I no get advice for you cos you messed up! U should have cleaned up your path before the arrival of your wife. U got drunk again and your fone no dey lock?? That's the 2nd ef-up!

The third one, which shoulda been the first, why the recordings? The sex was so sweet so much that u allowed her to reford u and u didn't think that was gonna haunt u later? Oga, make your wife leave u na em be thee best option.. you really messed up the brotherhood.

No need to go for DNA.. it's a total waste of time and money. It's so glaring, that girl isnt yours. You're the side husband. The main husband is the one u referred to as EX. if were u, that marriage is over! She should go to him. Sorry man, you've got to look for a way to start all over again. That woman isn't yours.

Ode oshi, reaching out to his wife that what?
He even still gave u 1 million. A woof don sweet your belle so tey u wan scatter him family join. Aunty go and siddan and leave the man alone. He's tried for u.

CSBN:
I need your advice on how to pay this man back. I am 30 years old now, I started dating this married man 4 years ago when I was 26, at first he told me that he was divorced, so that was the more reason why I accepted him. About two years later, I found out that he was still with his wife.

So, I confronted him, but he apologized with an iPhone 13 and promised not to let his wife know about our affair. This man has been really helpful to me, he takes care of all my needs. All this while he begged me not to date anybody apart from him, that he will provide everything that other men will give me.

Although, he has kept to his words. I don't lack anything at all. But something happened recently, and I cried my eyes out. Last weekend when he came over to my place, that was when he told me his intention to relocate outside Nigeria with his family permanently, their papers are ready, and I need to move on with my life, and look for a man because he wouldn't want his attention to be divided anymore, he needs to focus on his family. These were his words to me. After that, he sent me one million naira as a payoff.

I feel really hurt because all these years I never dated anyone else not even a single male friend. Where do I start from to start looking for a boyfriend that will take me seriously? Baba, I feel used, I was very very faithful to him...

I am thinking of reaching out to his wife because I took her number from his phone long ago. Or use a parody account to chat her up on Facebook.

What do you think?

Please what do I do?

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I can't let it slide. Even my younger is very older than these guys [/quote] leave the school for them then if u cannot let it slide. Who old age help?

I'll phuck 3 times first, then we can reason dating.. if dating goes well, I fit marry her.
But u see that 3-times phucking, that has to take place so I can confirm wetin dey my mind.

Infolenka:
This girl has a unique physique. Rate her on a scale of 1 - 10.

Would you date, fuçk or marry her?

You don dey get sense

Auxtan:
If you intend marrying a descent girl and you currently have a descent girl with you but because one small issue you want to breakup with her, my bro abeg think twice.

Finding a descent girl is now as hard as you could imagine. Rather than breakup with your girl, settle whatever the issue amicably. As long as is not cheating.

Sometimes we only realise the value of what we have after we lose it.

One habit I am learning now is to know how to talk issues out amicably rather jumping into decisions that will cause me pain after.

Bradford111:
I’m in this kind of situation now my girlfriend fbcked someone just 2 weeks after we had a misunderstanding and break up please what should I do and I want her back

where these kinda boys dey come out from?? Go beg her na. Mumu.

Nonsense. We're u not the one that ended the relationship? If u loved her so much, why then did u end it? Advice wey u nog for give yourself, u come here dey give people. Dey there dey find girl wey go be like wetin u break up with.. later u go come here with complains of how she sef carry entitlement mentality dey Waka. Yeye guy.

Auxtan:
It's been 3 months already since I ended my relationship of almost 4 years.

Prior to the break up, I was planning to marry her this December or latest next year.

Somehow, I couldn't take her over entitlement issues anymore, had always tolerated this but suddenly my guns were out and I ended my good relationship with a girl I loved so much.

Now this is the problem I am facing now, been looking to get into another relationship because I can't stop thinking about my Ex.

She called a couple of times but finally moved on with another guy. Obviously a very lucky guy I must be honest.

My problem is that, I keep looking to see if a potential girl have the same characteristics as my ex. I loved my ex so so much.

This looking and looking has really affected my decisions of proposing to one.

