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Good day everyone. In view of the NO available appointment date for winter semester 2018/2019 statement in the German embassy website. Please is there any way for me to schedule for a winter appointment?
I just concluded my university applications for BSc admission including Rheine Waal University Of Applied Science Kleve, with my HND, via Uni Assist, and I have paid all the bills and spent monies sending all the necessary documents to schools and uni assist.

I need to book this appointment, otherwise all my efforts and money will waste for nothing.
It has really not been easy.

Please my great people, I need an urgent idea.

Please...

Danke.

Heebucun: 6)Ask about his interests
.Ask what he likes to eat or what sports, hobbies, or movies he enjoys. Once you find something in common, ask him if he’d like to get together some time to pursue it. Shy guys can be very interested in you, but petrified to make the first move. It is very easy to open the door to a common interest by asking about food, hobbies or other fun activities. When you hit on something you both love, you will instantly become more bonded as similarities are a key way of cementing connection between people. It is easy, then to make the first move and ask about doing the activity together.
This is a good litmus test that will show if he is interested or not. When you're opening the door that much, if he does not respond and make the date, chances are he is not into u

7)Try writing notes.
If either of you love to read and write, exchange notes or meet online and chat with text. It moves a little more slowly, so it gives you both time to compose your thoughts and it gives you both a chance to throw out anything that seems to come out wrong.
Touch him gently or even give him a mini massage
.Making physical contact actually releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone, so he may feel closer and start responding to you immediately through the power of touch. Gently grasp his arm or relax him by giving him a mini neck or shoulder massage. This relaxes him so that he is less up-tight and fearful. In addition, making physical contact often opens the door to him making an affectionate gesture towards you later on—where he holds your hand, puts his arm around you or kisses you.
Ask permission first, and make sure he's open to that sort of attention. A mini massage might be considered too forward or intimate in some circles.
9)Make the first move yourself.It's not illegal or even off limits, and it may come as a great relief to a guy who's a bit reserved if you ask him out. You don't have to call it a date if you don't want to. You can also be the one to broach the subject of romance, or to give (or at least offer) that first kiss or hug. Spell it out when you're ready. Some guys don't catch hints, no matter how many you drop, but don't give up.
10)Bepatient, and don't rush things
He's not going to change overnight, and there will likely be vestiges of his shyness for some time to come. Hurrying may only intimidate him, so as your relationship grows, suggest the next move, but try to take his pace. Work to build a trust that will make you both confident with yourselves and with each other when you're together.
Be aware that he may seem awkward around you at first. Be persistent and compassionate.

Source:wiki

Heebucun: 6)Ask about his interests
.Ask what he likes to eat or what sports, hobbies, or movies he enjoys. Once you find something in common, ask him if he’d like to get together some time to pursue it. Shy guys can be very interested in you, but petrified to make the first move. It is very easy to open the door to a common interest by asking about food, hobbies or other fun activities. When you hit on something you both love, you will instantly become more bonded as similarities are a key way of cementing connection between people. It is easy, then to make the first move and ask about doing the activity together.
This is a good litmus test that will show if he is interested or not. When you're opening the door that much, if he does not respond and make the date, chances are he is not into u

7)Try writing notes.
If either of you love to read and write, exchange notes or meet online and chat with text. It moves a little more slowly, so it gives you both time to compose your thoughts and it gives you both a chance to throw out anything that seems to come out wrong.
Touch him gently or even give him a mini massage
.Making physical contact actually releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone, so he may feel closer and start responding to you immediately through the power of touch. Gently grasp his arm or relax him by giving him a mini neck or shoulder massage. This relaxes him so that he is less up-tight and fearful. In addition, making physical contact often opens the door to him making an affectionate gesture towards you later on—where he holds your hand, puts his arm around you or kisses you.
Ask permission first, and make sure he's open to that sort of attention. A mini massage might be considered too forward or intimate in some circles.
9)Make the first move yourself.It's not illegal or even off limits, and it may come as a great relief to a guy who's a bit reserved if you ask him out. You don't have to call it a date if you don't want to. You can also be the one to broach the subject of romance, or to give (or at least offer) that first kiss or hug. Spell it out when you're ready. Some guys don't catch hints, no matter how many you drop, but don't give up.
10)Bepatient, and don't rush things
He's not going to change overnight, and there will likely be vestiges of his shyness for some time to come. Hurrying may only intimidate him, so as your relationship grows, suggest the next move, but try to take his pace. Work to build a trust that will make you both confident with yourselves and with each other when you're together.
Be aware that he may seem awkward around you at first. Be persistent and compassionate.

