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Pls want to find out if unilag offer direct entry for nurses (RN\RM)?

Weneva he is cash trapped, he'll run down to his house to withdraw. Or is it a mobile ATM machine

@silverbox177. 'Trouble dey sleep, iyanga go wake am, wetin he dey find'. My dear, we av similar story, just dat I've bin married for about 5 years now. My hubby is good at pre-intimacy and makes sure I cum before penetration which last for about 5mins. D day I asked for a 2nd round, hmmm my eyes saw d back of my head he didn't cum for over 20 mins(I'm not exaggerating) and he was just pounding on. I had an asthmatic attack dat day. From dat day, I respected myself . just be satisfied, wen u cum, wot else do u want?

Thanks a lot.jst got mine. U're da best *plenty hugs*

Happy Easter family

No wife, no kids. Married to the bottles[][/]

Happy birthday EfemenaXY. Wish u all of God's blessins in abundance. Sure u had fun. E-hugs

Hmmmm

U are not alone in dis. Mine is worse as in I start vomiting b4 a missed period and it continues thruout pregnancy. I vomit as much as 4-6times a day. I had my kids tru C/S and I was still vomiting on d theatre table, twas as bad as dat. I took all sorts of drugs, enuff pepper in my food(dat eventually goes d wrong way while vomiting ), dry biscuits, e.t.c. but none worked. My hubby is a medical doctor so he puts me on I.V infusion to keep me hydrated. Anyway, some women get over vomiting at 12wks. In all, pls see a doctor so u and baby can be in good health.

Renaj:
Hello house, please help a sister....
I got the courage to write because of the selfless service y'all are rendering. May God bless you.

I met this guy on Facebook, fell in love and he proposed without us seeing each other(wierd, isn't it?). This all happened within a span of 3 months. Why? This guy who l have never was different from all the guys l' ve met( in a good way). I was reluctant but when we actually met, he was everything he said he is except his age which he lied about. He told me his true age on our first day of meeting, that is, 35 against 30. He said he was scared l may not be real, and that is why he didnt tell me his real age. I will be 23 in June.
On our first day of meeting, we were happy and he insisted on meeting my father with a bottle of wine, which he later did. The next day, l met his mother and she was happy. He introduced me 2 everyone that mattered. Despite all these, l didnt give him a concrete yes!
I am a graduate and just started Msc programme and he is WASC holder. When we just started communication via phone, l knew because of his little errors in written and spoken English, which he does better than most of my course mates in school, but l didnt comment about it. I do correct him and he adjust easily. When we got serious, he told me that he didnt go to the University because of financial constraint. He is exposed though. l told him that l would like him to start an ND program @least and he reluctantly agreed. He is a driver with an oil company in Lagos and barely has time for himself.
Few weeks before we met, he lost his job. He is recently working but the pay isnt much. He has business plans but no capital
He is humble, honest(except the age thing), trustworthy and has a big sense of humor.
I have never been in a relationship. He is my first boyfriend. He lives in Lagos while l live in the east, though we are both from the south east. I have gone to his place and spent 3 days because of a job interview and he never forced me 4 sex,(am a virgin) though we cuddled.
He always seeks for my advice before embarking on anything, and always aims to make me happy. When we started communicating, l was a frustrated applicant on the verge of suicide (lol) but now, though still an applicant, he made me see the whole issue as one of life's hurdles and not a do or die affair.
My fear is that this is my first r/ship. Am scared because l dont know if am being blinded by emotions or not, and him not being financially buoyant. Also a little worried about the age difference. He sometimes hint that l will leave him if l meet a graduate like me or someone richer.
He is a romantic at heart and is planning a romantic proposal in April( l gathered from hints). I am a difficult person, a melancholy and prone to mood changes, but on every occasion, he always have patience and shows maturity in dealing with every issue.
This is new for me, l have no dating experience and don't know if l should say yes with all the differences or date others first. I love him but l need to use my brain too.
Please help!!!
Sorry for the long story.

dearie, pls don't rush things, cos he is making things go too fast and think about it, are u comfortable gettin married to someone u are higher than academically? If u r not, then don't lead him on.

shrekandfiona:
@renaj, Hmmmm I don't know where to start advising you from but in my honest opinion there are so ooooo many differences between you and that dude. The only similarity is your tribe.

