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Walexy96:
I also see it this way too but majority has convinced me to move on. Happy New Year anyway.

follow ur instinct...happy nw year dear

Orikinla:
There are more ex lovers who are still very much in love with themselves than those who are not.
Two of my ex girlfriends are in this situation, because they said they married their husbands, because I was not ready when they were ready. And until I got hitched, one of them was still very much in love with me and visited me every week, holding hands as we walked on the street in a public display of love that she never did with her husband. In fact, people saw us more together in public than her husband. And I have seen similar cases, even girlfriends who are still sleeping with their ex-boyfriends.

I have seen a married woman snapping at her husband, but melts whenever she sees her ex-boyfriend.
And many guys still want to date their ex-girlfriends, even the married ones.

When your wife talks about her ex with glints in her eyes and her cheeks glow in cheerfulness, then that is a clear sign that she is still in love with him.

My policy is never to call any married ex-girlfriends.
One of them suddenly visited after a year and we really missed each other.
But when another married ex girlfriend came to see me with her husband, he was feeling uncomfortable and intimidated.
Most husbands don't like seeing the ex-boyfriends of their wives, especially the ones they dated for years.
Having a wife who adores you does not stop you from missing an ex-girlfriend you love.
Even marrying a virgin, does not make her more beloved to you than an ex-girlfriend you love.

always folow ur heart as far as d love is shared rationally

STENON:
Afta showin my true n Sincere Love,Care n respect for him, nt by avin sex or demandin 4Money/anytin frm him.......He changed his character after one n half yrs....Stopped calin,calin him witout pickin,cnt evn reply my text bk...bt prefers online chatin n replyin all my long essay of Online discusion wit him wit jst one word lyk ''Ok'',''Lol''....He dnt knw ow to open up n tell me to dt he's no mor interested..Bt i believe dt Action speak Louder dan words...I decided to say it out to him nt willingly bt out of Frustration...dat he shld let us brk d relatnship...n He wz very api abt dat.........Alhough, tis very difficult to let d pains go...n I knw d population is arnd 6-7billions of people in dis world.....bt he can neva meet such a Lady lyk me Again in dis Life.....

ma dear de re out der...vry few of em

ATOB:
Have you noticed? That a lady could end a relationship with a dude, with no going back, no regrets, no remorse, no penitence at all but when its the other way round they cry victim.

Dont they deserve the way they are being treated already?

Though (of course) not all ladies are probably guilty of this but it is commonplace that a lady usually feels she was used when it is the man who ends a relationship.

When push comes to shove, I think women are generally "dark hearted" and they sometimes deserve the way they are been treated and used.

When a woman wants to end a relationship, they dont do it the proper way and they dont think about it. So evil ways. Examples:

1) Not picking of calls anymore.
2) They delete your number.
3) They stop seeing you ASAP.
4) Lets just be friends (what? after all the expenses and emotional investment and sexx).
5) An outright im not interested again.



Well if you think I have just been heartbroken, think what you may. Its just a thread here.

cos we own de love in our finger tips

Walexy96:
For some months now the relationship has been so bored to the two of us.
I tried my best to make things back to normal but what can I do when my good seems not to be good enough ?

The story is complicated, If not, I would have love to share it here.
But last night she send this text msg. so i want to know what she is really saying because i don't think I understand as she is not that straight forward in the decision she made.

This is the text: i write u dis txt wit g.rief in my heart...afta all dis y...our love shld ave waited a little much longa bt i dnt tink it has cum to stay...i am realky sori ...if i dcd to kip u...i will kip hurting u ...n i dnt want it...u gave it so many chances...n its obvious dat u dnt love me as u use to so its of no use...since we cant regain bak our love...so i dnt want u to boda abt me...pls move on...n forgive me if i ave don anytin to wrng u..i want to clear all dis bfr a new yr.so u can frgive me...dnt boda calling cause i cant talk to u nw...until i get ova it

so my question is that what exactly should i do ?
Did she mean it is over really ?
or she just want to take the pain just to see me happy since she failed in bringing/giving the happiness ?

