Some men were given birth to like that.

Your girlfriend na area girl. Make she go mushin go find boyfriend wey go dey throw tantrums.

As for your brother, you go gats dey very careful. Him no like you. Take my words, and do good with them.

You're sensible and knowledgeable, nice one. That other guy just dey spew thrash. Conte hate Nigeria yen yen yen. Nonsense.

Zonefree:

That's not true.

Victor Moses was Conte's talisman during his time in Chelsea. Conte brought the best in him.

So, stop saying Conte hates Nigeria.


Osimhen already wants out in Napoli, there's no way Conte will include him in his plan, the reason he went for Lukaku.

She wey born for Alhaji and left the man to be paying school fees and all, she go go free,abi? If a woman scorned try rubbish, she go collect better beating.. if she continues to dey look for wetin no lost, na waste them go waste am. Una go just dey give woman power wey Dem no get. Who dash monkey banana? Any woman wey do anyhow go see anyhow. Yeye people.

Las las, the man and the woman no try. E go sey them divorce.. can't imagine the level of toxicity in their marriage. Tueh.

Wawelexy:



Na true ooo, because he said for years he had been thinking he was sleeping with his daughter, which means he started having carnal knowledge with her when she was a minor... And nothing is more dangerous than a scorned woman... she will follow up with the case and make sure he ended up in jail to get back at him.... She's already a wounded Lion after the man's revelation, she will put all she has to take back the lead of the scores they are settling....

As a man, try everything possible not to get into the trap of a pained/scornful woman, if you mistakenly do, you are a goner

There's nothing handle. Break that shit off!!

Sorry for your ordeal, but I'll be u. He never was there for u for the 25yrs that you've been married, and yet you provided him with 4kids. Na wa. Right from the time that he almost ended the marriage cos u wanted to come be with him in Lagos, u should have ended the marriage and go your way.

LoveUdie:
I've been married for 25 years.

My husband and I never lived together under the same roof all these years.

I lived in the South East and worked there before marriage.

After marriage, I offered to resign from my job and join him in Lagos but he rejected the idea.

He said our family needed more financial support from my job.

My Mother and Mother-in-law advised me not to resign from my job and I believe they saw the future.

I also never visited him in Lagos where he resided and worked.

The only time I attempted to visit him in Lagos led to a rift between us.

He threatened to end the marriage and our families had to get involved to resolve the misunderstanding.

He only visited when he liked and that was when it was time for another baby.

We have 4 children together.

Now 25 years later my husband has retired from his job and has moved back to the South East.

The problem is that we live like strangers.

I don't know him and we have no relationship.

We just spent about 1 week together during each of his visits.

He could be gone for over a year without visiting.

The major issue is that I feel a deep sense of resentment for him.

He returned expecting everything to be all lovey-dovey but he is unrealistic.

We never had any conversations, our relationship was so official.

I never enjoyed the marriage which is the main reason for my resentment.

I got married majorly for companionship but I found myself alone like a single woman for 25 years.

If only I knew this was what he had to offer I never would have married him.

Not only did I not have companionship, I hustled like a single mother for 25 years.

My husband never provided any financial support.

At the beginning he kept playing me around each time I asked for money.

After a while he couldn't play around anymore he told me how he didn't live in the apartment so why should he pay for it?

He said the same thing about food and other needs.

I couldn't believe it.

After a heated showdown, his Mother and my Mother had a heart-to-heart talk with me, telling me to take care of my needs as I could.

I also had to cater to our children's needs after he kept dragging his feet.

I felt like I married myself.

I had a husband yet I was hustling like I was a single Mother.

I felt so much resentment towards him.

After the birth of our fourth child, I stopped communicating with him.

He never communicated, we only talked once I called him.

Funny enough he was fine with us not communicating.

That showed me the state of our marriage.

Our oldest child is 24 and out of the house. The other children are 22, 20, and 18. They are all adults, two are graduates from the university.

The other 2 are undergraduates and out of the house.

So it's just the two of us.

Now he is making small talk trying to communicate with me like we are a loving couple.

No love ever existed between us.

Our families have asked me to forgive like everyone else.

It's always so easy to dish out advice once it's not you.

The truth is that there is no way I can relate to him as a loving husband.

Now he is staying in the very apartment he refused to pay for.

He complains that I don't talk to him and sometimes I don't come home.

What does he expect?

His presence offends me and sometimes I stop by my friend who is a widow.

She lives alone and I have spent some nights with her since our youngest child left home.

We could both do with some company.

He is accusing me of seeing another man.

Did I know what he did in Lagos for 25 years?

It's just irritating how he expects us to carry on like nothing happened and all is well.

I don't know how to get out of this situation.

I'm thinking about getting another apartment and moving out.

My greatest regret is marrying this man.

This is not the life I wanted.

I had to work overtime to ensure that I didn't dislike our children.

