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Juliet Isa is the founder and visioneer of Julietta foundation, an Abuja based NGO committed to setting pace for women and the girl-child in the Nigerian society. In this exclusive interview with her, she told DAILYFAMILY about her projects and emphasized how helpful her husband has been to her, even as she touch lives in her social entrepreneurship endeavours.



Can we meet you please?
I’m Juliet Isa, a social entrepreneur, humanitarian, mentor and a teacher.


Will you lead us into your educational background?
I’m a graduate of Visual Arts, from Cross River University of Technology Calabar.



We heard about your foundation. Can you lead us more into what made you start a foundation such as this?

42% of women in Nigeria are illiterate, due to premarital pregnancy and poverty. And the rate is increasing. So it’s time we start doing something about it.



What can you say is so dear to you about the girl-child, women folks in general?

There is a saying that goes “When you educate a woman, you educate a Nation”. Whether we choose to accept it or not, women are Nation builders. We are more than just females, we are super humans born with the abilities to nurture, protect, teach, and give birth to a whole new human being.



What has been the contribution of your organization to the actualization of equality for the girl-child in a male dominated society?

The Julietta Foundation seeks equal educational opportunity for both men and women. If a girl is pregnant and has to drop out of school, then the boy who impregnated her should drop out of school too, It takes two to tango. She didn’t impregnate herself. But if the boy is allowed to continue his life and education, then she should be free to continue with her education during pregnancy and after child birth.

What is or are your present project(s)?
We have the First Ladies Conference. It is an annual event we organize, where we bring in resource persons to train young women on entrepreneurship, leadership and how to build their self esteem. The First Ladies Conference also features the Project-Push-Through-School, were we offer scholarships to young women who dropped out of school due to premarital pregnancy to go back to school. And so far we have sent four young women back to school, and they are currently pushing through school.


And we also had the Project-Go-Back-To-School, were we distribute school materials like books, sandals, school bags etc to children living in rural areas, and so far we’ve carried out this project in 3 rural primary schools.



How have you been empowered for these projects of yours?

For now all we have are individual donors and sponsors who believe in our dreams and are helping us fund them. We are calling on cooperate and more individual donors to support our vision in developing the girl child.



Are you thinking of any empowerment project for the women folk?

Yes I am.


What will that be?

Some of these young women who dropped out of school due to premarital pregnancy feel they are too old and too ashamed to go back to school. So we are planning to enroll them into skill acquisitions program and adult education.



We noticed that you are married?
Yes I’m seriously married.



How have you been supported by your spouse in the bid to actualize your dream?

My husband is my hero and God sent to me, he helped me birth this dream of mine, nurtured it and brought it to reality. He made me realize that I can do it, if I put my mind to it. And he is my biggest fan and sponsor.


Have you considered doing something else?

Yes, apart from what I’m doing I’m working on becoming a lecturer too. Because teaching and educating people is also my passion.



What gives you joy more?

To put smiles on the faces of people who had lost hope.



What is your advice to women out there?

To every woman, you are more than just a female, you are creative, a Nation builder and you are beautiful.



How far have you been heard on this project of yours?

We’ve been Carrying out these projects for 3 years now. And we hope it impact the lives of more young women as time goes by.
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WHAT LOVE MAKING MEANS TO YOUR HUSBAND

“Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.” SOS 4:16b

The way your man sees sex, is quite different from your perception of sex. It means much more to your husband than to you. He is passionate about it and might even be “crazy” about it. Sex affects the way every man reasons. Once you understand the importance of sex to your man, I am sure you will be able to go all out to satisfy him.

It Brings Him to a State of Rest. Have you ever noticed your man’s countenance after you might have given him a good dose of ingenuity and generosity of your body in the bedroom? Have you ever observed that he usually feels fulfilled and at rest after a good performance in bed? Great sex is good for your husband; it takes his body to its state of rest.

It Boosts His Self-Confidence. Many men who find it difficult to have or sustain an erection think they are not “men enough” in their own eyes; hence, they have a bad self-image. On the other hand, a sexually satisfied man develops self-confidence. Sex fulfils his manhood, makes him feel good about himself and makes him appreciate himself as a man. A group of young men were presented with two options to choose from. To be amputated in one hand and leg or to die? They all answered that they preferred to be amputated than to die. Then they were asked if they’d rather die than become impotent. Almost 90% of them preferred to die than become impotent. That is the level of importance men attach to their sexuality. This elucidates the reason your man is “unnecessarily” angry when you deny him sex.


It Brings the Best Out of Him. Do you want to see the best in your man? If yes, give him good sex regularly and see how he will respond to you with love, care and admiration. On the other hand, if you want the worst of him, deny him sex and see the animal in your man.
It Culminates in a Better Marriage. A sexually satisfied man is likely going to be a loving husband, which results in an intimate marriage full of love and peace. Some unexplainable behaviours of your man can be traced to the bedroom. Likewise, unusual care and display of great affection can also be traced to sexual fulfillment.


Creates a Bond Between a Man and his Wife. The outcome of a vibrant sex life is a good married life. It brings a man closer to his wife, enhances good communication and culminates in togetherness, oneness, fondness and unity among couples.

Provides Life’s Most Exciting Experience. Words are insufficient to describe how your husband feels when he encounters you in a fulfilling way. Sex arouses great commitment and physical explosion. His body system is renewed; his focus is shifted from his business or career to you.Every gland and organ in his body seems to approach a climax, as he holds you tightly, speaks in esoteric languages, shouts, praises you and moans. This precipitates a great transfer of himself into you. He feels like he is enveloped in your body as he releases a powerful dose of semen into your “honey pot”. He can hardly describe his experience, all he can say is “I enjoyed it”. He is only permitted to share this experience with you, and you must be ready to give him your all. Never allow him to look elsewhere for it because such an action can be disastrous.


Helps Him in His Career and Business. A sexually fulfilled man at home will be bold enough to face the challenges of the world. He believes in himself, sees himself as a victorious man, and conjectures that if he can “conquer” his wife, he can surmount any obstacle. A sexually satisfied man is focused; he looks forward to returning home, to get the most of his wife. A sexually dissatisfied man may find it difficult to concentrate at work. Some may foolishly search for fulfillment from other women, ultimately jeopardizing their marriages, businesses and lives.According to Tim and Beverly Lahaye in their book “The Aims of Marriage”, “A sexually frustrated man has a hard time concentrating. He is prone to being edgy and finds it difficult to retain lasting goals. In contrast, the truly satisfied husband refuses to waste his business day on trivial things. He wants each moment to count so he can get home to his wife and family who will give his life real purpose and meaning”.

Helps Him to be Faithful to His Marriage Vow. A sexually satisfied husband hardly looks outside for sex. If a woman is ingenious enough to give her best to her man and “milk” the best out of him, the man will be too satisfied to think of any other woman. More than 80% of men caught in infidelity claimed they experienced “sexual dryness” at home.A man once said, “It is difficult for a man to look outside when his sexual dreams are fulfilled at home as no man will steal pop corn outside after a sumptuous meal of fried rice at home”.

It Satisfies His Sex Drive. The male species of animals are generally sexually more active than their female counterparts. Men are more active and stronger than women. This does not mean that women do not have a strong sex drive, far from it, but the sex drive of a woman tends to be periodic, while that of a man is almost continuous.

It Gives Him Absolute Joy. Through the excitement derived from sex, your man gets joy and happiness. There is no man, who does not enjoy sex or who is not passionate about it, except he is an eunuch.

With the knowledge of what good sex does to you as a wife, it is pertinent you learn how to loosen your panties and unlock your skirt for your husband a little. Let him enjoy you and have a feel of his love for you. Never allow him to think of any other woman, tell him you are enough for him. Show him you are more than capable to satisfy all his bedroom desires.

Some men make breaking up with them unfortunately necessary. why Breaking up seems easy to do for some men. But not all men let love go so easily. So men who make it work with their partners have special qualities you need to search for. Here are five of them:

1. Leading with love

A man who will fight for you thinks the best of you. He trusts you implicitly and gives you the benefit of the doubt. He automatically disbelieves negative rumors and assumes only your positive intention. He is your biggest cheerleader and defends you against detractors.

2. Good listening skills

A man who really knows how to listen will work harder to keep your union together. Someone who actually enjoys listening is a fantastic find. Listening is actually a skill – one that some men never learn. It isn’t just being quiet while someone is talking.

