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i have been reading some interesting comments, but this is a well written and insightful article, there are so many men out there that have no business being married, the rate of abusive men is alarming, believe me, a lot of women will be better off without some men in their lives. getting married should enhance you, make you better, enrich you and not be a sorrowful venture. the common saying of 'dying in your father's house' because you are not married is simply propagated by mostly misogynist people. the key is prayerfully enter into a marriage, a man that will add value to you ( not just financial value), that is the key thing i got from this article, not every one in trouser is a logical human being. a husband has a lot of responsibilities for his family, ladies, choose wisely dont be desperate, dont fall for that crap of not being enough men out there or whatever, 4 of my friends got married last week, they are in their mid thirties, happily married because they refused to settle for abusive touts. so please let everyone work on their character ( both men and women) before choosing someone to partner with. cheers!

Scun: Qur'an:8:12 "I shall terrorize the infidels. So wound their bodies and incapacitate them because they oppose Allah and His Apostle."

wow! this is in the Quran? that says a lot about this sinister religion

i hope misogynist men who have invented double standards take note. just like the thought of another man being with your wife is appalling, unforgiving and even distressing to imagine, it is the exact same feeling some wives after their husbands do the same. like i said earlier, if one cannot keep his or herself in the sanctity of marriage why bother getting married?. i believe whoever commits adultery is selfish and wicked, has no regard for the institution of marriage, if cheating is the option, then divorce first. i know why i am very vocal about this, i have seen the pain infidelity causes, deep scars ( i work in women's shelter) and i believe that any man or woman that will be desensitized enough to put his or her spouse through the pain and risk of adultery will always be paid back in one way or the other

to me i believe those are just 'theories'. adultery is adultery. lets call a spade a spade. as for the belief that the more sex partners a woman has the more haggard she looks, it makes me laugh. i have seen promiscuous women that are amazingly youthful and beautiful. My point is, it is wrong for both men and women to cheat. and HUMAN beings have the tendency to do so, it only takes discipline and the grace of God. also, who says some women cannot have 'no strings attached' intimacy?

obadiah777: CHEATING IS DIFFERENT WITH MEN AND WOMEN. SEE THE WOMAN IS A RECIEVER. SHE IS GETTING FOREIGN MATTER INTRODUCED INTO HER BODY. THE SPERMATOZOA IS A FOREIGN BODY AND IT CHANGES THE COMPOSITION OF HER AND THEN SHE CREATES ANTIGENS TO THE GUYS SPERMATOZOA SO THE GUY IS WITH HER FOREVER. EVERY GUY A WOMAN HAS EVER SLEPT WITH REMAINS WITH HER FOREVER. SHE HAS ANTIGENS OF ALL THE MEN SHE HAS EVER HAD SE-X WITH. THATS WHY A WOMAN LOOKS HAGGARD THE MORE PARTNERS SHE HAS. HER IMMUNE SYSTEM GETS JACKED UP FROM ALL THE ANTIGENS CREATED IN HER. EVERY MAN A WOMAN HAS YANSHED IS IN HER FOREVER. FOR MEN ITS DIFFERENT. FOR MEN IT IS MORE OF A SPIRITUAL WEAKENING. FOR WOMEN ITS BOTH PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL

Then i guess the wife should do the same if she catches her husband cheating. And please dont lets get started on the 'cheating' thing being a man's nature. both male and females have the tendency to be unfaithful, afterall, the men that cheat do it with women. my point is self-discipline and control is a necessity for BOTH men and women in order not to fall into the web of adultery.

plaetton: Remorseful?
Big laugh. Would you not be if you were caught red handed?
Are armed robbers not remorseful when they are caught?
C'mon man.
The problem with we Africans, perhaps especially Nigerians, is the we always put sentiments where they do not belong.
We always put the square peg in the round hole.
For a woman to commit adultery requires long serious forethought. Before a woman contemplates such actions, she has to mentally damn her husband and convince herself that her husband deserved the damnation and humiliation.
Secondly, by the time the husband had discovered, she would have been doing it for a very long time.
Thirdly, once a cheater, always a cheater.
Fourth, if you ever ever forgive a cheating wife, you are forever doomed.
You will drop to minus zero in her eyes.
You would have given her all the powers she only dreamed of. She will completely emasculate you and turn you into a vegetable of your former self.

Let god do the forgiving for that kind of stuff. You are not god. You are human.

wow, more of this please. impressive

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[/quote]wow! i love this!

GraceBestowed: [color=#CD3700] What are the chances that he will stay after you let him have his way? The truth is that you don't know. It would be better to be heartbroken if he leaves you now, than to be heartbroken if he leaves after taking away from you the one thing you were protecting.[/color]

true....i just though other qualities were more important for him beyond being intimate...but what you say makes a lot of sense

D sage: Now that he cannot wait anymore,and you too not ready to lose your virginity, what do think you can do to keep him?

....good question *sigh*....but being intimate just because i dont want to loose him is not a good reason to go against what i believe in...what will be will be..

but what if he eventually cant wait anymore?...the painful part will be he leaving me because i refused to have sex till we got married .

[quote author=D sage]I thing you're old enough to get marry, or is he the one that's not ready or what?

Just let him know your stand. The following method may sounds funny but will surely work for you;

Whenever he ask for it,just goes down on your kneel,look into his eye,say a few words(reasonable words) and shed tears. If he truely love you,he will make a vow never to touch you until you get married.

Let me reveal the secrete/weakness of we men to you ladies,if we genuinely love you, we can't stand seen you crying. No matter how we may be offended or angry, the possibility of forgiving you at that moment is 99%.






lol at begging, he knew my stand from the very beginning, i dont know why he suddenly cant wait....yea we are ready to get married, but some circumstances are delaying, if not, we should be married by now

i am 27....

thanks for your reponses

Hi everyone, i will like to hear from other matured minds. I have been dating a man for two years now, i am a virgin, and i told him i wanted to wait till marriage, he proposed to me earlier this year, and now insist that we have sex, I want to wait till i am married, he is not willing...do i just let him be?...matured replies needed, thanks