I am even thinking of doing fasting and prayer before choosing my next, because my next will probably be proposed to for marriage. I also don't have time for an extended relationship again.

My advice to guys, no matter what the plan is, remain just friends with a girl you love and don't do an extended years relationship. Whether you are redpill, you will so much miss her like I am missing mine when it is over.

I am even on therapy now to forget this girl. Is like a juju on me.

Now he seems petty cos he asked her to transfer back her part of the payment as agreed.. what if he hadn't gone ahead to make full payment, would she not have been embarrassed? Alot of them out there love free food. To spend their money is always a problem. Entitlement oshi!

Five men have chopped the kpekus and ran away, now u want to go back to your husband when there's nothing left to chop in the pkekus again.. ask yourself, are u not being wicked He deserves a kpekus that's still full of life, not the one that's been finished.

argent412:
I divorced my husband out of group influence last year in 2023. I started working as a nurse, and my friends told me that I could do without a man. So I got motivated by my friends and left my husband. As I'm talking to you, two of my friends who advised me to leave my marriage got married recently. I feel lonely and I can't find another man. So far, I have dated five men, and they just sleep with me and go. These men despite dating me they never respected me owing to fact that I'm not that attractive cos I'm in my thirties. One of my boyfriend got married to a young girl recently leaving me heartbroken. I'm tired and I need to be in my house with my loving husband. My actions were out of immaturity and wrong advice from evil friends.

I realised my mistakes. How can I convince him to allow me back? How can I persuade my husband? Advise me please 🙏
#Grace_Empire

This is simple now.. it means your mother didn't help her!

mamagee3:
Hi all, my female cousin was giving shout outs to family members who helped her during her graduation but she did not mention my mother’s name.

What does that mean?

Rowllland:
I am 32 years old, I am the eldest among my siblings (2 boys, 2 girls), My younger brother (2nd born) just travelled to the U.K as at November last year, my younger sister (3rd born) just graduated from the University and waiting to be mobilized for nysc while our last born is still in school.
@32 I still live with my parents, I lost my job for the past one year, things have really been tough for me to the point where I can’t pay my rent, I have to come back to my parent’s house to stay.

Since I started living with my parent, I get lot of disrespect from my younger sister (3rd born) whom I senior with 9 good years, my parent always take her sides whenever she disrespects me. There are some of her behaviors I can’t even type here. They have suddenly forgotten how much I cared for them when things were going well for me.

Yesterday evening 6pm, I noticed she was cooking noodles for herself in the kitchen and I gently told her since there is soup in the fridge why not make Eba for everyone to eat.. in her response she said: she’s tired o. I kept mute, then I said ok just place the water on the fire I’ll make the Eba myself.
After few minutes she was done eating her noodles I asked her if the water was ready and she said she hasn’t boiled the water as she frowns at me,.. out of anger I landed her 2 hot slaps on her face… she ran to her room, locked the door and started crying, she hurriedly called my younger brother in U.K and started reporting me to him, I could hear her crying loud and telling him many gibberish. Even reported me to our last born who is in school.

She remained in her room until my parent came back from church around 8pm, immediately she heard their voice, she came out from her room, flared up and started crying endlessly, talking down on me, she told my parent I beat her up mercilessly, she said I injured her in her mouth and she has been spitting out blood from her mouth… I remained silent as my parent yells at me.

I regretted hitting her, I have never hit a lady in my life. I wanted to even apologize to her but on a second thought I said No becus she don’t greet me anymore.

