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Zipporah
@Z_Tetteh
I don't understand why Nigerian ladies complain of their men, it's beyond me. Hands down, Nigerian men are the best in Africa. Their mother, sister, wife/girlfriend(s), daughter & even mother in law they treat with maximum respect.

Nigerian ladies, respect your man

Before I started moving with Nigerians, I used to think all men are the same, but as I made friends with Nigerians, I noticed all men aren't. It was very obvious in fact. The may Nigerian men talk and act to ladies is absolutely remarkable.

At first I thought they behave that way just to woo ladies. Turns out I was wrong again. Over the years, I've come to notice how 9ja men treat ladies in their life(Mother, Sister, Wife/Girlfriend, daughter) with absolute respect I began to envy. Maybe all what I see on their movies are true after all. I can't watch from outside no more, so I started a relationship with a Nigerian, how different things became, it was like magic, saint like behavior. I couldn't believe my eyes, I was alert cos he may be working an angle. He could be playing games, but again I was wrong. After listening to conversations and gossips, I noticed that for them, it's a shame for a man to mistreat his lady. A 9ja man will say " give my woman the same respect you give me" honestly he doesn't get better

A typical 9ja man makes his lady presentable because he believes that how his peer will respect him as a man. Romantic stuff!!, he'll take care of his house and even if there's problem inside, outsiders will never notice.To a typical 9ja man it's a shame to hit a lady, he'll just walk away or ignore you, I know cos I'm rude and have a quick mouth. Things you'll get a typical Burko beating for saying to a Ghana boy, a 9ja man will just walk away. His friends can not tell you nonsense as well cos they respect you the same way they respect their friend. It's also difficult not to get carried away with "our wife" or "first lady" title you are automatically given to you by his friends. I had a friend that worked at a pub, she stared dating a Nigeria, one day she rushed to me and said, "it's this what you've been enjoying?" With happiness as her foundation. She has been a victim of household boxing in the past from your regularly Nii, Adjei and Kojo. She made a statement,"Even if they cheat, they do it with respect", I burst into laughter, she said she caught him texting another girl, he apologized and bought her a gift. Enjoyment paaa�. Nii will beat you for searching tru his phone. I remember I final statement that day, " I can't date Ghana boys again, my level has changed ", I also remember one time when I went out with a Ghanaian, he's phone kept ringing, he gave me his phone and said "ebe my wife dey disturb me like this, tell her say she dey disturb ". I picked up my phone and made sure I used my braids to flog him while walking away in disgust. I felt bad for his wife cos initially I didn't know.

Just imagine such disrespect

Gradually most of my friends now date Nigerians, and their testimony remains the same. My mum personally loves Nigerians she name me after one of her tenants when I was born. Currently she has 3 Nigerian tenants and I do talk with them a lot and I watch them closely. Closely enough to see the difference. My old her dresser came from South Africa and told me her own version of the same story. "9ja men in SA work hard for their family" they are always hustling. But kojo will walk round Accra with his friends and expect his gf to feed him.

Hard Work and respect, we like

So 9ja ladies, if you like don't take them serious. I know one thing for sure, if you let your men cross the border, they may never come back cos they'll be treated like kings elsewhere. I'm yet to see a Nigerian girl and a Ghana guy relationship, even if there is, it's rare, because the girls can't go lower than the standard they are used to. But the 9ja boys always go for the Gh ladies cos we treat them like kings.

Please if you name is Nii or Kojo, mepaakyɛw don't be angry ok. I'm just playing. Respect to the few real Ghana kings your thread coming soon


Finally,I'm grown-up enough to know my bride price hasn't been paid. On that note, I'll enjoy it while it last

Prince Charming only exists in Disneyland

SMH

deewhy13:
Oga free me abeg.... wats all dis arrant nonsense self, nairaland dey pay me for dis? or Google. enough of dis ur shit cos don't really get ur point, wat matters is dat people get d info needed and benefit something good from it

You are a thief. Give credit to the writer or original owner. You just copy and paste. Thief. Plagiarism is a crime.

In Nigeria, You Don’t Need To Set An Alarm While Sleeping,Your Problem Will Always Wake You Up.

No give credit to the writer.

MarieSucre:
This is brilliant.

May I copy this please while giving you credit.

I'll tell you a story by Uche Metuh.