Source:wiki

Heebucun: 6)Ask about his interests
.Ask what he likes to eat or what sports, hobbies, or movies he enjoys. Once you find something in common, ask him if he’d like to get together some time to pursue it. Shy guys can be very interested in you, but petrified to make the first move. It is very easy to open the door to a common interest by asking about food, hobbies or other fun activities. When you hit on something you both love, you will instantly become more bonded as similarities are a key way of cementing connection between people. It is easy, then to make the first move and ask about doing the activity together.
This is a good litmus test that will show if he is interested or not. When you're opening the door that much, if he does not respond and make the date, chances are he is not into u

7)Try writing notes.
If either of you love to read and write, exchange notes or meet online and chat with text. It moves a little more slowly, so it gives you both time to compose your thoughts and it gives you both a chance to throw out anything that seems to come out wrong.
Touch him gently or even give him a mini massage
.Making physical contact actually releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone, so he may feel closer and start responding to you immediately through the power of touch. Gently grasp his arm or relax him by giving him a mini neck or shoulder massage. This relaxes him so that he is less up-tight and fearful. In addition, making physical contact often opens the door to him making an affectionate gesture towards you later on—where he holds your hand, puts his arm around you or kisses you.
Ask permission first, and make sure he's open to that sort of attention. A mini massage might be considered too forward or intimate in some circles.
9)Make the first move yourself.It's not illegal or even off limits, and it may come as a great relief to a guy who's a bit reserved if you ask him out. You don't have to call it a date if you don't want to. You can also be the one to broach the subject of romance, or to give (or at least offer) that first kiss or hug. Spell it out when you're ready. Some guys don't catch hints, no matter how many you drop, but don't give up.
10)Bepatient, and don't rush things
He's not going to change overnight, and there will likely be vestiges of his shyness for some time to come. Hurrying may only intimidate him, so as your relationship grows, suggest the next move, but try to take his pace. Work to build a trust that will make you both confident with yourselves and with each other when you're together.
Be aware that he may seem awkward around you at first. Be persistent and compassionate.

Source:wiki

nice threa!
How about How to stop being shy?
that's for a shy Guy , especially when it's about dating babes, especially an introvert type ?

unyours: Hello nairalanders, guys and ladies. Created this thread for those residing in Port Harcourt just like me, who are ready to meet soul mate, start relationship, look for husbands/wife, looking for flirt, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. Please all we should all do here is post your Sex, Age, location(PH only), Occupation(optional) and your prospective partner's specification and let's roll from there.

unyours: Hello nairalanders, guys and ladies. Created this thread for those residing in Port Harcourt just like me, who are ready to meet soul mate, start relationship, look for husbands/wife, looking for flirt, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. Please all we should all do here is post your Sex, Age, location(PH only), Occupation(optional) and your prospective partner's specification and let's roll from there.

unyours: Hello nairalanders, guys and ladies. Created this thread for those residing in Port Harcourt just like me, who are ready to meet soul mate, start relationship, look for husbands/wife, looking for flirt, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. Please all we should all do here is post your Sex, Age, location(PH only), Occupation(optional) and your prospective partner's specification and let's roll from there.

well I need a fair working class matured Babe, between the ages of 21 to 32.
I prefer a graduate!
meanwhile, I Am still seriously on job search.
red chemical engineering . Am a very nice Guy!
lives at elenwo ph
08074399874

AdverBusiness: Many dreamed of owning a business only few realize that dream. That’s because there is a very long line between “owning a business” and OWNING A BUSINESS.