let me encourage u with this long story of mine; we are 6. 5 boys and a girl. The girl is the last born, while I am the third; this means i have 2 boys Infront of me, and 2 behind. U see those 2 behind, especially the one that comes immediately after me, they lack respect. Sometimes ago, one of my elder bros was staying Abuja, the other one got a job with Vmobile, got an apartment, nad asked me to move in with him which I did, around 2007/08. By 2010 when Vmobile turned to ZAIN, he was moved to Abuja and as then I wasn't stable financial cos I just got myself settled with all the wahala I faced trying to graduate, so I had to move back to my parents house as i could not keep up with the rent. At my parents house I saw hell. Younger brothers were preferred cos they were bring in more money then.. Omo, it wasn't easy for me but I tried my best in keeping cool and looking for a way to better my life, thanks to my elder brothers cos then they tried for me, they understood my situation better.. 2012 my immediate younger bruv got married. In my parents eyes, he became the eldest son in Lagos, I was relegated cos they saw him as being responsible. In all of this, I kept going on managing my life and hoping things would turn my way someday. Lemme also add that when he was getting married I did everything in my power to support him, not minding what people, especially family people would say.. on the wedding night, he brought his wife and the both thanked me for everything and all the supports. All I could utter then was,"I'll do anything for family" no matter what.

2016 God answered me! Got my own place, got married and life became bearable.. my parents, especially my mother that was always on my neck, that relegated, that wouldnt see anything good i did no matter hard i tried, now became my number one supporter... As I write, she's here at my place with my kids. She would stay 2 weeks without coming down. She reports my two younger brothers to me now and always come to me for solutions whenever they're in one sheet or the other.. I am not proud, just thankful. The rejected stone is now the chief of the corner.. not that I get money oh, but I am not poor and God has helped my life with wisdom to navigate life.. my elder brothers in Abuja are like my best friend, them no dey joke with me. All na God shaaaa...

So my bruv, your time will come. Things would begin to take shape for you very soon and you'd wonder how God did it. Just keep calm, be prayerful, always ask for wisdom, and don't let your condition get the best of you. I could go on and on, story yapa!. I go dey continue the gist later. Peace.

olajos10:
My girlfriend believes she isn't good enough for me and thinks I deserve someone better. She owns a fashion design business, which I support in every possible way to help her brand grow. Although I'm not financially stable at the moment, I provide moral support and contribute my skills as a graphic designer and photographer to promote her brand.

Recently, she suggested we take a break because she doesn't want to burden me anymore. She even mentioned that if I find someone better during the break, I should move on.

I confronted her to understand her reasons, especially since I've never complained about supporting her or feeling stressed. Her response was, "You don't have to, because I don't want to be callous."

I don't know what to do now.

let me tell u what to do.. bounce! Shes left you. Your chapter in her life has come to an end, and she needs to focus on the next chapter which shes opened.. move on bro.. thats wussup.

Why do u want to deal with the guy? I don't think he did anything wrong. You're not married to the lady yet, had it been he maded passes to your wife, I would have supported your wanting to deal with him. Your girl was not forced or coarsed, he made a pass and she accepted, no big deal . I think you should be more concerned about yourself.. if she'd respected you enough, she wouldn't have fall for the guy. May b there's something uour not doing right, who knows. In all, I like the fact that u didn't waste time in cutting her off. With time the one that'll respect u will locate u.

uzomakanaki:
Good day Nairalanders.

What could make a lady date her fiancee's colleague? I'm done with ladies for now. This a bad experience.

I got a job for my now ex fiancee in the organisation where I work. We dated for 2 years. She was posted to a different branch office not far from mine.

A year on the job I began hearing rumours that she's going out with a senior colleague of mine in the same office with me. Those that I heard it from didn't know we were dating.

I confronted her and she denied it. I was not comfortable with her response, and one day she came to spend the weekend with me, I decided to go through her chat, I could not believe what I saw in her chat with this guy in question.

They've gone far to the extent of having sex with themselves which was said in the chat.

The next morning I confronted her with evidences of what I saw in her chat with my colleague, she became furious that I had no right to check her chat, with no sign of remorse. I was broken and at that point ended the relationship.

I've requested for a transfer out of that branch, cos I want to deal with this guy. Cos he's fully aware we were dating and have met us on different occasion outside.

Since the break up with my ex, he has been avoiding me in the office.

I never saw a dirty attitude in her at the early stage of our relationship, I never knew I was ready to marry a full blown LovePeddler who's looking for a platform to sell herself.

But for the guy I'll deal with him.