Firstly the age difference is huge. A 5-7 yr gap is okay and anything more than that is a no no for me only if am going into the relationship for financial reasons but in your case the dude sef isn't financially stable.
He knew this that was why he lied initially that he was 30 yrs old. If a 35yr old man is looking for love on Facebook, it will be a red flag for me because I'll wonder what he did with his youth.

secondly, the day you met him physically was the day he persuaded you for him to meet your dad with a wine Why the rush? You were just meeting for the 1st time and he's already eager to meet your parents and you his? Another red flag for me

thirdly the difference in education is just too huge. You're already on your masters and him a wasc holder? And you think inferiority complex wouldn't set in? In fact based on the hints he is already giving you that he thinks you'll leave him for a graduate like yourself is a complex already brewing.

If you were my sister, I'll advise you either get to study him more, his kind of friends, relationship with people etc before agreeing to any solid thing with him or better still leave him and get someone at par with you at least education wise.

you are still young and a V please do not loose that carelessly. The dude may be a predator and is actually nice and caring for a reason. He may have other things he isn't saying. I once dated a dude like that years ago. We were in same town, a waec holder and way older than me. We met physically at my work canteen at lunch and he was way too nice to me. He lied about his age, job, qualification it was later I got to know through his sister whom I became close to. It was devastating for me because he swept me off my feet. I even later got to know he had kids staying in the village with his mum.

so my dear thread carefully though some may be genuine but some are wolves in sheepskin

@d bolded. I met my hubby wen I was 19 and he was 29. U wudnt even know dere's a 10 year difference btw us except u are told. He wasn't financially stable wen we met(jst finished frm university)

Preternatura1:
Hi Ms onegai, it's nice to read from you again.

Please understand that I'm in no way advocating that women don't cook, that's not it at all.

You see, there have been days I wished I know how to cook whatever I wanted to eat, my not knowing how to cook is not entirely by choice, it just somehow never happened when I was growing up, I am able to cook the ones I can today because I developed the zeal to learn along the way, it's true my bf influenced me but still, I'm learning not because I want to get married as my married sister doesn't cook, the same can be said for my mum, I do have some friends that know how to, it just never was part of the program in my home and this is because of the mum I have, this hopefully won't be the case with my kids.

I don't mean to sound defensive but I can manage my finances, my bf just has a different kind of taste is all.

Don't pick offense please but you sound kinda angry, why would anyone castigate you for saying what you feel?

my dear, I didn't cook for once in my parents house until after I got married. I learnt how to cook wen I got to d higher institution( thanks to my room mates) and overtime I became an expert. When I started dating my husband, he looks for an excuse for me not to cook in his parents house so his mum won't see my flaws. He even taught me how to cook different types of soup. Babe, u av to learn even if u av lots of cooks and maids. Im fulfilled weneva his friends come over and eat without leaving remnants on d plate and even ask for more it shows i've improved a great deal. Though it wasn't easy at all. At d early stage, I cook soup only wen my husband is at home so he can put me tru and he really encouraged me. Even if it's tasteless dat I can't eat it well, he'll eat it with so much joy. But now, trust me, he calls an hour b4 he closes so I can set d table

bonsue1118:
Gud pm, my ex his begging me 2 come bak 2 him, bt d prob I av wit him is he womanise a lot. Am in love wit anoda person, bt he smokes, d person am in love wit truly love me, bt my fear is his habit. Pls am confused right nw, I need ur advices. Tnks.

Smoking can be stopped. When I met my hubby, he was a smoker and since I'm allergic to cigarettes, he had to stop and with time and distance from his old friends(who influenced him) he totally detest smoking. Discuss with him about it and I believe he'll change.

Wen my MIL was coming, my hubby and his sisters gave her warnings on how to behave cos she complains a lot. If I give her food (like spaghetti) she'll say 'hmmm, let me eat it oh, b4 they'll say I av started complaining. And dis is someone i'll ask wot she wants to eat, she'll say I shud make anything dat she'll eat it.

