phazotron:






. You are a disgrace and an idiot. What good traits? Being disrespectful? Good for u. Get married to a poke that would poke fun and would call u and u r pple toothless bulldogs and cowards. I pity u.

lolzzzzzzzz

[quote author=itstpia8 post=40699524][/quote] lol seriously ...I doubt if u are a Lady tho

[quote author=itstpia8 post=40698654][/quote] lol u are really confirming wat e sed ....ride on

AfroKnight:

Lol. You don't know madam Tpia. Welcome to Nairaland.

I see lol...e b like she get skon skon for head

Cutehector:
The problem is not the groom marryin the bride frm another tribe.. The problem is parents approval.. They be like, i dnt want my son or daughter marryn from this tribe or that tribe... Then slowly, a rift sets in

exactly dats even b4 d marriage ..u can Imagine after marriage ...it becomes shebi I warned u ds and dat ...
dose are d stuffs dat .make it scary... and trust me it takes serious love to keep dem going

rittyben:
Do Yoruba BOY/MEN marry outside their tribe?

But i prefer them to the Igbos. A Yoruba guy hardly string you alone or give you hope of marrying you.
But an Igbo guy can string along only for you to see his wedding card from a friend, while you are still in a relationship with him.

firstly thanks for ur comments ma'am.... secondly a big YES Yoruba men marry outside their tribe.... I no numerous examples.... thirdly I don't think d action of one person shld b used to judge a group of pple its called hasty generalisation..I understand wat u very well wat u mean in connection to ibo men... but plss don't generalize they are not all saints in Yoruba too...I guess u talking from experience tho
lastly where are u from gan *winks *?

achinaboy:
I wonder why culture should be a problem in an intertribal marriages,, if you the man is married to a lady from any culture, automatically,she belongs to your culture,she could teach the kids a little of her own culture, at the end of the day,both the kids and the woman,belongs to the man's. thas all

hmnmmmm ....eye opening ....now I get it ...
thas all...lolzz

enieme:
but all in all. It can work and in fact it has worked for some.

very true ..

enieme:

it'd not even about the children facing problems of which tribe to align with. It's aboutbthe couple themselves dealing with cultural differences.

hmmm very true.. .and I also think dey nid to strike a balance for their kids and also limit d influence of in laws in d marriage

Miadad:
Understanding, tolerance, patience and love are key to intertribal marriages.

tolerance and patience I think dose 2 words are key for me.. .dey will need a lot of it

enieme:
Well, It's goo. And i personally would engage in it if I have d chance to.
Interracial marriages on the other hand may be quite rocky.

dats it oo. ...its dat rocky part dat scares me ......some products of such marriages are always in a fix in which of d tribe to recognised with.... I guess such parents av a lot of work to do

itstpia8:


who are you folks blaming for your choices?

If I choose to do something, I dont keep whining about it all the time, are you not ok with your choice or what?

I have not chosen anything now abi ema gba mi.... did u read d post at all

itstpia8:
why are you folks always in people's faces?

If you are not convinced about your choices whose fault is that?


Mine?

plsss ow dose ds correlate wit d post...

hello guys...I was watching a program on TV about weddings and d groom is Igbo nd d bride Yoruba....
so I began to think do pple still do intertribal marriage in Nigeria and dose it work......

my mind began to race into alot of challenges such marriage brings most especially d 2 tribes in d picture here....
with all d tribal e-war I see on ds forum especially among dose 2 tribes it makes me wonder if dey still marry dem selves d Yoruba bride even confessed are dad was against d marriage at first... so I nid 2 hear ur view concerning it...especially from dose whu are in it or products of it...

P.S:I AM NOT A TRIBALIST... I NID UR ADVICE COS WITH D WAY AM GOING I JUST AV DS SOFT SPOT FOR RESPONSIBLE IGBO GIRLS... TO BE HONEST MOST OF DEM I JST LOVE DERE EYES... I AM A YORUBA BOY.... ND I LOVE D POSITVE TRAITS OF IGBOS ALOT ...THANKS...BEFORE SOME YORUBA PPLE WLD COME FOR MY HEAD PLSS NOTE AM PROUD OF BEING YORUBA ND I MEAN VERY PROUD ND ALSO I LOVE YORUBA WOMEN ALSO... THANKS ONCE AGAIN

cc:lalasticlala ...farano ....