3. Empathetic understanding
Empathy is an essential quality for lasting love. An empathetic man puts himself in your position and sees a situation through your eyes. He doesn’t drill into you what you should do or what he would do. He helps you work through your own experiences without interfering or taking over. A man who is empathetic to your needs can be hard to find. But when you land one, he’ll put in the work it takes to keep you.

4. Calm communication

A man who will fight for his relationship is able to stay cool, calm and collected when communicating. He’s slow to anger and doesn’t get aggressive. Arguments don’t escalate, and the goal of reaching a solution or solving a problem stays in sight. Disagreements don’t devolve into a battle where one needs to win against the other

5. Creative problem solving

When discussion does need to turn into action, a man who will make things work will think of creative solutions. He is always anchored by logic and reason, but can branch out to more unconventional areas of thought. He can think outside the box and bend the rules just enough to get things done. He wouldn’t dare get you into trouble to make ends meet, but he’s willing to go outside of his comfort zone to change what isn’t working and fix what’s broken.

These qualities can be hard to find all in one place. But they’re incredibly special and important to the longevity of your relationship.
https://dailyfamily.ng/5-skills-to-look-for-in-a-man/

Mr Ladi Williams is jointly involved with his wife in a catering business. He actually support his wife who runs a small chops business and have also come to set up at The Experience 2017.

In this exclusive interview with him, Mr Williams the co founder of Jabi meals, he told DAILY FAMILY that on the scale of 100 percent, the recently concluded The Experience concert had brought about a 70% sales increase for their outfit.



Good afternoon sir can we meet you?
My name is Ladi Williams.

What is the name of your business outfit?
Our catering outfit is called Jabi meals.

What is Jabi meals all about?

Basically we make small chops and we have also revolutionized the small chops industry by making puff puff in different flavours. We have strawberry puff puff, we have chocolate we have sprinkles. We just change the game basically.



You said you have strawberry puff puff. How were you able to mix a blend of strawberry with puff puff?

Basically we have our secret ingredients just the way Coca cola have their own. So when you taste it you will actually see that you are actually tasting strawberry.



As a business owner and an Entrepreneur how has the Experience affected your business?

The experience is a huge crowd, it’s a huge turn up and we have been able to make some really good sales because a lot of people are here, a lot of people are hungry and they find our brand very interesting, so it’s going good. It a good a experience.


So what has been your experience setting up here?

I won’t lie, it is hectic. It is hectic. A little problem here are there, with getting your store, some people stole our table but we were able to rent table. So its been a struggle but we thank God we were able to sell.



On a scale of 100 percent how will you rate your sales here at Tafawa Balewa Square (TBS)?

We are good with 70%.



That means you are making good profit here?

Yes its pretty cool and I am expecting more sales.

Sir are you single or married?

It is actually my wife that runs the business but I help her out with the little I can.
https://dailyfamily.ng/food-vendor-rejoices-at-huge-sales-made-at-the-experience-2017/

Moji Sote, a graduate from the University of Liverpool and founder of Shortys Barbecue has expressed her thought about marriage and what she think makes marriage work. In this Exclusive interview with her, she told DAILYFAMILY that it is always important to leave room for forgiveness in marriage.

Can we meet you please?
My name is Moji Sote.


What is the name of your catering outfit?
It is called Shortys Barbecue.


For how long have you been in existence ?
Well we have been in a existence officially five years ago, but we have been running it in-house for 15-years, holding onto our secret and then we decide to bring it out to the public.



Why do you think it is important to hold onto your secret?

Your secret is a secret. That is your source, that’s your power. Your trade secret is what is what identifies you, it is what makes you unique and what works for you, what makes your business grow and you wouldn’t want to sell out what works for you. However the public can be a part of it, that is why we decided to set up Shortys barbecue.


For how long have you been setting up at the Experience?

Well this is the first time that Shortys barbecue will set up at the Experience. Well i have been to The Experience some 13-years ago but this is the first time I will set up here.



For those many years, were you here as an Entrepreneur or a participant of the concert?

No, I just came to be a participant and it was really awesome. Experience back then obviously has evolved. Couple of musicians coming, gospel artiste, you know you feel the Spirit in the atmosphere and I think that is what the Experience is all about.



How has it been, starting up Shortys barbecue?

On like every business you know every business has it’s ups and downs, challenges but somehow we have been able to weld down the storm. We just have to keep going and let the public know about Shortys barbecue. It’s not easy setting up a business, in a very harsh environment like Nigeria but if you have a good product, a product that works for you, a product you know that can outlive you, then despite all the challenges that you have, you just have to keep at it.



Are you married?
Yes married and with children


What has the challenge been like married and running your business?

Well running a home. I am not just running barbecue. I am an I.T analyst and i work in an oil and industry. However Cooking is my husband’s passion and doing business is my own passion, so somehow We met ourself in the middle. So we both work in oil and gas industry actually.



Can you take us a bit into your Educational background?

I studied computer science and I have my masters degree, MBA University of Liverpool.



So are you telling me you can let go of oil and gas for Shortys barbecue comparing the level of income generated from it?

I didn’t let go of oil and gas and like I told you, I am an I.T analyst and have been working in the industry for the past 17-years now, however Shortys barbecue is my business the oil and gas is not my business. This is my own business that can outlive me, that I can pass on to the next generation. And thank God for the support of my husband And my children, I have been able to manage both working as a corporate person and also as an Entrepreneur.



How is your experience in marriage been like?
My marriage has been interesting. It is filled with ups and done just like in any home. I mean you are married to someone you think you know but it is until you get married that you get to know yourself. But most importantly it is the love. It is the love you have that actually sustains your marriage. So despite those challenges when you remember that love you have for that person it will be easy to forgive and let go despite all those challenges, when you remember all those challenges you will be able to go.

And most importantly it is prayer and love that you need. It is prayer and love that actually takes you back when your trust is broken. In marriage always leave room for forgiveness.
https://dailyfamily.ng/in-marriage-always-leave-room-for-forgiveness-moji-sote/

7 Ways to Increase Your Chances Of Getting Pregnant

Our society paints a picture that getting pregnant is easy and a given, but for several women it is not a walk in the park. If you and your spouse are looking to welcome a sweet baby into the world, try applying these nine principles into your daily routine.

1. Watch your weight

Women who are significantly underweight or overweight can increase the time it will take for them to conceive. If you are planning on getting pregnant within the next year, doctors suggest men and women understand the effects weight has on fertility. If the mother is underweight, she is at risk of causing hormone imbalances that effect her ovulation cycle and chances of conceiving.

If the mother is overweight, she increases the risk of pregnancy complications, miscarriage, hypertension, pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes, blood clotting and labor complications. Babies born to overweight mothers are also more likely to become obese children and adults.



2. Quit smoking

Men and women both should abstain from lighting a cigarette when trying to get pregnant. Smoking directly affects whether a woman’s uterus will be receptive to released egg. Also, smoking damages DNA and can reduce sperm production.

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3. Understand your ovulation cycle

Take advantage of your fertile window, or the six days that mark the end of your ovulation cycle. Doctors suggest pregnancy will most likely occur three days before ovulation, and suggest a woman is more fertile before her next ovulation cycle instead of the days following just after.

4. Take prenatal vitamins

Doctors suggest women seeking to have a baby should take prenatal vitamins prior to conception. Prenatals contain higher levels of folic acid and iron as well as many other vitamins and minerals that help promote the development of a healthy baby.

5. Moderate your exercise routine

Think you are interested in having a baby? Do not plan to train for a marathon while you are trying to conceive. Going to exercise extremes can cause stress and problems on your body. Keep your exercise routine constant and predictable.

6. Avoid stress

Relax! It may take time. Stress affects more than your heart rate; it can cause your body unnecessary complications while trying to conceive. Enjoy the journey and get to know your partner in new ways. It will help you as you embark on your fertility journey.

7. Abstain from alcohol

High intake of alcohol should be avoided when trying to get pregnant.

Keeping these guidelines in mind can help you and your spouse bring a beautiful baby into this world. As always, please consult your doctor before changing your diet and exercise routine
https://dailyfamily.ng/7-ways-increase-chances-getting-pregnant/

Whether your marriage is currently the best it has ever been, or it is in need of repair, the Ethridges suggest that these principles will improve your relationship. Even for troubled marriages, it will take work, but it is possible to breathe new life into a relationship that has grown listless.

