cococandy:
Yes find a way to turn it around on the victims.

So what if they were lesbians?

Don't mind him. He doesn't even see the evil in what was done. He is talking nonsense. I am so so tired of people giving excuses for rapists. These animals need to be castrated no matter what led the girls there. Good thing the girls were smart enough to report the situation.

That's why I always warn people if you must meet someone onlin. Let about three people be aware of where you are going to. Address and all. They should keep close tabs on you. They don't hear from you? They should go there and find you.

Better still, don't meet people online.

innovestor:
Why Is This Common With Most Wives? They Need To CHANGE!

Hello NLers.

I am here basically to sample thoughts and opinions on this matter from matured minds. No insults or names calling. Just address the issue with suggestions.

There is a saying (by me ) that goes thus: Learn to appreciate what you have now. Don't wait till it's gone to find out its value. There is also another saying (not by me ) that goes thus: Wives don't suck dick; only girlfriends do.

So to the matter. I am married to this lovely lady. She is good by good standards (details will be given later if need be). I am also good by good standards (details will be given later if need be ). However when it comes to making love, this is where the "matters arising" comes to play; yes sex.

Firstly, I am not necessarily the over demanding type, however i am not sexually satisfied completely in my home. I am very understanding when she actually is not in the right frame of conditions to make love, however for me making the moves every time for us to make love is tiring (and yes ladies you should make the moves sometimes, if not more).

Secondly, i am the type with a conscience. I have not raped and will never rape any one even my wife because this is practically impossible for me as my man-hood (which lives on) will suddenly slump in such situation (that's why i said practically impossible). So what am i driving at? Once my wife tells me she is a bit tired, she has a slight waist pain, head-ache, leg ache etc. i practically refrain from making love to her. It has happened most times that i am all up and doing and ready to hit the road and then she says she has a head-ache (unconsciously i must admit most times) i just pack-up and hit the bed to dream world.

Now the challenge is this. Being sort of sexually deprived by my wife, being a hardworking good citizen of Nigeria that makes an average earning (at least i dey drive motor and can comfortably take care of my family and one or two more outsiders despite the harsh economy) I am exposed to falling into countless number of temptations. In order not to brag, i have ladies calling me almost on a daily basis now and literally begging me to "shine their congo". Yes they know i am married with kids but don't care. Na me dey dodge them sef and avoid picking some calls.

Now the question is this: what can i do to solve this issue? What can i do to make my wife get off her relaxed state to make the moves for us to be more sexually engaged (and i am not talking of just missionary alone, i love adventure)? Should i just ignore her talks of head aches and find a means of forcing myself to do it with her ( I have actually asked her if this is what she wants - no response received). What can i do?

I am asking as we have had this sex talk twice and i have told her what i felt about the whole thing (of course she shed tears na). The third time we had the discussion, i told her categorically that this would be the last time for such discussion because if there is not improvement, i will not talk to her about it anymore and would seek other means to "help myself out". This is where i am at the moment.

So you ideas are welcome ladies and gentlemen.

P.S. Wow! So the write up long reach like this? be patient to read through.

All men get in here. You see most times we women/Ladies are always tired either from house chores, office duties and mental thinking oh yes mental duties. We are always thinking about something, always multi tasking and stuff. We get drained when the day is over and all we can think about is a bed to sleep and pray silently not to be disturbed so this brain can rest and the body too.

So now, if your Lady is always tired, literally everyday. Then you have to take matters into your own hands. Make her feel like a baby. Prepare a warm bath for her (depends on your bathroom) Maybe dinner, order or cook whichever one you think will taste better lol.

What you are doing is setting a romantic atmosphere without even touching her. Let her get out of that tire state herself. You could surprise her with a gift too. Just make her smile. Offer to massage that weak body. Real massage o not romance the body. (watch videos on massage on you tube or any where ) Yes! This is war and you must be ready to win. Haha!

At this point trust me madam is already feeling mushy. Please do all this willingly and not grudgingly. Tell her she's beautiful and you love her. This words means a lot to us.

At this point she's all yours. After the bath, you can go down on her. Just be romantic. Try this every now and then to be getting it. If you can't do all, try at least 2 or 3.

Nigerian men just be romantic. Don't just bring your D to a tired woman every night and just want to shook every time. Common, spoil your lady. Make her feel like a baby and see if you won't be hitting that coochie.

pxjosh:
When a girl shows interest in me, and I don't like her, I try as much as possible not to give her a chance to come closer, or else she will start thinking I'm developing interest in her whereas am not. I don't want to break her heart.

Besides I prefer a girl a lil hard to get when I show interest in her, not her asking me out. Its just natural.

Showing interest is quite different from asking you out. I could be showing interest just to be friends.

herbie27:
When you ask a guy out and he accepts you as a date, such a relationship isn't consolidated, they end up feeling you threw yourself on them.

Is not a good move to make.

True. I wouldn't ask a guy out. I didn't mean asking a guy out, I mean showing interest in him.

herbie27:
Cos they prefer coming after you, while you play very hard to get.

Guys don't like the easy way.

They can still come after you. Showing interest in a guy isn't the easy way. I could show interest in a guy, get to know him and find out he isn't as cool as I thought he was. Then I back out without loosing anything.

rawpadgin:
a wise man once said "never trust a beautiful girl especially the one that's interested in u"

devil fit see say ur break through na next week com decide to send her com destroy everything


bae fit decide to test ur love for her, come beg one random girl to com temp u

Omo, man gasto trend softly

See what i'm talking about, different unnecessary suspicion. Besides any girl who deliberately sends temptation your way should be ready to loose you.

VolTOxic:
Because that's one of the things the society instilled in us as men. We were taught to despise the free lunch as it often involves a trick or hidden obligations. — 48 LOP.

I see. It's not really free lunch, just because she showed interest doesn't mean she's giving you free access to herself. She must have seen something in you she likes and decided to get to know you.

halfricanadian:
The first ever bold step i took i regreted it #sad

never taking such step again

I know right . Very Sad

This is my first topic ever on nairaland and I will appreciate honest and sincere answers. My question is why do guys become "suspicious" when a lady shows some sort of interest in them and also approach them physically or via messages. Shouldn't they see it as a bold step and wait to find out what the Lady wants? Instead of suspecting their every move and also making the lady regret her action.

Love Machine:
Instead,she should go and learn an apprentice.

Well, for a graduate, relevant work experience is very necessary, it's an advantage to her resume. Hence the need to volunteer at a reputable company for a while instead of been idle.

Awwww. I totally understand how you feel hon. I'll suggest you volunteer at a reputable company to work for a while. You might get lucky and get employed officially if you perform very well.