It depend on lady ..Sometimes it fits them and make them look beautiful and admirable. And some times it makes them look like demonic spirit.

@OP, No mind my brother, na them suppose to even de pay us guys for digging and servicing them. if guys could understand this..they will never allow those ladies 2 form 4 them. i know how i dey handle their shakara.

Cayon: Did you slept with her because she is an "all arounder" or loved her?

If she is a nice girl, then keep it as y'all dirty little secret. If she is a "bicycle" where everybody is riding it then definitely tell your brother.

Whether she is all arounder or bicycle girl, just let your brother know you have dated the girl before, then if he want to continue the journey..then your hands are clean and u shuldnt go b/w them again.

NOTHING is wrong with that. my brother can marry my sister in-law. i think tradition doesn't forbid that. meanwhile F.U.CK that dead tradition that will come against it.

u fight with ur lover each 2 weeks? there are lots of reasons that may b causing this. u should hav explained more futher. nevertheless, it can happen b/c u re from different background and needs few time to understand urselves. bro, spot out what causes ur fight and stop it. and if you re not capable to end that mess..then u may let go. [in as much u have not married her]