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Education / Why Is It A Taboo To Allow Someone To Feed You In Nigerian Culture? by Eliza101: 8:47pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Hey, I always wondered about this, because my parents are Nigerian and they always tell me not to eat outside for example (a friend's house) and my dad emphasised to feed yourself, for example, if I lived in a shared house and I was living with three roommates, then I should cook my own food and don't allow any of my roommates to give me food (feed you)...And my dad told me , if you are eating at a restaurant it's different because you used money to buy it, but if someone is consistently feeding you then that's unacceptable. As I gotten older, I realised , If I allow someone to feed , then it makes me look like a baby or incompetent , because babies can't make money or their physically incapable and it means I'm financially lacking since food cost money. And I notice when you allow someone to feed you, they start to show off like they're superior to you just because they're giving you food, or if you were to fall into an argument they can say ' why are you saying that after all the food I've given you' so it's like they're using that to demand respect or like you owe them something, and then they may start to use food to control you, like e.g if you're hungry at 12pm they can say ' I'll feed you at my time', so now you've become their slave . To be honest I don't like people to know what I eat or if I'm hungry I don't announce it , I just quickly buy food, I don't trust people when it comes to my food, and I don't like to depend on people when it comes to food, because I look childish. I personally believe I can eat as much as I want as long as I'm feeding myself or if the money is coming from my pocket ( or sometimes husband /close relative). However, In my own imagination, I personally believe it's just food, and everyone should eat, but it seems as though food causes fight, why do humans behave like this, why do they have to feel so proud and behave in such a way, when it comes to feeding someone consistently...Is it because they feel like they are keeping you alive since food is life or something so they feel like they are above you....To be honest, If my parents didn't tell me this, I wouldn't mind eating at a friend's house ( but then again I should be careful, because they can poison my food..)...I think food is fun and interesting... But what does it really mean in Nigerian culture, if anyone speaks a Nigerian language like Yoruba explain what it truly means?. |
Romance / Re: Should I Hurry Up And Lose My Virignity? by Eliza101: 5:38pm On Jan 21, 2023 |
imagrg: I am mentally stabled ..... Don't you think it's embarrassing to still be a virgin at 26. just imagine if a 26 year old woman was to tell a man she is a virgin, the man would probably think, 'There is something seriously wrong with this woman, maybe she's living in the stone age' . And it makes me look stupid , because people would think to themselves, ' So, she can't get a boyfriend?' |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 2:06am On Jan 21, 2023 |
Divoc19: Thank you for your answer, that's what i'm focused on making my own money and being in an open relationship. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 10:57pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Das1mama: Sex with protection of course and contraceptive pills. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Should I Hurry Up And Lose My Virignity? by Eliza101: 10:00pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Dshocker: You're not serious. !!!! Do virgins make men aroused? 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Should I Hurry Up And Lose My Virignity? by Eliza101: 9:42pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Goodlady: I'm not getting married soon....but I'm interested in sex. |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 9:36pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Divoc19: Thank you, for your reasonable answer, I think men tend to want to sleep with women who are youthful looking, when a woman gets older most men will not want to sleep with her anymore....I think I should take pride of my youth, I'm still young. Another question I'd like to ask is, have you tried anal sex, If so , is it painful and did it cause troubles with defecation. Is it a taboo in your Nigerian culture? and is it pleasurable? |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 9:26pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Das1mama: LOOL, I just want to have sex, not get pregnant. |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 9:21pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Divoc19: I thought so, and what if my husband end up breaking up with me, so it'll be like , I waited until marriage to have sex , ended up losing my virginity to this one person and now he has left me , because he doesn't want to be my husband anymore..... Plus I'm 26. I need to enjoy my life and having sex with multiple partners doesn't necessarily mean I'll be a hoe ( I know you didn't say that), because a hoe will have sex for money, they will have sex with someone who they're not attracted to, they can even sleep with their best friend's man....Plus having sex with just one man in my entire life, will make me too clingy/attached to the person and he might find that annoying. |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 9:14pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
DaddyCK: No !! |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 9:18pm On Jan 19, 2023 |
bigbauer: |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 9:10pm On Jan 19, 2023 |
Lamanii22: Yes, that's true, but sex seems like an interesting experience.... |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 8:58pm On Jan 19, 2023 |
JOACHINpedro: But that's what adults do, so it will make you feel grown up. |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 8:57pm On Jan 19, 2023 |
BlackMan6969: So what you're saying is, if my future husband finds out I'm a virgin through our first intercourse, he will greatly respect me. |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 8:52pm On Jan 19, 2023 |
JOACHINpedro: Not really, I just want to experience life more and my sexuality, plus I want to feel grown up. |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 8:50pm On Jan 19, 2023 |
