happiest girl on earth today.


What were the reactions, opposition, hindrances while you were saving up for your Village building?
My greatest opposition is people calling me megbeke because I wasn’t wearing designers like them and showing off.


Which industry will you say you are a professional in?
I am a professional in Nigeria movie industry (Nollywood).

Tell us about your marital status
I am single, though not searching. *Laughs



Have you ever seen future for yourself in Agriculture Engineering which you studied in school?
Yes I have, though I have not started practicing but in time to come I will go into my field. I can do contracts (government and private) and can also open a big farm. Agriculture is a very important sector in not just our country but the whole worl


What will be the great thing you will be glad you achieve before this year runs out
Well the year has almost come to an end, but i am glad for what I have achieved so far and i am looking forward to a greater 2018 .



So what will you refer to as your greatest achievement in 2017?
My greatest achievement in 2017 is getting to another level in my career and building for my parents.
https://dailyfamily.ng/i-denied-myself-good-things-to-build-my-parent-this-house-nollywood-actress/

Famous Nigerian Entertainment Lawyer, Fawehinmi Foza Oyinkansola spoke to dailyfamily.ng in an exclusive interview about her career, background, family life and the qualities she wants in her man.


Foza as she is popularly known in the Entertainment Industry started her career as a Lawyer by starting her own Law firm and building a name for herself.


Here is the full interview:



Can we meet you?

My name is Fawehinmi Foza Oyinkansola

How did you come about the name FOZA?

FOZA is Fawehinmi Oyinkansola Zidat Adesanya- they are my initials but now it is my brand name. I am an Entertainment Lawyer, I run my own law firm: Founding Partner at Technological Partnesr, Media and Entertainment and Internet Law, Specific Law Firm operating in Lagos.

Why did you choose to study Law?

I come from a family of lawyers so, it was just natural going into Law and I love to talk, I love the fact that you can use Law to change your society and culture; that is why I chose Law.

Why did you choose Entertainment Law?

First of all, I don’t like doing things that are normal; I’m not a conventional person. I love creative people; I love the creative process but I just don’t know how to do any of them, I don’t like writing, I don’t know how to tell a joke, I can’t rap, I can’t sing, I can’t act but I just love when I see them do that.

I started managing artistes from my 200 level in school and I got into Intellectual Property from my 300 level, so, it just escalated from there. I like the fact that the industry needs me to provide a solution, that’s why I chose Entertainment Law.

What are the challenges you have faced being an Entertainment Lawyer?

I face the impression of-Oh! You are wasting your time, the industry doesn’t need you, what are you going to be doing as a Lawyer? Why are you an Entertainment Lawyer? Then, also, I have also faced the lack of awareness or the ignorance of what I do.

People ask me questions like Do you sing? Because I say I’m an Entertainment Lawyer, people ask me like what do you do? Are you making money? But I think that’s changing.

What are the challenges you have faced running your business?

I have faced issues of funding every time; I have had to learn quickly how to balance my life, I have had to also learn how to put appropriate value on what I do-time management. The challenges I have faced in the industry is also that the people I work for don’t know why they need me and so I have quickly had to learn to re-orientate them to show them why they need me and why they have to pay me. They know they need me but the fight we are fighting now is that ‘you have to pay me’. We are killing that gradually.


Due to your stature, don’t you get intimidated sometimes?

I get that a lot like: oh, you are the FOZA that has been causing all that. I have never had issues of self-esteem, so, even if you have a problem, I don’t have a problem with it. As long as I don’t have a problem with it, we are fine.

I’ve had situations where I have been denied certain kinds of jobs because of how I look and how they think that I may probably not be able to handle the job. I have learnt also to present myself in certain ways which changes that perception about me. So, if I am going for a certain kind of conference, I know what to wear and how to wear it, how to talk and stuffs like that, it’s a learning process but I’m never intimidated by your own insecurities.

Are you in a relationship?

Presently No.

Why?

Because I have not found someone.

What are those qualities you look out for in a guy?

I am very concerned about his spirituality; first of all, he has to be a very godly person, someone that knows his God and knows the word. I also like someone that has a lot of faith because I have a big vision, I have a big dream and because I have that, I need someone that believes with me in terms of faith and he has to be a prayerful person and he has to be very visionary, so, when I am telling him I want to meet the president, I want to be a counsel to XX person, he won’t say that I’m being stupid or that I’m dreaming but will support me in the dream.