I'm losing my mind with the way he keeps acting like it's business as usual.

Expecting me to cater to him like we made all these loving memories all these years.

My heart is so heavy and I don't know how to heal from this because is.....
https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/?m=1

Are. U not tired of it

Person wey u suppose chop clean mouth now wey u don get money.. is that not what you're telling us now that u have money? Me sef go soon hammer!!

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow nairalanders.How una dey.How is the economy treating you
There is a situation I found myself recently.So I want to know if you have found yourself in this kind of experience as well.
How do you treat people who care less about you when you are poor but now behaves as if you are the best thing is this world when they see things are going well with you financially.
I am experiencing this right now and I wonder why people behave this way.It gets to show there is no love but the love of money.There is even this particular lady I like back then,I have express how I feel about her but she laughed me off.Right now,I was wondering about the sudden change towards me but am not interested in her anymore.
Share your experience about this issue

They are there celebrating semi-final qualifications. Mtcheww.. even bronze they won't see, that's if they even make it to the final.

SmartPolician:



Source: https://dailytrust.com/nigerias-ezekiel-ogazi-break-olympics-record-as-ofili-udodi-return/

What are u afraid of? Why are taking plenty measures? U said the sex was protected, why all d measures again? Condoms are good to go with now.. yiur intelligence is playing a fast one on you. Make un dey calm down.

Never you return to that marriage. End of story.

You're a very funny being! Which advice are u looking for again?? You have it all planned out. No worry, na so them go do your wife too.. there's always an ex somewhere.. e go touch u too..

BonPatrick:
Good evening all please my ex that is married and we have lost contact since 2012 is not that we broke up o just that I travel outside my state since then. we met on Facebook two months ago and our communication started again all of a sudden our love came back and our feeling return I invite her to come and cook for me and she accepted. Is there any possibility that we might knack please I need advice

Richtaiwo:
10 tubers of that size at 15k translates to N1500 per tuber. Very cheap. A tube of that size can't be less than N2500 in lagos.

2,500 Keh A tuber is 5k plus in this Lagos oh

Bros, with all the additional stuff that you e written, I swear, n only God fit help u oh.. you effed up big time!! And now u have no iota of love for her.. it's as if you wanted a miserable marital life all along. You have a lot to do.

BlindAngel:



If only you know the daily cry, you would understand why I bowed to the pressure of getting married to her, which I'm still regretting until date everytime I think that I'm married to someone that I don't love, and worst still not sexually attracted to, it hurts me a lot everytime I think about it, our marriage is just 4 months and I have already started regretting everytime I think that I'm married and I don't have 1% love for who I'm married to, it would still be good if I'm sexually attracted to her, but I'm not. I'm so deeply hurt.

Bros, you have a big problem on your hands.. u need to start doing right before your family will starting thinking you've eaten some kind of vegetable. So obviously, she's not attending the same church with you. If that her pastor is a true man of God, he won't name that child. He'd tell her to go with what her husband chooses. It's the honorable thing to do.. we all know; when getting married, it's the bride's parents church, and thanks giving us straight to your church or your own parents church. If u don't take a firm decision, she'll keep manipulating u with her tears.. you've got to damn all that shiiiii.. cos of u don't do that now, what u might do in the nearest future might be worse. Think am well.

BlindAngel:



That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

I hear sey them still dey owe Phina. All that she was promised hasn't been fulfilled. Now they're ready to go on with another season . Meanwhile, Gen-zee baddie dey one place dey observe them.

nairaman66:


It’s not a male thing, ladies are demonic as well as guys in this regard. My best friend in Lagos relocated his family to the UK early this year, he paid for his wife’s master degree program and paid for more than 3-4 months rent at 1k pounds/month plus. Guess what? The wife, the wife frustrated him overseas and seized his passport saying she doesn’t want the marriage anymore. Took his kids, it was a miracle how the guy came back to Nigeria to start over again. When he got back, he called me and we were both crying on the phone. This guy spent more that 60-70M, he lost his wife, kids and sanity!

this gist pain me aswesrigad, nad I no know if to sorry for your guy or not.. we men still never get this japa thing clear.. why would u spend so much and still be d dependant? Why kain nonsense be that? Why didn't he go for the masters himself? How person go throwey him life like that? Which kain love be that? All the money he worked for, and it could be that he borrowed some of the money, all for one woman to cime treat am like thrash? He pain me oh, but I no fit cry for/with am. I love my wife yea, but I can't take such risk of. UK na yeye place to be with all those stupid laws enslaving black men. How can I suffer so much for the family and loose everything? The long and short of it is, this japa thing isn't for everybody . It's really annoying.

Healthrelatedjo:
I need your opinion guys,I want to know if 200k will be enough for me to start a soft drink business.People in this line of business should please advise me.I won't be needing a freezer cos it's going to be sold in pack.
Thanks

200k go buy all the empty bottles u need.. when next u get money, u go begin buy d liquid add inside, then begin sell.