falcon01: Thank you for your reasonable answer, I am 26 years old and I just want to try something new. How will I know how good my husband is if I don't try others first. I know about about contraceptives and condoms, and yes, I just have to be careful, but don't turn into a hoe, e.g having sex for money in return, which is something I will not do. No offence to anyone who is a sex worker , because you need to make your money, I'm just speaking for myself. |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 6:36am On Jan 19, 2023 |
Originalsly: I'm actually not from the USA, I'm trying to hide my identity and my origin is half Nigerian and half Congolese. |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 6:35am On Jan 19, 2023 |
Blupen: Okay thank you for a reasonable answer. 1 Like |
Romance / Should I Hurry Up And Lose My Virignity? by Eliza101: 5:41am On Jan 19, 2023 |
I need your help please, I am a 26 year old female virgin, who is ready to lose her virginity. What am I waiting for?? .... |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 5:33am On Jan 19, 2023 |
Aonkuuse: OMG!!! [color=#770077][/color] |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 5:33am On Jan 19, 2023 |
Kingdollar28: WHATTTTT I'M SAYING THE TRUTH...JUST HELP ME OUT... 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 5:31am On Jan 19, 2023 |
Kingdollar28: What's funny? did you read the content? help me out. 1 Like |
Fashion / Re: Please Is This Jeans For Female? by Eliza101: 5:29am On Jan 19, 2023 |
That's a man's jeans, it's baggy and just the way it looks. 1 Like |
Romance / Is It Bad To Have Sex With Just One Man In Your Entire Life? by Eliza101: 5:22am On Jan 19, 2023 |
Hello everybody , I am a 26 year old female who is from the United states, I have always thought about something that's been bothering me lately , as you can guess by the title, I am a virgin and I have been feeling Hot lately, which I believe I am ready for sex. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship, I just want to have at least four different boyfriends and have someone/people to be romantic with someone to share intimacy with and to have sex ( just have fun with). But then again, another side of me is saying , I should wait until marriage before losing my virginity. But even though it is seen as a good thing since purity is valued, a part of me is saying why would a woman wait until marriage before having sex or only have sex with just one man in her entire life. I just think that's boring, at least sleep with two men and even if I wait until marriage before having sex , what if , my future husband ends up divorcing me, what if we separate. what if he ends up running away..... Moreover ,because I'm a virgin, I just feel like I'm missing out, I think I should enjoy my youth/young age , because of course when I get older ( age 40 or over) I will not be or as sexually attractive anymore. At this age of mine, quite a lot of me have told me I'm beautiful, which is something I should take advantage of since beauty fades. More importantly , I feel as though if a woman sleeps with as many men as she can , I look at that as an accomplishment, like she is very beautiful and attractive. Life should be enjoyed, right? , and I think sex is one of those things, of course I will not sleep with hundreds of different men, but at least 10 and have sex at least twice a month and if I really enjoy it maybe like 1-3 times a week. I know sex for a man is different , compared to a woman, because men can have sex with a woman without feeling emotionally attached to her, and men have a much higher sex drive than women. As well as this, if I do lose my virginity through pre-marital sex , I think I'm going to be clingy to this specific man generally speaking , I will be too attached to the person. Which is something , I won't like, but I won't be able to help it...and if the man stops speaking to me all of sudden or ignores my text messages , I think that's going to hurt me , which would be strange because even though I will sleep with another man , I feel like I'm going to be so attached to this person because he lost my virginity. What do you all think , do you think I should just lose my virginity already and have fun or wait until marriage, and to all the men out there what do you make of virgins? and what if you were to find a woman you loved and she told you she wasn't a virgin (didn't have any pre-marital sex) and then you got married and then as soon as you slept with her , you found out she was a virgin ( because you know, blood came out of her...) , what would you make of such a person, the fact she told you she wasn't a virgin, but indeed is. Would you dislike her for lying. We only live once , so why would a woman just have sex with just one man in her entire life, I know when I get married , I wouldn't want to sleep with other men but my husband, so the fact I am not married, still single , why not be in a open relationship and have sex?, and to tell you the truth, I know three men who have told me they would have sex with me, because I am beautiful and attractive, but the thing is these people think I am not a virgin... Of course I have to use contraceptive and he has to use a condom , so I don't get pregnant.....etc I want to have sex , but at the same time , I'm so nervous, I am aware there are women out there who have lost their virginity as young as 16, and I don't know why , but compared to them (those teenage non-virgin females) I feel immature, I'm ashamed of myself, I feel ugly even though I have been told I'm beautiful and I think being in an open relationship will make me feel beautiful and sexy, I think it's special when a woman is desired by men especially if it by a lot of men, and to have several men tell me they would have sex with me , is such a compliment, it makes me feel happy inside. Guys, help me out , what do you think is the right thing for me to do. I don't want to die as a virgin. I want opinions from both male and females . 1 Like |
Culture / Re: What Do Nigerians Think Of Other Nigerians Who Only Speak Or Understand English? by Eliza101: 10:32am On Apr 26, 2022 |
Mariangeles: Okay then, and thanks. 1 Like |
Culture / What Do Nigerians Think Of Other Nigerians Who Only Speak Or Understand English? by Eliza101: 9:51am On Apr 26, 2022 |
Guys I removed the previous content in this blog..... as if anyone cares or truly understands how I feel, btw I NEED MONEY , SOMEBODY GIVE ME MONEY, I AM BEING OPPRESSED. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. |
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