I don’t like pot belly, I think that is the only physical feature that I’m so concerned about, I’m very particular about your intellectual capacity because I can’t relate with someone that isn’t smart enough and he should be result-oriented; If you are 35 now and you are telling me that you have potential and you have a dream, I am going to be a bit suspicious like what did you use your 20s to do but if you are like 27, the expectation I will have from you is different from a person who is 35 because you have to give me like a CV of what you’ve done with your life.


How do you plan to manage your time for family life, your job and parenting?

First of all, I want you guys to know that time management is everybody’s job is not just a woman’s job. Even in my business now, I have learnt how to apportion time, time management is very key to success and that’s why I am doing all the work now because I as a person will love to have quality two to three years family time with my children up to a certain age before I now go into the next level of my life.

My business model now is operating in a way where I’m building a system that even when I step out of the system is still working and it just needs minimal supervision to work and that’s what I’m doing now to make sure that it is in place. I believe and I hope that by God’s grace that by the time I get to that level I want that break, not that I will stop working but where I am more flexible with my time and it will happen with the work that I have done.

Your advice for younger ones that are coming up on how they can build their self-esteem

For self-esteem, it’s a gradual process; I also have days where I don’t feel very confident but what I do is I talk to myself a lot. So, sometimes you can catch me sitting down and talking to myself.

I use the bible a lot; from the bible I pick out stuffs like when God told me that I am the apple of His eye, that I’m beautiful the way I am, that He knows the thoughts that He has for me so I say these things to myself every day and there are times where for example, I have met a guy and probably say he can’t date you because you are not his body speck, you are not voluptuous and everything, it will take a hit on you but then again you look at it that there are other guys that will look at you and fall in love with you the way you are. You always have to look for the good in every situation.

My advice is that you should shift your focus to the positive of you. Everybody has something good about them; amplify what is good about you and by the time you keep amplifying you will never see what is bad about you, you will learn to change what is bad about you but you will know that people will love you for what is good about you and finally talk to yourself.


Advice on building career

Finding out your purpose in life is very connected to what you do as your career, job or your end vision. There are situations where you have to take some jobs to learn the routes to get to your end vision. The thing is you need to have a vision, when you sit down, where do you see yourself in 20 years and that now guides you to know the kinds of job to take or not to take because sometimes you find the kind of job that pays you a lot of money but is not in your career path. When you have that vision, it guides you to know which job to take or which job not to take.

I didn’t work for anybody because I knew that if you threw me in any situation, I was going to be good at what I am doing, I knew that if I had gone to work for any other Law firm they will make me other kinds of Law that will pay me well and because money is good I will probably be distracted and keep doing that and forget that my purpose is to serve the Entertainment industry. So, that guided me that if I can’t find employment that will work for me, I should set up myself.

For every time that I feel down, broke and angry because being an entrepreneur is not easy, for those times that I feel down, I look at my vision and I see that this is where I am going to, so, I’m going to get there either ways.
https://dailyfamily.ng/i-cant-marry-a-man-with-pot-belly-entertainment-lawyer-foza/

Touching! Couple shares how they lost their sights

Dailyfamily.ng had an exclusive interview with this blind couple, Mr. and Mrs. Adetunji who suddenly lost their sights after some years in marriage.


They both shared their experience on how they have been managing in their state taking care of each other and their children.

Mr. and Mrs. Adetunji were parts of the beneficiaries at the Aunt Landa Market Square where they got a Laptop which they needed to start a business.


Can we meet you?

I am Adetunji Adesoji Samson

How did you lose your sight?

It was an accident that happened in my office. I read Auto-mechanics, I’m a teacher by profession, I have my NCE and B.sc Ed. I had a workshop that I worked then, so, there was a time I tried to work on the things there and I didn’t know acid was kept somewhere up the shelf. So, while trying to get a paper, it fell on me and since then I have not been able to see. It happened in year 2015.

Were you married then?

We were married but we were not together as at then.

Was your wife born blind?

She was not born like that, she had glaucoma on the right eye and it later affected the left eye.

How have you been coping?

We were taught how to make soaps in a blind school. We make soaps, both tablet and liquid and we try to modify it; I have a sticker that has my business name on it and we have been trying to meet up, though it has not been easy.



How do you get people to buy your soaps?

We go to them. I spend so much on bikes to get to people, I live in Festac, 321 A Close House 7 and there are restaurants around us. We go to meet them; I take it down to them. They tell me we have it and many people can do it but I tell them this one is different, it’s thicker, we do bleach, Izal and disinfectants too. We go to Ojota ourselves to buy the chemicals.

How are you sure they give you the right chemicals?

We know the textures; my wife knows the textures very feel. We feel it and get it.