she jex wan tak away d pain...she loves u mur dan u do

demisig:
She comes to your house on a visit for the
first time, You both get along together, Laughing and sharing life experiences. Then it was getting dark and therefore time for her to go home, But it has started
raining heavily. So she waited until it was late. You both decide she stays for the night. And both of you slept on the same bed WITHOUT ANYTHING HAPPENING (No Sex). Later in the morning, She dresses up and leaves while you wave her goodbye.
The next day, while you both are talking on phone, you ask her when next she ll visit you, Then she asks you;
VISIT ? THE ONE I CAME, WHAT DID YOU DO ?
And now she doesn't give the guy attention again . always busy to pick calls sef
!! QUESTION::
What do you think ?
Was the guy WISE in not sexing her
or Otherwise
what should the guy do after this kinda situation

she desperately needed sex,,,buh d guy is howeva very wise by not givin her dat..its unecessary

Chizzy20:
Newsflash, its nt d guy who determines weda u re a plaything or he wants to b serious abt u nd get to knw u more, its u( ladies).
Wen a man approaches u, u re d one wit total control ova d situation- whether he can talk to u, buy u a drink, dance with u, get ur nos, take u home, see u again, all of dat. Men certainly want these things frm u, dats y dey talked to u in d 1st place. But its u who decides if u re goin to giv dem any of d things dey want, nd how exactly dey re goin to get dem.
Where u stand in men's eyes is dictated by ur control ova d situation. Every wrd u say, every move u make, every signal u give a man will help him determine whether he should try to play u, be straight with u or move on to d nxt woman.

true

Ksslib:
I keep hearing/coming across writtens that suggest---it takes a woman as little as 2,3 minutes to decide if a guy is date-able(i..e she likes him)or not, even when meeting him for the first time.

I know women to be very unpredictable and weird atimes, but this one is surprising though. At first, I thought its was a figure of speech, but later figured it probably isn't.

I brushed through a study on basic instinct I found online and cut out the part I found interesting.

Here:


https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2010/12/22/article-1340868-045707B90000044D-522_468x344.jpg

Ladies, I ll like to know from yall if this is really true.

very very wrong

Gracie100:
iv had a crush on him since sec skul, tho he was my senior, I admired him because he was hardworking and intelligent.
when he graduated, I moved on with my life.
we met again this yr in d university he ws in 400l(law)
while I just got admission. we became close friends and he helpd take me thru sum of my gs courses, he even told me I cud call him my elder bro.
sumhow we lost contact but I always see his post on fb, but thing is, he has Never messgd me, I even comment on his post and lyk dm jst so he cud notice me but he doesn't.
recently I had a dream where he came back to me, but its nt happening in real life.
nw, even tho I'm itn my late teens, I know I'm in love with him. but he doesn't seem to care.
his num which uses to whatsapp is nt going thru, n iv decided not to mssg him on fb but to wait for his mssg. I still love him so much. I feel he is the only one tht can make my life complete but i jx can't ask him out,


I need advice, but pls nt ur insults.
ps: I'm also a scholar student and I wear glasses so sum peope call me a nerd but, u noe, we also have feelings too ryt.

dear....u kant mak somone to lov u...always knw dat...one wu cant accept u for wu u re doesnt desrv ur lov...cling where ur celeberated and not where ur tolerated.

Prexxy1:
Around xmas time,we had a lot of visitors,,so i told my mum,i wl sleep in my brothers room,just to create space,my mum was like "do u want to commit abomination"

Personally,i dnt see anything bad in it,,so let hear ur views

i can on d xame bed sef

samflexxy:
I bought a friend of mine(female)flowers on christmas day, expensive ones(whiterose), and her reaction was like "huh" thank you sha" with a straight face, I felt humiliated. So here comes the question do naija babes find flower and maybe chocolate as an ideal gift?

..dunno for other girls sha...buh for me,i dnt like it atall,including anyfin made wif flowry designs..kinda dll for me

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kweendyvaar:
it hurts to love but what is more painful is to love and not be loved in return.their is this guy i dated for months he was head over heels in love with me he made me understand what love is then he started changing to cut the long story short we had to part ways things werent going on fine am a proud person when it comes to guyz hey dis guy thought me lessons i was madly in love and did everything to get him back i even told him and he insulted me i vowed never to talk to him again but this strong thing bulging my heart made me to come back saying i was sorry after the insults.i almost ran mad i thought giving him my virginity will help he even declined asiv i was a piece of trash he called me names and i even got to memorise his numbers when he wont pick my calls all my friends thought i was charmed by him and hated him.i tryed relationships having many stalkers i couldnt maintain any men were lyk trash to me.i will beg many times the truth dawned on me when he told me he was engaged.i promised to keep to myself no matter how strong i felt for him i did this by first keeping my.distance i have suffered a lot including lack of.self esteem i did many.things to move on but i.couldnt.i cry and have sleepless nights but i told myself i was not going back at times he talks to me i try to act fine and talk casually while i might end up sucking the whole day.recently he has been putting up acts like his interested in me i try to hold back breaking down and telling him i love him he trys talking to me when i told him to keep his distance i still love him and his giving the green lights he wants me back one thing i know his that no girl can love him that way and he and his so-called fiancee have parted ways my heart is screaming for him i dont know if to use my head or heart to think no man have been with has brought me joy like him