We hear a lot of people say they want go into business for one reason or the other but the most common reasons are; to have an extra source of money, to have time for their family, and to be independent. All these reasons are just what you need to NEVER make it as an entrepreneur.
Any successful entrepreneur will tell you that a new business doesn’t become an addition source of income for at least 5 years, that time with family and friends is from zero to none and being independent is just a myth.

Every successful entrepreneur had, overtime, reinvested whatever income they earned from their business back into their business during their start up stage. They have spent the least time with their family and friends during this stage and most importantly is the fact that an entrepreneur is never “independent”, you need customers to patronize your business and that depend on how well your business can solve a need. Every business should be created with the purpose of providing for a need, a need of a group of people that will be called Customers.

So for does with big dreams of being the next Dangote, let’s pause for a minute and consider some of the risks and uncertainty associated with being an entrepreneur.

#1 UNCERTAIN INCOME
Every salaried employee is certain of the amount of money they earn and also about the fact that as long as they are employed they are entitle to that amount weekly or monthly. But as an entrepreneur you would only rely on profit, which is not certain. Thus, how would you sustain yourself during this period of no profit or reinvestment of profit?

#2 JOB SECURITY
Many people are looking for jobs with security, because the success or failure of the company is not entirely tied to them and they have hope for the future in terms of finance. While all these are just relatively true, the average job seekers can still achieve that. But for an entrepreneur, his security depends on the success of his business. And this phenomenon makes it possible for an employee to make better plans for the future while in the present but an entrepreneur’s future depends on the daily survival of his business.

#3 HIGH FAILURE METRICS
Statistics shows that the first 5 year could be the most challenging for most businesses it is also the period were failure of such business is very high.

And as an entrepreneur you will always be confronted with the fear of failure until you can possibly overcome it. And this may happen when you have solidly established your business, though most business owner still have this fear due to fluctuating economic times but many have mastered their fears and turned it to their strength. Unlike an employee, who is in a safe zone, and the worst that could happen if a company goes into liquidation, is to change employment.

#4 WORKING HOURS
Have you ever heard the phrase that “an entrepreneur doesn’t sleep” No. that’s because I just made that up and in all ramifications, I am right.
Night sleep is overrated for many entrepreneurs, because they have a drive, something better than sleep. As Mr Linus Okorie, a motivational speaker, use to say “when a man has no purpose to wake up sleep becomes interesting” but I say” when a man owns a business, sleep become boring”

A man who sleeps all day has no work while a man who sleeps all night has no business.

An entrepreneur has no set time for work, every time is work. He puts in countless hours strategizing on how best to move his business forward and keep his dreams alive.

#5 SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS
I don’t know if this is an African Thing, but the moment it is known that you run your own business the demands from your family, friends, in laws and all persons will increase as everyone will think “you have arrived”. People you gave less will expect more and will scorn you if you fail to do so. And if you are not wise enough, you might run down your business before it even started.

Now that you are aware of the aforesaid risk and uncertainty, you must ponder seriously on your intentions to own a business and how prepared you are mentally, spiritually, financially and all the lly…

If my feeble attempt to scarce you about being an entrepreneur is working then you may not have the stomach for more tough unforeseen challenges of becoming an entrepreneur. But if it enlightens and motivates you more, than congrats, you may very well be the next Dangote.

AdverBusiness: Many dreamed of owning a business only few realize that dream. That’s because there is a very long line between “owning a business” and OWNING A BUSINESS.

We hear a lot of people say they want go into business for one reason or the other but the most common reasons are; to have an extra source of money, to have time for their family, and to be independent. All these reasons are just what you need to NEVER make it as an entrepreneur.
Any successful entrepreneur will tell you that a new business doesn’t become an addition source of income for at least 5 years, that time with family and friends is from zero to none and being independent is just a myth.

Every successful entrepreneur had, overtime, reinvested whatever income they earned from their business back into their business during their start up stage. They have spent the least time with their family and friends during this stage and most importantly is the fact that an entrepreneur is never “independent”, you need customers to patronize your business and that depend on how well your business can solve a need. Every business should be created with the purpose of providing for a need, a need of a group of people that will be called Customers.