That means you go together most times

Not most times, we go together all the time; we take bike from our house to second rainbow from second rainbow, they cross us to the other side. From there we take a bus to Ojota, we have a woman that sells chemicals to us at Ojota. When coming back, we get people to help us cross, we take bus to second rainbow and from there we go back home.

How did you meet your wife?

She is from Uyo, Akwa Ibom State. I met while I was in the University. When I met her one eye had gone but I believed with time things will change. Later, we heard that glaucoma does not have cure for now, so, it later started affecting the other eye and that was how the other one left. I don’t know I will be blind too but that is how it has happened but we just have to accept our fate like that.


When did you get married to each other?

We got married about 10 years ago.

Did you have your children before losing your sights?

Yes.

How do you take care of your children?

We have two children and they are not with us they are with my wife’s sister, they are schooling and doing everything there. Most of the times, they come to visit and we also visit them. We send money to them; we make sure that we send something to them because they are still young. It is a kind of pain to us that we are blind.

The wife:

Can we meet you?

My name is Ekaette Adetunji

How have you been managing?

It’s the grace of God.

How do you make your hair?

I go to the hair stylist.

Did you have any University Education?

No. I stopped at Secondary level but I learnt soap making too. (The husband cuts in “she is better than me”)

What is the next step now?

The next step is that we want to start a business with the Laptop we got.


Have you learnt how to operate it?

Yes. For a month now but the course is three months and we need a Laptop while learning but we already have what to do with it.
https://dailyfamily.ng/touching-couple-shares-how-they-lost-their-sights/

Ejiroghene Akpobome is one of the sons of popular Nigerian comedian Ali baba. He is presently a student of Psychology Accounting in Middlesex University Dubai. In this exclusive interview he granted DAILYFAMILY, Ejiro takes us into his personality, his family and his passion for Disc Jockeying amidst several other things he does.


Can we meet you please?
My name is Akpobome Ejiroghene AKA, DJ X.


Are you part of this foundation (Aunt Landa Bethel Foundation)?

In a way i am because it is a family foundation, so i am part of it.



Is Aunt Landa your Aunt?

Yes, Aunt Landa is my aunt and my dad is the chairman, so we are here to support.



Since when have you been doing this?

Normally my dad does different charities so this time around i was around for a visit and I said, why don’t I come along.



What are you studying?

I am studying Psychology Accounting in Middlesex University Dubai.



Do you see yourself doing this in future?

To be honest i can do anything with psychology but i think i will do it but i will still be Disc Jockey, (DJ) for a while before i actually go into it.



Are you in a relationship?

No i am not.



Why?

See, you surely don’t need babe. Quotes shout out to Razzy, “you surely don’t need babe”. Honestly i am into music, i love my music, so music take most of my time.



So because of music you don’t have time for relationship?

I don’t even think i have a time.


Like when do you see yourself in a relationship?
It all depends. If it happens, it happens.



Is it because dad said No?

Well, but surely you don’t need babe. Right now if a babe will come, no problem now and if not i am okay.

Till when?

When God give me. If God gives me babe, but then i am okay. I don’t think i am looking up to it now. But then, i am all okay, I am just there.



How has it been growing up with your parent?

They have been disciplinarians to be precise. They often will tell us, you have to do things right, show respect to elders and stuffs.


So at what point do you start understanding your parents motive where disciplining a child is concern?

When i was 16-year-old.



Where do you see yourself in 2018, five years to this time?

In the next five years i see myself as one of the newest upcoming DJs in Nigeria, creating a record label and trying to make Nigerian music better, because we are planning to reform it.


Do you DJ while you were in school?

Yes i do. That is the work he was talking about. I also work, I DJ, I make some money out of it
while i was in school.



So how do you joggle it with your academics?

It is not easy to be honest. There was time i had to put a hold on it because of school. Then most time when i need money i usually do it.

How do you get your clients?

I have been invited to DJ in some schools and there i get my clients. At times i DJ for free so that people can get the publicity.
https://dailyfamily.ng/i-dont-even-think-i-have-a-time-for-relationship-ali-babas-son/

Dr. Yolanda N George-David popularly known as Aunt Landa, the founder of Aunt Landa Bethel Foundation spoke to dailyfamily.ng about her mission to restore hope to the hopeless.


Aunt Landa as she is popularly known is a gynecologist and a neurosurgeon, she also the presenter of Sharing Life Issues on Inspiration FM, she has affected the lives of a lot of helpless Nigerians and widows by providing food supplies, accommodations, and means of livelihood for them.


Dr. Yolanda shared her experience on how she came to Nigeria in the year 2012 with the intention to go back the following year but until now she couldn’t leave due to the level of poverty afflicting the people.


