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I have been married for only three years. And marriage has taught me some things.
See, I feel it is better to handle this with wisdom of correct elders. Sometimes, it is less stressful, time-saving, result-achieving and smart to stoop to conquer.
I have never been in your shoes, so I can't really advise you. But I will suggest the following:
1. Resist the pressure from people to involve the police, SARs, etc. Your family (wife and son) won't be spared from the consequences.
2. Could you please move your family out of your mom's house?
3. Learn to pray alone, and with your wife. Pray for protection, courage and wisdom.
4. Until you move out of the family house, let your family stay elsewhere whenever your sister is visiting.
5. Would you mind lovingly telling your wife never to answer back an in-law, and especially this sister of yours? There are a million ways to get back at people, even without words.

As a rider, what has your mom done to help your own family recover the alleged stolen items?

I have been married for about three years now.
My mother-in-law is the possessive type, except that she is expertly subtle with it.
Few months after my wedding, I travelled home to see my parents. She heard and called me when I came back, saying she wouldn't have let me go see my parents if she had known. She argued that a wife should only go to see her parents after she's had a child, as in "gbomo loki won. "
I just told her "I'm sorry ma. " But deep down me I felt it was wrong and intrusive of her to have said that to me.
Now, in the past two weeks, she's visited three times, twice without prior notice to me. I only came back from work to find her in the house. I didn't even ask her or hubby why she visited. I just stayed out of wahala. I've got enough wahala to think of already that I can't afford to add to them, Biko.
And then, after her third visit, hubby tells me mom (his) is planning for us to move to her house by January. She's planning to build another one.
In exchange I am to take in hubby's nephew and one more diiiistant boy.
I just told hubby no, I can't deal.

I don't understand these mother in law issues. There's a limit to what you can take. You avoid their troubles, and they think you're cool with everything they do. And so they feel 'encouraged to do more. '
I'm just soooo pissed off.
Mtcheeew!