I will be 31 this year. Omo the age is scaring me and I keep feeling like I’m not doing enough. I have a stable job in the private sector with a 400k monthly salary. But I still feel the impact of the economy badly. I keep asking myself, at what point will I start living the good live?
I feel stock sometimes because my job is very demanding and I almost do not have time to do other things, mind you I’m in the medical field and I work Mondays to Sundays most times but occasionally I have some Sundays to myself and sometimes a day off during the week. I can’t seem to be able to start a business as a side hustle cause most of the side hustles I can think will demand my presence at least for the first few months and I don’t really have that.
My girlfriend is pregnant, I really wanna keep it but she’s not ready, I’m not even sure I’m ready. The only way she can keep it is if I’m going to get married to her before the pregnancy starts showing and I’m as confused as hell cos I don’t know if I’m ready. She has always been vocal of her plans to japa.
Now that brings me to the idea of Japa too. I mean, I cannot deny that fact that I’m scared of the whole japa stuff cos I don’t know what to expect. Economy doesn’t even allow you save as much as you should. Everything’s just seems very scattered.

Pls I need adult minds to advise me on what I can do.
1. Do I start a business, what kinda business can I start with at least 2M that will not require my full presence?
2. Do I start to plan my japa through the study route and just face my fears
3. Should I insist on keeping the pregnancy and hope that things start making sense? This means I have to get married tho.

Thank y’all.

Land investment.
I have been dreaming of having a landed property in my home state and I’m someone who likes to have realistic dreams. Recently I have been seeing adverts on social media about paying for land in installments with very good payment plans.
My question is, pls who has any idea of the price or companies that accepts payment in installments for a plot or half plot of land in Calabar, cross river state Nigeria. Pls I need your advice and help on how to go about my dreams of opining a landed prompting that state

As a fertility specialist. I have seen this kinda problem every now and then. After reading your posts, I think your problem is completely mental. You don’t need sex enhancers, biter kola, or all those things everyone is telling you to take. I’m not swearing but non of them will work. None. No matter how much you spend. As long as your mind is as messed up as it is. You won’t go past 3mins of thrusting.

Anxiety is one of the leading causes of erectile dysfunction. Now the worse part is, the more your worry about your erectile dysfunction, the worse it gets. Matter of fact if you don’t get out of it sooner than later, even the erection you have will be gone totally.

You are the only one that can cure your self. The sooner you do the better. Guy I’ll talk to you as a brother. DM me for a therapy session. We need to work on your mentality. Just dedicate 1week.

Thank you all so much guys
especially @superCleanworks, (i will defo have to pay you for the advice)
@ Flora2Sweet, @Kobojunkie, @advanceDNA
@Merch your advice is pretty screwed but i go still take sha
@ Ballzproblem2 you dey ment but thanks anyways

Being new to nairaland, I hope my first post gets to the front page so I can get all the comments and opinions that may help me solve this very serious situation I find myself in.

I met her in Enugu in one of my friend’s wedding and we connected almost instantly. The connection was so strong, she showed me the town cos that was my first and only time there. I think I started falling for her after the first experience I had with her. She’s so full of life and never boring compared to me who’s always so calm and introverted. We had a very good first night, with mild making out (but no s£x) and everything was great. I came back to Lagos the next day and couldn’t stop thinking of her.

Few months later she called me and said she was posted to Lagos to serve. I felt like fate was bringing her to me. Thing is, I always think I’m smooth and good looking so I always find my ways around ladies and till now, I’ve never really had difficulty getting a lady. Fast forward, she served in Lagos and I got to see her once while she was serving. This lady has been in my head all these while and I’ve just not been able to move on even tho I never really asked her out cos she always be talking about her boyfriend.

After service, she had issues with accommodation and I just moved into a new mini flat and when she complained to me I was actually happy to help so I told her she can come stay with me. When she moved in, I got so excited and even better was when we were gisting and she told me she wasn’t dating at the moment. I felt the universe has a hand in everything cos since she moved in, things has been going well, I have seen good progress in-fact, payment i was expecting since Nov last year came in the same week she moved in.

Now after considering many things, I decided to open up my whole feelings to her and let her know exactly how I feel about her. But she told me almost instantly that she cannot date me, that she’s not attracted to me and that she can’t even date anyone right now. Like she sounded very firm. Even told me that when ever I’m in the mood and I have someone to bring over I should let her know so that she’ll leave the house for a couple of days so that I can be with whom ever I wan to be with.

I feel so sad. Cos I don’t even think I wanna be with anyone else. I see her in her bumshots during the day and nighties and I admire her so much. I’ve never felt like this for anyone but she no even Dey reason my matter at all. One time she told me she sees me like her brother (haaa!!! O gbemi si brotherzone). I’m seeing her everyday and I’m wanting her more and more.

Pls I need help, I’m stock, I don’t even know what else to do. Staying with her is making me want her more and I CANNOT tell her to leave.