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lornaluv:
I'm not surprised I don't have a bday mate, very few special peeps born on MARCH 22nd.

The_Matrix: I don laff mistakenly slap Mopol @ De Numberie,

Missy_B: Sent!

Brand_new: I experience the same thing and it sometimes gets on my nerves. They have also started some lottery like promos that charges 100 Naira daily for a chance to win 1 million naira. I'm sure many of their subscribers would have been tricked into it.

dayokanu: This is a lesson for those young girls who think they can just jump into marriage without the necesary education

You are in Nigeria where single energetic men and women with Masters cant find a decent job, What do you seriously think an OND holder would get?

If you have an advert for a driver paying 45k per month I am certain no less than 20 BsC holders would apply how much more an OND with 3 kids

Since you seem to care about your career,You made a very huge mistake getting married after OND.

What does OND computer science do sef? i doubt you even know how to operate Microsft excel and Powerpoint

The fact is that you cant get a job, All those LASU part time are just means of boosting your ego, No employer would take you after 3 kids with a part time degree. Those part time degree are for people working and seeking promotion. Wih a part time degree I doubt you can even go for NYSC which is a requirement for getting a job

Truth is bitter. and I hope if you have a daughter, you would warn her sternly against getting pregnant or married after OND.

To those women who believe a career is not necesary as long as you marry a rich man, This is an example for you.
Most men would give you the bare minimum you need to survive and nothing more, We always have more importnt project that feeding the fantasies of a lazy fat asss wife

moremi2008: Once your kids start school, get back on your feet and go find a job! Hopefully, you'll be done with your BSc by then. And please, make sure you visit a family planning center. Three kids is enough! Don't just rely on condoms because one night of passion, one little mistake and ... GMAM! ... you're pregnant with twins and back to square one.

Daresh: My sister I feel. Your pain. Its not a good feeling to have to ask for money and to be under appreciated. I was in your shoes not too long ago, unhappy with my life, upset with my husband and my son because I felt so under appreciated. It took me a while and a lot of good advice to get me thankful for what I had and find what I love to do and do it. I have always known I am not a 9-5 person but in my desire to just get out of the house and do something I almost started a job I hate. I took a lot of thinking, planning and consulting b4 I could turn what I love to do into a business and you know the best part? I don't even have to leave home! So my love, I advice you to find what you love to do and do it and be there for ur family especially your kids because they are the best thing in the world!

jennykadry: Wow kids, your own kids you call a stumbling block? Wow abi you are the stumbling block with your half certificate. People with bachelor degree, masters, PHD are still looking for correct work in Naija with good pay, it is now you with OND? My friend you are your own stumbling block. Go to school and get a Bsc before asking for better job with better pay

Busy_body: You come across as someone who married young, was rushed into having too many children too soon and now you feel life has passed you by and wished you were on the other side of the fence. But listen up dearie, you cannot have it all, something's gotta give. Even career ladies in the Western World struggle to strive a balance between work and raising children, so you are not alone. So get that thought out of your head that these people God has blessed you with her stumbling blocks in your life. If anything, its just that you married a controlling guy, but since you are in it now, there is no need resenting the dude, so all you can do is pray God soften his heart . . .

I am glad to see that you have not lost hope yet and have weighed your strength and weaknesses and are quite good with your hands. Thumbs up for this entrepreneurial spirit of yours and please keep the fire burning, it is the way forward, and if you set your heart to it, the sky is your limit and you would even find yourself employing Graduates to work on your payroll.


(((A massive hug to you)))

victorian: dear op, first youve made the decision of getting married ontime and having kids, which is a blessing. As for me, i would have been married last yr and even this yr, but i have laid out plans , i want to achieve b4 bearing kids and doing the full wifey work at home. Children and the homefront , takes a huge amount of dedication and attachment, which am not capable of giving right now. Likewise my fiance. I and my fiance, came up with this idea that we should postpone our wedding until a certain date, which we both agree to accomplish and hopefuly complete our dreams to a certain degree and also be prepared mentally to be parents and happily married. But to your question, you need to convince your husband especially on his happy moments that u have to better yourself , which will inreturn be good for the family. Let him know, what truly makes you happy and how you to achieve it, with his help involved. Talk to him continously and do some reasearch on how to go about your next step in career. Give him details of what u have found out and how good it will affect your lives with the kids involved. I bet, if he truly listens, he will support you, cause u cant do it alone as you are married with kids. Best of luck and always pray about it.

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naijababe:
What I would give to be a stay at home mom, an arm and a leg perhaps! Anyhoo poster, life often appear greener on the other side, trust me it aint all that rosy. I love my job and career die but recently been co
contemplating packing it all in just so I can be around my children more.

Nigeria isn't kind to people who get their certs after a certain age so going back to school may not necessarily provide you with a way out, my candid opinion to you is sit your hubby down and ask him exactly what kind of skilled trade he does not have a problem with since you say you are good with your hands.

I'm actually in school.I'm 27 and I'm doing a part time program I lasu.I have one year left to go but u knw naija and hw the system is.I'm supposed to have written my 400l 2nd semester exams in jan but its may and still we haven't due to some problems they say they have.moreover I've been at home for almost 5 years doing nothing

TheShopKeeper: Your children are the best gift given to you by God, please do everything to take good care of them.
With time the necessary idea and inspiration you need will start flooding in and even your husband can't stop that dream from happening.
Have an open and explore areas how you can add value to your life right now.
If you are patient and you have space, you can start a mini creche to look after your kids and other peoples kids thereby making some money.

Smilenw: Answer to your question is a big no. Where there is a will, there is a way. There are millions of women who work full-time and yet have happy homes with husband n kids. In your case, I'd say you shouldve planned your life before you started baby making. Children are a gift from God. Please never consider them as a hindrance to your goals or dream. You say you could've worked if they were not there. Probably. But do u think ur life would have been complete with just a few hundred thousands without any offspring?
After reading your post, I have just some questions for you-what exactly is your dream and goal? How old are your kids? Didn't you discuss your plans to work before marriage with your hubby? I feel you just need a source of income and you don't have any particular job interest in mind. Since your area of expertise is computer science, why don't you try to work from home ? Content writing, transcription etc etc ..It won't take you away from home whilst giving you the financial independence you need.

Tgirl4real: lol.

The post will start pouring in soon.

Well, sometimes we sacrifice a lot for the things we love. I wont like you to see your kids as a stumbling block to your progress. Even without them, you may still be where you are. So, please don't regret. Moreover, there are plenty people out there seeking God's face for a family.

About your husband not wanting you to work. Since he hasn't put his foot down, then don't give up searching for a job. I don't know what kind of extended family you got. When you find one, you could arrange for them to stay with a family member. But I must warn you ahead of time. Once you start working, you miss the freedom and the time you have to care for your kids.

And if it's the skill acquisition, I will suggest you start saving up from the little pocket money (I hope he gives you that)you get from him. Once you have enough, you can seek his approval.