There's this girl who aced all her subjects in secondary school, not just acing but award-worthy educational success. She was so good that at her Junior Secondary 3 (JSS 3) level, she was solving mathematical problems from Senior Secondary 1 & 2 (SS 1 & 2) curriculum.

1st Mistake
She loved Maths & computers but was admitted into the university to study Geology.

Today, she still thinks she would have been a statistics wizard if she'd been allowed to just study Math or Engineering. You know - subjects where she doesn't have to always cram some qualitative garbage but provide quantitative solutions.

2nd Mistake
When she got into the university, she realized she didn't have to study very hard. Very few people were bothering to anyway. She was extremely smart & could hold her own but it became easier to combine intellectual efforts with other students at assignments, tests & final exams. The system allowed it. All her friends did it so, why fight it?

3rd Mistake
While at school, no one ever taught her how to write a résumé or successfully approach interviews. She, just like everyone around her wanted a good life but the system pretty much set them up to fail. When she graduated, she met a professional at an international oil & gas company who asked her what she wanted to do in life & to explain her undergraduate degree experience but she was not prepared for that, she gave answers which were weak, mostly incoherent, lacked precision or clarity. She'd never thought of herself in that light.

The internet wasn't readily accessible back then so she was pretty much left on her own with her fellow ignorant peers. She also had a great & supportive family who she leaned on. Luckily for her, she got some mentors, then left the country for her masters degree. At 1st, she struggled at her Canadian university.

Correcting her 2nd mistake
She had to actually learn all those skills & resources she didn't bother with back in Nigeria due to combined students’ efforts. She had to read all those textbooks she never bothered with in her Nigerian university in order to excel at her program.

Correcting her 3rd mistake
She also met lecturers whose method of teaching was about empowering students to run with their ideas. It wasn't about multiple choice questions but making a case of why Case A is better/worse than Case B.It made her actually think for the 1st time in her life. She learned how to make great presentations. It was a confidence boost. It was exhilarating!

She learned about plagiarism which is a very despicable thing. She also learned about self-development, professional development & presentations. She learned it was ok to make decisions, make mistakes & then learn from them. She became comfortable working alone & also with a team. She learned the power of independence. She was a different person. She became more confident about her thoughts & ideas. No one laughs at her mistakes nor condemns her for them. Her bosses don't care about always being right or barking orders at those under them. Team contributions is crucial, encouraged & needed.

Everybody is equal. No one feared anyone. It was a healthy environment. She was valued. She freely runs her program the way she sees fit.

This is Uche Metuh story.

There's no correcting my 1st mistake. If I ever do, I'll tell a story about it. If you read this, you'd understand how the Nigerian system encourages laziness & might discourage talent because of envy or pride. Many Nigerian graduates are victims of their own underdeveloped & redundant society. Maybe with the internet, a few might self-improve. Otherwise, they're unemployable because there's very few people to teach them better.

Note to any Nigerian student reading this - don't take the easy way out. Read not just to pass your examinations but to actually know. You'd be truly a better person & student for it.

Good luck!

Religion was never designed to control the people. It was a tool to guide the people. Every religion incorporated day to day science through teachings. For eg. wearing a cap by muslims because muslim religion primarily flourished in middle east which is an arid area. Skipping non vegetarian in hinduism at least once a week to keep the metabolism fit, they have made Tuesday specifically as a certain Gods day and forbid eating non vegetarian on that day. God is nothing but just a tool to give people a faith and follow practices which are good for them.

Now completing the answer. It’s not the religion which controls people, it’s the tendency of the people to be controlled because nobody talks about self control. The promoters of the religion who don’t even understand religion are the people who actually realise this tendency and try to exploit it by creating fear of god

femi4:
How? Do you care to explain

But I think religion has been seen as an excuse to wage war and to assert power more than anything else, and while religion is supposed to bring about unity amongst different people under a single unifying belief, it also created the greatest division and schism that, to this day, still have not been resolved satisfactorily, some remain even under the same banner. EG Protestants and Catholics were at it a lot in NI until decades ago, and the Western Roman catholics and Eastern Orthodox Christians never officially reconciled until literally this century, and both of these are all under the same Christian Banner. Similar things are also happening in Islam right now, and I am not going into the Islam vs Christianity adversity since they met each other.

You should know better.

femi4:
How? Do you care to explain

ok

Masama:
Get lost with your Satanically inspired advice

I am leaving finally.

nwanneni:
leave nigeria matter.tell us about your Paul but a infested country instead

copied from www.quora.com
I have seen various Chinese who are exploring their business in the wild land. Reasons are many, and I’ll try to list some as I know.