I no some children of darkness wld soon come here to represent d interest of their father....
TOYIN HEAR DS DERE IS NOW NO CONDEMNATION FOR U ARE IN CHRIST (ROM 8:1)...GO ND WALK IN D LIGHT... jst watch som pple won't like ds ...
pple u can never please dem ...john d Baptist came fasting dey said he as a demon ...Jesus came eating dey said he is a glutton... WAT DO U WANT EXACTLY...

azeeza:
Guys this end time rubbish is annoying, una no fit comment make e no be end time. This end time shildren self.

it is annoying abi... what do u call a bread made with yeast from d private part of a womanname question..

mtcheeeeew ...av made up my mind I can't marry a non virgin Lady after I av resisted temptation all ds years and turned down sexual advances ....U WILL NOW COME WITH UR BIG HEAD ND SAY U WANT TO BE A WIFE... definitely not my wife ....A NON VIRGIN MAN CAN MARRY DAT KIND OF LADY...but not me I no where am going and I won't allow one useless Lady truncate it... it seems pple don't no d implications of sex....
u can say am judgemental that's or cup of garri.... shalom

most definitely an endtime mother

WHAT IS MARGINALIZATION?
I pray that no Nigerian tribe, nationality or
ethnic group will experience marginalization.
As I am writing this, there are nations in the
world that know firsthand what
marginalization means in the real sense.
For a student of history, it is difficult to accept
the accusation against Nigeria that Nigeria
has not been fair to the Biafran nation. As I
have said above, the Igbo people and the
Biafran people have occupied every political,
economic and military position in the Nigerian
nation. A fact that should become a thing of
pride for Nigeria is that Nigeria was able to
assimilate the Igbo nation back into the
Nigerian entity faster than most countries in
the world who went through civil war.
In most countries where there has been civil
war, the vanquished are always oppressed and
marginalized for many years after. Usually,
these people groups don’t enjoy the privileges
of equal citizenship for decades after the civil
wars. Even in most of the countries that we
look up to as epitomes of democracy today,
things did not go smoothly with them after
their civil wars.
The country most of us like to refer to the
most as our flagship is the United States of
America. Their civil war ended 150 years ago,
yet even today when you go to the southern
part of America, you still hear them call the
northerners names. That is where the name
Yankee comes from. That is the abusive name
the southerners used to call the northerners.
Even today there are still conflicts, arguments
and debates about the confederate flags in
America 150 years later. Confederacy is what
the southern part of America that lost the war
was called.
So, integrating a nation after a civil war is a
tough process. I have personally been in cities
in the southern parts of America where I have
been told, northerners are not welcome in their
towns and villages. I from Nigeria was
welcomed, but they were not ready to allow
those from the north to come to their land.
Such is the nature of civil wars almost
everywhere, integration and reconciliation is
always a tough process. The same thing
happened after civil wars in Greece, Italy,
Austria, Spain, Nicaragua, Germany, Finland,
Russia, Mexico, China, India, Great Britain,
Argentina, France, etc.
If you study the history of civil wars, you will
discover that Nigeria has become one of the
most successful countries in integrating back
into the nation the secessionists. Can you
believe that immediately after the Nigerian
civil war finished in 1970, instead of the
Federal Government of Nigeria imprisoning or
killing by firing squad all the leadership of
Biafra, who took the nation to war, they rather
forgave them and accepted them back to a
United Nigeria? In the words of the then Head
of State, there was “no victor no vanquished.”
Meaning Nigeria was not going to treat the
Igbo people as a defeated enemy, but as
brothers and sisters. That was a high level of
magnanimosity displayed by the Nigerian
nation.
Moreover, all Biafran people were given a
twenty pounds stipend to start their lives
again. That could be viewed as small or
nothing today, but when you study other
nations where there had been civil war, you
will hardly see or hear of any gesture like that.
I recently read an article written by an Igbo
man in America. He said 40 years ago the
richest Igbo was twenty pounds, while today
they are prominent in the list of the richest
Nigerians. What he was trying to say is that,
this is mainly due to the gifts and business
acumen of the Igbo people. While that is true,
remember what I said above, that it is also
important to have the right environment. They