Secret #1: Your husband cannot meet all of your emotional needs.
Many times, a husband will pull away from his wife because she puts too many demands on him to meet all of her needs. When he can’t possibly meet her expectations, he feels like a failure and distances himself from her.

Secret #2: Your husband has emotional needs that are just as important as your own needs.
It is also important, the couple says, to realize that women are not the only ones with emotional needs. Men have many important needs as well.
Often, when women feel that their husbands are not meeting their needs, they can become hurtful and unkind toward him. This approach makes most husbands pull away because they do not feel respected, a significant emotional need for men.

Secret #3: Your husband was designed by God to be the leader of your family.
Another problem in many marriages is that women have usurped their husband’s role as the family’s leader. Scripture teaches that the husband is the spiritual head of the home, but our culture often takes a different view.

Secret #4: Most men truly want to make their marriages work.
One thing that we learned in writing the book is that men are often more committed to their marriages than women believe. The culture would lead women to believe that men do not care about their marriages.
https://dailyfamily.ng/4-powerful-secrets-every-woman-must-know/

When couples first start dating, they may overlook their differences, but once a relationship becomes long-term and the couple falls out of the honeymooner stage, these differences can become disastrous. The root cause of a breakup of a marriage is the selfishness that erupts in the heart of one or both partners; the love factor which was in the relationship diminishes over a period of time. Here are the causes of breakup in a marriage

1. Attraction towards another of the opposite gender: This happens because of one spouse does not give time enough to his/her partner. Communication gap, in words or physically, may develop between the two which, as it widens, paves the way for attraction of one spouse/partner towards another person of the opposite gender.

2. Physical and/or mental abuse: This is one of the major factors which finally bring about a breakup of a marriage. This is caused by the sadistic attitude of one of the partners which was kept covered up before a marriage. The spouse who gets the brunt of it is kept under control, and is intimidated and manipulated. There is less chance for such a marriage to continue for long.

3. Jealously in a relationship: Jealousy can cause great devastations in a relationship/marriage. A man or even the woman may feel that s/he is getting less attention than s/he ought to get which s/he discovers is being filtered out to someone else, even an in-law in a marriage; it can trigger a breakup in a relationship

4. Cheating and Infidelity: When a spouse begins to get attracted towards an unmarried person or one who is married, intimate relationships between the two develop and deepen and if the developing intimacy is not noticed by anyone, it may end up in infidelity. This may go one for a long time till it is discovered causing devastation to the marriage/s and breakups.

5. Repeated lying: A spouse or a partner may habitually tell lies to his/her spouse/partner. In such cases, the right picture is never clear to the other spouse/partner. A constant attitude of lying can throw a relationship or a marriage into jeopardy and finally brings about a breakup.

6. Repeated comparison of one’s partner with another man or woman: One partner may constantly compare his/her spouse/partner with others simply belittling them, trying to tell them that their lifestyle is not of a calibre which s/he desires. The targeted spouse/partner generally ends up developing an inferiority complex; s/he tries to match up to the standards of their partner to maintain peace and keep the relationship/marriage intact but it is of little use and it ends up in a breakup.

7. Love for money more than love for the partner: A partner may love money so much that he never has enough to spare so as to share out with his/her partner. For couples before marriage, only one partner may be paying for all outings they have together or purchases made together so that the financial burden even in petty matters is not shared.

In this sex-saturated world where everybody sees sex as a Visa to get anywhere in life, some great truths must be noted about sex for singles. As a single lady, you cannot use sex to keep any man, that guy is with you because he wants to be with you.

Here are some things you need to know about sex



1. Sex Outside Marriage Is A Sin

It could have turned to something singles celebrate today, but sex outside of marriage used to be and it still a taboo that nobody wants to even relate with or be found doing. It reduces your worth as a lady.

2. Sex Can make Him Stay only for the night

Sex will only keep him by yourself overnight till he is done with you; it cannot make him stay with you forever. What he is looking for is a lady he can take home to Mama not a German sex machine of every man.

3. Sex doesn’t keep a man.

Listen up! Whether you can do different positions and turn 360 degrees in bed; that cannot keep any man. You are only short changing yourself and your destiny.

4. Sex Will Only take You To His Bedroom

Having sex with him will not make you resident in his heart or create a palace for you in his life. You will only be that sex partner he is waiting to drop soon.

5. Sex Can Only Bring Few Seconds Pleasure.

That sex will only give you few minutes’ pleasure followed by a lifetime of regret

6. Sex Is A Product Of Love

Don’t get it twisted; sex is just one of the products of love. Sex is not love in itself and love can never be a product of sex.

7. It Erodes Trust

The guy will find it hard to trust you so there is no way he would want to marry you because trust is one of the bedrocks of a solid marriage

8. Sex Is Not Cheap.

There is no cheap sex as a single; you are actually paying with your life. It will soon backfire

9. You Cannot talk Boldly About It In Public.

The fact that you cannot even boast of it in public makes it a bad act of indulging in.

10. You Lose Your Dignity.

Having sex outside of marriage makes you lose your dignity and you tend to hide your face in shame when you see the guy or his friends.

11. You Probably Become A Dropout.

Once you get pregnant, it turns you to a school dropout. Depending on your level, once you get pregnant education might stop and you tend to waste years while your mates have already graduated.

12. You Are Playing With Death.

One thing sex outside marriage will give you is death. This will happen after you are pregnant and you want to abort. Abortion will only offer to you your death sentence on a platter of gold. This is the result of your act. You can even lose your womb in the process and you become barren for life.

13. You Are At A Higher Risk Of Having STD.

This is very common and it has even been shown that condom might not fully prevent you from it. Sexually transmitted Diseases are easy routes to the grave. Run for your life
https://dailyfamily.ng/dear-ladies-bitter-truth-must-swallow-sex/

There are two kinds of people today. a) The ones who are getting married and posting pictures on Facebook. b) The ones who block them.

Here are 11 reasons why many are not getting married

1. Nobody wants to lose his/her freedom

There is a common notion that marriage kills freedom. It’s like your wings get clipped by your partner and you’re not going to be able to fly high again. Single people today are much more proud of not being dependent and being on their own. However, after marriage, the picture changes and you become answerable for every action. That is something people are not ready to do today.


2. Youngsters are not ready to adjust
We have been told by our mothers that post marriage one will have to keep ‘adjusting’ to fit into the new house and new relationships. Our mothers adjusted, their mothers did too, but for us, it’s becoming seemingly difficult to make adjustments because of our fast lifestyle and eternal existential crisis.

3. Career is more important
Will my partner make a fuss about being in office for long hours? Will he or she understand my love for my career? Will he or she be career-driven like me? These are some not-so-easy questions that come up when you love your career more than you love yourself. Today, life is all about cutthroat competition, where you need to be quick and efficient to make it big. However, post marriage ten different things will demand your attention at once, and you could end up being last in the rat race.


4. People want to travel the world
“Why aren’t you getting married?”, “Oh please, I want to see the world first, travel, and then let’s see!” is a normal conversation you will hear today. Today, travel is on the top of one’s priority list. People are actually saving so that they can travel and explore a new country. Marriage, therefore, takes a backseat.

5. Everybody wants to have fun
Our generation is plagued by commitment issues. Everybody wants to have ‘fun’ and then forget about it. Facebook should now add a relationship status that says ‘nothing serious’ as people are not ready to be serious about taking the next step.

6. Peer pressure
“Oh, why is everybody getting married? My Facebook is full of marriage photos” is making people push their wedding plans. People are resenting the idea of marriage for no reason. And then there are people who are just following the trend of dissing marriage on Facebook.

7. There are unrealistic expectations
“He should be an MBA, and she should be fair and lovely”, is still how people are posting ads on matrimonial sites and sections. Such shallow expectations are enough to erase faith from the institution called marriage.

8. People think they will become ‘boring’
Another strange notion is that married couples are ‘boring’. Because married couples talk about diaper issues and maid problems, people assume that even their future will be identical, and therefore they avoid settling down.

9. Youngsters want to prove themselves
Ambitions do not allow you to think about marriage. And the time and effort needed to reach your goals trump all else. Everything else can wait.

10. Trust issues
It often happens that after a bad breakup, people start developing trust issues. They are badly bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.

