Insecurity:


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He should face the wrath of the law and so should every other person do, irrespective of their personality or office.

Who observed that no one condemned him as an Islamic cleric? If it were to be a Pastor this was found in his possession, many would have been saying “All Pastors are fake.” Why is no one tieing this man's evil to his office?

Softboy001:
I don't even know how to begin, but am going to try and make it short, I want to know if there is anyone in my shoes, please let me know in the comments section.

Firstly I like to say this I love sex so so much. Yea I do but it's so unfortunate that am not able to do what I love. It's fustrating. It's been 2 years now since I had sex. It's not that I don't want to but I don't just know, the reason I writing this is because the kind of konji that am feeling now is overwhelming, as in am no longer comfortable. It's terribly fustrating.

I just want to know if there is anything I can do to help my situation. So if you got any advice kindly let me know in the comment section. I didn't introduce my self just call me mr D. Am 27 years old.

So here are the reasons. I separated them into primary and secondary reasons. I'll explain only the primary reasons.

primary reasons
1. Finance. This is one of the main reasons, I don't have funds. As in I don't have 1 naira. Nothing at all so I feel there is no need trying to get a girl. I have tried and it always fail because I don't have even as low as airtime to call and keep the relationship going. let's face it relationship in Nigeria, you got to have money as a guy. Currently I have been going through some hard times, after I finish school in 2019. My serious gf that got me all focus in relationship stuffs left me and broke me.

2. I don't do olosho ( prostitute)

So some my friends find this strange because they know am a bad guy when it comes to sex. But the truth is that I don't do olosho. Apart from d fact that I don't have much. Olosho is a No No for me. As in not at all. Not to be considered. I just don't like it. I can give a girl money or do a favor but not in exchange or direct exchange for sex. The olosho is so so annoying for me. where I recently relocated to ( lagos State). That's what they do
They call it hook up. But it's just pure olosho
I guess I would have had sex by now and won't be feeling what am feeling currently if only I will agree to pay for sex. But I don't


3. Lastly I don't have a place and have been moving.

for the past 3 years. I have been moving. I have not been steady in only place to get to know people. Am always new where am going to. And it's not easy to get a girl immediately.i have staying 2 months here 4 there for the pass 3 years. Currently am staying with my brother and his wife. In a room and palor. And it's not been easy at all for me. I can't even be talking of konji now self. But the konji won't let me be

Secondary reasons.
4.am an introvert
5. Am not that tall. Am short
6. Lately I been having some kind of dislike for the ladies behave
This topic is getting to long. I hope I been able to explain enough sha. Kindly let me know if you have any thoughts on this.

C'mon, I think your problem is more than just sex!
2 years is nothing! I have not had sex since 2007 and am 29 now. I would have been proud to be a virgin now, if not that I was sexually abused around that year by an older female relative who stayed with us. Anyway, I've forgotten all that, only have the memories.

Back to the matter.
What you need is to get busy productively. Find a purpose, something you can live for in which you can glorify God through and bless your generation.

Secondly, change your mindset about sex. Anyone can control himself. Self control is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit. Ask God to help you. It's not as if I don't have the urge to have sex myself, of course I do. The difference is that I'm gaining mastery over my flesh by the help of the holy spirit. Even if you have sex today, assure you the konji would not die, it would only increase and trigger the urge more.

Start looking for more than having sex, pray and work towards getting married now that you have a job.

In addition, renew your mond by the word of God. Scriptures keeps us from sinning. When the Holy Spirit dwells on it, our flesh dies and we become alive unto righteousness. What you need is a renewal of your mind else, even if you get married, like I suggested, you will still have the strong urge to have sex.

Lastly, see a man of God in a Bible Believing church or a maturing Christian for counselling. Believe me brother, there are many people who have crossed this river you're in now and they didn't get drown, God helped them. They can help you too.
There are many brothers and sisters who have been living sexually pure for decades (without any problems with their sexual organs), they have sexual urges both the Holy Spirit is helping them.
Meet them to help you!
Become more committed with the things of God.

This is my counsel for you to bring a lasting solution. It might not be a popular one, but it's from a scriptural point of view. It has been working for me and many others and if only you give it a thought and practice, you will come back testifying again!

It is well with you.

Agubushmenyo:
We have always criticized the female folks without trying to know the root of the problem. Here are some 8 Lesson I wish we guys know about girls. Read on and be Wiser in dealing with them.