Here is the full interview:

When did Aunt Landa Bethel Foundation start?

It started in 2012 on the 27th of May, what we did was to actually announce if you are sexually abused come to meet us in Makoko and we had over seven hundred and sixty people and that was how we grew leaps and bounds and you can see today, we were able to service over 23, 000 people and we are still counting, we had less than 3, 000 children.

Twenty thousand adults is a good reason for us to realize that people are suffering and a good reason for us to see that we need to do things and of course, I feel that the way everybody got food in surplus was the way we could bring 20, 000 grinding machines to people.

I did letters to 350 companies, I spent over #790, 000 of my money writing to those companies but they told me that beneficiaries are too poor so if they sponsor, they cannot buy their goods. So, at the end of the day, it still had to come from my pocket. Everybody that came here, service provider, people who were cooking, everything was bought.

We continue because all of these people-you saw those people who were excited about the houses, the apartments, people who are homeless moving from under the bridge, it’s a whole new life and that is it. Whether it is someone who got a sealing machine or someone who got a sewing machine or an accommodation or like that little boy who got a suit and tucked in the suit because he’s never worn a suit before, those things are the beginning of history, if he becomes a president tomorrow because he got a scholarship here for four years, people will not know where he started.


Why did you venture into a project like this?

The thing is I started being who I am long as a teenager, I started doing what I am doing since I was 12, since I was a kid and of course everywhere I have been posted, this is what I do. I have actually extended my stay in Nigeria, I’m not a Nigerian, I came in from Baghdad as that was my last post I should have shipped out by now to North Korea but you see, how do you leave this people?

I came here in 2012, I told everybody that I will be out of here in 2013 but you don’t leave this amount of work and that’s why I’m still here although I’m married to a Nigerian. We do not understand what people go through but pain is real.

If you were at our centers and you see our free medical Wednesdays and or some people who are in so much pain and they just come to these people (volunteers) to come and massage them not because they are sick but some people call and they are suicidal. We have a suicide department that is why we are begging for people to come and take our phone lines. There is no day we don’t get up to one, two three rescues; we have ‘Okadas’ that go pick people that have been sexually abused, of course, there should be ambulances but I tell my ambulances to make bikes to do all of that. The work is endless.

How do you create time for your family?

I have double certification; I am a gynecologist and a neurosurgeon, a marine and with our training comes the fact that once you are a soldier, you are able to know what is important and what is not important. All my life I have known pain and before my husband got married to me and that is what I saying to young people, he did not get married to someone who wasn’t doing this and so I got into his house because that is the African thing you people say-get into the man’s house but it wasn’t a matter of that, by the time he met me, at that time, I was running missionary courses as a teenager when we were just friends in Istumor, I was being locked in prisons because I was preaching and how I preach is this. I am an ordained Minister but I do not stand with the altar, I do my free surgeries.


Everybody that came here, three mosques brought there buses and emptied their people here, it is the love of God we preach and so as at the time he came he knew that this was who I am and his priority of course is first but because he also has the heart of God and he knows what it is, he knew what he was getting into and we make it work.

I have a son after eighteen miscarriages and so that is a very long time but apart from my son who came late, I have being a mother and a grandmother to millions of children. We do something called Anonymous Dear Santa where children from all across the world write a letter to God, it comes to me via P.O box and then I reply so it goes to Baghdad.

Some of the children ask for crayon infact a boy asked for erasers because last year I gave him a pack of pencils, the erasers are finished but the pencils are still there and guess what this boy is in Allepo and he actually think God replied and of course when I write my letters in reply, I always say “Dear son, thank you for sending, Love God”, I don’t write the letters, all these my volunteers sit down and also write, we just make the provisions.

People think it cost a lot, of course yes, there are some millions but you see like last week all of the widows woke up and they got their wrappers and in between their wrappers was #5,000, it made all of them cry- a wrapper cost about #4,500 to #5, 000, Those little acts made them know they were not alone.

It’s not about just going on social media and shouting and taking selfies; it’s about change in futures, today, a widow who came last year and got all those things and her job donated #50, 000 to this place and that’s it.

We also had another widow who drove her car because last year her husband threw her out, she was homeless, the lawyers fought for her and she’s gotten back, we spent just #200, 000 in court and now from going under the bridge, she is now running her husband’s pure water machine, farm and she also has three cars. She actually drove here; she was the one that brought the blocks when we were out of blocks.

In a way, can you refer to yourself as an activist?