LOOL!!! them take 6.7billion feed for fasting period; when fast come end nko, how much them go take feed? Chaiiii konidafun govt yioo

Shebi it's just online and it's not as if he's slept with any of these people.. if. U leave him, then he'd have the chance to bring one off them in and replace u with. If u love him like he loves u, sty with him and grow together. These things he'll surely drop later .

Ojoro!!!!

She said you're "special" like those special kids that needs to be pitied and be attended to. Lol. That your girlfriend don see u finish.
Please for old skool sake, abeg what's ONS?

zyze:
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So my gf and I have been together for about half a year and I just started a new job. I met this male co-worker, and we became friends. I invited him over to my place and he recognised my gf, (We don't officially live together but she spends a lot of time at my place).

You can guess where this is going...

After my co-worker left, my gf and I got to talking. She slept with him within our first month of dating and made me wait. She said that our relationship was gonna be special, and she wanted to wait, and that sex with my co-worker was just a ONS.

Maybe, I should have clarified with her if we were exclusive or not.

I told her to leave because I knew I was gonna say things I couldn't take back. A few days later after I calmed down and thought it through, I broke up with her.

She kept repeating what she said about how she wanted more with me, but I told her that I felt like I was not attractive to her, or at least not as much as others. She kept saying that I was special. I said that I couldn't be that special if she preferred to sleep with an ONS than me.

Na wa!

Baba u get money, so what are u doing not picking girls outside? We wey no dey make reach 7 figures sef no fit siddan like u. My wife is not as terrible as yours, but she sef sabi give excuses when it comes to sex. Na by force I dey take get action 1nce every 10 days, so I decided I must look for a way to cut shows outside just for my own sanity. No sex without protection for me ooo cos I no like anything wey be disease. Bros, get protection and help yourself outside. She's not gonna change even if u make 10 million a week.

tonye33:
Hi Dickson,
I have seen your messages about wife denying husband sex and I must confess that mine is epic. I dated my wife for 4 years before marriage. After the first 2yrs of dating, she put a stop to our sex and said she felt guilt and all, I accepted because I have dated 2 girls previously with sex, so it wasn't a new deal.

She is 2yrs older than me, I was younger and naïve, cos knowing what I know now, I wouldn't have done a lot of things.

After marriage, she opened up to me that she has never enjoyed me cos I was huge, last more than 30mins and thrusts faster. I felt bad, started developing anxiety towards sex cos I was always thinking whether I was injuring her, she was enjoying it, or I will finish fast so she doesn't get angry cos she s hot tempered, can even get very very angry even during sex.

Additionally, she cancelled all sex position because she said they were painful, only one position and its with her lying straight on her belly, or at most by her side. Anything that will make her raise any part of her body was painful, doggy was totally out of the way, and all these were never raised during our dating period.

Any other position you attempt will make that night miserable because she will just be angry and asking every 5secs if you are not cumming.
Something that was supposed to be fun ends up being a task. I wanted to meet her halfway and that was my huge mistake. I changed all my strategy and then I started losing my erections and most times I won't even be able to get one, and then her complaint changed that I was falling even in the act and that she was not enjoying me again cos i no longer thrust fast.

Infact eeh........... I knew what the problem was, topped my game and we went back to square 1. The monthly count was like 7 or 8 times then as newly married couple while targeting conception. The moment she conception. The moment she took in, she locked up till the baby was in the 5th month. Infact the 9 months preg period was like 6 times only with curses, different conditions and rules before she will agree. I just managed the little wey i see. Mind you, we live peacefully, communicate almost every time, greet with kisses, pet names, dine and even play games but no sex.

She is a full housewife and I earn 7 figures monthly. After our first baby, I begged for sex for 7 months and anytime I bring up the sex, it was followed with blackmail, anger, back talks and even silence. On the 8th month, the rule was "it must be with protection", I obliged. By the 9th
month, which was the 5th time, she took in again. Almost same thing like the first preg period.