#1. If she flinches when you try to put your arm around her…someone else’s hands once wasn’t too sweet.
#2. If she's full of questions, someone else lied to her in the past. Be patient with her.
#3. If she's secretive and doesn’t tell you things outright, someone else once betrayed her trust. Prove to her you wont do the same.
#4. If she suspects every move you make, someone else wasn't transparent with her. Be different. Be transparent with her
#5. If she's cold, distant and hostile with people she's just meeting and even sometimes with you, chances are someone ABUSED her in the past. She's a victim of abuse like RAPE. She's still hurting.
#6. If she’s clingy and possessive, someone once hurt and dumped her. She's scared of being abandoned again. Assure her of your love.
#7. If she's playing hard to get, someone in her past once treated her like a doormat. She just want to be sure you are real.
#8. If she's sneaks and wants to know all about you, someone wasn't straight with her. Assure her you are different. Talk to her.
LESSON GUYS: Behind every difficult and complicated girl who Is scared to love freely is a girl who's is tired of being hurt and broken. Bye patient with her.

why is it all about the someone this, someone that thing?

Trailblazer1:
Fact: No policeman will go to heaven

Agree or not?

Trailblazer1:
Fact: No policeman will go to heaven

Agree or not?

Trailblazer1:
Fact: No policeman will go to heaven

Agree or not?

disagree. Everybody cannot be the same. We still have godly people evrywhere.

DesChyko:
Who owns this story?

Discuss it with ur pastor and also be prayerful.

Chibest2000:
Source: Sweetdating

Sorry nt really me! Copied it 4rm a website n thought advises n suggestions could help someone here who might b in dsame shoe with d original poster. Tnx!!

IF YOU REALLY LOVE YOUR WIFE, YOU HAVE TO TELL HER THE TRUTH OR RUINE YOUR HOME. HAVE YOU FORGOTTEN THE PORTION OF THE BIBLE WHERE JESUS CHRIST WAS TEMPTED AND HOW HE OVERCAME?EVEN JOSEPH DAT SAW FORNICATION AS UNJUST WITH PORTIPHER'S WIFE. YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE. WHT DOES THAT GIRL HAVE DAT YOUR WIFE DOES'NT? SO MUCH FOR YOU. MAKE YOURCHOICE

Neddyogu: tell him d phone has been withdrawn 4rm d mkt due to factory fault. D tin dey bend!

TELL HIM THE TRUTH THAT YOU LIED INITIALLY BECAUSE YOU FELT HE WOULD THINK YOU HAVE ALOT OF MONEY..

OnyeEgo1:

sir? There is just OnE book u are allowed to read for understanding correction THE BIBLE.. 2tim 3:16.. Hence its not there in dat book, no book den can justify it

sure. That book i recommended was written by a pst with d knowledge of d holy bible on God's requirement from a relationship.

kennyonthrone: I doubt if anybody wil b raptured.....we al knw dat christainz of 2day na jst 4 mouth......if dia should b rapture nw broda sincerely speakin many*if nt al* myself inclusive wil b missin out

Dnt think that way. If ur nt in d right standing with God, does'nt means evry body is'nt. There are pple trying evryday to please God in all rammifications. Me and my household inclusive. Heaven is my home.

emmyskies:

What a quote from the pit of hell and the devil. My friend, body no be firewood shay? But e go turn to firewood for the lake of fire for eternity if one don't repent and discipline self.

See, there would be no excuse on the last day. If you truely want to live Christ-like and be saved, it is hundred percent possible. If you want to live a life without fornicating or sinning at all, it is possible because the word of GOD have confirmed it that no temptation can befall you beyond that which you can't overcome -1st Cor 10:13

So write off that quote from your heart and strive to make heaven

yea lts possible. Pple of old like joseph and daniel saw sin and ran away frm it. Bt nothing is wrong in courting. You may wana read boy meet girl by joshua harris

Liability: i am having that guilt that i made a good guy turn bad. That my actions may have changed him completely and other ladies may be victims of my actions towards him.

hmm. you didnt even bother to knw his house or knw a little about him. Things aint done that way. Anyway, i pray u meet him someday.

AfricanApple: I usually see some girls wear ankle chain and I kinda admire it sometimes as I see it as fashion. but I was told its worn by prostitutes, that its what they use to identify themselves. how true is this besides how do you view girls who wear it.

for those I've seen who wears it, most of them are decent girls, so how come

decent girls don't wear that. Whether they re prostite dnt knw o. Hav't seen any before