No, I’m a merchant of hope, that’s what I sell. I sell hope that’s why you see people coming. There is a difference between charity where you dehumanize the receiver. Everybody that came here have the choice of what they wanted, so, we stored up here we could have handled 50, 000 people if we put only small little things but you saw all those things that came from London, Senegalese and all. I sent one of my staff to Senegal to buy the material to sew because this is Christmas; if their husbands were alive they will do those singular things. People get whole chicken for the first time, people get fish, those little acts is not activism; it’s a lifestyle.

I cannot treat my pain until God heals me but what I can do is that everybody who comes in contact with me because I do not understand any Nigerian language but the thing is Love and Pain are the same thing; we all cry the same way, and we all feel compassion and that’s all that matters.
https://dailyfamily.ng/im-a-merchant-of-hope-thats-what-i-sell-dr-yolanda-n-george-david/

9 Romantic gestures for a happy Relationship

Both sex wants to always to receive something little from the one they love or care about. Some have gone to the extent of getting or showing how much they cherish the relationship. Do you think it is possible to spike up your relationship with the following things?

1. Write and hide sweet I love you poems in their pocket which will put a smile on their face when they find it. You can even help them find it by setting an alarm on their phone that would notify them to check their pocket.

2. Switch things up sometimes by recording a love message on your partner’s phone and just like the poem you can help them find it too.

3. Hold their hand when you are walking on the street and also when you’re crossing a street. This would make them feel really appreciated and proud that you want to show them off to everyone.

4. Surprise your partner sometimes by making them their favorite breakfast in bed with flowers to go with it. The effort would be really appreciated.

5. Snuggle all the time. It would make them feel very close and connected to you. It’s a bonding and loving gesture.

6. Sometimes, you should look into your partner’s eyes, smile and honestly tell them how much you love them.

7. Plan a surprise romantic weekend getaway or take them to their favorite picnic spot in an impromptu getaway move with packed picnic basket, blankets, chocolates, strawberry and champagne.

8. Sometimes, take a day off from other things and spend some time with your partner doing what they love to do, even if it’s not something that interests you much.

9. Have a special date night every month and enjoy each others company by cuddling up, turning off your phones, watching romantic movies together and ordering all the takeout food you’ve been craving all month.

Do you like the mentioned gestures? Then you can send some of what you have in mind to your partner so that he/she may also send what they think or feel.
https://dailyfamily.ng/9-romantic-gestures-happy-relationship/

5 Ways To Tell He Loves You
Though your boyfriend may take time telling you he is in love with you, chances are he already has through his actions. Women love to show their emotions to their partners than the men. If you take a look at his mannerism and likes, you will realize that he truly love you more than you can expect. What are the ways he shows he loves you?

1. He sincerely cares
When the two of you are talking, he cares deeply about your goals and aspirations and genuinely asks questions. He sees himself as part of you. He asks about personal questions about what you never thought about.

2. He touches you delicately
He grabs your hand gently during a walk in the park or at a family gathering, or evening walk. He caresses your hair softly. He hugs you for no reason at all. He affectionately touches your face as he stares at you. Sometimes just sitting at home watching a movie and cuddling on the couch speaks volumes.

3. Spending time together
When you find your boyfriend spending less time with his friends and more time with you, he is in love. He is not giving up on his friends; he simply chooses to spend as much time with you as possible. His priorities begin to shift. When they shift, then you should be careful of the fact that he truly loves you.

4. He Does anything for you
He always wants to see you happy and never cry. His aim is to see that you have a lot of smile on your face and joy on your heart.

He notices that you like a particular musician and he gets a surprised two ticket for you.

5. You meet his family
It has been a long standing tradition of meeting your boyfriends friends and family, as a serious relationship. When he talks about you to them, then he is one who loves you.

Men are slow to show that they love their spouse. But when they do love their spouse, they can go the extra mile to show and convenience you that they do.
https://dailyfamily.ng/5-ways-to-tell-he-loves-you/

Its just a week of relationship, and he said he has to travel back, what can i do? Those were the expressions of young katty who already is missing her relationship. He will be going far away from her for a while. How can you cope if you have fallen into that category?

1. Read Books
Books have a way of occupying your mind and filling it with several types of thoughts and actions. If you read enough books, after a while, you will just see that you are already imaginng the characters and the reasons why each of them are behaving that way. Your mind gets to wonder off into the thin space and then forget about the bad thoughts of doing something wrong about the distance.

2. Be Organized
It has been observed that those who are organized also have a way of organizing their thoughts to make them remember the good old memories. So, the more you get stressed out, the more you will begin to look for ways to get clingy to your relationship. When you are ogaized, things will begin to fall into the right place

3. Be calm
Despite the fact that you are not there, it is imperative to know that you just need to keep calm and look at more to life. When you tend to tell yourself that the last wedding you went was fun, you will not want to remember that you went alone.