11. An eternal existential crisis and confusion
The world has become so fickle, that many of us go through a quarter or mid-life crisis every few months. It bogs us down. Many do not recover, some get out of it quickly. However, figuring out things takes time and therefore marriage is the last thing on one’s mind.
https://dailyfamily.ng/11-reasons-many-are-not-getting-married/

“Talking to children about sex goes a long way to prevent sexual abuse”-Mrs. Bisi Ajayi-Kayode

Mrs. Bisi Ajayi-Kayode the Assistant Director of Cece Yara Foundation, a legal practitioner, and child advocate spoke with dailyfamily.ng about the importance of parents communicating with their children so as to prevent sexual abuse.

Cece Yara foundation was founded by Mrs. Bola Tinubu to help protect children from child sexual abuse and to generate awareness on how to prevent it.

She said: “Child sexual abuse usually occurs on one to one basis either when the child is alone with the perpetrator or alone in the chat room. Parents have to know the signs which can be physical, emotional or behavioural and there is the need to react positively to prevent child sexual abuse.

Talking to children about sex goes a long way to prevent sexual abuse. Children need to be empowered to say No to unwanted touches and parents need to establish safe boundaries.

Talking to children about sex needs to be done using age-appropriate language. This will encourage them to ask questions when they are concerned.

Also, children need to be taught about their private parts (including the mouth) that no one has the right to touch those parts and not to keep secrets from their parents and trusted caregivers.

Talking to children about sex should not be lumped up in one big talk as it could be overwhelming to the child rather it should be a routine conversation using everyday issues.


Parents should be actively involved in their children’s lives, in their daily activities, know the other trusted adults in their lives, know their digital identity that is who they are on social media, digital footprints- what they have been exposed to on social media and above all parents should know about digital empathy when children stumble on what upsets them on the internet and how to merge their online and offline values.

Parents should be realistic and educate themselves before talking to children about sex. The conventional ways of talking to children about sex will not resolve the present day challenges that sexuality has posed to the children.

Do not force the affection of other people on your children as they may accept it as normal when they are touched in a way that makes them uncomfortable.

The Cece Yara Foundation offers novel services to children in fighting child sexual abuse. Foremost is the CECE Yara Child helpline 08008008001. It is a toll-free number that is available 24/7.

Cases of child sexual abuse can be reported on this line. Also is the provision of a forensic interview. A forensic interview is the best way to gather information about the allegation of child sexual abuse. It is a single objective, non-leading, legally defensible and age-appropriate information gathering process which reduces the number of times the child will have to re-live the trauma of child sexual abuse.

The interview is conducted by someone trained in the technique of forensic interview and observed by representatives of the Multi-disciplinary team of Cece Yara foundation who are Child Protection agents.

The interview is recorded and used in the investigation and prosecution of the case without breaching the child’s confidentiality.”
https://dailyfamily.ng/talking-to-children-about-sex-goes-a-long-way-to-prevent-sexual-abuse-mrs-bisi-ajayi-kayode/

In an exclusive interview with DAILYFAMILY.NG, Mr. Akeem Durotoye, Head Domestic Operation services, Heritage Bank Limited, explains the processes involved in obtaining business fundings for SMEs and further explained Heritage bank’s take on funding speculative businesses.



Can you tell us more about SMEs?

SMEs (Small and Medium-sized Enterprises) as a federal government initiative, is to improve the entrepreneurial competition in states and to ensure that people are able to access funds to live their dreams in terms of business initiatives and in terms of what their passion is.

Is it that starters can’t access loans from your bank?

As with any other process, SMEs business funding comes with the required conditionalities. It is not true that starters can’t get loan but as a starter, you have to meet certain conditionalities attached to the SME for accessing the loan. If you are a starter and you are able to meet all the conditionalities, then definitely, you will have access to the loan.



What is your futuristic projection for speculative businesses?

See, speculative businesses are highly risky businesses we all know, the world over, not even peculiar to Nigeria or Lagos state as it is. But, speculative businesses that have a high probability of non-crystallizing in terms of the risk but has a high possibility in terms of the revenue potentials.


See, because whatever it is, be it speculative or the normal business, they have an element of risk and they have an element of uncertainty. So if the element of uncertainty is high than the element of risk, then speculative business is going to grow in the country because a lot of speculative businesses are on the rise in the country.

For instance, Sports betting in the past used to be an unknown business but now it’s increasing because the middle-income earners are now into sports betting and it is becoming real and a competitive force in Lagos state now.



So like I asked earlier, is it that Heritage bank will never fund Speculative businesses or are you looking at a time you will be able to fund it?

Of course. Just like I have explained, speculative business is on the increase and you know what, in life, somebody will bell the cat at some point before it will escalate and that is what we are saying here.

In the future, as events unfold we will see a lot of speculative businesses having access to funds and once they are able to have access to funds, we will see that a lot will happen in the speculative business and before you know it they will become the order of the day.
https://dailyfamily.ng/in-the-future-we-will-see-lots-of-speculative-businesses-having-access-to-funds-akeem-durotoye-heritage-bank/

“When they call me ‘Mummy twins’, I still wonder who are they referring to”-Mrs Bisi Ajayi-Kayode

Mrs Bisi Ajayi, a Legal practitioner and child advocate who had 15 years of waiting after she got married in the year 1998 and now a mother of twin boys shared her experience in an exclusive interview with dailyfamily.ng.

She spoke about how she and her husband went through a lot of trauma and sorrow through the 15 years journey of childlessness and now she is a mother of twins.

She shared her experience in this interview:

Can we meet you?

I am Mrs Bisi Ajayi, I am a Legal practitioner and a child advocate.

Tell us about your 15 years of waiting

I got married in February 1998, the experience was quite challenging and traumatic but with faith in God, having a good support from my parents, my siblings and the support of my parents in the Lord, Bishop Mike and Peace Okonkwo.

I thank God for my husband, it got to a stage, he gave his advice that we should go and adopt and I said no, God has spoken and we will hold Him by His word. I was having a number of fibroid surgeries that got him scared as they were life threatening, so, we kept holding on until finally after 15 years God blessed with twin boys.

How was the experience like?

The first day when I was told I nearly fainted as I could not believe it, two days later I went to the hospital to ask that are you sure I am pregnant and they yes you are.

The day I put to bed, Oh my! It was tears of joy, up till now when they call me Mummy twins, Mama Ejima, Iya Ibeji, I still wonder who are they referring to? God in his infinite mercy gave me double for my trouble.

How has been the experience raising the boys?

Wow! Fantastic, fantastic; you know when you look back, God made me to forget the 15 years of trauma, the frustration, pain, sorrow and agony, He filled the gap with Joy, anytime I see them, no matter what comes my way I say God, if you could allow me to have these children, there is nothing you cannot do.

How do you balance your career with parenting now?

There is balancing, I had to stay at home for about two to three years, doing some small businesses and private partnerships to get them stabilized a bit and now I’m back into child advocacy.
https://dailyfamily.ng/when-they-call-me-mummy-twins-i-still-wonder-who-are-they-referring-to-mrs-bisi-ajayi-kayode/

Mrs. Bose Fawehinmi speaks about the importance of counselors in marriage


Mrs. Bose Fawehinmi is a marriage counselor with her husband, Abayomi Fawehinmi. She spoke with dailyfamily.ng about the importance of couples having marriage counselors.


Mrs. Fawehinmi said even though she and her husband are marriage counselors, they still have those they go to for counsels when there are issues they cannot handle on their own.

She said: “Every marriage and every couple should have counselors. When we do pre-marital counseling we tell couples that between the two of them, they should nominate at least two people that in the event that they need to escalate an issue, they are free to discuss with this person or that person so that it won’t be like you are going to report me.”


Mrs. Fawehinmi also pointed out that a marriage counselor can help couples to shed more light on issues in their marriage as they both may have different stands on the issues.


She said: “It’s just like going to brainstorm with somebody like ‘e gbo o’; this is what I think, this is what he thinks, what do you think? This is the person that will help you look at it and then bring another light into it. So, it is good for you, you can never be too big for a counsel.”
https://dailyfamily.ng/mrs-bose-fawehinmi-speaks-about-the-importance-of-counselors-in-marriage/

Mrs. Bisi Ajayi, the Assistant Director of Cece Yara Foundation, a legal practitioner and child advocate against sexual abuse has enlightened mothers at Mamalette Live 2017 on how they can introduce sex education to their toddlers.