..hmmm..my dear,stop cheating urslf..dnt b decivd....know dis one tin,,,u kan neva mak somone love u...note it!dnt try forcing ur self to anyone..uve alredy lost ur self esteem...ur self respect...my dr,if dis guy trult lovs u,d best he wuld do is to hav lovd u bk all dis while spent...be carful...neva get bk to him,no mata how much he claims or claimed to love u...neva do it,cos hes jux trying to deciv u...he jux wants to use u cos he feels dat mayb dat hes havin probs wif his present gals...jux forge ahead..let it go dear.......focus...dnt look for a man,let him find u..let fate get u both togeda,...chill..dias a beta person out there u could neva imagine exists...PATIENCE dear

Lohlarde:
hello guys, help me out, i guess am emotionally drawn to my cousin, we have this mutual feeling for each other. Dunno wat to do?

Any advise!

..u beta be careful,try n kip off and avoid much communication...also,b carful wif ur feelings oo...bfor d worst will happen and it will ruin u guys life forever and render de causes of incent to flow tru ur family line..tnx

[quote author=pasqal09 post=28591609]A colleague of mine back in high school went home and told his parents who were illiterates that he broke the amoeba in the biology lab and the photosynthesis inside escaped and the school is asking him to pay for it.

A classmate of mine also told his parents who were also illiterates that he was asked to hire a small portion of land and labourers for his SSCE Agricultural Science practicals costing over 70,000. Unfortunately for him, his parents came to school to complain to the Principal which landed him in serious trouble. He was actually expelled for it.

So share yours.........[/quotelmoa!

Maamin:
Ahhh! Only you?

..lmao! 4sure

Youngpo413:
my dear you need a big dickkk...long,dark and handsome,pls stop starving your pU...

tank u

Godmother:
So...my aunt came few days go and went on and on advising me not to marry a handsome guy. According to her, when your husband is handsome, lots of guys will try to snatch him from you. He will also not be caring , thinking he's all in all. She says handsmome guys are never faithful and so a handsome husband won't be.

All the while she talked I just kept on thinking:

1. Are there no faithful and caring handsome guys out there?

2. Don't ugly guys cheat too?

If I'm to follow her advice it then means I will automatically reject every handsome guy that comes my way, without getting to know if he has a wonderful personality inside.

dis is because most handsome guys take advantage of deir beauty..de misuse it because de feel de hav what d girls r looking for,so dey take dem for granted,,and dis makes d girls feel de will becom playboys or cheats in the long run

ucheokpara100:
The thread may be long pls bear with me. i 've neva been in a relatnship before but lately i crave for it so much that i want it, finally i found one i want us to keep a recommendable relationship and live by example. i dont want to cheat, lie, infact it's time for me to show all i learnt from Nairaland but the challenge i'm having now is i 've brought the gal she's staying with me now, she loves sex like me too everytin is okay but she has bad breath, i dont want to kiss her but everyday after sex she would start caressing herself u could see that she's not satisfied when i asked her last nite that ''why are u always making me feel like iam not a man or like i'm not able 2 satisfy you''? she said she cant cum or that i cant satisfy her without us kissing proper i told her ok in that case please let's brush 3 times everyday, let's remind each other about it evryday i said that because of her bad breath so that i will have atleast d courage to kiss her but she would neva brush, d latest now is she doesnt want me to touch her or do anytin unless i will kiss her proper before i can touch her or have sex with her. i want to know my people what will i do in this situation? i want to help her out i dont want to chase her or use it against her pls i need advice friends.

ur greatest mistake @first is sex...is sex the main aim of u meeting wif dis gal...sex evryday,dats vry fatal...d best tin is to cut dat lustful rlashp now and chill..dnt rush tins..wen its time,fate will lead u to d ryt person

Maamin:
Oya! Ladies make una yarn, what are the Weird Things you Find Attractive in men?.