Ilamina:
Guys still chase me


I am fccked for life

I think so.. so just let the fvcking continue. There's a reward after all. LOL.

@Op, good evening. I have read through all the comments concerning your post, and this is what I have to say;

1. You traveling back to them, your safety is not guaranteed. This people can do and undo.

2. When it comes to burial rites in the south/east most of them in the village don't care if u have money or not, if the country is smiling at u or not, all they want u to do is to come and feed them, and in the end they term it as burial rites. Doesn't really make sense to me..

I want to ask question, has the man been buried? If yes, then I'll go to number 3

3. If the man has been buried, baba just ignore totally. Any rite that hasn't been performed before his corpse entered the ground is a sham. Who don die, don die beg.

4. No so pleasant, but I'd advice u get a lady than can move in with you. Make sure words about this gets to your wife one way or the other. Not even her family would be able to hold her back.. and if they want to marry her off to another man, by tradition, they're supposed to return the bride price u paid.

I don tire sef.. things too hard for naija..

You're a very SIMPle Man!

Crucialgem:
You would agree with me that even all this nairalanders shouting repeller will simp for a girl that captures their heart.

So I recently met this girl which at first did not think will capture my heart up to this extent but after exchanging contact and constant calling and visiting, guys I have fallen yakata for her, even though I try following redpill teachings on nairaland but I can't help it this time around

Funny thing is after talking and vibing so well she will tell me she has a boyfriend, but she still come visiting time to time, she will even eat and watch movie in my house sometimes she will bring her younger sister

She shows me signs of caring girlfriend but always quick to remind me she has a boyfriend

I am confused and at the same time blinded by her affection, i feel she is using me but sometimes I feel she is just playing me

How do I go about dealing with this kind of girl romancelanders!!!!

ashawopikin:
Where dem dey follow her go?

my brother, i tire. Them dey follow person wey no sabi where she dey go.

Baba, leave that thing. Nothing go choke if u chop well drink water.

madone:
wetin him chop to chock am. Have you seen someone that fish born chock before?

SageOddy:
Guys, it's your time to speak.

Be honest, can you send your girlfriend half of your monthly salary?

what nonsense?!! Baba God that provided the job is only asking for 10% that's if you're a believer sef, one girl that didn't create me would now get 50%? No way!

Who go kill am?

madone:
Leave married women alone so u won't die early

Petrol

Don't u have any doctor friend? He or she should be able to help.. don't go and be taking drugs.

Blind bartimeus.. so you're fine with the way the country is going so long as it's TINUBU that's there.. e murasi

benuejosh:
Something has come for Peter Obi to spew nonsense again. Just wait for like three days and see him kick the whole thing into the bush.

I no get advice for you cos you messed up! U should have cleaned up your path before the arrival of your wife. U got drunk again and your fone no dey lock?? That's the 2nd ef-up!

The third one, which shoulda been the first, why the recordings? The sex was so sweet so much that u allowed her to reford u and u didn't think that was gonna haunt u later? Oga, make your wife leave u na em be thee best option.. you really messed up the brotherhood.

No need to go for DNA.. it's a total waste of time and money. It's so glaring, that girl isnt yours. You're the side husband. The main husband is the one u referred to as EX. if were u, that marriage is over! She should go to him. Sorry man, you've got to look for a way to start all over again. That woman isn't yours.

Ode oshi, reaching out to his wife that what?
He even still gave u 1 million. A woof don sweet your belle so tey u wan scatter him family join. Aunty go and siddan and leave the man alone. He's tried for u.

CSBN:
I need your advice on how to pay this man back. I am 30 years old now, I started dating this married man 4 years ago when I was 26, at first he told me that he was divorced, so that was the more reason why I accepted him. About two years later, I found out that he was still with his wife.

So, I confronted him, but he apologized with an iPhone 13 and promised not to let his wife know about our affair. This man has been really helpful to me, he takes care of all my needs. All this while he begged me not to date anybody apart from him, that he will provide everything that other men will give me.

Although, he has kept to his words. I don't lack anything at all. But something happened recently, and I cried my eyes out. Last weekend when he came over to my place, that was when he told me his intention to relocate outside Nigeria with his family permanently, their papers are ready, and I need to move on with my life, and look for a man because he wouldn't want his attention to be divided anymore, he needs to focus on his family. These were his words to me. After that, he sent me one million naira as a payoff.

I feel really hurt because all these years I never dated anyone else not even a single male friend. Where do I start from to start looking for a boyfriend that will take me seriously? Baba, I feel used, I was very very faithful to him...

I am thinking of reaching out to his wife because I took her number from his phone long ago. Or use a parody account to chat her up on Facebook.

What do you think?

Please what do I do?