Chinese do master many technologies and skills that Africans don’t. My friend is a farmer.

In China, farming won’t make people rich and only the elder people who are not wanted by job opportunities in cities and factories farm. When he was employed as a construction worker, he surprisingly found how rare the varieties of vegetables were. Then after he finished the contract, he bought 50 acres of farmland at a river side in Ghana. He bought pumps and tractors and buried hoses underground. Then he planted various vegetables on it and supplied them to restaurants and Chinese communities.

Previously, vegetables like colorful peppers were imported either from South Africa or Europe by International Supermarkets and the prices are very high. Of course the work is hard but the earning is higher than that he made as an employee. Later, my friend hired some local people and expanded his business to cigarettes and wine supplying thanks to their vegetable delivery service. He became even a social central man among the Chinese population in Greater Accra Region.
Enterprise opportunities are many for ordinary Chinese. African officials are easier to deal with than their Chinese counterparts. Corruption is a sub-rule in both China and Africa. But in China, they won’t accept a random bidder’s bribe if there is no middle man and the cash deposit can be very high and beyond what an ordinary Chinese can afford. But in Africa, it is much easier. The contractor who decorated our shops came to Ghana as a carpenter. Later on he learnt to design and decorate houses because furniture and decoration merging is a trend in China. 3 years later, he managed to get a contract to build a section of road, which surprised me a lot.

In China, road building was a profitable but high threshold. He has finished lifting his own social class by coming to Africa.
Far less fierce competition. In Ghana, the commodity price is 3–4 times higher than that in China. In China, running a 200 square meters supermarket won’t make you rich, but in Africa it can. In China, operating several printing shops can feed your family and pay your apartment mortgage in a 2nd tier city but can’t buy you a villa in Shanghai and allow your whole extended family to fly to Chiang Mai for vacations in 5-star resorts several times a year, but in Africa it can.Many common facilities and resources are scarce in Africa.

In one of my answers I mentioned, one Chinese doctor owns the first and only lithotripter in Ghana. Of course this monopoly status brings him high margin.

Normally, those Chinese who come to Africa are of lower social class and less education. They can normally get lifted after starting a business in Africa.

I'm an cameronian that worked in, Nigeria for 5 years. I want to tell you that Nigerians are the friendlies, most hospitable people I've ever known.

They are let down by their corrupt leaders who are not content with stealing millions but need billions.

The average Nigerian is poor and has to be self sufficient to survive. There is no Government help. School fees, hospital fees all have to be paid for. The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.

Religion is another way of controlling the population. Nigerians are very religious. They are very naïve and believe everything their told in the name of religion.

The best way forward for Nigerians is to empower their women who are the real power in Nigeria. Let the women have power over their bodies and their lives and you'll see that Nigeria will progress.

Liberate Nigeria from their primitve religious beliefs and patriarchal society and Nigeria will prosper.

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fernandoc:
I want to register my company asap. If you can help me indicate. Thanks

idahtee can help

talk2ancient:
eeyah sorry sis.this story is so touching you know.God will help you.but judging from the names you mentioned and their approaches which you highlighted,I think the guy that gave you two options sounds better among all

I am fine and better now.

Clvot:
Don't bother about the time ,I have spent more than this time looking for Solution without any ,Health is Wealth ,its the most important ,You too knows the Experience you had ,precious time spents when you are looking for solution ,Health comes first .Your Testimony is Amazing ,Its Unique ,you got cured .... That is it ...The Professional Nurse that Cured you prescribed some Medications ,Right? I repeat kindly for Gods sake Type it here .God bless you as you don't ask me to email you ,wahles or anyone again .Yes I need the Cure you Testified about but yet Cautious is the Word as you too were Cautious during your Travails

You don't seems to get it, do you? For the goodness sake, it was not a nurse neither was it Wahles.
Upload your test results.

Clvot:
@engwari, Who is the Professional that cured you , mention the cure here ,don't do it via emails ,Send it here please to help others,The professional must have a contact ,name as well .He is a nice person to have cured you ,he can solve mine and others tooo .Do it here Pls.

if you understand the word professional, then you will never ask for contacts. Clvot, I'm not the professional that handled my case neither do I have my case file. No offence intended, the time you are taking to call me out is enough to either send a pm or.