There is already a similar topic on the weird things men like in ladies.

Feel free to express yourself.

Lashing is allowed

Let's hear from you

,,i love fair guys...and guys wif bears,side jazz..wif a moderate height,,and sweet baritone voice

Youngpo413:
so for how long will you keep playing piano?

till de feelings leave,,,dats ow mine works

aldexrio:
Share your experience

..i knw of a gal who asked a boy for a relationshp wif her...d guy grew soo angry..frm dah day,he hated her so much...he took her for nofin..d gal was so abashed...wat a pity

beautycrush24:
Hi, please i'm just looking to get honest opinions. I dont think this thread warrants insults so i'll appreciate if i get none of that.
As a girl, if you're single and really really h*rny, do u get down with an ex or just any random guy (maybe a friend or even an unknown person)?
Please be as honest as possible.

...i dont have an ex neither do i have a sleepin partner...i will jux look for somfin else doing lik playing d piano or singing jux to take it away

tosyne2much:
I'm extroverted and am usually a good conversationalist with most people but some ladies make me think otherwise that maybe I'm somewhat boring.

When I say BORING, I don't mean how you dress, look or even act in bed but much deeper topic. The fact that some ladies act so damn BORING either offline, online, in a relationship, meeting someone on the first date or during a chat that the dude is left with literally nothing more than to fall asleep, stop chatting or
get up walked out. Many a times, an average boring lady will blame it on mood or because she's not into you** smh**


You are a boring lady,

1. If you are a monosyllabic type that replies with 5n u? Kul u? Yap u? Ya u ? Tnx u? You put very little effort into helping the conversation along

2 if your idea of a good conversation is extended silence. Let's talk about football, you have nothing to say: talk about movies, you have nothing to say, gist me about your day, you have nothing to say, let's talk about yourself, you can't even give a good description about yourself. The funniest thing is that, even if they are into you, you will still find them boring* smh*

3. If you would have to hold up the conversation with no input 'cos you feel you are only meant to reply. You stop talking 'cos he stops and that is the end of the conversation

4. If your answer to every question is NO.. Any hobby? No ?, Anything new to talk about? No ?, Have you got a gist for me? No.

5. If you are the type a guy calls and drops the call within one minute not because he's not got enough credit but because nothing laughable will ever come out of your mouth

6. If you are more interested in talking about yourself than listening to what the other person has to say

Guys Feel Free To Add Yours

...well,mostymes an extrovert prson myt not be in a gud mood to chat well and make d chat fun...it howeva depends on ur closeness wif d person too...

eighTHREAD:
Ever checked a girl's phone for pictures before? Even if you haven't, so long you have females on your whatsapp, bbm and facebook list, you will always be bugged by their stereotypical picture updates. Below is a list of pictures you are certainly going to find on a Naija babe's phone.

*pictures of foreigners on the internet are used so as to protect the rights of Naija babes cos if I say make I use the ones wey dey my phone ehn..... [size=88pt]1.shoprite[/size]after succesfully nabbing a maga who spends his hard earned money on them at the supermarket, you find them taking countless shots of pictures at every aisle at the supermarket just to keep a record of the day's market . Na dem dey use camera flashes dey blind person for shoprite. Who I go blame if not yeye guys. https://www.thelottolife.com/storage/girl-supermarket.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1335657881359 [size=88pt]2.hairstyle[/size]the only time this set of girls reply your chat is when you comment about their DP which shows them wearing a new hairdo that looks shimmery as if dey rob groundnut oil on it. They update their profile picture the very moment they leave the salon leaving a smart guy with the idea of why they hadn't done that in a while [img]http://www.hairsyera.me/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/girl-hair-style-10.jpg[/img] [size=88pt]3. Passenger Seat[/size] na this one dey vex me pass. A month doesn't go by without me coming across a picture of a naija babe at the passenger seat of a car with seat belt strapped. Can't they be behind the steering wheel? Abi females no dey get car? Maybe it's aristo tinz https://www.visualphotos.com/photo/2x4568852/portrait_of_woman_sitting_in_car_wearing_seatbelt_BLD014529.jpg [size=88pt]4.cute baby[/size] there are so many guys walking the streets with balls full of generations yet this girls won't beg them to give them a pinch of it, rather they prefer to flaunt the cute pictures of another person's baby, most times that of a total stranger https://www.demortalz.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/09_cute_baby_1.jpg [size=88pt]5.unclad pix[/size] this is the only reason why I like to handle a naija babe's phone . I wonder why they keep such pix on their phone? Maybe to send to their sugar daddy/bobo incase he needs to self service cos she's too far away. Well, a smart blogger knows what to do with such. As am not a blogger, what do I do with the sex video of a married woman in ajuwon that I found on a phone memory card which I found on the floor at shoprite ikeja? I wonder when I'll start seeing pictures of construction sites, project supervisions, presentation pictures etc on their phones. *A counter thread can't be created cos ladies got nothing on guys* https://www.stunnish.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/sexy-women-in-lingerie-1.jpg [size=88pt]6.pouting lips[/size] na dis wan too much. D tin no even dey make dem fine sef. Abeg I no fit shout, just look below . Guilty or not guilty? https://www.chimpsanctuarynw.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/foxie-drooped-lip.jpg