Try to get the best of other activities. You may not be able to change a of things, but keeping calm can help you get over them.

4. Develop yourself
You may imagine that he will return at a particular period of time, but have you forgotten that it is possible to develop yourself? Well, it has been observed that during the long waiting days of his return, get to be more productive with your time and look for the brighter side of the coin.
https://dailyfamily.ng/4-ways-cope-long-distance-relationship/

7 Signs a man does when he wants you to break up with him
Breaking a relationship with the one you love can be very difficult, but what to do when that feeling is no longer reciprocal? Is it worth insisting on?

Often, when a man does not have the courage to finish, he may give some signs that he wants you to take the initiative, that is, break up with him.

How do you know if your boyfriend wants to break the relationship, but does not want to be the “responsible” for the end?

Read these 7 signs that may mean he wants you to break up with him and honestly, if he’s doing these things, it’s the best you should do! He needs to grow up and it is best to make him far away from you.


1. He flirts with other women even knowing that you are seeing
If your boyfriend suddenly starts flirting with other women, even knowing full well that you can see him, he probably wants you to break up with him.

Unless he’s really dumb, he will not flirt with other women in front of you and expect nothing to happen.

2. He fights for absolutely everything.
A friend told me that she already had a boyfriend who was fighting for everything. For the least reason, he started a fight.

At one point in the relationship, which was already becoming unsustainable, he told the truth: he wanted her to break up with him. That’s what she did.


3. He does not try to make amends after a fight
In addition to fighting over anything, if your boyfriend is not even trying to make amends after an argument, he is simply showing that he does not care about your relationship and waiting for you to finish.

4. He ignores your messages and phone calls
If you have been dating for some time and suddenly he starts ignoring your messages and phone calls, this is a big red flag that he probably wants you to break up with.

He may be really busy, but you will eventually know and understand. If this is not the case, he is simply trying to distance himself from you.

5. He begins to ruin all his plans
Did your boyfriend start canceling all the tours he had booked with you? Usually, he leaves for the last hour and sends a message saying that “an unexpected thing has happened” and he will not be able to go?

If he does this all the time, on all walks, he knows very well what he’s doing: he wants you to break up with him.

6. He starts to put you down
This is really lousy and can be one of the signs of an abusive relationship, but it can also be a way to get you through with it.

If things have already gotten to that point, I hope you are done, because he really is fed up and wants to leave.

7. He starts to walk away
Has your boyfriend started moving away from you emotionally and physically? He does not open up anymore, does not talk about his feelings anymore, does not insist on being by his side and does not share what he thinks anymore?

This can only mean one thing: he does not care about your relationship anymore, but it’s too cowardly to finish and he’s waiting for you to break up with him.

These 7 signs indicate that your boyfriend needs to learn a lot to face a new relationship since he wants you to break up with him and not have the guts to put the cards on the table and tell the truth.

Do not waste your time on someone who can not be truthful. Go to another one and enjoy your life.
https://dailyfamily.ng/7-signs-man-wants-break/

5 signs that your partner is distancing himself

It’s like talking to a wall, the feeling of when those on your side are becoming distant in your relationship.

Having a distant partner can be scary. You worry about what might have happened to cause such a change. So you want to know if you’re just imagining things as you two go about their lives together doing just the things that need to be done and nothing more.

Let’s look at 5 troubling signs that your partner is becoming distant in your relationship.


Check out the signs:
1. Less physical contact
There is probably little touch, hands, kisses, laughter or other forms of closeness. Basically, the fact that your partner becomes distant is resulting in lack of confidence, which means less contact. Trust is necessary for a couple to stick together, since becoming vulnerable is what made them so close in the first place.

If you feel insecure, you do not want to physically open up to the other. If there is a lack of affection or intimacy problems, seek the help of a therapist or to help you reconnect intimately with your love.

2. You do not know what’s going on.
The lack of communication between you is disturbing. You used to share everything about your day. If you saw someone or talked to them, you would tell them and they would do the same.

Now the lack of detail is frightening. Before, your partner was your best friend. Now you just want to be able to talk to someone who understands what it’s like to have a distant companion.

3. You are no longer the priority
Something or someone, has already taken their place at the top of the priority list, which was previously reserved just for you. What used to be your partner’s favorite pastime (fitting in with you) has now been replaced by an activity from which you are excluded.