So for does with big dreams of being the next Dangote, let’s pause for a minute and consider some of the risks and uncertainty associated with being an entrepreneur.

#1 UNCERTAIN INCOME
Every salaried employee is certain of the amount of money they earn and also about the fact that as long as they are employed they are entitle to that amount weekly or monthly. But as an entrepreneur you would only rely on profit, which is not certain. Thus, how would you sustain yourself during this period of no profit or reinvestment of profit?

#2 JOB SECURITY
Many people are looking for jobs with security, because the success or failure of the company is not entirely tied to them and they have hope for the future in terms of finance. While all these are just relatively true, the average job seekers can still achieve that. But for an entrepreneur, his security depends on the success of his business. And this phenomenon makes it possible for an employee to make better plans for the future while in the present but an entrepreneur’s future depends on the daily survival of his business.

#3 HIGH FAILURE METRICS
Statistics shows that the first 5 year could be the most challenging for most businesses it is also the period were failure of such business is very high.

And as an entrepreneur you will always be confronted with the fear of failure until you can possibly overcome it. And this may happen when you have solidly established your business, though most business owner still have this fear due to fluctuating economic times but many have mastered their fears and turned it to their strength. Unlike an employee, who is in a safe zone, and the worst that could happen if a company goes into liquidation, is to change employment.

#4 WORKING HOURS
Have you ever heard the phrase that “an entrepreneur doesn’t sleep” No. that’s because I just made that up and in all ramifications, I am right.
Night sleep is overrated for many entrepreneurs, because they have a drive, something better than sleep. As Mr Linus Okorie, a motivational speaker, use to say “when a man has no purpose to wake up sleep becomes interesting” but I say” when a man owns a business, sleep become boring”

A man who sleeps all day has no work while a man who sleeps all night has no business.

An entrepreneur has no set time for work, every time is work. He puts in countless hours strategizing on how best to move his business forward and keep his dreams alive.

#5 SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS
I don’t know if this is an African Thing, but the moment it is known that you run your own business the demands from your family, friends, in laws and all persons will increase as everyone will think “you have arrived”. People you gave less will expect more and will scorn you if you fail to do so. And if you are not wise enough, you might run down your business before it even started.

Now that you are aware of the aforesaid risk and uncertainty, you must ponder seriously on your intentions to own a business and how prepared you are mentally, spiritually, financially and all the lly…

If my feeble attempt to scarce you about being an entrepreneur is working then you may not have the stomach for more tough unforeseen challenges of becoming an entrepreneur. But if it enlightens and motivates you more, than congrats, you may very well be the next Dangote.

AdverBusiness: Many dreamed of owning a business only few realize that dream. That’s because there is a very long line between “owning a business” and OWNING A BUSINESS.

We hear a lot of people say they want go into business for one reason or the other but the most common reasons are; to have an extra source of money, to have time for their family, and to be independent. All these reasons are just what you need to NEVER make it as an entrepreneur.
Any successful entrepreneur will tell you that a new business doesn’t become an addition source of income for at least 5 years, that time with family and friends is from zero to none and being independent is just a myth.

Every successful entrepreneur had, overtime, reinvested whatever income they earned from their business back into their business during their start up stage. They have spent the least time with their family and friends during this stage and most importantly is the fact that an entrepreneur is never “independent”, you need customers to patronize your business and that depend on how well your business can solve a need. Every business should be created with the purpose of providing for a need, a need of a group of people that will be called Customers.

So for does with big dreams of being the next Dangote, let’s pause for a minute and consider some of the risks and uncertainty associated with being an entrepreneur.

#1 UNCERTAIN INCOME
Every salaried employee is certain of the amount of money they earn and also about the fact that as long as they are employed they are entitle to that amount weekly or monthly. But as an entrepreneur you would only rely on profit, which is not certain. Thus, how would you sustain yourself during this period of no profit or reinvestment of profit?

