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ilori1930:
that experience of untrue love is the more reason I have to ration my affection for any girl till I marry her. I can only be sure of the authenticity of my own feelings but she may be smartly playing with me.

ilori1930:
EstarKeys strongly advocating for 100per cent expression of love... lol. But seriously, there has to be adequate rationing... speaking from experience ooo

AreaFada2:
It's a good idea, but ladies are funny people.

The minute they know you're addicted to them, you become boring to them.

Most will become too comfortable and begin to take you for granted and misbehave.

Many female friends have admitted this much.

Urine:
Firstly, I don't think it's a form of emotional abuse.

Secondly, we will all agree that men and women are totally different, we don't and will never think the same way. Men are practical, women tend towards making decisions based on emotions.

For example when a man falls in love genuinely, he probably has seen some solid traits in a woman eg intelligence, respect, how she relates with other people but for a woman this is slightly different. Their decisions are based on emotions and emotions do 'fluctuate'. So to create a sort of balance, a man has to be bold and not give in to his emotion @ all times.

There are times to show a woman love and there are times to be 100% frank with a woman.

So to answer your question, a woman shouldn't do that or better still a woman can't do that.

Urine:
Firstly, I don't think it's a form of emotional abuse.

Secondly, we will all agree that men and women are totally different, we don't and will never think the same way. Men are practical, women tend towards making decisions based on emotions.

For example when a man falls in love genuinely, he probably has seen some solid traits in a woman eg intelligence, respect, how she relates with other people but for a woman this is slightly different. Their decisions are based on emotions and emotions do 'fluctuate'. So to create a sort of balance, a man has to be bold and not give in to his emotion @ all times.

There are times to show a woman love and there are times to be 100% frank with a woman.

So to answer your question, a woman shouldn't do that or better still a woman can't do that.

Mykel4God:
During my research,I noticed that these foods could replace rice during chrismas

1. YAM and EGG with TEA/BREAD and EGG with TEA (morning): this could be prepared on 25th morning before going for service

2. POUNDED YAM with EGUSI SOUP (afternoon): this could be prepared after you are back from service

3. SALAD with CHILLED DRINKS (evening): you can have this in the evening before going to bed

Now you have alternative

Kachisbarbie:
Disclaimer: This post is a hackneyed one and I respect the fact that we all can't be in consensus ad idem, that's why I have to state -it isn't entirely based on generalisation__ there are definitely some exceptions.

__ The term beauty/attractive in this context, I{We} would be looking @the physical beauty........now, I don't want that "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" saying {hehehe}_____ I am talking of that beauty, that transcends in the eyes of every beholder.

___ Mr Right {as opined by my humble self} is that man who communicates well, gives his lady that reassurance of self-worth and emotionally available.
If we have all assented to this...lets move on

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She gets a lot of advances from "predators": Predators here are those men who are naturally attracted to beautiful ladies for all the wrong reasons in the world. Those kinda men that hunt women like, it's some game. Their ostensible aim is to love her, but their real aim is actually- "hit and run". When she falls prey twice/more, it is only normal that she becomes reticent about her feelings___ thereby shutting the good guy(s) out.

She Friend-zones a lot: The average beautiful girl can friend-zone even her ancestor. She has lots of men who are ever willing to be in that "zone" or hoping for her eyes/heart to open to what they feel for her. She doesn't hesitate to put them there. The truth 'bout FZ{Friend-zone} is, if one person is harbouring romantic thoughts, sooner or later......the relationship would reach that climax where it either metarmophose(s) into a "real relationship" or dissolve.
Ladies please stop calling your future husband "just a friend"___lolz.

Men see her as outta their League: The less attractive a guy is - the less likely the chances of him approaching a very attractive woman.
How many guys are attractive/courageous enough to ask out a beautiful woman? Lolz.
Ok, certainly there are but a handful.
So, basically {predators} see a lady's beauty as an invitation ___ while {Mr-Nice guy} sees it as a deterrent.

She has a turgid ego: I am sure we are all familiar with this. Beautiful women tend to come with this bombastic/bloated and swollen ego. They are very confident of their looks. They believe they can get a man, the very next minute. Thus their "maintenance/control manual" is very voluminous. This could make men avoid them, that's why you hear things like "fine girl-plenty trouble". She has this feeling that she is to you -what a hat-trick is to C.Ronaldo, so it's expected you treat her like a goddess.


Dearest beautiful ladies, swallow your pride more often____ it doesn't contain excess calories.

angelsing:
Not at all, her change even surprised her, she sometimes joke that she hardly talk or go out before that I have completely taking that away from her...She is now a sociable person, who relates and gist well with all her new friends

angelsing:
Am sure while chatting with them before dating them, u wud have realise they are an introvert.. Just try and teach them or show them how to be an extrovert..I use to have an ex who was an introvert, after dating her for 8month she became an extrovert cos she learned from me

dre11:
Good for him
••• money good oooooo••••••










He stands by what he preach concerning marriage. One wife
One home
One love
One walk to eternity
Congrats to madam for staying that long with him

Fortune4u:
My dear since you are sure and you know that you love the person, keep on trying, teach the person to love you.
when you do that I know and am sure that the person will love you too.

Chiadanin:
" with LA valley girl accent"

Like duuuuhhhhh whats wrong with that, like whateverrrrrrrrrrrrr.