FrancisTony:
A misunderstanding that i'm unware of.
She didn't tell me, but from what I've heard, her mum younger sister has been interfering in their family/marriage life.

she has to spill it out so she can get an advice. Interfering how? I tink she has something to hide OR is her aunt dating her husband

First, what problems does she have with her husband?

Just for u *hugs*

Happy birthday CC. God bless u real good. From a silent family section follower

harveyspec:
Ok, I have a family friend, the mum stays with them, the guy wakes up in the morning to sweep the house, bath the kids, I nor know wetin madam dey do.

It was a very big issue, the mom had to calm down but trust me, she ain't happy with the wife

Abroad that might not count but here in Nigeria, it does count, you are suppose to be receiving prayers from your elders & not curses or insult

imagine this guy will be removing cobwebs from the house, washing curtains etc not that madam is sick o or has a hectic schedule o

if its about education, the guy is a lecturer but I nor know whether him case still normal

No elder will feel comfortable with such reversal of role(cos that's how they see it), just jejely pretend till they go, but if its an elongated stay, so help you God

my husband wouldn't sweep or bath d kids. Yes, no one will be comfortable with d reversal of roles but sometimes a man helps his wife with some things

babyosisi:
You husband didn't handle this well
There will be another occasion and another,what will he do,keep hiding and pretending in his own house to please his mother?
For how long?
This is the time to nip this in the bud
Like the poster above advised,he should have politely responded,"mama I actually enjoy cooking sometimes"
Let her raise hell that one time if she wants to ,then she'll get used to it
The son is the best person to keep his mother in check because if he doesn't,I promise you ,one day she will say something provoking to you and you'll be forced to respond and as soon as you respond in the measure you have been treated,son and mother will bind together on one side and you become the enemy.

my husband has never done dat b4. He usually stands up for me in any situation with his people but I don't know why dis is an exception.

FOREXMARTS:
Quite unfortunate, well most parents are from am archaic generation so I try not to blame em, good a thing they won't be at ur house for long right?

they wont

bukatyne:
What I can not wrap round is that 'won't the same MIL be happy if her daughter's husband help around the house'

exactly

softysparky:
Hahahahaha close door and be peeping when mama go show.

I tell u

MIL and their wahala. My MIL and FIL are in my place at d moment(FIL is sick and hubby brought him over for treatment). Few days back, hubby decided to cook and MIL got to know about it. Ehn, nor be small talk. MIL was like, why will I leave my hubby to cook dat she doesn't understand dat one oh. I told my hubby and he said I shud jst stay in d kitchen with him and close d door. Since dat day, hubby is restricted to helpin me out around d house

bbjummy:
Why not? Right you flogged them jare but hope they know why they were been flogged.

Spare the rod and spoil the child.

they are not his kids. Some parents don't like odas flogging their kids

No need to think about it. Jst go straight and tell their parents. But u shudnt av flogged dem

maxiflexi:
How old is she? if she is less than a year old, add Ori (Shea butter) to her daily hair routine. For an older child, this thread should be helpful:
www.nairaland.com/1216115/ways-manage-african-kids-hair

she is 4yrs. Thanks for d link

Hello, I need suggestions on the type of shampoo, conditioner and hair cream to use for my daughter's hair. Pleassssssssssssse. Her hair is unusually dry

Kneeling to greet doesn't show respect. I wasn't trained to kneel wen greeting(im frm Delta state) but my MIL is from Edo and she frowns wen I don't kneel to greet her. I had to learn to avoid any troubles. FIL doesn't bother, I greet him d way I like and I respect him a lot. SILS wouldn't expect me kneeling to greet dem.

U can ask her to demonstrate how her bum bum was touched, it'll determine ur actions. I av a girl who is also 4 and anyone dat touches her bum, she reports to me. I tactically tell dem dat my daughter doesn't like her bum being touched(even close family members). She won't even hide to tell me, she shouts it immediately

Hello LyndaRoyce. Happy New Year too. Amen and how's d family

lovinam:
Eh? Its been done for centuries!!!

hmmm