And it hurts so much that it’s hard to admit that it happened to you. When your partner can not open up to you, they will find another outlet for your emotions. Emotional betrayal is real, and even if you are not telling what is happening, you may have found another friendly shoulder to take refuge. Your alarm should definitely ring this time.

4. Your partner no longer wants to have fun with you
Again, it has left you out of the fun you will have with other people, somewhere else. Have you really chosen not to participate, or does she suggest that you should not come this time and come up with a good reason? This could also be another sign of a painful reality.

5. You are no longer included in future plans
You should definitely be included in the future plans of the beloved. If you have been left out of the holiday plans for a weekend with friends, once in a while, that’s one thing, but being excluded from the plans with your family members is a worrying sign. After all, you are a member of the family when you are in a serious relationship.

If any of these other signs is clear to you, then your partner may be planning a future physically distant from you, in addition to being emotionally elsewhere. He may just be someone who needs a lot of independent space. They may be emotionally distant, by nature of their personality, not because they have the need to hide feelings when they withdraw from the relationship.
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6 Things You Should not Tell Anyone About Your Relationship
One of the most talked about things in groups of friends who are in a relationship are their partners.

Whether you’re looking for tips or telling trivia, women like to talk about relationships with their friends.

Men also have the habit of talking about their partners with friends, but not as often as women.

And even if you trust your friends a lot, some of the relationship’s issues should never be told and it’s best to keep them a secret.

These issues when exposed can greatly disrupt the relationship with your partner, generating gossip and even creating embarrassing situations.

That’s why you need to be aware of what you’re talking about at the time of that chat with your friends.

To help with this, check out the six things in the relationship you should never tell anyone to keep their relationship healthy and in harmony.

1 – Sexual life
Undoubtedly it is the main and most controversial item on the list.

Talking about your intimacy with your partner is never legal.

Your partner may feel offended by being exposed to this intimate factor.

So never talk about what he likes or dislikes in bed or about your sexual experiences.

2 – About what he does and bothers you
It’s not cool to talk or talk to your friends about the “different” habits your partner has, such as not changing socks every day or “nasty” things.

This will cause your friends to create a bad view of your husband and associate him with something disgusting.

3 – About the lack of success in the work
If your partner is not having a good income at work or is far from getting a raise, keep it for yourself.

Exposing this in parallel conversations may make him feel unable to improve his own family’s financial situation.

4 – Fears of your partner
Society imposes that men should not be afraid of anything, so if your partner has opened up about your dislikes with you do not comment on anyone.

Even if it’s a silly fear like cockroaches or thunder, listen and save it for yourself.

5 – Errors he has already committed
Bringing sad memories that have passed through your relationship can generate conflict and hurt.

Rub rubber on the mistakes your partner may have made with you that have already been resolved.

6 – Failures still unresolved
If your partner has a big bug that really bothers you, talk to him about it.

If you believe that it can improve it is better to talk directly with it than to expose it to friends who can criticize you more and increase the problem.
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A woman forcing herself on a man may sound ridiculous and seem not to be obvious. Surprisingly, this happens frequently.

You might have thought of never being in this situation, but trust me, you easily can.

The signs are subtle. If you observe some unusual things in your relationship, consider these six signs. Do several describe you? You might be forcing yourself to be in love.

1. You’re desperate to be in a relationship
Desperation rarely leads to good decisions. Here’s a secret that everyone needs to know: If you’re unhappily single, you’re eventually going to be unhappy in a relationship unless you change your life. Don’t jump into a relationship because you’re so desperate for someone to make you happy


2. Sometimes you hope he will break up with you
When you’re forcing yourself to love your boyfriend, it might not mean you’re miserable all the time. It’s likely your significant other has some great things about him or her.

3. You hate hurting someone so much that you avoid it even when it hurts you
When you know someone loves you, it’s hard to hurt them even if in the long run it’s hurting you. Maybe he pursued you for a long time. Or maybe she tells you how she just can’t imagine her life without you.

4. Your emotions are very high
Has your anxiety spiked since you started dating? Do you find yourself crying an abnormal amount? We all have ups and downs, but if you’re suddenly experiencing extreme mood shifts, it might have something to do with the relationship you’re in

5. You get tired of rejecting
If you’ve broken up several times and each time your significant other comes back begging for more, in time you can end up just giving in. If you felt right about your choice to end things, remember that feeling and close that door for good.

6. You wonder if happy relationships actually exist
People might look at your relationship and think it’s great. And maybe it is … sometimes. But does a future with him seem bleak? It is hard to believe life will continue to be happy.
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Mrs. Motunrayo Ade-Famoti, a Lawyer and the CEO of Moneystewards spoke in an exclusive interview with dailyfamily.ng about investment in Real Estate both Nigeria and abroad.