,,,i have not any of dis on ma fon

clovislouis:
really. Emphasize

,,,people think sex brings d intimacy,buh bliv me,it tends to destroy d relationshp...if u rili lov somone u wont try to sleep wif d person,...bet me,most times,d love weakens after sleeping wif d person..continiously as u do so...it weakens witawt u knowing untill u finally ralise it.....u jux find out dat u guys jux began to nag or complain abou each oda alot..bfore u knw it,u guys will begin chasing after oda pple..howeva,intimacy means oneness of d spirit...

OnyekachukwuC:
Most times its quite difficult to know if he or she has a second you out there. Bt tenks to social networks and their status updates . if they post stuffs like dis
*missing you so badly. Yes you.
*can't wait to be in your arms.
*love you so badly.
*i can't do with out you for a day.
*i need you now baby. I mean you.

How to catch dem tell dem to up load ur pix, nt jst any pix the one both of you were kis....ing and text on their status the love of my life my boo ur name

hahahahahahahha confirm test oo!

clovislouis:
Ladies/guys here is a question I really wanna know about. Most people will feel it's rather not a perogative for long lasting affair. Pls does sex brings stability in a relationship?. Note - ur candid advice

,,,nope..rather it ruins it to the core

phrancyking:
Am 22 years old. I 'ave dated three girls, they all left me because I told them I would never have sex before marriage.. the first girl accused me of impotency.. the second girl was blunt she told me she can't cope.. the third one left without a comment ..

I need a girl Buh don't wanna have sex. please I need your advice

my dear..doz girls tink ur impotent..dats wat der friends or mentality must have convinced dem..howeva,dey were neva meant for u..cos whateva is meant for u neva misses u and wat eva misses u was neva meant for u....dey arnt for u,and God did it for a purpose...urs is on its way...all u need is a fervent prayer life and patience

phrancyking:
Am 22 years old. I 'ave dated three girls, they all left me because I told them I would never have sex before marriage.. the first girl accused me of impotency.. the second girl was blunt she told me she can't cope.. the third one left without a comment ..

I need a girl Buh don't wanna have sex. please I need your advice

my dear..doz girls tink ur impotent..dats wat der friends or mentality must have convinced dem..howeva,dey were neva meant for u..cos whateva is meant for u neva misses u and wat eva misses u was neva meant for u....dey arnt for u,and God sis it for a purpose...urs is on its way...all u need is a fervent prayer life and patience

Vikkyk10:
Still thinking on what i will do,

well,since i know dis guy loves me ryt,and am truly not into him,i will let it go,,,y? Cos,whateva was meant for me never misss me and whateva misses me was neva meant for me...let fate lead

Vikkyk10:
Still thinking on what i will do,

well,if d wrong guy loves me ryt and i know i am truly not into him,,,i wont go ahead...cos i know i take life at ease cos whateva is meant for me never misses me,but whateva is not meant for misses me....let fate lead

olexjay:
People have been Putting on wrist watch on the left hand right from the beginning and so shall it be forever under normal circumstances..... Putting it on the left hand make u feel comfortable to look at the time.

And about who first discover to wear it on the left hand my great-grandfather might know.

it itsnt mandatory on d left hand..i fink its okay on any hand dats cormfortable to u...i as a left handed artist,i prefer to wear it on ma ryt