As if...........ughhhhh

"Normal mid west american-english accent"

*signs*. I dunno. Dont ask. I am bored and cranky. Need to eat. Chow mein chinese food. Yum....

donbukaz:
Why do GIRLS love using words like 'durrrrhhhh' and 'whatever'? This can be annoying at times!!!

Aprime:
Now unless you ain't the married woman,
How do you conjure situations like this from thin air?

post=28754088:
When it comes to romantic relationships, there’s not much that is more devastating than heartbreak. Losing someone you love – someone who is a significant part of your life – is one of life’s great tragedies. After a breakup, you not only experience the grief of missing your significant other, but the loss of the future you had envisioned with them as well. It’s not easy. I attach readily and have trouble letting go, so I’m the first to say that this period is hard.
Nonetheless, I feel heartbreaks have positive components. What do you think?

Here is a true story of Taju a Bricklayer I once knew.

Taju started the bricklayer job at a very young age since he was not privileged to go to school and get a sound education. One thing about Taju is that he has always been soo passionate about whatever it is he was doing, no matter how small. He started from the lowest level possible and within a short period of time, he became very good at what he does and for this fact he became well known. He was able to read plans and to work in a well organised way.He was the peoples choice when anyone had a construction site to work on.
After working for a little over two years, he made a "significant" amount of money and decided to settle down. He got married to his first love who stood by him all the while he did not have much. They were happy and living a better life as a couple as they moved from the suburbs to a more civilized area. Things were going well and work was becoming more productive, and he even set up a salon for his wife close to their home.On this faithful day, Taju left for work( the site) early to finalize their previous agreement , on getting there, the client he was meant to work for cancelled their meeting for the day and rescheduled for the next week. After supervising a few things on the site, he decided to go home to surprise his wife. On the way home, the shop was locked(the salon) so he figured his wife would be home, he took out his keys to open the door and realized it was already open. He walked in and saw his wife in bed with one of his close friends.
He screamed and walked out, that was the last anyone heard of Taju. Some say he is mad, some say he is dead, but its been 6 years and no one knows his whereabout.

In this above scenario, I feel Heart Breaks have positive components
Strength Comes From Your Resilience

After the dust settles, there is strength one can gain on the other side of heartbreak. You learn that you're absolutely able to bounce back from the tremendous sadness and grief the demise of this relationship has caused. If Taju had experienced this at one point or the other in his life, he would have picked himself up and learnt how to bounce back.

Important Lessons Can Be Learned

When a relationship ends, new questions get asked. Self-awareness can increase. Figuring out what you have learned from this situation, and how it has served as a stepping stone for your future relationships is invaluable information for you to have.

Figure Out What Changes Need to Be Made

This may be the perfect time to look at your own shortcomings, as few as they might be (wink, wink). When we modify our own behavior and learn how to create positive personal adjustments, this creates a tremendous sense of empowerment and hope. This shift in thinking can also help our next relationship to be more rewarding and successful. Maybe Taju actually had a problem that drove his wife to do that, but he never got to know what it was.

And Finally We Develop a Deep Sense of Gratitude

It's not uncommon for people post-heartbreak to look back on their past and ill-fated relationship with a sense of gratitude. They feel happy they are no longer with this person, yet equally grateful this person was a part of their love journey history. They feel thankful this experience helped shape them into being the person they are today. taju could have been a Big man in the construction industry by now, living well.

So you see, heartbreak can provide a lot of positive psychological benefits. And It can ultimately pave the way for having something bigger, better and more beautiful come your way. And if none of the above strategies work for you, remember: Living well is always the best revenge!

major466:
Oh! Simple question. The answer is...














...I have no idea. That's how girls are wired.

MrCork:
...u ain't light skin and u want us to callu baby? .. ...and then u compliant u can't find husband from Nairaland !

Gamine:
Yea peeps,
anyone gaming these days??

this area seems to be a bit dry

so why dont we just say whut we r gaming now
whut platform and why u r playing it

Me,


im currently on shinobido, way of the ninja
PS2
im playin it cos its a bit like Tenchu
just started anyways

izsmike:
because we often forget ur names or dnt wanna call u another gals name.

izsmike:
because we often forget ur names or dnt wanna call u another gals name.

kilokeys:
most pple can.. only while watching por.n

donbukaz:
lol. I can do it na

carefreewannabe:
OP, please make use of paragraphs. I read the first few lines and my eyes hurt. I would like to read more because it is a very interesting write up but I don't like to read unstructured texts.

Teempakguy:
op, i disagree. males are often the ones taught to be dependent. as their sisters are often given house work. both male and females suffer from protective parents. the fact that males become independent doesn't mean they were trained to do so, it's testestorone that forces boys to move out of their comfort zone and "test their strength" in the world. i tell you, there is no father that is as protective over his daughter as mothers are for their sons. your hypothesis is false.

Caspian22:
Dis doesn't sound lyk sumtin dat can happen in a 24 hrs period

Caspian22:
Dis doesn't sound lyk sumtin dat can happen in a 24 hrs period

Cholls:
My sister thanks for consulting me to assist you with writing part of your nollywood script.


So back to the question. It's. Actually easy,just invite the 5 of them to a date at the same time.



...........welcome to Rome

Cholls:
My sister thanks for consulting me to assist you with writing part of your nollywood script.


So back to the question. It's. Actually easy,just invite the 5 of them to a date at the same time.



...........welcome to Rome