After second delivery, I decided not to demand and just observe her. Bro, we stayed 1year living in the same house without sex as couple. I work from home, so I was always around. I have househelps that does practically everything at home, except mixing food. Yes, I the same house without sex as couple. I work from home, so I was always around. I have househelps that does practically everything at home, except mixing food. Yes, I used mixing because they prepare everything needed to make food. I do the monthly shopping and even take care of the baby at night after working several hours during the day ooo, I support her to the best of my knowledge and still don't know why.......I just feel shedoesnt love me and not attractedto me, probably i was just the available status changer, because how can a woman stay in the same house with someone she loves and never feel the need to go intimate?

I bumped into an ex and she suggested that I act like I was seeing someone, I then started living the house every evening and most times will drive to a car wash and stay for like 3 hours before coming home, and it didn't change anything, instead she became irate.

This year, I have not even had it up to 10times with her for a marriage of 5yrs. Its really crazy.

Op, wetin u sef dey do with woman wey no fine? Is it that you're afraid of being with a beautiful lady so other men wouldn't be looking at her? I think your mind is the problem here.

Nonsense! Dey there dey ask question wey u already know the answer. Better go look for another babe. This time, not the one wey another guy been dey take care of cos na number 2 u go still be.

U nor dey feel d heat wey dey this country presently?

Antwan99:
I need opinion poll over the kuchi. If knack is NOT more, I'll NOT shine the kuchi after Naija match.

na free coochie.. Cho and clean mouth.. and if its sweet enough, continue to dey chop the coochie oh. No do like your guy. Hes not real enough. Him dey form cos change still dey him hand.

Your guy dey form Bruce Lee, meanwhile, u go nack finish now him go begin vex but he wint show it easily. And as sharp as em dey, him no know sey girl wey still dey uni na boys babes? Them gi help am chop d girl well him eye go clear. Help me tell am sorry in advance.

Antwan99:
My guy knacked this girl last month. One thing about him, he doesn't repeat knacking with a girl. Now the girl wants me to knack her. She is not my friend's girlfriend. My guy has a girlfriend he has engaged but she is far away in a university. Just that my guy is always too ho.rny, as such, knacks uncontrollably, different girls per week without repeating any of them except the vj is tighter. All the green lights, I've seen from this girl. Should I not knack?

Even as I am reading this little note, I want sex.

Stephen2324:
MEN AND SEX

Believe it or not women find it difficult to understand the reason why men love sex.

* If they want to help you, they will demand for sex.
* If they say they love you, they want sex.
* You mistakenly sleep over, they want sex.
* They want to borrow money from you, they want sex.
* They want to give you a job, they want sex.
* They want to give you a pass in your exams, they want sex.

First of all, you need to understand the system of men. They didn't ask for that because they didn't create themselves.

Do you know that 95% of healthy men wake up with an erection? Did they bargain for that? No!
Do you know that the penis has a mind of its own?

A man could be reading his Bible and his penis will just stand.
A man can be sleeping and wakes up with an erection.
A man could be sleeping, once you start rubbing the penis, it
stands even when he is still asleep.

Have you ever asked yourself why men are not on periods, cramps or any bad moods? That's how God created them.
A man is naturally always ready for sex. Rub a man on his head, he already thinks you want sex.
Wink at him, he's already seeing you naked.
Wave at a man walking with his wife, he will loose focus.

This is nothing spiritual. It's not about, "ln Jesus Name or Holy
Ghost Fire".

That's why real churches do not allow ladies with short dresses to sit in front, because they will confuse the Pastor.
Men did not manufacture the high libido by themselves.

We are all created in God's image. The only man that overcame the sexual urge according to the good book was Jesus Christ. Joseph's own was that, he didn't just ran away,
he fled!! Jesus is Lord and on top of that, He was very careful not to include a woman among His disciples.

So many great men have fallen because of sex. Do you think they wanted to?

Soldiers in the war front will develop the urge for sex. To show you how bad it is, so many soldiers were killed during
wars because a woman lured them inside bush.