Dailyfamily.ng reports that Mrs. Bisi Ajayi and other panelists at the event, who spoke on sex education and on training children about sex, mentioned that it was important to start training children about sex as soon as they started talking.

She mentioned that the issue with most parents was that they didn’t know how to introduce sex education to their children.

Mrs. Bisi Ajayi said for parents to start training toddlers about sex and how to protect themselves from sexual abuse, it is important to let them know the parts of their bodies that are private.

She used herself as an example, she said: “For me, I train my four-year-old twin boys that private parts mean any part of their body they wear underwear to cover, I told them that it is private and no one has the right to touch it.”

The child advocate explained that it is important to teach toddlers this because if they don’t know, they can be easily taken advantage of by people they trust but knowing this will help them to avoid sexual abuse.

It was said during the session at Mamalette 2017, that training your child to be vocal could also help him/her to avoid sexual abuse.
https://dailyfamily.ng/how-to-introduce-sex-education-to-toddlers-mrs-bisi-ajayi/

The state team leader for NURHI Lagos, Dr. Edun Omasanjuwa, while speaking to dailyfamily.ng about the family planning methods that are available for men.

Dr. Edun Omasanjuwa is the state team leader for Nigerian Urban Reproductive Health Initiative (NURHI) Lagos, a project that is focused on ensuring quality family planning services are available across Nigeria and making sure that people are aware of the benefits of family planning.

It is commonly believed that most of the family planning methods are basically for women, but this medical doctor has revealed that there are also family planning methods for men.



He said: “For now, we have three options available for men which are abstinence, use of condoms and vasectomy. We don’t have any hormonal methods available for men yet but very soon we hope that once all the tests have been done we will have that also for men.”

Dr. Edun explained what vasectomy is about, he said: “Vasectomy is a permanent method, once a man is done having children, what it does is that the spermatic cord that carries sperm to the exterior is cut and tied. So, even though the man is still producing sperm, his semen that comes out does not have sperm in it.”
https://dailyfamily.ng/dr-edun-omasanjuwa-speaks-about-family-planning-methods-for-men/

The wife of the President of Timi David ministry, Pastor Mrs Olamide Timi David has revealed that marriages are breaking apart due to lack of sexual excitement.

Speaking to dailyfamily.ng, the pastor who is about to launch her book she wrote on Sex in marriage said marriages become boring when there is no more sexual excitement.

She said though couples at the beginning of their relationships enjoy so much intimacy but as time goes on; they allow that intimacy to fade away.

She pointed out the major things that affect sexual excitement in marriage as the day-to-day activities of couples like going to work, doing house chores and so many things that cause tiredness.

Pastor Mrs Olamide Timi David said: “Sex is a mind thing and must be done with determination; you must be determined to always meet your partner’s need whenever he or she needs it.”
https://dailyfamily.ng/exclusive-sexual-excitement-key-to-sustaining-marriages-pastor-mrs-olamide-timi-david/

The wife of the President of Timi David ministry, Pastor Mrs Olamide Timi David has revealed that marriages are breaking apart due to lack of sexual excitement.

Speaking to dailyfamily.ng, the pastor who is about to launch her book she wrote on Sex in marriage said marriages become boring when there is no more sexual excitement.



She said though couples at the beginning of their relationships enjoy so much intimacy but as time goes on; they allow that intimacy to fade away.

She pointed out the major things that affect sexual excitement in marriage as the day-to-day activities of couples like going to work, doing house chores and so many things that cause tiredness.


Pastor Mrs Olamide Timi David said: “Sex is a mind thing and must be done with determination; you must be determined to always meet your partner’s need whenever he or she needs it.”
https://dailyfamily.ng/exclusive-sexual-excitement-key-to-sustaining-marriages-pastor-mrs-olamide-timi-david/

The wife of the President of Timi David Ministry, Pastor Mrs Olamide Timi David gave advice to career women on parenting.

Pastor Mrs Timi David pointed out while speaking to dailyfamily.ng that it is important for women who are busy with their careers to try not to prioritize their jobs over family.


The woman of God revealed that as a graduate of Accountancy, she left her banking dream to work as an accountant in a small firm just to take care of her children.

She said: “A lot of women have made mistakes; some women value their jobs over their families. When the job stops suddenly or maybe they are sacked; they will see that they had jeopardized their families and they don’t have enough for their children. Their children don’t even have relationship with them but most children have relationship with the maids.”

Pastor Mrs Olamide Timi David gave her advice to career women, she said: “For you to be able to take care of your children as a mother, you need to sacrifice some things. Then you realize that when you sacrifice some things, you even make more.

I do not say they should not work but they should know that it is what they desire out of life that they will get. If care is not taken, you will lose a part of your children. God will ask you, how did you do it? How did you train your children?

I think we should not put money over our children’s welfare and well being. Money is good and it will come but it is important to make the right priority.”
https://dailyfamily.ng/parenting-advice-for-career-women-from-pastor-mrs-olamide-timi-david/

Pastor Blessing Lydia Oluwatunbi, a grade three (3) FIFA Referee and a Sports Coach/Mentor is the Founder and President of Blessing Liberty Foundation International, a Non-Governmental Organization (NGO) which focuses on the Youths and Teenagers.

The NGO organize Seminars to empower youths and teenagers and also go on Sexual Purity Campaigns. She is currently a PhD student at the University of Lagos.
In an exclusive interview with dailyfamily.ng, she spoke about how she has been able to manage career, ministry, studies and cope as a Female Sports Coach.

Can you tell us about yourself?
I am Blessing Oluwatunbi, I had my first degree in Physical and Health Education from the Unversity of Ilorin, a Masters Degree in Sports Psychology from the University of Lagos, I finished as the best graduating student and presently doing my PhD.
I run an NGO which focuses on Sexual Purity Campaign and Career Development for the young people. I am also a Grade Three (3) FIFA Referee which I got in 2006.

Why the choice of Physical and Health Education as a Lady?
I actually wanted to study Accounting as a Commercial student and I had good grades in my WAEC but I didn’t meet the cut-off mark in JAMB. I didn’t want to stay at home wasting time since my younger Sister was already in the University studying Medicine.

My Uncle told me I had four option which was Physical and Health Education, Sociology, French Education and Basic Technology. In that case, I decided to go for Physical and Health Education. Immediately I got to school I got a Mentor for myself, in person of Dr. (Mrs) Dominic who always encouraged me to put my heart to what I was doing and I have never had any regret. Studying Physical and Health Education has really helped my health I can’t just live anyhow or eat anything. I am a lover of sport and my major game is swimming.

How have you been able to manage being a Pastor, a Teacher and a Referee?
It has really been God and I also multitask and I believe every lady must be able to multitask. I don’t believe in one source of income so multitasking has really helped me. I hear God directly and this has really been of great help to me. Towing the path of righteousness really pays. Also, being a Single is really helping me to focus and I also enjoy multiple grace from God…. (cuts in..)

You just said you are still Single?
(cuts in…) giggled.. yes
Going by that, how have been able to manage the male folks both on the field and outside?
It has been by the grace of God and also I thank God for the kind of parent I have. The training I had as a young lady is really helping me. I came from a very solid foundation; my father is an Architect and Mum, a Quantity Surveyor and they are both Ministers of God who met and married themselves as Virgins.

My Dad has always told us to enjoy our lives as Singles and remain sexually pure. I won’t say there hasn’t been advances and proposals from males but at the end of the day, one just discovers they are not serious. I prefer to keep myself pure for God. I usually key in the word of God because at the age of 16 God spoke to them when I was terribly ill that he needed two things from me; my sexual purity and my obedience that If I can give Him, he will take me far in life. Whenever temptation comes, I always hear these words and also there will be the flash of the youths and teenagers I have told about sexual purity and so I just know I have to keep myself till I am married.

Do you also Coach Males or only Females and do they accept you?
Yes, I train both males and females. I am a Professional in my field so there is no rejection in any form.
Concerning getting married and raising your own family, are we looking at anything soon?
Laughs… I desire to get married and I also believe God to settle me down at the right time. I believe God has ordained each person’s spouse and at the right time, they will meet.
Looking at your family, being the first child what is the relationship like with your siblings and parent?
We are one very closely knitted family where the true love of God dwells. I have a very good and close relationship with both my parent and siblings. They have all been very supportive and encouraging. There is always this spirit of cooperation in the family, we have built that support system over the years.