were only able to attain that height, thanks to
the fact that the Nigerian nation allowed it.
This is normally not the case in countries
where there had been civil wars. When we are
loved, we have the tendency to think that it is
because we are good, but really it is because
those who love us are good.
The Nigerian government did so much to
remove any trace of segregation from all
Nigerian peoples immediately after the civil
war. The Igbo people were quickly absorbed as
part of the Federal government of Nigeria. In
the western part of Nigeria, the properties of
Igbos who left to join Biafra were kept intact
and later returned to them. Soon after the civil
war, the Igbos benefited immensely from the
Udoji award, which was a gesture by the
Federal Republic of Nigeria when the newly
discovered oil money was used to give
Nigerians a financial boost. This provided a
huge lift for all Nigerians and the former
Biafrans in particular.
Just ten years after the civil war, Nigeria did
something that has hardly been recorded in
the history of civil wars in the world. The
Nigerian state decided to forgive the initiator
of the civil war itself, Chief Odumegwu Ojukwu.
He wasn’t just forgiven, he was given political
pardon so much that he could now participate
in the nation’s political process. He was
accepted back as a hero and soon
participated by running for political office.
That is something unfathomable after civil
war. Such individuals were normally
assassinated, their relatives and families
banned into exile for life, if not for generations
to come. Ten years after the civil war, the
second most powerful person in Nigeria was
an Igbo man, the Vice President Dr. Alex
Ekwueme. Hardly will you ever find a more
tolerant approach in the whole world.
Some of my Biafran friends might say, but
since the civil war we have not produced a
President, well if we are talking about the Igbo
people, that is true. But if I were to take sides
with the Biafran agitators who claim that the
South-South is part of Biafra we could say it
has, because the South-South just produced a
President in the person of Goodluck Ebele
Jonathan.
Let’s look at the history of the United States
of America after their civil war. Even in the so-
called most democratic nation of the world, it
took another 80 years for the south who were
defeated in the war to produce a nationally
elected President. This is not counting Andrew
Johnson who replaced the assassinated
Abraham Lincoln. The first person to be
elected nationally was Harry S. Truman 80
years after the war. Of course in Nigeria, I
hope it is not going to take so long, but what
I am trying to say is that there are processes
that have to take place. Nigeria has done
beautifully well in comparison to these
countries that have gone through civil wars.
A LIST OF THINGS THAT HAPPEN IN A
MARGINALIZED SOCIETY.
1. The marginalized group are not allowed to
speak their native languages. Tell me who
stopped the Igbos from speaking their
language?
2. The marginalized group are not allowed to
practice their religion. Are the Igbos not
allowed to practice their religion?
3. A marginalized group are not allowed to
carry out socio-economic activities on the
level of the privileged groups. Are the Igbos
not allowed to carry out socio-economic
activities on the same level as everyone
else?
4. A marginalized group is not given the right
to be actively involved in the political life
of the country. This obviously is not
happening in Nigeria, because the Igbos
have their own governors, they vote for
their governors, the people who rule over
them are of their ethnic groups. Some
people will claim that those who rule over
them came as a result of corruption; well
that happens all over Nigeria, not just
among the Igbos in the Igbo land.
5. In marginalized societies, the marginalized
groups are not allowed to send their
children to school or receive higher
education, I don’t believe this is happening
in Nigeria. In that sense, only the poor
people are marginalized in Nigeria; since
the Igbo people control the economy, they
are surely not marginalized.
6. In marginalized societies, the discriminated
groups are not allowed to intermarry with
the privileged groups, we simply don’t have
that in Nigeria. As I have mentioned above,
even my family is intermarried with Igbo
people. My nephew who is like a twin
brother to me, married an Igbo girl and
paid the full bride price or dowry as the
case may be.
7. Marginalized people are not allowed to
have a voice in the mass media:
newspapers, television or radio. Igbos don’t
just have that right in their own state, but
even in most of the other states in Nigeria
where the majority are not Igbos. Igbos are
allowed to have their voice in the media all
