You are on your own, if you pay for any items before seeing them.

Buyers that are sure of the qualities of their items will surely accept payment on delivery.

From experience, any item I pay for before delivery always have one or two issues. It's either the quality is bad or it doesn't worth the price.

Beware!!!

Krak:


You may be right, but I don't remember stock photos showing the model of the phone that took the picture.

But the same pics are on other shoe websites.

Meanwhile, I don't know the guy neither have I done any business with him before. I am just saying my observation.

NIanalyst:
Vocals, you na smart guy.

Most of the pics are usually internet stock pics. They are not the one that snap it.

Behaviour is like a smoke that nobody can hide for long. If she is the one using that moniker we will soon find out.

henroo2003:
Let's do it like this...... If We can get only 1 person that has done business with her and has been scammed. If I see such, I will join them to tag her scammer. Secondly, ask those tagging her scammer or fraudster to tell the house if they have done business with her b4 and had been scammed.

Like I say, it's possible for her to have with her style of communication with customers but let's leave her with her business and customers.

So, you means over 10 persons that came here to state their bitter experiences with the said seller are kids, that are not supposed to get value for their hard earned money?

Scamming buyers doesn't mean the scammer have to take the buyer money without delivery anything. When buyers order shoes and they didn't get the value for their money, or the seller didn't show any concerns is also a scam.

If the buyer was wrongly accused, I am sure she will have either debunked the claims or show some sign of concerns.

Even Dangote that pride himself as the richest man in Africa won't get accused by over 10 persons without debunking any of the accusations or issuing a press statement.

Lastly, I will advice you to quit adding emotion to serious issues and go for logic. This is necessary as not to get implicated and be made to paid a lot of damages for issues that are not your concerns.

henroo2003:
Yes, I can.... Forget all those tags . My digits 08024741344

Can you state some reasons why chelseamann should forget the concerns of over 40 persons?

anuoreangel:
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If I was in your situation. I will make sure to address all necessary concerns to save my business reputation.

All the guys tagging your posts as Spam has nothing to loose.

You needs to understand that customers relations is the sole of every business.

If you try this in an international marketplace, you will loose a numerous numbers of shoes, because disputes will be open on your profile. A lot of customers will win the disputes and they won't pay you nor return your shoes.

You will also be hit with numerous 1star reviews + your account will be banned.

mprtuary:


Mr Standard Mr. Standard, don't you think the lady has more standard than you with your Bryan you with this your with your English Grammar?

What is wrong with the grammar if not for one or two errors?

Just because a guy didn't like what I said and then decided to pinpoint the errors, must you follow the same suit?

Moreso, from the few words you typed, there are a lot of errors I can see there. Is this not a case of a pot calling a kettle black?

Helpout12345:
OP, out of the issues you have with her "standard", I think major ones are the education level and physical attraction. The age is not that far from your preference.

You said she is a Virgin, a good person and loyal to you.

1. Put her loyalty and love to tests to be very sure she is not coming after you because of your money and status. It's always difficult for good men with money to filter our genuine ladies in their relationships because even the likes of online misandrists looking for husbands will pretend to be good women when they meet a man with money and status. To do this, take away benefits you give her now for sometime, pretend like you lost your job and struggling financially for sometime and watch her reactions.

2. Being a Virgin does not guarantee a good character and good woman in marriage. You have to watch her character beyond the virginity stuff. Does she really have good character and good heart? You also need to find ways to find her true character and her true mind. To do this, follow her on social media to follow her comments, watch her reactions and comments on real life situations happening around you both, watch different Nigerian movies together and spark discussion over the happening in the movies. Most times, women get carried away in movies and pour out their true minds during the movies.

3. If she is good based on 1 and 2 above, and the fact that she is a virgin in this century, then you have find a good one. Please don't lose her because you might never find another close to her again in your lifetime.

4. Education status can be improved. She can enroll in a university online or distance learning to upgrade herself to become a graduate you want. But I must warn you, marry her before you sponsor her in education. Don't ever sponsor education of a girl friend with hope that she will marry you in return.

5. On the physical attraction, I know you cannot change her height. To enhance your attraction, tell her how you want your woman to dress and appear but be careful not to body-shame her.

6. It's not wise to tell boy or girlfriend, they are not "your standard". It's demeaning and can make them hold resentment for you if it eventually works out between you both.

Summary, be careful not to lose a good woman because of minor standards that you can improve or enhance to have a happy home.

Thank you for this.

obinna58:

She'll come and drag you down with her, it's obvious to you but you think you're earning enough, get someone who'll make your life easier not someone who'll toughen it up.
You're earning little incase you think you're earning big abi no be naija you dey. She'll measure your salary and match the expenses for you to level up.

This is precisely why I was talking about standard.