#2 JOB SECURITY
Many people are looking for jobs with security, because the success or failure of the company is not entirely tied to them and they have hope for the future in terms of finance. While all these are just relatively true, the average job seekers can still achieve that. But for an entrepreneur, his security depends on the success of his business. And this phenomenon makes it possible for an employee to make better plans for the future while in the present but an entrepreneur’s future depends on the daily survival of his business.

#3 HIGH FAILURE METRICS
Statistics shows that the first 5 year could be the most challenging for most businesses it is also the period were failure of such business is very high.

And as an entrepreneur you will always be confronted with the fear of failure until you can possibly overcome it. And this may happen when you have solidly established your business, though most business owner still have this fear due to fluctuating economic times but many have mastered their fears and turned it to their strength. Unlike an employee, who is in a safe zone, and the worst that could happen if a company goes into liquidation, is to change employment.

#4 WORKING HOURS
Have you ever heard the phrase that “an entrepreneur doesn’t sleep” No. that’s because I just made that up and in all ramifications, I am right.
Night sleep is overrated for many entrepreneurs, because they have a drive, something better than sleep. As Mr Linus Okorie, a motivational speaker, use to say “when a man has no purpose to wake up sleep becomes interesting” but I say” when a man owns a business, sleep become boring”

A man who sleeps all day has no work while a man who sleeps all night has no business.

An entrepreneur has no set time for work, every time is work. He puts in countless hours strategizing on how best to move his business forward and keep his dreams alive.

#5 SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS
I don’t know if this is an African Thing, but the moment it is known that you run your own business the demands from your family, friends, in laws and all persons will increase as everyone will think “you have arrived”. People you gave less will expect more and will scorn you if you fail to do so. And if you are not wise enough, you might run down your business before it even started.

Now that you are aware of the aforesaid risk and uncertainty, you must ponder seriously on your intentions to own a business and how prepared you are mentally, spiritually, financially and all the lly…

If my feeble attempt to scarce you about being an entrepreneur is working then you may not have the stomach for more tough unforeseen challenges of becoming an entrepreneur. But if it enlightens and motivates you more, than conup g, rats, you may very well be the next Dangote.

I love that, I will follow u up

Dereformer: Let me start by saying, I'm an Hnd holder. Having gone through posts on this forum where some of my fellow Hnd holders bemoan their fate in the in the labour market, I cannot but say, upgrade what u currently have by enrolling into a university of your choice for a part-time Bsc program. Whether you go ahead to get PGD, MSC or professional qualification such as ACA, ACCA, CISA, COREN, CITN, etc, the discrimination will still be there without a Bsc certification. Even with my HND(Distinction) Acct, ACA, i find it difficult to believe that many organisations will publish vacancy requiring only university degree. Folks, we have to get this Bsc. Even though at my age (37) I should have obtained an MSC and one or two more professional qualifications; but i have made up my mind to go for a Bsc come next year 2013. Some universities will start you from 200 level, while some like IMSU will give 300 level. Plsease, be encouraged. Responses are encouraged.

Dereformer: Let me start by saying, I'm an Hnd holder. Having gone through posts on this forum where some of my fellow Hnd holders bemoan their fate in the in the labour market, I cannot but say, upgrade what u currently have by enrolling into a university of your choice for a part-time Bsc program. Whether you go ahead to get PGD, MSC or professional qualification such as ACA, ACCA, CISA, COREN, CITN, etc, the discrimination will still be there without a Bsc certification. Even with my HND(Distinction) Acct, ACA, i find it difficult to believe that many organisations will publish vacancy requiring only university degree. Folks, we have to get this Bsc. Even though at my age (37) I should have obtained an MSC and one or two more professional qualifications; but i have made up my mind to go for a Bsc come next year 2013. Some universities will start you from 200 level, while some like IMSU will give 300 level. Plsease, be encouraged. Responses are encouraged.