What brought about your publication ‘THE PARABLE OF THR FOOTBALLER’?
Waoh! I actually saw an article on soccer and in 2015 I was invited to a new club they were launching then where they told me to make a write-up. It was there that it occurred to me that being a grade 3 FIFA Referee I can write something. So, with the help of my Father and Sister, we came up with something on Football because Football is the in thing now. So I just used the publication to preach on Football. After I printed and shared the first one thousand, I was called upon that some people were still in need of it and I had to print more. It has been accepted both within and outside Nigeria.

As a Referee which game do you play?
My major game is swimming but I love football though I am not a very good player I officiate. I actually have an idea about all the games. The background knowledge is really helping me.

What would be your advice to youths and teenagers?
My advice to young ones is that they should be focused and keep themselves pure. When you are sexually pure, your might is pure. They should embrace Jesus because when they have Him, they have everything.
https://dailyfamily.ng/exclusive-interview-with-nigerian-female-grade-3-fifa-referee/

6 Relationship Things You Should Not Tell Anyone
One of the most talked about things in groups of friends who are in a relationship are their partners.

Whether you’re looking for tips or telling trivia, women like to talk about relationships with their friends. Men also have the habit of talking about their partners with friends, but not as often as women.

And even if you trust your friends a lot, some of the relationship’s issues should never be told and it’s best to keep them a secret.

These issues when exposed can greatly disrupt the relationship with your partner, generate gossip and even creating embarrassing situations. That’s why you need to be aware of what you’re talking about at the time of that chat with your friends.


To help with this, check out the six things in the relationship you should never tell anyone to keep their relationship healthy and in harmony.

1. Sexual life
Undoubtedly it is the main and most controversial item on the list. Talking about your intimacy with your partner is never legal.

Your partner may feel offended by being exposed to this intimate factor. So never talk about what he likes or dislikes in bed or about your sexual experiences.

2. About what he does and bothers you
It’s not cool to talk or talk to your friends about the “different” habits your partner has, such as not changing socks every day or “nasty” things.

This will cause your friends to create a bad view of your husband and associate him with something disgusting.

3. About the lack of success in the work
If your partner is not having a good income at work or is far from getting a raise, keep it for yourself.

Exposing this in parallel conversations may make him feel unable to improve his own family’s financial situation.

4. Fears of your partne
Society imposes that men should not be afraid of anything, so if your partner has opened up about your dislikes with you do not comment on anyone.

Even if it’s a silly fear like cockroaches or thunder, listen and save it for yourself.

5. Errors he has already committed
Bringing sad memories that have passed through your relationship can generate conflict and hurt.

Rub rubber on the mistakes your partner may have made with you that have already been resolved.

6. Failures still unresolved
If your partner has a big bug that really bothers you, talk to him about it.

If you believe that it can improve it is better to talk directly with it than to expose it to friends who can criticize you more and increase the problem.
https://dailyfamily.ng/6-relationship-things-you-should-not-tell-anyone-2/

It has finally happened, the wedding day has come and gone. All the family members that came together for your joyous occasion have all gone back to their houses. Now all that is left is you and your spouse. Your goal at this stage is to have the ‘happy’ marriage that everyone has wished for you, but how do you start?

The following 8 tips may help you start your married life on a good note;

Tip 1: Invest in your marriage

Investing does not always require spending money. You invest in your marriage by spending time together. The dating that occured in the months and years leading up to your wedding should continue. Spending time together should do wonders to your new marriage.

Tip 2: Communicate with your spouse

You cannot afford to let the lines of communication die. Talk to your spouse, share your worries, your hopes, your goals and your dreams. Let your spouse know what is important to you.

Tip 3: Say nice things to each other

Simple words, like ‘thank you’ and ‘I love you’ go a long way. Remind yourselves daily with words of why you fell in love with each other.

Tip 4: Learn how to fight fair

Fighting fair means that when you have arguments, you don’t allow other issues to come in. It also means that even though you are angry with your spouse, you don’t say anything hurtful that you may regret later.

Tip 5: Treat your in-laws as you will your own family

Now that you are married, your in-laws have become family. Since there is no perfect family, you should learn to accept and love your in-laws as they are. After all these are the people who helped shape your husband into the man that he is today. Being respectful and polite to your in-laws will start your relationship on a good note.

Tip 6: Spend time alone

Being married does not mean you should spend time alone. Sometimes we need space, to think, do exercise, read a book etc. Spending time alone allows you to appreciate each others company better.

Tip 7: Start managing your finances from Day 1

You should start reading up on how to manage your finances.Cultivate a savings habit and make sure you don’t spend money on unnecessary expenses. Managing your finances well will place less stress on your marriage.

Tip 8: Have regular sex

An active sex life from Day 1 is what you want and should continue. Do what you have to do to make sure your that the energy levels of the early days won’t go down. Have regular sex and don’t be afraid to experiment with times, locations, frequency. Be spontaneous.

Having a nice wedding and good intentions may not be enough to produce a successful, happy marriage, however, the motivation and conscious decision of you and your partner to work on your relationship may help ensure that you have a happy long lasting marriage.
https://dailyfamily.ng/8-ways-start-married-life-good-note/

One day a young man asked his father, ” Father, how can I be sure my fiancée is in love with me?

The Father replied, ” my son, if your fiancée does some of the following 14 things, be reassured…. she is in love with you.”
The Father resumed:

1. If she doesn’t get upset when you contradict her opinion.

2. If she gets sad because of your sadness or seeing you angry.

3. If she always tries to create conversation topics with you.

4. If she always consults you before she do anything or make a decision.

5. If she is happy that you offer her something as trivial and simple as this thing can be.

6. If she’s always trying to help you or do chores for you to please you.

7. If she’s worried about you being gone.

8. If she strives to do what you love and forsake what you hate.

9. If she doesn’t care what you can earn (Silver).

10. If she overcomes patiently the pain caused to her because of you.

11. If she cares about what you do, what you love and seeks to be part of your world and your hobbies.

12. If she’s not ashamed of you or anything you can do.

13. If she respects you and defends you.

14. If she gives you what she thinks, before you learn from someone else.

If you find a woman with at least 5 of these qualities. … then marry her.
https://dailyfamily.ng/14-ways-to-know-she-truly-loves-you/

Do you think that a marriage can just grow without it been nurtured? Then you may be wrong. What are some of this?

1. Are together for the right reasons
You should not marry by pressure from family, friends or to make a good impression on society. You also should not get married because you think the relationship will improve or everything will be different after marriage. You need to get married by loving your partner and wanting to be with him forever.

2. The most important is not communication, but respect
The writer says that by analyzing the responses of people who lived together for 10 or 15 years, they said that communication was the most important part of a relationship. It sure is important. But when analyzing the response of couples with 20 to 40 years of coexistence, most answered that the most important thing was to maintain respect for the partner!

Mark believes that savvy people realize that no matter how open you are, one hour the divergent views of each will bring about conflict. And if there is no respect for what the other thinks and feels, small conflicts can be escalating and lead to greater hurts and disruptions.

But what would that respect be? An example given by Mark’s readers is not to speak badly of the spouse to his group of friends or family. Resolve your differences at home. To speak badly of the other in the back is a great demonstration of disrespect.

Respect the other’s space, your interests, hobbies, however much you are different from what you like.

3. You trust each other
“Do not have secrets, secrets divide you, always.” This was one of the valuable tips the writer received in this research.

If you feel uncomfortable with something that is happening in your relationship, speak openly to your partner. You will not be able to be happy with grievances. Talking about problems builds confidence and intimacy.

And trust is a key point in relationships. Do you trust your partner to take care of you if you get very sick tomorrow? Do you trust your partner to stay with your children for a period? Do you trust your partner to handle your money?

And if you do not trust, you may not be trustworthy either. For Mark, mistrust breeds mistrust. For example, if the partner starts snooping around for things he did not do, then you wonder why he is so insecure, and start wondering if the other is not hiding something from you.

4. A healthy relationship is done by two healthy people!
Understand that the responsibility of the spouse’s happiness within the relationship is not completely yours. “The problem is when all the happiness in the relationship is contingent on the other person and both people are in a state of constant sacrifice, just read it again.” That sounds awful,” comments Mark.