over Nigeria. I am not saying there are no
cases of marginalization here and there,
but this will be in individual cases not a
systematized thing in the federal
government of Nigeria against the Igbo
people.
If we are to look at a list of marginalized
people groups in our world today, we will see
that we cannot compare what these people are
going through to what the Igbos are enjoying
in the Nigerian nation.
WHO ARE THE MARGINALIZED PEOPLE IN OUR
WORLD TODAY?
1. THE KURDISH PEOPLE
A study into the Kurdish people will reveal to
us what it means to be marginalized. These
people are said to be largely marginalized in
the true sense of the word in countries like
Iraq, Turkey, Syria, etc. Despite the fact that it
is well known that they are hugely deprived
and oppressed, still they cannot break away
from those countries to get their own nation.
In spite of the fact that the whole world knows
about their plight, no one country is willing to
risk the benefit of cooperation with the
existing countries to officially take the side of
the Kurdish people. Friends, it is not easy to
break away from a recognized state even in
the case of oppression, much less when it is
difficult to prove such cases.
2. THE PALESTINIAN PEOPLE
Thanks to mass media and worldwide
television networks, everybody is pretty aware
of the plight of the Palestinian people. As
much as we love and support Israel, we cannot
deny the fact that the Palestinian people are a
marginalized group of people. Contrary to the
belief of many, the Palestinians are not only
marginalized by Israel, they are also
marginalized in the Arab countries as well.
They are marginalized in countries like Jordan,
Syria, Lebanon, Egypt, etc. The level and
stages of marginalization of the Palestinian
people varies from one place to the other. It is
impossible to say that in Nigeria, the Igbo
people are as deprived as the Palestinian
people.
3. THE TUTSI PEOPLE
We have all heard of the tragedy of Rwanda,
where the Hutu nation committed a huge
genocide against the Tutsi people. Most of the
world talk about how wicked the Hutu people
were to have murdered about a million Tutsis
in a matter of days, but hardly do we ever
question what it is that led to it. Well, what
led to it is the story of marginalization. The
Tutsis have always been the privileged few in
the nations of Rwanda as well as Burundi. The
massacre, therefore was an expression of the
dissatisfaction with the form of
marginalization, which had been practiced for
years against the Hutu people. We all know
how this ended. May God never allow us in
Nigeria to experience what marginalization
really means.
4. THE PEOPLE OF SOUTH SUDAN
The latest country to have gained
independence in the continent of Africa is
South Sudan. They fought hard and long for
this privilege. They really knew what
marginalization meant in the nation of Sudan.
As black people, being significantly different
from the Arab majority of Sudan, they were
hugely marginalized and deprived. In their
case, South Sudanese people will testify to you
that all the factors of marginalization that
were listed above were experienced by them.
Needless to say, that situation led them to
agitate for an independent state. It led to a
protracted war lasting for over 30 years, before
the international community agreed with them
that they needed independence.
I am not sure the Igbo people want to forfeit
all the privileges and opportunities they have
now, to engage in a protracted war with the
rest of Nigeria or any other nation. Peace is
more important! This should be known better
by the Igbo people who lost close to a million
lives in the Biafra war. According to the words
of the man who led that war, Chief Odumegwu
Ojukwu, “it will be foolish of anyone to try to
start another war, there is no need for it.”
That is what Ojukwu said before he departed
from this world.
5. THE KOSOVO PEOPLE
The name Slobodan Milosevic has become
synonymous with evil, thanks to the world
television networks. He managed to earn that
vicious title due to his treatment of the
Kosovo people. Kosovans will tell you what
marginalization means. It is true that Kosovo
is now a semi-independent state, but they too
will tell you how many lives were lost, and
other losses they incurred before the world
managed to pay attention to their plight.
Even today, not all countries have recognized
Kosovo as an independent state. Hundreds of
thousands of lives were sacrificed, yet they are
still unable to enjoy their dream of a
prosperous independent state. The man
behind their suffering is the name I mentioned
above; Slobodan Milosevic – The strong man
of Serbia.
Unlike Serbia though, there is no overly
dominating and controlling tribe in Nigeria, as
