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During the reading of this post I was thinking: "oh lord, this is the cousing of my LD girlfriend".
I must admit, I am this type of man.
I can give you my point of view about the issue, and try to give her a word of hope.
I never felt to be a nasty person, nor an assh. . as I have been named elsewhere.
I am a normal person, I am gentle, honest, careless, understanding person.
But I feel sometime the panic coming on me, then I start thinking the worst things about my girlfriend. Where is she, why she is not answering my SMS. Then I start to wait for her and the panic is getting worst. I start calling her, and if for any reason she is not answering I go mad and keep calling her again and again and again. I called 15 times in 3 minutes once.
I then go to facebook and start to watch every single post of her and the whole friend list I can access. Every bit of information, even the silliest one raise my suspects, and the panic really takes me. At this point if she answer the phone call I am out of control. To be really honest I have never offended my girlfriend and luckily if she say a good word I tend to calm down myself quite quickly. I am conscious that what I am doing is my fault by I can't control myself.
Then for two days I am ok, not harrasing just goodmorning/goodnight messages or a chat on messenger.
Then again the panic take my control, and the suspect is making the rest. I can find many mad thoughts in any information I can collect.
Usually the explication is easy to understand but the theories I make in my mind are complicated and finalised to find she is cheating.

In my case this is done by the distance, which I simply realised I can't manage.
I have been married before and I had a genuine jelousy, not the type I described before.
With my wfe I never been obsessed, she was coming out with friends, she was going to dance by herself and stuff like this. Our divorce have nothing to do with jelousy.

Now, I believe he is in the same situation. I strongly believe he is in need of help from a doctor, to help him to fight is insecurety, which is the thing I am doing myself now.
But I also believe that once they will be together this attitude will not be so dramatic as it is now. It is all about the disctance and the poor self consideration he has for himself. He can work on it if he wants, and if she really loves him she can help him to understand his problem.

I know my english is not good, I hope you understand my point.

It means juju is coming. Take care.

I won't take it so easy.
Check his family and be sure he will not be pressed to ask you to convert, if you don't want it.

Lemme reply.
First of all I am very sorry for my atrocious english. I am here to improve it!
This post was made a nite where I was in deep crisis. I know I have a problem and I am trying to solve it.
My problem comes from some very painful experiences I had in my past.
This specific topic was written for a distance relation I am (was) having which is too difficult for me to handle.

I accept I am an a.s.s.h.o.l.e.
Now please go next topic, since I feel better today and I want to keep my gud mood.
Thanx.

You know nothing about gurlz!
They think if they eat like lions you will start making additions how much it will cost you to have her on your shoulder for life.

Still my opinion Mr. Oil but a perfect coca cola body is not making a gurl sexy.
Style, glare, walk, smile are all included in the sexy package.

"Let leave perfect women to the men without Fantasy" - Marcel Proust.

Are you saying I am old?  

Call me strange or whatevah but I found lotta more sexy the normal women you see in town more than celebrity.
The way they try to look good or to have their own style turn me crazy.

Crude Oil:
depending on the type of the picture. For example, you cant look at someones portrait and say they are sexy. The picture has to be full.

IMHO You still confusing Charme and Beauty. Sexy is the "nuance" of one person, not it's beauty.

/Bump!