Sorry bro, it's really a painful one. But we don talk this thing tire for here, dating a girl and taking of her needs while she's still in school is a very risky investment. It's like you're cultivating the farm for another to come harvest the crops. You don learn, no do ma again. School boys no dey allow school girls rest. Na very few dey keep to wateva dey have outside school, very few. Back in d days we nor dey pity the boys/men wey dey date Dem wen e be sey na we dey with them for campus. There was dis girl wey I dey see den, we go dey back, her Bobo go call from UK and she go still pick. All the provisions na chop wey chop ma together nad na the guy dey pay. I don't even know if they ended up together, wetin concern person like me. Unknowingly to u, you dey follow dey take care of the school boyfriend join. No try am again abeg. Find working class date make your mind rest. The risk is too much.

Greattestman:
I have been with my girl for three years now ..was planning to get her engaged in a few months time when I experienced the shocking discovery of my lifetime..I still can't believe it but it's true. I gave my girlfriend 💯 percent trust and took care of her needs. She's in her final year in the University and I paid her tuition for the last two semesters. I paid for her rent and made sure she never lacked what to eat. In addition to this I give her monthly allowance. Last week I decided to visit her uninformed so I came around 11pm and knocked. She asked from inside who was there but I didn't respond. I heard the voice of a guy inside telling her to check maybe it's one of her neighbors. When she opened she was shocked to see me and it was obvious that she felt like disappearing. This lady was asking with a stern voice why I came in such an odd hour but I declined to respond to that all I did was making my way inside the room but she was blocking me. She has never done so but I know why she's doing this today so I asked why she don't want me to enter, she said she had her clothes stained with menstrual blood sorted out to be washed. I insisted she must bring them out so I will access the room but she was silent. I forcibly pushed in and the guy was right in the bed I bought for her. I just greeted him, looked at her with grave heartbreak and disappointment on my face. She has been calling begging and has been messaging me but I didn't respond. It's over between us. Relationship is only for the strong.

Iffa be u, I no go block her oh. I go arrange how we meet then continue the shagging secretly. Na sense she no get nah.. I go teach am noni.

DSS1335:
Just move on bcs there is nothing you can do about it.

This reminds me during my youthful years immediately after NYSC in 2008. My girlfriend back then whom I have decided to settle down with left me after intense quarreling saying she can't marry a firstborn, that I was too chubby and fair in complexion. That she wanted a dark complexion man that is slim...immediately she left two other beautiful damsel fought to take her place and one of them eventually became my wife today. She has been stalking me on all social media platforms and keep blocking her. Its a pity she would be 40 yrs old April this year and unmarried

TheBrotherhood:
Please give him a good advice 👇

i sabi that girl for bangbros.com. na ashana your friend wan marry oooo

jsp0:
she cheat on me and i told her not to call me again last week

since days now i can't stop thinking about her, I have even lose appetite a bit,i just can't get her out of my mind

although i have cheated on her wit her friend b4 and i begged her


I don't have the courage to woo girl

i can't stop thinking about her should i continue the no contact rule maybe she will call me to beg or i should rather call her, please

see rubbish wey u type. Beg her now. Na beg u go dey beg till d end of days.

Different strokes for different folks. I really don't like leg chains, it's No No for me, but I love waist beads, and I made my madam wear them beads cos it's 'head Turner' for me.

The leg chains in the picture above looks sweet and welcoming, but hey, i dont want them on my woman.

The husband to be shoulda known what the parents like/dislike before taking her home. It's possible he likes them on her, but just for the sake of the parents, he should have asked her to take them off, receive approval and go back home to wearing them chains after the whole matter. Na sense we need jare.

This body count sef, I really don't understand. Let's say fir example, if u had sex with a lady 10 times before moving on to the next, is your body count 10 or 1?

Na today Una don dey do that wan? Even married women deny their husbands sex if it happens that they lost their jobs. Well, it's not a general thingie. Some women still get sense pss the others.

Wimkeh:
When a girl denies you sex, by men’s standard, you’re supposed to deny them money and also attention.

But what happens when you go broke and can’t provide for your babe. Is it okay if she denies you only sex?

Na naija we dey where fairness doesn't exist. Once u get godfather, u can do as u like. But we don forget sey some of us get God the father.