I have a nagging wife, and many of your arguments and perceptions are incorrect. I'm by no means perfect, however my wife began her nagging about 1 year after we got married. I would do many things which I thought were good and appreciated, only to find out they were not done to her UNSPOKEN expectations. Ok, so I changed the way I did it to meet her expectations, Yes, you guessed it, her expectations changed, and the nagging continued, What message did I receive from this? It doesn't matter what I do, good, bad, better, best, even surprises, she nags, So, to remain sane, I ignore her and go on about my business, And yes, the nagging continues, but I don't hear it. I just laugh (internally) at her lunacy and rants,