Always remember that first of all you are individuals, with your own identities and emotions, and you need to do things for yourself in your own time. Wanting to control the life of the partner or submit to this control is not healthy.

Never give up being the person who you are, love yourself for it! Having self-love makes it easier to love another person in a healthy way.

5. You will change over time!
Couples over 20 together have also raised an important issue: each one will change a lot over time! “We have changed faith, political parties, colors and numerous hair styles, but we love each other even more,” says one of Mark’s readers.

The tip of some couples is that you need to fall in love with this new person over and over again!

To make the union or marriage last, the above mentioned points are very important to note.
https://dailyfamily.ng/5-secrets-lasting-relationships/

5 Ways You Did To Ruin Your Relationship
Everyone thinks that it takes just a little effort to make the relationship work well. But those in it will readily agree that it takes more than that to make things work well. There have been a lot of tings that people do to ruin their relationships. What are few of this things?

1. Tiring and boring conversations.
When you make the conversations longer than expected, then it will be very difficult to enjoy the conversations. Never let the conversations just a one way thing. Make it come alive by the number of lovely conversations that ensures. Try a number of approach and see if it will work out.

2. Failure to express your need
When you have decided to explore your needs, then you can say that the relationship is heading to doom. Be rest assured that a relationship that is hardly talked about by both partners are quite difficult to last.

Each individual refuses to make up the generality of the society and then stores up a lot of things. Never Never expect your partner to be psychic, as they will only resent you when inevitably they fail to meet your needs and you become irritated as a result.

3. Failure to plan
When you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. When that is archived, you will realize that there are a lot of sensitive topics that merits our attention. Just make sure that you get to get to write down your thoughts before hand so that you will gather your points and settle serious matters quickly. Write down a list of important matters in a journal and look for ways it can be discussed or handled.

Anger, sadness and jealousy are not tools for a settling differences.

4. Settle differences before you sleep
When you have a prolonged argument, and it does not become settled, then it is possible for you to take the relationship to it’s end. When you have misunderstandings, make sure that they are settled well enough, and then say a good night before sleeping.

When you find yourself snapping at your partner after a long day’s work or fighting over a relatively trivial issue in the evening, suggest that you both go to bed and resolve the matter in the morning. When you settle the matter that night, then it may lead to more anger.

5. Speaking ill of your partner
When your partner is away from eye shot, then it is possible for you to talk about the ills and short comings. Will it be good?

According to research, it has been gathered that when that is done, then it reduces the level of trust and confidence. When those two important qualities are missing, then the relationship is really going to crumble.

It is possible that you may had done one or more of the above mentioned things. Be sure to correct them or you may be taking the relationship to an end.
https://dailyfamily.ng/5-ways-you-did-to-ruin-your-relationship/

Pastor Bisi Adewale spoke at the Lagos Singles and Married Conference 2017 which held at the National stadium Surulere, Lagos on the 29th of October 2017 about the things couples need to build a Great marriage.

The Pastor who is the founder of Family Booster Ministry who organized the Conference addressed the Singles and Married in attendance at the program about the importance of building a Great marriage.

He said: “Evil marriage is not genetic; that your parent had a bad marriage does not mean you should have a bad marriage.”

Pastor Bisi Adewale mentioned that Great marriage can be built by connecting with one’s manufacturer, which is God, he said: “When you connect with the Holy Spirit, your marriage will be transformed. If you live a righteous life, God will settle all your troubles.”

He mentioned that great marriage can also be built by having a good beginning. He said: “If you start your marriage in a hurry, it will end in horror.”

While ministering the Pastor also mentioned that proper readiness will help a couple to build great marriage, he added that another major key to building a great marriage is building bridges and not walls.

He encouraged the husbands to take care of their wives as he explained that when a woman is young she is her husband’s mistress, when she is middle-aged, she becomes his mother, when she and her husband become old, then she becomes his nurse.

Pastor Bisi Adewale pointed out that because the devil hates marriages, the couple must declare war, which is ‘Army against Army’.
https://dailyfamily.ng/how-to-build-great-marriage-pastor-bisi-adewale/

Honey, also called Oyin in Yoruba language has been part of humanity for so many years. But it is amazing to know that a lot of people are not informed about the benefits of honey.


Here are 11 major health benefits of honey:

1. Honey is a healthy alternative to sugar
Original honey is very healthy and can be used as a sweetener instead of sugar. Honey contains fewer calories than sugar.

2. Honey can be used to treat wounds and burns
Honey contains anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory elements that are effective in the treatment of wounds, burns and other skin conditions. It is also very useful in the treatment of foot ulcer suffered by diabetic patients.

3. Honey helps in relieving cough
Research has shown that honey acts as better suppressants for coughs than cough syrups. When a cough has denied your child some sleep, giving that child honey will help him or her fall asleep easily.
However, it is important to note that honey should not be given to children under the age of one (1) year.

4. Honey can help prevent heart-related diseases
Some certain types of cancers and heart disease can be prevented with the consumption of healthy honey.

5. Honey helps the body to regulate blood sugar
Honey does not increase the sugar level in the blood, unlike white sugar. Honey contains fructose and glucose that regulates the sugar level effectively and efficiently.

6. Honey beautifies the skin
Honey is also helpful in giving adequate nourishment to the skin. Honey, when added to other ingredients to make a homemade treatment for your skin, helps to moisturize and nourish the skin and give it a glow.

7. Honey acts as Anti-fungal and Anti-bacterial
According to Peter Molan, Director of the Honey Research Unit at the University of Waikato in New Zealand, he says: “All honey is antibacterial because the bees add an enzyme that makes hydrogen peroxide.” Honey also has a long shelf life.

8. Honey helps to reduce ulcers and gastrointestinal disorders
According to recent research, Honey helps in the treatment of disorders like ulcer and gastroenteritis.

9. Honey enhances athletic performance
Unlike other sweeteners, Honey improves the recovery time of an athlete and also maintains the body’s glycogen levels.

10. Honey aids weight maintenance
Honey according to research helps to suppress excessive appetite and is also good as a replacement for sugar because it does not gather extra pounds in the body. Honey can help protect a person with a tendency to be obese from obesity.

11. Honey helps to prevent diabetes
Consumption of healthy honey can help prevent a person from being diabetic and it can also aid the treatment of diabetes. Diabetic patients can add honey and cinnamon to their diabetic diet plan. Honey increases insulin in the body and reduces hyperglycemia.
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3 key steps to overcome a betrayal
Each person who has had to face a loving disappointment due to betrayal knows how hard it is to overcome and move on. After all, many thoughts arise and various feelings that cause low self-esteem are immense. But, life still has many good things to offer and moving forward is the best step.

In this walk some attitudes are primordial for the success and overcoming and they can include:

1. Eliminate guilt
Every person who is betrayed seeks the reason for this event. She conducts an internal research into her attitudes, visions, and relationships, trying to find what might have caused the spouse’s slip. It is very important to understand that people are free and their choices belong to them. When a betrayal occurs, it is because the spouse chose this and not for any other reason.

And if he accuses the person betrayed by his mistakes, probably in addition to being a traitor, he is abusive. It is very important for overcoming that the betrayed person understands this and stops feeling guilty, regain their self-esteem and move on, with the spouse or not, aware that if the other betrayed was because they have some problem with himself.

2. Change focus
The tendency is to think about the event and the misery itself all the time. This should be avoided so that the overcoming is total. Negative thoughts will only harm and curb personal progress and can bring diseases like depression. Finding a way to occupy the mind, beyond work and family responsibilities, will be effective for rapid improvement. Something as a volunteer service, a pleasant hobby involved with arts, sports or the study of something new.

Social networks do not enter into this listing since intense involvement with them in such a delicate situation can destroy self-esteem even more. The future possibilities are immense and life does not have to be sad for the happened. Mourning will surely come and it will have to be past, the better it will be when there is interest in living happily despite problems.

3. Friendships
It is very important that they be preserved, retaken and initiated. We are human beings and all need each other for survival and happiness. Staying closer to parents, siblings and other loved ones will do very well. Going out, going out, meeting new people, going to new places and going back to the old ones that always pleased, smiling and having fun with friends, this step is very important for the overcoming to be effective.

If the couple opts for separation or for continuing together, these 3 steps will be critical to overcoming. When directed to the chosen goal they will become a mainstay for the continuation of life and rebuilding of the injured spouse.