Mo, as she loves to be called spoke about the challenges she faced running her businesses here in Nigeria and abroad. She also spoke about how she has been able to manage Career and Family life.

Here is the full interview:

Can we meet you?

My name is Motunrayo Ade-Famoti and I like to be simply called Mo

Can you tell us about your career journey?

I started my career in the United Kingdom. I studied law at the University of Sheffield. I moved to New York shortly afterwards to qualify as an attorney and moved back to London to complete my legal practice at Inns of Court, School of Law. I gained some experience, qualified as a Solicitor and then went on to complete my Masters in International Law at City University, London. I continued to practice Law in the UK and at the same time, I was investing in real estate.

In 2007, I moved to Lagos after getting married, worked in the real estate industry for a year and continued to travel back and forth until I decided to finally settle in Lagos in 2013. I started moneystewards in 2016 after over 17 years’ experience in the industry. In a short period of time we have opened offices in Lagos, London and Atlanta and I am extremely grateful for the opportunity to do what I love and am passionate about.

Tell us about your marriage and family life?

I am married to Ade Famoti and we have two amazing children. We got married in 2007 and we are best friends. He has been my biggest supporter throughout and I am eternally grateful for marrying a man connected with Christ.

You are a lawyer, so, what led to MoneyStewards? Why did you choose to go into Real Estate?

I am a lawyer but at the same time an entrepreneur. Moneystewards specializes in foreign investments such as Stocks, Bonds, Forex, Commodities, Gold, Real Estate etc. We acquire and manage assets on behalf of investors.

I decided earlier on that I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life working for just a salary (ordinary income). I needed to create a system that will enable me earn multiple streams of income and most especially make my money work for me (passive and portfolio income). In order to do that, I needed to learn about investments. I learnt and continue to learn about investment opportunities in multiple currencies and countries. I also wanted to protect the future value of my investments; consequently, I decided to focus on investing primarily in the global markets which protects me from currency depreciation and volatility.

What are the major challenges you have faced managing MoneyStewards and being into Real Estate?

With new businesses, you have to build your brand and so initially it was a challenge but in a very short period of time, people saw the uniqueness of what we were doing and wanted to invest with us. The second major challenge was running companies primarily based outside the country while being based here in Nigeria but I put together a world class team so it has worked out tremendously well. I really couldn’t ask for more. As per the real estate challenges, the major challenge we encounter is perhaps finding distressed properties at a discount. We buy these distressed properties at very low prices, renovate and sell for a profit.

Why do you think Nigerians don’t invest compared to other countries abroad?

I really believe that Nigerians invest, but we just have limited products to invest in. We don’t have nearly the amount of financial products and funding the developed countries have but I found out that is also slowly changing. Moneystewards has done a lot to educate people on alternative and foreign investments but I do admit we are still a long way behind.

Do you face similar challenges running your business in Nigeria and abroad?

Not particularly. For starters, I don’t have electricity problem. In addition, to sell a property in the UK or US is far much easier. The real estate industry is highly regulated and the realtors have to be licensed to sell properties on your behalf. There is also a central database that has listings of majority of properties for sale. I have been able to get an offer to buy an investment property within 24 hours of putting the property up for sale and close the deal within six weeks before. Being able to sell a property quickly is crucial because you can do multiple projects at the same time. However, human resources are much cheaper in Nigeria compared to |UK and US; this equates to possible bigger margins for the developer.

How do you manage marriage, family, parenting, and career?

I am blessed to have a supportive husband and family. I could never make it work without them. It can be challenging but I take it one day at a time.

What is your view about making use of support systems like housemaids?

You need to have assistance because you really can’t do it by yourself. I don’t hire or treat my assistants like housemaids. I call them sisters and bring the best out of them and so far it has been working out.

What is your advice to women who want to invest but their husbands are against such decisions?

I think those women should try their best to convince their husbands. You know him best so sometimes all it takes is a little patience and proper explaining. Whilst it’s tempting to invest secretly, nothing is worth destroying that trust and ultimately the bond in your marriage.

How long do you think investments can start yielding the desired profits in Nigeria?

Well it depends on the investment in question. Stocks, Treasury bills and real estate have different return on investment. I always advise people to have investments that have a 20 year plan, 10 year plan and 2 year plan. That way you have returns in the short term, medium term and long term.

As a CEO with your tight schedule, how do you relax or enjoy leisure?

I sleep, eat and exercise well. I relax by reading a good book and getting spa treatments sparingly and I love attending my local church.
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