Microwhy:

No.. you're not there yet that why you think he's selfish.
There're too many things to consider when you want to go into such family and marry.
NCE graduate,
Not earning much,
Poor background,
First child,
Having siblings.
Her physique are not his taste.
You will not understand. Dont blame the guy for wanting to use his head. Sometimes, those odds will not mak.e one to have easy headway in life.
No doubt God gives wealth and happiness.

I guess I didn't really explain the situation well, so a lot of people didn't really get my points.

This lady in particular mum is late. Her dad is battling with stroke.

I stay in a 3-bedroom flat as a bachelor in a high-income area while she, her dad, and 3 other siblings stay in a room and parlor in a low-income area. I fear that one day her family will tell her sis and bro to come and start staying with us if we end up together since they will feel we live in a 3-bedroom flat.

More so, her yearly income is always not up to my monthly income.

She is not the First Lady to show interest in me. I asked her why is she interested in me, and she said that I don't drink, smoke, gamble, or womanize. I am always focused.

In essence, I am also a standard.

ghettochild:
Well if u r after education...
It's a very wrong Criteria ooo
The rest I understand.
Anyways just tell u don't love n cannot marry her...

Why I added the education aspect is because it matters too.

I want someone I can seek advice from and share my view with.

In our conversations, she has failed to answer all the intelligent questions I asked her.

Munzy14:

The problem we face when we achieve a bit comfort of at least good food and a roof over our head.

You set the standard too high..The risk of ending with who isn't yours are also high.

The lady you described is an average decent prayer point of some brothers.

Emphasis on A decent, loyal and at least educated lady for marriage.
As long as she is not entitled, have a mind of her own, open to learning and upgrading, you have yourself one of the few good ones out here..

She can be a professor tomorrow if you are willing to...

Like flavour will say, If you have a good woman, hold am tight..If you lose am, everything go nyamanyama.

The standard you are looking for may attract the real problems in disguise.

I have received a lot of bashing.

I guess I didn't really explain the situation well, so a lot of people didn't really get my points.

This lady in particular mum is late. Her dad is battling with stroke.

I stay in a 3-bedroom flat as a bachelor in a high-income area while she, her dad, and 3 other siblings stay in a room and parlor in a low-income area. I fear that one day her family will tell her sis and bro to come and start staying with us if we end up together since they will feel we live in a 3-bedroom flat.

More so, her yearly income is always not up to my monthly income.

She is not the First Lady to show interest in me. I asked her why is she interested in me, and she said that I don't drink, smoke, gamble, or womanize. I am always focused.

In essence, I am also a standard.

Everyday = new drama

okoroemeka:
I will bet my fresh pot of egusi soup that the lady is not a virgin,believe that you can believe anything,after secondary school 70% of girls are no longer virgins,after higher institution the figure is 95.5%,infact any girl that still remains a virgin after 5-6 years in Nigeria university has factory fault in her pussy.

She is a virgin, I confirmed.

Chris2863:
Selfish, self-centered, unkind, evil, assuming, confused. These are some of the words synonymous with this op

Thank you! As time goes on you will understand that being a kind and benevolent person in Nigeria doesn't really pay. You will be treated like a fool and totally ignored.

If you know how many ladies had mistreated me in the past due to standards, before I upgraded myself, you couldn't have mentioned this.

satandeterrible:

Don't lower your standards for any woman.
Woman will never lower their standards for you.

Chief keep holding yourself. You will find a woman that matches your standards.


DON'T EVER SETTLE FOR LESS. WOMEN WILL NOT SETTLE FOR LESS.
WHY SHOULD YOU?

Exactly my thoughts

GOFRONT:
U never even tell us if una Genotype match or Not!!!!


All the standard you mentioned above, without a Matched Up Genotype, its a waste of standard.

We are both AA


Updated: I have received a lot of bashing.

I guess I didn't really explain the situation well, so a lot of people didn't really get my points.

This lady in particular mum is late. Her dad is battling with stroke.

I stay in a 3-bedroom flat as a bachelor in a high-income area while she, her dad, and 3 other siblings stay in a room and parlor in a low-income area. I fear that one day her family will tell her sis and bro to come and start staying with us if we end up together since they will feel we live in a 3-bedroom flat.

More so, her yearly income is always not up to my monthly income.

She is not the First Lady to show interest in me. I asked her why is she interested in me, and she said that I don't drink, smoke, gamble, or womanize. I am always focused.

In essence, I am also a standard.

Wealthyonos:
Even your English shows you're not educated. My advice is, 'go back to school'.���

Firstly, I typed with a tiny phone.
Secondly, I typed the content very late.
Thirdly, I never claimed to be a native speaker, so English is not my first language.

I don't mind if you can sponsor me to Oxford University, where you learn English as a native language.

I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice