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nanaman:
Op, it is not spiritual but you are dealing with a/some personal feeling which is affecting your mood swing and if care is not taken,you will find yourself in Lambo Unit (for those who know).

Let me ask you few questions... What happened to your first boyfriend. He jilted or you did? If he jilted, you are yet to forget about what happened and if you did,you are still regretting. Either ways,you have to deal with it in a mature way. 23yrs is not too young to deal with issues like this however if you find it hard,I'd advice you see a social worker or counsellor. Do this, please.

Your parents,are they still living together or you were brought up by a single parent? Your answer will determine my response
Is any of your siblings married? If yes, still married or divorced/separated?

I'm checking your relationship background because that is where the problem will certainly lie. You are still trying to let go of your past and move on forgetting it would continue to hurt you. Read more on mood disorders (such as depression or bipolar disorder)

Thanks
My mum is late and I was raised by my dad alone who is hardly around....so I grew up alone since my elder sis wasn't living with us....
Am used to being alone and I love my privacy.

I found out my second bf was cheating on me and we broke up....it was barely a month after that I met my current bf but now am irritated by him cuz I don't have my privacy anymore....
I just want to be alone but I don't want to hurt him either..

Hi everyone,
I'm 23 yrs and currently running my HND program.
I have a bf and we have been dating for almost a year.

We do almost everything together and we see each other every single day...
But now am irritated by him.

He comes to my hostel from his office everyday but now seeing him irritates me the more.
I just want a break but I don't want to hurt him.
This isn't the first time its happening to me,
I've had two boyfriends before I met my new bf and same thing happened with them.

Its just like I meet a guy I like..,we love each other and I get excited and then few months later I get irritated by them....

I told my elder sis about it and she dragged me to church saying I have spiritual problems but that's not the issue....

Sometimes I just want my time alone but my bf doesn't seem to understand that.
Have tried to ignore him and all but he doesn't get the message am passing........
He wants me to meet his mum but have been giving him excuses....

I don't know why I feel like this with only the guys I date cuz I don't feel that way with my friends and family in fact I want to be with them everyday but its different in my relationships...
I want to end things with my boyfriend without hurting him cuz I can't keep acting and I can't keep wasting his time.

I think I have a problem and I don't know what to do.
I don't want this to affect me when I get married cuz there won't be a break in marriage...
Pls kindly advice
Thanks