It will be up to both to define what is best and once decided they should keep the votes so that trust is restored and the relationship of the two does not make their lives unpleasant. Together or apart, especially when there are more people involved as children, they should do their utmost to forgive and move forward with a light and resolved heart.
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4 Important Considerations Before You Ask for a Marriage

Most people dream about the perfect marriage. This dream comes to life in the courtship and extends until the day of marriage, the search for everything perfect. Then life sends the signals, the party does not go as planned and the partner did not live up to the expectations of the spouse. Thus arise the frustrations, the discouragement, many cases arise of dissatisfaction that generates until the divorce.

Sadly, situations like these occur because people do not question their relationships and end up making hasty decisions, acting on the momentum.

Note the four considerations made in matters that are important before you ask for it in marriage:

1. Am I pursuing perfection or potential?
A marriage can not be achieved by perfection, but by potential, for many aims for marriage, yet few couples are not only willing but also prepared to make the righteous sacrifices that are fundamental to the relationship to work out.

2. Are we mature enough to deal with our differences?
Marriage requires adaptations, such as choosing not to be offended when harsh words are spoken, without divorce being the first and last choice. For this to be possible, it takes a lot of maturity to deal with such a situation.

Understand that both have become one and that selfish appetites and desires can not control their lives so as not to harm the spouse and the relationship is one of the important points that mature couples understand and live.

3. Are we true in our relationship?
A relationship can not last if it is based on lies. Marriages can not last, when they have no foundation other than falsehood and have no secure and true foundations, such as love and loyalty.

Sincerity is essential to achieving a successful relationship, as it is the foundation that will allow love to grow and flourish over the years. However, if there is no sincerity between the couple, it will be the end of everything, since the lack of it tends to be the crucial point for the end of the relationship.

4. What are our priorities?
Knowing each other’s priorities is valuable before accepting a request for marriage or doing so because priorities define our values and values tends to define who we are and what we are seeking. So, think well, love to be true needs to have basis and direction.

Marriage is sacred and should last, but for this to be possible, it is necessary to question the chosen person and weigh some things like:

You should not ask for someone in marriage who does not have goals of having children if that is your plan for the future. Perhaps, it is difficult to give up who you love so much, but to act for a reason and not for emotion at this moment can free you from great disappointments in the future.

And all this is because both are seeking different paths, this tends to go against the ideals of one’s own marriage, since in him the husband and the wife walk side by side along the same road, without ever choosing different paths.
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10 Ways to Make Your Wife Happy
Every woman dreams of being happy. Many of them spend their lives thinking that when they marry they will be able to find true happiness, they dream of that enchanted prince who will one day take her home and make her the happiest woman in the world.

In the dating phase, especially at the beginning when the conquest begins, she even believes that it can be real. Your suitor seems to do everything to make you happy. He is engaged, courted, arrives before she leaves work or college, is always tidy, perfumed, available, he is a delicate, considerate guy and wants to please her in the smallest details.

After marriage, things usually change, unfortunately, and many men have missed the opportunity to make their wife dream again, or rather, to live a princes’s life, as she has always dreamed.

Here we are going to bring in simple 10 ways where you, man, can change this scenario and make, every day, your woman happy.



We are sure that all men want to learn this, after all, to have a woman, even happier, makes any man a man accomplished.

Of course also that every woman wants her man, whether husband, boyfriend or boyfriend, to watch, understand and practice what we will expose here.

Comment below all the points that you agree with us.

Get ready and write down there, men, this is your chance to have the happiest woman in the world by your side:

1. Declare
If you have something that a woman loves, it is to receive a declaration of love. If it’s in public, better yet. So, gentleman, make it a habit. Tell her she’s beautiful, intelligent, attractive, that she’s getting better every day. If possible declare in front of your children extolling how much she has been a dedicated mother.

2. value
The second way has much to do with the first. If you praise, you must also value it. There are many men who only look at the faults of women and forget all the effort and dedication they have day by day, with children, home, and work. Cherish with deeds and words.

3. Listen to your beloved
If there is one thing that woman likes, is to talk. And you need to take the time to listen to it. Make it a habit.

4. Help at home
That’s one thing that’s hard on most men. There’s a lot of man who thinks he’s just coming in, lying down on the couch and starting to ask. She lies and stays there just changing the control of the TV and thinks that the wife is his employee.

This is not the right stance of whoever wants to make a woman happy. You need to wash some dishes, help with the tidying up, and preferably do not leave everything messy and scattered.

Have you thought about asking her what you could share with her that would make her happier?

5. Be less selfish
The Bible says that it is better to give than to receive, but in many marriages some men only want to demand, they demand a brilliant housewife, a good cook, an enthusiastic lover, a good professional, and give very little. They are selfish and demanding. Think about what you are offering and what you are charging.

6. Retake Romanticism
You know something that leaves the woman in the clouds? A romantic man. Many cases of betrayal occur because in the house she has a brutal, intransigent, arrogant and selfish husband and the street appears that romantic, conquering face, full of good offers and she falls. Pay attention and resume the romanticism of dating time with your wife.


6. Be a man.
Want to make your wife happy? Get ready. Do not think it’s cool to be shaved, forget about taking a shower and get all sweaty in bed. No, no, this is definitely not alluring. If you want your woman happy, start to get ready to conquer her, and if you dress yourself, you’ll make her feel more excited.

8. Embrace it
You know something men do very little? Embrace your women. And know: this does very well for them. Ask your beloved there.

Know loved ones, they want to feel welcomed, protected, and a hug from your man represents it well.

9. Make Surprises
Another thing that makes any woman happy are surprises. It could be a coffee in bed, a little note you left in her bag talking about how important it is to you, or the flowers you sent to her work. There are several ways, invent your own, and surprise your loved one every day.

10. Love, love and in doubt love
Every woman expects to be loved. This is her greatest wish. Nothing is more important to your spouse than to know that you are loved by your man. Demonstrating love for her will make her more secure, she will get less on her foot, she will feel more fulfilled and happy.

Simple to do the 10 ways? Of course not, but it is super necessary. God gave you this gift that was this woman, you need to take good care of him, and following the ways proposed everything will be easier.

Does that make sense? How about you mark the man of your life or the woman of your life in this article and propose a happier life among you following these steps?

We want to share something for men: a happy woman changes her life. The result is a blessing to your family. Take time, invest time in it, your relationship will improve and your children will thank you. Let us together build a better life, so that in the end you two can be happy forever.
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3 Ways To Kiss Him So That He Will Never Forget You
Kissing is a demonstration of love, attraction and surrender to a person, it is an intimate action that unites the couple, where they experience magical moments that strengthen the relationship. It is the ideal way to convey emotions and feelings. Sometimes kisses even alienate a person or make them mad with love.

In many cultures kisses are demonstrations of love, friendship, trust, peace, respect or a simple greeting, just rub the nose of the couple to kiss in the form of an Eskimo. Did you know that the meaning of kissing is different in different parts of the world?

There are many ways to kiss and each transmits different messages. So be aware that when kissing your partner, you have the assurance that he will not be able to forget you.

1. Kiss on the cheek
Remember that the correct way to convey a real sense of complicity, support, friendship, attraction is when you place your lips perfectly on the cheek of your partner. Do not make the mistake of kissing the air, because then you will not be transmitting affection.

Normally, they are the most affectionate kisses that are expressed in public, to demonstrate a bond of companionship, closeness, affection and respect.

2. Selinho
It is the most practical way to demonstrate to your partner that he is special, without provoking passionate feelings, usually lasts a few seconds, however, they are extremely important in keeping the relationship strengthened.

Sometimes it may seem that this kiss is a routine in marriage, however, it conveys feelings of unity, sweetness and security. Get into the habit of kissing him intensely, that your lips really enjoy the contact with your partner’s. This is a way of telling him that you love him, without words.

3. The kiss with a hug
It may be a kiss on the cheek, forehead, seals or passionate, no matter what kind of kiss, but remember to hug your partner strongly and intensely. This way you can convey your feelings and emotions. Any occasion is perfect, do it morning, afternoon, evening or anytime.

If you do, surely your partner will remember not only your kisses but also your aroma and essence.

All kisses leave pleasant experiences in the mind of any person, remember to take the time that is necessary, to kiss with intensity and, above all, with love. This way you will be able to demonstrate to your partner your feelings, strengthening your relationship.
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