Dereformer: Let me start by saying, I'm an Hnd holder. Having gone through posts on this forum where some of my fellow Hnd holders bemoan their fate in the in the labour market, I cannot but say, upgrade what u currently have by enrolling into a university of your choice for a part-time Bsc program. Whether you go ahead to get PGD, MSC or professional qualification such as ACA, ACCA, CISA, COREN, CITN, etc, the discrimination will still be there without a Bsc certification. Even with my HND(Distinction) Acct, ACA, i find it difficult to believe that many organisations will publish vacancy requiring only university degree. Folks, we have to get this Bsc. Even though at my age (37) I should have obtained an MSC and one or two more professional qualifications; but i have made up my mind to go for a Bsc come next year 2013. Some universities will start you from 200 level, while some like IMSU will give 300 level. Plsease, be encouraged. Responses are encouraged.

don't be bothered by What type of qualifications you have got, rather be bothered with making the most out of it!
people with 0- levels are controlling millions and someone is here thinking of Bsc.
I advice you better start thinking of money!

There are an endless
amount of characters in the
workplace.
There’s the lady you find in the
break room, always on a diet and
commenting on your weight (God
help you if you are proportionate,
she will eat you alive). The guy who
shows off way too many baby
pictures of his not-that-cute-kid.
The girl who stays in her office with
the door shut, even during fire
drills. And the dreaded over-talker
who never gets the hint (which
might explain why that one girl
stays in her office).
We all play roles in our workplaces,
many of which are unique to only
our office. But there’s a standard
cast of characters as well. You can
find varieties of them anywhere you
go, but they all share the same skill
sets. They are the ones who will
succeed and the ones who will fail.
In lieu of filling you with fluffy “this
is what a successful person looks
like” talk, I thought I’d take the
opposite route. The following is a
list of people who stand out for all
the wrong reasons. Fair warning: If
you don’t know who this person is
at your office, it might be you.
1. The Gullible One.
If I’ve learned anything over the
years, it’s that you should never
believe everything a company says.
Don’t believe them when they say
they don’t expect layoffs (the mere
mention of that word suggests
they’re on the way). Don’t believe
that they’ve offered you the highest
salary they can. Don’t believe them
when they say they can’t negotiate
your raise. And definitely don’t
believe them when they say “this
year has been really bad, but next
year you’re going to get hooked up
on that promotion you want!”
When a boss, HR rep or recruiter (or
anyone playing a role in your career
and financial success) states
something that makes you tilt your
head to the side and think “huh…
that seems sketch,” don’t just
accept it.
As I’ve said before, the car dealer
will act like he can’t budge on a
number. But if you stand up and
start walking to the door he’ll
automatically find a discount for
you. Companies are in it for the
bottom line even when they’re
negotiating things with their
employees. They want to encourage
you to stick around while also
finding a way to save money. And it
saves them money to give you a
smaller raise, to skip a round of
promotions, to make you work
through Christmas. Don’t fall for it.
2. The Groupthinker.
Groupthink is a psychological
problem that runs rampant in
workplaces. Even more if you’ve got
a large population of “longtermers”
in a corporation. Groupthink is why
technology isn’t updated, why
policies are outdated, why there’s
no new blood (or ideas) on a team,
why you hear the sentence “you
can’t do that, that’s not how we’ve
always done it!”
It’s easy to spot these people,
especially if you’re new to a
company. They sit in clumps
together and they make bizarre
statements in meetings, they do the
same things every day and they
complain when their life is disrupted
by something (or someone) new.
If you fight against a mass of
groupthinkers, you run a high risk
of failure, persecution, derailment
and tons of frustration. But if you
engage and join them, you will
become silly and possibly
unmarketable for your next career
jump. Take your pick.
3. The Fearful One.
People do ridiculous things when
they’re scared. Just ask anyone
who’s died in a horror movie (I
mean, who drops the phone and
runs up the stairs?!).
Fearful people will cause you
serious amounts of trouble at work.
If they’re scared of getting fired,
they will find a way to point a finger
at you. If their project is failing, they
will suggest your role was to blame.
Drowning people will grab whatever
they can to keep their head above
water. Don’t stand too close and
become that object.
And don’t become the drowning
person. If you ever feel worried
about something at work, you sense