was the case in Rwanda, Serbia, Yugoslavia,
or even in Russia. The three main tribes in
Nigeria are almost all equally balanced.
6. THE BLACK SOUTH AFRICANS
Without going far, it is easy for every African
to associate marginalization with apartheid,
when the black people of South Africa were
largely marginalized in their own country. In
spite of the obvious injustice of that regime, it
took about 40 years of struggle before they
could be recognized by the whole world as
freedom fighters. As blatant as apartheid was,
the countries of the world, especially
developed western countries, did not support
the armed resistance of the South African
black majority. Nelson Mandela had to
sacrifice 27 years of his life in prison before
the world would grant the South African
people their dream of equal rights.
I am sorry my dear Biafrans, what proofs and
facts of marginalization can the Igbo people
produce against Nigeria to justify their
recognition by the international community as
an independent state? It is virtually
impossible in our modern world today.
7. THE PEOPLE OF ERITREA
Let’s go to the country of Eritrea and they will
tell you how many lives they had to sacrifice
before they could gain their right to
independence. Beside the wars and damages
that these people have had to endure, their
struggle and campaign for independence
lasted for years. I mean years of fighting,
killing, bombing, shelling and destructions.
Even after the war was over, they had to
agonizingly endure decades of reconstruction.
A Yoruba proverb says “it is only those that
have not lived to see a war that dream about
one.” I am not sure that the Biafran nation or
the Igbo people are ready for another war that
could cost them the very existence of their
people.
THE HIGH PRICE OF INDEPENDENCE
Apart from these seven people groups that
have been mentioned above, too many other
people groups in their hundreds are struggling
and clamoring on a daily basis for an
independent nation even as we speak. If a
detailed list were made, such people groups
might run into a thousand. Can you imagine a
thousand new countries emerging in our world
today? It’s just not possible, they will not be
recognized. It is going to create chaos and
confusion.
Let’s have a quick look at some people groups
that are agitating for their recognition or
independence in our world today.
1. In Ukraine where I live, the eastern part of
the country is agitating for independence
with countless thousands of casualties
already.
1. In Russia, the Chechen people, have been
involved in two wars, yet they can’t get
away.
2. In Afghanistan, the Taliban wants to build
their own caliphate of Islamic state.
3. In Armenia, the Nagorno-karabakh people
want their own recognition.
4. In Cameroon, the English speaking people
have been struggling for years to have the
same equal rights as the French speaking
people. Some of them have been forced
into exile, yet it has not been possible.
5. In Kenya, tribes have fought and spilled
blood, yet no country has sided with any
one of them to become independent.
6. In Great Britain, Northern Ireland has
waged guerrilla war for years and still they
could not get their full independence.
7. In Congo, part of the nation wanted to
control their mineral resources, other
foreign governments have only exploited
them.
8. In Cyprus, the northern part of the country
has been struggling for years, still they are
not recognized as an independent nation.
9. In France, Guadeloupe and Basque have
been fighting for years to be free and yet it
is not easy to get their full independence.
10. In the Philippines, the Filipino guerillas
have been living in the jungle for ages and
they have not been able to build either
their Marxist or Muslim nation.
11. In Sri Lanka, the Tamil Tigers have dreamt
about independence but it has not been
easy coming.
12. In Turkey, the Kurdish people have dreamt
of building Kurdistan. They have fought for
it, yet to no avail.
13. In Spain, the Basque nation has fought for
their independence for years, still it is not
coming.
14. In Mauritania, the minorities have been
complaining of oppression, but no help and
understanding has come from the bigger
nations of the world.
What more can I say? A word is enough for
the wise…
aource: www.sundayadelajablog.com/archives/4008

abasha

off point it doesn't even corelate

d 3rd world war will be a RELIGOUS WAR....watch out ..brace or selves

endtime stabbing

he he...some were photoshoped

ds man again

awwww such cuties

now ds is getting interesting

iyawo mi -timi dakolo..... not married yet buh I feel vibes nytime I hear dat song...

booked

IamLucy:
they both fake asses

exactly wat I wanted 2 say.....dey look lyk experimented dolls.... just 2 fake for crying out loud