something bad coming your way or
you screw up big time, avoid the
fear by taking some action. Talk to
someone, your boss, your mentor or
a peer to get information that will
quell your fears. Or fess up and find
out immediately what repercussions
are headed your way for the screw-
up so you’re not worried about the
unknowns. Do whatever you need to
do in order to avoid becoming the
fearful one.
4. Apathetic Guy.
The other day, a friend of mine
posted a message on Facebook FB
+3.3% stating her frustration that
people keep calling her upcoming
maternity leave a “vacation.” She
mentioned a litany of things that
have to be done while you’re on
maternity leave (none of it sounded
remotely vacation’ish). She
referenced this because she felt
judged and persecuted for her
decision to take the time off.
Consider now the single person. If
you haven’t been in this demo for
awhile, you might not be aware of
this, but single people are also
victims of workplace apathy. I’ve
actually heard the sentence, “You
can stay late tonight to finish this,
right? I gotta get out of here and it’s
not like you’re going home to a
family.”
Everyone is dealing with something.
Everyone feels judged and
misunderstood every once in
awhile. And everyone feels the sting
from these moments. Show some
compassion even when you’re
having trouble putting yourself in
their shoes.
Don’t be the apathetic coworker.
The grass isn’t always greener, even
though it may appear so.
5. The Sore Loser.
Anytime you’re successful or
experience something great in life or
your career, I guarantee you that
someone somewhere will doubt that
you earned it the good ‘ol hard-
working way. That someone
somewhere is the sore loser.
A sore loser will think you got that
deal because you’ve got an
important last name. Or that you
were hired because your Mom sits
in the corner office. Or that you
simply got lucky (literally and
figuratively).
You can’t stop a sore loser from
thinking what they want and you
can’t convince them out of their
opinion. The only way to battle a
sore loser is to make sure they’re
not right (it might surprise some of
you ladies that yes, business can
indeed be conducted outside the
bedroom!).
Update: It’s been called to my
attention by several female readers
that the comment above was
offensive and diminishes the hard-
earned success of females in the
workplace. I realize now it was a
poor example and misrepresented
the very reason I have this column.
It wasn’t my goal to suggest that
women are perpetuating a Mad
Men-era stereotype and that men
are absolved of their roles in these
scenarios. While it exists, this in
fact is NOT a common problem in
the workplace. I mentioned it as
merely a side note to emphasize the
importance in making sure “Sore
Losers” are not making accurate
accusations by carrying yourself
properly in the workplace.
Use your connections and your
network to get ahead, but do your
own dang work. Show results. Then
the sore losers will disappear one
by one.
6. Malicious Gossiper.
There’s harmless gossip and then
there’s malicious gossip. Harmless
gossip is…harmless. But you must
avoid the malicious gossiper
completely. In fact, put large
amounts of space between you and
this person.
Assume that since they’re willing to
share really bad information with
you, they’re sharing it with other
people. They’re kind of like the flu.
If you run across a malicious
gossiper and they start talking,
whatever you do, don’t agree with
them. Because the next thing you
know, your sentence of “Oh, I agree
with you – I bet she totally slept
with that guy to get that job” will be
shortened to “So and so just told
me that so and so slept with so and
so!” And voila, you’re screwed.
7. The Apologizer.
I recently attended an event where
several startups were invited to
pitch. One woman stood up to sell
her idea to a room undoubtedly full
of millions, a big opportunity for a
small company. She looked sharp
and ready. But then she opened
with, “Don’t worry, this isn’t a
crappy website that does blah…”
Well shoot. For the remainder of her
presentation, I assumed her website
was crappy.
The Apologizer will discredit
themselves as soon as they open
their mouth. They will start a
presentation with qualifying
statements like the one above or
they will ask for a raise by saying, “I
know we don’t have a lot of money,
but…” They lose these deals
because they show a massive lack
of confidence in the statement,
regardless of topic.
You don’t necessarily have to avoid
this person. Just don’t be this
person. The company pays you a
salary because they think you’re
worth it. You have every right to be
in the room and to be having that
conversation right then. Why act
like you don’t belong there?
Repeat the following statement as
many times as you need to before
you have an important conversation
or make a presentation: Be
confident, not cocky.
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you are are certainly not a business man .